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Unfortunately, we’re not mind-readers—at least… most of us aren’t. That means that if we want somebody to know something, we have to vocalize it. Or hope beyond hope that they’ll pick up on the trail of clues we leave in our body language.

The men of Reddit have come together and shared the things that they wish women knew and the things that are important to them, in the context of romantic relationships and beyond. They opened up about cute things like the fact that men really do enjoy hugs and compliments and also broached practical topics like the need to be alone from time to time. (Hey, boundaries are important, especially in relationships.)

As you’re scrolling down, upvote the posts that you agree with. And you should also swing by the comment section to share the things that you wish your partners knew, too, dear Pandas. Bored Panda spoke about the dynamic between men and women, and why it’s important to communicate about what’s most important to us with dating and relationship expert Dan Bacon, the founder of The Modern Man. Scroll down to read what he had to say.

#1

Just say it straight. Don't make me read between the lines or trying and take a hint. How in the heck am I supposed to know you're into me if you don't say it. I don't know you well enough to read your brand of body language, but I'm interested in you cause you seem cool.

If you respond with a "no" to my interest I will respect your boundaries, don't expect me to "try harder". No means no.

Verbal communication is way better.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. It's really the basic concept of consent we teach our kids. No means no. I talked to a girl once that told me, if I were a real man, I would chase her. No ma'am. A real adult says what they mean.

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Bored Panda asked dating and relationship expert Dan to elaborate on the kinds of attitudes that are healthy in relationships, as well as whether it’s important to be on the same page in terms of respecting and understanding each other’s passions in life.

“The best attitude is true, sincere love where you honestly care about the other person and only want the best for them. However, that can only happen if the dynamic of the relationship continues to produce those feelings over time,” the expert told us.

#2

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men You know that complaint that women sometimes have that just because they are polite to you doesn't mean they're interested in you?

Yeah, that works both ways. I'm not saying "good morning" because I want to bed you, I'm not holding the door for you because I think you'll reward me with some nookie for doing so, etc. etc.

I'm doing so because, like you, I'm a decent human being and am being polite.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

exactly i am just being polite i would do the same for a person of any gender or even species but not bears though

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#3

Women body shaming men is just as bad as men body shaming women.

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“If the dynamic of the relationship causes one or both of them to lose their feelings of attraction and love, then it will be very difficult to behave, think or care in the same way they did in the beginning. As a result, the relationship will become stale and a breakup or divorce will almost certainly happen at some point,” he said that consistent, genuine effort has to be put into relationships to make them work.

“Unfortunately, most people don’t ever get taught how to create and maintain a mutually happy, in love and attracted relationship dynamic, so they just wing it and hope for the best, which then results in high levels of breakups and divorces,” Dan said that just hoping for the best without actively doing your best isn’t good enough.

#4

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Girl: I’m dropping so many hints! Why doesn’t he get them?
Boy: I think the girl is dropping hints but I’m not sure I want to risk my friendship and embarrassment, so I’ll just ignore them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't speak for all men, but as a general rule of thumb: we are dreadful at deciphering subtle signs. Please just say what you want to convey.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Please ask us out. It makes us feel wanted and loved.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For me I feel like even talking to a woman, no matter how innocent my intentions I am being judged for only wanting "one" thing, it makes it so awkward should I want to ask a woman out, I dare not.

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#6

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Just because I’m not talking, doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying my time with you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My measure of how close you feel with someone. I have had many a happy a time just sat reading a book, with someone sat next to me also reading or doing puzzles etc. No communication, just being there with each other.

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Relationship expert Dan explained to Bored Panda that even though it’s wonderful to have the support of your partner when it comes to the things that you most care about, at the end of the day, we have to understand that this won’t be the case in every scenario.

“A man needs to be aware that his girlfriend or wife may not understand his passion project the way he does,” he pointed out that a guy’s girlfriend might simply not ‘get’ why he wants what he wants or needs what he needs.

#7

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We like random gifts, we like random hugs, we like random signs of affection and love — sometimes just a cup of coffee in my favorite mug is enough to convince me it’s going to be a good day.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Sometimes stuff is just difficult. For no reason I can also be sad, just because I don’t cry doesn’t mean I’m not sad.

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We don’t want to be the ones who always initiates sex, it makes us feel creepy sometimes.

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“She may not see the importance of it, or might be annoyed with it because he has failed at it for years on end and they have bills to pay,” Dan said that some people might even start resenting their partners if their passions, projects, and goals haven’t yielded fruit (yet).

“She wants to see progress in their life and have a feeling of security about their future, rather than watching him spending years or decades fiddling around with something that isn't providing results for them as a couple now,” he noted how some women think and how they sometimes disregard what guys think is important.

#10

When we're start dating, all other women don't magically become unattractive. No, I don't want to be with them, but some are still pretty. I will look. I won't stare. It means nothing and has no influence on my feelings for you. Btw, I'll probably look at that guy with huge arms too, and it won't bother me if you do the same. Attractive people are just beautiful things in nature like a sunset or a mountain view. Go ahead and look. Enjoy. I don't want to stick my d**k in any of them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It doesn't matter where you get your appetite so long as you eat at home.

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Damitria
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just don't do what my ex did and point out a girl saying "I know her. I COULD have married her." Cause now I will offer you that chance.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband and I will actually point out good-looking people to each other, in a way much like the OP. It's hard to ignore beauty in any form.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look, appreciate, then look away. Don’t stare, and certainly do not salivate or look her up and down with your tongue hanging out, metaphorically or not. Do not be the “distracted boyfriend”, and we won’t be the “distracted girlfriend”. It’s really simple: if it hurts you for us to do it, then it hurts us when you do it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not men assuming women don't Check out men n woman just as much.. if not more than they do.. difference is... we don't get caught.. we don't spend an extra 2 sec. Staring at some womens breasts or ass. Or were just mindful of when we check other ppl out. Lol. It's not that we don't want you to be attracted to other ppl. It's that y'all don't know how to check people out without making it obvious.. which then comes off as disrespectful. I probably noticed that women with beautiful lips, long legs and a perfect body well before you... but you'd never know because I'm not going to make it obvious that I find her attractive by gawking at her or checking her out while I'm literally making eye contact with you n you break that contact to gawk.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thanks for saying what every other comment ignores. It's not about the looking, it's the responsability of being discreet to not hurt your partner.

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Rens
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My narcissistic ex used to flirt with women in front of me and make comments like "she's fit, I'd f**k her... " I was always very insecure but he was also a real prick

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Makes me want to answer something like "Too bad, she's way out of your league..."

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm literally a strait male and I'll stare at big muscle.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 100% gay (male) but will appreciate seeing a beautiful woman.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one is a sore spot for me. When I first started dating my wife she was paranoid about me even looking at another woman. In public she'd accuse me of staring at stranger's I hadn't even noticed. She'd ask friends to cover their cleavage before coming into our house. At conferences she'd pull me away from conservations with colleagues if they were too attractive. She'd monitor my social media to make sure I didn't like any pictures of any of my female friends.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that's what low self esteem, often in combination with bad experiences, do to you. It's not your fault, if you haven't given her a real reason to be upset, but in her mind she's not beautiful enough to keep you, as soon as you see someone pretty you'll dump her, she's probably expierienced that before. No matter how often you tell her you think she is beautiful and attractive she just can't believe it. I've been there myself . still am in a way. I date handsome men who used to work as models or are just in general very attractive and I keep asking myself what they see in me, as they could have any woman on this planet. I just cannot get it into my head that maybe to them, I am just as attractive.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

one thing is find someone attractive (is not personal) and be interested (that's personal)...also you ever seen a nice butt and think, that'd look good on me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just be mindful of *how* you do your looking. Letting your gaze wander while carrying on a conversation is one thing, but interrupting a conversation or ignoring one's companion to stare at someone attractive, is rude.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad would look and often comment to us in what he saw and how he felt about it. Men as well as women. We learned that beauty is not gender specific. I miss him so much.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To me it's good until the guy starts comparing me to other women or they become upset if I appreciate the beauty in the world. I've never been with a man that was fine with me looking at other men.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course not, but some people gets frightened and afraid of being compared unfavourably

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And you know what? If you don't act on your thoughts, go hog wild! It's your actions that count. I wouldn't be bothered by this either. Hell, I might look right along with you. (I like drawing, and life is the biggest inspiration too, so sometimes it's just like "ohhhhh, I can put that hairstyle on a character!" or "THAT'S how to do that shape?" We artists are different breeds.)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nice to hear this. I had no problem w my man looking and complimenting. Who doest feel good when giving /receiving a compliment. When strangers get more compliments then me....I figure that is a message for me to go.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just don't be an @$$hole about it. Very clearly giving that kind of attention to someone other than your partner is ugly, careless, & unkind. Lots of men (& probably women)do it & GASLIGHT their partner about being "overjealous" & "insecure", when, in reality, they are being a disrespectful jerk, &, often, actually actually being unfaithful. If he (or she) is giving inappropriate attention & energy to other women (or men) then ditch them. You do not deserve a partner who disrespects you & gaslights you on top of it. 💔

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just wipe the drool from your mouth before I spy you looking at that hottie.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just the other day, my mom found a tiktok of a dude cosplaying Hook from Once Upon a Time (who she likes to look at lol) and she felt bad for following him. So my dad found a picture of the character in a tv show they watch that he thinks is pretty to make mom feel better. This should be an ok thing in relationships!!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just try limit the looking when you're with your SO.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will point out a striking looking person out to my SO.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a boy points out a pretty girl, I will agree with them and compliment her! I am 100% straight, but I’ll still comment on how attractive they are

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! I 100% have always believed this! We’re human and notice beautiful things (people/beings/etc) and it’s not a bad thing to acknowledge what you find beautiful.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can look at the menu but you ONLY EAT AT HOME ✌🏻✌🏻✌🏻

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel this, I’m bisexual and showed my bf a photo of a girl I found hot, I said “isn’t she pretty” and he said “yeah, she’s really good looking” we love each other and are dating, but that doesn’t mean everyone else becomes unattractive, so we just both enjoyed her beauty together, it doesn’t mean we want to date her instead

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife and I came to the conclusion that it doesnt matter how you work up an appetite as long as you eat at home.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm married, I look at other women. I have a motorcycle and I look at other bikes too. But it doesn't mean I want another... oh bollocks!!!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This I put my signature on without hesitation! But I find men stunned when I say a woman is beautiful. They look at me as if I were joking. They explain the reaction with that they only heard women put down other women, finding something wrong with, on, about them like in envy… that is sad.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And she better not want the guy with huge arms to stick his d**k in her, the s**t

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I point them out. I’m like wow she’s cute or wow look at that hottie. Mind you we’ve been married 32 years and he’s too old for them now lol but it never hurts to look I’m checking out the hot men too

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, once you date a smart person without daddy issues over 16, this tends to stop.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu (or watch The Food Network - if you know what I mean)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

told my partner the same BUT his d**k exclusively belongs to me😉

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex and I used to check out people together LMAO. He'd point out guys for me and I would point out girls.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS! Why is is so hard for people to understand that you can be in committed relationship, be perfectly happy, etc. but you STILL have working eyeballs and they WILL look? I get that it can be a red flag, but ONLY when added to a ton of other things. I look at people and see beauty, it doesn't mean I want to sleep with you. My artistic brain might way to draw you, or slot you into a story idea in my mind, or create a whole new one, etc. You might be pleasant to look at or an inspiration, but it DOESN'T mean I want you in my bed.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I bit off topic but I have a question towards the men, if you where dating and a woman approaches you, would you lie and say you're single when asked, and agree to "talk and see where it goes" with that woman? (Asking because of my bf, a bit of context, we are a new couple, he's my first boyfriend and he said I'm his first girlfriend as well, we are dating online, I love him and he has said he loves me as well)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a woman and a lover of beautiful things I upvote this 💯👌

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh puhleeze. Do it when you're alone. This one is ridiculous.

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Mari
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you just look and see beauty, you can admire just the beauty, you are not interested in the person or you don't want anything from him/her.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always end up pointing out people to my husband. And we both look. We like to people watch. Enjoy someone else's beauty. It's okay.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg THIS! I explained to a male colleague yesterday that if a dude claims he didn't notice the smokeshow chick who just walked by, OR that his buddy is hot, I don't trust them. Dudes know when other dudes are attractive. It doesn't make them gay, it makes them cognitively aware, with eyes. Telling me you hadn't noticed my best girlfriend is hot as hell doesn't inspire trust, it makes me doubt your taste, and your respect for my intelligence (because I also have eyes).

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Feeling wanted is the most attractive thing a person can do for another. Understand the difference between beautiful and attractive. Other women can be beautiful, but the person I love is BY FAR the most attractive person ever in my eyes.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! If someone is beautiful I'm going to look for a moment; it's just human nature to do so. But I'm not thinking any impure thoughts. I think no more about it then I would looking at a nice car,or a beautiful painting. An when I look at my SO that same loving look is still going to be,and it's still going to be just as strong.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband and I will point out pretty people to each other. It’s fun!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A monogamous person can look over the menu all they want but only sit down for one main course. Many appetizers is always better though.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It doesn't matter where you get your appetite . . . as long as you eat at home.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My friends don't understand this one and it aggravates me so much! Just cause I think he's cute doesn't mean I'm cheating!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That last sentence, mmm, let's just say "won't" instead of "don't want to"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i mean, while it's not grammatically correct, it still gets the point across, dunno why you want him to change it.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We need just as much support as you do, it’s always a shock when a guys kills himself until you look back at all the subtle cries for help. We’re screaming on the inside and we need someone to let us know it’s okay.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Helplines for the men in the UK: https://www.safeline.org.uk/what-we-do/men/ https://www.mankind.org.uk/ https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ https://www.thecalmzone.net/

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Men love being the target of a romantic gesture. Many men never have been.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When we we're dattting i left post-its with notes all around the house with litle hearts and my husband still talks about that 🥰

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However, Dan believes that even a lack of support can be a blessing in disguise. “A woman behaving like that in a relationship is often a blessing for a man. In many cases, a dissatisfied girlfriend or wife will drive a man to work harder and smarter, which can lead to the success of his passion project,” he said that some guys go the extra mile when they have something to prove to the people closest to them.

“He will have a 'must succeed' attitude, rather than only giving it a shot and seeing how it goes. That's often the difference between success and failure.”

#13

30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We aren't great with hints. Communication is king.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, you put the trash by the front door for him to take out and him: "Honey I'm home" and steps over the trash.... Just kidding. Seriously, It's true, you men aren't great when it's a guessing (hinting) game. But if asked what to do most men don't mind that and will do it!

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men We actually really want to be complimented too. A 60 year old women complimented me 5 years ago and it still makes me feel good, which just shows how little we get compliments.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my best friend who is female told me when we first met 5 years ago my hair looks good short i have cut it short ever since and try to keep it short

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Get away from me at night in the summertime, I still love you. I’m just hot and don’t want to snuggle.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A man like this would suit me just fine! Get away from me at night, every season. I don't mind snuggling for a few minutes but then I want my own side of the bed and my own cover. I'll be a much more romantic and pleasant woman during the day if I get a good sleep 😂.

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However, that’s not to say that support isn’t important. It is! And a lack of it can be a very clear indication that the relationship might not be working as well as it should. Passion projects, large or small, can help identify weaknesses in relationships by seeing how one’s partner reacts to them.

“If a man finds that no matter how much progress he makes, she still gets annoyed and doesn’t like him working on it, he needs to start thinking about whether or not she should remain part of his life,” the expert said.

“He doesn’t need to leave her right away, though. He should make real progress on his passion project and then, if she is still dissatisfied, he should calmly and lovingly let her know that he’s not going to stop working on it and if she doesn’t like that, she is welcome to leave him.”

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men It’s ok to make the first move. Guys can be shy too. Come talk to me instead of staring at me.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I made the first move with my now hubby. I approached him on the bus, didn't even know who he was.

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If you don’t want to hear the truth about something don’t ask me to tell you the truth. Because I’m going to tell you the truth every time.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When we say we're thinking about nothing, the majority of the time it literally is just nothing or ridiculous scenarios that we make up that sound stupid when said out loud.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When we tell women that we don’t know how we feel about something it’s usually true and we genuinely don’t really understand how we are supposed to feel. I personally wasn’t allowed to express emotions growing up and it turned into me not being able to understand my emotions.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, when you ask 'what are you thinking about' the answer 'nothing' is true. Trust me, a men's head can be completely vacant.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men I really like to hang out with my friends because I love them. Not because I don't want to spend time with you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who are insecure about their SO spending time with their friends probably need to think about why that is, rather than taking it out on their SO.

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We aren’t unemotional, we just may not show it as often. It hurts when I’ve had to hear from my mother or sister say things like “you’re a guy, you aren’t good with your emotions” or “you don’t understand being emotional”. I do. I absolutely do. Saying things like “I don’t understand” in such an arrogant, condescending tone only makes me want to show them less.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's worth it to explain things. My mother used to snap at me "Don't you understand?!" She wouldn't explain what she meant and that left me feeling too stupid to be worthy of proper communication. It wasn't until I was 20 that I finally burst into tears and told her, "You always say that! If you want me to understand, you explain!" She communicated better after that.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men All the hurtful things they say don’t just magically disappear from men’s memories. We have feelings too. And criticizing a man for being honest with feelings as not being manly is not only cruel but also highly ironic considering there’s a constant yearning for men with emotion.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope women really read this one. I have had partners say some truly heinous s**t to me over the years, things that I would never say, and then just brush it off with something like "I was stressed". Unfortunately, just because it wasn't a big deal to you doesn't mean that it won't still haunt me for years.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Not all men of course, and some women have it too but.......The nothing box is real.

The nothing box is a small section of the brain that contains absolutely nothing at all. When we enter the nothing box we genuinely are not thinking a single thought. There is no song playing in our head, there is no thought process, there's so much nothing that we don't even recognise at the time that we're not thinking anything, because to do so would be a thought. If someone looks like their brain has just checked out and they have a dead-eyed stare into middle distance then they're probably in the nothing box.

The passage of time ceases to exist, no physical sensation makes it through. Once in the nothing box, you stay in there until some external stimulus or the formation of an errant thought pulls you out of it. Leaving the nothing box is the first time that you are even aware you were in the nothing box.

It's like a nap for the brain while all other functions remain.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have some good moments doing this. Laying down, not thinking, just being

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men I want real knight armor for my birthday but I’m not allowed to say so because society forces me to hide it.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men If I’m lying in bed with someone, just enjoying the moment together, I should be able to just enjoy the moment and let my mind drift to wherever it’s going. If you want to talk about the future of the relationship or something, that’s great and we can do that if you start that conversation, but if you ask me out of the blue what I’m thinking about, and I say Bolbi’s “Slap slap slap” song from Jimmy Neutron, then you shouldn’t get mad at me just because it’s not the thing you wanted me to be thinking about! Just tell me you want to talk about the relationship and we can do that!

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Playing “hard to get” does not work for a lot of people.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Playing hard to get" is immoral to start with. It skews the understanding of rejection.

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men If you take the initiative and ask an average looking dude out, there's like a 99% chance he'll say yes.

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When I get angry at my video games I’m not an angry person. I just f**kin suck at Dark Souls.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

🤣🤣🤣 my wife gets so mad when I play call of duty because "it REALLY doesn't sound like I'm having fun".

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men Sometimes men just need some alone time. (From everyone and everything)

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30 Things Women Don't Understand About Men When I say “I don’t mind,” I really mean it. If I did mind, I would say so.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Esoecially with food - do you want beef or chicken ? I don't mind, I really don't mind, either one will do. I'm not indecisive, its just food

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