“Relentlessly Pursued By Someone”: 46 Things That Look Awesome In Movies But Are Terrible In Real Life
Interview With ExpertThose who saw the first Karate Kid film likely remember the scene where Mr. Miyagi jumped a fence and singlehandedly took on five Cobra Kai goons to save Daniel LaRusso. If you saw this as a kid, it likely made many of you believe that knowing Karate was pretty much a superpower that could save you in a similar situation.
The reality is that street fights are ugly. It could land a person in jail, in the hospital, or worse. People will bite, headbutt, strike the groin, maybe even have a weapon involved that can instantly nullify your Karate.
This misrepresentation of hand-to-hand combat is just one of the many responses to a Reddit thread from a while back. People also shared how they felt Hollywood romanticized high school life, being in the military, and the physical act of love, among many others.
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Kissing someone without their consent. This goes for both genders not just men. They just push them against the wall and start kissing them. I feel like it teaches young people that this is romantic and not potentially sexual harassment. It happens a lot on tv shows like Grey’s Anatomy for example. You really shouldn’t kiss someone like that without their consent.
Moving. In the movies, there’s just the fun of unpacking important keepsakes and placing them on the mantle. In real life, packing up all your s**t and carting elsewhere sucks.
I'm a weirdo. I love moving! Have done it so many times that I developed a plan of how to do it easier and making the move more smooth. The only thing I don't really like is the actual getting stuff from old place to new place. Lol.
Perhaps I should make it a living. Helping ppl packing stuff and unpacking. 🤣
Load More Replies...After we moved three times in two years, I told my husband if we moved again I was going to drop a match and let insurance buy us new furniture.
Moving is by far my most hated thing to do in my entire life. During college I would have to move almost every year.
I agree, the saying is real, something like death divorce and moving are the hardest to do in life. I remember my last move, I ran into my best friend and collapsed into her arms sobbing just from the stress. We laugh about it now but it was very real in that moment.
Load More Replies...I moved 6 times in 5 years a decade ago. I am definitely not moving anytime soon, now I own my own home. I had to donate a lot of books because it was hard to move them each time. Now I'm able to build up my collection again.
One of the best things about being a 'grown up' is that your friends don't all move every summer.
Being relentlessly pursued by someone you keep telling you are not interested.
It's not romantic or comedic, it's just a mixture of stalking and harassment if you keep showing up in their life and/or throwing romantic gestures their way.
Maybe you can try again at a later date if you feel your initial approach or the timing might have been off. But really leave the other person alone until then. Truly alone - no following them in real life or on social media - even if they don't find out (they will), you will inevitably let something slip when you do reconnect and that will be very bad.
Some 80's romance movies feel like a horror/thriller movie with a laugh track.
Load More Replies...Which, similarly, most people think this is a romantic song and will play it at their wedding. Nope, it's about a stalker.
Load More Replies...The f*ing Notebook, where he dangles from a Ferris wheel until she agrees to go out with him, even though she's said no more than once before
Dealing with grief is one of the many facets of life that Hollywood romanticizes. According to Joseph Castranova-Monceleano III, founder and CEO of Resting Rainbow Pet Memorials and Cremation, movies that depict dramatic crying scenes followed by characters moving on with their lives, claiming they have been “transformed and healed,” are a distortion of reality.
“Real grief doesn't follow Hollywood timelines or neat emotional arcs. (It is) messy, urgent, and completely unpredictable,” he told Bored Panda, adding that movies also sell the idea that closure “happens in two hours with a soundtrack.”
Small town living.
Oh, I'll catch hell for it, I'm sure, but I've never been impressed with small towns. Some people really do enjoy living in small communities, but I grew up in one and lived in another for 10 years, and it was awful.
There's a lot of judgment in small towns, especially for people with "those families" - you know, the ones from the wrong side of the tracks. There's also a lot of judgment if you're not a straight, white, Christian. You're going to face a lot of discrimination and gossip.
You'll either be in the small town where everyone knows everyone's business, or the small town where you are frozen out for 10 years because you weren't born there and your family isn't from there. I've lived in both.
I lived in a town of 500 for a few years in my childhood, and went to a school that serviced a mostly rural area. I hated it. Narrow-minded, racist, stupid and proud, judgmental, and on and on describes 90% of them. There were kids in my school from farms where I suspect their parents gave Mothers and Fathers day gifts to the same people. One kid literally looked like a dog. There were four boys in one family, all intellectually disabled, and just plain odd looking. WTH is going on that that happened? They all stank to high heaven. I was only 12 when we moved but even at that age I hated to think what went on in some of those farmhouses. I'll take city people any day of the week.
Wait, did we grow up in the same place? Lol I had a very similar experience. Where I grew up, incest was rampant. That could explain some of the things you described.
Load More Replies...Small town living only works if the town isn’t too far from a city, or if you just happen to fit in with the residents. If there’s no nearby city to provide the resources and experiences that are impossible to access in a small town. Also, if you don’t fit the mold, and are too different from the locals, it could end up being downright unpleasant for you. I live in a small town that’s not far from a city, and also a large resort, so the locals have some exposure to people who aren’t carbon copies of themselves. However, several miles further down the road would not work for me, as it is deeply in the boondocks, and there is NOTHING to do there. The ignorance and inbreeding is plainly obvious to anyone not from there; people who are barely literate, to the point of not even being curious about the world outside their tiny towns, and who aren’t ever going to have a decent quality of life. Teen pregnancy, several marriages (some to people who are too closely related to them), d***s and alcohol a***e, domestic a***e, early death, and children who will turn out the exact same way, living in a rundown house at best, a rusted out trailer, or homeless, at worst.
Also have the highest violent crime rates in the country, even though a lot of it’s unreported. Theft and breaking and entering too.
Can confirm. I grew up in a small rural town in the Deep South, and it was the passion of my heart to GET! OUT! I did. I made it out, first to a slightly larger town (where I retired to when Covid hit, more about that in a bit), then to Los Angeles for 22 years. I got the experience I needed and wanted, and I get it from a young person's perspective. Now that I'm 50+, a slower pace of life is nicer, and I'm around family, friends, community.
What is a small town? I live on an island in Alaska with 13,000, and going out further is even less population. Yeah, it can suck when people actually know who you are, but it also sucks in the big city because there's too many people and no one knows anything.
Jealousy.
It's not cute or sweet, nor does it mean that this person really loves you. They just see you as a possession and that's disgusting.
Maybe just like a twinge of jealousy and then working through it...but active, life destroying jealousy is so toxic
It's insecurity that wears a jacket of control. Awful, and not love at all.
Real life might be a stretch, but I heard people often romanticize apocalypse scenarios. This was really prevalent during the zombie fad from the mid to late 2000s.
"It'd be just you and me against the world, baby!!!" Yeah, I'll pass on the constant threat of infection, starvation, shelter, etc, etc. Sounds f*****g awful.
I drink a lot of water. Any scenario where it isn't clean, fresh, and safe right out of my tap, and I don't want to be there
Also bathing and brushing my teeth and in general indoor plumbing. Really don't want to go without those.
Load More Replies...I am a big fan of the post apocalypse genre and I buy gear and stuff to get through an apocalypse as a bit of a hobby. Having said that, I like my comfy home and bathroom and being able to drink coffee and pick up pizzas.
I’m not into collecting apocalypse-related stuff, but I DO agree about preferring comfort to hardship and having electricity and indoor plumbing (no peeing or popping outside for me), food that’s safe to eat, heat in winter, A/C in summer, and a big TV screen to watch movies on. I don’t even like to go camping—-you can sleep in a tent if you want, but I’ll be staying at the lodge, with heater A/C (depending on the season), a shower, TV, room service, and actual walls and locked doors instead of a thin piece of nylon between me and the local potentially dangerous wild animals. I camped when I was a kid, so I have had that experience already, and do not need to relive it at my age. I have EARNED the right to stay at the lodge.
Load More Replies...The only good thing that came out of the zombie fad for me personally is the mindset when I am outside jogging (trying to get strong enough to actually be able to run *yay*): that I am doing this so I can outrun the zombies. It makes me motivated enough to continue even if I think I'm too tired to keep going.
Similarly, movies depict recovery from traumatic life experiences as a “quick fix,” which Intensive Trauma Therapy Retreats owner Dr. Bambi Rattner describes as “dangerous.” She noted that many films depict people having “breakthrough moments,” only to be “cured” by the end credits.
“(It) creates unrealistic expectations that damage real recovery efforts,” he said. “In my intensive retreats, we work for 8+ hours over multiple consecutive days specifically because trauma doesn't follow Hollywood timelines.”
High school.
It feels like everyone divides 50/50 on this. Either hated it or loved it. Not a lot of in-between.
Load More Replies...I liked high school. No worries other than getting scolded for not doing homework or skipping school, no responsibilities because parents are taking care of the housing and all that stuff. Plus, having a routine was really nice. Going to college and living alone didn't go well for me: there was no one to wake me up in the morning and no consequences if I skipped the lectures. I ended up only going there for the exams in order to be allowed to sign up for another year (because my parents only agreed to pay my rent and bills on the condition that I was enrolled in college even if they knew I didn't give a sh*t about studying.)
That's a failure on your parents' part. You should have been getting yourself out of bed when you were in high school, doing basic household chores so you could take care of yourself in your dorm room, had real consequences for skipping school/not doing homework, and - let's face it - they should not have been paying your rent & bills for you while you pretended to be a college student.
Load More Replies...What I suffered at my high school - boarding school - was the start of my (diagnosed) PTSD.
Oh, I bet you have some not so nice stories to tell. Sorry you went through that.
Load More Replies...I wouldn't say I hated it but recognized it as something that had to be endured. I was immensely glad to see the back of it.
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Running as fast as you can, chasing someone, for blocks and blocks, and not winded much.
Or when someone is running and the protagonist is just walking at a normal rate and all of a sudden they catch up with them.
Making a big hot breakfast for a large family.
That's the part that gets me. Like do they pack it up for later? Just toss it? WTF? Also, what idiot ignores a huge yummy breakfast. Unless it's emergency surgery I am fully willing to be late for a good meal.
Load More Replies...If the above is breakfast, no wonder so many have weight problems. Muffins, jam, doughnuts. Are you kidding??
Give me two eggs with a sprinkle of cheese or ham and I'm good to go
Load More Replies...But breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Not sure the reason why.
Coffee does me: can't bring myself to eat on an empty stomach.
Load More Replies...To show how potentially destructive film depictions of recovery can be, Dr. Rattner mentioned a case involving one of her clients, who almost quit therapy after six months. According to her, movies led individuals to believe that it was enough time to be “fixed.”
“What's particularly harmful is when clients internalize Hollywood's message that they're 'broken' if healing takes time,” Dr. Rattner said.
Hanging out alone in a bar, they always end up having a great conversation or meeting an interesting person, while in reality, you either end up silent and solo or chat with a talkative, annoying fella.
Hanging out in a bar getting toasted is expensive as Hell. A single six-pack will run you upwards of $50. Yet Cheers depicted working-class people hanging out in a bar every night tossing back one beer after another from the time they got off work until closing time in a major cosmopolitan city's downtown. That's (in today's money) a five-digit bar tab for the year. That's rent in a cheaper city.
I am a woman and I always find divey local bars and hang out by myself. I would like a beer, but I don't keep alcohol in the house. I like to play on my phone. I chat with some people and then go back to my thoughts. I make friends, but also have my solitude. And occasionally I find out something interesting about someone I chat with. I do not get drunk, but enjoy myself and go home.
I used to think this until I saw my friend do this at every bar he goes to alone
Dang, I have a girlfriend--tall, biggish, older red-head going grey--all her life could walk into a bar, get in cab, take a plane, whatever, and she'd strike up a conversation with anybody. Even people that don't seem interested at first eventually open up to her. Some people just have a way to get others unlocked and happy to talk. Me, I'm over here in the corner.
Living "off the grid"
My guess is most people do well for the first few months, then cant handle losing modern conveniences long term.
I start going insane after an hour if the power goes out.
Load More Replies...I had a friend who loved living in the woods with just his tent, his dog and his hunting bow, but he still came to the city regularly. He always said that he *could* live off the grid, he just didn't see a reason to turn down disability payments and things that made life easier like going to supermarket to buy booze and food instead of making it all himself.
I lived off grid for fuel, sewage, and electricity, but on for water and WiFi. It was a great combo. Cooked and heated with wood sourced as waste from tree surgeons. Had compost loos for sewage. Electric was wind and solar.
I have lived in a earth ship house with no indoor plumbing and no electricity.... and it was NOT fun. Want drinking water, go to town and fill ten 5 gallon totes... every week. Want to cook food and heat your house in the winter, cut down BIG trees, and chop and stack 12-15 cords of wood every year! Need to go to to the bathroom, dig a 4 ft. x 4 ft. x 6 ft. outhouse pit every year - move the outhouse and then backfill the old pit. All your lights are kerosene lanterns, and have to be filled, cleaned, and carried from room to room. Sustenance living sucks!
"Alone" is a show about people dropped off in Vancouver Island, and a big thing they bring up is how it's not Florida in the fall temperature.
I want to see the video of them living 'off the grid' after breaking their leg or with a seriously infected wound.
Yeah I don't think they'd be living after a few days.
Load More Replies...There's off the grid, and OFF the grid. Meaning you can have electricity from generators and solar and all the modern amenities, but not connected, or there is the bushwacking, flint and steel with a hatchet survival.
There's off the grid and then there's off the grid with no bank account and no fall back.
Load More Replies...It was grossly idealised in movie Into the Wild. Which should be the finest example of unprepared person going off the grid.
Losing your job and finding yourself.
I dont think she lost her job but I could not stand that eat pray love movie with Julia Roberts.
Why? I lost several jobs. Quit few. Until u haven't credit to pay or family to support, losing a job can be really good thing. But I think that depends on personality.
Having a “soulmate” is another concept glamorized by Hollywood. It has made many believe that once they found their perfect match, they could understand each other with minimal effort. According to veteran marriage and family therapist Ross Hackerson, it’s a fantasy that “keeps couples from learning actual communication skills.”
“The most damaging romanticization is that passion should be effortless and constant. Real intimacy requires specific skills like validation and emotional attunement, not magical compatibility,” said Hackerson, who referred to the soulmate trope as “the biggest Hollywood lie.”
A guy you're not interested in that won't give up on trying to be your boyfriend.
I feel like tragedy in general is romanticized in movies/books. Like it's the tragedy (of any kind, a death, accident, disaster, fire, illness, etc.) that brings the couple closer or makes their love stronger. In reality, the trauma would be much more complex and wouldn't always bring people closer.
The cat? I never found his escapades too traumatic.
Load More Replies...Tragedy more often drives a wedge between people. A good example of a tragedy would be their child drowning in the pool or being hit by a car when they (the parents) barely looked away for half a second to attend to something else that needed their attention unexpectedly. Those are accidents, but couples often end up harboring guilt and blaming themselves and each other, when it was an accident. Bad things just happen to people, without any kind of rhyme or reason—-or actual fault on their part. Life isn’t always perfect, isn’t always going to go the way you want it to, and isn’t going to happen completely untouched by any of the s****y stuff that happens. That kind of 100% charmed life isn’t only possible in fairy tales—-and even fairy tales contain s****y stuff that happens to someone, even if not to the hero and heroine.
Shooting without ear protection. All these action heroes would be deaf from all the shooting in enclosed spaces they do.
Ear protection may be a thing now. Definitely wasn’t 50 years ago. Everyone I know from army has significant hearing loss
We always double-plugged for pistol competitions. 28 dB reduction earplugs coupled with the best impulse filtering 30 dB headphones.
Load More Replies...After an accidental discharge in the SAFETY ROOM at the range, the round had stopped ricocheting off the walls and floor and we had all stopped shïtting ourselves our ears were ringing so badly we could hardly hear the Range Master shouting "Get the fück out of here before I shove that Luger up your fücking ärse!" Miraculously nobody was hit. 9mm round from 1941 Luger = 6 month suspension from club.
Best enclosed space shooting in saw was in a car in an Australian movie. Both barrels of a shotgun. All the windows blew out and everyone was deafened!
If you’re a fan of romantic thrillers, you’ve likely come across the story that portrays infidelity as a steamy, passionate episode in one’s life. But according to betrayal expert, speaker, and author Lora Cheadle, JD, Cht, real affairs rarely start with passion. They begin with pain.
“An affair is less about finding love and more about escaping what hurts. Like any other unhealthy coping mechanism, it’s a way to numb feelings we don’t know how to name or express,” she said.
Waking up in the morning.
Sorry, 50+ confirmed lark here. I adore getting up, even as early as 4 or 5am. What I could not handle is working the 3-11 shift. My circadian rhythm was so messed up, the weekend I quit, I ran two stop signs. Lucky to be alive and have my car unwrecked and whole. Never again.
NYC 🤷🏻♀️ sorry but it’s terrible lol.
Disagree. Loved it. But I'm a city mouse. Love the restaurants, the parks, the public transit - all of it.
I went there once on business. I won't go back. I stayed in a room that was the size of my walk in closet at home. No AC, only a sink and a armoire. The toilet and shower were communal and down the hall. It cost the company way more for a month than I paid for my mortgage. And I am not a country boy, I grew up and live in suburbia. But it was summer, and I had to have the window open. The noise from outside made it hard to sleep at all. Never again....
So the company was too cheap to spring for a decent hotel room and put you in a hostel, or the YMCA, and that's New York's fault? Saying it's way more for a month when your mortgage payment is what, $1800? That's not the flex you think it is.
Load More Replies...There’s a lot of cool stuff there. I love the museums. But I also hate cities in general and would never want to stay there long term.
I went there by myself in 2004. I LOVED IT! Everyone was SO nice! Several people just wanted me to keep talking. They were fascinated by my southern accent. Me: "I don't have an accent." I definitely had an accent. I was from Atlanta.
Life.
Life. Like it or loathe it, you can't ignore it. (Marvin the paranoid android)
Cheadle adds that Hollywood sends a message that an affair can “make us feel alive.” But in reality, it creates chaos that involves guilt, shame, secrecy, broken families, and the loss of self-respect.
“When people discover that the fantasy doesn’t deliver — that the passion fades and the consequences remain — they’re left reeling, wondering how they got so far from who they wanted to be,” Cheadle said.
Jumping in piles of leaves.
First you have to rake everything, then you jump into a shockingly not soft pile of dirt and animal feces, then you have to rake it all over again!
When I was little I liked this, my dad raked the leaves and didn't mind raking them again.
'Mr Bond, your plane leaves in one hour'
what! I need three days to prepare clothing, medicin, house/pet/kids-sitter, cancel the giggolo.
Gunfights.
They should be more realistic. Most people seem to think that being shot is just tumbling backwards, crying "aarrgh" (if at all), and that's it. They should see the ripped off arms, the screams, the blood, the brain matter. Maybe then they'd care about school shootings (btw, have you noticed how we never hear about the children who get wounded in school shootings? How do they live with the scars, or the missing limbs? Who paid for the hospital, or making their parents' home wheechair-friendly? How to they deal with the PTSD? Nah, it's all hush-hush, ever wondered why? )
This should also include war movies that glorify going to war and making it seem like the adventure of your life. It is just as you described, plus 24/7 fear and risk of death or worse, and seeing your best friend blown to pieces right in front of you, seeing old people, children, and animals killed or violently mistreated. There’s more, but I don’t want to go there.
Load More Replies...I agree with Earonn - people don't really appreciate the carnage of gunshot wounds. I (US) am not a parent and I of course have not lost any child in a school shooting. But I think the only way to change the minds of the guns/AR-15s are "my 2nd amendment right" folks is to make them face the carnage the guns cause. Emmet Till's mom understood - that is why she had an open casket for her brutally tortured, disfigured son - see what the monsters did to her boy - and galvanized the civil rights movment. I think making these people confront the crime scene and autopsy photos of these children would make them rethink how important their "right" is. Confront the NRA who profits from this and Congress who also profits from this.
But to reiterate, I have not lost a child this way and it is not my child's blood and guts strewn through those photos. It would be the incredibly painful and traumatizing decision of those parents to do this. They cannot be faulted for keeping their agony private.
Load More Replies...Especially in the 60's/70's westerns. After someone gets shot you hardly see any blood. They just fall backwards and clutch there chest or area they get shot at.
So why does Hollywood have a penchant for giving its audience a warped view of reality? According to actor and film producer Randy Charach, movies are not the replication of life as it happens, but rather, the distillation.
“Life is complicated and winding, but film cuts the fat and creates an enhanced emotional reaction that allows for better audience engagement,” he said.
When someone comes to visit someone, they are asked if they want a drink, they accept, then leave without touching it.
If that happened irl, I’d lose it.
Yeah, always annoys me. And in many (older?) British cop shows and movies, they'd enter the house, then presumably sit there in deadly silence for the five or ten minutes while the witness is making tea, getting biscuits and whatever. Then they're sitting with said tea in the living room, have a 30 second conversation and get up to leave.
That's because the tea maker put the milk in the cup before pouring the tea - a crime worse than murrrrrrdah!
Load More Replies...It's done for the same reason they don't show someone saying "Goodbye" at the end of a telephone call - screen time.
Maybe the host wants to know if their guest is autistic ? (A relative of mine who worked in a hospital said it's a question that's used for a pre-diagnosis: A "normal" person being offered a drink will first say no because it's considered a polite thing to do in case the host is simply being polite and can't actually afford to give a drink. If the host asks again, it's socially acceptable to accept. An autistic person doesn't understand that kind of social cues, they'll take the question literally and answer yes or no.)
Flying down the highway with the top down at close to 100mph
There's no way she wouldn't be frizzy when they arrived, and you feel like a Saint Bernard with its head out of a window if you try to talk. Also, bugs hit you in the face when they bounce off the windshield.
Our first road trip across France, late 1970s, Triumph Spitfire with the top down. GF (later wife) has gone full Grace Kelly with a headscarf and enormous sunglasses. 5 miles down the road "Can we put the top up?" I mean it's not like we'd never driven in England with the top down but driving all the way across France at 45mph take a long time!
How do you tell how happy backseat passengers in a convertible are? —Count the bugs on their teeth.
I thought you had no windshield, and yet you mentioned a windshield? I don't think you've ever travelled fast in a convertible. At 100mph i would be fine, even my hat would still be on (and I'm tall). Nothing in the back seat would be there, though, except for the fact I have specifically designed wind protection for the rear.
Toxic relationships.
Charach added that while romanticization is not required for every narrative, it is in the majority of films in some form. He also clarified that Hollywood does it mainly for the entertainment of the audience, who “do not come to watch every boring second.”
“Hollywood plays into romanticization because it takes the mundane and, through conflict, turns it into something larger than ourselves,” he explained.
True crime and podcast based off true crime stories. These stories are the worst moments of someone’s life and we listen to them like entertainment.
If it is like a documentary, with consent of the victim's family or with respect for the victims, then can I watch or listen to it. But the (Netflix) series about serial killers, I can't watch. Don't make them more famous, their name should be forgotten, their victims names remembered. Worst are the podcasts/videos only about sensation, gruesome facts and repugnant entertainment.
I love whodunnit series! Barnaby, Frost, Miss Scarlet..... all those. But I will not ever watch true crime shows. Because I know that what they are telling you and show you and the ppl interviewed for it... well, it all actually happened. And I will lose all faith in humanity if I watch stuff like that.
I appreciate the family members who come forward as a cautionary tale of looking for the warning signs. Other than that, I prefer to watch the ones where the perpetrator is caught and punished or when there is an update to a cold case where they have found the perpetrator.
I hate it when people romanticize going to war. They don't know what it's like to live with a vet with PTSD.
I have said this before, but victims of domestic violence at the hands of a veteran with disability for PTSD should be able to sue against the a****r's disability.
This seems to be an American thing. Perhaps because nobody has, yet, brought the war to your land...
Children.
I do buy the occasional one liners...but there is no way the kids could be left unattended for the amount of time they are without catastrophic consequences.
Gen X becomes visible, to the amazement of everyone who didn't realize they were there. They hesitate for a second and then figure, "Eh, I'll hang my hat on it and use my silent-generation impression": "Back in my day...."
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Take a romantic novel and play out the script in real life. You'll be appalled with the main character's behavior.
The bodice rippers I sell crack me up. It's never her "p*ssy". It's her womanhood, or her essence or once, her button of desire. It's always "heaving breasts". They heave? Am I doing it wrong? Then it's his manhood, and it's always throbbing(you should get that checked out, pal). The women, both writers and characters, always have names like 80's soap operas. Jessica Hollingsworth, or Sabrina Jeffries. Most of the writers are pseudonyms, and here's the real kicker, some of them are men. Hey, I guess little old lady widows have to get their kicks somehow.
Do the DeVito test. If the main hero of a romance story would turn into an unhinged psychopath if he was played by Danny DeVito, he's nothing but an unhinged psychopath with a pretty face. (Disclaimer: I'm not calling Danny ugly or whatever, the point is to filter out the pretty privilege of conventionally hot, muscular hunks)
Fully agree. It doesn't even have to be someone not conventionally attractive. If the person were average with some meh job they were scraping by in, their actions would be horrifying ( looking at you 50 Shades of Grey)
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Hand to hand combat.
Having broken up a lot of fights ( I teach high school) most people land a few flailing smacks at best. However I did have one fight I was unwilling to break up. One kid had been in training as a boxer for 5 years and the other had a black belt. They fought dead silently. The only sound was the body blows landing. It was intensely scary.
Being in the f*****g military.
Ofc. Army, navy, air force and f*****g force...
Load More Replies...Fixing the bad boy.
Bad boys make exciting boyfriends, but p**s poor husbands unless there’s some kind of miracle that suddenly turns them into responsible adults overnight.
Mort Saul said that men marry women hoping they'll stay the same, and women marry men hoping they'll change.
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Working in the medical field. Saying it “sucks” is maybe too harsh, but I feel it’s often glamorized or even over-dramatized to seem like a more fun job than it actually is. Sometimes it’s super messed up, other times it’s boring and mundane as hell, it can be fun too, but shows/movies get it wrong more often than not.
Ditto for cop shows. So much more paperwork and so much less action in real life.
It's been a long, long time since the medical field was glamorized in movies/TV. Have you not seen The Pitt ffs?
I was just going to mention that show. It was...brutal.
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Fighting on top of a train.
I'm just going to throw this out there, risking to upset a lot of people😅. But what about having children?
There are 8 BILLION people. Can everyone stop having children for 20 years? Thanks
I need the straight people to remember to wrap it up for a while, lol.
Load More Replies...That the love of your life will automatically read your mind just like in the movies. Real life doesn't work like that, you need to make efforts at communicating with each other.
Months and months of hard physical training... the power of "montage" would be the most amazing super power ever lol.
Rocky IV training montage always comes to mind. (His training in Russia)
Years ago, I had the privilege of flying in a Navy attack jet. It was an "orientation flight" to see if we wanted to pursue a career flying combat fighters. It was brutal. It convinced me that those guys are crazy, and I wanted nothing to do with it, but I still enjoy watching the Blue Angels at the air show.
I'd give my right arm for a flight in a RAAF Super Hornet.
Brutal stuff. The son of a friend has to endure 3 hours of what I couldn't take for a minute, and sometimes daily. They don't have long active careers, because they take so much physical a***e.
Depression.
Houses with open floor plans! All the home renovation and home-buying TV shows glamorize them, but there are so many negatives to them!
They can smell bad, as odors from the kitchen waft into other areas.
They are noisy, as sounds reverberate throughout the open area, so if there's a microwave or kettle going, it makes it hard to hear conversations or the TV. Everyone in the home has to put up with whatever is the noisiest activity in the main room, so if one group is having a boisterously fun time playing a board game, another group that's trying to watch a movie will have trouble hearing it.
Unless the home is built with a ton of storage, things can look perpetually messy because there's less space to stow items away, and there are so few walls to prop shelves or cabinets up against. And if you are entertaining, everyone gets to see you cooking and any messes you make while preparing food, adding pressure to wash dishes immediately rather than spending time with your guests and dealing with the dishes and other kitchen messes later.
And they are not at all energy efficient since you have to heat or cool a large room rather than smaller spaces.
And those shows always give white couches to people with young kids. So dumb!
I get why people might not like them but I love mine. I don't feel removed when I'm cooking or baking. And when you're hosting love that guests hang around the island and other guests are visible and part of the group in the living room. I spend a lot of time in my kitchen I couldn't imagine being cut off from everyone all the time like that BUT also can see why that could be the very reason some moms hate them.
They seem to be almost ubiquitous in Australia. I used to much prefer separate rooms, but I have to say that I now adore watching my partner dance in the kitchen when she cooks, as she does me (although I can't dance as well!)
Caffeine a*******n. It's always about collecting energy drinks cans, casually drinking 10 gallons of coffee, etc, and never about horrible headaches, blood pressure swings, and heart problems. I literally have a friend younger than me that drinks more than ~6 cans per day and jokes about it, flexing it in her social media, and thinks it wouldn’t affect her much, no matter how often I try to argue with her about it.
You'll have to peel my morning quart of coffee from my sluggish and non-nimble hands!
Weddings.
Yeah they tend to omit the meltdowns, the petty fights, the underlying tension etc... unless is comedic effect. Rarely are any of those things comedic
Country life ☹️ a doctor, a medical emergency? No. Is something missing from the fridge? Well done for you. Schooling for kids? They will take the bus for 40 minutes every morning and sometimes it won't even make it because it will snow. Tranquility? Forget. You're too likely to come across a noisy family, a group of messy individuals, a couple who bicker 24 hours a day, old idiots who will scrutinize your every move.
People who hate each other but want to know everything about everyone else's lives. The slightest fact that will give rise to speculation and rumors. Hatred of others, especially if they come from the city.
Honestly, I don't want to go back, it's crazy.
Every visit to a specialist, trip to pick up clothing, need to go sign documents is a full on 3 hour round trip minimum. It's draining, expensive, and problematic at best. I mean it does have good qualities.. our last meeting re crime was to discuss the kids drawing male anatomy on the playground equipment.
Fall in love.
If you really think falling in love isn't a happy event irl I think you must be severely depressed. Not every romantic relationship ends well, but being in love is wonderful.
Richard Attenborough would describe falling in love as "pair bonding in the human species."
That eyes across a crowded room, instant connection stuff is BS for 99.9999 percent of human beings. So many people don't know the difference between limerence and love, and when they fall out of limerence, they miss that emotional high and/or sexual tension, and then don't want to put in the work toward creating a real love. Real love takes work and communication and has to remember to do the chores and will put up with snoring in bed.
My partner and I always joke about that silly trope where people fall in love in such a ridiculously short time. It so ridiculous, it obviously never happens in real life! Because we fell in love in 3 days!
You are Robert Redford and Faye Dunaway and I claim my £5!
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and she leaves and you don't realize you're h*u*m*p*i*n*g the sand
Oh....you'd realize it. Just as soon as you d!ck head started to get sandpapered off.
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Serial killers.
The whole concept of Dexter is really beyond disturbing. I don't care if he's only killing serial killers. It is neither normal nor laudable to enjoy t*****e and I feel like most people have no concept of what t*****e looks like or how horrifying it is to actually witness ( if you have the stomach for it google Bittaker and Norris tapes) TRIGGER WARNING- it's recordings made by two serial killers while they t*****e young girls to death. It is horrific on every level.
Watching street performances. 99% of the time, they’re s**t.
Disagree somewhat with this one. If you're the kind of person that expects street performers, live bands, and impromptu entertainment to be just like...the movies, or like a big hyped-up expensive concert, then you must have some heavy duty expectations. I've had hella fun watching a violinist on a corner, joining a sing-a-long at a club, or doing karaoke, or being in a small town parade. Just being open to the moment and enjoying average people doing a average or even off-key job of things is fun.
S*x.
Jumping through a glass window.
Being in a relationship with someone leagues above your station.
So many shows and stories make it seem romantic, but it can be incredibly precarious to be with someone who has 10 times more power and money than you do. It can create an extreme power imbalance.
The Notebook.
He threatens to let go from hanging onto a ferris wheel if she turns him down for a date. Meanwhile she's already on a date with someone. He repeatedly doesn't accept her saying no.
Parts are sweet, sure... But there's been too much "no means try harder," for men.
Look at Indiana Jones and even Han Solo with how he was to Leia.
007 in a ton of movies, too.
But thats what they tell us, No means try harder/ you dont want it bad enough. Like a woman is the Lombardi trophy after a superbowl win. Most women arent prizes anyway.
Raves.
Driving.
Well, people in movies ALWAYS find a parking spot right in front of the place that they zoomed to (even in NYC!). So, there's that.
Careful driving is work, staying safe and driving cooperatively rather than competitively.
I gave up my licence. I'm shockingly absent minded. I once pulled over on a two-lane road and when I pulled back out I forgot to look. Hit a car going by and put a big ugly gouge all down the side. The thing is, he was driving it home from the dealership. I think it had 23 miles on the odometer. The world is a slightly better place with me not driving.
I come alive on the road. Doesnt matter what car. I will find its limits
Being skinny (not unintentionally but fighting for it every day, while other think you don’t do anything).
Talking to people.
Fixing your broken car in a desert.
Flats are doable if it is just one tire. We keep our car in good condition, and top off fuel before we leave the main roads no matter how much it costs. Oh yeah, and be prepared to spend the night.
So keep blankets, towels, non-perishable foods that don’t require cooking or can openers, and an emergency kit for cuts and other minor injuries, and whatever else you think you’ll need (like stuff to keep kids occupied) in the trunk or hatch of your car.
Load More Replies...This could also be two separate entries "fixing your broken car" and "The desert"
Being a hit man, wouldn’t want to constantly looking over my shoulder or making absolutely sure everything went to as planned or making sure the crime scene was left perfectly clean so I don’t go to prison.
Politicians and CEOs don't have this worry about their crimes - well, usually.
Bonnie and Clyde.
Sailing.
Eh? Naah, sailing is even better IRL than in the movies. Sure, it's often a bit cramped and smelly, the bunks are usually not comfortable and you can't relax properly until you're tied up at the end of a day, but it's still just the best thing.
Lot of things here are quite normal. I think folks who wrote that have some serious anxiety.
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Road trips.
It depends on who you are with. Nowadays those have to be planned and reservations for lodgings are needed, even if just a day in advance.
Indeed, wife and I love road trips. To our measures, a road trip is maybe 2 hours one way, visiting a town, church, museum, and then 2 hours back including a stop to eat somewhere. Days well spent.
Load More Replies...Road trips are awesome. You have to eat only fast food and there has to be a constant supply of skittles, or comparable candy in the center console. But c'mon, it's skittles. If the riders can agree on music, road trips are awesome. Sonic Youth, skittles, real coke not diet, McDonalds and great scenery ensure a 100% success rate on a road trip.
Flying overseas.
Don't know about romanticized but what is with all the huge windows with no blinds or curtains?
I think it's some kind of minimalistic trend. I watch a lot of body cam footage on You Tube, and I've notice a lot of newer homes with no wall decor, no drapes or curtains and ALWAYS the largest TV can can fit on the wall (usually over a fireplace-how does that even work?).
Load More Replies...Jail. My mom was actually shocked when I told her it's not like it's depicted in movies: you're not put in a cage in the middle of the police station with other people to chat with while you watch the cops move around and they joyfully bring you coffee. In reality, you're alone in a cell with a bulletproof door and a small opening for cops to check on you every hour and make sure you're not dead, they don't hang around to chit-chat and become your best friend.
Don't know about romanticized but what is with all the huge windows with no blinds or curtains?
I think it's some kind of minimalistic trend. I watch a lot of body cam footage on You Tube, and I've notice a lot of newer homes with no wall decor, no drapes or curtains and ALWAYS the largest TV can can fit on the wall (usually over a fireplace-how does that even work?).
Load More Replies...Jail. My mom was actually shocked when I told her it's not like it's depicted in movies: you're not put in a cage in the middle of the police station with other people to chat with while you watch the cops move around and they joyfully bring you coffee. In reality, you're alone in a cell with a bulletproof door and a small opening for cops to check on you every hour and make sure you're not dead, they don't hang around to chit-chat and become your best friend.
