“Am I The [Jerk] For Wearing A White Dress To My Friend’s Wedding?”

That wasn't a test, it was an intentional trap to give Bridey a reason be dramatic. That marriage sounds like it's going to be a total dumpster fire. The husband offering to bang OP "as an apology" is flat-out ridiculous, and was likely yet another trap. OP should cut ties with the "friend" completely.

Where are the comments about the husbands so called "compensation" to sleep with here. Who does even come up with that? My jaw is on the floor.

Yeah, I'm calling shenanigans on this whole "story."

Yeah, the bride wouldn't be my friend anymore.

NTA, also Not your friend. Move on from the crazy train and live your life. There is some emotional instability happening here and well letting it go would just give her the green light for more drama.

I believe brides should care less what color people wear to attend their wedding. The only exception of course is that no other person should wear an actual wedding dress to the occasion. In Nigeria where I come from, wedding guests go all out to look really elegant and flamboyant (think beauty pageant standard) at the wedding reception and it's no skin off the brides nose. After all there can be absolutely no mistaking who the couple of the day are. Please, how does what a person wears to your wedding affect the quality of your marriage?? It's petty and absurd. I hate unnecessary drama.

NTA dump the bride and trashy groom as well and move on to better people

i don't think she trusted you as a friend if she is testing your friendship. probably she don't like you to begin with. she is not your real friend. and i would say that it was a common sense test, it is a wedding. do not wear white.

A friendship test? Kiss my a*s

What a B---- she just used you to get her wedding on all FB T UTUBE AND ANY OTHER SITES you can think of she's not your friend and never was and her new husband is the biggest B----- for saying he would have sex with you if you were to apologize for something you weren't guilty of he must think he's God's gift to women and her relatives and family support him What some screwed up people

Who tests friends like this (or at al, fot that matter. A bride wearing blue (something I would assume was known by the OP if she was supposedly as good a friend before said "test") has no right to insist on no white wearing guests. A "wedding painter" (which is what it sounds like, for those not in the know -quickly sketches to late make painted portraits of the wedding), yet the couple can't afford it? Sure, OP later said it was a gift, but also said it was gifted because they seemed to need it in that regard. This bride was just looking for wedding drama, even if just to say she had a trauma wedding. Too many "lose" scenarios for the OP that there was going to be drama somehow. Which only seemed to be dragged out and added to by the groom when the OP reach out to hopefully get the drama resolved.

The story seems a little sus to me, especially with the husband offering to sleep with her as an apology or is that a test too??.

Friends don’t test friends. I’m sorry she turned out to be a froot loop but don’t waste another second wondering about this—she set you up and then blamed you for doing what you thought she wanted. That’s absolute dealbreaker BS.

I agree with others that she knew her fiance wanted to sleep with the OP and orchestrated this whole thing to punish the OP, get her booted from the friend group, and end the relationship with it being the OP's fault. She just didn't count on the OP covering her butt with multiple, in writing requests for confirmation and recordings.

Hope OP gets a new phone, FB, Insta, etc., profiles to stop the madness of other people dumping on her. Also, she's well rid of Bridezilla + her hubs.

People getting married in their 20s are just kids playing dress up.

Totally an a*****e. Just should not have done it

"Oh my god, they were roommatesss."

Yes. Next question.

NTA but I am confused. Were you part of the actual wedding party or a good friend helping her with all the stuff that goes along with the wedding? As a bridesmaid wouldn't there a specific color scheme or dress style? If you were an invited guest, why is she telling you what to wear in the first place? (I realize you were trying to be nice and ask for her opinion) but WHY would she have given you HER shoes to wear with the white dress?? Didn't anyone question that tidbit? The whole thing is bonkers. Definitely a "leave the shoes, take canoli (gift)" moment.

First, do you really want a friend that test you as a friend? That's just an ahole thing to do. 2. If you knew already that wearing white to a wedding is a big no no, then no matter what the bride said, you still shouldn't of worn white. 3. She's married to a sleaze ball who probably has, and will cheat on her more than once. 4. The $250 you gave her was a gift, not a loan, so they really don't have to give it back, no matter how morally right it would be. 5. In my opinion everyone, including you, acted like a bunch of children. When I was 20-21, I had been married for 2 years, had a baby, and didn't have time for such foolishness.

This one sounds made up, or embellished at the very least..