Guy Thinks A Girl Was Begging For Sex When She Was Nice To Him At Lunch, Learns A Hard Lesson
Have you ever been nice to your neighbor? The bus driver? Was it because you desperately wanted to have sex with them? Believe it or not, one guy has recently invited a girl for “Netflix and chill” just because she acted like a decent human being in front of him. Needless to say, she was shocked to learn he was so tragically clueless. His texts were so direct and incredibly obnoxious, you’d never like to receive anything like them. Scroll down to read how the girl responded to his twisted ways and let us know in the comments if you think the handled the situation well.
Most commenters were surprised by Brad’s ignorance
Others expressed sympathy
Twisted? A lot of people make the mistake of thinking friendly is flirting. He was just super rude / aggressive about it.
That's going to be a very tough learning process and many of that kind are just too emotionally unstable.
Load More Replies...i can't stand guys who think every move you make is a come on. seriously, how is anyone supposed to live like that? i don't wanna be a jerk to everyone forever to have to avoid this, but i'll admit i have been from time to time. it's terrible to need this defense mechanism.
I feel her pain: confusion and disbelief, with a little bit of anger. I reached out to someone I considered a friend, after I married and move to a different state, we lost touch. I heard that his little sister had passed away in a bad accident, I reached out (MISTAKE) and told him how sorry I was for his loss and asked about his mother and about services, the random messages went on for maybe 5 days spaced out, this turned into an "us" situation and when was I going to come back to CA and when was I going to leave me husband. It was so awkward and uncomfortable. I kept re-reading my text messages trying to figure out how I "was being a tease and made him think we were starting a relationship? I guess you can't be a decent human these days. :/
I've recently had quite a few people laugh at my jokes on here, or share similar interests... you weren't... you weren't all leading me on were you? coz, I mean, I'm flattered but... hahaha, what a numpty, it could just be she thought he was nice, nice is fine, I have a hat that's nice. but now it would appear he was being nice coz he thought he was gonna get some. a swing and indeed a miss.
That's where he made his mistake. He's only nice when he wants to FK someone, so he thinks everyone who is being nice to him wants to FK him.
Load More Replies...He's probably rude to them because he doesn't want to FK them.
Load More Replies...friendly does not equal flirting. Honestly, it's annoying when I'm nice and people say they have girlfriends. wtf. IM NICE YEESH
Guys like this are digging their own graves and the graves of other guys, women get afraid to interact and be nice because of men like that.
It is true Debbie, The thing that is different is that he didn't send a d**k pic. Which I see waaaaay too much of. I prefer to be polite*, and not ignore people but creeps like this make me scared. Every woman I know has been scared to do the grocery shopping at some time. __________ *If a guy / woman is carry bundles and running short of hands I always hold doors open etc and yes I am a woman.
Load More Replies...Geez, this guy is acting like he's entitlef to have her, that's pretty rude. :( I mean being clueless is one thing, but yeah... They could have been just friends, does that not work? :p Well from there I wonder what her boyfriend would think... Sigh... it's almost like he thought he was close to having sex with her too despite saying she had a boyfriend. This makes me sad. :(
I think that's exactly the problem; entitlement. Far too many men feel entitled to sex, simply for being a guy who lays their eyes on a girl. And every girl has to walk on eggshells for fear of anything they do or say being misinterpreted.
Load More Replies...I was polite to a guy at the trolley station recently. He followed me onto the trolley and sat in the seat right next to me, despite the fact there were dozens of empty seats all around (y'all, I'm 55 and married & don't EVEN look like I'm looking for ANYTHING), but he chooses to sit right next to me. Next thing I know, he's placed his hand on my upper thigh. Now - I am not small, nor am I shy, so I grabbed his hand and said quite loudly "What the f**k do you think you're doing? Get your m***********g hand off of me you pervert, or I will throw your sorry a*s off this moving train". He freaks out & tries to apologize & back-pedal real quick as three huge guys I hadn't noticed before came walking up the aisle. He sees them coming just as we pulled into a station. He ran like his a*s hair was on fire. It was f*****g great.
And yes I have been living under a rock. = I only recently learnt that " netflix and chill" meant my place or yours to do sex. So I could have innocently turned up expecting to watch a film or two.
The escalation would have surprised me in a very bad way!
Load More Replies...The guy is a complete egotistical, and shallow a*s. Never mind that he may be socially awkward - b******t. He's a pig with no moral fibre. A complete piece of brainless s**t. She needs to go to HR and have them notate these texts. My daughter was in a similar situation. She repeatedly turned down this pig at work until HE finally went to HR and lied about her. Claims she called him a terrorist. Ppfftttt !!!
If you upvote this and don't date me afterwards you're just leading me on!
Happened to me a lot and happened to many other girls that I know. Unfortunately it is a part of being a woman in this society.
if he isnt used to people being nice to him then its clearly from him being a total d-bag
I would've been so naive to go netflix n' chill and then get the live version rant
Either way...he has no clue how to pursue a woman. Even if she was interested...he sounds immature and self centered. Try again in 10 years.
That's assuming he HAS grown up by then. Some men never do. Like tho one currently in the White House..
Load More Replies...Yeah. He's a jerk. I've run into this many, many times. There are boys (because men don't do that) who will jump from someone holding a door for them when their hands are full to, "Wanna f**k?" ... They're idiots. Best avoided.
Oh my god. Guys like this. Smh.... some kind of flaw in how he was parented, perhaps? Who knows, but I really hope he learned a lesson from this.
I don't think so... Guys like that one, always have that attitude and at the end of "conversation", it must be their : "You stupid b****". That means lesson not learned.
Load More Replies...Admittedly, I don't watch porn, but maybe that's how it works in that world? It could be there are other approaches other than ordering a pizza or needing a plumber?
Met a guy once outside a video rental. We struck some notes together and I gave him my number. Two days later, he called me to ask if I wanted to go with him that night to a party. I said no, that I had made plans previously. His immediate response was to call me a manipulative b***h. And THEN, he kept calling me to see when I would go out with him. Oy!
This has happened to me quite a bit in the opposite direction . I'm a male. If you are kind to a lady she thinks you are hitting on her. We live it a really messed up society.
I'm nice to everyone. I'm friendly, outgoing and kind. I'm also not interested in sex with 99% of the population. If I were interested, I probably wouldn't talk at all.
I'm glad it didn't turn out to be the case and I hope it never turns out to be the case but this could be interpreted as obsessive behaviour? You hear stories about someone assuming a smile or a glance thrown their way means the person doing it must be in love with them and that could have the potential to escalate to something seriously frightening but like I said, I hope that's not the case here.
That's the first time I have ever heard that term being used HAHA!
Load More Replies...Yes. Yes i know it very badly well. Be nice to guy and he thinks you are atracted to him. When you say you are not interested in, he doesn't accept it. He can even stalk you. He even could think he is too good for you and begins to be mean to you. yeah, I'm not nice to boys ever since this acknowledge. Shame, I'm quite polite person.
When did Netflix and chill mean sex when I ask someone to Netflix and chill that means someone is bringing pizza cause that's all we are doing
A LOT of guys are like this, so this isn't just some guy that hasn't had enough human interaction. I don't know where they're getting the idea that being nice to others isn't a normal thing to do. It seriously needs to stop and ABSOLUTELY NO ONE should simpathize with people who act like this
A symptom of a guy who googles how to know if a girl wants to f**k me.. 😂😂😂
I think we're going to see more and more stupid and clueless behavior like this in an age where people are constantly glued to their phones, social media (FB, Twitter, etc.) and forget the skill of face-to-face communication and real human interaction.
Oh God Almighty! A guy here. I am so so sorry ladies. I apologise on behalf of all the male of the species. Do forgive us.
I am disgusted right now a girl cannot be nice to a guy like this without thinking she wants him to f**ck her get a life
Arsehole. Seriously, men think WE are comfusing. Some (SOME) guys just take it too far with assuming that girls like them like that. Sadly, some guys still are in the "no means yes"' mindstate
What a total dumbass!! Now he will never get laid and that is a good thing
Brad is not alone. He has lots of company, men who think all women want to F them. So any woman who is friendly is definitely issuing an invitation to sex. Not all of them are losers otherwise. It's to do with their egos, not their IQs.
I thought this was going to be about a socially awkward kid who got his heart broken or something. I was one of those as a kid. That is not the case here. This appears to be a spoilt a*****e with some serious issues with his view of woman and respect of others. Who in their right mind thinks it is okay to call someone what he did just because they refuse a sexual relationship. This person's responses are not just that of a young mind. I could easily seem this type of behavior escalating as they get older and will probably result in some kind of domestic violence call in the future. I hope that doesn't happen, but obviously this guy is capable of playing nice to get what they want, and overreact when they do not.
Yup. I think this guy spends WAAAYYYY too much time alone in his basement. He hasn't been socialized properly or he'd know you don't get women in bed JUST because they're being kind. Pity parents don't teach their kids basic social skills anymore. That way those grown up kids would know the difference between kindness and begging for sex on a first meeting.
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Maybe they work together and share phone numbers in case of work problems. Maybe he got it from someone else. Maybe she gave it because she thought he was fun. Maybe he's a friend of a friend and seemed trustworthy. Maybe they have the same hobby and she thought it would be fun to share tips. Your guess is as good as mine.
Load More Replies...I think he sounded surprised that she was actually NICE to him. Do you think most girls treat him like the garbage he is?
I think she was being a good friend and I agree he could have thought something more than friendship but I highly doubt she was coming on that strongly that he felt to jump to N and C. I mean I reckon he could have perceived it as fliriting even though unintentional on her part but she wasn't from what I gather screaming f**k me signals at him
Gosh, I hate it so much when some men think that women being nice to them = flirting, and wanting to bonk their brains out!
I had someone yell at me once for this. Why? Because apparently, being there for a mate when he is in the Emergency Trauma Unit in Hospital, after he texted me to go there after he had a serious accident; buying a few gifts; going a few times to see them; and checking up on them daily; means I was flirting with them. Yes, I was into him, but no I was not flirting. I was just a concerned friend.
Load More Replies...The place where I come from... there are someone who would follow a women back home, took off all his cloth and sneak into her house just because she smiled at him, politely. Some people are just born dumb.
And it seams as if he hasn't learned one damn thing out of this. She will obviously not be nice to him anymore. Ans I bet she will warn every female in her circle about him. Although it would be better for HIM if the girls would band together and be extra nice to him so that he can learn that one can be nice without wanting sex. Because he seams to think that this girl lead him on purposefully just to dump him.
A pathetic excuse for a man. So deluded that he thinks if you are nice to him he can automatically assume you are cracking on to him. Interest to know how old this duche bag is? I had a girlfriend back in our 20's (now 44) and she cracked on to a guy who wasn't interested in her. She automatically started telling everyone he was gay because he rejected her advances. Idiot.
What a buttmunch. Has he ever met a girl before that?! I doubt so...
Poor guy, totally a loser without values, his parents really did a horrible work with him!! And you girl, keep being such a good human being!! We need a lot more like you in this world!!
WHY ,ohh why would any girl want to be nice to a D******D ?!? ( We already know it is an incurable mental illness affecting ahhh, maybe 75 -:to 85 % of all male ppl
Heads up scientific community!! A living, breathing neanderthal!!
I guess his version of being polite includes dumping her lunch over his head and telling him he should kill himself. Since she didn't do any of those things (WTG young lady for being nice for nice sake), that equals flat out sexual intercourse with no kindness, tenderness, nor humanity. Please tell me this is not what we fought for...
This is a classic sign of a personality disorder. Narc or bordeline or whatever but the dude would have list me with this painfully awkward way to initiate romantic acts "Netflix & chill" bulllshit. Only teens or the snap chat crowd speaks like this. Dumb!
*lost ( not sure why Android spellchecker constantly changes this to f*****g* list! There, yah happy? Now I've gone & used a forbidden "word!
Load More Replies...No, you should still be friendly. But not overly friendly.
Load More Replies...I rarely date anymore because this behavior is more normal than not. Last summer I was talking to a guy, we had kissed a couple of times but it was just harmless ( to me anyways ) I was going to have him over to meet my pets and I had to cancel last minute, he then asked me when we could have sex since I was flaking. He assumed me inviting him mid day to see my pets was a sex incite, not to mention I moved back home and live with my dad lol. I'm like, I was inviting you to see my animals..
ask any woman you know if this has ever happened to her and I bet every one will say 'YES.'
Load More Replies...He has absolutely no respect for women, he's rude, and he behaved like a complete a*s. She'd have to be a complete idiot to introduce him to a friend.
Load More Replies...It's the calling her an Fing B***h that takes this from the realm of a plausible misunderstanding to an entitled jerk who has no game.
Load More Replies...I have had almost this exact thing happen to me. Both when younger AND as an adult. Some one actually did it right in front of my HUSBAND.
Load More Replies...Twisted? A lot of people make the mistake of thinking friendly is flirting. He was just super rude / aggressive about it.
That's going to be a very tough learning process and many of that kind are just too emotionally unstable.
Load More Replies...i can't stand guys who think every move you make is a come on. seriously, how is anyone supposed to live like that? i don't wanna be a jerk to everyone forever to have to avoid this, but i'll admit i have been from time to time. it's terrible to need this defense mechanism.
I feel her pain: confusion and disbelief, with a little bit of anger. I reached out to someone I considered a friend, after I married and move to a different state, we lost touch. I heard that his little sister had passed away in a bad accident, I reached out (MISTAKE) and told him how sorry I was for his loss and asked about his mother and about services, the random messages went on for maybe 5 days spaced out, this turned into an "us" situation and when was I going to come back to CA and when was I going to leave me husband. It was so awkward and uncomfortable. I kept re-reading my text messages trying to figure out how I "was being a tease and made him think we were starting a relationship? I guess you can't be a decent human these days. :/
I've recently had quite a few people laugh at my jokes on here, or share similar interests... you weren't... you weren't all leading me on were you? coz, I mean, I'm flattered but... hahaha, what a numpty, it could just be she thought he was nice, nice is fine, I have a hat that's nice. but now it would appear he was being nice coz he thought he was gonna get some. a swing and indeed a miss.
That's where he made his mistake. He's only nice when he wants to FK someone, so he thinks everyone who is being nice to him wants to FK him.
Load More Replies...He's probably rude to them because he doesn't want to FK them.
Load More Replies...friendly does not equal flirting. Honestly, it's annoying when I'm nice and people say they have girlfriends. wtf. IM NICE YEESH
Guys like this are digging their own graves and the graves of other guys, women get afraid to interact and be nice because of men like that.
It is true Debbie, The thing that is different is that he didn't send a d**k pic. Which I see waaaaay too much of. I prefer to be polite*, and not ignore people but creeps like this make me scared. Every woman I know has been scared to do the grocery shopping at some time. __________ *If a guy / woman is carry bundles and running short of hands I always hold doors open etc and yes I am a woman.
Load More Replies...Geez, this guy is acting like he's entitlef to have her, that's pretty rude. :( I mean being clueless is one thing, but yeah... They could have been just friends, does that not work? :p Well from there I wonder what her boyfriend would think... Sigh... it's almost like he thought he was close to having sex with her too despite saying she had a boyfriend. This makes me sad. :(
I think that's exactly the problem; entitlement. Far too many men feel entitled to sex, simply for being a guy who lays their eyes on a girl. And every girl has to walk on eggshells for fear of anything they do or say being misinterpreted.
Load More Replies...I was polite to a guy at the trolley station recently. He followed me onto the trolley and sat in the seat right next to me, despite the fact there were dozens of empty seats all around (y'all, I'm 55 and married & don't EVEN look like I'm looking for ANYTHING), but he chooses to sit right next to me. Next thing I know, he's placed his hand on my upper thigh. Now - I am not small, nor am I shy, so I grabbed his hand and said quite loudly "What the f**k do you think you're doing? Get your m***********g hand off of me you pervert, or I will throw your sorry a*s off this moving train". He freaks out & tries to apologize & back-pedal real quick as three huge guys I hadn't noticed before came walking up the aisle. He sees them coming just as we pulled into a station. He ran like his a*s hair was on fire. It was f*****g great.
And yes I have been living under a rock. = I only recently learnt that " netflix and chill" meant my place or yours to do sex. So I could have innocently turned up expecting to watch a film or two.
The escalation would have surprised me in a very bad way!
Load More Replies...The guy is a complete egotistical, and shallow a*s. Never mind that he may be socially awkward - b******t. He's a pig with no moral fibre. A complete piece of brainless s**t. She needs to go to HR and have them notate these texts. My daughter was in a similar situation. She repeatedly turned down this pig at work until HE finally went to HR and lied about her. Claims she called him a terrorist. Ppfftttt !!!
If you upvote this and don't date me afterwards you're just leading me on!
Happened to me a lot and happened to many other girls that I know. Unfortunately it is a part of being a woman in this society.
if he isnt used to people being nice to him then its clearly from him being a total d-bag
I would've been so naive to go netflix n' chill and then get the live version rant
Either way...he has no clue how to pursue a woman. Even if she was interested...he sounds immature and self centered. Try again in 10 years.
That's assuming he HAS grown up by then. Some men never do. Like tho one currently in the White House..
Load More Replies...Yeah. He's a jerk. I've run into this many, many times. There are boys (because men don't do that) who will jump from someone holding a door for them when their hands are full to, "Wanna f**k?" ... They're idiots. Best avoided.
Oh my god. Guys like this. Smh.... some kind of flaw in how he was parented, perhaps? Who knows, but I really hope he learned a lesson from this.
I don't think so... Guys like that one, always have that attitude and at the end of "conversation", it must be their : "You stupid b****". That means lesson not learned.
Load More Replies...Admittedly, I don't watch porn, but maybe that's how it works in that world? It could be there are other approaches other than ordering a pizza or needing a plumber?
Met a guy once outside a video rental. We struck some notes together and I gave him my number. Two days later, he called me to ask if I wanted to go with him that night to a party. I said no, that I had made plans previously. His immediate response was to call me a manipulative b***h. And THEN, he kept calling me to see when I would go out with him. Oy!
This has happened to me quite a bit in the opposite direction . I'm a male. If you are kind to a lady she thinks you are hitting on her. We live it a really messed up society.
I'm nice to everyone. I'm friendly, outgoing and kind. I'm also not interested in sex with 99% of the population. If I were interested, I probably wouldn't talk at all.
I'm glad it didn't turn out to be the case and I hope it never turns out to be the case but this could be interpreted as obsessive behaviour? You hear stories about someone assuming a smile or a glance thrown their way means the person doing it must be in love with them and that could have the potential to escalate to something seriously frightening but like I said, I hope that's not the case here.
That's the first time I have ever heard that term being used HAHA!
Load More Replies...Yes. Yes i know it very badly well. Be nice to guy and he thinks you are atracted to him. When you say you are not interested in, he doesn't accept it. He can even stalk you. He even could think he is too good for you and begins to be mean to you. yeah, I'm not nice to boys ever since this acknowledge. Shame, I'm quite polite person.
When did Netflix and chill mean sex when I ask someone to Netflix and chill that means someone is bringing pizza cause that's all we are doing
A LOT of guys are like this, so this isn't just some guy that hasn't had enough human interaction. I don't know where they're getting the idea that being nice to others isn't a normal thing to do. It seriously needs to stop and ABSOLUTELY NO ONE should simpathize with people who act like this
A symptom of a guy who googles how to know if a girl wants to f**k me.. 😂😂😂
I think we're going to see more and more stupid and clueless behavior like this in an age where people are constantly glued to their phones, social media (FB, Twitter, etc.) and forget the skill of face-to-face communication and real human interaction.
Oh God Almighty! A guy here. I am so so sorry ladies. I apologise on behalf of all the male of the species. Do forgive us.
I am disgusted right now a girl cannot be nice to a guy like this without thinking she wants him to f**ck her get a life
Arsehole. Seriously, men think WE are comfusing. Some (SOME) guys just take it too far with assuming that girls like them like that. Sadly, some guys still are in the "no means yes"' mindstate
What a total dumbass!! Now he will never get laid and that is a good thing
Brad is not alone. He has lots of company, men who think all women want to F them. So any woman who is friendly is definitely issuing an invitation to sex. Not all of them are losers otherwise. It's to do with their egos, not their IQs.
I thought this was going to be about a socially awkward kid who got his heart broken or something. I was one of those as a kid. That is not the case here. This appears to be a spoilt a*****e with some serious issues with his view of woman and respect of others. Who in their right mind thinks it is okay to call someone what he did just because they refuse a sexual relationship. This person's responses are not just that of a young mind. I could easily seem this type of behavior escalating as they get older and will probably result in some kind of domestic violence call in the future. I hope that doesn't happen, but obviously this guy is capable of playing nice to get what they want, and overreact when they do not.
Yup. I think this guy spends WAAAYYYY too much time alone in his basement. He hasn't been socialized properly or he'd know you don't get women in bed JUST because they're being kind. Pity parents don't teach their kids basic social skills anymore. That way those grown up kids would know the difference between kindness and begging for sex on a first meeting.
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Maybe they work together and share phone numbers in case of work problems. Maybe he got it from someone else. Maybe she gave it because she thought he was fun. Maybe he's a friend of a friend and seemed trustworthy. Maybe they have the same hobby and she thought it would be fun to share tips. Your guess is as good as mine.
Load More Replies...I think he sounded surprised that she was actually NICE to him. Do you think most girls treat him like the garbage he is?
I think she was being a good friend and I agree he could have thought something more than friendship but I highly doubt she was coming on that strongly that he felt to jump to N and C. I mean I reckon he could have perceived it as fliriting even though unintentional on her part but she wasn't from what I gather screaming f**k me signals at him
Gosh, I hate it so much when some men think that women being nice to them = flirting, and wanting to bonk their brains out!
I had someone yell at me once for this. Why? Because apparently, being there for a mate when he is in the Emergency Trauma Unit in Hospital, after he texted me to go there after he had a serious accident; buying a few gifts; going a few times to see them; and checking up on them daily; means I was flirting with them. Yes, I was into him, but no I was not flirting. I was just a concerned friend.
Load More Replies...The place where I come from... there are someone who would follow a women back home, took off all his cloth and sneak into her house just because she smiled at him, politely. Some people are just born dumb.
And it seams as if he hasn't learned one damn thing out of this. She will obviously not be nice to him anymore. Ans I bet she will warn every female in her circle about him. Although it would be better for HIM if the girls would band together and be extra nice to him so that he can learn that one can be nice without wanting sex. Because he seams to think that this girl lead him on purposefully just to dump him.
A pathetic excuse for a man. So deluded that he thinks if you are nice to him he can automatically assume you are cracking on to him. Interest to know how old this duche bag is? I had a girlfriend back in our 20's (now 44) and she cracked on to a guy who wasn't interested in her. She automatically started telling everyone he was gay because he rejected her advances. Idiot.
What a buttmunch. Has he ever met a girl before that?! I doubt so...
Poor guy, totally a loser without values, his parents really did a horrible work with him!! And you girl, keep being such a good human being!! We need a lot more like you in this world!!
WHY ,ohh why would any girl want to be nice to a D******D ?!? ( We already know it is an incurable mental illness affecting ahhh, maybe 75 -:to 85 % of all male ppl
Heads up scientific community!! A living, breathing neanderthal!!
I guess his version of being polite includes dumping her lunch over his head and telling him he should kill himself. Since she didn't do any of those things (WTG young lady for being nice for nice sake), that equals flat out sexual intercourse with no kindness, tenderness, nor humanity. Please tell me this is not what we fought for...
This is a classic sign of a personality disorder. Narc or bordeline or whatever but the dude would have list me with this painfully awkward way to initiate romantic acts "Netflix & chill" bulllshit. Only teens or the snap chat crowd speaks like this. Dumb!
*lost ( not sure why Android spellchecker constantly changes this to f*****g* list! There, yah happy? Now I've gone & used a forbidden "word!
Load More Replies...No, you should still be friendly. But not overly friendly.
Load More Replies...I rarely date anymore because this behavior is more normal than not. Last summer I was talking to a guy, we had kissed a couple of times but it was just harmless ( to me anyways ) I was going to have him over to meet my pets and I had to cancel last minute, he then asked me when we could have sex since I was flaking. He assumed me inviting him mid day to see my pets was a sex incite, not to mention I moved back home and live with my dad lol. I'm like, I was inviting you to see my animals..
ask any woman you know if this has ever happened to her and I bet every one will say 'YES.'
Load More Replies...He has absolutely no respect for women, he's rude, and he behaved like a complete a*s. She'd have to be a complete idiot to introduce him to a friend.
Load More Replies...It's the calling her an Fing B***h that takes this from the realm of a plausible misunderstanding to an entitled jerk who has no game.
Load More Replies...I have had almost this exact thing happen to me. Both when younger AND as an adult. Some one actually did it right in front of my HUSBAND.
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