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Things are changing so quickly that it’s hard to keep up! As the world becomes more and more interconnected, we become aware of all the ways that the rest of the world lives. Trends that might have been fated to stay local a few decades ago now go viral and spread around the globe, powered by social media and the news.

However, much of what we take for granted these days might not stand the test of time. The future might be radically different, and people living years from now might look back at 2022 with a lot of confusion (and probably judgment) about how we did things.

Internet users shared their thoughts about what trends will be the most regrettable in 20 years’ time in an interesting r/AskReddit thread, and we’re bringing you their best insights to get your noggins jogging. From gender reveal parties to denying climate change, some trends are pretty darn bad. As you’re reading, have a think about what fads and ideas you think will go the way of the dodo (i.e. extinct) in the near future, Pandas, and share your thoughts in the comments.

Pop culture and lifestyle expert Mike Sington, from LA, was kind enough to share his thoughts on current trends, what's here to stay, what will (hopefully!) go away, and how the people of the future might react to the fads of 2022. Check out Bored Panda's full interview with him.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Taking away women’s body autonomy. We will all pay for this.

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Bored Panda asked pop culture expert Mike which current trends, in his opinion, probably won't stand the test of time. "Sharing personal photos of yourself, your life, your family, and especially your children will probably seem very peculiar in a couple of decades," he told us.

"People just now are becoming increasingly concerned about privacy on the internet, and it will be odd in the future to look back and see how much of ourselves we used to willingly share," Mike mused that, in the future, privacy will likely be a much greater concern than now.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Hopefully school shootings.

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#3

Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Electing people to public office who have zero qualifications because they’re famous for some bullshit.

formerNPC , Jorge Maya Report

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It also doesn't appear to be just about celebrity status. It's how much money you have and can afford to throw at a campaign. So the "average Joe" who actually might make a bloody good leader is unlikely to ever be in the runnings.

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In the pop culture expert's opinion, no matter how much time passes, humor is "here to stay."

"Funny thoughts, anecdotes, and memes are popular now, and will have staying power on the internet. People often go online for escapism, and humor has always provided that. I don’t foresee that changing," he said that humor itself is timeless. People will always want (and need!) to have a good laugh.

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Meanwhile, we were curious to figure out how to tell if something's a long-term trend or just a passing fad that'll go away in just a few years or even months.

"If something becomes popular quickly and seems to come out of nowhere, it’s more likely to be a passing fad," Mike, Hollywood's Ultimate Insider, shared his thoughts with Bored Panda.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Gender reveal parties and promposals

Good lord it seems they get more ridiculous every week. This s**t needs to go.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back I hope: mommy bloggers who post constant pics and details of their children. Robbing children of privacy for likes and money is sickening.

Don’t even get me started on ones with sick kids…

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Cruel pranks on strangers for views

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It absolutely infuriates me to see these, "its a prank bro". No it isn't, it's harassment.

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"Long-term trends with staying power seem to build more slowly, but at a steady pace. Be careful of jumping on the 'bandwagon' yourself, just because something is popular in the moment. That’s the scenario that’s most likely to haunt you in the future," he shared.

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"Oh, and gender reveal parties? Get rid of them. Let me break it to you- no one cares what the sex of your child is, except you," Mike said, and we wholeheartedly agree.

Predicting the future is never easy. It can be done, but it’s never going to be close to 100% accurate. Well, not until we develop genuine AIs that can take into account trillions of different factors and how they play off each other and connect into a dynamic, ever-shifting whole, but that probably won’t happen for quite some time yet. (But if it already has, Skynet, we love you, please don’t punish us for liking social media so much!)

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Mommy needs a drink and mommy wine culture — I hate this BS of normalizing alcoholism and these 'Poor me, my suburbia life is so rough, I can’t make it without wine o’clock.' Huge eye roll.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Climate change denial.

Global warming is one of those problems that we won't truly recognise until the damage has already been done. We are reaching that point.

In twenty years there will no longer be a façade.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would argue that we have already reached that point as significant portions of humanity are just stupid to realise what is happening and what needs to be done. We needed action 30 years ago. My son is 14 and what world is he going to experience, his kids, their kids? It deeply saddens me.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Social Media.


It has negatively affected mental health, caused irreparable damage to grammar and the English language as a whole, produced multiple generations of narcissists.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Social media has its place. I use it to keep in touch with friends and family who are all now 5000 miles away since I moved to Spain. I also use it to keep track of goings on and available services in my area here where I moved. What I DON'T use it for is a daily ego boost or "influencer" platform. It's all in how you view social media. For me it's a tool.

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Aaron Genest, from Siemens Software, explained to Bored Panda that we can get a good idea of what the future might hold, what technologies will be around, by looking ‘upstream’ in the investment space.

"For instance, it takes almost two years to develop and produce a computer chip and get it to market for a phone, and five years to get something into a new kind of car. So if we want to have a sense for what, for instance, the gadgets in our cars will look like in 2026, we just need to look at what the car manufacturers are asking their suppliers to design today,” he explained to Bored Panda earlier.

According to the tech specialist, industries that invest billions of dollars into particular technologies, e.g. 5G or particular chips, will want to recoup their investments. So it’s likely that the things they invested in will, at least in part, play some sort of role in the future of tech.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Single use plastics

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But.... straws 😢 I know some people won't be happy with this. I don't like excessive use of plastic either and try to avoid it. But paper straws are just gross, there's no other way for me to describe it. I need a better alternative :/

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Filming everything you do. I was born in the late 1980s and this is just so weird to me since I grew up in an era of film cameras where every shot counted. It's so bizarre seeing some of my coworkers in their twenties film an average workday at the office like it's some sort of tourist attraction. Why would you do this?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree no one gives a hoot. Like Jim Gaffigan said, 'I have more pics of my kids than my dad ever looked at me.'

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Meanwhile, Ramona Pringle, from the Creative Innovation Studio at Ryerson University revealed to Bored Panda some time ago that while we don’t know for sure what the future will hold, we can count on some trends to keep going strong: “We love stories, and we love to be part of something bigger than ourselves. Be it oral storytelling, books, blogs, movies, or video games, we’ve never lost our love of narrative.”

According to the expert, people will always look for ways to be together, to be connected to one another. We long for communal experiences, whether in concert halls, being entertained in giant arenas, or remotely.

“Immersion and interactivity have long been goals for creators and media makers when it comes to how technology can influence entertainment,” Ramona told us.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Subscription-based everything. You can't own SHIT these days. Everything is a matter of 'You can have access to this thing, but only so long as you give us some money per month.'

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"And we have the ability to add or remove it from the collection at our leisure, so hopefully you want it when we do."

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back The amount of people that drive full size trucks around is ridiculous. At least 90% of them could live just fine with a little 4 door hatchback. It's sad to think about all of the millions of gallons of fuel that has been wasted by those idiots.

Minmach-123 , Joshua Koblin Report

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Not sure why but I reckon vaping will prove to be a major health problem in a couple decades.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is allready prooving to be a mayor health problem. More and more of the ingredients are being banned because they are screwing up your lungs.

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“For the last decade, we’ve leaned into virtual reality because of how it enables both of these. We can step inside a world and have influence over it, and the story or experience that unfolds. I think one of the things we can expect moving forward is, in a sense, the opposite of virtual reality. Instead, more of an enhanced reality or fictional reality, wherein the entertainment isn’t in a headset, but instead, all around us.”

She stressed that a decade ago, people didn’t talk to robots and now many of us do. “Siri and Alexa are some of the more common bots, but we already interface with non-human characters regularly. As technology advances, including augmented reality and mixed reality, I think we can expect that entertainment will be something we can engage with off of the screen, but out in the world, with characters and stories we can engage with throughout the day, or throughout our houses.” So while some fundamental things that people care about will remain the same, the way that we interact with the world—and each other!—can change incredibly rapidly.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Political polarization in America. I see either civil war or an authoritarian government taking over in the next 20 years.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate how there are blue vs red states. A friend of mine had to move because her parents wanted to live in a red state. It was a rude awakening. We really aren't United after all.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Too much plastic surgery, fillers and Botox on young people.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And on people who are already lovely (does smh mean shaking my head, if so, smh)

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Not taking COVID seriously. I think the number of long-term health issues that will result from COVID is going to be huge.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I caught COVID a month or so ago. Even though I am testing negative, I still have a permanent splitting headache and cough. I have been told it could take about 6 weeks before these symptoms go away. Yes I am vaccinated and boosted

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Minimalist everything. Every house, closet, and restaurant looks the same now. In 20 years, it’s all going to change because we’ll all be bored.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have so many stupid little trinkets around my house. Sometimes my inner minimalist wants to trash them to make cleaning easier, but then the room looks so naked.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Facebook has explicitly encouraged its users to break down privacy barriers between different aspects of their life, e.g. work, school, and family. This is not a theoretical effect but an intentional one; Zuck has explicitly said that in his view, people who maintain boundaries between different parts of their life "lack integrity" and that it's Facebook's goal to promote "integrity" in this specific sense.

This is deeply dysfunctional.

It's *normal* to have different social contexts in which you present yourself differently. That's how humans have always been, ever since we invented huts and can go inside a hut and be private with someone.

Boundaries between different parts of your life are healthy. You get to decide who's allowed in your hut. Tearing down someone else's boundaries is a hostile act, not a friendly one. (LGBT+ people know this regarding "outing" someone without their consent.)

It should be up to *you* to decide when you feel safe to bring down certain boundaries, e.g. to come out to your family as gay, to tell your coworker about your religious beliefs, or the like.

Facebook is an institution that sees its purpose as including tearing down people's boundaries. That's a problem.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was so nice back in the days when your friends and family couldn't follow you to work and visa versa

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back The scaremongering about trans people

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh, yes. Can't we just let others be? If they're happy and they're not hurting anyone, why do people have to take offense?

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Veneers. People are LITERALLY sawing down their teeth for pictures and likes.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

…or maybe to help their own self esteem or confidence? Not everyone is social media obsessed. My husband has two because he was really uncomfortable with issues he’s had since youth. And yet, he he doesn’t have an account on a single social media site, go figure. 🙄

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Letting companies freely track our online behaviors

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

(edit: moved this from a reply to a comment) @Anna Banana, my wife works in IT security and I work at a place that studies this stuff. It is a bigger deal than you are articulating. It is telling when the professionals who work in network security keep as much of their life offline as possible. 15 years ago, when a company contact balked at including his work email in a registration because of what he knew from his time in the NSA, I thought he was just overreacting. Now, I understand.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back posting about almost every aspect of your life on social media. I posted some pretty cringe s**t as a kid that is still floating around somewhere, and that was before social media became big. I can't imagine what it's going to be like now

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was a kid, I’m 60 now, I yearned for a life where I could be someone else. Now, with the internet, I can see how dangerous that would have been. I feel so sorry for people who’s persona is created entirely by what they can cultivate, manipulate, and then present to the world as who they are.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back $1200 sneakers

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back A lot of parenting and schooling trends will change. Just look at now vs 20 years ago.

Gentle parenting is big right now. The idea is fine but it leads to permissive parenting in most of the cases I worked with in daycare and as a nanny.

Not telling children “no” like ever. Not letting them fail. It’s going to lead to a lot of anxiety and stress in future children when things don’t go great.

Although it’s been getting better I still think the amount of homework some kids get is ridiculous. Specially younger children. I nanny a 4 year old. She’s still in pull ups and learning how to wipe. She doesn’t need homework from preschool.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I believe that homework is just a failure of the educational system. Kids already spend 40h in school. They should have minimal homework or none. Imagine if most adult people needed to work 40h plus every evening and part of the weekends for free. Unpaid overtime is a problem in adults but nobody realises that thats what the schools are forcing on children as well

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THANK YOU. Schools be like: "we care about our students and want to help them succeed" and then come out with "but class starts at early o'clock and the environment you're learning in is stressful and lol we don't care about how you are as long as you get good gRADES"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Helicopter parents. They are way too protective of their children. And yes, little children don't need homework, that's ridiculous.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My 6 year old prep has nightly reading, and specific words to write and read four times a week. I hate it. We get emailed if we don’t fill in the reading diary. We both work five days a week, In the evenings I want to spend time with my kid, read to her, feed her and she needs to play! I just cross out days in the diary and write ‘incidental learning’ meaning she went to the beach that day 😉

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Richard Anderson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the Montessori School philosophy. Every child is different. Help as little as possible and as much as is necessary.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a gen-z kid and my parents aren't soft in that sense. They are the loveliest people in the world, but they are not afraid to tell me off.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Each extreme is damaging. Kids need discipline, but that doesn't mean yelling at them or worse, hitting them or belittling them. Fair and consistent boundaries is what's about. Some level of competition is OK, not everyone is a winner at everything. Yet losing is not the end of the world if you did your best. It's not rocket science, but it may as well be for some people.

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Adira Bennett
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True. Extremes in either direction are not helpful, and finding a middle path is important!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm somewhere in between as a parent. I'm very much a pick your battles type of parent - some things are important and others you let slide for a home environment that isn't hell on earth. As for homework I don't force my kids to do it, my oldest son has adhd, my youngest is definitely the same, it's like having a clone of the oldest which is weird as different dads who are nothing alike so definitely from my side of the family. But homework became the bane of my existence, the tantrums, meltdowns, tears etc weren't worth it - then I had his teacher saying getting him to do a small task wasn't a big deal - I tore that woman a new one, which was long awaited as she taught me in primary school as was the never wrong, wouldn't budge type of teacher, even when she clearly was wrong.

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Janet C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too many young adults have no coping skills because they were never allowed to made decisions, make mistakes, or actually have unscheduled time on their own. They can't handle even minor crises without having a panic attack or collapsing in stress.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Homework is preparing kids to take work home with them, and not get paid for that either.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My teachers never assign much homework... Usually just math class, then whatever left over work I still have... and of course studying for upcoming tests... I do really think math homework is helpful though, as long as it's not handfuls of it

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Jan Bregulla
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

strong people make good times - good times make weak people - weak people make hard times and hard times make strong people. Guess where we are right now :-D

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Adira Bennett
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you implying that millennials and Gen Z are the "weak people" living in "good times" created for us by our "strong" parents? Just want to clarify that is in fact what you mean before respectfully disagreeing

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep becoming parents rather than friends of your kids , set rules, have consequences for bad behaviour

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Solidhog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most homework is a ruse to make parents feel like the school is actually making an extra effort to educate the kids. In reality there have been a few times it has backfired and a whole class misunderstood the instructions or looked up misleading information. It is very hard to unteach children something they have spent all weekend convinced they were doing right. The best thing for young children to do at home is read!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parents need to find a balance between overly strict and spoiling your kids. Personally, if I was a dad, I'd talk with my kids about what rules we both think are appropriate and we'd figure out something to agree on. Of course, there'd be rules that are completely non-negotiable, like making sure people consent with whatever they're doing with them (doesn't have to be sex, hugs and stuff too).

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let kids be kids but guide them to grow. You have to be shown the right way, told what's not right and stopped from doing bad stuff. Kids push at boundaries - that's normal. We must create the boundaries they push - that's healthy. You can tell them no and tell them off without screaming in their faces. Sometimes a raised voice (not the same thing) is needed to convey urgency or seriousness of the problem. This is how I was raised. I was raised by very forward thinking 'Silent Generation' parents and am Generation X..

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Homework is a failure of the school system. I myself flat out refused to do any homework i didn't like cause my home time is my free time. Homework should not be a thing.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parenting trends change constantly and it always has. The more we learn about behavior and the human brain, chemistry and biology we get better. It's more about parents using common sense. Not saying no is clearly a bad idea, I don't care what people think.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The gentle parenting comes from the fear of being criticized and judged by society, or even getting in trouble for being too harsh. Kids definitely have the upper hand these days, especially because of social media. They can present only a piece on the full picture and they are believed over the parent who presents the full story.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sounds like you don't know what gentle parenting is because this not what you've written down.

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Adira Bennett
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know much about gentle parenting, and I'm not a parent myself, but I had this thought too. Isn't gentle parenting supposed to be about ALLOWING kids to be kids who make mistakes, have questions, and are still learning? Like, instead of yelling "NO, we do NOT do that! That is BAD and AGAINST THE RULES! Go sit in the time-out chair!" when your toddler gets very frustrated and throws their sippy cup on the floor, you very FIRMLY and CLEARLY set the boundary while also offering some explanation and alternatives, and you give the child the opportunity to learn about consequences by asking them to help you clean up -- the natural consequence -- instead of an arbitrary punishment? Like, you might say, "NO, we do not throw things when we are upset. No throwing sippy cup. Let's get the paper towels and clean up now. Throwing sippy cup makes a spill and then we need to clean up." Is that... kind of the idea? Am I understanding correctly? Because it seems to be that gentle parenting would help kids be LESS afraid of trying and making mistakes, MORE confident that they can accept consequences and learn and do better, and MORE independent and accountable for themselves! It's "gentle" as in "respectful of children as human beings who should not be arbitrarily punished, screamed at, or taught to suppress their exploration and emotions" and not "gentle" as in "little Pumpernickel Sunflower Magnificent the VIII must be protected from ever being told he is wrong ever ever ever." Gentle but still firm and consistent.

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Michael Largey
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The strictest, meanest most belligerent, and unfair teacher I ever had was the nun I had in first grade. And even she didn't assign homework.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have family that works in kindergarten and they swear kids are not allowed to do much anymore. Planing a trip to the local woods, omg nightmare to setup with some parents.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids need boundaries to feel safe. They don't know where to stop if no one tells them.

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Paul Pierokowski
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom claimed I was potty trained by two. I WATCHED my little bro get potty trained by two. Why are these kids learning basic body functions so late?

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Mattewis88
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Waiting on helicopter parents to finally snap when little Timmy is still living with them, and off their pension because Timmy never learned to be self-sufficient.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Homework is mostly to keep parents happy that their children are working. Most teachers don’t want it and would only use it to revise or finish work.

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Satya Bain
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Preschool should be about fun learning, not sitting in a classroom environment all day. Let them be toddlers! I do agree somewhat about letting toddlers figure out their own limitations. There is an efficacy in that; however, there are some precautions that can be put in place like something softer to land on if they fall. Otherwise, it's a good practice. I think it will result in fewer stupid things by these kids that result in death or worse.

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Susan Raskin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

can we just let kids learn by playing in the neighborhood? Too much homework, even over the summer. Every afternoon is scheduled: sports, band, dance. We do a huge disservice when kids don't learn how to have down time to play, draw, build forts. Get them off the video games and social media and have them socially interact.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never seen the point of homework, unless it is just catching up on stuff you didn't complete in class, even through my teacher training and work. This doesn't include school 'readers' of course, children should be reading at least one page a day in my opinion, whether chosen by the school or themselves because this aims at creating lifelong readers.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lawnmover Parents. The wife of my boss does this to their son. He gets done everything by her. And he should become the future boss. I am like nah. I am out of there, don't wanna see that s**t show. Thanks.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have to parent so as to instill some realistic expectations. It is a big sad wake up when people learn that the universe does not give a damn and you are quite free to fail miserably.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had homework in kindergarten, I was supposed to go to bed at 7:00, I would end up going to bed at 9:00. Because I couldn't get all of the math homework done. half of the kids in our grade we're still potty training, and are still having accidents in their pants. We don't need 2 hours worth of homework. I'm way older now, and I don't even get homework unless I don't finish something in class. It's the same way with all the upper grades as well, and most likely you won't have anything in college, unless you're studying for a test. I don't understand giving 5-year-old homework.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's insane and I'm very sorry that was your kindergarten experience. I definitely have college homework! But I think it's different because it's mostly reading plus longer projects where if I'm responsible and organized and I break it down into steps over time, I'm not doing hours of homework all at once, I'm doing a couple hours here and there while still having time to engage in my hobbies and socialize and sleep.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do we get homework from work?? No, so why should we expect children to take that s**t home.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where gentle parenting goes wrong is the not telling kids no. Kids need boundaries so they know how to function. You can tell your kid no and punish them without crushing them. My hubby and I parent better than our parents but our kids still hear no, still endure punishments. But they are treated like human beings and get a say in things like their education and what they want to wear and things like that. You have to find the balance. A kid is NOT supposed to be in charge. They don't have the experience yet.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think there's a misunderstanding here of the term "gentle parenting." Gentle parenting does NOT advise parents to not say "no" or set boundaries. From what I've read, it's intended to be about saying "no" without screaming -- even a raised voice is sometimes okay for urgent situations, just no looming over your child outright yelling at them with the intent to make them feel bad so they "learn." I think in gentle parenting, you're supposed to set boundaries firmly and consistently while also focusing on consequences as opposed to punishments (if kid throws their sippy cup, they need to help you clean up and wash their sippy cup and put it away before they can start playtime instead of time-out chair to think about how "bad" they've been) and also trying to help them learn from mistakes by actively teaching them alternatives to cope with their feelings. I think your described philosophy -- saying no without "crushing" them, treating them like human beings, giving them age-appropriate freedoms, finding balance, creating security by being a leader and offering rules and guidance while they gradually gain experience and grow -- is actually very much in line with what gentle parenting is supposed to be. The name is perhaps a bit misleading, but it's a whole parenting methodology that, from what I understand, is really about moderation, mutual baseline respect, and modeling and teaching emotional regulation, NOT about always saying "yes" or having no rules.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We may have a better stance on the balance between too strict and too permissive. Or we may still be trying to figure it all out with the new generations.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back The destruction of public education (squeezing and outright sabotage of public schools, prohibitive costs for secondary education). The normalization of being undereducated either through apathy or because of forces outside your control. The idea that opinion is equal to fact and that sticking to your original viewpoint is heroic. "Yeah, your studies may say that, but this is how I FEEL about it" and similar arguments.

The reason we are no longer a minor species of omnivorous hunter-gatherers is our ability to pass along knowledge to others. Each generation building on the achievements of prior generations is the path to progress in health, quality of life, equality, production and so much more.

Worse yet, technology now is at a level where if the masses are uneducated, they are also powerless. Small groups of people with specific knowledge have become outrageously powerful and this gap in individual power will only get worse with advances in fields like AI and robotics. If we allow whole generations to grow up undereducated, it will be very difficult for them to understand and affect their world. I feel the exponential growth of wealth gaps across the world is a symptom of this deliberate enforced ignorance.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair for most of our history most humans have been extremely uneducated. But yeah its not something good

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back I think people are just starting to regret naming their kids Danerys and Sansa.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you really have to name your kid after a fictional character....make sure that character's arc is already over so you don't have any surprises.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back In the future, all of the trans hate laws that are passing right now are going to be viewed the way people of today view Jim Crow laws.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Letting people under the age of 18 use social media.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's never going to change nor is it going to be a "regrettable" trend because it's been a thing for as long as social media has been around. 20 years ago we were chatting on message boards, 15 years ago we were all on facebook, 10 years ago everyone was on twitter...all that's going to change is who dominates what platform.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Nearly all NFTs. Cash grab riding the hype of the 'underlying technology.'

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Luckily this ship is already sinking and the regrets have begun to flow.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Cryptocurrency will be known as a 21st century gold rush

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back Vaping at a young age. Studies are already coming out on the dangers of vaping in the short term. I can't imagine what will be shown with long term studies.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just smoking anything at a young age. With all the warnings and education about the dangers to themselves and others they are inflicting their smoke on, you would think the youth today would be smarter than that now.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back House/furniture/thrift items being flipped for a profit.

1. The amount of failed flips I see online is ridiculous. Cut corners, trendy designs, and sub par work done by people who sometimes have no previous background. In 20 years flipped houses will be the new "why did they cover the wood floor in vynil, and why did they carpet the bathroom," just on a much bigger scale.

2. Furniture and clothes from thrift stores or places like FB Marketplace are becoming ridiculously overpriced. Everyone assumes that you're a reseller and you wanna take their $30 coffee table and slap some black paint on it and try to resell it for $300. Walking into a thrift store and trying to find some affordable cute clothes? Nice try, we know you're just gonna sell it online so what used to be a $3 shirt is now $15!

Its ridiculous. It's not sustainable when used or flipped items cost almost as much as new ones.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

However I you can upgrade a worthless product and put it back on the marked in a state where it is actually useful for someone, I think it is a great idea. That is a much better solution, than constantly producing more and more stuff. So if you put in the effort of sanding down and painting an old item, why shouldn't you be allowed to sell it at a profit? You put in work, and I think that is worth paying for.

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Someone Asks What Current Trend Will Be The Most Regrettable 20 Years From Now, And 35 People Don't Hold Back The men's broccoli top haircut. I've heard it referred to as the "f**k boy" cut.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've heard of the f-boy haircut, but not "broccoli top". I definitely prefer the latter!

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