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Women live in fear. Whether they're walking home from work in the dark or someone likes every single photo with their face on Instagram in 2 minutes, it usually isn't paralyzing but it's there. And men are the biggest contributors to it.

Recently, Reddit user Honnung posted a question on the platform: "Women of Reddit, what are the things men do that scare you but they don't realize it?"

Many responded, sharing candid stories from their everyday lives.

The answers they have provided might also explain why women develop social anxiety disorder (SAD) nearly twice as often as men. Here are some of the most-upvoted ones.

#1

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) When I say I don't like something — like something he said, or did, or joked about — and he says 'you secretly like it :).' That makes my skin crawl and alarm bells start going off. Don't tell women what they like.

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Jarno Flinkers
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a man I can say this is an enormous red flag. It's a lack of boundaries in my opinion.

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Interestingly, this post was actually a preparation for a speech Honnung needed for school. "My friends and I have spoken about the subject many times and thought nothing of it," the Reddit user told Bored Panda. "When I later talked to my boyfriend, he admitted that he and his friends never really thought about it. I have personally been in many situations where men do things that freak me out and I wanted to see what experiences other women have; plus it would be good for men to hear the thoughts we don't really say out loud."

Since releasing the post, Honnung has realized that a lot of women have the same experiences and fears and that this is a really serious topic. They've also learned that many people, especially men, get offended by the fact that women are afraid of seemingly unimportant things. "There were a lot of fights in the comments between men trying to justify their actions and women holding them accountable. I thought it was just a matter of ignorance but I see now there are a lot of people who just straight up refuse to listen."

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#2

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Blocking my path or physically holding me in place if they are not done talking to me. Basically, using their strength or size to restrict my motion in any way

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Jarno Flinkers
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have witnessed something like this and knocked the guy out cold. Got smacked in the face by the girl with the bruises on her arm.

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According to Jodi Lane, a University of Florida sociology professor, such fears are especially common in women who are domestically abused—if they’re hurt by men they love, they're afraid strangers could hurt them, too. But there are other reasons why women live with more fear than men do.

First, women are scared any crime could lead to rape. "The fear of sexual assault is shadowing every other fear," Lane pointed out. Men are not nearly as likely to be raped as women.

Second, women are physically weaker than men. Women fear they can’t fight off an attacker, especially as they get older.

Third, women are socialized to be afraid. "All the things parents tell their children socialize them that they should be responsible for their own safety," Lane explained. "We socialize girls to be terrified. We socialize boys to be tough."

#3

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Telling women to smile

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Lauren Caswell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry my smile doesnt work when I'm around controllers. I'm sure I'll smile when you're gone

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Honnung believes that the matter of being scared is a little complicated. "I am almost sure that the fear has grown since the Internet became a thing. Women share experiences; stories about men getting into their cars, onto balconies, videos of men just harassing women on the street. And for some, this might just be a quick video you see on Instagram but for many, this is a big warning for what's out there in the world," the Reddit user said. "'And even if this one man won't try to attack me in the street at night, the next one might. Or the next one.' You never know so you generalize and fear everyone."

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However, the author of the post thinks that with every generation, the relation between men and women is improving. "We talk more openly and the correct use of the Internet (like with this post) can give women a chance to talk in a (mostly) safe space and a chance for men to listen. For the most part, [it looks like people are ceasing to brush it off] as just 'something that happens' which is a big step in the right direction."

At the end of their speech, Honnung said something Jodi Lane would have really liked: "We have to, instead of just teaching our daughters to be afraid of the world, teach our sons how they can make it safer."

#4

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Touching you in any way without permission, even if it seems harmless to you. Unfortunately that happens rather often in retail. Don't touch my shoulder when you talk to me. Don't stroke my hair. Don't caress my hand when you give me your money. Don't touch my ass or my boobs or anything at all! Please respect my personal space. It freaks me out when male strangers come near me and touch me in any way

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Better: Never touch anybody without permission. Men don't like that either

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#5

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Thinking 'no' isn't the final answer. Believing that with a little more convincing, I'll say yes. It makes me believe you don't respect me and worries me about how far you will go after I say no.

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Giulia
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sadly there are many women that will say "no" in the hope the man will continue to insist, because in that way they feel special... i hate it so much when i see it, in movies or irl.

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#6

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Any time someone tries really hard to convince me he's a 'nice guy.' Every guy I've met that desperately brings it up every chance he gets isn't usually very nice. It always makes me wonder, what are they trying to hide? Like why do I have to think you're nice? Prove it with your actions, don't tell me repeatedly

ElectricPinkMango , Sebastian Pociecha Report

#7

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Parking right next to my car in a dark and/or empty parking lot. I've had this conversation with several girlfriends, but when I've mentioned it to men they had no idea about what goes through our mind when we see that

Outrageous_Ent , Joe Valtierra Report

#8

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Breaking or hitting things out of anger

HectorIsMyHomie , Christopher Ott Report

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had to tell my ex one too many times that I obviously can’t fight him so he should stop approaching me with fighting words and stances. That was the most unattractive thing ever. Fûck did he think I was going to do? Brawl with him? So glad I’m free of that dead weight.

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#9

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Standing too close. Even without covid, social distancing is a thing. Stay out of my personal space

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#10

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Catcalling

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Lauren Caswell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! Its just uncomfortable and objectifying at best, intimidating at its worst.

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#11

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Night out in the pub, there will always be one guy commenting that I haven't drunk much. 'Oh you're still on your first glass of wine. You drink slow. Why aren't you drinking' etc.

Why are you counting my drinks? Creepy as f***!

Ma_Adjowa , Jessica Flores Report

#12

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) 'Jokingly' using your strength to move me or keep me from moving. If I want to go home and you’re pulling me back, I am not actually going along with it. You are stronger than I am and I literally cannot leave

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Eva the Egg
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, this way the men will think we want it when we really dont

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#13

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Following you to your car to get your number. Don't. Ever. Do. That.

dadadawn , Gabriella Clare Marino Report

#14

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) I had a guy come into the store I worked at and leave within ten minutes. Not even 5 minutes after he left, he had searched me up on Instagram and messaged me, as well as all other social media. He didn’t have my last name and literally sat in the parking lot to search me up and message me. And then he came into the store a lot more to learn what shifts I worked and was ALWAYS THERE. That’s not endearing or cool, it’s creepy and makes me not want to go to work anymore

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#15

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Hitting on you in locations where you cannot escape (enclosed places like elevators, or workplaces)

mproveOrEnjoy , Julian Myles Report

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Lauren Caswell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oof. Or when they box you in, like putting one arm against the wall in is intimidating it's like ur potential escape is blocked

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#16

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Approaching me when I obviously don't want to be approached ie. I have headphones on, I'm on my phone, I'm reading or pretty much any other universal signal of 'I don't want to be disturbed'

skalaarimonikerta , Matt Reiter Report

#17

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) While talking online when I say, 'I don't know about meeting up,' and their response is, 'You are more likely to be [sexually harassed] by someone you actually know in person.' Yup...Not meeting up now

urious-lycanthrope , David Suarez Report

#18

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Standing in doorways or blocking exits

justwannahelp722 , Christopher Report

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Lauren Caswell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's when I'm ready to press call for the police, and working out how I need to keep safe until I can get out (ie do I need to be aggressive, calm but firm, play along til I'm safe, scream, call police? Which one won't get me killed today)

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#19

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Flirting is fun so long as you don't 'flirt' by asking me where I live, and if I live alone, and if I know people in the area. If you want to chat, flirt, get to know me? Don't start with the questions that set off alarm bells in my head

wanderingprose , Pascal Bernardon Report

#20

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Putting your arm on top of my shoulder and around close to my throat. It scares the heck out of me and every other lady I have talked to.

Wildmoonchild87 , Renate Vanaga Report

#21

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Messaging you on a dating app, commenting that they found your profile and that they are in the same location as you — they can see you, but you can't see them. I had a guy do this on a fully packed train I was on to go to work. I'm not an anxious person, but it felt really uncomfortable

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#22

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Trying to sleep with me when I am very obviously not interested. When I confront them, they just say, "Can't blame a guy for trying." WTF.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or call you stuck up for not being thrilled that they are trying to come on to you. Really? When I was younger guys came on to me all the time. I just thought oh the 10th guy this evening. Just get in line behind the others... the chemistry is either there or it isn't. And for God's sake the FB section on do you know this person is not a dating app!!! If I say I'm happily married don't try to just talk to me to be my friend. I'm off the market. I'm not going to chat up strange men online while my husband is sitting next to me on the couch.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I'm off the market. I'm not going to chat up strange men online WHILE my husband is setting next to me on the couch." the part after the WHILE makes your sentence funny.

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Missy Moo Moo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just had broken up with a bf and was telling a male friend. I was obviously upset, but he had to ask me if I wanted to start dating him. I asked him why did you feel the need to ask me so soon. He said he wanted to get in before anyone else.

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deanna woods
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or they ask you if you are a lesbian because that has to be the only reason that you are not interested.

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Kathryn Baylis
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Accusing you of teasing, when in reality you did absolutely NOTHING to lead them on. VERY OBVIOUSLY NOTHING. Making you the bad guy, when it was 100% THEM.

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Deborah B
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Guys, take a "not interested" at face value, and move on. If it's a stranger, a nod, or a "good evening, then", and move along. If it's a friend, colleague or someone working customer service, then just go with "Understood." or "Message received." and immediately change the subject, and step away, lean back from them. You have been rebuffed. Respect the rebuff, and demonstrate by backing off.

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Mateo Buysse
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends...hints are just hints....if you straight up tell people your not interested i find that a totally different thing.

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JD Lee
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We can, actually, because men like that rape women. You HAVE to try? Really? Good thing I’m only on this earth to satisfy your urges and ego. Disgusting.

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Lorane Mutshena
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A guy actually told me "you don't s**t ice cream" after I said no, at the time I was like WTF!!!

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or immediately start s**t shaming when we turn you down. It’s kind of ironic. You want to sleep with me, a complete stranger who could be a serial killer or just a crazy person, but I’m the s**t for saying no?

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Leo Domitrix
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, I can blame a guy for trying. "No" is the polite version of "f*ck off and go to he**".... or so my mom taught me to think.

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Becky Samuel
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Would you say the same if large bearish gay men were hitting on you repeatedly while you were trying to have a fun night out? Or if a guy from the office just kept on following you around trying to persuade you into the sack? Can't blame them for trying now, can you?

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#23

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Driving really aggressively and having road rage. When I was younger and dating, I had so many experiences as a passenger with young guys who were otherwise normal but really intense and scary when they got behind the wheel. It always seemed like a red flag

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was once in a really horrific car accident with a double blowout. The car started veering suddenly on the road, and that sensation of veering became part of a severe anxiety/PTSD that affects me in cars to this day. I shared this with a boyfriend, because he wanted to know why I was such a nervous passenger. His response was to drive and then start going faster and faster and then swerve the car as though we were going to crash into a barrier. I was hyperventilating, panicking, crying. He didn't understand why I couldn't just see what a funny joke it was. Sadly it took me more months and more red flags to realize I needed to get the hell away from him, but I did eventually.

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#24

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) I've been approached several times in public by random men who say they want to be friends with me. One leaned in really close to have a conversation and asked me where I was from and where I live. Another grabbed my hands and remarked on how soft my skin is. Another one literally locked arms with me and dragged me to a coffee shop to 'get to know me' and then later told me to come with him to a more private place for a view of the city

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Revolting. The sort of behaviour I'd expect from a backwards, misogynistic culture.

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#25

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Slow down their car when I’m walking. Dude, check your phone down the street. Not pulled up next to a woman walking alone. Infuriates me how few men even think of how that looks

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree for the most part but if someone is receiving a phone call when they are driving, they often won’t pay attention to other surroundings besides the road as they pull over to answer the phone. Could be the only place to pull over for a while, or where they live. I don’t think there is a way of actually knowing but we can’t stop men doing everything.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Common female discussion - Unsolicited nudie pics. Equivalent to those creeps who hide behind the bushes trying to flash you. People need to realize 1 in 4 women have had some kind of [sexuall harassment]. Save it for your partner. Or risk getting blasted or viewed as a weirdo perv.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That makes me annoyed and disgusted, not scared. I'm not afraid of someone's pathetic junk.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) When a guy won't give up. He doesn't even have to be physically present. Being an adamant d**k over text is enough to terrorize you sometimes

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, technology can sure make things weird sometimes. Double-edged sword, it is.

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#28

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Wanting to go to a secluded location if I don't know you well. Men on Tinder suggest going on hikes or taking a walk after dinner on first dates. Doesn't even cross their minds that I would not want to be alone with them on a date

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a guy get all offended because I didn't want to go skinny dipping on a first date in the dark at a very dark lake....oh hell no!

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Raising their voice in anger. Even if it isn't directed at me. Triggers a flight response. An obvious one I know but I think some men have no idea how scary that is. Also grabbing or hugging me from behind as a surprise. Solid way to trigger a panic attack

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

99% of people raise their voice when angry. It's kind of supposed to be scary.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) The complete inability to see an idea or situation from a woman's perspective. Instantly getting defensive when you mention something men do makes you uncomfortable. "But, but I don't do that!!!" Ok cool, but can you see his this might make someone half your size feel??

Whenever a guy does this I realize they have a serious empathy problem and makes me not want to be around them. What happens if they lose their temper, are intoxicated, etc so their inhibitions are even lower?

No thanks, not worth the risk. Also, I try not to spend time with closed-minded people so that automatically rules them out of my friend group

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "but I don't do that" also ignores the point, which is that there are underlying attitudes, biases, and cultural conditioning that mean a lot of men are not only doing these things, but they don't even seem to realize the things they're doing aren't okay. The "not all men" argument completely disregards that toxic masculinity is a pervasive, systemic issue, not "a few bad apples." If it were just a few bad apples, every single solitary woman I've ever spoken to wouldn't have an entire scroll of creepy/scary past encounters with men.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Once a guy made new social media accounts to search me up after I blocked him, THREE TIMES

I don’t know what he thought would happen by just keep trying. Like I would just go “I love how you stalk me and keep shooting your shot after I’ve blocked you several times! Marry me”??

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't believe they would be so desperate to make a new social media account just to search you up, disgusting

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Uber or lyft drivers who ask me if they're driving me home. You don't need to know that!

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uber drivers who abuse the child lock... Can't tell you how many times I've been sitting there, locked in a car with drivers asking for my number, telling me they'll let me out once they have verified that I gave them my real number .

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Strangers complimenting me on my body really freaks me out. I also don't like people commenting on my hair, but that's because I'm ginger and I get a lot of sexualized comments

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BonnyDK
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've had guys just want to touch my long hair including a dr I was seeing. He said he loved my red hair and asked if he could touch it. I have brown hair. Not red in the least. I had the receptionist tell his wife. How inappropriate. He retired after that.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Getting really intense about our relationship/ friendship really early on. A lot of guys turn women into this kind of fantasy thing that’s supposed to make them whole/ help them change or whatever. Sir I am the main character in my own life, not just a supporting one in yours. When you put that pressure on me right away abs without reciprocation, I know that I don’t actually matter, you’ve been taught that women serve you

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

woman do this as often...is not gender base, but personality base...and it's creepy no matter gener or sexual preference..and yes we guys get also scare by those people

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#35

Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Meeting me at my job and asking for my work schedule so they can 'see me more often'

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BonnyDK
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a guy from a singles group at church want to volunteer at my school where I taught. Not going to happen. I asked him if he had kids that went there. He didn't. I told him they are not going to let you in the door.....so many really awkward stuff going on there. Not someone I was interested in any shape or form to begin with.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Staring. OHMYGOD THE STARING. It’s not cute, it’s not attractive, I don’t know you like that

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Staring from anyone is unsettling, although I must admit that I have stared into space in the direction of individuals. And just my luck that when I realise whats happening, at the same time the person notices me staring their way. So embarrassing.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Calling women beautiful as much as possible. Once or twice is nice, if you know them, but if you don't know the guy and he says it too much, it freaks me out

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It makes me think that he's only interested in me for how I look on his arm, and not for my intelligence or companionship. Unfortunately I fell for it once and the guy barely knew me by the time we broke up nearly two years later. He'd tell everyone we met that I'd lived in Africa, but then he'd tell me stop the excuses when I didn't understand an unwritten rule because I grew up in freaking Africa (multiple countries), not Europe.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Feel up on you and go "I'm kiddiiiiiiiingg" and do it again

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I want cake
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Had a colleague do that to me while I was carrying a tray full of drinks through an art trade fair on opening day, he grabbed my butt as he walked past me. This was after he'd been 'flirting' with me for weeks, even though he knew I had a bofriend, which only made him ask rude questions about what we got up to in the bedroom, and getting management to put me on his team every single shift. I had to threaten to get him fired to make him stop.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Asking for way too much information. Where I live, who I live with, where I work, what hours I work, Nearly wanting a schedule of my life in order to schedule a date.

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Jo Choto
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again, women need to be able to cut these conversations off at the start. After the first inappropriate or overly-personal question, they should be confident in saying, "Please stop asking me questions. I don't want to talk to you," and then you stop talking and stop listening. Doesn't matter if you're at work. You tell coworkers you are having a problem. Someone else asks them to leave.

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Matching my speed while driving to look in and stare at me

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Calling me "sweet" pet-names like "honey" and "sweetheart" in a normal conversation (like at the shopping counter or anywhere else I ask a question or mention something). Most of the time they don't even realize that they start with that and I'm annoyed at it but for some reason it freaks me out when they call me that and I don't know them. IDK why

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Women Share Moments Men Intimidated Them Probably Without Even Being Aware Of It (42 Stories) Liking every single picture with my face on Instagram in a period of two minutes

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Shirley Heyn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My sister does that, it's irritating. She does it whether it is a good or bad post, whether she agrees or not with the content.

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