It's a common trope among many guys to claim that they simply don't understand women - whether it is willful ignorance or not is another question, but there seems to be a fashionable yet lazy acceptance that women are a complete mystery so there is no point in trying.

Well, there's no excuse now fellas. Turns out, all we had to do was ask! Women on Twitter have decided to take matters into their own hands with the viral hashtag #WhatMenDontKnowAboutWomen.

While they clearly don't speak for all women, the discussion is incredibly insightful and educational, as posters take turns sharing their experiences and frustrations about the kinds of things that just seem to pass many men by. Have you got your notepad at the ready guys? There are some really important points here (and some funny ones too!).

Scroll down below to check them out for yourself, and let us know your thoughts in the comments.

#1

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Bunzilla
Community Member
2 years ago

I would say that 90% of women want pockets in our clothes. And for some reason, nobody wants to give us pockets. Either top company execs want to sell handbags, or they just think they know what we want more than us... which would be typical.

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#2

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Something
Community Member
2 years ago

Why would anyone think that someone would want an unsolicited pic?

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#3

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BusLady
Community Member
2 years ago

What is nagging after all? It's asking someone to do the same thing over and over and over again... The first time, it's just a request.

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#4

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Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

The fact that the term friend zone even exists just shows that some men think they're entitled sex if they show women basic human decency

Xavier Wescott
Community Member
2 years ago

I as a growing teen don't want sex to be the forefront of my thoughts. I just really want to be a genuine friend, but sometimes I can't help but feel girls shy away from me for this very reason, assuming all I want is sex. I want to have 'girl' friends, and just leave it at that.

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Full Name
Community Member
2 years ago

Aaaaand.....vice versa. When we say something to you as a stranger, your response doesn't have to be about your "boyfriend". Sometimes we're saying what we're saying it because we mean those words and they aren't code for "Can I get into your pants?".

Clinton Yew
Community Member
2 years ago

If you find the boyfriend respond annoying, dude I just wanna tell you you are exactly the person they wanted you to be away.

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Master Markus
Community Member
2 years ago

I was going to say "we all know", but evidently there are some ASSHOLES in the comments proving me wrong.

Nicky OldfieldDesciple
Community Member
2 years ago

I am also sick of egotistical men thinking I am cracking on to them just because I am being friendly to them. They just cannot seem to understand that I am just being friendly because I am a nice person not because I want to sleep with them.

Kathy Baylis
Community Member
2 years ago

What’s worse is when they get that idea about you when you’re at work and HAVE to be nice to people because it’s part of your job! Years ago I worked in resort condo rentals, and ended up having to dodge a stalker—-every few months for 3 years until he found out I got married—-because I had to be nice to customers.

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Esca Sav
Community Member
2 years ago (edited)

I was dumbfounded to find out that a guy thought I was interested in him because I used "emojis" in our texts... Are you bloody serious? I literally just wanted one friend in my college class and that wasn't even possible because.of.an.emoji. He stopped talking to me when I kept telling him I wasn't interested...

deanna woods
Community Member
2 years ago

He sounds like a complete idiot. Anyone who thinks you are hitting on them because you used emojis has a screw loose.

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Claes Gustavsson
Community Member
2 years ago

I don't get that some men behave like that. I have many female friends, and so does my male friends. Nothing odd, you can still find them attractive, but the very thought of having sex ... that would be awkward.

Miss Cris
Community Member
2 years ago

And we can be friends with people of the same gender! We have friends, too. And we don't hate other women.

Edwin Lesperance
Community Member
2 years ago

I have awesome unromantic female friends.

Christine Temple
Community Member
2 years ago

True. I have several male friends. Sex with them, no.

Parmeisan
Community Member
2 years ago

If the theory that men and women can't be friends were true, then bisexuals could have no friends at all.

aaron ballard
Community Member
2 years ago

So can men. Just saying.

Janet Wheat
Community Member
6 months ago

You can’t assume that your lesbian or gay friend is sexually attracted to you if you are the same gender. Relax.

Veryl Cool
Community Member
2 years ago

Hey did you know some men have to friend zone girls sometimes? Did you also know that some guys don't want to be generalized with all the jerks girls have found?

Art Riechert
Community Member
2 years ago

Guess what.... so can we. - Men

deanna woods
Community Member
2 years ago

I have several male friends and the thought of it being anything more is kind of gross. For me, it would be like having sex with one of my brothers. That's usually how I see my male friends, as a brother.

wormyz
Community Member
2 years ago

Such reference of sexuality is sickening. In my country I and my male friends are often mistaken for "interest" it is exhausting explaining it when ppl still return you with a "smirk of suggestion".

sixdeadelves
Community Member
2 years ago

The difference between men and women.

Sophia Trinh
Community Member
2 years ago

*Everyone* needs to know this

Adrian Alexe
Community Member
2 years ago

Yes you can, if they're unattractive. Just like we can. Wait, no, we really can't be friends with unattractive women. Acquaintances, maybe. And if we're dumb. Or gay.

Alex Call
Community Member
2 years ago

I hate when some of my lady friends think they can cut off all male friends after finding a boyfriend or tying the knot, but I have a few lady friends who I talk to and we're both awesome sports.

Bruno Cunha
Community Member
2 years ago

Of course.

Gehtdich Nixan
Community Member
2 years ago

*sex. you mean with the opposing sex, not gender.

Wij
Community Member
2 years ago

but we sort of....can't

Valerie Lessard
Community Member
2 years ago

Lol, the buttheart dudes in the comments here. The fwendzone hurtz mah ego.

Dave G.
Community Member
2 years ago

lol the only people in this entire page who are butthurt are batshit third wave psychos like you valerie. the rest of us are just laughing at how crazy and dumb you are

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Russian Otaku
Community Member
2 years ago

Totally possible.

Dave G.
Community Member
2 years ago

I am pretty sure most guys probably don't think you can't be friends with a male and not be attracted them

Dave G.
Community Member
2 years ago

lmao and the triggered misandrist psycho lauren caswell even downvoted this comment even though it wasn't even remotely hostile and actually pointing out a basic observation that you can verify with a cursory google search. what an absolute unhinged psychopath

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Glowdaddy
Community Member
2 years ago

Then why can't men have female friends?

MOSTAFA SADMAN
Community Member
2 years ago (edited)

& vice versa!! i have dozens of "girl" friends but not all of them wanted to be my "Friend" at first but now after my rejection, we are becoming friends!!

Christina Eneroth (Eneroth3)
Community Member
2 years ago

And the same gender. And any gender.

Theory Buchannon
Community Member
2 years ago

that is real because i try to say that to by bf but he thinks that i'm flirting

Kururi.Orihara
Community Member
2 years ago

People in my school need to learn this.

Rob Scott
Community Member
2 years ago

I’m fairly certain that as a man with female friends perfectly content with my platonicness, I am perfectly well aware that women too consider having sex with someone they fancy as their right and will go to just as great lengths to make it happen if they want to, even if u make it clear you are happy to be friends, and get very peed off when they don’t get their own way just as much as men do!

Id row
Community Member
2 years ago

I think women can do this way more easily than guys.

David Callaghan
Community Member
2 years ago

But we cannot...

Mary Stiles
Community Member
2 years ago

OH MA GOSH YESSS!!!!

Mary Thompson
Community Member
2 years ago

If you're young and/or single yes. If you're married or in a commitment no. Not because it can't be done, but there will always be that question on you or your partners mind.

Sheena Leversedge Wood
Community Member
2 years ago

nonsense. I've been married ten years, and together another 9/10 before that. I've always had male platonic friends. always. my husband has never had a worry that my platonic friends are more than that, regardless of what shape their underbits are. I've even had platonic male friends who I am actively attracted to. but I am in a long term relationship. and some of them have been too, and a significant one was gay and engaged. I would joke with him about how I was attracted to him, but he had his man, and I had mine, and that's fine. nothing was ever going to come of it, and in a lot of ways we were like a brother and sister. very affectionate together, and while he was very easy on the eye, he's too young for me, and not interested in women, and I'm in a very happy long term relationship. still nice to look at though.

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Hugo Raible
Community Member
2 years ago

We know. We just don't find many women who can, if attraction is out of the equation, offer enough to be on par with our male friends.

Kathy Baylis
Community Member
2 years ago

They won’t be “on par” with your male friends, because they’re not male. Even a man from an entirely different culture than yours would possibly not be “on par” with your ingroup of bros. That’s the wonderful thing about cultivating friendships with a diverse group of people; it gives you the opportunity to open your eyes and mind, and learn about the huge variety of experiences and world views that other walks of life can create. If you’re smart you’ll listen to them—-and you just might have an epiphany.

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dev mehta
Community Member
2 years ago

That's biologically impossible

Dave G.
Community Member
2 years ago

careful, if you bring up ladder theory they're probably just censor all your posts for upsetting their narrative

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Bob Beltcher
Community Member
2 years ago

Hey guess what, same. So stop being so insecure and putting you hand in his back pocket while you walk.

TheExtremeSmell
Community Member
2 years ago

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I mean. Guys can be friends with girls but will still have sex with them. Usually women can’t stand other women that are like I only have guy friends bc girls are bitches. Bc they just surround themselves with guys by throwing out just enough whiff of puss so they think they might have a shot.

Colin Bayler
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2 years ago

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Believe it or not, it's much harder for men to be friends with a woman than vice versa. Pheromones, strong sexual attraction to the female form, less discriminating in who they want to procreate with, etc. Give us a break; we're not wired the same as you. DUH!

rr
Community Member
2 years ago

Because you have had centuries of entitlement and abuse at your discretion. Time to take responsibility for reprogramming yourself into the 21st century. You can do it I believe in you.

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Leo H
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2 years ago

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Yeah its called being put in the friend zone

Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

Funny how men think being friends with women is some kind of punishment

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Ray Heap
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2 years ago

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Yes we can, no problem, just be a gay man.

Michał Jastrzębski
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2 years ago

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we could, but usually - its not exactly worth the hassle.

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#5

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Monday
Community Member
2 years ago

We do however need to acknowledge that men are not there to pay for our dinners, fix our broken shit and treat us like princesses either. We all need to be equal.

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#6

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Daria B
Community Member
2 years ago

This one is so important. The men who understand this one suffer from much less stress, once they know they don't really need to do anything, besides a hug and consolation.

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#7

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Bunzilla
Community Member
2 years ago

The struggle is real. Because just bleeding and cramping weren't bad enough.

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#8

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D. Pitbull
Community Member
2 years ago

... and that doesn't mean "I was nice to you all week. You OWE me." - that does not make us feel secure, respected or loved. We don't OWE you for temporary niceness.

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#9

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Martha Meyer
Community Member
2 years ago

The women who don't dare go out without a ton if makeup on? They don't do it for themselves. They do it because they've been made insecure about how they look.

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#10

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BusLady
Community Member
2 years ago

And she's not obligated to go out with you just because you asked.

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#11

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago (edited)

Wow, lucky for anyone who only has periods for 3 days, I can only dream lol.

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#12

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Daria B
Community Member
2 years ago

Never understood the logic behind this mentality - instead of being glad to having encountered a fellow geek, you blame her (or him) of fakery? Was this ever supposed to be a competition? See, this is why you have no friends.

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#13

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Eirik Johnsbråten
Community Member
2 years ago

I wholeheartedly agree that swearing is a bodily function.

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#14

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago

Meh, my hubby and I use the same shampoo, conditioner and body wash so this doesn’t bother me at all.

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#15

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John Louis
Community Member
2 years ago

Do you honestly believe men fail to grasp this? A small minority of men do, butthe vast majority are well aware of this (I'm not wrong here)!

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#16

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Helen Haley
Community Member
2 years ago

Being reliable and noticing/doing the mundane things, waaaay more sexy than ignoring it all and throwing in the occasional grand gesture.

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#17

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Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

However, this can be abusive too. Men, you don't have to let a woman you're dating to invade your privacy and show her your texts etc! You're entitled to not show them. And if she looks at your phone without your consent, then it's a big red flag.

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#18

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eliana
Community Member
2 years ago

bUt hAvE yOu bEeN kIcKeD iN tHe BalLs

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#19

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Johnny
Community Member
2 years ago

I'm not falling for that one again! Now I've learned to say "Sorry honey, you know I don't know a thing about style, I think you look cute in anything, here, let me text a picture of it to your best friend, she'll let you know how it really looks".

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#20

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D. Pitbull
Community Member
2 years ago

Ah yes... please... just... listen. That means literally *listen*... then... *comprehend*. Not "I hear words, and I am going to make some assumptions and fill in blanks to what *I* think the problem is and try to solve THAT. 'cuz That's me being awesome" - no... we literally mean "Listen to what *I* am saying. Do not interpret it yourself, then try to fix something that wasn't being said, then get mad because you think we weren't being straight with you... you actually... were not... listening and you don't want to admit it now.

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#21

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Christina Dudley
Community Member
2 years ago

I think this a dangerous thing to say. Some people choose clothes for themselves and not because they want sex. You will only truly know if someone wants sex by asking them. Clue, if they say yes, you're in

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#22

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Leo H
Community Member
2 years ago

Men say the same thing..so please let us have me time to just veg

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#23

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Master Markus
Community Member
2 years ago

This is a weird metaphor.

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#24

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Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

Yeah guys should just say if they want just sex instead of stringing a woman along and lying to them. The same goes both ways!

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#25

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago

I know my hubby has my back and I have his too. That’s one thing that is involved in a partnership.

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#26

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Noez 🇸🇪
Community Member
2 years ago

I don't watch porn. It bores me because of the bad acting and same old story line. I have my porn in my head 😎

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#27

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Melissa Beth
Community Member
2 years ago

I am 100% certain that if you could pan down, that ape is wearing socks.

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#28

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Vincent Philippart
Community Member
2 years ago

That sounds more like a criticism of women than men. If you know something, don't pretend you don't, that's manipulative.

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#29

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Kaisu
Community Member
2 years ago

Women aren't complicated if you just take a second to listen

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#30

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago

I don’t think this one is necessary. Just stick with size doesn’t matter. How would some women feel if a man said the breasts are a nice size but the sagginess is no good.

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#31

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Foxxy
Community Member
2 years ago

I have never understood this one. I detest myself but I absolutely love my hubby, kids, family and friends etc. So I do not agree.

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#32

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Demi Zwaan
Community Member
2 years ago

Oh great. So 'no' is the opposite of no? STOP SAYING THINGS YOU DON'T MEAN! That is what confuses other people and keeps perpetuating the stereotype of women saying no when they mean yes. What a rotten advice this is.

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#33

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Biljana Malesevic
Community Member
2 years ago

Why fake it? You get nothing from it and he thinks he is doing great.

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#34

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Demi Zwaan
Community Member
2 years ago

That's just fucked up.

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