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No matter how self-confident we may present ourselves to the outside world, everyone has chinks in their armor. You know, these little flaws we find when our inner critic takes control to pick our features apart one by one. Unfortunately, our insecurities can get the better of us and sometimes even start to control us.

Women especially feel pressure to achieve perfection we all know doesn’t actually exist. Many have been lured into believing they have to be secure about their looks, personality, intellect, career, and every other aspect of their life. So sometimes, all we need are little reminders to give us a bit of a boost to conquer any self-doubts we may have.

Recently, user naruturtle created a post on the Ask Reddit community and asked men to share the things women and girls shouldn’t be insecure about. The thread received hundreds of comments that remind ladies to stop needlessly obsessing over imperfections and feel confident in their own skin. Below, you’ll find some of the most illuminating answers from the thread, so upvote the ones you agree with and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments!

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter I asked my husband this question, so here's his answer:

Weight gain. Not seriously obese or lack of caring for health, but don't worry about a little extra fluff. So go ahead, eat that pizza slice(s) you're secretly eyeing!

This one is a big one for me because I gained due to birth control and a couple years of poor eating when we went through money struggles. Now we're having our second and final child, so I've been extra insecure with all these body changes and gaining weight. Of course he's on board with me wanting to lose weight and get back to where I was, but he always tells me I'm beautiful and he loves every bit of me. He has never made me feel bad for my body

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is probably the number 1 insecurity, and should be number 1 on this list. Incels and the idiots who get rejected on Tinder are the ones who call out women for their weight, but most mature men don't really care. Be yourselves and love yourselves, ladies.

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Ellie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been seeing the term In Incel around BP for a while, what does it mean?

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Lola
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He says all this, yet you say that he’s on board with you so you can get back to where you were. This is the problem here, getting to where you were pre-babies, should not be what women are striving for. Pregnancies change women’s bodies drastically, and for many it’s impossible to go back to what they looked like before they had the babies. Most bodies also change with age. Normalizing and accepting body changes is what we should be focusing on. And by no means am I saying that being obese should be something that your partner has to accept no matter what.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree with that regarding post partum bodies. It reinforces the social standard that you should be (and look) exactly the same as pre-kids. I strongly disagree with the idea of that even though I went back to pre-pregnancy size in a few weeks with all three (but with stretch marks and loose skin so still not preserved I guess). The whole idea of preserving women like they once were despite life happening to them (could be aging too) is toxic to me. Of course you should strive to take care of yourself but you can do that without the agenda to "get your body back".

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J. F.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Chubby women are attractive, too! Never trust the media or celebrities about beauty standards

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Bayou Billy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn you Twiggy!(but it wasn't her fault it was our(men) and execs looking to cash in...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally this. If you're actually annoyed that your partner has gained a couple kg, you're a boy, not a man. Grow up.

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Samantha Mannion
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My bf of 12 years actually hates when I get really really skinny. It's a small girl that had always dropped and gained 40 lbs at random, even tho 5 lbs would make a difference in the way I looked. It's nice not worrying about trying to look skinny and actually feeling better having a little chunk on my hips than not eating enough to try and stay slim. I do not miss that and def feel healthier.

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Lola
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a little junk in your trunk makes you feel better, then let that be your norm. Most people look better with some extra junk in their trunk anyway.

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Amy Force
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

huh. funny. I hear men b*tch ALL THE TIME about how their girlfriends/wives have gained weight. Like, ALL.THE.TIME. The most ironic part of is, most of the time, it's usually coming from guys who have a belly that looks like he's in his 40th trimester. lol

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right!!?! When i used to bartend, a whole lifetime ago, it was always the gross,overweight, unkempt looking men that would say the rudest things about women's bodies and I would say something of course but all the other guys laugh and I'm like really, do you think that you could ever have a chance to even talk to someone like that. Men like that are miserable, truly miserable. They know that they cannot be with a decent looking woman so they try to break them down. The worst part about it is that women don't really care that much about looks we just want a genuinely good guy that is funny and has manners life is not all appearance related at all but for men that's all they talk about, that is what women are worth to them

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife has given birth to two children and has held on to the weight from both pregnancies. I still love her body regardless. That doesn't mean that I don't think she should lose some weight. I have told her that I want her to exercise and be healthy, and I don't exclude myself from that either. It is important that we both be healthy, for ourselves and for our children. I stay fairly active and will be the one to carry our kids and play with our kids. I want her to be able to do that as well. It is okay to want your spouse to lose weight, or be more active. Just be sure you are communicating that respectfully, and also reflecting on your current body as well. Could also help to find a physical activity for both of you to do that will help you both get in shape. #1 thing is communication.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah u wrong for that. Most women who give birth can't lose the baby weight, that's why they got mom bods. My mom had four mf kids, u rly think she's a stick after starving herself and exercising everyday?? No. She's unhealthy because of her habits but she's not a stick. Because that's not how women's bodies work so grow tf up, if u can't handle ur wife having that baby weight just leave bro ur embarrassing.

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Tracy Wallick
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whether or not a man cares about my weight is the least of my worries; I'm insecure about it because, without fail, any time I go to the doctor my problems are blamed on my weight.

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Rose
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

@Tracy Wallick, I've met my share of those herbs as well. May every one of them rot in heck!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A colleague once told me that she needed to lose half a kilo. (Obviously, she was thin as a rake.) I told her that you lose half a kilo by visiting the bathroom. It's like two glasses of water.

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Lav Oravaf
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

so let me get this straight... big girls are no good then ? and extra weight ok if pregnant otherwise f**k off ? I am so done with this magazine cover society...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s all that it is actually, a magazine cover society. By no means should this be the norm. Let them live their delusional lives. If you are healthy, that’s all that matters.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Would rather a woman with some meat on the bones then a size 1.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah no real men really care if you gain some weight

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Kimberley Gayle Thomas
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I was right to despise and dump the boyfriend from years ago who said I "would be perfect if you lost 8lbs!" Mind you I was around 120 at the time. I remember even thinking "I could lose more than 8lbs if I got rid of you."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women are certainly more critical of their own weight, than man are concerned about women's weight, and it's usually an unnoticeable difference. No one should care that some idiot you don't know on the internet makes a disparaging comment about your looks. Who would want to do anything to impress that idiot?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can relate...I've gained some weight due to medication, not because I'm lazy or my diet is particularly bad. I'm still a small person and still attractive, just a little chubby.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is the healthiest view I have ever seen on weight. Nowadays I feel like people are leaning too far towards being perfectly fine with being morbidly obese. Like, clearly that's equally as unhealthy as being eating-disorder-skinny, and yes fat shaming is bad, but so is telling people they're fine just the way they are at 400 lbs.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Key words here are "Not seriously obese or lack of caring for health".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

315lbs or 135lbs... My 5'2" tall wife knowingly and securely has my undying Eyes-'O-Love. In the last 18 months she has lost that much body weight. (doctor managed and supervised of course). That's 180lbs of weight loss! I'm happy she has lost the weight for herself, but I love her and find her desirable no matter her physical size. Ladies, stop obsessing over body weight. A real man, a 'keeper' won't give two s#!ts about how big or small you are. Attitude, values, morals, your sense of self-worth, and how you treat us is much higher on the list. MEN: Accept and validated her insecure feelings, in the moment, about how she views her body-image. Let her know you understand her view point and disagree. Then reassure her how unimportant it impacts desirability. Over time, the frequency of these body-image insecurities will decrease. Be a safe, secure person for her. Eventually your beliefs and view about her will rub off and she will start trusting herself and loving herself.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gaining fat when you're "in the market" and gaining fat when you're already married are TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS. We husbands are worse offenders and generally don't give a dam. But younger stupider me that was looking, yeah even if he don't admit it, he care about those stuff.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had my daughter with my now ex, and he didn't care much about how my body changed. If anything he was more turned on by my large breasts. (He was actually gross about it.) But when we split I feared any other guy would be disgusted with my body because they weren't there through all the changes I had endured and don't know the whole reasons as to why my body just didn't "snap" back. I did find someone but the insecurity remains despite being told my body is fine.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I haven't cared what people thought about my appearance since I was about 15-16(I will be 46 this year). I've just never understood it. Everyone needs to stop caring with people think of them. So many fights/battles really do come down to being insecure or butting into others personal lives-now more thenever thanks to social media. Not only physically but what they wear, religion differences, status in society..all of it. Nonsense.

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This is a woman saying this above, not advice from a guy! But yeah, weight DOES matter, sorry.

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I’m a woman and any other woman in this post can kid herself and say weight shouldn’t matter, but it does. If you were fat when he met you, then whatever. If you weren’t, then get back to the way you were or risk him finding someone else. It’s simple. After a baby you have 1-2 years to lose that weight, and if you don’t that’s out of pure laziness: don’t sugar coat it. Stop eating all processed food, sugar, and GMO crap and go to the gym. Stop being a slob. Think how you did before you got him Sis! Stop making excuses for being lazy and letting yourself goes. Nobody cares about your excuses when your man is going out the door because you got waaaaay too lazy.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter I personally want to find the person that told women freckles should be covered up and I don’t want to hurt anyone so I’ll just have a strongly worded conversation with them. Maybe it’s just me, but I have a serious weakness for freckles. From a dusting across the bridge of a woman’s nose to head-to-toe ginger freckles. I think they’re gorgeous.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The number of ads I get on Youtube about cosmetics that cover up 'facial impurities' is staggering and all of them are dumb because why are you not allowed to have a mole or something along the line?

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To learn more about female insecurities and how needless obsessions over them affect our lives, we reached out to psychotherapist Sheri Heller, LCSW who specializes in the treatment of complex trauma, narcissistic abuse syndrome, and addictive disorders. "How we criticize ourselves is predicated on whether or not we have a realistic assessment and sense of acceptance of who we are," she told Bored Panda.

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Heller explained that when our relationship with ourselves is mired in rejection, perfectionism and self-loathing critical scrutiny of who we are and what we do is a constant source of distress. Way too often, women find fault within themselves and worry about how other people perceive them. And even when they hear words of encouragement to stop self-doubting themselves, learning how to overcome it is challenging.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Ovulation and periods. It’s completely natural, and only weirdos and teen boys get grossed out by you talking about it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So true, my guy get pads and tampons for me, without me asking

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Not a man, but a lesbian, so I think I can provide some input here.

Anything genital related - pubic hair grooming standards, labia size, shape, colour, etc.

Everyone is a little different, and I nor any woman I've ever slept with, or any man in any of the guy talk I've been privy to as a lesbian (always a little weird to be a part of), has ever cared about any of it. Whatever you were born with is completely natural and beautiful. And if you want to rock a full bush, or go completely bald, or do a landing strip, or whatever your little heart desires, you do you and anyone in a position to see it is just going to be glad they're in that position.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love the part that says "anyone in a position to see it is just going to be glad they're in that position" - it gave me a chuckle.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Being a total dork, plenty of guys want a goofy girl that we can be ourselves around

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According to a report by Weight Watchers, females are indeed highly self-critical — they were found to criticize themselves at least eight times a day. The survey of more than 2,000 women revealed a worrying trend with one in seven admitting to being regularly judgmental of their body, personality, relationships, money, or career success every day.

An estimated 46 percent admitted having negative thoughts at least once before 9:30 AM. Moreover, a staggering 89 percent revealed they prefer complimenting their friends but not themselves, and 88 percent even said they would never criticize them in the same way.

"Women often get caught up in one-dimensional prescriptives that superficially measure a woman’s worth," Heller said. "This runs the gamut from measures of beauty to degrees of selflessness, popularity, and image."

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Being bad at sex. If a guy says you’re bad at sex, he’s a piece of s**t. Real good sex comes from an emotional connection. It’s not you, it’s them. They suck.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes, that's a big one for me. Sex in itself is not a skill. If you're good with your partner, you're good at sex.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Wearing the same dress again. Nobody cares except other insecure women.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please, pleeease don't throw out clothes after wearing them once. Producing new clothes does a lot of environmental damage and is often done in sweatshops.

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Approaching/getting rejected by guys. We'd say yes to a tree if one approached us first

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"Likewise, there are cultural demands placed on women to not only embody mothering attributes and live up to markers of vanity, but also to achieve success in the marketplace. This do all, be all paradigm sets many women up to be self-conscious about falling short of the impossible," the psychotherapist added.

When self-consciousness finds its way into every aspect of our lives, it can significantly affect our well-being. Heller told Bored Panda that being plagued by insecurities causes a person to live an inauthentic life. "One may attempt to conceal their fragility and wounds and aspire to be someone they are not."

"Moreover, one may go into hiding and not realize latent potentials. Psychologically and emotionally, the person afflicted by insecurities feels alienated and alone. They are disconnected from themselves."

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Lack of long eyelashes. Literally, no dude has ever cared about eyelashes.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter I like girls who can be real around me. When they feel comfortable and say whatever dumb s**t is on their mind, I feel like I’m actually connecting with someone. Cliche, but I think being yourself and losing the insecurity, in general, is the most attractive thing someone can do.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Brains. Being a nerd is the new sexy.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Brains should be a point of attraction regardless if you are a man or a woman. I am a man, but I find it very condescending to conclude that smart women are "sexy", as if they are some rare, extravagant breed, while it is supposed to be some kind of a natural state of men, who are actually proven to be, throughout history, the supreme idiots of humanity.

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It's troublesome enough to feel doubtful about yourself, but often these thoughts seep into our relationships as well. When asked how big of an impact they have on our connection to others, Heller told us, "When we are not at peace with who we are, we cannot adequately engage with others. The inability to authentically express oneself with others leads to co-dependent maneuvering. One might succumb to fawning, people-pleasing, manipulating, and controlling to fulfill dependency needs."

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Things I/most men don't care about:

Stretch marks.

Uneven breasts

Breasts that hang/sag (That's actually sexy, in my opinion).

Veiny breasts

It's perfectly fine if you aren't shaved down below.

Your round belly is actually cute.

I love the way you look in the morning.

Imperfections make you unique, and aren't something to be self-conscious about.

In short, if you treat me/most guys with respect; give lots of affection; are dependable; trustworthy; kind; honest; and make us feel good about ourselves, whatever insecurities you have, we likely find endearing/cute/sexy.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Breast size. A good portion of us don't give a s**t about that.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They come in all shapes and sizes, and they're all beautiful! 😄

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Gray hairs, I love when you own it. Plus the silver streak kinda reminds me of Rogue from X-Men.

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To avoid bringing other people down, everyone should think twice before making unsolicited comments about a person’s looks, characteristics, or qualities. "When men (or women for that matter) highlight things in women which they view as 'problematic', it exacerbates shame," Heller explained and added that a common example of this is body image. Pointing out or shaming perceived physical flaws diminishes self-regard and self-worth.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Wrinkles. Every wrinkle is a scar of a thousand smiles.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Burping or farting around us. I know too many girls that have said they think it is rude or going to turn us off of them. Personally, I would want you to let go of any gas because I know how uncomfortable that is and I couldn’t imagine if you were holding that in on top of period pain or other things. Please just pass your gas and don’t let it be something you think will turn us off.

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Being the one to make the first move. Especially in today's age, it can be very complex for a man to know if it's even ok to ask anymore...

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When our confidence is low and fragile, we have a hard time believing in ourselves. This might lead to ditching our dreams or even cause serious health issues. "Often, this sort of wounding leads to self-destructive behavior such as eating disorders and sexual compliance," the psychotherapist noted.

Luckily, threads like this one remind us how important it is to raise awareness about self-worth issues women face every day. You see, shrinking others' faith in themselves is never the right way, and people should be encouraged to embrace their bodies and silence those inner critics that limit their lives.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Honestly, damn near everything. It’s sad seeing beautiful women treat themselves like s**t because their cheekbones aren’t right or their thighs are slightly red or whatever. Ladies: guys DO NOT CARE IN THE SLIGHTEST about these things. They will love you for who you are. And the guys that do make a big stink about physical 'abnormalities' aren’t worth chasing after in the first place.

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Not wanting to be a mom.

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Small breasts, contrary to what most would have you girls think, there are plenty of guys out there that love, if not even prefer, smaller breasts over larger breasts.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter I grew up with older sisters. There were so many things they would be insecure about but I always assured them they shouldn't. Please dont be so stressed about your hair first of all. Your weight, please don't be so hard on yourself. Your clothes, please. The differences are small to notice to most men when you stress about those little things. Please, take it easy

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love yourself, love the world, and the world will love you.

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Intelligence.

Some of the smartest women I know will too often concede the room to loud but dumber men.

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Being afraid to make the first move. I can't tell you how fantastically guys would respond if women just dropped this "men have to make the first move" mentality. If they just walked over and said "hey you're cute and I like your personality, wanna go out sometime?" Men would go nuts. A lot of Women, not all, act like this is an insane idea, but tbh it's very refreshing and a really attractive quality. Fuck the bs of norms.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yeah.This! Ladies, if the guy you like inexplicably won't ask you out, it could be they like you, but are afraid it would ruin your friendship if you say no. Also, obvious hints aren't as obvious as you think, especially for guys who haven't had a girlfriend yet.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter How much sex they’ve had. As long as it’s done responsibility and you’re loyal to your established SO, I couldn’t care less how many came before.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We have a saying in finnish that could roughly translate to "You can't dry/wear out a lake by rowing"

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Makeup

Most girls I’ve know look better without it

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it makes me feel more confident because the last time i didnt wear ppl called me out and called me ugly. But i realised i looked ok without it, now i just prefer to wear it because i personally like it, not bc others do.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Cellulite, stretch marks, anything that might be seen as a 'blemish.' My girlfriend has all of the above and I never noticed any of it until she said something about them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Blame Photoshop and all the media that sets the standards and expectations for what women should look like. Throw in pron magazines and we're up against impossible images. I realise many, many men can tell the difference between the false images and reality, but a lot of the damage to our self worth happens in our teen and pre-teen years from boys who *haven't yet* worked out the difference and make us feel less worthy. (And pre-teen magazines aimed at girls)

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Their body hair. It's natural to have body hair.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife said it's weird that body hair on women doesn't bother me in the slightest, but on men I find it disgusting. I couldn't care if my wife grew her hair like Cousin It, but I'm shaving my armpits, I'm waxing my chest, I'm trimming my pubes!

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Acne on the face, back, or wherever. None of us really care. I had bad acne growing up and at some point, I learned that any respectful person will not judge you for it because you can’t really control it.

u/YeetThatLemon , Saluda Programa de Salud Report

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They really try to shame teenagers into getting any number of products to combat a normal effect that comes from hormonal or other biochemical changes.

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30 Men Listed Common Female Insecurities That Don’t Actually Matter Your weight has nothing to do with self-worth.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Again not true in this society. It should be true but it isnt. People judge women (and men) for rheir weight and attractiveness all the time. Specially doctors, they never take you seriously if you are not skinny.

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I had a GF who was insecure about the shape of her breasts. To me they were fantastic.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah society has taught us that National Geographic boobies are just not ok. Must be Playboy boobies or else! Pretty freaking shallow.

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