Very often, when people open up about their problems or negative thoughts they have, the first instinct of the other person is to cheer them up, try to reassure them that everything will work out and that there are worse things that could happen. People who try to make the troubled person feel better don’t usually mean any harm, but they actually are forcing positivity on a person that can’t see the lighter side of the situation at that moment.

Dismissing negative emotions, trying to forcefully see something good in a terrible situation and trying to find false reassurances is called toxic positivity. It often becomes a way to respond to a distressful situation when you don’t know what else to say. But feeling the emotions that you’re having is important, regardless of whether they are positive or negative.

People in the subreddit AskWomen understand that and share some phrases they would consider to fall under the toxic positivity category and would like to stop hearing. What they would like to hear instead is compassion and well wishes.

More info: Reddit

#1

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “It all made you stronger”

It rubs me the wrong way because it invalidates all the bulls**t I had to claw through. I made me stronger. Trauma made me weak, tired, and a repulsive version of myself. If I allowed that to control my life’s outcomes I would be in a dark ass place.

I put in the work. I made me strong. All that destroyed me.

AevumFlux , franchise opportunities Report

Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

Upvote for "I made me strong". Brilliant.

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#2

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group My grandma telling me that I have to put up with nasty family members “because they’re FaaaMilYYYYYyyyy”.

Gtfo, they are bad people and I’m not going to let them poison my life because we’re related.

dream_bean_94 , Bev Sykes Report

TrixicBird(Any pronouns)
Community Member
2 months ago

For the longest time for me it was; "Stop being gay when grandma's over! it upsets her!" Like wow! Where is the off switch?

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#3

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "You don't need medication for depression or anxiety. You just need to go outside and smile more!"

DoubleDuke101 , Jonathan Rolande Report

Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

Piss off.

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#4

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group When my husband passed away unexpectedly at age 50 (together 32 years) more than one person said to me " my divorce was like a death too". Nope, not even close.

mich2va96 , Gisela Giardino Report

Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

How anyone can compare divorce to death is beyond me. I looked this up on reddit and it was a few years ago, she is happily remarried.

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#5

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group When my dad passed away, a lot of people told me 'he's in a better place.'

I know it's super common to say, but we're not religious in the slightest and we wanted him here, for f**k's sake.

Sensitiverock85 , Jerzy Kociatkiewicz Report

LeilaOdinis
Community Member
2 months ago

I always found that insulting after my father died. I get people don't know what to say when one dies, but this was the biggest slap in the face for me.

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#6

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "You'll change your mind" and every sentences I can hear when I tell people I don't want kids. That toxic mentality of women have to be mothers. I've realized at 12yo that I never want kids. 13 later, I still haven't changed my mind. My husband also doesn't want kids so at least we're on the same page.

alienonymous2 , Sunny Ripert Report

Ranax
Community Member
2 months ago

Just reply: " you'll soon regret yours"... Oh you think that that's inappropriate?

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#7

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Everything happens for a reason or God never gives you more than you can handle.

Beginning-Barnacle-5 , Gareth Williams Report

Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
2 months ago

If God supposedly never gives you more than you can handle, then please explain all the suicides, addicts, people with depression and other mental health issues etc.

Zophra
Community Member
2 months ago

Well according to what I was taught in church, they didn;t have enough faith in god. (heavy eye roll)

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Otter
Community Member
2 months ago

BULLSHIT!!!!!@!!

Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

upvote upvote upvooooooote

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Miriam L
Community Member
2 months ago

This is a phase that should rarely be said to another person, and I say that as a person of faith. Sometimes the reasons are painful. Sometimes you will be pushed too hard. When you're in that much pain, you need to know that the people around you are there to support you and accept whatever feelings you're feeling. Unless you ask for counsel or speak to a religious mentor, this should not come up. Unsolicited, it can cause more interpersonal damage, emotional pain and spiritual disconnection than not giving that advice. If/when you're ready to look at the situation from that perspective, it can be a valuable tool. Until then, it's unhelpful. That's leaving aside the theology and philosophy behind the statement for now. I'm not here to debate the truth of it, just to share my agreement.

KiwiBubbles
Community Member
2 months ago

This. Thank you for phrasing this so well.

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Sarah Watson
Community Member
2 months ago

Oh so it was bc God wanted me to become an alcoholic, ruin my life and end up homeless. I'm so relieved that none of that was due to my terrible decision making!

Susan Atkinson
Community Member
2 months ago

If I heard either one of these "comfort" phrases one more time after the death of my son I was going to hurt someone. Worst things to say.

Dee Lee
Community Member
2 months ago

{{{virtual hug from a stranger}}}

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J Robertson
Community Member
2 months ago

There is no god. Stop it. Stop thanking your god for the s**t you did, you did that! Own it! Good or bad. That's all on you.

Salma Hernández
Community Member
2 months ago

i grown in a christian family and constantly heard this. And now I hate this. Are you telling me if I am abducted, raped, that person kill me and made my family suffer is because is part of God plans and he permitted this because as a family we can handle this?

ZAPanda
Community Member
2 months ago

Yeah, tell that to 6 million jews, 11 million congolese.

AutisticPat
Community Member
2 months ago

I “handled” a lot of my problems by concluding that God isn’t real.

Beeps
Community Member
2 months ago

Along with “God never closes a door without opening another…” 😣

Michael Payne
Community Member
2 months ago

That is non sense God regularly gives you more than you can handle. Check the source

David carro
Community Member
1 month ago

Who gives you what???

Joanna Werman
Community Member
2 months ago

Ugh. Nope. Nearly killed me.

Thomas Sweda
Community Member
2 months ago

So, he’s a micro-manager?

DEAN THORNE
Community Member
2 months ago

Heard this a lot when my special needs son was born. Didn't help and it was more than my marriage could handle.

Gini Sarver
Community Member
2 months ago

first off what irritates me most about this statement is that is NOT anywhere in the bible, so if he ever said such a thing it wasn’t documented I sincerely believe in god, and i believe “some” aspects of our lives may be planned out for us, but not all of it

JonaLou2U
Community Member
2 months ago

Bullshit. Straight up.

Lovin' Life
Community Member
2 months ago

In that case, I must be Superwoman

CLG
Community Member
2 months ago

Just here to say this is a strange photo choice.

DannyGirl
Community Member
2 months ago

Actually the Christian belief is the exact opposite of this. No true Christian with biblical knowledge believes this s**t as they know full well God often allows way more than they can handle and the point is to rely and trust on God to get you through. People are misquoting and misinterpreting a passage about how God will never allow you to be tempted without a way out . The Bible has multitudes of stories of people who had way more than they could handle

Flabuless-Jaye
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

"You're strong, you can beat it.". I'm 44 with terminal cancer (and mental health issues as a result). I've already lost, and I'm just living on borrowed time. And don't bother praying for me, instead think about how my two kids are going to live without their mother. Just do one.

Rick Hoppenbrouwer
Community Member
2 months ago

Never bet on an imaginary friend. You will lose every time.

Nizumi
Community Member
2 months ago

Fighting with that one right now - a family member is dying of a brain tumour and it has taken an incredibly strong person and reduced them to borderline vegetable. "It's God's will..." Really?!??!? This person did something to deserve that?

buttonpusher
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

I hear "everything happens for a reason" a lot and also "everything will fall into place". I try to take some sort of comfort from it though, especially when I feel completely lost. But usually I just use it as an excuse to do SFA for a while and give myself a break.

David Smith
Community Member
2 months ago

People choose.

Micah
Community Member
2 months ago

Everything does happen for a reason, just not in the way they mean.

Biba Little
Community Member
2 months ago

If that were true then children would never get cancer.

Mark Kelly
Community Member
2 months ago

Yeah, there is a reason, not always the ones you can control.

Lynne Harbison
Community Member
2 months ago

If everything happens for a reason...when a child suffers from cancer for 10 years from one year old....multiple procedures, surgeries, chemo, then dies...what is the reason???

Katherine Heasley
Community Member
2 months ago

That's a verse that's taken wildly out of its original context and meaning.

Sue Grigg
Community Member
2 months ago

Why is God handing out misery in the first place?

Earl Grey
Community Member
2 months ago

“Everything happens for a reason” is axiomatic. There is no such thing as an uncaused event. This causes that, which led to another event, on and on. A universe of interaction. As for the God part, consult a professional theologian.

2763MilesAway
Community Member
2 months ago

I hate "Everything happens for a reason" because there is awful things that happen for no reason

Agnes Jekyll
Community Member
2 months ago

I hate this. It also implies that you've done something wrong or that you're weak if you can't handle it.

Valley Girl
Community Member
2 months ago

Yes, that baby could handle being raped and beaten! It was God's will. Dumbass.

WatermelonTheDutchie
Community Member
2 months ago

i personally dont think God's a micromanager- yeah i think He has a /general/ plan that we cant comprehend, but i highly doubt He spends His time tossing very specific events and situations at us yknow?

Nadine Bamberger
Community Member
2 months ago

Often goes hand in hand with the beloved " only makes you stronger" crap.

Cecily Holland
Community Member
2 months ago

Get lost Bible Thumpers

Linda Riebel
Community Member
2 months ago

That's such a pathetic excuse for people not to offer real comfort and help.

My O My
Community Member
2 months ago

God sure is overconfident with what I can handle

Kim Contreras
Community Member
2 months ago

Never days or promises you that in the Bible. It says He will be with you at all times.

Amanda Reicha
Community Member
2 months ago

I'm sorry, I don't believe in god.

Janice Blaufox
Community Member
2 months ago

I could never believe that there is someone in the sky deciding who gets a great life and who gets a living hell.

A Jones
Community Member
2 months ago

That's a terrible way to justify things. :(

KatHat
Community Member
2 months ago

People desperate to assert some control when in fact, MANY things are out of our control. Platitudes come from a place of denial and desperation.

Debi Gallagher
Community Member
2 months ago

This is an outright nasty lie that "Christians" have taken from a verse in the Bible that has a totally different meaning and I really hate that "they" have shrunken down a full verse that has to do with temptation, to a few words that are a lie and help NO ONE!!

Mich
Community Member
2 months ago

God. FFS.

Dee Lee
Community Member
2 months ago

Same with "karma' - as if people who are suffering deserve it somehow....

MyOpinionHasBeenServed
Community Member
2 months ago

I've just learned that no one really cares about your problems and leaning on someone will set you up for toxic positivity and shut downs. So, I bottle it up and express it elsewhere. Sometimes in healthy ways and sometimes unhealthy ways.

Miriam L
Community Member
2 months ago

I'm sorry you're in a situation where no one around you cares. I won't say "I'm sure someone does" because it's your life, and you know the people around you better than anyone else. But I will say that it's not always like it, and I hope for you that you are able to find those supportive relationships soon, find a healthier person or group of people who will listen.

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#8

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Just don't think about it.

Thanks mom, sure my constant headaches will go away when I just don't think about it! A 12 year old shouldn't have headaches non-stop in the first place but whatever.

Red_tiny_Panda , Gareth Williams Report

NotTodaySatan!!
Community Member
2 months ago

I have had migraines my entire life. Once a doctor told me they were simply, "all in my head". Yes, yes they were. And that day it was right in my left temple. Some doctors are complete idiots with no empathy.

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#9

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Pretty much everything about using the power of prayer and positive thinking to attract good things to your life and protect you from negative experiences and outcomes. It's all victim-blaming bulls**t. Telling someone that they should simply put more effort into their positive thoughts/prayers and that they are attracting the negative things that are occurring in their lives is incredibly inappropriate and sh**ty.

nevertruly , Chris Hunkeler Report

Jean Shultz
Community Member
2 months ago

Or how about the "laws of attraction"? If you think it, the universe will synchronize and give you what you want. Wtf....the universe doesn't give a crap. It's not a biological entity that has emotion and knows exactly what you want. More effort into thoughts and prayers......god doesn't even exist.

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#10

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group 'you have it much better than other people'

Okay, I know that's true. But I hate it when people invalidate my experience without being in my shoes.

thattallgirlinblack , vanguardist Report

Evy
Community Member
2 months ago

I often invalidate my own experiences or pain by saying this. I think it's the guilt that I've been brought up with.

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#11

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group ‘You think that’s bad? Wait til you hear what happened to me - it’s worse!’

photosquirrel , Susanne Nilsson Report

Michael Payne
Community Member
2 months ago

Yours maybe worse but this is the worst I have delt with. I hate it when people say that it is not a competition.

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#12

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group I lost my first pregnancy earlier this year. It sucked massively and I fell into a depression. A close family member just kept trying to make me 'see the positive side of it'. It's been a while now but to this day, I see no frigging positive side of having lost my child. That, to me, was toxic positivity at its best.

EnvironmentalDonut68 , Ernest James Report

Susan Atkinson
Community Member
2 months ago

I'm so sorry you've had to endure this toxic comment. I've been waiting 15 years for a reason my healthy 26yo died.

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#13

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “At least he doesn’t hit you!” like wow I’m supposed to put up with allllllll the BS because he’s doing something he should?

postmclone , Ricardo Liberato Report

NotTodaySatan!!
Community Member
2 months ago

My stepdad was an abusive alcoholic when I was little (in high school he was diagnosed with a chemical imbalance and it was treated, making him the most amazing dad ever). When I expressed the desire to divorce my first husband whom had been cheating on me for over a year with the same woman, and with other women in years prior, my mom asked, "are you sure that is bad enough for you to end your marriage??". Which made me stay for 5 more years. I guess in perspective, no, it wasn't as bad as what we had been through with my stepfather, but... really???

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#14

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Different variations of "You can't have kids? Take mine for a day and you'll be happy you don't have one of your own! Kids suck lol" Yeah, you being a s***ty parent certainly makes me feel better about being infertile.

Kitteh_Kate , lecates Report

Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

If you want children and can't have them then that's really sad and saying stupid stuff like that is cruel.

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#15

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group In group therapy someone said that they're proud, they never got depressed, no matter what life threw at them. Because they're such a positive and strong person. With a person with depression sitting right next to them.

I am glad I don't have a tendency towards depression either. But I'm not proud of it, because it's a sickness you're prone to, or you aren't. It's not a weakness. And the fact that we're all sitting together in group therapy shows that we all have one or another unhealthy coping mechanism in place and so far, we weren't able to positive-think our way out of them.

Zeiserl , JourneyPure Rehab Report

Otter
Community Member
2 months ago

Why was that person in group therapy???

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#16

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “Pain is all in your head”

Do f**k off with that.

GlumMathematician884 , Andy Report

Ranax
Community Member
2 months ago

Her headache is in her head, no arguing with that

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#17

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group There's someone for everyone. You just need to believe and you will find love. No, there isn't and no, love isn't guaranteed.

arcticshqip , Kevin Simpson Report

King Joffrey
Community Member
2 months ago

Perhaps there isn't someone for everyone but a lot of people have ridiculously high expectations. I have a permanently single friend who is not very handsome and will only date model-looking women (without much success). Gets offended when someone points it out to him and I know a lovely girl who fancies him but "he likes her but she's not his type looks-wise"...

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#18

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Someone told me I was “polluting” their space with “my sadness”. I asked them wtf they meant (because I wasn’t acting sad or even saying anything) and they said they could “feel” a “deep sadness” in me and that my presence itself was harmful. Like holy s**t talk about thought police

Odeiminmukwa , Gareth Williams Report

Jihana
Community Member
2 months ago

Once on a bus after visiting my terminally ill mother in the hospital a woman turned the baby stroller around so that the baby faced away from me and said to her friend "I don't want anyone to look at my child like this". Bitch, I just visited my dying mother, I am NOT sorry that my sadness offended you.

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#19

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “You’re really pretty for a chubby girl” Thaaaaaanx.

[deleted] , Susanne Nilsson Report

Terilee Bruyere
Community Member
2 months ago

"You're really stupid for a smart looking person"

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#20

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “I just strive to be an honest person. I’m sorry if it hurt you”.

Some s**t should just not be said ok?

Cute_Mousse_7980 , Ben Stephenson Report

Debbie
Community Member
2 months ago

Also on the internet. An opinion is ok, but you don't have to go out of your way to shout it out and hurt people by doing so. You can also have an opinion and not let the entire world know.

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#21

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Why can’t you just be happy?

MmVvHh , Melinda Report

Rebekah Tracy
Community Member
2 months ago

Why can’t you just acquire manners and a little decency?

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#22

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Family is meant to hurt and forgive.

I call bs.

justsidle , Tamas Ring Report

Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

That's a toxic family, especially the word "meant".

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#23

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “Happiness is a choice.” Shudder.

CampVictorian , Marina Report

Otter
Community Member
2 months ago

No. *acting* happy is a choice.

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#24

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group “Life will be easier if you just accept that you’ll be doing most of the house work”…. Ex-boyfriends mom in response to a conversation about how ex-boyfriend did not help with chores.

BabyGotCats , Daniel M. Hendricks Report

NsG
Community Member
2 months ago

Tell me you're a sh1tty parent without saying you're a sh1tty parent.

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#25

Something along the lines of “you have as many hours in the day as Beyoncé.” I just can’t even begin with how much I hate everything about that.

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YoyoSthlm
Community Member
2 months ago

You have the same amount of hours as Hitler and look what he achieved!

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#26

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "Having expectations on relationships only lead to disappoiment" So am I supposed to put up with whatever the f**k they want to treat me? Wtf.

Waste-Win , Britney M Report

Kanuli
Community Member
2 months ago

They meant well somewhat. Expectations can be bad, but that is meant totally different. Hard to explain for me in english, maybe someone could find better words? It’s like having the expectation to be loved coz you did something for someone. It’s the expectation you put on others to make you happy. That’s not how this works. You can only control yourself, your actions, your feelings (somewhat) But you can keep your expectations in check. Don’t confuse this with boundaries or rules, anticipation, or apathy. Sure you can expect your partner to be loyal, honest and so on, doesn‘t mean you can control them though. But you can control how much you trust them, and how far you wanna challenge this expectation or trust. Alot in life is about how WE handle it and less the actions put in front of us. We often confuse this actio/reactio as causality, neglect the control we ourselves have and put our life(happiness) in other people’s hands. That you might wanna prevent.

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#27

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "If I can do it, you can do it."

numbersrejectedbypi , bloomsberries Report

Pezor Zass
Community Member
2 months ago

i never understood this one. if you can do it, then i can do it, because i am inherently better than you and so anything you can do is clearly within my superior grasp? is that what you're saying? or are you saying that everyone has exactly the same abilities?

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#28

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group 'You're not like the other girls'

plateauh*e , Funk Dooby Report

Frankenfrog
Community Member
2 months ago

"True. I'm a homicidal maniac."

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#29

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "You either trust me or you don't. Trust doesn't get built" - said my disgusting ex earlier in our relationship

pierrots , klndonnelly Report

King Joffrey
Community Member
2 months ago

Trust takes ages to build, actually, and seconds to get destroyed.

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#30

A YouTube video opened my eyes on how body positivity can be toxic. I've realized I'm just body-neutral. I don't think my body is beautiful and I don't have to! I'm more than my body and I'm at peace with it even if I wish some things were different. They don't affect my self-esteem.

Beth-BR Report

Otter
Community Member
2 months ago

I'm okay with the body positivity thing. If it helps people let go of self-hatred, it's worth some annoyance.

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#31

"well, everyone has a little bit of depression here and there." ok and that's supposed to make me feel better or something?

Blue_ish Report

Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
2 months ago

Having depression and being a bit depressed as in temporarily down/upset, is not the same

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#32

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "You are only hurting yourself when you are crying look I'm unaffected."

miyavmisa , Aubrey Arcangel Report

Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

I wish I could give this young woman a hug.

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#33

"Don't waste your time worrying about it." Sorry but I can't help it

lnthefall Report

Caro Caro
Community Member
2 months ago

It's true but still shitty advice.

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#34

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Fake it till you make it. Ugh. The f**king worst.

PrincessConsuela02 , Shannon Report

September Meadows
Community Member
2 months ago

One of the most dumb ideas I've ever heard. I got group jumped by fellow managers when I told the lead manager I didn't know how to accomplish a certain task. They all gasped and looked at me like I'd took a dump on the breakfast table. One of the managers leans over and says you're not supposed to say that you don't know, you fake it till you make it. I went off on her and the rest of them. I was in the Marine Corps. That idea would get you killed or your team killed! It is best that you know each others strengths and weaknesses so that you can plan accordingly. If someone doesn't know how to do something that they should or need to in the circumstances then you provide the tools and education to raise them up, thus elevating the whole group. You don't leave them floundering in the dark, fearful of f'ing up because they're left to their own devices.

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#35

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "Its not your situation. Its about how you react to it." - my bff

And how am I suppose to react to office sexual harassment of a senior management without the risk of losing my job and not be able to pay my rent, dare I may say???? There's also the risk of ruining connections and forever barring me from the industry completely.

I was venting to my friend. All I needed was to vent and cry. I know the consequences involved with even a tiny move against this person who has such great influence my chosen feild. No, I cant just "react" my heart out, dear.

lavenderpug , Aaron Stidwell Report

Kanuli
Community Member
2 months ago

Ehm. No. There is stuff you can do. Seek help, collect evidence. Fight back. You often have choices, either you aren’t aware of them, or afraid, or afraid of consequences. There she should have helped you. I learned being silent is most often the wrong choice.

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#36

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group The HR person at my old job told me to "lean in more" when I requested a meeting about sexism in the office.

ResearchLogical2036 , Alan Cleaver Report

September Meadows
Community Member
2 months ago

HR isn't there for the employees, they are there for the employer and for their own job security.

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#37

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group Not sure if this fits, but "Just keep eating. Don't worry about how much. Eat until you're happy" Eat until I'm happy? I prefer to separate food from emotion, thank you. I've seen people approach the brink of passing aaway by tying food and emotion. No thank you. Not for me.

smashmyburger , Eric.Ray Report

K. Lange
Community Member
2 months ago

following that advice is the path to a eating disorder.

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#38

40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group "the act of smiling makes you feel better, so even if you're feeling really bad you can start smiling and eventually your feelings will catch up" No thank you

greenandleafy , Katy Warner Report

Nikki Sevven
Community Member
2 months ago

There's actually science behind this one. Studies conclusively proved that even a fake smile causes your brain to produce dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. I've used this to help me when I'm depressed, by seeking out things that will make me smile and laugh. And it does help me manage my depression.

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#39

When I vent I don't enjoy a certain aspect of my jobs to a friend/colleague: "but it won't be any different in a different field"

Well thank you that is very relevant

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Lord Mysticlaw
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2 months ago

I've learned that a LOT of people don't understand the difference between when someone needs a shoulder to cry on or an ear to vent to, and when they actually want advice or help. If you're not sure, ask. It's not helpful if you give shitty advice to someone who just needed to vent or maybe needed a "don't worry, you'll be OK" or whatever.

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40 Examples Of Toxic Positivity, As Called Out By Women In This Online Group It’s not you it’s me

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Libstak
Community Member
2 months ago

Actually that's true. If they have issues being with you or whatever, that really is theirs to deal with.

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