When it comes to unwritten rules, there are plenty of grey areas between what behaviors people consider OK and not. Social norms differ between cultures; a certain act may receive sanctions or punishments within one group but be seen as normal within another. Plus, as society's understanding of norms changes over time, so too does its members' perception of deviance.
In an attempt to learn if this transformation can stall, Redditor u/sadboi017 asked other users: "What is considered socially unacceptable for no reason?" 34.9K upvotes and 21.3K comments later, I think it's safe to say that it can. Continue scrolling and check out some of the most popular answers.
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Turning down an invitation to go out simply because you’d rather stay home with your pets, save money, and preserve your mental health in glorious solitude.
Using swings/playground equipment as an adult. I friggin love going on the swings, I’m 30 and it still fascinates me that I can quickly and easily get 10-15 feet (or higher) in the air with some simple leg movement.
One day I was at a fairly deserted local park on the swings having the time of my life. Suddenly Karen shows up with her two ankle biters, hands on her hips and yells at me “WHAT ARE YOU DOING ON THERE?! THE SWINGS ARE FOR THE KIDS, NOT ADULTS!”
My tax dollars paid for these swings, and there’s no sign saying that I can’t, so I’ll use them as much as I damn well please whenever I want. How much tax did little Johanathan and little Kymburleigh Pay last year? None? Guess they can’t use the swings either.
I too love the swings and will happily go on them when the playground isn't busy.
That's the thing isn't it? When the children come along you get off and let them have the swing. So what harm does it do? Though I confess I have been very disappointed when I've had to stop!!
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I am a mid 40's man and love the swings. I also have three young children so instead of looking like a creep on the swings it just looks like I am a good dad. :)
If you're swinging with your kids, chances are you are probably a good dad. Hugs.
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The only issue I might see is if there is a weight limit or the morons who get stuck in the swings with leg holes. Those are not meant for adults.
@Fancy Teacher Man, Junglegyms and other play structures are typically designed to have no practical human weight limit (they can support as many people as will fit). Standards for swings vary, but generally chains are rated for 800lbs and the seats themselves are rated for a minimum of 250lbs. Heavier people may be accommodated just fine, depending on the seat design (where the chains loop beneath the swinger there would be no practical limit).
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we have a park with two huge swings for adults. heaven! the increased size means its just like when you were little.
Ditto to swings and trampolines! I’m a 59yo gramma who goes to trampoline park and bounces. I jiggle and Giggle! It’s so freeing to be gravity free even for an instant. Plus it’s a great cardio work out. So sad to see parents on sidelines staring at their phone.
Agree!! also I add trampolines. I love to jump on those things and on the fairs they are onlu available are for kids
I'm about to be 50 at the end of this month and I still swing on swings! It's excellent exercise for legs butt tummy! the lady is right who wrote this ! your taxpayers pays for the playground you have a right to use! Just be kind go when the kids are not around! I go walking at night have a play ground up the road ..the playground is bare that's when I use the swings. I swing just as well now as I did when I was five years old and had the recess Aid whistle at me to slow down don't go so high!! I also recall when children when they were little I was the only mom that would go Swinging with their children we would do the spider that was their favorite .. sadly I was the only mother that was doing this with their children the rest of the mom so she sat around having their gossip talk ..I was a young mom and all the moms were at lest 10years or older then me . I hardly had anything in common with them. ;0)
About five years ago my mum and I went on a twilight walk around her neighbourhood (the one where I grew up). The light was fading as we reached the park, and we were the only two there. We went on the swings, the roundabout and even had a bit of a go on the monkey bars! A 35 year old (at the time) and her 60 year old mum had an absolute ball, until it really got too dark to see and we giggled our way home.
I'm 49. I will STILL go on the swings! *(When no one else is around! -LOL)（⌒▽⌒） Besides, NOT everyone is lucky enough to have grandma's porch swing attached to their city apartment. A swing is a swing- NO matter where it is!
I went on a swing for the first time in literally years last Friday (I was babysitting my nephew and there was a swing that was big enough for me). I realised two things: swings make me a little dizzy, and boy, they are fun!!!
Sometimes they aren't sturdy enough for adults, but I think it's more because people are jealous you still know how to have fun
I love going on swings. No matter how old i am i'm going on those fing swings.
I was at the beach in my town and there's this huge playground there, and there was this kinda rough looking guy on the swings. At first, I'll admit, I was thinking "what is this guy doing here?" but then I noticed he just kept swinging for about 45 minutes, and looked like he was having the time of his life, and felt bad for judging him at first when I realized that we all need to let loose and have some fun sometimes, even if that's swinging on a swing
That's when I demonstrate to Karen's kids how to use "sentence enhancers".
Probably not as much for OP as a person swinging, but a possibly breaking it - it was built for children stature
I don't think this is unacceptable either. I find though, most of these equipments are indeed meant for children and quite small. Like see-saws and slides.
I want to meet that woman purely for the fact she can derive such joy from the simple swinging on a swingset. I want to learn to be that free. Never mind the karens bleating on the sideline; teach me JOY, senpai!
BAHAHA! Good thing I don't care what other people think. If I wanna swing, I'm gonna swing!
Same goes for ball pits, trampolines, adventure playgrounds and jumping castles. Once at an event they put up a huge jumping castle for the kids. Later that night when the parents and the kids went home. All men almost simultaneously turned to their wife or girlfriend and said: „Honey, hold my shoes!“
I love swings but most of the times I can't use them because they're designed for kids and my adult hip doesn't fit!
Your tax dollars also pay for prisons. Do you want free rein to hang out there, as well? The above statements sound as though the author is one of the entitled people, in our midst. Referring to a "Karen," is like the adage of "pot calling the kettle black."
I love love love swings! As a 27-year old I still use them whenever I see one and nobody ever told me I can't. This might be because I look like a 16-18 year old though
I love swings but they don't make them very sturdy these days. It's either for toddlers or for phototaking only.
I agree it's OK to use (unless there is a sign specifically prohibiting their use) though that is usually a matter of keeping adults out of the playground unless accompanied by a minor. Personally I always make sure the seat is wide enough - gets embarrassing if your hips are too wide and all the kids start laughing.
There's a playground near me that has double sliding boards that are about 25 feet high. My twin sister and I (68 years old) cannot pass those slides without having a race to see who reaches the bottom first. It's so much fun!
in my country adults use the swings all the time and are mostly broken by fat people...
Karen wouldn't have liked me much by the time I was done having my say. ;-)
I used to love swings as a child but they make me queasy/motion sick as an adult. I figured that was common, I guess not.
Look at "Kristina from Duvemåla", ABBA-Björns musical, she sure loves to swing 😀
When we move, I plan on finding a house with a bit of land, a hill and several strong trees so I can have swings and a Zipline. Possibly build a treehouse too, or at the very least, a platform up in a tree, big enough for a tent.
I love going to the park .. I usually end up playing with the kids that are there but I have had someone say something before too. They just have no joy left in their hearts!
We have swings all over my city, it's understood they are for everyone.
Recently started using a swing set at the local playeground (just moved) and a day or two ago I read a sign that said the playground equipment is intended for children 5-12. Then I found out that swings are so many inches apart for children and definitely not for adults. Something to consider.
It’s absolutely fine when you’re just having fun, the worse is the older teenagers vandalizing the playground
I think the only concern that I would have is if the engineers put them in based on kid usage and not adult. The design of the swing might not hold up to an adults weight. Not fair to the kids if the swings are broken. But I like swinging too. Anyone else prefer the tire swing to the regular swing?
I love to swing but will gladly give them up to kids, I can go to the swings anytime. They can only go when taken to the park.
Years ago in my misspent youth I would frequently enjoy a swing (& the occasional roundabout) when somewhat chemically challenged. Great fun - wasted on kids 😉
There should be Playgrounds for people 26+ years old. No younger ones allowed.
I can’t anymore, my equalizers in my ears must be more viscous now, and I get ill, alas…
Karens aren't a socially accepted unit for what is socially unacceptable.
Enjoy yourself, but the fact that this persons first thought was that they deserved to use the swings because their tax dollars pay for it is not exactly young at heart. I would pay good money to see this play out with someone saying “the swings are for kids” and the swinger saying “my tax dollars pay for this swing!”
Disagree in part. I'm in there with all the kids as long as my daughter is there too! I'd feel awkward if she wasn't there.
Not answering your own door. When there's like a salesman at someone's door, they won't want to answer but they will act like no one is home, and be really quiet so the person outside the door doesn't hear them. But it's your house. I could just stare at a salesman out the window as he rings my bell, who cares. It's my house. I don't have to answer my own door, for whatever reason I deem acceptable. You came to my house, not the other way around.
Have CCTV installed specifically so I could see who was at the door and avoid answering it if I didn't want to - get a lot of deliveries as I have my own business and need supplies. People with clipboards (one last week which surprised me as it was the first since covid) get ignored.
Leaving without giving an "acceptable" song and dance about why you are leaving, with leaving because you have basically reached your limit with socializing being "not a good enough reason"
People who can stand to be around other people for huge amounts of time, more power to you, but me? I can't do that, and I don't want to have to make up an excuse to do so.
Being open/honest about not having kids. In my personal life I have gotten more ridicule and very pointed questions bordering on disrespectful over being childfree than about any of my other opinions.
Once I said I wasn't having kids my family became obsessed with whether or not I was dating, and who, and oh, what if HE wants kids? What if I meet the "perfect" guy, but he wants kids? Well, then I guess he's not the perfect guy for me. Simple as that. I don't want kids, and no, I don't have to give you a detailed bullet list about why I'm not having kids because what I decide to do with my uterus is none of your business.
The only reason one should ideally need is "because I don't want any". That's my main reason, but for some reason, a lot of people just really want a lot of unwanted and unloved children in the world I guess...
I'm a grown man and I love flowers. Not even 'masculine' flowers, I have an orchid collection.
There is a sort of Orchid called Holy ghost or something like that. When bud is closed, looks like praying monks. When blooming it's resembles a dove of peace. Absolutely STUNNING!!!
waking up at 11am or later
i'm not lazy. my responsibilities are taken care of. i stay up late and value my sleep hours.
In some places, calling in sick, because it's "letting down the team" or whatever. Screw off, I'm sick as a dog. There's little I will accomplish other than feeling like death warmed up, so you aren't missing out on much. Plus I could spread whatever I've got to coworkers, then we're all sick
One of my former bosses fired someone on the spot for coming to work with a bad case of the flu after having told her that she needed to stay home. There was no reason for her to come to work, she would have gotten paid for as long as she was sick.
Wearing a surgical mask when you are sick to prevent giving the illness to others.
Men crying. It’s seen as a weakness typically rather than compassion.
Being single.
Some people are okay not being in a relationship for some time and are perfectly happy, but other people just don't understand that.
What I don't get is why couples choose not to hang out with their single friends anymore. They only do stuff with their couple friends and it's so frustrating
Not drinking alcohol around others who are drinking. People don’t like it
Thats actually a terrible social pressure. Especially for former alkoholics.
Being honest when asked “how are you”
Come to the Netherlands and ask someone that question. You'll get a thorough schooling on their mental, physical and financial situation. Which most of the times is summed up in the one word "kut" or the even more profound comment "tering kut".
Eating lunch alone in your car at work. It's quiet, comfortable, and I don't have to make small talk when I'm trying to have some 'me' time out of the office.
Napping at work during my lunch break. I don't really need food in the afternoon, what I really need is a nap!
Skipping as an adult. It's unfortunate because it is faster than walking and much more fun than running.
Stop thinking about what others may think. I'm a 44 years old, long hair undercut, full beard, tattoooed guy in heavy boots and I love puddle hopping, so i do.
40+ male at a playground
Yes I have no partner, yes that's my 6 year old kid having a blast
No I'm not a pedo but thank you for your questions and passive glares
Women not shaving.
Someone made a comment on here about some famous woman not shaving her armpits. I responded with 'So?' and asked why they considered it their business. No reply.
Wearing the same clothes 2 days in a row
Yes to this. We as a society have gone *way* over the top about things like this and it's doing the planet a huge disservice.
Cursing.
Seriously, how and why the f*ck did society decide that certain sounds will corrupt children?
Swearing also has degrees. The US really dislikes the c-word that Australians use with abandon! Swearing also has power - that's the point of it. If your three year old peppers conversation with f-bombs it loses its emphatic effect. Which is why we end up having to create new curse words, because the old ones aren't strong enough any more.
Apparently self defense isn’t allowed in schools. I guess I just have to accept the beating.
Having fun as an adult. Fun has no expiration date, you don't suddenly no longer qualify for fun and have to live a life of watching the news and drinking coffee. People shame adults for doing fun things and that's absolute nonsense
Not wanting to make small talk. Sometimes being alone in a public place is my only alone time.
I have to put on the show at work and talk to people ALL DAY LONG and if I just want to sit in a bar or cafe or on a bench by myself and stare at my phone I shouldn't be forced to exchange small talk with someone just because they happen to be in the vicinity of me.
Like currently, I'm having a really bad day and just want to go sit and have a drink and stare at cats or something because being in my house is making it worse, but I can't, because I'll be forced to chit chat with someone near me.
Weird idea: Say "I had a very stressful day and need some quite time alone now, please." It is surprising how often that works.
Showing distaste for ones family in any way, shape, or form
Not hiding your tampon when you go to the restroom
I don't. I'm a woman, I bleed. Thinking that something is socially unacceptable is not a one way road. I think it's socially unacceptable to find this socially unacceptable.
Going to the movies alone.
Pre-pandemic I would go to the movies alone all the time. It's nice. Nobody jabbering away at you so much you can't hear the movie.
Being the first person to get up from your chair when snacks are brought into a meeting room. There's always that one hero that does it though so others can get in line.
Walking your cat.
That's not socially unacceptable. I have the highest respect for people who walk their cats instead of kicking them out the door when they leave for work so the cat has to roam the neighborhood and pee and poop in other peoples gardens.
Refusing generosity. It's perfect alright to politely decline, even though others would vilify you for being ungrateful and cold.
Sometimes one should allow others to experience the act of giving. It makes me uncomfortable to be a recipient, but people need that sometimes.
My dad gets SUPER offended when I put my elbows on the table. I still dont know why.
I don't know, I guess I was raised with this as table etiquette? I suppose it's one of those things which has just come through history. Any pandas here know?
There are a ton of rules around clothing that are completely arbitrary nonsense. And I don’t even just mean workplace dress codes and gendered clothing that are obvious bullsh*t. Even in casual situations, jeans and a flannel shirt are normal, but if you wore plaid flannel pajama pants and a denim shirt, you would look psychotic.
Clothing rules are used as a proxy to see at a glance how good you are at conforming to the rules of society.
Ladies can call their friends her "girlfriends," but a man, absolutely not, cannot call his friends his "boyfriends." That's not fair.
hats indoors. No one has given me a valid reason why I need to tell students to take their hats off.
Running everywhere instead of walking.
But you are more likely to collide with someone if running rather than walking, so I wouldn't say that there's no reason for this to be socially unacceptable. It's also very impractical since most of us don't want to run everywhere and thus it'll be hard for those who do want to run to get around us safely.
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A lot of these are not something that society disapproves of. Stems mainly from our own limitations and perceptions.
Yes. Many of these seem to confuse social norms with social embarrassment due to low self-esteem. I would not have trouble doing most of these, assuming it would not bother others too much.
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Birthdays - or rather the lack of interest in one. I never understood this silly notion of this personal holiday. I don't do anything special on it and it always bothers people : "What? You're not doing anything special?" "Come on you have to do something" "why don't you come with us, we'll throw you a party" No thanks. I'm not embarrassed to ask, I'm not shy I just don't like this stupid thing and would rather just stay at home. Why is that a thing?
"The best birthday present you can give me is some peace and quiet. Don't even worry about wrapping it. Just go away."
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Why are these things not acceptable? I love playing in parks, and sending my man flowers and time to myself. And why cant a man cry? They too have feelings and need to sometimes Express them. I think if you're comfortable with something, then do it. Who cares what others think.
Totally. I think this comes with age anyway as people re-evaluate their lives and everntually realise they can do what they want if it's not harming anyone. Shame it often takes that to change how we act.
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Being a cat lover seems to trigger a lot of people. I'm introverted, goofy, adore my cat, and am a woman. If that makes me a "crazy cat lady", I accept.
I only wish I had multiple cats. I can do fine without a 'boyfriend'. It's cats I would love to have more of.
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When my phone rings, I usually don't answer it. Mostly I don't even have it on. I just get my messages later. Some people get upset that I'm not totally accessible to them all the time, but it's my life and I don't want to be a slave to my phone.
This is really cool and all, but I'm a pushover and whenever someone tells me not to do something I dont do it. Even if I'm passionate about it. I've been told writing books is stupid and now I keep procrastinating my books because I'm a pig pushover and writing books is a stupid little kid thing to do
A lot of these are applicable in different countries, and let's not exclude the size of the community you live in. Sure, if you live in a large city, the "norm" is very diluted and people tend to just not care what you do. But in smaller communities, everything stands out. You get old people shake their heads going ts-ts when you wear looser clothes. You get mocked that you are a virgin when you are 15 by your peers. I had a case (as a kid, maybe 9-10 years old), i was playing with my mom and sister in our room, ehen my grandma rushed in, and told us to "Stop laughing, or your grandfather will come!". Apparently laughter and noise in general were frowned upon in their generation's view. So, you do you. If someone doesn't like it, well...they can look the other way.
Here's an idea! Let's all just do what brings us joy and makes us comfortable. If that means setting boundaries with others, do that, albeit kindly. Once others start to see that these things *are* perfectly acceptable, they'll be relieved and start doing them too.
Being a girl walking alone at night. People think I'm crazy for doing it. I am careful, I live in a good area, what's the problem?
#41 Asking me a question when I have food in my mouth, then getting annoyed that I won't immediately answer you.
Being barefoot. Even in the cold I prefer to be barefoot - outside in the grass, whatever. I am constantly called a hillbilly. No, I just prefer to be barefoot, thanks.
I do not want to hold your baby because I will likely drop it by accident. Babies mildly scare me
I love this post because apparently I do many unacceptable things, which in turn makes me feel even more unique. Kudos! 💜
This was another topic where several times I thought of a comment or example while I was reading, then found my exact same thought in the comments. Sort of makes you feel a)unnecessary, and/or b)in touch with the world!
A lot of these are not something that society disapproves of. Stems mainly from our own limitations and perceptions.
Yes. Many of these seem to confuse social norms with social embarrassment due to low self-esteem. I would not have trouble doing most of these, assuming it would not bother others too much.
Load More Replies... Birthdays - or rather the lack of interest in one. I never understood this silly notion of this personal holiday. I don't do anything special on it and it always bothers people : "What? You're not doing anything special?" "Come on you have to do something" "why don't you come with us, we'll throw you a party" No thanks. I'm not embarrassed to ask, I'm not shy I just don't like this stupid thing and would rather just stay at home. Why is that a thing?
"The best birthday present you can give me is some peace and quiet. Don't even worry about wrapping it. Just go away."
Load More Replies... Why are these things not acceptable? I love playing in parks, and sending my man flowers and time to myself. And why cant a man cry? They too have feelings and need to sometimes Express them. I think if you're comfortable with something, then do it. Who cares what others think.
Totally. I think this comes with age anyway as people re-evaluate their lives and everntually realise they can do what they want if it's not harming anyone. Shame it often takes that to change how we act.
Load More Replies... Being a cat lover seems to trigger a lot of people. I'm introverted, goofy, adore my cat, and am a woman. If that makes me a "crazy cat lady", I accept.
I only wish I had multiple cats. I can do fine without a 'boyfriend'. It's cats I would love to have more of.
Load More Replies... When my phone rings, I usually don't answer it. Mostly I don't even have it on. I just get my messages later. Some people get upset that I'm not totally accessible to them all the time, but it's my life and I don't want to be a slave to my phone.
This is really cool and all, but I'm a pushover and whenever someone tells me not to do something I dont do it. Even if I'm passionate about it. I've been told writing books is stupid and now I keep procrastinating my books because I'm a pig pushover and writing books is a stupid little kid thing to do
A lot of these are applicable in different countries, and let's not exclude the size of the community you live in. Sure, if you live in a large city, the "norm" is very diluted and people tend to just not care what you do. But in smaller communities, everything stands out. You get old people shake their heads going ts-ts when you wear looser clothes. You get mocked that you are a virgin when you are 15 by your peers. I had a case (as a kid, maybe 9-10 years old), i was playing with my mom and sister in our room, ehen my grandma rushed in, and told us to "Stop laughing, or your grandfather will come!". Apparently laughter and noise in general were frowned upon in their generation's view. So, you do you. If someone doesn't like it, well...they can look the other way.
Here's an idea! Let's all just do what brings us joy and makes us comfortable. If that means setting boundaries with others, do that, albeit kindly. Once others start to see that these things *are* perfectly acceptable, they'll be relieved and start doing them too.
Being a girl walking alone at night. People think I'm crazy for doing it. I am careful, I live in a good area, what's the problem?
#41 Asking me a question when I have food in my mouth, then getting annoyed that I won't immediately answer you.
Being barefoot. Even in the cold I prefer to be barefoot - outside in the grass, whatever. I am constantly called a hillbilly. No, I just prefer to be barefoot, thanks.
I do not want to hold your baby because I will likely drop it by accident. Babies mildly scare me
I love this post because apparently I do many unacceptable things, which in turn makes me feel even more unique. Kudos! 💜
This was another topic where several times I thought of a comment or example while I was reading, then found my exact same thought in the comments. Sort of makes you feel a)unnecessary, and/or b)in touch with the world!
