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Depending on whether you're a man or a woman, the way you walk through this life can be wildly different. In 2017, Pew asked Americans what qualities they value most in men and in women.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, most respondents said that physical attractiveness, being nurturing, and being empathetic are the top traits for women. For men, the top three are honesty, morality, and professional success.

It seems like we all still have a long way to go when it comes to traditional gender roles. For instance, there are a lot of things men think women might never understand about being a man.

But this time, we're shining a light on the things that are deemed normal when men do it, but somehow weird if a woman does it. We've found the most interesting answers from folks in the thread where one netizen asked: " What are men allowed to do but when women do it it's a big no-no?" and present them to you here!

#1

Woman with curly hair and red lipstick looking concerned, illustrating things women are not allowed to do freely. Have five kids across three spouses, cheat notoriously, pay [adult workers], defend sexual [attack], while being bankrolled by a guy with 14 kids with 6 women, mostly out of wedlock.

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Ruthie R
Community Member
2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"adult workers"? Pleeeeease stop the euphemisms.

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    #2

    Stressed woman working on laptop while holding child, highlighting challenges women face in work-life balance and freedoms. Leave most of the parenting to the other partner.

    tronassembled , Yan Krukau Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A parent can still be a deadbeat despite living in the same household and still be in a relationship with the other parent. If more people viewed in this perspective maybe society will understand how twisted we treat mothers.

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a childfree older woman, I was always about just... leaving parenting altogether for people who actually want to be parents. Any pushback on my body, my life, my choices told me exactly who that person was, and they were just immdiately dropped. No regrets.

    spacer
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    sadly enough you have people who have kids because they feel like its a right, or to pass down the family name or to have someone to take care of you when you get old - but dont want to have to actually take responsibility. and more often than not the guy is the one who can dip out :/

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    #3

    Young woman in a gray hoodie and jeans adjusting her sleeve, illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Have pockets large enough to hold things.

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    Data1001
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This has gotta be a conspiracy, it's so crazy that women's clothing has such terrible small pockets (or no pockets at all). I think if men had to deal with that, we'd definitely carry purses ourselves, lol.

    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I 100% believe the conspiracy theory that women's pockets are small to make them buy more handbags and keep the handbag's industry alive.

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    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Clothes makers are in the pocket of Big Handbag.

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll constantly offer to put my male friends' phones in my bag, forgetting that they can just stick them in their pockets

    CD Mills
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would cut the inside part of the front pockets off my husbands old, raggedy jeans and replace my jeans tiny pockets with them! I refuse to have tiny pockets!

    Anne Roberts
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't stand fake pockets on pants. Why do they even bother?

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    #4

    Doctor consulting a pregnant woman in a medical room with ultrasound equipment, highlighting things women are not allowed to do. Make choices about their reproductive health.

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    A. Br.
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This pisses me off to no end, and I'm a guy

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Advocate. Advocate. Advocate for yourself. If you're not feeling supported by one doctor, seek out another, and keep doing that until you find one that actually listens.

    Multa Nocte
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In this case I believe it is about the state/country taking away your reproductive health options.

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    dan s
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    2 months ago

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    #5

    Female doctor consulting woman at office desk, highlighting differences in things women are not allowed to do versus men. Enjoy bodily autonomy.

    Gingersnapspeaks , Pavel Danilyuk Report

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Enjoy it, and hype it up. Again, anyone who pushes back can be dropped without feeling bad at all. Anyone who pushes back is, IMO, outing themselves as a predator, or if it's a woman, someone with really pathetic internalized misogyny.

    Allen Packard
    Community Member
    2 months ago

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    Have you ever heard of the draft?

    liam newton-harding
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When was the last time America drafted its soldiers. And by the way, the taco gubment just made it less safe to be a female soldier, just today.

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    #6

    A woman walking alone in an empty industrial street at night, highlighting things women are not allowed to do. Walk alone at night.

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    arthbach
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is entirely dependent on where you live. I have no fears walking in my area at night.

    GalPalAl
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this is becoming even more problematic for men too as of late.

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For the men in these comments, I'm pretty sure it more means "Walk alone at night without fearing being SAd"

    Snackmachine
    Community Member
    Premium
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a man, I am still afraid to walk alone at night in my city

    dan s
    Community Member
    2 months ago

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    Men are far more likely to be attacked on the street. Yes, by other men, men can be violent monsters, but the point is, women seem to think they're the only ones who have something to fear walking the streets at night.

    #7

    Woman expressing frustration during a conversation, illustrating challenges women face compared to men freely. Show anger. Men get respect, women get called emotional.

    uwuvxdh , Liza Summer Report

    meow point1
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that's if we're lucky - if we're unlucky, we get called hormonal or crazy.

    Data1001
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I don't know any man who gets respect for losing his temper. Case in point, we had a Zoom meeting at work recently and one of the senior VPs was on the call, losing his mind over something that definitely didn't require that sort of response (although even if it did, I still don't think it would've been appropriate). After he left the call, several of us -- mostly the guys -- called him out for being unprofessional and melodramatic.

    GalPalAl
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this should be higher up and really does need to stop

    nicholas nolan
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men get told to f**k themselves. Who wrote this?

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Show anger, but do so when it makes the biggest impact. Constant anger gets ignored. Choose your moment, and showing anger as a woman is nothing but power. Society fears women's anger precisely because it is so powerful and devastating.

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    #8

    A man walking barefoot on a wooden path through trees, illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can. Be topless.

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    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This has always dumbstruck me. There are men out there with bigger breasts than some women. We all have nipples, but somehow a woman's is shameful. Some men I would prefer to not see them topless.

    Wij
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cos the bewbs on men are gross and ugly. On women, they are a magical thing. Don’t know why, but we are mesmerized by them and behave stupidly when we see them in public.

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    alchemilla vulgaris
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I heard that in Scotland, people assigned man at birth but transitioning to women have staged a topless protest. If the police arrest them for indecent exposure, they have to agree that they are arresting women, because male chest nudity is not a crime in the UK. If on the other hand the police want to consider them as men, they can't be arrested. Checkmate and genius.

    Jessica Senia
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about we all just wear shirts?

    dan s
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The sad thing isn't that women can't go topless, it's that they'd have to be out of their minds to do so. It's been legal in Canada for decades but I've never seen a single woman do it. There'd be instant harassment, if not violence. Personally, I'd say that I don't want to see 99.9% of the people in the world topless. Even a misanthrope like me would never subject humanity to the war crime that is my upper body.

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    what are our views on non-binary nipples?

    GalPalAl
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to not think anything of this, but as I have gotten older, it's a little off putting seeing men with no shirts on. Can't put my finger on the reason, but it just feels inappropriate for just walking around in public when not accompanied by exercise

    Sam Trudeau
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even as a male, I never understand this. My best guess is because for females they actually do something.

    Dirk Daring
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Perfectly legal in many places in the USA, just saying.

    L.V
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Legal sure, but risk free? Not so much

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    Anne Roberts
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll never forget when my granddaughter was maybe 5 years old and we saw a man running with no shirt on. She was stunned, like "Grandma, he's naked!".He wasn't really but her reaction was priceless.

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    #9

    Woman organizing planning and calendar sheets on a white wall, illustrating challenges women face compared to men freely. Opt out of participating in family function planning scheduling. A husband/man can just not participate and no one bats an eye. But if the in laws reach out to organize Thanksgiving/Christmas/summer/family traditions and she doesn’t respond or jump into happily planning she is a “[jerk] that is trying to steal our son/brother/friend”.

    And her parents wouldn’t reach out to him to expect him to plan. She gets the privilege of doing both sides of the family.

    enduranceathlete2025 , Hanna Pad Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The way to avoid that is to live a long way away from both families.

    Anne Roberts
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My former in-laws were so prickly that I had my husband do any planning that involved them.

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    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was married twice for 25 years and somehow got very lucky and never had to do this. First time, first husband lived a long way away, both parents were dead, and he had a step-father he was NC with for good reason. Second time, (now late) husband was a natural social planner, and he enjoyed it, so it worked for us. You CAN step back, and that's the lesson here.

    L.V
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thankfully, in my marriage we each deal with our own family. With approval from the other of course, but the logistics and other details are left to be figured out by wieners l whoever's family it is.

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    #10

    Woman sorting clothes in a sunlit room, surrounded by garments, highlighting things women are not allowed to do freely. Not know how to do basic life skills. 

    If a man doesn’t know how to clean, cook, do laundry etc women are expected to do it for them and/or their mothers are blamed for not teaching it

    Women are just not allowed to not know. If they don’t know they have to figure it out.

    thewizardsbaker11 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    Fat Harry (Oi / You)
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This works both ways. Men are expected to know how to wire a plug, change a socket, put up a shelf, or change a tyre, but women aren't. Only today I saw a post of BP where a woman said she "got her boyfriend to change the locks". Why couldn't she do it? And I say that as a fully trained man who can do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, lawn mowing, minor electrical work, small car repairs, and decorating. EVERYONE should be able to do at least some of these things, regardless of gender (and both my stepdaughters know how to change a tyre, by the way).

    Marnie
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree. However, I think one difference is those type of tasks are infrequent, whereas laundry, cooking, dishes, cleaning the house, etc. are very frequent.

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    dan s
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    2 months ago

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    B******t. 30-40 years ago, sure. Now? Complete nonsense. Once women find something to be outraged about, they won't let it go, no matter if the facts still support it.

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    #11

    Young woman holding a vintage camera outdoors, reflecting on things women are not allowed to do compared to men freely. Not smiling.

    Jakub-Martinec , Marcelo Dias Report

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Big fan of not smiling here, unless I actually want to, simply because it's such a sexist stereotype, and expected. It's a powerful microfeminist way of pushing back against patriarchy. Highly recommend. It's your face, do with it what you will.

    Day Andie
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is my peaceful happy resting b***h face and if you make me mad by asking me to smile, you'll see my unhappy b***h face. And you won't like it.

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    AU where Jeff the Killer is a woman who kept getting told to smile so she carved one into her face and chases trashy men in the streets

    Anne Roberts
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was actually reprimanded by another woman while walking one day. She yelled at me to "SMILE". I had just lost my mother. As they say, be kind to others. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. 💔

    L.V
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope. Since I mastered resting b face, I'm not stopped by random people trying to sell me stuff. Nevermind strangers that I don't care about

    T'Mar of Vulcan
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This must be a Gilead thing. I live in South Africa and have never been told to smile, not once.

    KatWitch57
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can you imagine this discussion between male and female wolves?

    dan s
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know how to do a link but the women of Broad City know exactly how to deal with this. Season 2 Ep 10 St Marks.

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    #12

    Young woman enjoying a meal outdoors, illustrating social moments related to things women are not allowed to do freely. Eat big portions. Men are "hungry," women are "unladylike.".

    io-psychologist , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I absolutely hate that term "ladylike".

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Again, eat the big portions, and out those who are body shamers and who project their own food issues, then drop them.

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and when it IS seen as fine or even cute, the woman always has to be slender and pretty

    Mindghost
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like women who eat big portions :) Unless it makes them unhealthy

    dan s
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only people, 100% of the time who do this, are other women. We find it s**y.

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    #13

    Woman sitting on outdoor steps looking upset while a man walks away, illustrating gender inequality themes. Abandon their child. I say this laying on a hospital couch next to my sleeping wife after she just gave birth to our daughter.

    Single moms pick up the slack all the time and the farther is just considered a dead beat. If a mother abandoned the family, she is considered vile and heartless.

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    Aileen Grist
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And often single mums are look down on for being single mums - as if they were ther only ones who could have prevented it.

    MojoIn Atlnta
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh don’t worry - there are plenty of us Dad’s who do not overlook the actions of deadbeat s***m donors.

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    #14

    Woman holding tablet wearing a pink blazer, representing topics about things women are not allowed to do versus men freely. Have hair everywhere but their head.

    Unlucky_Bug2132 , Anna Shvets Report

    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I shaved my head people asked me if I : Had cancer, went to the military (I was 17), got punished by my parents. They were all dumbfounded when I answered that I just liked having my head shaved. Anyway, my head has been hair-free for 3 years now and it's heaven !

    spacer
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    also how hair dressers will pretty much cry or announce it as being brave when a woman wants to cut her hair short omg

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    KatWitch57
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    6 months after cancer remission I wanted to "brave the shave". My boss F, told me I would have to buy and wear a wig.

    nottheactualphoto
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If F wants you to wear a wig, F can F'ing well pay for it. Wigs are expensive.

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    AC
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hair or no hair anywhere on a woman doesn't take away any beauty. Gail Porter from where I am is stunning bald

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    every time a guy asks me to shave I'll just be like "Bet, I'll start with my head, then do eyebrows"

    Anne Roberts
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I known several women who shaved their heads. You need the right type of personality, but it is certainly low maintenance.

    T'Mar of Vulcan
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was determined to rock my bald head when my hair fell out after chemo. But no one tells you that the reason most people wear scarves, hats or wigs is that you feel uncomfortable with no hair. Every little gust of wind feels odd, you put your hand up to brush through your hair and hit bare skin. I couldn't take it and wore a scarf, tied like a doek (rhymes with Babadook), which is what South African black people call a scarf tied the traditional way. I got so many compliments!

    Jeff Anderson
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't of these are ridiculous. Not everyone is treated like this. My wife doesn't shave her armpits or legs and doesn't bother anyone we know myself included

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    #15

    Young woman wearing a party hat holding a birthday cake, reflecting on gender role differences women are not allowed to do. Age, past 35.

    raerae1991 , Polina Tankilevitch Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, I guess the women who've had the privilege and opportunity to live past 35 have broken this rule.

    Nina
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But we're still not allowed to _show_ we're aging

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    VNES101
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apparently 40 is the new 60 because the amount of times I've heard that a 40 year old is an old woman... I'm 44 and I still feel young.

    L.V
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Something is about perspective. When I was 20, 40 was old. Now I'm over 40 and I feel most people my age are still in their prime. Well, until I get a random pain when I wake up 😆

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    katiekat0214
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read somewhere, I know I'm supposed to fear and dread aging, but every year I sink more and more blissfully into this miasma of realness, DGAF, and pleasing myself, and it just rocks so hard... or something like that. I'm 50+, can confirm, 10/10, recommend!

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An older woman looks older: "WHY DOESN'T SHE TAKE CARE OF HERSELF??" - An older woman gets plastic surgery so she doesn't look older: "WHY CAN'T SHE JUST AGE GRACEFULLY????"

    Snackmachine
    Community Member
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That cake looks good

    dan s
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What an odd thing to say. You can't go for a minute without finding some article, photo spread, social media post celebrating women aging gracefully. Pamela Anderson got a movie deal and a return to relevence by constantly yapping about how she's aging naturally and doesn't wear makeup. She's a hero. She's so brave! Meanwhile, the VAST majority of men are Yeah sure, whatever. We didn't really care in the first place. Again, another thing that doesn't really exist anymore but women feel the need to constantly perpetuate.

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    #16

    Woman shaving leg with pink razor, highlighting things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Have hair on your legs or armpits. Not wanting to be alone with your own kids. Not doing a single chore on days they have to work. Not wearing makeup to important events. Watching something on their phone at events they don't want to be at. Not being ready for kids until their 30s or 40s (even though s***m quality decreases with age).

    Routine-Barnacle999 , Karolina Grabowska Report

    KatWitch57
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Now maybe THAT's more likely to cause autism than giving a woman in pain the right medication?

    Nadine Lynch
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish I could upvote this comment more than once!

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    #17

    Woman and man in an office discussing documents and data, illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Speak up for ourselves in the workplace.

    When men do it, they're being confident and decisive and fill in the blank with a positive term.

    When women do it, we are being b*tches or, my favorite expression -- we *have a tone*. No man on this earth has ever been told in the workplace that he *has a tone*.

    FunDirector7626 , Antoni Shkraba Studio Report

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, I'm a guy, and my last principal told me I had a "tone". When I asked what sort of tone, he had no answer. Never did come up with one. The best response was Philip Marlowe's - "I know. I get a lot of complaints about it. I pace the floor long winter evenings worrying about it. But somehow it never changes."

    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mum got told by her boss that she was “loud, cantankerous, rowdy, and dominating.”

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely speak up for yourself! Again, it outs those who are authoritarian (usually without any real understanding of authority), control freaks, tone police, all of which we can do without. And as Michael Largey says, question it, what tone? Explain. Then wait.

    Zig Zag Wanderer
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And why is this woman wearing a top over her shirt? That looks bizarre!

    Deanna Hnatiw
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes! I got accused of harrassing and bullying my boss when I spoke up

    AnnaB
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is that a trending style that I'm unaware of being worn by the woman in the picture?

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    #18

    A man carrying a crying child outdoors, illustrating differences in things women are not allowed to do that men can. Not know how to handle their children. This peeves me. How is it women get slated for not being able to handle a tantrum or children’s behaviour but for men it’s just cute….

    Dry_Vermicelli5647 , Phil Nguyen Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've seen men handle tantrums well. Pick them up and out the door. I love seeing all parents do this at the store.

    WindySwede
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The problem is that men often are to heavy to be lifted out the door when needed? 🙃

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    #19

    Woman standing confidently behind a podium with the American flag, highlighting gender role challenges women face. Be president.

    Blondenia , RDNE Stock project Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay, US citizens, when you look at a map try panning your eyes past the boundaries of the USA. You'll discover the vast world of other countries. You can learn about these other countries, where you'll find an assortment of female leaders, including Presidents. That's right. The USA is not the only country with a President. You'll be astonished that there have been, and are, female Presidents.

    Zig Zag Wanderer
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And possibly be astonished that there have been, and are, other countries!

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    SchadenFreudian Psychology
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The U.S. is way behind most of the world on this one.

    Sofia
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is something illegal or just never happened? In Italy with Giorgia Meloni we had the first woman president in our history

    Sam Trudeau
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think the issue is that all the female would-be presidents are progressive-minded (and by "issue" I mean "why they don't get elected president in USA"

    nottheactualphoto
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And sadly, I don't see it happening as long as the Soviet Right is steering US policy.

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    Judes
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In many countries, no one can be president.

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Countries like Australia, New Zealand, Ukraine, ect: *awkward laughter*

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    #20

    Three professional women working together at a desk, highlighting gender roles and things women are not allowed to do compared to men. Have equal representation in government in the US.

    Be president in the US.

    Have strong opinions. When men do this, it's normal. When women do this, they are a [jerk], a ball buster, a shrew, etc.

    Control what happens to her own body. Make her own reproductive choices. No one tells a man what to do with his testicles. But everyone seems to want to tell a woman what to do with her uterus.

    Have lots of [intercourse] with different people. When men do this they are seen as studs and are applauded. When women do this, they are labeled as sluts and denigrated.

    mom_with_an_attitude , August de Richelieu Report

    Zig Zag Wanderer
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My partner has had many different partners in her youth. She has absolutely no shame about it, and nor should she. She has always been highly sexual, and doesn't see it as something to be ashamed of. On the plus side, she loves sêx, and 'goes down faster than a granny on a frosty morning' as she herself quips. I'm not complaining!

    General Anaesthesia
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Equal representation? Why not vote? Why did a majority of white women voters vote for Trump and Republicans, who took away their choices? Sometimes people are their own worst enemy, just like minimum wage workers who vote for tax cuts for billionaires.

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    #21

    A man with a backpack and a woman holding hands in a hallway illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Be a deadbeat parent 😅 heading into year 6 of my kid's 'donor' deciding fatherhood wasn't for him (has since abandoned a second kid too, me and that kid's mum are now best friends and are raising the kids together).

    NefariousnessFun2941 , Alena Darmel Report

    Felicia Baxter
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    at least you got a new friend out of it if that's any consolation :)

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    #22

    Man and woman discussing at a table with laptop, illustrating gender roles and things women are not allowed to do freely. Interrupt men while they’re talking….

    PeachyPesco , fauxels Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yet they interrupt us without even thinking about it.

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Speaking as an introvert, yes this is useful, but just realize it takes energy. I hate it, but I'd much rather just stop talking and wander off while they're mid-sentence, than interrupt, get louder, and have an overt shouting/pissing match that costs me way too much energy. Two interruptions max, it's not accidental, and I just tend to stop talking and start walking.

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I'm interrupted I just either keep talking or tell them to wait their goddam turn

    #23

    Woman wearing red shirt with a frustrated expression, representing things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Scratch our [private stuff] nonchalantly in public.

    joedirt75 , Anna Shvets Report

    dan s
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    2 months ago

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    That's not really cool for anyone but go ahead, have your performative outrage about nothing, if it makes you feel better.

    Min
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dan, why are you here? If every post is upsetting you, why not just move on to a different topic?

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    #24

    A father and son skipping stones by the water, illustrating differences in things women are not allowed to do. Get called a great parent for doing things with their kid one day a week. Oh and they get to pick the fun weekend things and ignore the boring stuff. Double points if they have a YouTube channel.

    cingalls , Ron Lach Report

    Anne Roberts
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex practically wanted a parade in his honor for taking out the trash

    #25

    Man relaxing on a couch covered with a blanket, using a phone in a cozy living room setting, highlighting gender freedom topics. Sit around on holidays. They might get up to help move a table and chairs but otherwise they get to sit in a recliner all day watching sports while the women do all the work.
    Meanwhile if there’s a grown woman in the family sitting for longer than 5 minutes she’s a lazy [jerk] not doing her share of work.

    EeileeZ , Lisa from Pexels Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex's family, during their gatherings, the men would actually move themselves from the dining room to the living room after the meal and say aloud "We'll let the women clean up." The day we broke up, I lost all his weight and having to deal with his sexist family. I grew up where everyone pitches in.

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "We'll *let* the women clean up"??? LET THEM? What, like it's a special treat that women are normally denied, so the men decide to allow them to do the dishes since it's a holiday. Ridiculous!

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    AnnaB
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And this is usually after the women have been cooking all day.

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    #26

    Woman and man sitting opposite each other indoors, discussing social issues about things women are not allowed to do freely. Have opinions.

    Kaurifish , cottonbro studio Report

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially inconvenient opinions.

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely have opinions, especially inconvenient opinions, and voice them! Once again, you out those who are old-fashioned, conventional, conservative, backward, sexist, misogynist. Better to know how they really feel, so you can avoid them, drop them, go NC or LC as needed.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Those are not all bad qualities. My maternal grandparents were both old fashioned and conventional, but radically progressive. (They had to flee their homeland because of it.).

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    Chilli
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    opinions are like nipples, most folks have got them but mens' are the tolerated ones

    dan s
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    2 months ago

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    Oh ffs. REALLY? This just keeps getting more and more absurd.

    KatWitch57
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OK dan s, so what is your opinion on whether a s*xily (that's an e if you are confused) dressed woman should be able to walk home alone safely at night? Or can we dim street-lights to save the planet?

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    #27

    Woman sitting alone at a modern table in a minimalist cafe reflecting on things women are not allowed to do. Hide or guard their emotions and feelings. 


    I've met women who do this much like men, and they always seem to be shunned away from the rest of the girls. .

    I_Am_Simple , cottonbro studio Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, we’re allowed—expected—to hide anger, sadness, really any negative emotion. People expect women to be bright and cheery 24/7.

    Kristiina Männiste
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My parents did that to me - now I freak out my psychiatrists by telling them - "Life has no meaning to me" with a constant bright smile😁

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    Fungus John
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm noticing a pattern with a lot of these and it seems like the ones not allowing women to do these things is other women, but I'm guessing the patriarchy is making them do it.

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A lot of women throw other women under the bus so they can get mens’ approval. This is nothing new.

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    katiekat0214
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been criticized many times for being "cold" by feelers, when I'm very much a thinker, an introvert, and someone who's reserved and private. Let them think that, and feel all their widdle feewings. Criticize me? Then watch me never open up to you, because you're critical, judgmental, and unsafe. I open up in my own good time, and that can't be rushed.

    #28

    Woman and man in a heated outdoor conversation, illustrating social dynamics related to things women are not allowed to do that men can. Standing up for yourself. Easy way to get labeled a [jerk].

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    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a hardcore believer in standing up for oneself, precisely because it outs those who are users, losers, abusers, boundary tramplers, sexists, and so on. Do it often and early in relationships to get someone's true character, then make your best decision.

    Julia H
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Get called a b!tch or a Karen. Maybe I am. But I won't be a doormat

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    #29

    A couple lying in bed embracing closely, symbolizing challenges women face compared to men freely. Have a high body count.

    deetzle , anait film Report

    Sofia
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you're not a sniper... "body count" is something I can't hear

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I dated a guy for a while who asked me how many previous partners I'd had. When I told him, he was both shocked & disappointed, saying that was far too many. I asked how many he'd had, and he quoted a number literally six times higher than mine - but that was different, he said, because he's a guy. Interestingly enough, the fact that I'd already had "too many" partners didn't stop him from pressuring me for s‍e‍‍x.

    KatWitch57
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    After a few years of marriage, I mentioned that I had once, as a child, been r***d. He told me that that meant I had lied about the number of men I had slept with. Divorce followed soon after.

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    #30

    Woman lying in bed resting with a messy foreground, illustrating challenges women face in what they are not allowed to do. Be ugly/unkempt.

    Commercial_Stage_603 , cottonbro studio Report

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Speaking as a plain/average woman who's been overweight all my life, just giving up on being high femme is liberating. I stopped trying to wear heels late teens/early 20s. I also gave up makeup (except for picture day as a teacher, otherwise I REALLY looked washed out), and never liked dresses. It's liberating to dress comfortably, and just expect people to like and accept me as I am. Never felt a loss for people who expected total femmy presentation. Not my people, not my group, and no loss.

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The best thing about being plain & dumpy is that I've never had to worry about "losing my good looks." I've had crow's feet & elevens (vertical frown lines between the eyebrows) since I was a kid, so who cares about another wrinkle now that I'm in my 60s? I sure don't, and my partner of 27 years doesn't, either.

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    StrangeOne
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugliness is in the eye of the beholder.

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And too many men abùse the privilege. Ditch the baseball caps, pull up your pants, and throw away the stretched out, stained t-shirts.

    KatWitch57
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially the ones where the sweat stains have turned into holes. Please.

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    #31

    Woman sitting with eyes closed holding a pen to her forehead, illustrating things women are not allowed to do freely. Ask for an abortion.

    Vast-Website , RDNE Stock project Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a regional issue. In Canada, women have free will to have an abortion. I'm sure other countries do, as well.

    KatWitch57
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually a woman does NOT have the right to an abortion in the UK. She needs the consent of two doctors who must confirm that it will affect her physical or mental health. Now, that's currently a low bar but, give Farage and his ilk the power, then we could be looking at the same ball of sh*t as the USA.

    Kim Karlotta
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    About the same in Germany, only it's not doctors but official state recognized counseling centers, which are often christian leaning. Otherwise it's a criminal offense. And there are parties who want to have even stricter laws. In Malta and Poland it's almost impossible to get an abortion if you are not actively dying. Used to be the same in Ireland until a few years ago. So no, unfortunately it's not as simple as free will to have an abortion in all of Europe.

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    Sam Trudeau
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well that's inherently gender-specific.

    KatWitch57
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The payment of parental support might affect the other gender!

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    #32

    Woman in a blue top showing a surprised expression, illustrating challenges women face compared to men freely. Burping. if i let out a big belch, my dad commends it. if my sister does the same thing, he is disgusted and says “that’s not cute :/“

    edit: just for clarity, my dad would do literally anything for my sister or i, we constantly talk about how grateful we are to have him. this is the ONLY thing i’ve ever seen him say to her, and she’s never told me she has any ill feelings toward it, just something i noticed. it doesn’t make it okay but rest assured she wouldn’t trade him for anyone.

    NecessaryNumerous821 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why is it commendable for anybody to do a big burp? It happens….people’s bodies do that. But I don’t think it’s funny or cute when anybody does it, male or female. Just say, “Excuse me,” and don’t make a big deal out of it.

    Sofia
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    if doesn't goes up it goes down...

    dan s
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's other women who police this. We think it's funny, same as farting.

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    #33

    Young boy in blue shirt resting head on arms outside, illustrating gender differences in what women are allowed to do. Abandon their kids!

    bzubavicius , Pixabay Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not acceptable for any parent to do.

    AnnaB
    Community Member
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, it isn't. But a lot more men do it than women.

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    #34

    Young woman sitting with face covered on doorstep, representing things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Abandon their children b/c they just can’t deal with it all, or for no reason at all.

    StarBabyDreamChild , Pixabay Report

    #35

    Young woman in black sleeveless top looking down, expressing emotion related to things women are not allowed to do. Nothing. Women can do it all, men just won't let them.

    Weeshi_Bunnyyy , Ketut Subiyanto Report

    Annabelle
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And PLENTY of other women.

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I for one don't want or need someone else's "permission" to do whatever I want to anyway. I'm going to do it. Yes, I'll think before I act, and consider the cost, but I'm 50+, and my idea is, if a man can get away with it, a woman can too, and those who judge just aren't worth keeping around. Live life on easy/easier mode. Do less.

    Harry Gondalf
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    2 months ago

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    You can pee standing up all you want; I won't stop you

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    #36

    A woman placing a ring on a man's finger, highlighting things women are not allowed to do that men can. Date or marry much younger men.

    bonitaycoqueta , Deesha Chandra Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My bf is 10 years younger than me. We met as adults. We are adults. It's no one's business. If it were the other way around, no one would bat an eye. Yet, I've been called a "cradle robber". Really? He wasn't underage when we met. Not even close.

    AnnaB
    Community Member
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was 45 and he was 30. He pursued me.

    Tropical Tarot
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My last boyfriend was 10 years younger than me and my wife is 14 years younger. My older sister's husband is the same age as my wife. We're all over 40 at this point.

    #37

    Young man with blue eyes wearing a vest and tie, gesturing while discussing things women are not allowed to do compared to men. Probably to over explain something in depth, but do it in a way that is completely wrong or backward. Men love to do this, and they’re good at it, but when women do it they seem to get called out 🤔.

    LSIeducate , Thirdman Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men are allowed to give long, boring monologues. My ex-FIL did it all the time. I don’t think he even realized it; to him, that was just talking.

    Data1001
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Haha, that's my current boss -- he loves to hear himself talk, and goes off on tangents when we're trying to keep to the point.

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    #38

    Man and woman having a serious conversation in a minimal room highlighting things women are not allowed to do. Control their reproductive rights?

    Current-Depth8223 , Antoni Shkraba Studio Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This can’t be repeated enough. We are not livestock to be bred.

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    #39

    Man and woman in a heated discussion, illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Show agitation at the office or in meetings.

    aenim , Yan Krukau Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The amount of times I've been "counselled" over getting a bit stressed, or letting out a *sigh* would be comical if it didn't p**s me off even more.

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Show it, but again, be strategic. Constant emotion gets everyone labeled as a drama king/queen. Showing agitation over what's worth it is a power move.

    #40

    Woman standing with arms crossed, wearing a black blazer, symbolizing things women are not allowed to do freely. After reading many saying "Have an opinion", it just clicked for me why women are naturally so indirect with their communication!

    I always wondered why they won't just be direct with men, especially in relationships or when dating.

    You'all been conditioned into doing this by society! 😂.

    Multi_Trillionaire , Maksim Goncharenok Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    “Be more assertive.” [Woman: states her piece directly.] “No, not like that! You’re too aggressive.”

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Be assertive and direct, and out those who are sexist, old-fashioned, conventional, conservative, etc. All of my advice is ways to test people's character. Then use the information to drop them or keep them.

    Julia H
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We're direct. Men don't hear what we have to say. I've given my opinion only to be ignored. Suddenly he has the same idea which needs to be discussed right now. Seriously?

    #41

    Woman celebrating with a birthday cake and sparklers, illustrating themes of things women are not allowed to do freely. Age.

    Bunny_OnTheMoon , Nataliya Vaitkevich Report

    Anne Roberts
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aging is natural. I never mind saying how old I am (66), but I'll never tell how much I weigh! 😁

    Nina
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    2 months ago

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    Double, aging was already mentioned

    dan s
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    2 months ago

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    Oh stfu with this nonsense.

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    #42

    A diverse group of young professionals collaborating in an office, illustrating things women are not allowed to do freely. Speak up in meetings. No really. There's studies on this.

    StatusTics , fauxels Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The sooner everybody shuts up, the sooner the meeting will be over.

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Speak up. The purpose of meetings is to stop bad ideas right at the beginning.

    #43

    Two people sitting on a bench wearing denim shorts highlighting gender differences women are not allowed to do that men can do freely Sit with legs wide apart. Why it’s acceptable for men?

    CyanPomegranate11 , cottonbro studio Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women also tend to do this naturally. Maybe not to such an extent, but many women literally clench their legs together or sit with their legs crossed, to avoid looking spread eagle. Our thigh fat, labia and wider hips push out our legs at rest.

    Fungus John
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    hang a couple of grapes out of your cooter and try sitting without squashing them

    Jessica Senia
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because men don't want to crush their testicles.

    #44

    Close-up of a man’s beard and necklace, illustrating differences in things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Grow a beard.

    Lonely-Success3251 , Lukas Hartmann Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Meh. Beards are highly overrated. I’m not even fond of them on men.

    Ace
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feel free, there's no rule that says you can't... Meanwhile, think yourself lucky - I envy you that you don't need to shave every day.

    Data1001
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wear a beard because I feel like I need it to help shape my face and chin -- but beards are a bit of a pain. You have to keep after them all the time, trimming them just right or you end up looking scruffy really quickly. The hair on your head, you can let it go and it's usually going to be fine if you miss a few haircuts -- but not beards.

    Jay Scales
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Normalizing women with goatees would ease a lot of worry for some of us post-menopausal ladies....

    CD Mills
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are women who grow beards, usually it's a hormone issue.

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    #45

    Bearded man in glasses and plaid shirt holding microphone, speaking on stage about things women are not allowed to do. Stand up comedy. Much harder for women to be liked and accepted as funny.

    Impressive_Touch1118 , Stewart Munro Report

    Apatheist Account2
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    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a lot now in the UK. It started mainly with the late and definitely great Victoria Wood, but since then we've had Jo Brand, Angela Barnes, Maisie Adam, Ellie Taylor, Holly Walsh, Rosie Jones, Roisin Conaty, Sara Pascoe, Kerry Godliman, Zoe Lyons and a few imports like Katherine Ryan, Ria Lina, Aisling Bea, Sandi Toksvig, among others (there are 46 mentioned here: https://www.imdb.com/list/ls543013629/ - although ignore Kim Murray, not a comedian, just Sir Andy Murray's wife). The one they all have to live up to was probably Joan Rivers.

    Tropical Tarot
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Brian Posehn, one of my favorites.

    Data1001
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is it that, or is it that there just aren't as many women comics? I haven't really watched stand-up comedy for decades, so I'm not that familiar with the current scene. But back in the day, I loved comics like Janeane Garofalo, Paula Poundstone, Rita Rudner, Elayne Boosler, Judy Tenuta, Carol Leifer, etc. I also like Sarah Silverman a lot (although her latest special was a dud, unfortunately).

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think it's an allowance type of thing, but as a woman, some female comics come across as trying too hard to win over women. I find there are a lot of male comics I enjoy watching because they come up with stuff that can be funny to anyone, and they do it seemingly effortlessly. When some female comics are on stage sometimes I can feel the nervousness and they come off as stiff and say things to try to shock or shame men. Even male comics who shame or shock women I can't stand. There are female comics I do like. Jamie Lee Curtis, she may not be a stand-up comic, but she's hilarious and a talented actress. I believe there have been female stand-up acts that were really good, too. I don't want to overshadow the good ones. But I digress. Women are allowed to be funny stand-up comics. It all just comes down to taste.

    Chilli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    one of my favourite jokes in Helluva Boss is when a character says "Women aren't funny" as the 'Created by Vivienne Medrano' credit comes up on the screen

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    #46

    Man walking barefoot on sand wearing orange shorts, illustrating gender freedom in things women are not allowed to do. Have body hair, particularly leg hair. No women ever demands men shave their legs, nor refuses to date men with leg hair and claim it’s their ‘preference’ 

    Like I genuinely get so angered by men who prefer hairless women and defend their right to have a preference, when they themselves have the same d**n hair on their legs. Gtf over yourself, we’re all mammals. .

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    Power puff scientist
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Men can't have this preference? As a woman you are perfectly allowed to have hair, or whatever else, but men are also allowed to not like it. Everyone can have their preferences in who and what they want while dating.

    Sofia
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    honestly I agree - but on the other side women are EXPECTED to be hairless while men can CHOOSE to shave. It's not the same

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    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wouldn't say "no women ever". Maybe leg and underarm hair is not a big concern, but I have heard of women complain about men's chest and back hair, especially if it's really thick. I have known some men who do shave their legs and arm pits, and I'm sure they meet women who prefer it that way but don't say anything about it.

    Dekker451
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "No women ever demands men shave their legs" I don't think the person who wrote this has dated a lot of women.

    Data1001
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretty much every woman I've dated has had more body hair than I do. And what little I've got (on my arms, for instance), is so blond you can't even tell it's there. But I do have thick hair on the top of my head, for which I'm grateful as I get older. No male pattern baldness in my family line... just smooth legs and a smooth chest, haha.

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    #47

    Man playing didgeridoo and handpan outdoors near a bicycle, illustrating things women are not allowed to do compared to men. Play a didgeridoo.

    It’s a taboo in Aboriginal culture for a woman to play a didgeridoo. Stores won’t sell them to women and there are massive signs asking those who purchase them not to allow women to play them.

    This applies to all women, not just Aboriginal women.

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    Michael Largey
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Scotland should have a law against women playing bag pipes. And one for men too.

    Jesse
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm nonbinary, hand me the pipes.

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    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wtf? This is a real rule now. Should be higher in the list. What is the reason for this, Aussies?

    Judes
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a cultural tradition that only men play the didgeridoo during ceremonies. How this applies to casual playing outside of ceremonies varies from place to place. There are many different Aboriginal nations, so it's not always easy to generalise.

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    Kristiina Männiste
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not exactly on theme, but doesnt using an electrical toothbrush sound very similar? I always beg my sister to try play a tune when she brushes her teeth. She never does though😑

    #48

    Woman in green sweater looking frustrated and upset, illustrating challenges women face that men can do freely. Be angry.

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    #49

    Young woman covering her mouth in surprise during golden hour, illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Fart.

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    Ellinor she/they/elle
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There was a French streamer talking about farts on her live and I saw someone say "you're not very elegant" and I answered with "why should she be elegant ??". Women are expected not to p0o, burp or fart but men are allowed to do a 15 minutes comedy sketch about it ??

    katiekat0214
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone farts, and absolutely no one wants to hear or smell anyone else's farts, sometimes even our own.

    Zig Zag Wanderer
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My partner farts almost as much as I do. Almost....

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    #50

    Woman comforting a distressed young man, highlighting challenges related to things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Women are expected to be the parent that never makes mistakes.

    Awkward_Public_4997 , Kindel Media Report

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not true with my parents because my mother was the (positively) emotional one and my dad was the one who thought things through. I went to my mom for support and my dad for advice.

    #51

    Young woman with curly hair and red lipstick looking serious through a window, highlighting women restrictions and gender inequality. Have a bad day and act grumpy.

    Not smile when dealing with coworkers.

    Raise their voice in the workplace.

    Walk alone at night, in general.

    RnDMonkey , Polina Zimmerman Report

    #52

    Woman walking alone in a dark park illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Walk alone at night.

    Ichoosethebear , Юлия Здобнова Report

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    #53

    Man in a denim jacket laughing joyfully, representing things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Brutally make fun of their buddy's haircuts.

    DepartmentOfJustAss , whoiswasiq Report

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, girls definitely do this. "Your high ponytail is so stupid." "Omg, you wear a bun because you're a ballerina wannabe, but you're too fat. hahaha."

    Multa Nocte
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've NEVER had a female friend do that and I wouldn't put up with it.

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    #54

    Heart shape drawn on car window covered with snow, illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Writing your name in the snow while [peeing].

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    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can’t say I feel deprived because I can’t do this. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    The Other Guest
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. Oddly enough I've never had a strong desire to p‍e‍‍e outside whether there's snow on the ground or not, let alone use it to write my name.

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    Sofia
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you can but is VERY difficult

    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I ain't exposing my v****a in -25C with a windchill of -35C, anyways. Ya crazy?

    CD Mills
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It could be done, just squat, pee, and while your down there write your name in the snow with your finger. They never specified 'HOW' to write the name... :P

    Zig Zag Wanderer
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can! It's just much, much more difficult....

    #55

    NFL stadium lit up at night under a starry sky, illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Go topless at the Superbowl. Usher? No problem. Janet Jackson? Absolutely not. But she didn’t even go topless really.

    Imaginary_Chair_6958 , Christopher Alvarenga Report

    #56

    Man working on laptop in modern office, illustrating challenges related to things women are not allowed to do freely compared to men. Write bland to the point emails.

    No-Walk-7771 , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    Data1001
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I appreciate to-the-point emails from *everyone*, no matter what chromosomes you have.

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    #57

    Woman sitting on toilet in bathroom looking at her phone, illustrating things women are not allowed to do freely. Pee standing up.

    flinstonepushups , Miriam Alonso Report

    Michael Largey
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women can do this. They just don't like the result.

    CD Mills
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are several products, like the "She-Wee"(I think that's what it's called) that allow a woman to pee standing up.

    Harry Gondalf
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I checked all through this thread looking for just this point! I was afraid I'd have to add it! BTW, some Japanese firm has manufactured standing urinals for women, and I saw a portable one for travel. It looks like a triangular trough connected to a flexible hose leading to a container of sorts. It was on some safari website.

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    #58

    Woman and man holding hands, symbolizing the contrast in freedoms between women and men in society. Have much younger romantic partners.

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    Tropical Tarot
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My last boyfriend was 10 years younger and my wife is 14 years younger..My older sister's husband is the same age as my wife.

    Zig Zag Wanderer
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sounds like an interesting and fun personal life.

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    #59

    Two men leaning on a railing having a conversation outside against a brick wall, highlighting gender differences freedoms. Casually mention [self-pleasure] as a normal thing that is done in life.

    fuckassssshitf*ck , Mizuno K Report

    Data1001
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have you actually hung out with a lot of men? Because we really don't talk about c​h​o​k​i​n​g the c​h​i​c​k​e​n with other guys. I feel like women are probably more open about such things, talking about which v​i​b​r​a​t​o​r types they like best... but maybe I'm wrong.

    Ravioli
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They mean more in general society, like it's just assumed men do it and it's ok.

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    Charlie the Cat
    Community Member
    2 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, I have never spoken about wanking to my mates. My girlfriend on the other hand talks to her friends about stuff like that all the time. Edit: Wanking got through the BP censor!

    Zig Zag Wanderer
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Really? The BOB (Battery Operated Boyfriend) is an extremely well-known concept amongst women that I know.

    Digital Fantasy
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey man! What fleshlight to you use?

    #60

    Four men sitting on a hillside overlooking green mountains, illustrating things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Viciously insult their good friends to their face constantly.

    freshly-stabbed , Matheus Ferrero Report

    SchadenFreudian Psychology
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Another one that I don’t understand. Why would you want to do this?

    Data1001
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because a lot of guys are afraid of being genuine and showing actual warmth to their male friends, wrongfully feeling that their buddies will think they're weak or "effeminate". Thankfully, I think the tide is turning with the younger generations, and it's really refreshing to see.

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    Harry Gondalf
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    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True. Women do it behind their back.

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    #61

    Couple lying on bed relaxing side by side representing things women are not allowed to do that men can do freely. Sleep around.

    Lesbian_Goblin , Andrea Piacquadio Report

    dan s
    Community Member
    2 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Another badly outdated one, that's complete nonsense now.

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