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We’re only human. You can’t expect to be perfect all the time—no matter how much you strive for that, there will always be some glaring flaws and gaps in your knowledge that you might find embarrassing. It’s best to fix what you can and embrace all the rest. Though, to be fair, that’s much easier said than done. And that’s exactly what internet users have been discussing over on the r/AskReddit subreddit.

Redditor Wijting asked people to share the things that they believe they’re doing wrong, but are too scared to ask somebody about. In a very honest thread, people opened up about all the things, big and small, that they’re either too embarrassed to ask about in real life or are simply too afraid to draw attention to because they think others would make fun of them for this. Fortunately, the friendly folks of Reddit were more than happy to offer their own advice to people.

Have a read through some of these honest posts, upvote the ones that you can personally relate to, and if you’re feeling brave enough, share what you personally think you’re doing wrong in the comment section. Maybe some Pandas will come along with some helpful advice.

One of the biggest marvels in life, at least for me, is that it's never too late to start learning something new. No matter how embarrassed we might be, no matter our age, we can accomplish great things if we put in the effort. I had a chat about what we should do to put ourselves in the best possible position to learn new things as we grow older with Age UK, a charity that helps everyone make the most of later life. Scroll down for Bored Panda’s interview with them below. I also reached out to the author of the viral thread, redditor Wijting. You can read what they had to say below as well.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask I have no idea if my lunch break is an hour or 30 minutes.

Where my office is located in my building, my boss and co-workers can’t see me leave for lunch. When I started, I just began taking hour lunches like I did at my last job. Recently, I heard a co-worker mention taking her 30 minute lunch.

I’ve been taking hour long lunches for 6 years and it’s way past the point of asking…

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Jyri Hakola
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are able to do all of your tasks on time, perform well, your boss is happy and no one complains, keep having a 1 hour break and in any cases do not ask. Eventually your employer pays your achievements, not the time that you sat on your chair and well rested and fed brain is likely more productive in the afternoon than brain without a break.

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Ivy la Sangrienta
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My boss told me (when I was hired) that he doesn't care how long my lunches are or if I run personal errands during they day, as long as all my tasks were done. And they always are.

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James016
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would be in your contract or in a written company policy. If it says you get an hour, take the hour.

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Dash Blue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dang. Good going. Half an hour is not enough time to relax, and eat lunch at a leisurely pace. Some of that lunch time gets eaten up walking, and preparing the food. Sometimes it is good to be invisible.

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Seabeast
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In most places, breaks are mandated by law. Where I live, a full eight hour day must include a one hour break and two 15 minute coffee/bathroom breaks between. A four hour day might only include the one 15 minute break, a six hour day might include that plus a 30 minute break.

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Kristine Phillips
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My job had us sign our 30 minute away. We get one 10 minute break. Sometimes we work more than 7 hours. When we clock out, we have to push if we took or first 10 and then ask if we took our 2nd 10. Most times I have no one to cover me for my 2nd break. So I lie so I don't have to stay 10 more minutes there. I clock out and use the bathroom because I really have too pee. I

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Haunting Spirit
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I work for a multinational IT company in the Netherlands. If I want to take an hour break then I may, if I want it to be two hours, then that's fine. My boss expect an average of 6 productive hours a day and doesn't care how I fill my day in. If the work gets done than it's okay. I really like this way of working as I can schedule my whole day as I want. Especially since we are working from home since the beginning of March 2020.

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Lola
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you know it’s not the other person who doesn’t know how long the lunch is?

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Bettie-Jean Neal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Last year, in the midst of the pandemic I got a new job. No one told me what the hours are because I work from home and I assumed it was 8 am to 5 pm. Corporate put out a memo stating that in no way was anyone to ever schedule a meeting during lunch and that from 12-12:30, it's mandatory that you take lunch. I had been taking an hour, but I do start at 8 and apparently we don't start until 8:30. When we go back in to the office, I plan on continuing to take an hour and keeping my start time at 8.

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Fiona Parky
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do 12 hour shifts so I’m entitled to 1 1/2 hours break. How I take that is up to me. I have to split it into at least 3 breaks because otherwise I’d be working too long without a break but otherwise it’s my choice. I can have 2 breaks of 10 minutes and an hour and 10 minutes for lunch, I can have 3 half hour breaks. You get the idea. Maybe it’s the same at your work and your colleagues are taking two 15 minute breaks then a half hour lunch?

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Martha Meyer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I could take an entire hour in peace without my rabbit wheel colleague eating her lunch at the desk with one hand and while the other one is still typing.

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Marnie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does it really matter? It should only matter if your lunchtime is paid. If you are working 9-6 and your other coworkers (with a 30m break) are working 9-5:30, then it all evens out.

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Mark Kelly
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here in Canada you’re supposed to get a half an hour break every four hours You should be getting a total of an hour break in a day anyway.

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Demi Zwaan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uhm… you know for how many hours you get paid and how many hours you are there. One minus the other is how much breaktime you get?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not everyone's work day is broken down by hours like that. For myself and anyone else on salary wages are paid by the day, not by the hours. It doesn't matter if I'm here for 3 hours or for 9 hours I get the same. So he is likely the same and doesn't know how long the lunch is. I take an hour, but some of my coworkers take half hour. Just depends on whether your work is impacted or not.

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SirWriteALot
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Do you also treat your overtime this way? Like ... don't know, don't care, don't ask for?

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David carro
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Count your working hours. 8 a day, 40 a week (in Spain). Then you will know how much you do have for lunch. Easy maths.

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John Baker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If the boss hasn't said anything and you haven't been fired, you're probably good. ;-)

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Lenka Smetanová
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you work more than 10 hours, you should get 2x 30mim pause. You can combine it together to make 1 hour of break ... But you can't have 'break' at the last hour to shortened the work time.

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Anita Pickle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people take a half hour and only work 8 to 4:30 instead of 8 to 5

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Psychopathic Shark
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your entitled to a break however at my work place we just munch and work

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Patrick O'Harris
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems like you do your job very well, otherwise people would have noticed.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I started working for the NHS I assumed lunch was an hour like everywhere else I had worked. I got suspicious because on the first day I had a few clinicians ask how much lunch was with a real tone and raised eyebrows…unfortunately for them I don’t respond to such infantile means of communication. Aholes are in every walk of life.

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Darth Kittius
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought 1 hour lunches were common? I work at an Orthodontics office and we are required to have a 1 hour lunch

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Elida Lechuga
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It could be that you're entitled to 1 hour and your coworker is mistaken. Either was, don't say a thing.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They’d have stopped you if it mattered. Either it’s an hour, or they’re happy enough that you’re getting work done. Wouldn’t worry about it.

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Rod Egret
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What matters is not how long your lunch break is. What matters is that you deliver quality in a timely manner. If it's the case then you're good.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they've never said anything, don't worry about it. You're not being checked on because I assume you do your work well. If it's ever questioned just say you had an errand to run.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

6 years? Looks like they admire and appreciate your work performance/ethics, to care about the little things. Otherwise it would be brought to your attention by management?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an hour lunch break.. my colleagues have half an hour. so. Just calculate your starting time - end time - 8 hours is work, the rest is your lunch? (or is lunch paid?)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well if you heard a coworker say it's 30 minutes. It's more than likely 30 minutes. I'm not quite understanding why it's way past the point of asking? You can ask a coworker it's that simple.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Clock out? The last time we had to clock in and out was 20 years ago.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like this person has a very kind or blind boss

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or maybe the company is too big to keep a strict surveillance on each and every single employee. Or maybe it is 1 hr indeed, it's just that one co-worker the way too busy one.

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#2

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask I feel like I’m really articulate when I’m going about my day especially over text, but as soon as I get into a verbal disagreement, it’s like my brain shuts off and I forget how to think. Like a deer in the headlights. I don’t remember it always being this way, but it’s like I struggle to accurately express myself.

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#3

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask I have no idea how often I should text, call or hang out with a friend to maintain a friendship. Especially long distance. I’ve lost friends over the years because I hate texting and don’t understand how often I need to keep in touch with someone. The only friends I’ve kept are the ones I can meet in person.

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Redditor Wijting told Bored Panda that they were inspired to create the thread because they hope that it would help them work some stuff out. "The reason why I made the thread was because I had something on my mind. I think I've been doing something wrong for a while. I was hoping the thread would give me the courage to ask the question myself. To be honest, my particular problem compared to some answers on the thread was rather small," they opened up.

I was also interested to find out whether the redditor thinks that being candid in embarrassing and awkward situations actually helps bring people closer together. "People like honesty and honesty within any type of relationship will make the bond stronger. This is a personal view though," they told Bored Panda.

#4

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask I really wish someone could supervise me during social interactions and give me real honest feedback about what I am doing wrong.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That would actually be amazing! I struggle with social interactions from time to time and I really wonder how I actually come across.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Parenting. For the last 20 years.

They all appear to be functioning human beings, so we can't be too far off the mark, but I do worry we've screwed up somewhere along the line and they'll pay the price for our mistakes in the future.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is no one right way to parent. There are plenty of things you should never do though.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Flirting. Let's face it. I don't even know what the heck that is, how it works and what the difference between talking and flirting is. Funny enough, apparently that leads to me constantly flirty without wanting to be. At least, I often get told that I flirt with almost every single person I meet.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

" I flirt with almost every single person I meet." : that's because you are a charming person ;)

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According to redditor Wijting, taking small steps "to build up courage" can be a good way to admit our flaws and ask someone for some helpful advice. "Try to hint at, or try to lead with smaller questions."

Wijting shared with me that they were "taken aback" by the response their thread got. "A lot of people think they are doing things wrong that I have always taken for granted. Not knowing how to shave, for instance. These questions have made me think if I'm actually doing these things wrong myself... Some questions were rather deep, and I do hope the people that have asked them got some satisfying answers."

Meanwhile, Age UK had this to say. "We know that our thinking skills change very gradually throughout our lives, but there are things we can do to help us to stay sharp," Age UK told Bored Panda. "Evidence from the Global Council of Brain Health suggests that having a positive mental attitude, a healthy diet, taking exercise, socializing, and engaging in new activities are all linked to better thinking skills later in life."

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Treating my depression.

I've been in therapy for years now, have tried various anti-depressants, made huge life changes including abstaining from alcohol, removed toxic relationships, even changing my diet. I've tried everything I can find, and, if anything, things are getting worse. It's getting to the point where tomorrow I have an appointment to find out if I have cancer, and can't decide if I will bother with treatment in the case that I do.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask My finances - no idea how to properly manage my money.

FinnbarMcBride , Kyle Murphy Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Start by keeping a list of ALL of your spending, no matter how small an amount.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Life.

Like what I supposed to be doing? I have about 80 years total. So far, I’ve learned stuff, got married, and got a good job. Am I just grinding out the rest of my years?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ever since the earliest age, we are introduced and guided through a set of rules. As a result, we expect there's always a task, or a model image for us to emulate. But once you're out of school, there's no more guidance. Now it's up to you to guide others. So you have to change the approach to life. Stop thinking in terms of "supposed to do" and start with "what do I really want to do? What is it that makes me happy?" If you're not sure, try to accumulate different kinds of experience, be it through hobbies, friendships, education, travel, work etc. And keep observing how you do within these and how it makes you feel, whether you want to keep it, improve it, or leave it. You have way more freedom than you know.

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According to a representative of Age UK, it's vital that we keep our bodies and our minds in tip-top shape. The relationship between the two is well-established, so taking care of your body is bound to have a positive effect on your mind, too.

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"It is clear to scientists and doctors that keeping the blood vessels and blood flow healthy is also key to maintaining your brain function as you age so what is good for the heart is good for the brain too," Age UK points out.

However, some other things that help us stay curious and willing to learn and explore new things include having a strong sense of purpose and having an active social life as well. What's more, we ought to be as realistic as possible about our own limits and plan accordingly.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask My job.

Everyone says I'm doing great and praises me for being so efficient or being ahead on my training but I feel like I'm constantly having to ask questions and do extensive research on what the f**k I'm supposed to do in specific situations.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Literally just standing still. I have terrible posture.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Strange walking is worst: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eCLp7zodUiI

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Relationships. Throughout my life I've never gotten much romantic attention, and when I do receive it, I tend to be obnoxiously clingy, which leads to being left alone again. I don't know how to break this habit, because my emotions are just strong.

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"Keeping active and busy and discovering new things and even making sure we stay socially active all help to keep us brighter as we get older. Setting goals and making plans gives our lives meaning and purpose, but make sure they’re realistic plans. For example, rather than saying ‘I plan to exercise for one hour every day,’ plan instead to go for a 20-minute walk, three times a week."

Finding the courage to admit that you’re doing something wrong is commendable. Being brave enough to set your ego aside and actually reach out for help is worth applauding, in my personal opinion.

Earlier, I had a chat about healthy and unhealthy ways of showing embarrassment with regards to our knowledge blindspots with Vanessa Bohns from Cornell University.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Anything related to being an adult, straight up no F**king idea what I’m doing…

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Standing up for myself and maintaining boundaries. I'm working on it but it's hard because I am just figuring it out (kind of) and people keep trying to push me back to being the doormat I used to be. It's so tempting to be that person again because I hate disrupting the calm, but I was just so tired.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In any situation (as long as a gun isn't pointed at you) stand up for your self even toward people who think they are superior to you because no one is!

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Supervising. I am put in the position, but just rely on the efficiency of my subordinates. As soon as there's someone who's lazy or a troublemaker, I've got to figure out how to approach it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Be encouraging but direct. It takes a kind, humble, straight forward, strong minded, truthful, and understanding person to be able to manage other people. We tend to think calling people out or getting other's to do their job properly. Is somehow mean or we don't want to come off as bossy. But the right attitude and getting to know those you manage somewhat personally. Helps you figure out how to guide them. Just remember to encourage and be nice. People usually want to do what you say when they feel needed and lifted up.

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"We spend a lot of time and effort presenting an ideal version of ourselves to other people. When something happens that contrasts with the image we’ve been projecting—when we say or do something that shows we actually aren’t as graceful or as smart as we’d like people to believe—we feel embarrassed," Vanessa told Bored Panda in a previous interview.

"Discovering you were wrong about something most everyone else around you has long known to be true is one of those moments. In that moment we learn, 'Wait a minute, maybe I haven’t been presenting the image of being smart or worldly that I thought I was presenting all this time,' which is embarrassing,” she noted that embarrassment comes from the contrast from what we thought was true and what reality is actually like.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Showering. I have very very long thick hair and I just kind of blast shampoo and conditioner at it. People ask me what I do to keep my hair so nice and I have no idea what to say. People seem to have such complex hair rituals and I’m here just apeing it up.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Humble brag lmao... I mean good for you for having thick healthy hair ig

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask General conversation I just suck at talking to people I don't really know or don't know at all. Sometimes when I get tips for stuff I respond "yes" or "ok" or "thank you" and even that feels weird or wrong, even the action of saying "hello" feels off... It even happens with firends sometimes...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Try talking about the other person. Most people love talking about themselves. Find out about their hobbies, their pets, their favorite bands.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Dating. Like how the f**k do you find people, that are equally interested in going out with you as you are with them. And then you somehow have to notice that they'd be interested in going out. I just don't understand it, and it sometimes makes me feel like I'll never go on one because of it

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No no no ,the question is how the hell do people just agree to go on a date with humans they don't even know?! I am scared to go out with my friends.Forget that how do you trust ,it'll all be ok?What this blind faith?I am awkward just talking with humans I've known for decades.Dating is just plain scary.Well,relationships are scarier.But we somehow survive.

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However, embarrassment isn’t all that bad. In fact, it has some upsides that should have you rushing to embarrass yourself as often as you can. “One thing that’s interesting about embarrassment is that, for as much as we might experience it as painful in the moment, it’s actually very socially adaptive.”

Vanessa continued: “Being embarrassed signals to other people that you care about what they think. And that actually draws people in to you.” In short, embarrassment has painful short-term effects but very positive long-term effects. If we learn to deal with the former well, then we’ll be able to reap the latter.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Studying. I have no idea how other people do it. When I read something I retain very little of it, so I resort to writing down what I think are important details, which is most things for me, but it takes so long and I still have to rely on my brain to remember thing by simple repetition.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Writing it down is the only way I retain information. It takes a really long time, but it's the only thing that really works for me.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask How to handle anger? I'm too embarrassed to ask

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My friends used the gym as a way to help vent a lot of frustration he has, he says that it helps him think things through.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Is is bad to say everything I have no idea what the f**k I’m doing anymore

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“So blushing, burying your head in your hands, laughing, acknowledging how embarrassing something was, are all totally healthy ways to react,” Vanessa explained to Bored Panda. “The unhealthy way to react is to pretend you’re not embarrassed, that you didn’t make a mistake, or to get angry. Those things undo the positive effect of embarrassment typically has on other people by conveying insincerity and pushing people away rather than drawing them in.”

#22

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask When I started my first job I didn't know if an 8 hour work day meant including the break or not, and I was too afraid to ask.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Parallel parking.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me I either parallel park perfectly on the first attempt or it is a total catastrophe with nothing in between.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Kissing. I’ve had no complaints but it’s not really something your parents taught you to do properly (unless you’re into that)

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#25

35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask How to speak up on problems or expressing certain emotions. I keep stuff bottled up inside

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Maria Schneider
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because you are afraid of the possible reactions. Only trying and finding out you are accepted is helpful.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask My PhD.

Going into my third year and I still don't feel as if I ever adjusted, or developed healthy habits.

Just trying to take it a day at a time and not procrastinate beyond no return.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stick with it. You’ll have the degree, instead of regrets about quitting when you were so close. A doctorate will also open more doors, especially in your field, so you’ll have jobhunting options. You’ll always have the fallback to teaching at the university level, where the real money is, as long as you stick with it long enough to gain tenure. Plus it allows you to continue doing research, and often fully funds it as well.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Being a picky eater. So preparing food, I've been wanting to try new things, but I have no idea what to buy, how to prepare it, and it scares me to ask because I don't want it to sound like I'm some sort of alien.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best way (when there's no pandemic) is to ask a friend if you can try a bite of what they're eating. Or go to restaurants that encourage sharing. Or host a pot luck dinner

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask The proper way to wipe my butt after pooping.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Writing. I love writing, and have written a few short stories older the years, and I show it to friends of mine who read, but every single person has said they loved it. I ask for constructive criticism, and sometimes they want the story to go differently, but it's so damn rare I get an opinion on my actual writing. My descriptions, vocabulary, the flow of the story, etc. Well, too scared to ask someone who will give me an actual opinion.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are writer communities online that proofread eachothers work. You can also hire a professional proofreader. Google is your friend.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Relationships.

I recently started out in the dating scene and i dont know whats the difference between being a couple and being really good friends.

Also: sex is really strange to me.

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I'm a girl. Not sure if I'm supposed to shave the thin blonde hairs in my thighs or not. Sometimes they look darker, but sometimes they look blonde.

I shave the rest of my legs ( below the knee), but I'm in my 30s. Feels like I should know this already....

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The saddest part is that this woman thinks she is SUPPOSED to shave certain body parts.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Gym exercises and weights. I am very afraid of the public gyms... I opted to buy my own weights and machines but... When lifting stuff I don't know if I am carrying too much or too little. Is it supposed to not hurt? My back hurts a bit when I'm doing basic stuff like dumbells.

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Babysitting. I babysat a few times when I was 13 or 14, and I wasn’t sure if I was just supposed to check in on the kid, or play with them, or just like, make sure they're good. I’m really good at kid-sitting, but babysitting (or for me watching a kid under 7 years old) is just hard.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This just comes naturally to some people I guess. I've always loved little kids, and know how to interact with them, but can relate with very few people in my own age groups. Different people relate with different folks?

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35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They're Too Afraid To Ask Riding a bike. I hopped on one for the first time in 15+ years and loved it! So I bought a bike. But... I don't know if I'm shifting and turning and doing the road rules correctly. Are there resources for grown adults who can stop, go, dismount, but not much else?

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#36

Trying to save my 16 year marriage. My wife (35f) told me (35m) she wants a divorce (2 weeks before Im supposed to have spinal fusion surgery) and hopes we can figure out how to be friends for our 2 boys.

She has had a few emotional affairs (nothing physical), and is a bit of a narcissist (blames everyone else for her problems, and takes no responsibility. Accusess anyone who disagrees with her as attacking her, Refuses counseling, and has for years) and appears to be using this as a way to create content (tiktok). I freely admit, Im not perfect and have caused issues in our marriage.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She doesn’t sound worth fighting for. Cheating emotionally is way WORSE then just physically. Lust can happen, even though in a good relationship you’d never act on it, but being emotionally attached to someone else means the current relationship is done.

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#37

Thinking, every time I speak someone say how what I just said is wrong and they are right

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#38

Programming.

I mean, I mostly understand the concepts, but I struggle and fail WAAAY more often than I succeed.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We all do... Every programmer does. At least, that is how I have managed to learn programming.

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