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30 Times The Internet Shamed Evil Stepparents That Make Cinderella’s Stepmom Look Like An Angel
Sometimes, life is like a fairytale—magical, full of wonder, possibly with animals singing and dancing as you go about your day. And sometimes… life can be like a fairytale… at least like the original tales collected by the Brothers Grimm—dark, dreary, depressing, dangerous, and full of people who want to make your life a living hell.
In those stories, stepparents often played a very important part. And more often than not it was a wicked stepmother or stepfather who would be out to make the kids miserable. We’ve collected some of the worst examples of real-life stepparenting ever, from the r/insaneparents subreddit. Scroll down to see how to never ever treat kids, whether they’re biologically yours, adopted, or from the partner’s previous relationship.
Keep in mind that this in no way whatsoever means that all stepparents are somehow ‘evil.’ There are tons of amazing stepparents out there who love their stepkids very much. However, like in all areas of life, some people are simply rotten to the core, like a poison apple beneath its shiny red skin.
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Had Half Day At School, Decided To Go Out With Friends. Asked Dad For Permission To Go Out He Said Yes But Didn’t Tell Stepmom, She Texted Me Pissed And Demanding I Come Home Now Even Though I Had Permission To Go
I Need Some Help Calming Down Right Now, Please. My Dad Is Dying And My F**king Evil Stepmom Didn't Tell Me That He's Been In The Hospital For Two Weeks. Then She Blamed Me Not Telling Her Because I "Don't Call Her Regularly". I Don't Call Her Regularly Because She Emotionally Abused Me For 9 Years
So My Step Dad Gave My PC That I Paid For To Goodwill. Because He Said I Waste My Time On It And I Should Be An Auto Mechanic Instead Of Going To College For Computer Science. I Spent Like $800 On That PC
The reason why stepmothers feature so prominently in the fairytales collected, compiled, and edited by the Brothers Grimm is that women died during childhood much more often than now. Meanwhile, medicine was also less advanced and a serious injury or illness could lead to the loss of life.
Bored Panda previously spoke to a number of people about stepparents treating their stepkids poorly. In short, everyone agrees that nobody should have to deal with open hostility, toxicity, and a lack of love in a family setting.
One story that we covered involved a stepmother who wanted her stepchild photoshopped out of the pictures in a family photo shoot, so she reached out to a Facebook group asking for their help. Naturally, people were horrified by such a request.
My Friend Just Sent Me This. Her Stepmom Took Her Stepsister To Get Food Without Her, And Then When She Went To Go Get Food By Herself She Grounded Her
My Brother Bought Girl Scout Cookies And This Was My Step Mom’s Response
On Facebook. You Can’t Have It Both Ways
“Seeing the boy she wanted photoshopped out sitting by himself next to his step-siblings on the blanket just sort of broke me. But my reaction has changed after seeing it absolutely blow up. What really gets to me now is seeing people tell stories about being step-children who felt unloved (or at least not as loved as their step-siblings) growing up. That’s been my biggest takeaway from it,” one redditor, Foilfun, told us.
Zero Awareness For How Cruel She Must Look
So cruel to do such a thing. When you marry someone with kids, it's a package deal. Take them all or take nothing.
Was At My Dad's For New Years Dog Got Spooked By Fireworks This Is How My Step Mum Dealt With It
Not Sure If This Qualifies, But About A Year Ago My Stepmother Used My Younger Sisters Phone To Ask Me For Money. No, I Did Not End Up Giving Money To My Stepmom For “Field Day”
“I can’t help but feel like it’s a fundamental misunderstanding of what family means. She probably didn’t mean anything malicious by the request, but the fact that she made it—or wanted it in the first place—makes me sad,” the redditor mused
I'm In A Stepmoms Group On Fb And I'm Convinced That 90% Of These Women Hate Their Stepchildren. "Stay In Your Room, Do Not Approach Me"
I Make Memes About My Step Dad To Vent
And if you keep that up I'm gonna make sure you're beaten again as an adult
My Stepdads Solution To Make Sure No One Takes A Bath, Only Showers
“The mother made the choice to step into this family; that means she made a choice to step into all of the family. Stepson most definitely included. He’s just a little boy. He doesn’t know what is going on and he didn’t have a say in the matter. She most certainly does. She was given the chance to raise him as her own (or some complicated version of “her own”) and her response was to photoshop him out.”
Step-Dad (65) Rage Texting After I (42) Try And Set Some Boundaries
All that for just saying "Please stop sending this stuff". I feel for OP. That is some pretty heavy belittling from a dad when you're an adult.
A Few Months Ago My Bike Tire Went Flat After A Late Practice And My Stepdad Would Not Pick Me Up. It Was 9 At Night And I Live In A Town Full Of Drug Addicts And Theres A Sex Ring Not Far From Home. When I Got Home He Scolded Me For Being Scared Saying He Wouldn't Be. He's 50 And 400lbs. I'm 15
My Step Mom Is Narcissistic, I'm Sure You See Her Intentions If You're Familiar With Narcissists
Dad doesn't need to take them anywhere if he has covid. Don't spread it!
According to the redditor, a person doesn’t have to be related by blood to be treated like family.
“They certainly don’t have to be blood to be family. I think that if you’ve made the choice to be a parent—step or otherwise—the responsibility is the same. These kids are the future. They’ll take both the best and the worst of you with them. If I were a father, I can’t help but feel like this would constantly be on my mind. Want to be a better parent of any kind? Don’t treat your kids like ‘kids.’ Treat them like the future. They didn’t ask to be here, but you get the chance to help them realize they can be everything,” they said.
I Got A Tattoo And Sent My Dad A Picture... This Is From My Step Mom 3 Days Later
My Stepmother's Mother Came Out As A Lesbian. The Chat Is Between Me And My Stepmother
"She's in her menopause" like that has any effect on whether you're homosexual. The ignorance on display through all of this is tragic.
My Parents Took In Their Neighbor’s 18 Y/O Kid (Still In 11th Grade) Who Was Getting Kicked Out Because His Step-Dad Didn’t Want Another Male Adult In The House. This Is The Contract His Parents Made Him Sign. The ‘Witness’ Is His Sister Who’s Still A Minor
Yeah, the mother is not much better. But of course, they obey religious rules, wohooo. F*cking philistines!
I'm not even a lawyer and I see holes all over this. Witness is a minor, you say 30 day notice to move out of bedroom, but then give a 3 day limit to get it done. Does that 3 days start at the time of notice? if so you didn't give me 30 days. You are allowing me to live here but restricting bathroom access. Now restricting my in home activities effective immediately? Where was my notice on that. And do you plan on escorting me from the property if I don't comply? Are you properly trained and deputized to do so? I doubt it. Was this notice to evict filed with the appropriate courts. If not then it isn't worth the paper it's printed on. I'm sorry for the young person who didn't know any better, but hopefully someone told him to never sign something like that again
It's not a valid contract. Lawyers see this crap all the time. Everyone thinks they know how to be a lawyer.
Load More Replies... My Dad was having an affair with his high school student who was also my babysitter. One night she was coming over to babysit and he thought my room was too messy for her to see, so he shut me out, banned me from going inside, and made me sleep outside my bedroom door in a narrow hallway between two bookshelves with blanket and pillow only so that she wouldn't see the messy room. Keep in mind I was a kid, so when we say messy, we're talking just toys strewn about all over the place - not teenage girl mess. I didn't understand it back then, but once my mom found the love letters the student had written to him, and she told me they were getting a divorce while sobbing, it all made sudden sense. She became my stepmother and was constantly jealous of me due to her young age and needing him more as a father-figure than as a significant other. They later divorced.
Honestly... it's sad that there are people like this out there. But kudos to your parents!
Cruel on both the bio and step parents part. Why is this legal, that's assuming if it is? (That's rhetorical but now I'm getting curious.)
Gosh don't even mention there Shabbos you ass...even if the kid will be hard to deal with as some teenagers are throwing them out isn't the answer at all, love, compassion and understanding are cornerstones of Judaism...this d**k obviously didn't get the memo.
We don’t have context for this . Sorry but the parents mention that this person is violent . Why shouldn’t an 18yo whom is violent be asked to move out . A violent child is the same as a violent partner it’s still abuse
There's no mention that the young man was violent in document, nor did I see any backtracking to the OP. The 'contract' forbids violence, but that could easily be projection or intended as proactive on the stepfather's part.
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how did he sign the paper? I wouldn't sign something like that, so I doubt that the kid did either. I smell an illegal forgery.
I hope he's keeping a close eye on his sister. Some AH who wants to be the only male adult in the house has a lot of problems.
What S****y Parents,They'll Probably do The Same Thing to His Sister,Thank Goodness For Those Neighbors,Those 2 Shouldn't Have Been Parents in The 1st Place
Can't he report them? I mean, is the contract even valid if the witness is a minor? In Spain he would be able to report them and win
If it is school in the US, the years are K-12. You start at age 5 if you are born before the cut off date which is usually September, when the new school year starts in the US. You finish late May or early June and have the summer off.
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3 sides to every story. Wonder what he did to get himself in this jam. Poor kid.
“I don’t want to see anybody hurt, but I also don’t want to see a world where kids continue to be pawns in their parents’ games and spats. Calling this mentality out whenever we get the chance is an important step if we’re going to see healthier generations going forward—ones that are better than we are.”
Step Mother Was Stalking My Daughter For A Year Before We Knew She Existed. She Made 7 Fake Profiles To Gather Information, And Asked A Friend To Help Kidnap My Daughter. The Friend Sent Me This
Report them to the police for attempted kidnapping and child trafficking and file for a permanent restraining order.
Well That’s A Lovely Thing To Hear About My Controlling Step-Father. Can’t Do S**te Now
Step Mom Can Be Crazy
Meanwhile, another redditor, user Smokegenovese, said that “no one should be in a family that treats them like utter [crap] and doesn’t love them even as a stepchild.” They also believe that stepparents who step over the line “deserve to be on the news.”
Stepmom Puts Step Kids Out On Porch While Bio Kids Stay Inside. To Go Out. She Said The Kids Bio Mom Is A Heroin Addict Who Abandoned Them. Yay For More Abandonment Issues
I call bull s**t. No qualified therapist in their right mind would recommend such a thing.
My Victim Complex Step-Father. Ps, His Actions Show No Attempt To Want To Get Along With Me
I was with my girlfriend and thus not checking my phone, the first two messages were within ten minutes of one another, the third was thirty minutes after the first. The whole problem was that I parked my car in the upper driveway as opposed to the lower driveway, and he wanted to park his truck there. The pancakes comment is in reference to a previous time he has said something like this, because I made a joke about not giving him some pancakes when I was cooking them.
Conversation With Stepmom About Me Packing Lunches, Devolved Pretty Quickly. For Context, I Go To College, And Mostly Pack My Lunches When I Go To On-Campus Classes
Wow! I cannot image putting my name on things in the refrigerator. I thought, in a home setting, that what was there was for everyone.
Bored Panda had also gotten in touch with the child’s biological mother who was horrified about how her son was being treated. She told us that her very first reaction upon learning that the stepmother wanted to edit out her son from the pictures was anger.
My Step Mom (Tita) Everybody!!
Stepmom Who Complained About The Vaccine Not Having Fda Approval Is Now Complaining About It Having Fda Approval
Would you rather have less, smaller, already-nibbled, more expensive food that contains bugs instead of food with traces of pesticides? Eating organic is a trade-off.
Stepmom Is Jealous Of Her Stepdaughter’s Relationship With Her Dad
“She [the stepmother] didn’t try to apologize until after I had called my son’s grandma asking if she knew. The internet’s reactions to me is honestly amazing. I would expect anyone to stick up for a 3-year-old. Honestly, I’m not sure what I plan to do next,” the boy’s biological mother revealed to Bored Panda.
My Father After Being Rude To Me When I Came Out As Trans And Kicking My Brother Out Cause Our Stepmom Didnt Like His GF
Isn't it amazing how abusing parents always pretend that they are the victim when their children break all contact with them?
My Parents New Idea To “Fix” My Life I’m 20 Btw, Work Part Time And Pay Rent, My Step Dad Has Set Internet Timers
Do yourself a favor- find a couple friends/ work associates and pool your money to get a place of your own. If you're already paying rent at least you're used to that portion of it already. That's some otherworldly hover parenting.
From My Stepmom. Also Love How Real Is In Quotation Marks
I actually believe all of this except real should not be in quotes and I still double mask (cloth under n95) and am triple vaxxed. I think my reasoning is the opposite of hers, though.
Note: this post originally had 60 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes.
“Emotionally, it started out very badly. I was [angry] to an extreme, but now I’m really happy about this situation, because of all the support me and my son are getting through this situation. My family and friends are very supportive to me and my children through any situation,” she said.
“Honestly, my advice would be, get to know the children before you get married. Build a relationship with them. And if you’re not willing to do that—Do Not Marry Their Parent.”
I actually stopped after just a few. The one with the stepmum wanting to edit out her stepson.... She had 2 kids close by and the stepson was at a distance. ... He must have felt unwanted and unloved. It's sickening.
Same here, these make me so mad. Im so fortunate my parents aren’t divorced.
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As a step mum myself this left my heart bleeding and my blood boiling. What the f**k is wrong with people?
Thank you. I know step parents like you are out there. Unfortunately you are rare. I was not fortunate to have one who thinks like you do. It means a lot to read that this hurts and angers you. You have no idea how precious a good step parent is to this of us who suffered otherwise. I thank you from. The bottom of my heart.
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So after about five, I said, that's it, I don't need flashbacks to how I was treated as a kid ----- by actual blood-related not-step family.
I'm sorry Leo. Hugs for you (and not a little piddly one but a big warm bear HUG).
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Can't go on reading. My mom got remarried after divorce when we were little and boy did our stepfather know she would dump him in a heartbeat if he wasn't good to us. I am in a new relationship too with a (now adult) boy from my ex and yes, my partner knows that I would ditch him the second he started making a tiny difference between my son and our daughter.
i will never understand how a parent of any kind could even threaten to kick their child out. wtf is wrong with these people?!
Everything isn't black and white. There are circumstances where the best option is kicking a child out like abusive behaviour or just completely ignoring rules set in place. A parents job is to prepare their child for the real world, not let their children live off of them and squeeze them dry financially and emotionally. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of bad parents who use this as a leverage but that's not every case.
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It's not just step parents that do these things. I can personally relate to a number of these horror stories. I left out on my own at 16 and have rarely looked back. Best darn decision of my life.
Mistralok, I'm sorry to hear that but glad you left a rotten situation. Hugs for you.
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I feel like this perpetuates the idea that stepparents are all terrible. Honestly a person's biological parents can be just a horrible.
Reading these angered me so much. I never understood why a parent would choose someone over their child. I LIVE for my children. Even though they are now both teenagers they are the ONLY reason I am still on this earth. First person I dated post divorce I told them my kids come first always. Once I started to see tension between them I sat them all down. When it got bad again I kicked SO to the curb. No one comes before my kids.
My own mother said and did worse to me than any of these. Everything from emotional and physical abuse, lack of privacy, sending me to live in a children's home and trying to date a boyfriend of mine. I spent years trying to repair a relationship with her before I realized it wasn't me who needed to repair it. The toxicity of her, her manipulation of everyone around her, it's best I ceased any contact with her. I'm still learning that it's her loss and not mine and I still grieve over our lost relationship but I can 100% say I'm MUCH happier without her in my life.
My stepfather was fine until I hit puberty, then he became a bully and a sex pest. He never actually molested me but he'd walk into my bedroom while I was dressing, or into the bathroom while I was showering. He became very angry when he realised I was taller than him; my mother claims to have no knowledge of any of this, which I took to mean she was complicit. I left home at 17, if I'd had younger sisters instead of brothers, maybe I would have said something. As it is, I never recognised red flag behaviour and that has had a major impact on my life . When he died in 2018, all I felt was relief. My bio father is a stranger to me, he threw my away a long time ago.
A theme here is texting/messaging. Always a bad idea when something important needs to be conveyed. There is no tone. Plus these are toxic of course
as a step mom... I understand the frustration of not being their true parent and such... But when you marry someone with kids, you marry the kids too. It's your choice and if you don't like the kids then don't marry the parent. When I started dating my husband, my stepson was about 4ish. We got married when he was 10. Up til that point, I had only met him a few times because his mom is insane. Between age 10 and 18, he only spent the night with us once (she was 90 min away, but still) and we basically just saw him when she was "able" to bring him around (it was a seriously complicated situation, but she kept all the control). Then after high school, she dumps him on us. It has been so hard adjusting to it. Hearing all the things my stepson has said about growing up with her, I wish we'd had more means to have gotten custody earlier. Now at 22, he doesn't want to do anything with his life. But his dad is finally putting his foot down and forcing him to go to the local community college
Oh and his mom puts him on guilt trips for not wanting to come see her, when she moved in with her new boyfriend that's over 3 hrs away, and had another kid (so he has 3 little sisters now) and she makes them eat a bunch of terrible foods. Why would he want to go visit them when she dumped him when he turned 18? She says she's afraid the baby will grow up not knowing him and I'm like, shoulda thought about that a long time ago. My stepson is a good kid, but he never grew up or matured because of her. I try hard to make sure things I say and do are ok with my husband, because he's the actual parent and we need to be on the same page. But it's been a real challenge. I'm glad he's finally going back to school.
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My mom’s step-mother, I can’t remember anything about her. Mom’s mom died in her 50s so when grandpa remarried, all his kids were grown so there wasn’t a huge issue there. But step-grandmother would give us the cheapest knockoff toys you can imagine, which were always shoplifted (just shoplift the name brands, wtf). Just, like, I can understand getting the cheap version of Barbie dolls when you’re poor and you know your step-granddaughter likes Barbie. But she was shoplifting. And then she died, and later grandpa died, and all of her biological children stole all the heirlooms from my bio grandmother that grandpa still had. 🙃
How in the hell did the bio parents of these children think any of the step parents were going to be good for and too their children??? If the warning signs only appeared after the marriage then why did they not bounce the step parent out on their arses after the first time they behaved this way? In so many of the cases I just read the bio parents are complicit in the abuse simply by turning a blind eye, playing dumb or playing down what is happening. The bio parentsfor the most part in these cases should look in the mirror and tell themselves they are enabling the abuse of their own children. My blood is boiling
Step mum here, holy heck! How can people be like this! To me she’s my daughter end of! I could never do anything like edit her out of photos, if anything I want more photos of just the two of us, and all three of us as the family we are. It’s also worrying that some of these are simply horrid parenting, step or bio, people make me sad.
Reminds me of my aunt. Hated how she treated her SKs. She had 2 biokids married a guy with 5 kids (4 living with him. 3 adopted one with severe autism and 1 bio). They moved into a 3 bedroom, unfinished basement. Her kids got individual rooms with locks. The others got curtained corners in the basement. They put locks on the kitchen cabs because she didn't like his kids eating her kids' snacks. She would not let the step kids play with her kids' games. She told two adopted ones that they were screwups and to go back to their bio mom (crack addict who recently got out of prison). One did... down to 3 kids. She arranged family trips without his kids. Made up a story that one of the girls hit and threatened her son (who I am close with, he said didn't happen). She got really moody and frustrated trying to prove she hadn't done it. She asked her dad to take her side. Down to 2. Cont in reply.
She got her kids diagnosed with tones of mental health issues and blamed his son. She said his son made her uncomfortable so he asked his bio son to leave. He left for college and she sold anything he didn't take with him. Now only one left. My aunt's son has Asperger's and she felt that her husband needed to focus more on her son than his autistic daughter. She imposed a strict tv schedule to only accommodate what he son liked and not what her SD liked (they both have tv obsessions). She also started to monitor her food and toiletry consumption and tried to say she was stealing from them. She organised 4 family trips without inviting her SD. Didn't invite her SD for any family her togethers and told her that the family didn't like her. The final straw she refused to buy her drawing supplies (her SD would sell artwork at the farmers market to get pocket money). Her brother bought a place large enough for them both to live and took her out of there.3years in,managed to remove All his kids
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I can't bring myself to continue reading. My blood was boiling and I'm afraid I'll pop an blood vessel at my age. These arseholes are horrible people. But the biological parents definitely share part of the blame. When you're a parent, your child is your top priority when picking a partner. It's not just about your happiness anymore. You make a stupid decision, you ruin at least 2 lives.
Why does it seem like step parents either hate their step children or try to replace the child’s bio parent. Like just be normal you freaks.
Reading these is so painful. I hate when people choose to remarry someone who won’t love their kids with their whole heart. It is just as much the blood parents responsibility. Kids are always the ones to have to adapt tho the uh S**t of remarriage or parents dating or divorcing. Kids are Not resilient. They merely get screwed up slowly and silently and hurt while the grownups do as they please. If you don’t LOVE your fiancé’s kids like your own MARRY SOMEONE WITHOUT KIDS FOR YOU TO SCREW UP And HATE. I’ll never understand the cruelty involved in belittling and torturing a child. Making them feel lesser or like something that has to be “endured” because they married someone who already had kids. Sham on every single one of these step parents. It makes my stomach literally hurt. Feeling like a guest in ones own house, passive aggressive comments, horrible treatment of the ex parent who shared custody. “We pay your mother every month so SHE should buy you pads and deodorant, not me”…..
speaking of manipulative parents, my (14T) grandmother just gave my little sister, (10F) a bowl of peaches, like she normally does, and proceedes to say that she needs to put away the dishes (its LS lob). Now normally LS would have gotten up and done it right away, but she had peaches she had to finish ect.- when LS said that she needed to cut her peaches, and got up to get a knife, GRM got a knife out of th soapy water, didn't wash it off/wipe it off and cut LS's peaches for her. Lil but later, my grandfather (75M) comes in in the middle of me and LS talking, saying the dishes will be here tomorrow, LS says that GRM said that we weren't allowed to leave for school until LS got the dishes put away, GRF walked over and took LS's peaches from her and said your'e done, go put the dishes away. Now, this is a fairly common occurrence between either me or my LS, and I'm getting sick and tired of GRM making us late for school because of little things that GRM could do.
Some of these are unforgivable, like the step moms editing their kids out. Some though, I think the parents are fed up, or even tired of the violence their "adult" kids bring home to them. Adult kids don't have the right to hurt their parents, and yeah, parents are going to feel oppressive if you're living at home working part time and you're up all hours of the night gaming. Get an apartment with some friends, then do what you want! Parents have the right to a peaceful home, the same as kids do.
You're supposed to discuss discipline with your partner and agree on principles. In practice I find that if you are kind to kids you never need discipline.
Load More Replies... Then why did you click on this article? There’s plenty of others that aren’t negative. You brought this on yourself bro
Load More Replies... I actually stopped after just a few. The one with the stepmum wanting to edit out her stepson.... She had 2 kids close by and the stepson was at a distance. ... He must have felt unwanted and unloved. It's sickening.
Same here, these make me so mad. Im so fortunate my parents aren’t divorced.
Load More Replies... As a step mum myself this left my heart bleeding and my blood boiling. What the f**k is wrong with people?
Thank you. I know step parents like you are out there. Unfortunately you are rare. I was not fortunate to have one who thinks like you do. It means a lot to read that this hurts and angers you. You have no idea how precious a good step parent is to this of us who suffered otherwise. I thank you from. The bottom of my heart.
Load More Replies... So after about five, I said, that's it, I don't need flashbacks to how I was treated as a kid ----- by actual blood-related not-step family.
I'm sorry Leo. Hugs for you (and not a little piddly one but a big warm bear HUG).
Load More Replies... Can't go on reading. My mom got remarried after divorce when we were little and boy did our stepfather know she would dump him in a heartbeat if he wasn't good to us. I am in a new relationship too with a (now adult) boy from my ex and yes, my partner knows that I would ditch him the second he started making a tiny difference between my son and our daughter.
i will never understand how a parent of any kind could even threaten to kick their child out. wtf is wrong with these people?!
Everything isn't black and white. There are circumstances where the best option is kicking a child out like abusive behaviour or just completely ignoring rules set in place. A parents job is to prepare their child for the real world, not let their children live off of them and squeeze them dry financially and emotionally. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of bad parents who use this as a leverage but that's not every case.
Load More Replies... It's not just step parents that do these things. I can personally relate to a number of these horror stories. I left out on my own at 16 and have rarely looked back. Best darn decision of my life.
Mistralok, I'm sorry to hear that but glad you left a rotten situation. Hugs for you.
Load More Replies... I feel like this perpetuates the idea that stepparents are all terrible. Honestly a person's biological parents can be just a horrible.
Reading these angered me so much. I never understood why a parent would choose someone over their child. I LIVE for my children. Even though they are now both teenagers they are the ONLY reason I am still on this earth. First person I dated post divorce I told them my kids come first always. Once I started to see tension between them I sat them all down. When it got bad again I kicked SO to the curb. No one comes before my kids.
My own mother said and did worse to me than any of these. Everything from emotional and physical abuse, lack of privacy, sending me to live in a children's home and trying to date a boyfriend of mine. I spent years trying to repair a relationship with her before I realized it wasn't me who needed to repair it. The toxicity of her, her manipulation of everyone around her, it's best I ceased any contact with her. I'm still learning that it's her loss and not mine and I still grieve over our lost relationship but I can 100% say I'm MUCH happier without her in my life.
My stepfather was fine until I hit puberty, then he became a bully and a sex pest. He never actually molested me but he'd walk into my bedroom while I was dressing, or into the bathroom while I was showering. He became very angry when he realised I was taller than him; my mother claims to have no knowledge of any of this, which I took to mean she was complicit. I left home at 17, if I'd had younger sisters instead of brothers, maybe I would have said something. As it is, I never recognised red flag behaviour and that has had a major impact on my life . When he died in 2018, all I felt was relief. My bio father is a stranger to me, he threw my away a long time ago.
A theme here is texting/messaging. Always a bad idea when something important needs to be conveyed. There is no tone. Plus these are toxic of course
as a step mom... I understand the frustration of not being their true parent and such... But when you marry someone with kids, you marry the kids too. It's your choice and if you don't like the kids then don't marry the parent. When I started dating my husband, my stepson was about 4ish. We got married when he was 10. Up til that point, I had only met him a few times because his mom is insane. Between age 10 and 18, he only spent the night with us once (she was 90 min away, but still) and we basically just saw him when she was "able" to bring him around (it was a seriously complicated situation, but she kept all the control). Then after high school, she dumps him on us. It has been so hard adjusting to it. Hearing all the things my stepson has said about growing up with her, I wish we'd had more means to have gotten custody earlier. Now at 22, he doesn't want to do anything with his life. But his dad is finally putting his foot down and forcing him to go to the local community college
Oh and his mom puts him on guilt trips for not wanting to come see her, when she moved in with her new boyfriend that's over 3 hrs away, and had another kid (so he has 3 little sisters now) and she makes them eat a bunch of terrible foods. Why would he want to go visit them when she dumped him when he turned 18? She says she's afraid the baby will grow up not knowing him and I'm like, shoulda thought about that a long time ago. My stepson is a good kid, but he never grew up or matured because of her. I try hard to make sure things I say and do are ok with my husband, because he's the actual parent and we need to be on the same page. But it's been a real challenge. I'm glad he's finally going back to school.
Load More Replies... My mom’s step-mother, I can’t remember anything about her. Mom’s mom died in her 50s so when grandpa remarried, all his kids were grown so there wasn’t a huge issue there. But step-grandmother would give us the cheapest knockoff toys you can imagine, which were always shoplifted (just shoplift the name brands, wtf). Just, like, I can understand getting the cheap version of Barbie dolls when you’re poor and you know your step-granddaughter likes Barbie. But she was shoplifting. And then she died, and later grandpa died, and all of her biological children stole all the heirlooms from my bio grandmother that grandpa still had. 🙃
How in the hell did the bio parents of these children think any of the step parents were going to be good for and too their children??? If the warning signs only appeared after the marriage then why did they not bounce the step parent out on their arses after the first time they behaved this way? In so many of the cases I just read the bio parents are complicit in the abuse simply by turning a blind eye, playing dumb or playing down what is happening. The bio parentsfor the most part in these cases should look in the mirror and tell themselves they are enabling the abuse of their own children. My blood is boiling
Step mum here, holy heck! How can people be like this! To me she’s my daughter end of! I could never do anything like edit her out of photos, if anything I want more photos of just the two of us, and all three of us as the family we are. It’s also worrying that some of these are simply horrid parenting, step or bio, people make me sad.
Reminds me of my aunt. Hated how she treated her SKs. She had 2 biokids married a guy with 5 kids (4 living with him. 3 adopted one with severe autism and 1 bio). They moved into a 3 bedroom, unfinished basement. Her kids got individual rooms with locks. The others got curtained corners in the basement. They put locks on the kitchen cabs because she didn't like his kids eating her kids' snacks. She would not let the step kids play with her kids' games. She told two adopted ones that they were screwups and to go back to their bio mom (crack addict who recently got out of prison). One did... down to 3 kids. She arranged family trips without his kids. Made up a story that one of the girls hit and threatened her son (who I am close with, he said didn't happen). She got really moody and frustrated trying to prove she hadn't done it. She asked her dad to take her side. Down to 2. Cont in reply.
She got her kids diagnosed with tones of mental health issues and blamed his son. She said his son made her uncomfortable so he asked his bio son to leave. He left for college and she sold anything he didn't take with him. Now only one left. My aunt's son has Asperger's and she felt that her husband needed to focus more on her son than his autistic daughter. She imposed a strict tv schedule to only accommodate what he son liked and not what her SD liked (they both have tv obsessions). She also started to monitor her food and toiletry consumption and tried to say she was stealing from them. She organised 4 family trips without inviting her SD. Didn't invite her SD for any family her togethers and told her that the family didn't like her. The final straw she refused to buy her drawing supplies (her SD would sell artwork at the farmers market to get pocket money). Her brother bought a place large enough for them both to live and took her out of there.3years in,managed to remove All his kids
Load More Replies... I can't bring myself to continue reading. My blood was boiling and I'm afraid I'll pop an blood vessel at my age. These arseholes are horrible people. But the biological parents definitely share part of the blame. When you're a parent, your child is your top priority when picking a partner. It's not just about your happiness anymore. You make a stupid decision, you ruin at least 2 lives.
Why does it seem like step parents either hate their step children or try to replace the child’s bio parent. Like just be normal you freaks.
Reading these is so painful. I hate when people choose to remarry someone who won’t love their kids with their whole heart. It is just as much the blood parents responsibility. Kids are always the ones to have to adapt tho the uh S**t of remarriage or parents dating or divorcing. Kids are Not resilient. They merely get screwed up slowly and silently and hurt while the grownups do as they please. If you don’t LOVE your fiancé’s kids like your own MARRY SOMEONE WITHOUT KIDS FOR YOU TO SCREW UP And HATE. I’ll never understand the cruelty involved in belittling and torturing a child. Making them feel lesser or like something that has to be “endured” because they married someone who already had kids. Sham on every single one of these step parents. It makes my stomach literally hurt. Feeling like a guest in ones own house, passive aggressive comments, horrible treatment of the ex parent who shared custody. “We pay your mother every month so SHE should buy you pads and deodorant, not me”…..
speaking of manipulative parents, my (14T) grandmother just gave my little sister, (10F) a bowl of peaches, like she normally does, and proceedes to say that she needs to put away the dishes (its LS lob). Now normally LS would have gotten up and done it right away, but she had peaches she had to finish ect.- when LS said that she needed to cut her peaches, and got up to get a knife, GRM got a knife out of th soapy water, didn't wash it off/wipe it off and cut LS's peaches for her. Lil but later, my grandfather (75M) comes in in the middle of me and LS talking, saying the dishes will be here tomorrow, LS says that GRM said that we weren't allowed to leave for school until LS got the dishes put away, GRF walked over and took LS's peaches from her and said your'e done, go put the dishes away. Now, this is a fairly common occurrence between either me or my LS, and I'm getting sick and tired of GRM making us late for school because of little things that GRM could do.
Some of these are unforgivable, like the step moms editing their kids out. Some though, I think the parents are fed up, or even tired of the violence their "adult" kids bring home to them. Adult kids don't have the right to hurt their parents, and yeah, parents are going to feel oppressive if you're living at home working part time and you're up all hours of the night gaming. Get an apartment with some friends, then do what you want! Parents have the right to a peaceful home, the same as kids do.
You're supposed to discuss discipline with your partner and agree on principles. In practice I find that if you are kind to kids you never need discipline.
Load More Replies... Then why did you click on this article? There’s plenty of others that aren’t negative. You brought this on yourself bro
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