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Cold truths are hard to swallow for a reason. They strip us of the illusion that everything’s in our control and that we know things best. But in reality, that’s not how things work, and who likes to be told that?!

What’s a truth no one wants to hear?” wondered Redditor u/grubbseuph11 on r/AskReddit and people shared some illuminating and brutally honest responses, like the hard-to-digest fact that “friends will come and go,” and that “no matter how likeable you may be, there are always going to be certain people who don't like you, sometimes for no particular reason.”

So let’s get ready to be hit by a cold shower that should make you rethink this whole perspective on our lives, and be sure to check out our previous post with more hard truths right here.

#1

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You aren’t a hero or even a good person just because you’re in the military

SouthwestTraveller , Diego González Report

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Natalia Shoemark
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

American brain washing... "thank you for your service"... I mean, yes, thank you! But war needs to be feared not celebrated!

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#3

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You are much closer to being poor and homeless than you are to being super rich

fckboris , Shail Sharma Report

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Serial pacifist
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, I am closer to being a long-term BP commentator than a long-term professional writer 🤷‍♀️

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In order to find out why exactly it's so hard to swallow a hard truth, and how we should react to it, Bored Panda spoke with Susan Petang, a certified divorce coach and the creator of “The Quiet Zone Coaching,” who teaches women how to stop feeling overwhelmed and start waking up happy in the morning again.

“When we develop close relationships, we expect those people to be gentle with us, not hurt us,” said Susan explaining why hard truths are not pleasant to hear. “When they offer up a hard truth, it violates the expectation that the person isn't going to cause us pain. We want them to love and encourage us—but we don't always realize that a hard truth is being given to us with love and encouragement, with our best interests in mind.”

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#4

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Bad people don’t always “get what they deserve”.

EmbarrassedCar7457 , Abbat Report

#5

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Not all babies are cute.

616abc517 , Ryan Franco Report

#6

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them “I don't know” is a perfectly valid answer to many questions.

TheBrassDancer , Andrew Neel Report

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Tim Pillinger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a professional qualification where you have to have said "sorry, I can't answer that question" to qualify. My boss primed the customer to ask something silly.

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“Often, what someone else calls a ‘hard truth’ we call ‘criticism,’” she said. “If a criticism is true, we can agree and apologize, then work to make it right—or we can ignore and deflect it if it isn't true.”

Moreover, Susan said that when someone we care about delivers a hard truth, we should take that opinion more seriously, because this is a person whose opinion we trust. “I advise my clients to think about the intention behind the message. If the intention is to help us, prevent us from making a mistake, or intervene before we get hurt, it's worthwhile to consider.”

#7

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness, that is life.

MayaButtreeks1985 , Adrian Swancar Report

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Lauren Caswell
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mistakes are unavoidable. Failure is unavoidable. We cannot run from it and need to stop being so afraid, because it's ok to not get everything right all the time, and like this says, sometimes it's out if your control

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#8

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Some people are bad parents.

Being funny or smart doesn’t mean you’re ready to take care if a human being (maybe even multiple) for a good chunk of your life.

Please don’t get kids to fix a relationship either, I’ve seen this too much and it doesn’t work.

UwU_was_ist_das , Alberto Casetta Report

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Rick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t have kids and don’t want them and it’s simply because I don’t want to spend all of my adult life looking after and raising a child, I just want to live my own and not worry about that.

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#9

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Most people genuinely do not care about you or your opinions, which is just fine

Klaus_Heisler87 , LinkedIn Sales Solutions Report

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Rick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately, social media has made a lot of people forget this rule.

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Susan advises asking yourself if the "hard truth" is really true. “Be brutally honest with yourself—remember why your loved one brought it up to you in the first place!”

“It's beneficial to hear a hard truth when we're hurting someone else, hurting ourselves, or not being true to our values,” she explained and added: “So situations that look like that would be drug/alcohol abuse, spousal abuse, child abuse, bad financial or career decisions, or dating someone married if you're religious.”

#10

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them No matter how likeable you may be, there are always going to be certain people who don't like you, sometimes for no particular reason.

DeathSpiral321 , Jorge Saavedra Report

#11

Most people shouldn’t have kids.

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Andy Acceber
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you look at the impact of 7 billion humans at a time on the surface of the planet, yeah. This is probably true.

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#12

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Having a University degree doesn't guarantee you a job

PripyatHorse , Abby Thompson Report

#13

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Life will never be exactly like it was before the pandemic started.

SchteeveFour , Mauro Lima Report

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Gelato Cat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After the 1918 influenza epidemic came the roaring 20's which was revolutionary for both the arts and society, a similar thing happened with the renaissance, so who knows, maybe it will never be the same again for the better ( for those who have lost jobs/loved ones to Covid i am not minimising ur suffering)

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#14

You can't run from yourself. Moving towns, cities or even countries won't automatically change who you are

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JuJu
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should be way higher. It's important to be at peace with yourself otherwise you will never be happy.

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People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Friends will come and go. You will have many friends who one day you will never see again.

Realitycheck-4u , Matheus Ferrero Report

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K. Lange
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

and you will often learn it the hard way: when you would need them the most - they will disappear.

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#16

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You are the main character in your life but you're just an extra in everone else's

Accomplished-Bee4700 , Robert McGowan Report

#17

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them It's nice to be important but it's more important to be nice.

RepresentativeWay734 , Brooke Cagle Report

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Lauren Caswell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Niceness, kindness, small random acts, these are one of the things I love about life. Even if they are few and far between. And doing them always feels good so it's a win win ^-^

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#18

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Climate change is an exponential curve and we are entering the shoulder. Natural disasters are expected to increase 8x in the next couple decades. It gets worse after that.

gandhikahn , Chris Gallagher Report

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kristina law
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live in Phoenix, where 200 people move to every single day. Also, where it will be uninhabitable within 20 years because of the rise in temperatures. Don't move here.

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#19

It just takes a second to destroy what has taken years or even centuries to make.

dexterhines Report

#20

The world is 100% being run by corruption.

FrostFurnace Report

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Andy Acceber
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read this as "corporation," doubted it, then realized that was probably true too.

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#21

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them War can come to your doorstep, everything can change. No country is immune. History clearly demonstrates this.

SchteeveFour , UX Gun Report

#22

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Not everything happens "for a reason" or because of something you have (or have not) done.

Sometimes, things in life and the Universe go sideways and it's just your time to be caught in the crossfire.

Emcee_Such_N_Such , Ryoji Iwata Report

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Burs
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And please do not go to people in a bad situation and tell them that x “happened for a reason”. It doesn’t matter what you believe. Telling them that their mum just died, they lost they lost their job or they are severely ill “for a reason” is extremely invalidating and rude.

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#23

All your bones are wet right now

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People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them If you don’t take care of your teeth when you’re young, you’ll regret it when you’re old. Brush twice a day, goddamnit.

toothfixingfiend , Diana Polekhina Report

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#25

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them If you’re chasing a romance or friendship… the other person doesn’t want to be with you.

Magicman2444 , Toa Heftiba Report

#26

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You’re not special… but that’s okay because everyone is not special together.

BeechballMusic , Мария Волк Report

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Kari Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish we‘d teach that more. So many peope think they’re special and thus believe they’re entitled to something. You and your wishes/opinions/needs definitely matter, but so do those of everyone else.

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#27

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them The odds that you die tomorrow is wayyy higher than winning on that lottery ticket.

Swiftzword , Erik Mclean Report

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People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them There's no "health in every size". If you're over/under certain weight limit, you have a higher risk in getting sick. There's no "but-".

cleanbroom , i yunmai Report

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NsG
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish more people understood the concept of "risk". You can totally be 20lb over weight and still be healthy RIGHT NOW. All it means is that you are gambling that you will be healthy tomorrow or next week or next year. It is also not a guarantee. If there is a risk factor that one in ten overweight men will have a heart attack, and you gather nine of your overweight friends you cannot say with complete accuracy which one of you it will be. It is a gamble - some people are happy to gamble, and accept the fact they may lose. But there's a difference between knowing it's a possibility and being scared into thinking it's a certainty.

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Leo Domitrix
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Twenty pounds is do-able, particularly if it's muscle, but past that you're definitely rolling dice over time. Bear in mind that muscle weighs more than fat, and so two people th e same weight can have utterly different physiques and different bloodwork.

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Serial pacifist
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So true, there is a difference between rejecting unrealistic beauty standards and rejecting the fact that being overweight is a serious health hazard.

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Burs
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same with underweight people. If you chose to only criticise one side you are just doing it for the looks and not the health.

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Jon Steensen
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

weight alone is a poor measure of state of health, even if you also use the person's height in the calculation. What is important is how much fat you have accumulated, and though it is reflected in your weight it is not the only thing influencing it. E.g. there is a major difference between a bodybuilder and a gamer weighing 120kg. On the bodybuilder it is likely to be high muscular mass raising his weight, whereas it may be fat on the gamer. Likwise waist size can be a bad measure, as it also depends on bone structure. E.g. having a narrow pelvis padded with a lot of fat is worse than having a wide pelvis, though the measuring tape may read the same value in the two cases. Looking at weight alone is therefore a bad measure, we should look at body fat percentage instead, though it is harder to measure.

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NsG
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, for women, breasts are a factor - a pure accumulation of fat, the size of which are determined as much by factors outside our control as in it. I have C cups, my friend is pushing G. We're the same size and (boobs aside) about the same build. She's heavier than me, and has a higher body fat percentage, purely because genetics gave her bigger boobs. Is she less healthy than me?

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Burs
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is true but there is two things to remember. First being underweight is as bad as overweight. Media has made us think that a healthy body is an underweight one and that’s ridiculous. Being at the end of the healthy bmi is considered a sin nowadays but being in the underweight one is considered attractive. That’s not good. Second not everybody can achieve a healthy weight or has many difficulties to do so. For example if you are very ill you might be unable to gain or lose weight.but people will judge them as if they are just lazy.

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Helen Haley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What sucks is the people who throw the most shade are always the people who if they eat reasonably and exercise for 30 minutes 3x a week, they're magically fit and within an attractive body range. Then you have people who (thank you genetics) can make their weight their second job, strictly measuring everything they eat, following doctor recommendations, live at the gym, and see negligible to no return. Having the self-righteous spout hatred at people who aren't willing to give up the majority of their free time and money to a beauty standard, they aren't helping, they're just being jerks. I watched this happen to my step-aunt and grandma for their hole lives. I saw the toll that it took. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all, and weight doesn't make someone unworthy as a person. No matter if it is under-weight, over-weight, or 'just comes naturally' ideal weight.

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Andy Acceber
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure there is. It just says "health." We don't tell men over 55 that they can no longer be healthy because now they're at increased risk for prostate cancer. They can understand their increased risk AND be as healthy as possible. Ditto everyone at any weight.

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Evan Martin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your just playing semantics. Yes you can be obese and be as healthy as possible. Still doesn't make you as healthy as you could potentially be, and you have an increased risk of certain ailments (hence making you less healthy).

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tuzdayschild
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have been more than 20 lbs over weight since I was 10 years old. My cardio is good, I am in no danger of diabetes. I see a doctor twice per year. I will never be thin. I'm fine. This is just me.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You could be the ideal size and still be unhealthy and have a high risk getting sick. Size is not always an indicator of general health. You can eat crap, put on no weight and develop coronary artery disease, diabetes, fatty liver etc just like an obese person has a higher risk of. Unhealthy is unhealthy. The difference is that everyone seems to have no issues pointing it out to overweight/obese people but they keep their mouths shut about unhealthy ideal weight or underweight.

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Eddard Tyrsson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The term "skinny fat" and eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia would like a word with you. The thing is nobody is trying to defend skinny fat, and using underweight as an excuse to defend and normalize overweight. "Would you rather they be the opposite extreme?" No, of course not. Nor does exhibit a erase or excuse exhibit b or c. Platitudes built on whataboutism are not arguments. If you want to bring rationality to the table, understand that rational people know you can be unhealthy at a normal weight, and there's nothing healthy about underweight.

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meester sernnon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand this well, i'm very skinny (6ft and 65-75~ kilos) and people say I must be fit and healthy because i'm not fat. I just can't get any fat on me, and it may be unhealthy and not everyone believes me sadly.

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Sarah
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can think of a "but". "But" it is no one's place but your doctor and those closest to you to discuss this with you or bring it up. WAY too many complete strangers think they can comment on someone's weight, under the guise of being concerned for their health. You don't give a fig about their health. You don't even know that person. You just wanted an excuse to comment on their weight.

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Sylvanticx
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

body positivity is good, but if you are at increased risk of something, you MUST do what is humanly possible to mitigate that risk

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Caro Caro
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree. Do what you can to lose (or gain) weight no matter the excuses. With that I mean if you are overweight because of over eating (no matter why, trauma, whatever) you should do your best. The healthcare at the moment is getting too expensive and being obese is one of these factors that make it so. Weight has more bad influence than just your heart and liver. Your body doesn't always react to meds the right way (just like a smoker may I add), My doctor told me this (when he told me to lose weight while looking over his glasses).

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Zet
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

BUT even if you are on your "ideal weight" your lifestyle can augment your risks for a lot of diseases.- no one is immune to being sick.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry but no: You're more healthy if you're moderate overweight but train regularly, than if you're on Ideal weight but are a Couch potatoe. Your muscles are much more important for your health than only ideal weight alone. Look up myokines.

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Evan Martin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your leaving out a massive variable...a persons diet. I would imagine there are people who eat extremely healthy, but are not very physically active who are more healthy than someone who trains regularly but eats nothing but burgers, pizza and fried food. Basically what I'm saying is diet is going. To play a major role as well.

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ADumpsterFire
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Citation needed. Very well researched people have pointed to health at every size, this is an anonymous quote online, that feels like a justification to yell at fat people. Also if you wanna talk about the risks presented by weight, i hope you're just as ready to talk about the risk presented by socio economic status, genetics, lifestyle, environment, food availability etc.

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Naomi Diego Gaspar
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should have said..."It does not matter what you weigh..You will still die! The end"

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Jo87
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. I'm not slim, I'm not very overweight but I definitely could be healthier so I feel like I can say this and please don't kick me off or hate on me for it... It actually comes from a caring place... As much as I appreciate body positivity (even at goal weight I'm curvy) for me it's just as dangerous to be encouraging excessive obesity as it is to be promoting skeletal anorexic body shapes. Neither can possibly be healthy for bodies in the long run and we really need to be promoting good mental health, good physical health and balanced lifestyles.

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Leigh C.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Obsessively trying to maintain a weight can be bad for your health, too. Skipping meals, leaving out important nutrients, trying to gain more weight by overeating.

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Lovin' Life
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I could stay off the scales. I weigh every morning and night. That's how I plan my meals for the next day. Eating disorders are so real.

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Caro Caro
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh dear, Lovin'Life. That's horrible. May I ask: Is this since you were a teenager or later in life? Can you get therapy? You OK?

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William Teach
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Which is interesting, because Bored Panda keeps running pieces on "body shaming". Being overweight, and underweight, is not a good thing.

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Кріста Еллен
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, what? Body shaming is about making people feel shame for the way they look. Advising someone to lose weight for health reasons is not body shaming. And I'm speaking as both a person who needs to lose weight for health reasons and one who has been body shamed. They are objectively different.

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Leo Domitrix
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A person who weighs 20 pounds plus overweight, yes. Beyond that, you may just be: 1. pregnant 2. heavily muscled due to work/habits/etc. and/or 3. born with an issue (e.g., hypothyroidism). Just.... remember that "sick" is not just heart attacks, but also joint disease, etc....

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am perfectly healthy. I don't drink, but I do enjoy a really good meal, and would rather carry this extra 20 pounds than weigh my food like some psycho bitch housewife from "Beverly Hills".

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Caroline Driver
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being a few stone overweight is fine when you're young and everyone says 'don't fat shame.' Wait till you're 50, then you realise it's not just being large, it's extra weight that you feel in your joints, your bones, your lungs.

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Evelyn Haskins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But calculate weight properly. Or better, assess the person's/your own health properly. Wrist size it a good wat to assess bone structure, because we tend to not gain much fat over the wrists

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Riley Quinn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's no reason to shame someone for their body weight, but don't let them get away with saying they're healthy. Facts are facts. No emotion required.

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Ashley Dopp
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i just listened to a podcast on this and it's way more nuanced. it depends on the type of fat your body is accumulating. more visceral fat equates to more risk, more cutaneous fat does not. but most people rush to judgement based on someone's appearance; meanwhile a skinny person could be loaded with visceral fat and you'd never know it by sight.

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Amanda Hunter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As my ex-husband found when he died last month from the long-term effects of self-starvation.

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Jo Kidd
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Optimum weight isn't a set equation either. its used as a guide only

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Carolyn Legg
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Eat nutrious food, exersize and dno't worry about your weight.

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Franc Esca
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are plenty of buts because millions of people are walking proof. A 100 year old man beat covid when at 24 year old without any conditions died from it in hospital. Medics are not oracles.

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Paula Marowsky
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just like pregnant vegans. Your body and your baby need to be feed correctly. And vegan diet is not enough. Period

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DC
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely! I can't eat large portions or stuff containing high levels of fat since they removed my gallbladder. Most people don't have these issues for so long, or to that extent, so I guess I just didn't have that much luck. If time also is a little short, I often don't eat enough. If my weight goes below 62 kg, I recognize that I can't take that much anymore, in regard to work, hobbies, etc, and just am tired and pissed all the time. 65 is about my optimum weight, where I feel best and stuff ... but it even dropped to 52 a few years ago, by entering a cycle pattern - less stable makes more stress makes less eat makes less stable and so on ... and then, I decided to brake it, called in sick for a week and spent it binge eating, to the extent I can of course, everything that I like ... gained almost 5 kg in that week alone, and continued, but took a lot more care about myself. I think, hadn't I done this, I might even have effed up my diploma. Started thesis just thereafter.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dear Pandas: I am a fatalist If a person is meant to be shot he won't die of COVID! Sometimes no matter what we do its just inevitable - no one gets out alive!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends on what is making you heavier than your supposed "weight limit". If it's lean mass then you're fine. A lot of these "truths" are anything but.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Weight is a factor in health, sure. But it's also important to not pinpoint weight as much as the contributing factors: exercise, nutrition, depression, blood pressure, hormonal balance, etc. Weight on its own is difficult to change directly, but specific healthy practices can be directly addressed. And focusing on contributing metrics other than weight releases people from the social stigma and assumptions that strangers are all too happy to make.

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You can't make someone love you if they don't

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a terrible movie trope. Keep pestering and chasing and eventually the other person will fall madly in love with you. Sorry, but it doesn't work like that. You will go to prison for stalking and may find yourself on the receiving end of somebody else's love. You don't want that. You really don't want that.

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People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You won’t be young and beautiful forever.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that you are getting older doesn't automatically mean that you won't be beautyful anymore. The beauty just changes.

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#32

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them That you need to stop procrastinating and get that thing you've been needing to do done already.

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#33

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Your boyfriend/husband is always going to find other women attractive.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ur partner will always find other people attractive ( weather they're bf/gf doesn't matter )

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We’ll eventually be alone, so it’s either being comfortable with ourselves or being tormented by loneliness later in life

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A hard lesson to have to go through. Loneliness is tough but loneliness in old age is not only tough but detrimental for your health too.

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Staying with someone who cheated on you is never a good idea

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Andy Acceber
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who hurt you, OP, that made you believe this was 100% true for 100% of people 100% of the time? People are complicated. Relationships are complicated. Absolutes about either rarely apply.

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There are some people who just are NOT going to like you. And you will have done nothing to deserve, cause or warrant it. Its not your fault.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There will also be people who dislike you because your actions harmed them. You can apologize, but they are not obligated to forgive you.

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People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Your belly button was your old mouth.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

...and, in your pelvis, the coccyx is a small bone of four fused vertebrae that would make up the tail if humans had one.

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#38

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Life is as much unfair and unjust as it is possible for it to be

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#39

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Oxytocin, the “love hormone”, also increases animosity towards those you regard as “others”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm saying to myself "what bullshait is this?" I was reading that as "Oxycontin".

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It’s not gonna be okay unless you make it okay. I often hear people say: it’s gonna be okay. Well, it’s probably gonna be okay, if you actually put the effort to make it okay. And sometimes, you have to let go, even the big things.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. Many things cannot be fixed and pretending that it’s the persons fault is very cruel. A woman whose son just died is not going to be ok, it’s not her fault.

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