35 People Share Things That Confuse Them But They’re Too Afraid To Ask
Interview With AuthorWe’re only human. You can’t expect to be perfect all the time—no matter how much you strive for that, there will always be some glaring flaws and gaps in your knowledge that you might find embarrassing. It’s best to fix what you can and embrace all the rest. Though, to be fair, that’s much easier said than done. And that’s exactly what internet users have been discussing over on the r/AskReddit subreddit.
Redditor Wijting asked people to share the things that they believe they’re doing wrong, but are too scared to ask somebody about. In a very honest thread, people opened up about all the things, big and small, that they’re either too embarrassed to ask about in real life or are simply too afraid to draw attention to because they think others would make fun of them for this. Fortunately, the friendly folks of Reddit were more than happy to offer their own advice to people.
Have a read through some of these honest posts, upvote the ones that you can personally relate to, and if you’re feeling brave enough, share what you personally think you’re doing wrong in the comment section. Maybe some Pandas will come along with some helpful advice.
One of the biggest marvels in life, at least for me, is that it's never too late to start learning something new. No matter how embarrassed we might be, no matter our age, we can accomplish great things if we put in the effort. I had a chat about what we should do to put ourselves in the best possible position to learn new things as we grow older with Age UK, a charity that helps everyone make the most of later life. Scroll down for Bored Panda’s interview with them below. I also reached out to the author of the viral thread, redditor Wijting. You can read what they had to say below as well.
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I have no idea if my lunch break is an hour or 30 minutes.
Where my office is located in my building, my boss and co-workers can’t see me leave for lunch. When I started, I just began taking hour lunches like I did at my last job. Recently, I heard a co-worker mention taking her 30 minute lunch.
I’ve been taking hour long lunches for 6 years and it’s way past the point of asking…
If you are able to do all of your tasks on time, perform well, your boss is happy and no one complains, keep having a 1 hour break and in any cases do not ask. Eventually your employer pays your achievements, not the time that you sat on your chair and well rested and fed brain is likely more productive in the afternoon than brain without a break.
I feel like I’m really articulate when I’m going about my day especially over text, but as soon as I get into a verbal disagreement, it’s like my brain shuts off and I forget how to think. Like a deer in the headlights. I don’t remember it always being this way, but it’s like I struggle to accurately express myself.
I have no idea how often I should text, call or hang out with a friend to maintain a friendship. Especially long distance. I’ve lost friends over the years because I hate texting and don’t understand how often I need to keep in touch with someone. The only friends I’ve kept are the ones I can meet in person.
Redditor Wijting told Bored Panda that they were inspired to create the thread because they hope that it would help them work some stuff out. "The reason why I made the thread was because I had something on my mind. I think I've been doing something wrong for a while. I was hoping the thread would give me the courage to ask the question myself. To be honest, my particular problem compared to some answers on the thread was rather small," they opened up.
I was also interested to find out whether the redditor thinks that being candid in embarrassing and awkward situations actually helps bring people closer together. "People like honesty and honesty within any type of relationship will make the bond stronger. This is a personal view though," they told Bored Panda.
I really wish someone could supervise me during social interactions and give me real honest feedback about what I am doing wrong.
That would actually be amazing! I struggle with social interactions from time to time and I really wonder how I actually come across.
Parenting. For the last 20 years.
They all appear to be functioning human beings, so we can't be too far off the mark, but I do worry we've screwed up somewhere along the line and they'll pay the price for our mistakes in the future.
Flirting. Let's face it. I don't even know what the heck that is, how it works and what the difference between talking and flirting is. Funny enough, apparently that leads to me constantly flirty without wanting to be. At least, I often get told that I flirt with almost every single person I meet.
According to redditor Wijting, taking small steps "to build up courage" can be a good way to admit our flaws and ask someone for some helpful advice. "Try to hint at, or try to lead with smaller questions."
Wijting shared with me that they were "taken aback" by the response their thread got. "A lot of people think they are doing things wrong that I have always taken for granted. Not knowing how to shave, for instance. These questions have made me think if I'm actually doing these things wrong myself... Some questions were rather deep, and I do hope the people that have asked them got some satisfying answers."
Meanwhile, Age UK had this to say. "We know that our thinking skills change very gradually throughout our lives, but there are things we can do to help us to stay sharp," Age UK told Bored Panda. "Evidence from the Global Council of Brain Health suggests that having a positive mental attitude, a healthy diet, taking exercise, socializing, and engaging in new activities are all linked to better thinking skills later in life."
Treating my depression.
I've been in therapy for years now, have tried various anti-depressants, made huge life changes including abstaining from alcohol, removed toxic relationships, even changing my diet. I've tried everything I can find, and, if anything, things are getting worse. It's getting to the point where tomorrow I have an appointment to find out if I have cancer, and can't decide if I will bother with treatment in the case that I do.
Yeah. Three years of therapy and 2 of antidepressants and I am more apathic than ever. I am more in control, less crying, shouting, no more suicide attempts. But I hate my life more than ever and have no hope. I am simoly waiting to die but i have manh years ahead. I hope that one day my diseases get worse so i can apply for euthanasia. As they are now nobody would forgive me if I do.
Load More Replies...if a bus runs me over today i wouldn't mind.. i have a great relationship, a great job, great freinds and family and everything should be fine.. but.. no. and my therapists can't quite understand what i mean ...
I understand exactly what you mean. It's comforting to know that I'm not alone in feeling that. Thank-you for sharing and I hope it improves for you somehow.
Load More Replies...So I know the original author is unlikely to see this, but it might be an incorrect diagnosis. Depression can be a symptom for many things. I for one, have been on antidepressants for years for depression & anxiety but it turns out I've got ADD. Since treating that, I'm a whole new person. If the treatment you've been given isn't working, try and speak to your doc to get further help. ❤️
Yes to this. My daughter is not getting better with meds or therapy. Now the psychiatrics want to seek for an underlying diagnosis - they suspect autism. Depression can be a symptom, and not the basic disorder.
Load More Replies...☹☹😢😢 54 years of struggle here. I really feel where you're at right now. My God how I wish I could give you an absolute one answer that if you do this one thing it will fix it. Various anti depressants. I dont know your MD situation, but have you tried every one there is? There are also meds that can be used that are called "off label". Some psychiatrists are better at meds than others. My MD didn't have anymore answers but consulted his partner who is medication genius. Made all the difference. Please, at this point dont just decide not to. It may get to the point where you change your mind & it will be too late to do anything. If you start treatment & really decide you want to stop, you can. Also in many cancer treatment centers they have mental health resources for others with cancer. Plug into that. Tell them this.Tell them right away. They may have resources yet known to you. Have you been in the hospital? I have. Its really not scary there at all. One big all enveloping hug.
I can't possibly imagine the whole extend how you are feeling...but I can relay a bit too i (F27) am depressed since my late Teenager years and currently in therapy since about 3 or 4 years now. Have you tried to do a medical checkup? checking your hormones and if you have a chronic inflammation? Inflammations literally "eat up" a lot of Serotonin (we produce 90% of it in our intestines) if you have a chronic bowel inflammation you might even not be able to assimilate all the necessary Elements. Your body can't produce the right Hormones to feel happy anymore and your depression gets triggered even more. - try getting a chronic / low-grade inflammation checkup - take some supplements such as: Vitamine D / L-Tryptophan / Zink / Magnesium / Iron / Proteins - eat a more plant based diet with lots of omega 3 fats, organic is the better choice! - avoid processed Foods and red meat - if you need to eat meat try to get premium meat (hormones and meds they give animals are also bad for us)
Have you checked your Vitamin B12, Iron and thyroid levels by a blood test? Too high and to low are equally bad for your mental health! I know what I'm talking about. An imbalance is devastating for your mental health. Forget the low scheduled stuff you can get at a drug store, if you are too low on B12, you need the very high (i.e. 3 oz), and iron 0,002 oz per DAY! Do this like 1 month straight and have your blood levels examined again. Regarding the prescription medication for my thyroid malfunction, I know I have an easy say in Germany, as we have National Health insurance and I pay roughly 5$ for a pill package worth 3 months daily intake, but please get a test. This can make a difference. Sometimes it’s just tiny little bit that’s off. Please take these tests to have clarity on what's wrong.
Please, please get everyone get a genetic test done. It was the first thing my Mental Health Nurse Practioner did for me. It helped her to know what medications would help the most and the least. She did her thesis on genetic and the effects of the brain. I also take L-methylfolate which has helped tremendously. I addition I take vitamin D, B-12 Methylcobalamin (has to be this one to work with the L-methylfolate), fish oil and two supplements of Standard Process Symplex F and Catalyn. If I don't take my vitamins and supplements, my medication doesn't work. Please try to find a MHNP instead of a doctor as they are more knowledgeable about mental health and medications (and more open minded) than doctors tend to be. My sisters and I have all struggled with depression and I seem to be the only one doing better because I am seeing a MHNP and not a doctor. I also have to take certain brands of meds and vitamins because the "fillers" used make them affect the meds. Stay strong!
Does anybody know how to "fire" your therapist? Mine is a very sweet woman but she is not helping me anymore and while she really tries she cant understand my situation. I am tired of hearing false hope and positivity but I dont want to hurt her because she is kind. But its too expensive to do it just to not hurt a person.
Therapist here. No need to beat around the bush. Just tell her it isn't working for you. 80% of therapy success is based on the therapeutic relationship. Sometimes it's just not a match.
Load More Replies...41 years old, still fighting since 13 and strong medication but the best therapy for me is a trustworthy friend or companion that you can talk and talk about that and what ever crosses your mind. " karens" with their cats are in the top 10s 😁 please try it or something like that 🥰💜💙💚 something silly and entertaining. Though documentaries is a big addiction for me as well🥰
Yep, I've been on antidepressants for almost ten years now. I'm now on the maximum amount I can take, I do feel better and feel ok but I havent felt good in a long time
This is insane This is literally my story Like , every part of it down to the cancer and I have already decided if I get it I won’t be having any treatment and I’m currently right now beyond it to hoping like hell I do have cancer I feel like this person just wrote my own story at me
Same. I don't have cancer (AFAIK) but I already know that if I get it, I'm not fighting. And most of the time I hope I get it. The other day I saw a soap that's supposed to be bad for you because of cancer cases linked to it and my brain went 'hey, buy the soap!'
Load More Replies...On my bad days I try to hold onto the thought that one day I might feel better than I do today. I am the classic - have a smile on my face - work - but how I do it I really don't know. I know I'm not suicidal, but I want to feel real again. I work as a Carer looking after the elderly, I love my job, however it adds another layer of despair about my future, I have no pension, savings, and tbh the future just looks so bleak. It all consumes me everyday. X
oh dear! i am so sorry! i know how not the whole extend but just a little of how it feels!... Have you tried to do a medical checkup meaning: checking your hormones and if you have a chronic inflammation? Inflammations eat up a lot of Serotonin (we produce 90% of it in our intestines) if you have a chronic bowel inflammation it might "eat up" all your necessary Elements, your body needs to assimilate so it can produce the right Hormones to feel happy and properly function! i am also depressed and found out about my irritable bowel syndrome last year after almost 2 years of treatement.
I hear you. Sometimes I think you have to stop trying and just accept. Call our your feelings and emotions and just accept them like old friends. Everytime you try to change yourself, you end up feeling worse. Some people just aren't very positive. Learn to live with your feelings/emotions instead of fighting them all the time. See how that goes?
I've learned to live with my depression as it with me since I was in elementary school. It's rough af, some months are worse and I just sit there staring at the wall, and some months are better when I'm almost-functioning adult. Though honestly, it makes it impossible to get and hold a job, as I never know whether I'll be able to think next week or be a human vegetable again...
Load More Replies...I'm not sure if you've tried this, but try exercising. It helped me immensely when I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder. I know anxiety and depression are different things, but they both do affect you mentally and exercising boosts your mental health as well as physical.
I find it best to try other things. Medicine that works can stop working over time. Finding not just the right new meds but the right dosage does take huuuge patience. Being patient with yourself too. It's bound to be depressing if you tried all these things and it hasn't worked- I understand that. Don't give up :) you can do it, even if the "it" is just a matter of years of patience. I found- for me, (and it's ok if you work differently)- that it's a combination of the right meds at the right dose with the right therapist and the right friends. All that takes time.
you need a goal, something to dedicate your life to, if you're empty, you will be depressed
depression is horrible, no one understands, i hope you are well, and still moving forward. hugs
I started volunteering with street people,i am still on meds but I ave been changed so much.I love my "pepole" and I am also a street mom.
My recovery of depression began when I removed myself from a toxic environment and stopped believing the lies I was telling myself. I know that's not what will work for everyone, but that's what worked for me.
I know what worked for me, I was depressed for years and of the verge of taking my own life. Even if depression is a chemical unbalance, it's still create by a problem or a sum up of problems you have, when I figured out what my problem was I started to do something about it.
Try looking into potential other problems that could be causing or worsening your depression, I was on a bunch of anxiety meds and antidepressants and they made things worse only for me to find out my main issue was adhd and I've been on meds for it for about a month and a half and it's helped more than I could ever believe Also having a good therapist u trust and like to talk to that makes u feel truly heard and understood u can really give you hope, just feeling like someone understands and helps even minimally is reassuring. There is hope and it will get better Just take it each day, baby steps, it starts with just one thing getting better a month, then a week, then every day and one day you'll realise how much u have progressed and how much better you feel Whoever is reading this know that you will get better, you're doing great and I'm proud of u Don't give up Just take it one day at a time
Professionals said I was a depressed alcoholic. Later I found out I suffer from GAD, and possibly BPD. Getting the right diagnosis really help. Slowly, veeeeery slowly, my life is getting better. So, don´t give up! Keep on fighting and it will get better for you to.
So many of us barely function. We exist. We do not live. You know what? That is ok. It is ok to get thru today, then tomorrow one day at a time doing the minimum. As long as you wash and feed yourself, that's awesome and it will have to do if you cannot do more. It is ok to live an ordinary life and just do your best. Many pandas are struggling. We can struggle together.
I hear you completely. It's like managing depression is a full time job. Over the years I have learned that if I try too hard it gets worse. Making something else your focus and stepping back from all the treatment helps me mentally. Of course I am still on meds and in therapy, but making something else a priority (something just for me) helps tremendously.
Not the way most of us wanna do it, but messing with different meds is the ONLY thing to help me. Even bought a pistol at 18 because in 3rd grade said I wanted to die before 30, and had almost a total breakdown near 28 to find out if I wanted to join the 27 club. Even offered people money and my gun to do it. well, turned 30 a few weeks back. everything is just Fn mundane, but Im not as sad.
Does (potential) cancer seem like a way to leave this world? This might be an idea which stems from your depression. Perhaps do not stop to fight it - I know enough people who finally defeated it.
depression can be from PTSD as well as many other reasons, check the criteria, then treat the cause, not the symptom
call someone RIGHT NOW....this is the first time I have ever wanted to post something saying this -if I ha your address or phone I would message you immediately - you are NOT alone!
I concur with everything above. I've done everything I can but still have to bat away the urge to just give up, every single day.
While removing toxic elements in your life is important it can be even more important to seek joy. Find something you love and make time for it.
Psychedelic medicine is having tremendous success with treating depression, especially for patients who aren't having success with regular psych meds. Ketamine , LSD, MDMA, and even shrooms. Please don't give up. You can feel better
Physical illness can add to depression. Possibly the potential cancer has been lurking for a while. Please tell the doctor and please get treatment and stay with us.
I gave up on meds ages ago. Most worked for a year or two, then made things worse. Now, I practice emotion regulation and Jedi mind tricks, like knowing that even a fake smile will release "happy chemicals" in my brain.
google smiling depression... cleared up some mysteries for my case. Still stuck like you, but now have a starting point to try new options.
It's okay. You'll get through this eventually. Sometimes even the best treatments can't help, but just continuing to go on does.
You need a positive perspective for the future. A point you enjoy focussing on.
Thats easier said than done. How to be positive about the future when your brain tells you that it will never be positive? Or in my case when i know that i will never be healthy again or have the life i want.
Load More Replies...It's all about the mindset. As a person with previously detrimental habits I've personally learned simply living only for the day, taking my medicine and appreciating every little happy moment. Like getting a milkshake from McDonalds. It's the little things that change it all.
Life.
Like what I supposed to be doing? I have about 80 years total. So far, I’ve learned stuff, got married, and got a good job. Am I just grinding out the rest of my years?
Ever since the earliest age, we are introduced and guided through a set of rules. As a result, we expect there's always a task, or a model image for us to emulate. But once you're out of school, there's no more guidance. Now it's up to you to guide others. So you have to change the approach to life. Stop thinking in terms of "supposed to do" and start with "what do I really want to do? What is it that makes me happy?" If you're not sure, try to accumulate different kinds of experience, be it through hobbies, friendships, education, travel, work etc. And keep observing how you do within these and how it makes you feel, whether you want to keep it, improve it, or leave it. You have way more freedom than you know.
According to a representative of Age UK, it's vital that we keep our bodies and our minds in tip-top shape. The relationship between the two is well-established, so taking care of your body is bound to have a positive effect on your mind, too.
"It is clear to scientists and doctors that keeping the blood vessels and blood flow healthy is also key to maintaining your brain function as you age so what is good for the heart is good for the brain too," Age UK points out.
However, some other things that help us stay curious and willing to learn and explore new things include having a strong sense of purpose and having an active social life as well. What's more, we ought to be as realistic as possible about our own limits and plan accordingly.
My job.
Everyone says I'm doing great and praises me for being so efficient or being ahead on my training but I feel like I'm constantly having to ask questions and do extensive research on what the f**k I'm supposed to do in specific situations.
Relationships. Throughout my life I've never gotten much romantic attention, and when I do receive it, I tend to be obnoxiously clingy, which leads to being left alone again. I don't know how to break this habit, because my emotions are just strong.
"Keeping active and busy and discovering new things and even making sure we stay socially active all help to keep us brighter as we get older. Setting goals and making plans gives our lives meaning and purpose, but make sure they’re realistic plans. For example, rather than saying ‘I plan to exercise for one hour every day,’ plan instead to go for a 20-minute walk, three times a week."
Finding the courage to admit that you’re doing something wrong is commendable. Being brave enough to set your ego aside and actually reach out for help is worth applauding, in my personal opinion.
Earlier, I had a chat about healthy and unhealthy ways of showing embarrassment with regards to our knowledge blindspots with Vanessa Bohns from Cornell University.
Anything related to being an adult, straight up no F**king idea what I’m doing…
Standing up for myself and maintaining boundaries. I'm working on it but it's hard because I am just figuring it out (kind of) and people keep trying to push me back to being the doormat I used to be. It's so tempting to be that person again because I hate disrupting the calm, but I was just so tired.
In any situation (as long as a gun isn't pointed at you) stand up for your self even toward people who think they are superior to you because no one is!
Supervising. I am put in the position, but just rely on the efficiency of my subordinates. As soon as there's someone who's lazy or a troublemaker, I've got to figure out how to approach it.
Be encouraging but direct. It takes a kind, humble, straight forward, strong minded, truthful, and understanding person to be able to manage other people. We tend to think calling people out or getting other's to do their job properly. Is somehow mean or we don't want to come off as bossy. But the right attitude and getting to know those you manage somewhat personally. Helps you figure out how to guide them. Just remember to encourage and be nice. People usually want to do what you say when they feel needed and lifted up.
"We spend a lot of time and effort presenting an ideal version of ourselves to other people. When something happens that contrasts with the image we’ve been projecting—when we say or do something that shows we actually aren’t as graceful or as smart as we’d like people to believe—we feel embarrassed," Vanessa told Bored Panda in a previous interview.
"Discovering you were wrong about something most everyone else around you has long known to be true is one of those moments. In that moment we learn, 'Wait a minute, maybe I haven’t been presenting the image of being smart or worldly that I thought I was presenting all this time,' which is embarrassing,” she noted that embarrassment comes from the contrast from what we thought was true and what reality is actually like.
Showering. I have very very long thick hair and I just kind of blast shampoo and conditioner at it. People ask me what I do to keep my hair so nice and I have no idea what to say. People seem to have such complex hair rituals and I’m here just apeing it up.
General conversation I just suck at talking to people I don't really know or don't know at all. Sometimes when I get tips for stuff I respond "yes" or "ok" or "thank you" and even that feels weird or wrong, even the action of saying "hello" feels off... It even happens with firends sometimes...
Try talking about the other person. Most people love talking about themselves. Find out about their hobbies, their pets, their favorite bands.
Dating. Like how the f**k do you find people, that are equally interested in going out with you as you are with them. And then you somehow have to notice that they'd be interested in going out. I just don't understand it, and it sometimes makes me feel like I'll never go on one because of it
No no no ,the question is how the hell do people just agree to go on a date with humans they don't even know?! I am scared to go out with my friends.Forget that how do you trust ,it'll all be ok?What this blind faith?I am awkward just talking with humans I've known for decades.Dating is just plain scary.Well,relationships are scarier.But we somehow survive.
However, embarrassment isn’t all that bad. In fact, it has some upsides that should have you rushing to embarrass yourself as often as you can. “One thing that’s interesting about embarrassment is that, for as much as we might experience it as painful in the moment, it’s actually very socially adaptive.”
Vanessa continued: “Being embarrassed signals to other people that you care about what they think. And that actually draws people in to you.” In short, embarrassment has painful short-term effects but very positive long-term effects. If we learn to deal with the former well, then we’ll be able to reap the latter.
Studying. I have no idea how other people do it. When I read something I retain very little of it, so I resort to writing down what I think are important details, which is most things for me, but it takes so long and I still have to rely on my brain to remember thing by simple repetition.
Writing it down is the only way I retain information. It takes a really long time, but it's the only thing that really works for me.
How to handle anger? I'm too embarrassed to ask
My friends used the gym as a way to help vent a lot of frustration he has, he says that it helps him think things through.
Is is bad to say everything I have no idea what the f**k I’m doing anymore
“So blushing, burying your head in your hands, laughing, acknowledging how embarrassing something was, are all totally healthy ways to react,” Vanessa explained to Bored Panda. “The unhealthy way to react is to pretend you’re not embarrassed, that you didn’t make a mistake, or to get angry. Those things undo the positive effect of embarrassment typically has on other people by conveying insincerity and pushing people away rather than drawing them in.”
When I started my first job I didn't know if an 8 hour work day meant including the break or not, and I was too afraid to ask.
Kissing. I’ve had no complaints but it’s not really something your parents taught you to do properly (unless you’re into that)
How to speak up on problems or expressing certain emotions. I keep stuff bottled up inside
Because you are afraid of the possible reactions. Only trying and finding out you are accepted is helpful.
My PhD.
Going into my third year and I still don't feel as if I ever adjusted, or developed healthy habits.
Just trying to take it a day at a time and not procrastinate beyond no return.
Stick with it. You’ll have the degree, instead of regrets about quitting when you were so close. A doctorate will also open more doors, especially in your field, so you’ll have jobhunting options. You’ll always have the fallback to teaching at the university level, where the real money is, as long as you stick with it long enough to gain tenure. Plus it allows you to continue doing research, and often fully funds it as well.
Being a picky eater. So preparing food, I've been wanting to try new things, but I have no idea what to buy, how to prepare it, and it scares me to ask because I don't want it to sound like I'm some sort of alien.
The best way (when there's no pandemic) is to ask a friend if you can try a bite of what they're eating. Or go to restaurants that encourage sharing. Or host a pot luck dinner
Writing. I love writing, and have written a few short stories older the years, and I show it to friends of mine who read, but every single person has said they loved it. I ask for constructive criticism, and sometimes they want the story to go differently, but it's so damn rare I get an opinion on my actual writing. My descriptions, vocabulary, the flow of the story, etc. Well, too scared to ask someone who will give me an actual opinion.
There are writer communities online that proofread eachothers work. You can also hire a professional proofreader. Google is your friend.
Relationships.
I recently started out in the dating scene and i dont know whats the difference between being a couple and being really good friends.
Also: sex is really strange to me.
I'm a girl. Not sure if I'm supposed to shave the thin blonde hairs in my thighs or not. Sometimes they look darker, but sometimes they look blonde.
I shave the rest of my legs ( below the knee), but I'm in my 30s. Feels like I should know this already....
Gym exercises and weights. I am very afraid of the public gyms... I opted to buy my own weights and machines but... When lifting stuff I don't know if I am carrying too much or too little. Is it supposed to not hurt? My back hurts a bit when I'm doing basic stuff like dumbells.
Babysitting. I babysat a few times when I was 13 or 14, and I wasn’t sure if I was just supposed to check in on the kid, or play with them, or just like, make sure they're good. I’m really good at kid-sitting, but babysitting (or for me watching a kid under 7 years old) is just hard.
This just comes naturally to some people I guess. I've always loved little kids, and know how to interact with them, but can relate with very few people in my own age groups. Different people relate with different folks?
Riding a bike. I hopped on one for the first time in 15+ years and loved it! So I bought a bike. But... I don't know if I'm shifting and turning and doing the road rules correctly. Are there resources for grown adults who can stop, go, dismount, but not much else?
Trying to save my 16 year marriage. My wife (35f) told me (35m) she wants a divorce (2 weeks before Im supposed to have spinal fusion surgery) and hopes we can figure out how to be friends for our 2 boys.
She has had a few emotional affairs (nothing physical), and is a bit of a narcissist (blames everyone else for her problems, and takes no responsibility. Accusess anyone who disagrees with her as attacking her, Refuses counseling, and has for years) and appears to be using this as a way to create content (tiktok). I freely admit, Im not perfect and have caused issues in our marriage.
She doesn’t sound worth fighting for. Cheating emotionally is way WORSE then just physically. Lust can happen, even though in a good relationship you’d never act on it, but being emotionally attached to someone else means the current relationship is done.
Thinking, every time I speak someone say how what I just said is wrong and they are right
Programming.
I mean, I mostly understand the concepts, but I struggle and fail WAAAY more often than I succeed.
We all do... Every programmer does. At least, that is how I have managed to learn programming.
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This post makes me realise I am really not alone with some of what I sometimes consider ridiculous thoughts/feelings/questions/fears. We're all just winging it really!
Do redditors know ,we have full blown discussions about their lives on BP?
I'm sure some of them do as reddit posts feature on about 90% of BP posts.
Load More Replies...Good lord, have none of these people heard of YouTube? Aside from very specific questions, they could find nearly any answer there.
Well, most of these questions should’ve been addressed by parents in raising their kids and most others are easily googled. Do people not raise kids anymore? Just feed, keep alive and done?
Probably not relevant but sometimes I forget to breathe?
I would really like an answer to the study question. Been in college for a couple years now and still feel like I'm not doing it right
So much of this is just imposter syndrome. If someone thinks youre doing well, even if you dont really know what ur doing, just keep doing it!! its working apparently!! fake it til u make it lol
Been married for 9 years now and my husband and I have absolutely no idea what a marriage is supposed to feel like. We're pretty much just two big kids playing house, who occasionally argue about stupid stuff
Well, if it works it works. No set rules for marriage there.
Load More Replies...Wow, a bunch of scared, insecure people out there. All of us are scared but we buck up, brave up, and grow up and ask in order to learn.
And unfortunately this advise falls flat on people who want their hand held through life. I get sympathizing and empathizing as I get anxious at some stuff-socially really, but sometimes it is too much and people cannot even function theyre too scared.
Load More Replies...three things: 1. how to not move around constantly (i'm always moving. always. when i stay still it feels wrong, kinda like my limbs aren't there? idk. i think what i do is called stimming but i'm neurotypical to my knowledge so idk) 2. how to social interact. i get really into things and want to tell everyone everything about it that i know but im bad at reading cues so idk when people get bored.
You sound autistic vs neurotypical actually.
Load More Replies...Bored Panda should stop stealing Reddit topics.. we all give super good advice to the questions.. but.. because the posts originate on Reddit.. the poster will never see the advice.
My best friend and I went to the midnight screening of each movie. We took turns paying brought our wine tumblers. Yes we were in our late 30s no I'm not ashamed it was so much fun.
This post makes me realise I am really not alone with some of what I sometimes consider ridiculous thoughts/feelings/questions/fears. We're all just winging it really!
Do redditors know ,we have full blown discussions about their lives on BP?
I'm sure some of them do as reddit posts feature on about 90% of BP posts.
Load More Replies...Good lord, have none of these people heard of YouTube? Aside from very specific questions, they could find nearly any answer there.
Well, most of these questions should’ve been addressed by parents in raising their kids and most others are easily googled. Do people not raise kids anymore? Just feed, keep alive and done?
Probably not relevant but sometimes I forget to breathe?
I would really like an answer to the study question. Been in college for a couple years now and still feel like I'm not doing it right
So much of this is just imposter syndrome. If someone thinks youre doing well, even if you dont really know what ur doing, just keep doing it!! its working apparently!! fake it til u make it lol
Been married for 9 years now and my husband and I have absolutely no idea what a marriage is supposed to feel like. We're pretty much just two big kids playing house, who occasionally argue about stupid stuff
Well, if it works it works. No set rules for marriage there.
Load More Replies...Wow, a bunch of scared, insecure people out there. All of us are scared but we buck up, brave up, and grow up and ask in order to learn.
And unfortunately this advise falls flat on people who want their hand held through life. I get sympathizing and empathizing as I get anxious at some stuff-socially really, but sometimes it is too much and people cannot even function theyre too scared.
Load More Replies...three things: 1. how to not move around constantly (i'm always moving. always. when i stay still it feels wrong, kinda like my limbs aren't there? idk. i think what i do is called stimming but i'm neurotypical to my knowledge so idk) 2. how to social interact. i get really into things and want to tell everyone everything about it that i know but im bad at reading cues so idk when people get bored.
You sound autistic vs neurotypical actually.
Load More Replies...Bored Panda should stop stealing Reddit topics.. we all give super good advice to the questions.. but.. because the posts originate on Reddit.. the poster will never see the advice.
My best friend and I went to the midnight screening of each movie. We took turns paying brought our wine tumblers. Yes we were in our late 30s no I'm not ashamed it was so much fun.