“If You Can Creep Them Out, They Leave You Alone”: Woman Shares The Creepy Things She Says To Men Who Bother Her On The Street
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What some men still don’t realize is that catcalling, asking a woman her number or trying to get to know her just on the street doesn’t make her feel flattered. And even if she feels annoyed, that feeling most probably is not as big as the fear she feels.
You never know what that man’s intentions are, if he’s actually just being friendly or he has something else in mind. But women are finding out ways to make such men leave them alone. They’ve learnt that if you act creepy or crazy enough, men won’t proceed with bothering you. This woman on TikTok shares her stories of what crazy things she says that makes men turn their back to her and is becoming more popular on the platform.
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Woman doesn’t put up with men’s unwanted attention by scaring them off with the wildest comments
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The TikToker is Kitti, who introduces herself on her Instagram as a villain coach and seeks to traumatize TheMen, having in mind those who can’t behave like normal people and not harass random women. She is an Aquarius and enjoys long walks in the moonlight where no one talks to her, as she introduces herself to Bored Panda readers.
Although Kitti shared quite a few stories on her page because it just so happens that if you go out of your home, you inevitably meet men on the street, and some of them will want to interact, one video really stands out with 5.9 million views. Such a number might be explained by the fact that the woman managed to record an interaction she had, demonstrating that her previous stories are all true.
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The TikToker captured a couple of interactions on camera and posted them online
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In that viral video, a man is heard asking Kitti for her phone number. But Kitti warns the man that everyone that ends up in her contacts will receive a call from organ harvesters. The man doesn’t even know what that is, but the woman patiently explains who those people are, which creates an even stronger effect saying it explicitly.
The TikToker says it with a calm voice that sounds so serious and so true the man changes his mind about wanting Kitti’s phone number and is seen going away, hopefully mildly traumatized and thinking about his actions. At the end of the video, Kitti challenges her audience to write her what she should say to the next man who tries to do something similar as she can say anything with a straight face.
One of them went viral with 5.6M views and showed how effective her method of scaring men away is
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Image credits: caffinatedkitti
When Bored Panda talked with Kitti, we found out that this isn’t a newly discovered thing for the TikToker: “I had used it on childhood bullies to make them back off and realized it was multifaceted. I started being very unnerving towards unwanted encounters of all types and it’s never failed me.”
Kitti shared that up until now, there have been no cases when the situation escalated or the men were so out of touch with reality, they would continue bothering her: “It’s reverse psychology and not something they’re expecting so it throws them off and makes them choose to leave the encounter. This keeps me safer since they don’t necessarily feel rejected.”
On the occasion when a man asks her for her phone number, Kitti explains that when she gets their number, they will contacted by organ harvesters
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Image credits: caffinatedkitti
Kitti used the organ harvesting story with other men as well and it seems that this one line was enough for the men to not engage further. What is also necessary to add is that a woman feels when something is up.
These videos which show the actual interaction weren’t captured by accident. Kitti told us, “In the cases I’ve caught so far I could see the men leering and very obviously trying to engage in conversation with me so I started to record as they made their way over.”
Such an unexpected response throws men off and makes them want to end the interaction, which was the woman’s goal from the start
Image credits: caffinatedkitti
Image credits: caffinatedkitti
On another occasion Kitti told a man asking to be her friend that he probably doesn’t really want that because she noticed others don’t like it when she digs up dead things and eventually eats them.
In one of the first of her videos, Kitti shared that she told a man that she didn’t have a boyfriend or at least one that’s alive, making a suggestion that she was the cause of their deaths, which made the creep leave her alone.
Kitti says that she hasn’t had a case when a man wouldn’t leave her alone and reenacts on video what their faces look like when she says what she does
Image credits: caffinatedkitti
Image credits: caffinatedkitti
A line that men really like saying that irks women’s nerves is asking them to smile. Like women are there for their entertainment and have to be smiling to please them even if there is no reason to smile.
So Kitti suggests to these men that you don’t have a reason to smile because a lot of really bad things happened in your life at the same time. But so bad to the point that they wouldn’t even want to try to console you, like health problems one after another, weird things like finding out you mispronounced a word the whole time, scary stuff like your grandma dying because a tree fell on her.
If you don’t have the imagination to come up with this on the spot, just have a list in your head that would work in any situation and of course, all of this has to be delivered with a straight face and with all seriousness.
Pretending to be insane makes Kitti feel safe because men don’t feel that their pride was hurt as they weren’t directly rejected
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Kitti gives some advice on how to master the art of making men go away more than willingly: “Practice all kinds of different methods. Some find that being overly chipper, loud and obnoxious works, some start loudly crying about their fish dying, while others just make animal sounds.” It seems that the less the story you come up with makes sense, the more it makes you sound crazy, which is the goal.
Practice makes perfect and Kitti is now a pro because she has had a lot of opportunities to sharpen her skills. She also thinks it’s a good idea to “work on it in the mirror, come up with a persona – whatever you need to do to feel confident because that’s the real trick.”
When people say confidence is key, they know what they’re talking about and the TikToker agrees. “The more confident you can be in what you’re saying, the more likely they are to back down.”
But it is important to deliver the story with confidence and a straight face, really becoming one with that crazy persona
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Image credits: caffinatedkitti
Kitti believes that anyone can do it and all it takes is a little practice and she advises not to be afraid of confrontation
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As Kitti is more experienced in the field, she is working on a series that will show examples of what can be said in different environments and depending on the manner in which you would be approached.
Her last words of wisdom are, “Always be safe, and follow your gut instincts – be confrontational! I’ve always thought since I could get killed for saying no politely anyway – I may as well make it known preemptively that I was a stranger than they were and that I wouldn’t go down easy. Ovaries of steel are a mindset and anyone can have that.”
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Here you can watch the video in which Kitti captures the moment when the man is too creeped out to continue talking with her
@caffinatedkitti I keep seeing comments to stay safe. Bold of y’all to assume I’m the one who needs to be cautious on who I speak to #outcreepthecreeper #fyp #women #streetharassment #comeback #WomenOwnedBusiness ♬ Ovaries of Steel – Kitti
We would love to hear if you’ve ever said something so crazy to a man that showed unwanted attention to you that he didn’t want to continue a conversation with you. If not, would you like to try it? Also, did you like the stories that Kitti came up with? Let us know in the comments!
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I have never wanted to be friends with someone as bad as I want to be friends with this absolute badass
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I am an overthinker and was wondering what to say if they were wondering more about your organ harvest thing, and I came up with a plausible response., putting it here to ease the other overthinker's worries. Man: Why do people in your contacts get called about organ harvesting? You: Oh, you know, I work for the company and I don't have a separate work phone, so all of my client's numbers are in here and the company has access to them all to contact them. Man: What about your friend's phone numbers? You: I have no friends Man: What about family? You: My mother refuses to talk to me after the *incident* and that should about do it. Hope this helps and I hope no one needs it
For the incels who are whining, this isn't a man vs woman thing. I'm a one-legged wheelchair user. I get asked CONSTANTLY about how I lost my leg. My response is now always "By asking personal medical questions to complete strangers".
I thought I was too old to deal with guys doing the smile thing anymore. Was at the grocery store checking out and this guy employee, who looked like a kid, told me it was too early in the day for me to look so unhappy. I was going to redirect the conversation to them, per usual, when out of no where I started crying and told this complete kid stranger all about my anxiety over my husbands heart attacks. I haven't told anyone of it, as I wasn't raised to burden others with my anxiety. He look shook and slightly panicked. A woman coworker of his came over and quickly bagged my groceries, then loaded them in my car. I asked her to apologize for me and she refused, pointing out that he needed to learn to stop doing that.
They: "Hey, sweet lady! Wanna go on a date?" You: *smiles, speaks softly* "I'm a sadist."
damn bored panda. just be careful, some people might be into that. i had a stalker once who was x_x
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If saying no and an imaginary boyfriend is enough I always overreact. I would love to go out but it will all be casual untill I'm off my meds and my therapist gives me the green light for more. That one has never failed me and it's sad that we have to resort to this
She is my new hero lmao too funny. I didn't get a large amount of male attention when I was younger but as I got older I started to get it. The ones who tell you to smile are particularly perplexing because do they really think they are "flirting" with you while insulting you at them same time?
I've had people (women) say that to me too. Why would I smile like an idiot by myself (or even with someone) if there's nothing going to make me smile? It's one of the most annoying things to say to someone.
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my sister had been doing that for over 20+ years tho.... when she was 8 back in the '90s, she would sing creepy songs, and creepy people that followed her { it was a place where some kids had been abducted, and she saw them following her, but still had a while to go so started singing about cutting people up and eating them, the guys following her slowly stopped and walked off}
I had a guy come up to me today and say ‘hello, aren’t you a pretty little girly’ I’m in my mid fifties and this guy must have been in his nineties. Lol
This is just sad. Why can’t women just say “no thanks” and a man walk away? When I was younger a man kept pestering me at a bar I was at with my female friends. I was scared and gave him a fake number to make him leave. There’s no reason for men to make women feel like that. None.
Whenever strange men ask me for my number, my go-to response is "Before I give you my number, I am legally obligated to tell you that I have 14 restraining orders that are filed against me" and do a lil creepy laugh at the end. They almost always look so concerned and say nevermind
Good ideas Kitti! This is another thing you can do: A friend of our family who was around 75 years old was standing outside a liquour store. A couple of youngsters came up and asked if he could buy some for them. (They were probably under age or banned from the store due to bad behaviour and/or drunkedness). They were rather big and strong and he felt threatened. Maybe they would become violent if he refused. So he put his hand behind his ear and, with a stupid expression shouted WHAT? What are you saying? Huh? They tried to talk to him some more, but then gave up and left, saying "The old bastard is deaf". 🤣
Every time someone tells me to smile I tell them my mother is dead. Which is true, she's been dead for eleven years, but does shut them up.
I find you don't have to do any of this elaborate stuff. Just say "NO!" Very loudly. Regardless of whatever they've said. They'll think you're crazy, making a scene, and leave you alone. The end. No fancy explanations needed.
I’ve been doing this very thing since I was like 20 and let me tell you works like a charm. Once I got followed into the candy isle of a grocery store on Valentines day by a creepy guy who said, “these candies are sweet but not as sweet as you.” And I told him looks can be deceiving since my favorite hobby is making skin suits out of human skin. I usually go for large white men cause they have extra skin on them and then you can dye it to whatever shade you like. I normally wear it under my regular clothes because you know, the skin your in. He didn’t know what to say to that but he definitely didn’t follow me anymore. So it worked and has always worked and will always work, so go out there ladies and creep the creepers out. They deserve it.
I hope Gomez and Morticia aren't too hurt that Wednesday isn't using her birth name now, but I expect they're delighted.
I can't keep a straight face, so I just make him as uncomfortable as possible, using something that's completely plausible. If a man tells me to smile, my go-to is "my mom just died, so maybe I don't feel like smiling. Is that okay with you??" It has worked 100% of the time (and knowing my mom, she'd be totally on board with me telling condescending men to get f****d)
Thank u lol, this is incredibly timely advice 😅 Literally was just getting advice from my friend about what to do, I reckon this sounds a good idea!
I was thinking this sounded a little extreme, but reminded myself I've only ever had one person not take no for an answer, so I really don't have the background to judge it. I do think it would limit potential new friends/partners, but if you aren't looking for that then it doesn't matter. Still think it seems odd, but I guess that's the point isn't it?
Back when land lines were a thing I got a call from a masher. I hung up. He called back and threatened me and I wasn't to hang up on him again. I hung up. He didn't call back. I'm too old for such nonsense now but back in the day I would mostly ignore them with a blank stare, either at them or at the far distance. With no response they tended to move on, usually with a nasty comment. Kitti seems to get a kick out of her verbal kick backs. Good for her.
Im not one to really approach like that, but if I was met with these responses TBH I would feel the NEED to get to know her.
Well, someone doxxed her, and guys tried to get a live video of her doing it. When being catcalled, she hid away and ran. A day later she posted of how she owned the dudes... The dudes posted the video, both posts were deleted... Believe nothing you read on the internet, especially "hero stories"....
Why does it sound like you are happy that people harassed and scared someone?
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Some men get scary agressive when rejected, imagine someone hurting your mom or sister because she said no.
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Just say that you don't understand the point of the article and leave.
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I have never wanted to be friends with someone as bad as I want to be friends with this absolute badass
Load More Replies... I am an overthinker and was wondering what to say if they were wondering more about your organ harvest thing, and I came up with a plausible response., putting it here to ease the other overthinker's worries. Man: Why do people in your contacts get called about organ harvesting? You: Oh, you know, I work for the company and I don't have a separate work phone, so all of my client's numbers are in here and the company has access to them all to contact them. Man: What about your friend's phone numbers? You: I have no friends Man: What about family? You: My mother refuses to talk to me after the *incident* and that should about do it. Hope this helps and I hope no one needs it
For the incels who are whining, this isn't a man vs woman thing. I'm a one-legged wheelchair user. I get asked CONSTANTLY about how I lost my leg. My response is now always "By asking personal medical questions to complete strangers".
I thought I was too old to deal with guys doing the smile thing anymore. Was at the grocery store checking out and this guy employee, who looked like a kid, told me it was too early in the day for me to look so unhappy. I was going to redirect the conversation to them, per usual, when out of no where I started crying and told this complete kid stranger all about my anxiety over my husbands heart attacks. I haven't told anyone of it, as I wasn't raised to burden others with my anxiety. He look shook and slightly panicked. A woman coworker of his came over and quickly bagged my groceries, then loaded them in my car. I asked her to apologize for me and she refused, pointing out that he needed to learn to stop doing that.
They: "Hey, sweet lady! Wanna go on a date?" You: *smiles, speaks softly* "I'm a sadist."
damn bored panda. just be careful, some people might be into that. i had a stalker once who was x_x
Load More Replies... If saying no and an imaginary boyfriend is enough I always overreact. I would love to go out but it will all be casual untill I'm off my meds and my therapist gives me the green light for more. That one has never failed me and it's sad that we have to resort to this
She is my new hero lmao too funny. I didn't get a large amount of male attention when I was younger but as I got older I started to get it. The ones who tell you to smile are particularly perplexing because do they really think they are "flirting" with you while insulting you at them same time?
I've had people (women) say that to me too. Why would I smile like an idiot by myself (or even with someone) if there's nothing going to make me smile? It's one of the most annoying things to say to someone.
Load More Replies... my sister had been doing that for over 20+ years tho.... when she was 8 back in the '90s, she would sing creepy songs, and creepy people that followed her { it was a place where some kids had been abducted, and she saw them following her, but still had a while to go so started singing about cutting people up and eating them, the guys following her slowly stopped and walked off}
I had a guy come up to me today and say ‘hello, aren’t you a pretty little girly’ I’m in my mid fifties and this guy must have been in his nineties. Lol
This is just sad. Why can’t women just say “no thanks” and a man walk away? When I was younger a man kept pestering me at a bar I was at with my female friends. I was scared and gave him a fake number to make him leave. There’s no reason for men to make women feel like that. None.
Whenever strange men ask me for my number, my go-to response is "Before I give you my number, I am legally obligated to tell you that I have 14 restraining orders that are filed against me" and do a lil creepy laugh at the end. They almost always look so concerned and say nevermind
Good ideas Kitti! This is another thing you can do: A friend of our family who was around 75 years old was standing outside a liquour store. A couple of youngsters came up and asked if he could buy some for them. (They were probably under age or banned from the store due to bad behaviour and/or drunkedness). They were rather big and strong and he felt threatened. Maybe they would become violent if he refused. So he put his hand behind his ear and, with a stupid expression shouted WHAT? What are you saying? Huh? They tried to talk to him some more, but then gave up and left, saying "The old bastard is deaf". 🤣
Every time someone tells me to smile I tell them my mother is dead. Which is true, she's been dead for eleven years, but does shut them up.
I find you don't have to do any of this elaborate stuff. Just say "NO!" Very loudly. Regardless of whatever they've said. They'll think you're crazy, making a scene, and leave you alone. The end. No fancy explanations needed.
I’ve been doing this very thing since I was like 20 and let me tell you works like a charm. Once I got followed into the candy isle of a grocery store on Valentines day by a creepy guy who said, “these candies are sweet but not as sweet as you.” And I told him looks can be deceiving since my favorite hobby is making skin suits out of human skin. I usually go for large white men cause they have extra skin on them and then you can dye it to whatever shade you like. I normally wear it under my regular clothes because you know, the skin your in. He didn’t know what to say to that but he definitely didn’t follow me anymore. So it worked and has always worked and will always work, so go out there ladies and creep the creepers out. They deserve it.
I hope Gomez and Morticia aren't too hurt that Wednesday isn't using her birth name now, but I expect they're delighted.
I can't keep a straight face, so I just make him as uncomfortable as possible, using something that's completely plausible. If a man tells me to smile, my go-to is "my mom just died, so maybe I don't feel like smiling. Is that okay with you??" It has worked 100% of the time (and knowing my mom, she'd be totally on board with me telling condescending men to get f****d)
Thank u lol, this is incredibly timely advice 😅 Literally was just getting advice from my friend about what to do, I reckon this sounds a good idea!
I was thinking this sounded a little extreme, but reminded myself I've only ever had one person not take no for an answer, so I really don't have the background to judge it. I do think it would limit potential new friends/partners, but if you aren't looking for that then it doesn't matter. Still think it seems odd, but I guess that's the point isn't it?
Back when land lines were a thing I got a call from a masher. I hung up. He called back and threatened me and I wasn't to hang up on him again. I hung up. He didn't call back. I'm too old for such nonsense now but back in the day I would mostly ignore them with a blank stare, either at them or at the far distance. With no response they tended to move on, usually with a nasty comment. Kitti seems to get a kick out of her verbal kick backs. Good for her.
Im not one to really approach like that, but if I was met with these responses TBH I would feel the NEED to get to know her.
Well, someone doxxed her, and guys tried to get a live video of her doing it. When being catcalled, she hid away and ran. A day later she posted of how she owned the dudes... The dudes posted the video, both posts were deleted... Believe nothing you read on the internet, especially "hero stories"....
Why does it sound like you are happy that people harassed and scared someone?
Load More Replies... Some men get scary agressive when rejected, imagine someone hurting your mom or sister because she said no.
Load More Replies... Just say that you don't understand the point of the article and leave.
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