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Unfortunately, we’re not mind-readers—at least… most of us aren’t. That means that if we want somebody to know something, we have to vocalize it. Or hope beyond hope that they’ll pick up on the trail of clues we leave in our body language.

The men of Reddit have come together and shared the things that they wish women knew and the things that are important to them, in the context of romantic relationships and beyond. They opened up about cute things like the fact that men really do enjoy hugs and compliments and also broached practical topics like the need to be alone from time to time. (Hey, boundaries are important, especially in relationships.)

As you’re scrolling down, upvote the posts that you agree with. And you should also swing by the comment section to share the things that you wish your partners knew, too, dear Pandas. Bored Panda spoke about the dynamic between men and women, and why it’s important to communicate about what’s most important to us with dating and relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man. Scroll down to read what he had to say.

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Just say it straight. Don't make me read between the lines or trying and take a hint. How in the heck am I supposed to know you're into me if you don't say it. I don't know you well enough to read your brand of body language, but I'm interested in you cause you seem cool.

If you respond with a "no" to my interest I will respect your boundaries, don't expect me to "try harder". No means no.

Verbal communication is way better.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. It's really the basic concept of consent we teach our kids. No means no. I talked to a girl once that told me, if I were a real man, I would chase her. No ma'am. A real adult says what they mean.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a woman- that whole "chase me" stuff usually leads to a manipulative partner and miserable life. You definitely dodged a bullet there.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when we are straight shooters we get called abrasive. Shrug. Can't win for losing.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or worse, slutshamed. I think that's a big reason that some women express interest indirectly.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Problem is that little girls are taught to "play hard to get" because if she comes off as too interested she'll be labeled as "easy" -- it's mess up.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel society is slowly moving away from this mindset, but it's been a long road

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You might respect it but the news is full of stories of men who didn't respect it and obituaries for the women who said no directly. We can't know who we're talking to in a world like that. It's just not always safe

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do I know you won't try to kill me if I reject you??? Read the room. Use traditional manners. Ask someone to do something on three different occasions, you don't know their life; if they say no all three times don't ask them again. That's how it's worked for hundreds of years. Read some etiquette books.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The stalking shows affection trope from romantic movies and books needs to die. Unfortunately there are still a lot a women and girls who think men/boys continuing to pursue them after being told no is romantic. Consent and clear communication are hands down the best thing for any gender to learn when it comes to romantic interests.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know zero women like this. As if women are super vague and besides the point all the time (she says no, but means yes).

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never understood the hard to get manuever that woman play. Men don't play that and move on

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never quite understood this, but I'm a weirdo. If I like someone, I straight up tell them and ask them out on a date. I've done this since high school so since 14 yrs old? I'm female, and yes it's nerve wracking and hard as hell to do but I never let that stop me. It's been 50/50 between being shot down and getting a "yes" but I don't like games and I don't have patience when it comes to myself so I just go for it. If the man says no, it sucks, but I accept it and move on.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes!!! Ground rule of my very happy marriage: Don't expect me to read your thoughts, I don't expect you to read mine!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

no means no , but they say no to make you work harder , so you date another girl and they get pissed

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't stand women who do this. If we want good, real relationships, women have to stop with the games.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think this is about what sex you are. As a woman I like people who are direct as well.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think that has anything to do with being a man or a woman. As a woman I like the same directness.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now just take that, and tell it to all the Nice Guys who think they can buy their way into random womens beds.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry. There is nothing between my lines -- IF I say NO, I mean No! Not nohow, Contrarywise!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a true statement. My husband was the type who had no clue if a girl liked him. I asked him out and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. There's a culture based on men making the first move, but lol I am the type I know what I want and I'm just going to go for it who cares what others think 😌

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean I've seen several guys who don't take no as an answer, but I appreciate to the ones who do

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just like taxes. You get a hint that you owe them but go to prison if you get it wrong

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nice! Too true! When did girls return to being afraid to say what they mean? I thought we'd nipped that "chase me" s**t in the bud! Sorry. It was the 60s... 70s.... I forgot. I took one look at the 80s and went into music-concert-sex-air-food only mode. Hibernation. It's real.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if the guy is unattractive: NO MEANS NO YOU SHOULDN'T EVEN TRY YOU SHOULD KNOW FROM HOW IM SITTING THAT I'M NOT ATTRACTED TO YOU if he's attractive: IM GONNA PLAY GAMES AND SEE IF HE REALLY WANTS ME, LETS SEE HOW BAD HE WANTS ME yet they don't see the contradiction, most women literally think men are reading their minds and should act accordingly

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women who expect you to chase them after they say 'no' aren't worth it. As a women who's very tired of having their 'no' ignored, this bs is what I'm pointing my finger at. Men are degraded when they take a women's word at face value, and are called monsters when they don't. Well ladies! That's what some of us are trainings them to do!! How's bout we (and by we I mean everybody) need to act like adults and say whet we mean! Games* are for children. *games as in emotional games. Play video games and tabletop games and card games and board games, those games rock.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I LOVE how this dude actually says no means no and respects it, we need more guys like him

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a woman plays the game of 'When a woman says no, she means yes', skip her.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love open communication. It saves time, stress, and shows love extending on both partners. One caveat; both sides must be equally invested. A man has a difficult prob, his mate must be an eager listener and vice versa. It's not a solitary c"onversation".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This all depends on WHAT the female is saying NO to. And it all depends also on whether the no means never, or not this time.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The women who say "no means no" but ALSO say "I didn't mean you should stop trying, just try harder" can't be trusted and deserve to die alone.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What part of "no" coming out of your own mouth did you not understand?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree - but I also know that there are a crapton of men who will NOT "respect your boundaries" when told "no." And that's probably why a lot of women don't just come right out and say it - they're afraid for their safety. Sad, but true.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Background knowledge for the woman is needed on this one too. Being bullied, laughed at for who I liked, and berated by my parents for having any interest in boys kinda...kinda makes one nervous to ever speak their mind.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're hot: no means try harder If you're ugly: no means no. got it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Playing hard to get might the most ridiculous behavior in the history of humanity.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

please don't do this to an unattractive guy, especially with guy that above 30s. it take so much energy and we have to get ready for another 50-50 posibility .. but the older we get, the number can change. the wounds of rejections in the past makes us just to forget about falling in love. so you got to understand, if we feel something again, we leave our comfort zone, we let our heart open for that 50-50 chance. get wounded again or get patched

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this advice! However, in my experience, any time I start showing interest back to someone who has been chasing me and trying to go out with me, it makes them lose interest... It's extremely confusing!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been doing this for literally decades. Every man I meet still looks for the "secret meaning", tries to read between the lines, puts everything I say through his mental "woman translator", and makes it endlessly frustrating! Every man!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely ridiculous. How about seeing any absent of a straight out "yes" as a "no".

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My brothers were given the talk and that no means no. Women want guys to respect that, but still get mad when they do? I don't understand the logic.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also valid the other way around: life is too short to play those push & pull games.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree. Giving thumbs up for truth! And when YOU usay No, stick with "no" we may try again, and when you give in to physical....we get mixed message. D

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

TRUER WORDS WERE NEVER SPOKEN!! then women can't understand why so many men have so little respect for 'em.....so sad. say one thing,mean something else.don't do what they say they gonna do.do what they say they WONT do. phaquing beeches!!!

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No means no early on in a relationship. No does NOT always mean no. This type of millennial/Zoomer thinking is what degrades and demeans women.

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And there is the double-edged sword that many feminist women are creating for all women. Most women want to play the cat and mouse game. It's actually written into their DNA. Unfortunately the feminist women have caused such an stink about "NO MEANS NO", that Most men refuse to play the cat and mouse game now. We ask you once, if you say NO, even if you're just saying it playing around, that's it, we're done with you.

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Men do not respect women who are direct like this. Tell a man you are interested, he will treat you with disdain forever, and spread gossip about how easy you are.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes and no. Arseholes will do as you said. But if they don't, you can assume you have found a decent one

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Bored Panda asked dating and relationship expert Dan to elaborate on the kinds of attitudes that are healthy in relationships, as well as whether it’s important to be on the same page in terms of respecting and understanding each other’s passions in life.

“The best attitude is true, sincere love where you honestly care about the other person and only want the best for them. However, that can only happen if the dynamic of the relationship continues to produce those feelings over time,” the expert told us.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men You know that complaint that women sometimes have that just because they are polite to you doesn't mean they're interested in you?

Yeah, that works both ways. I'm not saying "good morning" because I want to bed you, I'm not holding the door for you because I think you'll reward me with some nookie for doing so, etc. etc.

I'm doing so because, like you, I'm a decent human being and am being polite.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

exactly i am just being polite i would do the same for a person of any gender or even species but not bears though

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Women body shaming men is just as bad as men body shaming women.

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“If the dynamic of the relationship causes one or both of them to lose their feelings of attraction and love, then it will be very difficult to behave, think or care in the same way they did in the beginning. As a result, the relationship will become stale and a breakup or divorce will almost certainly happen at some point,” he said that consistent, genuine effort has to be put into relationships to make them work.

“Unfortunately, most people don’t ever get taught how to create and maintain a mutually happy, in love and attracted relationship dynamic, so they just wing it and hope for the best, which then results in high levels of breakups and divorces,” Dan said that just hoping for the best without actively doing your best isn’t good enough.

#4

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Girl: I’m dropping so many hints! Why doesn’t he get them?
Boy: I think the girl is dropping hints but I’m not sure I want to risk my friendship and embarrassment, so I’ll just ignore them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't speak for all men, but as a general rule of thumb: we are dreadful at deciphering subtle signs. Please just say what you want to convey.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Please ask us out. It makes us feel wanted and loved.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me I feel like even talking to a woman, no matter how innocent my intentions I am being judged for only wanting "one" thing, it makes it so awkward should I want to ask a woman out, I dare not.

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#6

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Just because I’m not talking, doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying my time with you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My measure of how close you feel with someone. I have had many a happy a time just sat reading a book, with someone sat next to me also reading or doing puzzles etc. No communication, just being there with each other.

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Relationship expert Dan explained to Bored Panda that even though it’s wonderful to have the support of your partner when it comes to the things that you most care about, at the end of the day, we have to understand that this won’t be the case in every scenario.

“A man needs to be aware that his girlfriend or wife may not understand his passion project the way he does,” he pointed out that a guy’s girlfriend might simply not ‘get’ why he wants what he wants or needs what he needs.

#7

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We like random gifts, we like random hugs, we like random signs of affection and love — sometimes just a cup of coffee in my favorite mug is enough to convince me it’s going to be a good day.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Sometimes stuff is just difficult. For no reason I can also be sad, just because I don’t cry doesn’t mean I’m not sad.

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We don’t want to be the ones who always initiates sex, it makes us feel creepy sometimes.

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“She may not see the importance of it, or might be annoyed with it because he has failed at it for years on end and they have bills to pay,” Dan said that some people might even start resenting their partners if their passions, projects, and goals haven’t yielded fruit (yet).

“She wants to see progress in their life and have a feeling of security about their future, rather than watching him spending years or decades fiddling around with something that isn't providing results for them as a couple now,” he noted how some women think and how they sometimes disregard what guys think is important.

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When we're start dating, all other women don't magically become unattractive. No, I don't want to be with them, but some are still pretty. I will look. I won't stare. It means nothing and has no influence on my feelings for you. Btw, I'll probably look at that guy with huge arms too, and it won't bother me if you do the same. Attractive people are just beautiful things in nature like a sunset or a mountain view. Go ahead and look. Enjoy. I don't want to stick my d**k in any of them.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We need just as much support as you do, it’s always a shock when a guys kills himself until you look back at all the subtle cries for help. We’re screaming on the inside and we need someone to let us know it’s okay.

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Helplines for the men in the UK: https://www.safeline.org.uk/what-we-do/men/ https://www.mankind.org.uk/ https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Men love being the target of a romantic gesture. Many men never have been.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When we we're dattting i left post-its with notes all around the house with litle hearts and my husband still talks about that 🥰

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However, Dan believes that even a lack of support can be a blessing in disguise. “A woman behaving like that in a relationship is often a blessing for a man. In many cases, a dissatisfied girlfriend or wife will drive a man to work harder and smarter, which can lead to the success of his passion project,” he said that some guys go the extra mile when they have something to prove to the people closest to them.

“He will have a 'must succeed' attitude, rather than only giving it a shot and seeing how it goes. That's often the difference between success and failure.”

#13

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We aren't great with hints. Communication is king.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, you put the trash by the front door for him to take out and him: "Honey I'm home" and steps over the trash.... Just kidding. Seriously, It's true, you men aren't great when it's a guessing (hinting) game. But if asked what to do most men don't mind that and will do it!

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We actually really want to be complimented too. A 60 year old women complimented me 5 years ago and it still makes me feel good, which just shows how little we get compliments.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my best friend who is female told me when we first met 5 years ago my hair looks good short i have cut it short ever since and try to keep it short

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Get away from me at night in the summertime, I still love you. I’m just hot and don’t want to snuggle.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A man like this would suit me just fine! Get away from me at night, every season. I don't mind snuggling for a few minutes but then I want my own side of the bed and my own cover. I'll be a much more romantic and pleasant woman during the day if I get a good sleep 😂.

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However, that’s not to say that support isn’t important. It is! And a lack of it can be a very clear indication that the relationship might not be working as well as it should. Passion projects, large or small, can help identify weaknesses in relationships by seeing how one’s partner reacts to them.

“If a man finds that no matter how much progress he makes, she still gets annoyed and doesn’t like him working on it, he needs to start thinking about whether or not she should remain part of his life,” the expert said.

“He doesn’t need to leave her right away, though. He should make real progress on his passion project and then, if she is still dissatisfied, he should calmly and lovingly let her know that he’s not going to stop working on it and if she doesn’t like that, she is welcome to leave him.”

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men It’s ok to make the first move. Guys can be shy too. Come talk to me instead of staring at me.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I made the first move with my now hubby. I approached him on the bus, didn't even know who he was.

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If you don’t want to hear the truth about something don’t ask me to tell you the truth. Because I’m going to tell you the truth every time.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When we say we're thinking about nothing, the majority of the time it literally is just nothing or ridiculous scenarios that we make up that sound stupid when said out loud.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When we tell women that we don’t know how we feel about something it’s usually true and we genuinely don’t really understand how we are supposed to feel. I personally wasn’t allowed to express emotions growing up and it turned into me not being able to understand my emotions.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, when you ask 'what are you thinking about' the answer 'nothing' is true. Trust me, a men's head can be completely vacant.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men I really like to hang out with my friends because I love them. Not because I don't want to spend time with you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who are insecure about their SO spending time with their friends probably need to think about why that is, rather than taking it out on their SO.

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We aren’t unemotional, we just may not show it as often. It hurts when I’ve had to hear from my mother or sister say things like “you’re a guy, you aren’t good with your emotions” or “you don’t understand being emotional”. I do. I absolutely do. Saying things like “I don’t understand” in such an arrogant, condescending tone only makes me want to show them less.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's worth it to explain things. My mother used to snap at me "Don't you understand?!" She wouldn't explain what she meant and that left me feeling too stupid to be worthy of proper communication. It wasn't until I was 20 that I finally burst into tears and told her, "You always say that! If you want me to understand, you explain!" She communicated better after that.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men All the hurtful things they say don’t just magically disappear from men’s memories. We have feelings too. And criticizing a man for being honest with feelings as not being manly is not only cruel but also highly ironic considering there’s a constant yearning for men with emotion.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope women really read this one. I have had partners say some truly heinous s**t to me over the years, things that I would never say, and then just brush it off with something like "I was stressed". Unfortunately, just because it wasn't a big deal to you doesn't mean that it won't still haunt me for years.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Not all men of course, and some women have it too but.......The nothing box is real.

The nothing box is a small section of the brain that contains absolutely nothing at all. When we enter the nothing box we genuinely are not thinking a single thought. There is no song playing in our head, there is no thought process, there's so much nothing that we don't even recognise at the time that we're not thinking anything, because to do so would be a thought. If someone looks like their brain has just checked out and they have a dead-eyed stare into middle distance then they're probably in the nothing box.

The passage of time ceases to exist, no physical sensation makes it through. Once in the nothing box, you stay in there until some external stimulus or the formation of an errant thought pulls you out of it. Leaving the nothing box is the first time that you are even aware you were in the nothing box.

It's like a nap for the brain while all other functions remain.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have some good moments doing this. Laying down, not thinking, just being

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men I want real knight armor for my birthday but I’m not allowed to say so because society forces me to hide it.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men If I’m lying in bed with someone, just enjoying the moment together, I should be able to just enjoy the moment and let my mind drift to wherever it’s going. If you want to talk about the future of the relationship or something, that’s great and we can do that if you start that conversation, but if you ask me out of the blue what I’m thinking about, and I say Bolbi’s “Slap slap slap” song from Jimmy Neutron, then you shouldn’t get mad at me just because it’s not the thing you wanted me to be thinking about! Just tell me you want to talk about the relationship and we can do that!

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Playing “hard to get” does not work for a lot of people.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Playing hard to get" is immoral to start with. It skews the understanding of rejection.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men If you take the initiative and ask an average looking dude out, there's like a 99% chance he'll say yes.

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When I get angry at my video games I’m not an angry person. I just f**kin suck at Dark Souls.

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Furious George
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

🤣🤣🤣 my wife gets so mad when I play call of duty because "it REALLY doesn't sound like I'm having fun".

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Sometimes men just need some alone time. (From everyone and everything)

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When I say “I don’t mind,” I really mean it. If I did mind, I would say so.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Esoecially with food - do you want beef or chicken ? I don't mind, I really don't mind, either one will do. I'm not indecisive, its just food

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