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Have you seen Midnight in Paris? The movie is not about the city per se, rather it's about our fascination with it. Woody Allen asks us why the dream of Paris seems more powerful than walking on its streets.

However, it's not just historical European landmarks that infatuate our minds. That cause us to look at the world through an unrealistic lens. No, no, there are many more culprits — we're too easily swayed.

Last week, Redditor u/Buttercuppy44 asked other users, "What's something we need to stop normalizing?" And it turned out to be a discussion we really needed. People straight away came through with plenty of specific and accurate examples.

#1

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Having to respect a damaging point of view because it's part of someone's religion.

No, I don't have to respect your belief that women are inferior or that LGTBQ+ people shouldn't have rights because your religion tells you to believe that. It's a bad point of view.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should be higher up in the list AND it can be extended to every belief in general about 'we' are better then 'them' because of religion/ money/ education/ the place where you live/ the colour of your socks/ etc.etc.

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#2

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Canceling people for things they did 10+ years ago. If someone has shown growth in that time then let them grow.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Huzzah, huzzah! The only thing more ridiculous than cancelling someone for a trivial offense committed years ago, is someone digging through ten years of someone else's social media in search of something to use against them.

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Kids beauty pageants.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not widely considered normal. Considered creepy, disturbing, and exploitative among sane people.

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#4

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Coming to work sick. People tend to get praised for that, but they are in fact just endangering others to get sick as well — and in the end, it costs the company more than if they would've just stayed home.

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#5

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Being rude to retail and food workers. We work hard all day, deal with some of the worst customers bar none, and really don't get paid enough to support families but we do it anyway. For way less than it's worth

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#6

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Ads on stuff you've paid for.

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#7

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Filters that change the shape of your face to fit a beauty standard. Kids are growing up with an even more distorted view of what they should look like than previous generations

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#8

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Taking pictures of strangers without their knowledge and posting it on the internet. It is toxic as hell and it wasn't that long ago it was seen as creepy.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should be illegal. The last thing I want is for someone to take a photo of me and end up becoming a meme or something.

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#9

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop That anything is possible if you try hard enough. Don't get me wrong, a lot is possible, but not everything. There are factors beyond ourselves that determine our success. The best we can do is to give our best, and be happy that we've done so.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hardwork doesn't always lead to success. A lot of people that became successful through "hard work" don't usually include one thing in their success stories: the role of luck. Some of them were lucky to be born in the right place, to the right people, at the right time, happened to go to the right school, happened to make the right friends, etc. For every success story, there are thousands and millions that did the same amount of hardwork and got nowhere. The difference is, those hardworking but unsuccessful people were simply unlucky. No one knows a sure formula for success in life. It's easy to think you do when you've made it.

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#10

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop People being bastards on the internet, because of anonymity.

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#11

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Using religion as a weapon.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To me it's more using religion as an excuse (to discriminate, to question science, to explain away EVERYTHING...)

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#12

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop The greed of the top 1% that fuels the pollution and decay of our planet.

Looking at you Jeff, Bill, and Mark

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm going to get downvotes here, but you need to swap out Bill for Richard. Yes, Mr Gates has done some deplorable things while gaining his millions. But he has done philanthropic things that the others haven't even considered. Demonstrably tried to improve things for the rest of humanity. The others? No bathroom breaks and trains that barely run at all never mind on time. Oh, and I'm damn sure it wasn't his age that stopped him taking part in the Prick Space Race, so that's a point in his favour too. Dislike or full on loathe him all you want, but he is no longer in the same league of greed and evil as the others. (Mr Zuckerberg is in a league of his own, although he does look like he wants to be Bezos when he grows up, so...)

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#13

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop The idea that being an as*hole is a sign of intelligence. Jerks are rarely intelligent. Sheldon Cooper, Rick Sanchez, Hannibal Lecter, and Dr. House do not exist.

In my experience, being rude and condescending turns out to be a sign of stupidity, not intelligence.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sheldon was actually very true to life for a lot of smart autistic people..but he would be what we would be without adapting skills. And most of us have adapted to our environment.. But he feels rather authentic. He isn't rude or condescending - he just doesn't understand most humans. That's why he follows the rules.. hot beverages for upset humans etc.

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#14

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Throwing cigarette butts on the floor.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Throwing cirarette butts WHILE protesting for for climate-change.

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#15

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Having an opinion on everything.

It’s okay to look at something on the internet and think to yourself “I don’t have to care about this.”

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Best time saver, ever... (Oh, why do I put a comment here? I should not care) /s

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#16

Kids doing animal abuse. Stop it with, "they are just kids they don't know any better"

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Luka Verheijen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it's too extreme, it's often a sign of a sadistic personality, so more reason to work on that early

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#17

The idea that a woman can slap a man if she's angry at him, but a man should never hit a woman regardless of the circumstances.

The former is assault - hitting people who aren't already involved in a physical altercation is never OK, regardless of the circumstances. The latter ties into that; if you are being attacked, the level of force you use in defence should be dependent on the danger you are in, which has almost nothing to do with the sex of your attacker.

Both of these rely on the tired and sexist trope that women are meek little does who have not the physical strength nor moral turpitude to commit violence against the big, strong, tough men. They normalize assault and abuse and accordingly belong in the dustbin of history.

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Luka Verheijen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Finally someone who adresses this! This double standard bothers me fir a long time. Also, some women who try to be "feminists" still keep this in check. If you want equal rights for men and women, that includes the downsides too

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#18

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Bullying. It's absurd how society will frame it as a "stage of your life" rather than supporting individuals more so they know how to deal with it. Especially academically, still overlooked majorly.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And massively overlooked or flat out ignored on social media. Ad in the workforce. It not just something kids do on the playground.

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Alcoholic moms. No, you don’t NEED to bring wine to your daughters soccer game. It’s not quirky. It’s awful. Wine mom stuff on social media only strengthens it and makes it more popular.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Instamom is the stuff if nightmares. Like the recent one where she jams on the brakes to teach her kid to buckle up. Full blown narcissism in action

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Holly Allen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well my response won't be popular...my mom did the whole slam on the brakes thing to me because I kept taking it off. My arm got cut on something in the process. Mom bandaged me up and we talked about me getting hurt way worse if there was an accident. I have been very diligent about buckling up every time.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ha ha ha, loved taking the kids to Friday evening cricket, time to sink two or three pints and catch up with the other parents doing exactly the same thing. Lovely times. I'm always amused if you have more than one or two in the US you are deemed to have an alcohol problem.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

However, in the next BP series on "parenting tweets of the month" we will see endless entries of "My kids did XYZ so I happily sat in the closet with a bottle of wine." and all of them get upvoted.

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Remi Flynne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah... reminds me of all those 'let's not objectify women' posts and then you see a whole load of 'she's pretty/he's hot' comments on posts that are about people's achievements or something.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously?! Let her have her glass of wine: sitting there watching a game that only marginally interest her because her kid is in it is likely the only "free" time she's going to have all day before she's going back to keeping a whole household running non-stop. When was the last time she was able to go out with HER friends? It's her one time in several days where her only function is attendance: why shouldn't she make a mini-party out of it?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having a glass of wine every now and then is fine. Needing it is a symptom of alcohol use disorder and should be taken seriously.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

to me since Covid era I discovered how too many parents do not like their kids nor spending time with them.. I know a few and same people who've always judged me cause I decided not to procreate. I decided cause I would have been a very unhappy mother. Just like all those who are parents and judging me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So true. I know quite a few parents who don't really enjoy spending time with their children. I was the only child-free person at a party once and had to listen to them all MOAN about their kids for hours.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate how alcoholism is normalised, specially on tv shows. Just look at modern family, I love that show, but I hate that it's all Haha the mother needs alcohol to function. It's sad and people shouldn't relate to that in a positive way.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a recovering alcoholic I hate “wine mom” culture. Why are we glamorizing excessive drinking again? It’s just basic and ignorant.

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Lynne Harbison
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for you getting alcohol out of your life. I wish all good things for you. 💜

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Living with an alcoholic is awful. I live with one and I never know what their behavior will be like from one day to the next.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup, grew up with one. Morning dad was a completely different person than evening dad. Very confusing for a little kid. And now I absolutely cannot tolerate drunk people, or wine mom beer dad culture. (Which sadly makes me outcast in many school functions...but I'd rather not be tense all the time, waiting for the drunk drama)

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Sabrina DuBois
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely blows my mind that basically being an alcoholic is way more socially acceptable than smoking a joint before bed after the kids are sleeping.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not just alcoholic moms, but the popularity of alcohol as such...it is everywhere, in movies, TV shows, stacked on the most beautiful shelves in stores...it is made so normal, yet it makes people sick mentally and physically, makes people agressive, makes people not remember their nights and makes people unable to have real fun without enhancing substances. It doesn't do anyone any good yet it's considered the normalest of normal stuff out there. Or even "cool".

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A mom havin a lil sippy sip was always something she did in private....

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Actually, wine culture in general. Male, female, whatever. I know peopl ewho think 2 bottles a night is "just unwinding". No, it's AA territory.

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Lynne Harbison
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do you really need to take alcohol on a lunch picnic with your kids? See it all the time...adults sitting drinking and kids told to go and play.

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Kari Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It also gives a wrong impression to young people. I remember when I first discovered wine moms who made it seem like you can’t deal with motherhood without drinking to keep you sane. I was much younger back then and it really scared me at first.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah we and we also most definitely don't need anyone drinking and driving.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's terrible that alcohol consumption is generally portrayed as cool or normal.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And if you need to be drunk in order to be able to tolerate your kids, you shouldn't be having any.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wine Moms and these Mom oriented Facebook groups are awful.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Used to not be a big deal to have a drink socially at any event - the whole making all alcohol consumption bad is weird and Americans are literally the only Country who is so puritanical about it. Oh, except for other countries run by their religious right... which we are fast becoming with all this intolerance, self-righteousness, holier than thou-ness... It's kinda nutty that people cannot mind their own f*****g business...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

UGH - my sister. She has her 16 ounce "to-go" cup with her everywhere. No it's not coffee, it's vodka & diet coke, which she just had to bring with her at 10:00 in the morning to go to brunch. Just one of her many toxic traits, which is why I choose to no longer associate with her.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up in the 50-60's when adults merrily indulged in cocktails. But this is some new behavior that's going to go sideways. Having a couple of drinks is fun. Needing a couple of drinks to get thru your parenting duties is not.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's also been brought more into movie scenes trying to make it look cool. Women are lushes for drinking wine all the time. Same with men who drink beer too much

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m so fed up of the ‘I need alcohol to survive my kids’ BS

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think there’s a big cultural divide btw the US and UK regarding drinking. No one bats an eye if someone drinks a bottle of wine in the UK but in the US they’re an alcoholic.

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John Baker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Remember the US was founded by religious fanatics. In many ways, that attitude is still with us.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if you call it "happy juice" and need it after a hard day of work EVERY hard day of work you are a functioning alcoholic and it's still really bad.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up with an alcoholic mother. It tears your family apart. I had no idea some women did this and I am totally horrified by it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes 1000% I get second hand embarrassment for anyone who posts stiff like that.

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Lola
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What happened to them just being alcoholics? We have so many different terms for them now.

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Leigh C.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YES. YES. THIS! If a single mom who's low income can get their children taken for having any alcohol while in her care, how can it be possible middle to upper class moms get special privileges to drink all day and evening?

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John Baker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Picture two people. One has money, the other doesn't. One can afford a lawyer, the other can't. Guess which one gets screwed with by the system.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Canada our government supports alcoholism! I asked why out liquor stores and beer stores were not closed during lockdown( I did not think they were essential businesses) I assumed that it was because of the money the government made from theses places, but I was at a hospital and was told if these places were shut down the hospitals E.R.'s would be flooded with people in the D.T.'s that's why they weren't closed. Have asked liquor control board about this but I guarantee I shan't be hearing from them any time -ever!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not just on social media. It's portrayed as normal on TV and movies

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my old neighborhood a bunch of parents got together to rent a margarita machine the first day of school. It was at the bus stop and was there the moment the kids got on and off the bus. There were quite a few moms who had spent most of the day sitting in the street getting drunk until their kids got home. It was so weird. I don't think I've been offered a drink before 8:00am before then or after.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I witnessed something similar, a couple mom's all sitting around the end of the driveway with a cooler full of wine bottles and a variety of wine coolers. They just sat there for hours drinking and taking selfies of themselves, I guess to post on FB. I just shook my head.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I met a lady while we were both posted to a developing country. I am older, she was a mum of a 4 and 7 year old. She had been on the expat circuit as a stay at home mum for a few years, always in challenging locations. Twice when I visited her in the early afternoon she had a gin and tonic, and both times her kids reached out and supped from it when she left it on the table. Every time I sprang into action to stop them - not meaning to parent someone else’s kids but a natural reaction to a hazardous situation. She stopped me and laughed and said it was okay. It was a big joke. That was 10 years ago. I stopped interacting with her as I didn’t believe our values were aligned - on this and other issues. Those kids would be 14 and 17 now, and I wonder how many ways she managed to screw them up and what I could have done to stop it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or being on call 24/7 for work. If ur not then you are not a team player.

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Shane S
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you’re advertising it, it’s probably a problem.

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Melissa
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about drinking any alcohol? It's not cool for a dad to bring beer to their kids baseball game either. Stop normalizing drinking alcohol!

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John Baker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like it or not, drinking alcohol *is* normal in most societies. "Normal" doesn't mean "adheres to Melissa's concept of what's acceptable." It means prevalent enough to not be considered unusual. That's it. It doesn't care whether the thing in question is good, bad or neutral. Just that it's common enough to not be out of the ordinary.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends where it becomes more popular, many youths just don't want to see moms popular

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Using mental illness as an excuse. I suffer from several, and it's very hard on me.. But, i get professional help and deal with it head on. Reading constant posts everyday about people having this disorder and that disorder and that's why it's ok to act a certain way is demotivating. Awareness is important, but dozens of posts everyday about having borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder and why it's acceptable for you to be an a-hole is not awareness... If you suffer from these so badly, please get help

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Married couples disliking one another. Normalizing abusive and toxic elements in marriage is lame, bro.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like the jokes about men being “chained” when they decide to marry. Then don’t f*****g marry. If I was the girlfriend In would be furious

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Working while on vacation. You go on vacation to relax and enjoy yourself, not to try to fill out spreadsheets and deal with work stuff in your hotel room.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm guessing this is more a US issue from what I have read, most of us just don't work when on leave.

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#23

Using the phrase "it's my right" as a get out of jail free card to engage in whatever reckless behaviour that takes your fancy.

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop The entire "game" involved in modern dating or even most social interactions. The playing hard to get, the "arriving fashionably late" like people can we please keep it simple?

Ya go on laugh at me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been married for just over a decade and would be absolutely terrified of being back in the dating game. I wouldn't know where to start.

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Unhealthy weight. I’m not talking about being fit and thin and making people feel bad about their bodies. Im not talking about having a few extra pounds and making people feel bad for that. I have a few extra pounds, I’m not super fit, but I’m relatively healthy. Everyone’s body is different. Healthy means a lot of different things.

I’m talking about normalizing morbidly obese people as beautiful and something to be celebrated. It’s dangerous especially if children see them as someone to look up to. Then they’ll think it’s ok for your body to carry around so much weight that your heart and lungs are working overtime to keep you alive. It will lead to devastating later years in life as you age and your body slows down. You’ll be at risk for cardiovascular issues, you’ll probably die before your time, and the last few years of your life will be bed ridden while you waste away.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree that there is such a thing as unhealthy weight, you still won't see me attacking the "body positivity movement". Because for people to change for the better, the first step has to be letting go of the self-hatred and shame that plagues the seriously overweight and drives them into a self-destructive spiral of self-harming and self-comforting behavior. If the body positivity movement helps anyone let go of the guilt and self-hatred that's poisoned their lives then more good than harm has been done, and it's not like body negativity ever did anyone any good. You can't shame people into being thinner or healthier, that's not how humans work.

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#26

having unsocial and aggressive dogs, and not leashing or otherwise controlling them

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#27

Degrees for office jobs that take almost no time to learn and usually have nothing to do with the degree anyways . So many people out there who can’t afford college but, are just as capable as anyone else.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ridiculous demands from the same companies that cry over the lack of qualified employees

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Diamond and gemstones as gifts. They're shiny rocks with artificially inflated value. They're only expensive because people are willing to pay so much for them. If everyone stopped buying them, the price would fall faster than the Hindenburg. Or faster than the employment rate this year.

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#29

Cheating. Sooo many "love stories" on netflix, or just any sort of romance movie released these days have cheating involved in them so much. It's always branded as this romantic thing to do. Oooo like at this dark and brooding handsome guy with no personality. Time to f him and forget about my 2 year relationship, or some s*** like that. It's not romantic, it's just wrong, and it should not be normalised.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's all a little more complicated, some people seem to think cheating is about as bad as it can get. But that being said, romance movies are actually the most messed up when you think about it

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Unhealthily obese pets. You took a warrior and domesticated it! They aren't happy if they're fat! They just eat on instinct! Stop inadvertently hurting the beings that love us unconditionally!

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#31

People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Bragging about getting less than 6 hours of sleep.

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#32

The grind. Not taking vacation. Working on vacation. Working through your lunch break. Working early and late all the time. Answering emails after hours.

We are completely dispensable to the companies we work for. Don’t lose your life grinding for a company who only thinks of you as a number.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I work at a university, and vacations are sacrosanct here. We have an unwritten rule that you never call someone who is on vacation, no matter how dire the need may be.

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#33

Over-consumption. This goes out to social media influencers who flaunt their hauls and influence people to buy things that they don't need. It will just add on to the landfills. Please, no one's benefitting from hoarding.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's too much credit for the influencers. Overconsumption entails much more than that. Sadly enough.

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#34

Hatred of someone who lives differently than they do.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As long as it doesn't hurt anybody else it's none of my business

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Toxic positivity. There’s a huge difference between being optimistic and having raised colored glasses on. We’re all people, and we all experience negative and positive emotions. The only way you can properly get over your emotions is by allowing yourself to feel them. Glossing over your emotions with an aura of “Everything’s fine” isn’t going to solve anything, and it’s just gonna make you feel bad.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a supervisor who was a true believer in toxic positivity. Her attitude was "If we all believe in this stupid idea, it WILL work!", when the sensibly positive attitude is to say "We CAN come up with a solution that will work!".

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#36

Failures in political leadership. I feel more and more we are becoming less critical of failed character in our leaders.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We criticise. It's just water off a duck's back. Its not criticism that's lacking, it's accountability and consequence.

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#37

Student loans.

Education is getting more expensive by the day and the added burden on a student in paying back a student loan helps nobody.

Furthermore people encourage student loans as though the students are obligated to take them if they pursue higher studies. Pure nonsense.

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#38

Hating police. I've worked places that police don't go. You all don't know how good you have it.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't hate police in general, but I've had my arm and nearly my skull broken during the 2001 Genoa protests (unprovoked attack on peaceful protesters) and I was in the Diaz school raid (but luckily wasn't hurt as I was hiding in a closet). Sooo... there's good apples and bad apples... but the bad apples do a lot of damage as they are put in a position of power.

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Students overwhelmed by homework when it isn’t necessary. I’m excluding situations like when the workloads from classes are reasonable and happen to pile on one day or students who aren’t organized, etc. This whole thing is a grey area, but sleep, burnout, mental health exists.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A little coordination between teachers could solve this problem. I can remember the times where we had to do an assignment for English and an hour later our French teacher came up with a similar time consuming assignment. When we explained that that meant we had to choose which one we could do, he postponed the assignment for 2 weeks. But other teachers just said "Deal with it." It's education, teacher, we're not operating a multibillion dollar business with deadlines and targets here.

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People Are Sharing 40 Things We Are Still Normalizing But Need To Stop Not caring about education. So many people obviously didn't pay attention in elementary school and don't care about it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Over here, the government doesn't see education as a "top priority" while I think it's one of THE most important things

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