ADVERTISEMENT

When it comes to unwritten rules, there are plenty of grey areas between what behaviors people consider OK and not. Social norms differ between cultures; a certain act may receive sanctions or punishments within one group but be seen as normal within another. Plus, as society's understanding of norms changes over time, so too does its members' perception of deviance.

In an attempt to learn if this transformation can stall, Redditor u/sadboi017 asked other users: "What is considered socially unacceptable for no reason?" 34.9K upvotes and 21.3K comments later, I think it's safe to say that it can. Continue scrolling and check out some of the most popular answers.

#1

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Not wanting to hold other people's babies...

SilllyWoman , unsplash Report

#2

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Turning down an invitation to go out simply because you’d rather stay home with your pets, save money, and preserve your mental health in glorious solitude.

SJBailey03 , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
dariazotova avatar
Daria Z
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is it unacceptable? I thought it's perfectly normal and widespread today 🤔

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#3

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Using swings/playground equipment as an adult. I friggin love going on the swings, I’m 30 and it still fascinates me that I can quickly and easily get 10-15 feet (or higher) in the air with some simple leg movement.

One day I was at a fairly deserted local park on the swings having the time of my life. Suddenly Karen shows up with her two ankle biters, hands on her hips and yells at me “WHAT ARE YOU DOING ON THERE?! THE SWINGS ARE FOR THE KIDS, NOT ADULTS!”

My tax dollars paid for these swings, and there’s no sign saying that I can’t, so I’ll use them as much as I damn well please whenever I want. How much tax did little Johanathan and little Kymburleigh Pay last year? None? Guess they can’t use the swings either.

chewblekka , pexels Report

ADVERTISEMENT
#4

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Not answering your own door. When there's like a salesman at someone's door, they won't want to answer but they will act like no one is home, and be really quiet so the person outside the door doesn't hear them. But it's your house. I could just stare at a salesman out the window as he rings my bell, who cares. It's my house. I don't have to answer my own door, for whatever reason I deem acceptable. You came to my house, not the other way around.

Waddlow , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
info_884 avatar
Alex Bailey
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have CCTV installed specifically so I could see who was at the door and avoid answering it if I didn't want to - get a lot of deliveries as I have my own business and need supplies. People with clipboards (one last week which surprised me as it was the first since covid) get ignored.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#5

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Leaving without giving an "acceptable" song and dance about why you are leaving, with leaving because you have basically reached your limit with socializing being "not a good enough reason"

People who can stand to be around other people for huge amounts of time, more power to you, but me? I can't do that, and I don't want to have to make up an excuse to do so.

Drakeskulled_Reaper , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
paulclarey avatar
Paul C.
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so with this one. Sometimes I'm happy to stay, but when I'm done, I'm done.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#6

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Being open/honest about not having kids. In my personal life I have gotten more ridicule and very pointed questions bordering on disrespectful over being childfree than about any of my other opinions.

Once I said I wasn't having kids my family became obsessed with whether or not I was dating, and who, and oh, what if HE wants kids? What if I meet the "perfect" guy, but he wants kids? Well, then I guess he's not the perfect guy for me. Simple as that. I don't want kids, and no, I don't have to give you a detailed bullet list about why I'm not having kids because what I decide to do with my uterus is none of your business.

RattusDraconis Report

Add photo comments
POST
dannamarim avatar
InvincibleRodent
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only reason one should ideally need is "because I don't want any". That's my main reason, but for some reason, a lot of people just really want a lot of unwanted and unloved children in the world I guess...

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#7

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever I'm a grown man and I love flowers. Not even 'masculine' flowers, I have an orchid collection.

pressureshack , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
1998-mende-laura avatar
Laura Mende (Human)
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is a sort of Orchid called Holy ghost or something like that. When bud is closed, looks like praying monks. When blooming it's resembles a dove of peace. Absolutely STUNNING!!!

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#8

NOT WEARING A BRA. SCREW BRAS. THERE I SAID IT.

LoverofCatsandTSwift Report

Add photo comments
POST
andreavilarmelego avatar
Ozacoter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah why is people so obsessed with female nipples? You can see guys nipples all the time through tshirts but if a womans are obvious its the end of the world.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#9

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever waking up at 11am or later

i'm not lazy. my responsibilities are taken care of. i stay up late and value my sleep hours.

FaroutIGE , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
dariazotova avatar
Daria Z
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! I feel more productive in the evening but, sadly, our world belongs to early birds...

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#10

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever In some places, calling in sick, because it's "letting down the team" or whatever. Screw off, I'm sick as a dog. There's little I will accomplish other than feeling like death warmed up, so you aren't missing out on much. Plus I could spread whatever I've got to coworkers, then we're all sick

GoabNZ , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
bp_10 avatar
WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my former bosses fired someone on the spot for coming to work with a bad case of the flu after having told her that she needed to stay home. There was no reason for her to come to work, she would have gotten paid for as long as she was sick.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#11

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Wearing a surgical mask when you are sick to prevent giving the illness to others.

Phyr8642 , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
vickyz avatar
Vicky Z
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can we all agree this to be a norm from now on? I mean they do it for years in Asian countries!!!

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#12

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Men crying. It’s seen as a weakness typically rather than compassion.

Virtue00 , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
carolyngerbrands avatar
Caro Caro
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Only assholes would say that. I think men need a break from being macho bs! Blokes have emotions too.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
ADVERTISEMENT
#13

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Being single.

Some people are okay not being in a relationship for some time and are perfectly happy, but other people just don't understand that.

-eDgAR- , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
popapach avatar
troufaki13
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What I don't get is why couples choose not to hang out with their single friends anymore. They only do stuff with their couple friends and it's so frustrating

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#14

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Not drinking alcohol around others who are drinking. People don’t like it

selux , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
dinasimone avatar
Dina Simoné
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats actually a terrible social pressure. Especially for former alkoholics.

vickyz avatar
Vicky Z
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True and people always assume that you are a recovering alcoholic which is not bad of course but i don't need to give you details for my life! I might be on medication i don't need to explain

Load More Replies...
andreavilarmelego avatar
Ozacoter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate when people insists on me drinking. I never drunk and a lot of people treated me like if i was immature for not drinking in my 20s. What its immature is to think that you can only have fun if you are drunk.

volksdroid avatar
Dan Buczynski
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't drink and drive. Like not a single drink. When I tell people that, they assume it's because I have had DUIs in the past. I'm like "No...it's so I don't have one in the future, numbnuts."

vicd avatar
Vic D
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People assuming you are a former alcoholic because you don't like to drink. No I just don't enjoy the effects or the taste.

enigretto avatar
Ellie Nigretto
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's no such thing as a former alcoholic. They are either in recovery or they're not. If people want to judge my sobriety they can go ahead. I don't care. I am who I am and proud of the growth I made. Funny thing is I don't tell them they just assume then tell me for no apparent reason that they hardly drink or want to stop.

Load More Replies...
kjorn avatar
kjorn
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i know! people look at me weird when i say that i don't drink alcohol. never liked the taste.

bpbperic avatar
Night Owl
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same here. Tried it accidentally in a praline as a teenager once. Never again. But I do eat it I guess (that's more often the case than many realize and even in fruit there's often alkohol - it's almost impossible to avoid it entirely so I don't even try but it must be really hard for recovering alcoholics)

Load More Replies...
teodornegru avatar
Teodor Negru
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the guy who never drinks alcohol, not at parties, not at social gatherings, not when visiting friends or whatever. The pressure's high but i don't care. You do whatever pleases you, but since I don't like drinking at all, I don't... and if that's unacceptable to you, too bad, so sad, I ain't going to do something that displeases me "for you".

niksmom2001 avatar
Sandra Givens
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My late father in law never drank. Served him well when he was a B-25 pilot in WW2. Loved him some good chocolate bars and doughnuts though.

Load More Replies...
ashleygalyen avatar
Ashley Galyen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just get a Shirley Temple plus lime. Looks fancy enough like you have a mixed drink. Half the time people don't pay attention to what you order as long as you order something. They are too busy thinking of what they want to order. It's only when a soda can or an obvious water is served do people say anything. I don't really care for booze anyway. I've even get away with just selter water and people rarely say anything. Your mileage may vary.

tristanjones avatar
Tristan J
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps they are aware they may be more tolerable if you're drunk

alexia_1 avatar
Alexia
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also not eating sweets/ cakes, or hypercaloric dishes. Some peole also try to make you feel guilty for refusing: "You don't like it... I worked so hard for these and you don't show appreciation..." For someone who is on a diet - due to a disease or just to lose weight - this is terrible.

luthervonwolfen avatar
Luther von Wolfen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a recovering alcoholic and I will flip this in a heartbeat. If you have a problem with me not drinking, maybe you have a drinking problem.

ssnx01 avatar
Chich
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I usually don't drink and have had some very annoying people insist I do. They often get to "well I'll buy you one". Then I order some wickedly expensive liqueur. Usually shuts them up.

mugwortsmom avatar
Stacey Thompson
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 48 years old with the palate of a 5 year old; I don't drink alcohol because I don't like it (nor do I like coffee, eggs, seafood, etc): I just don't understand why people care! Do you and leave me alone!

idrow avatar
Id row
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Eh, I don't care if they don't like it. I'm not going to drink alcohol if I don't want it.

bzap724 avatar
Mz Phit
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So true! In my thirties I developed a terrible allergic reaction to alcohol (after a life threatening illness) and now can't drink more than a few social sips. When people get mad I know it's usually because they have feelings of guilt over their drinking habits. (Not my problem, thank goodness, I have enough problems already). Anyhow, I much prefer to chomp an edible instead.

kahlanh avatar
Kahlan H
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have stomach issue and i can't tolerate much alc, get asked if it's for religious reasons or get teased that im a grandma until I have to explain it's medical then people suddenly shut up about it. Whilst im very open and don't mind explaining, it can get tedious when there is always someone butting a joke at you, also not everyone is ok to share their personal life issues with anyone in earshot.

infectedvoice avatar
InfectedVoice
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also let's be fair, drunk people are nearly intolerable when you're sober.

camlynn1234 avatar
Miss Frankfurter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have Bipolar 2 Disorder. I just make a bit of a joke. "It doesn't mix with my drugs, man". Which it doesn't.

delphinum4 avatar
Zophra
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think this is such a big deal- I think it's very socially acceptable not to drink.

gn4awalk avatar
julie son
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a boyfriend who gave the honest reason behind this; "I don't like it because I know that I get stupid when I drink and I don't want you to see me stupid."

kirstenkerkhof avatar
Kirsten Kerkhof
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't drink at all, never have. Somehow I don't feel that pressure, but maybe it is because literally nobody has ever seen me with an alcoholic drink. I wonder why nobody ever pressures me into having a beer or wine or whatever when they do so with others. Honestly wondering.

jonathan avatar
Jonathan
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't drink, and for me, it's never been an issue, nor with others, from my side though it's just funny been around totally s**t faced people.

niksmom2001 avatar
Sandra Givens
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a one and done drinker, and yes, it does seem to annoy people if you stick to tea or soda.

heynsdesigns avatar
Shirley Heyn
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As long as they don't frown at me for having another drink, and getting "sillier as the night goes on", I like them. If they don't care that I'm drinking, I don't care if they aren't, as long as we are all having a good time. . . don't worry about it. Enough said!

annarepp avatar
Anna Repp
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

TBH - when it is the other way it is an unnecessary pressure, too. I like a beer with my dinner but when I'm out and no one is drinking, I feel like they'd think I'm a hopeless alcoholic for getting a beer when no one else does.

jaybird3939 avatar
Jaybird3939
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a recovering alcoholic (12 years sober). I don't think my friends knew how bad it was, but they don't get too nosy about why I'm not drinking. Although, when asked, I tell them I'm diabetic (and I am), and that pretty much gets me out of it.

zoeming00 avatar
Zoe Ming
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not an alcoholic, but sometimes I just don't want to drink alcohol. I never felt awkward refusing, though, and nobody has ever questioned my reasons.

d_pitbull avatar
D. Pitbull
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is terrible for someone like me who literally cannot drink more than a tablespoon or two without experiencing "rather unpleasant" effects. So essentially I can't drink. I get sick. No fun time. Just sick. I turn down all invites where the description is "We're hanging out at the [insert bar name here] bar" - because what ALWAYS happens? They all drink.. and they drink ... and they form the "wall" - you know ... the one where they create a little social space with their bodies... and you're sitting outside of it...

linbot1 avatar
Lily Mae Kitty
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder about this b/c I haven't experienced it in so many years. I never drank like other people. Once I hit 30, no one gave me crap for not drinking or not drinking like other people. Now, that most of my friends are older, many of us don't drink b/c of medications.

net0 avatar
Margaret Weaver
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Noone I associate with would ever want me to feel pressured to drink, and honestly if anyone does (regardless who you are) I promise you: you are worth more than that. No friends is better than destructive saboteurs in your circle. You may not move fast rowing alone, but you'll sink if you let people drill holes in your boat.

weronikakasperska avatar
Weronika Kasperska
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah I have sick pancreas an can’t drink AT ALL, no matter that is 'just one shot', 'just a beer' or 'but it’s my birthday' - every amount of alcohol could kill me or at least send me to the hospital. But yet ppl don’t understand WHY I don’t want to drink 'just a little' with them.

soul_and_sunset avatar
Jubum
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i don't like alcohol. I hate the taste of beer, wine, whiskey, etc. And I hate having to justify myself every time I don't drink it.

craig_reynolds_usa avatar
Craig Reynolds
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The same goes for weed-smoking friends. For some reason, the person not smoking or drinking when they are makes them uncomfortable.

sarah_n_tyrrell avatar
Sarah Tyrrell
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If people want to drink, go for it. I don't like getting drunk in public for safety reasons.

zuppo avatar
Maria Schneider
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never drunk... but people tend to ask me if I had been an alcoholic!?

n_castro101 avatar
Olive
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so toxic. As someone with an alcohol allergy this is so annoying.

lynslow avatar
Demongrrrrl
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can always say that you don't like the taste, or that you take meds that forbid alcohol.

janealexander37 avatar
Jane Alexander
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One fellow, we'll call him 'Alky' actuall said to me "Take a drink of this or you don't love me"

tankusomaximus123 avatar
Lisa Hearn
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't drink, and I tend not to socialise with people who do, because I have to defend my non drinking habits every time.

purplezebra avatar
purple zebra
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I’ve never understood this, I’m ok if you want to drink, why can’t you be ok that I don’t want to drink?

mjw0sysascend_com avatar
lara
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this is really a problem, get a glass of carbonated water with a twist of lime. Let them think whatever they want. The bartender will be happy to accommodate you.

ivyruonakoski avatar
Ivy la Sangrienta
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's weird, really. I had no problem being sober around drunk people when I was bartending, but being sober on the other side of the bar...drunk people can be so annoying.

joyjen57 avatar
Jenni Joy
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have the same issue with not eating crap when everyone else eats it. I eat healthy, people don't like that.

ventura574 avatar
Stephanie Ventura-Montalvo
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have had this issue. I'm like "you don't want me to drink around you". Then I end up with one, which turns into 6 or 7, and then they learn their lesson when I turn into a drunk "new jersian", aka, the world's biggest asshole.

rangerkeim avatar
Ross Keim
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being expected to not drink alcohol because others don’t drink is just as annoying, sorry you can’t be responsible and have only one drink and enjoy the flavor

musicmania_1 avatar
Music Mania
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I drink because I like the occasional beverage, if you don't good for you, we can still hang out. If my drinking makes you uncomfortable, say something and again...we can still hang out. It really isn't that hard.

lyralover avatar
Femke Van Der Leij-Nijdam
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Weird thing, my husband and I both don't drink, people gave us s**t when we were younger but not so much anymore.

bhaskarreddydevarapalli avatar
It’s just common sense
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t like Alcohol but I’m always pressured into drinking it in social situations, it has become an essential part of socializing, such a waste.

bcgrote avatar
Brandy Grote
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We've never had a problem with that. Soda for us, beer for them, and we brought our own water, thanks. We've never been pressured.

leodomitrix avatar
Leo Domitrix
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never a drinker, b/c grew up around 'em. I tried it, disliked it, the end. Not their business.

leannemariedantoni avatar
Agnes Jekyll
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A colleague used to bring her own alcohol-free beer to all functions so people would leave her alone. She'd never had a drink in her life, and didn't want to. From a family of raging alcoholics, she didn't want to risk it herself, and didn't want to continually explain herself.

tomspade avatar
Tom Spade
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. That's me. I don't drink. I don't like the taste or the buzz. Doing lighting and roadie stuff often puts me in an alcoholic environment, and some people get weird about me not drinking. So I usually light up some weed. Screw having some drunks judge me for not drinking. My best refusal is to say that I just did a bunch of coke, and I don't want to mess up a great buzz, lol!

autumnmcconda avatar
Autumn Artemis
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will be enjoying my Shirley temple from the “kids menu” thanks. ^-^

valisbourne avatar
Valisbourne Spiritforge
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get this. Even if they are drinking water, they are drinking with you.

alanwilkening avatar
Earl Grey
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I drink very little or not at all at parties because it is so much more fun to watch everybody else get drunk and make fools of themselves. Such good entertainment!

emory_ce avatar
Carol Emory
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have actually accepted this because my husband has maybe had 10 beers in the time that I've been married to him..and we just passed 31 years of marriage.

nizumi avatar
Nizumi
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've always just said "Aw, yeah, thanks, I can't drink." Said like that and looking straight in their eyes, I've not been questioned. But I've often seen the hamster behind their eyes scrambling, "Is she an alcoholic? On medication? Pregnant?" (only complete strangers would ever think the last option - those who know me know better)

sdeveno12 avatar
BasedWang
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats true, but I always have a pint on me so most of the time Im the only one actually drinking

danrider avatar
Son of Philosoraptor
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A friend of mine taught me to get a Henry Weinharts root beer because it looks like a normal beer and just carry it around. Changed my whole experience from people practically forcing me to drink to actually talking to me. America is utterly addicted to alcohol.

yvette_m_desmarais avatar
Yvette Desmarais
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's fun to stay sober and watch others drink and get stupid. Sometimes disgusting but entertaining.

mphseti avatar
mph seti
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't drink much, but when I do I actually prefer to do it alone, or with a select person or people, at home. It's MUCH cheaper, safer, and I don't feel comfortable getting loaded around strangers.

saracrdiogo avatar
Sara Diogo
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when in a couple it's the woman who drinks the alcohol? We have done this many times and every time the waiter puts the alcoholic drink in front of my husband. When we say it's not like that they seem having a problem to understand this scenario, like if we were aliens or something.

rebajanemoore avatar
Becky Moore
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I stopped drinking for a year and during that time going out with my friends while they were drinking was intolerable; drunk people are so f*****g annoying! I've started drinking again partly so I don't end up spending the evening wanting to kill everyone :P

blazefitzwater221 avatar
Blaze Fitzwater
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once ordered a ginger ale at happy hour and had to convince a bunch of colleagues that I wasn't pregnant... 🙄

kb0569 avatar
Karl Baxter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t mind it at all. Perhaps I just don’t have friends who pressure me into drinking. If I was a pain the a**e and lectured everyone else on their consumption then they’d probably have a point but I’d have to ask myself why I agreed to come to the pub in the first place.

fxipock avatar
Karen Fox
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep! I always tell people that its no moral judgement on those who do ... I just am well aware that I cant hold my liquor- I get drunk on a single shot & when Im intoxicated there are only two things I am going to do- BOTH START WITH AN F! If I drink enough I can do both at the same time...

satu-portimojarvi avatar
Big Blue Cat
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know the both sides of this. Trying not to drink and being stuck on driving wasted people around the town the whole night (wtf, I wanted to leave early and have a good night sleep) and listening mind numbing drunken babble. Or drinking in the crowd with one teetotal person sitting quietly in the corner, visibly uncomfortable. Or sometimes the sober one is trying to embarras everyone else. I once dropped a plate in an office party and was called drunk before I had even a sip. Listen boy, I'm not drunk just clumsy af. Anyway. Unless everyone else only drinks one glass, having one non-drinker in the goup is usually just awkward.

jenniferlobelle avatar
BannedFromABoatShow
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lost every one of my friends after they decided to start brewing in the basement. I never said anything against it, I just never drank it. Or anything else - I just don’t like the alcohol taste. Looooong story short, they’d break into my room, exclude me intentionally, and finally kicked me out. Over me not drinking. Bizarre.

lunanik avatar
Nikki Sevven
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one is ridiculous. I occasionally meet up with two of my friends for karaoke. Neither drinks. That's fine with me; I'm still going to have a couple beers and NOT push them on their personal choices, just like they don't push me on mine.

facebook_radek avatar
Radek Suski
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd never pressure anyone. Say no once and I'd maybe ask "are you sure?" and that's it

matildabunny2018 avatar
matilda
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Try this one in Europe! If you say you don't like alcohol, they ask if you're sick or something

pass_nad avatar
Nadine Debard
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I got pregnant and I didn't want to reveal it too early, I said I had a migraine or I accepted a very small glass of wine and pretended to drink it. How sad and frustrating.

Load More Replies...
jameskramer avatar
James016
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am tee total, have been since 2002. I stopped because I didn't like it anymore. Got s**t for it for many years. I don't speak to those people anymore

saderman avatar
Shelli Aderman
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not true. If this is the case, maybe a revaluation of your friends is in order.

k_anderson avatar
K. Anderson
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s pretty boring being out with people drinking if you aren’t.

neilbidle avatar
Devil's Advocate
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not true, I rarely drink and have a teetotal friend, but whenever we went out as a group, no drama! If you're being pressured, they're bad friends, but it might be just in your head

aliquida avatar
Aliquid
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes true. I find it fascinating when someone expresses their frustration with a thing that happens to them, and then dozens of people respond "oh yeah, I hear you"... and then people like you say "not true". You have ZERO ability to judge whether or not a complete stranger's experiences are "true" or not. And the fact that you haven't personally experienced this might just make you a unique minority, rather than them being "not true".

Load More Replies...
View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#15

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Going out for dinner by yourself

sugarnipples231 , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
mark-mckenzie_1 avatar
anarkzie
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a good one. There should be nothing wrong with simply wanting to sit in a nice restaurant by yourself and having a meal but even thinking about leaves me feeling oddly guilty and ashamed.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#16

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Being honest when asked “how are you”

pm_me_n0Od , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
bp_10 avatar
WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Come to the Netherlands and ask someone that question. You'll get a thorough schooling on their mental, physical and financial situation. Which most of the times is summed up in the one word "kut" or the even more profound comment "tering kut".

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#17

Eating lunch alone in your car at work. It's quiet, comfortable, and I don't have to make small talk when I'm trying to have some 'me' time out of the office.

abandoned_firehouse Report

Add photo comments
POST
jonathan avatar
Jonathan
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I sit in my car, put on a movie, turn on the AC and eat what ever I have.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#18

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Napping at work during my lunch break. I don't really need food in the afternoon, what I really need is a nap!

katartsis , unsplash Report

ADVERTISEMENT
#19

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Skipping as an adult. It's unfortunate because it is faster than walking and much more fun than running.

BigEarsLongTail , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
der-tod-auf-raedern avatar
Cactus McCoy
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop thinking about what others may think. I'm a 44 years old, long hair undercut, full beard, tattoooed guy in heavy boots and I love puddle hopping, so i do.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#20

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever 40+ male at a playground

Yes I have no partner, yes that's my 6 year old kid having a blast

No I'm not a pedo but thank you for your questions and passive glares

SomeCrows , pexels Report

#21

Women not shaving.

Toughpupper Report

Add photo comments
POST
suehazlewood avatar
Sue Hazlewood
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Someone made a comment on here about some famous woman not shaving her armpits. I responded with 'So?' and asked why they considered it their business. No reply.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#22

Wearing the same clothes 2 days in a row

ManyDeliciousJuices Report

Add photo comments
POST
stienbabe avatar
Becky Samuel
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes to this. We as a society have gone *way* over the top about things like this and it's doing the planet a huge disservice.

View more commentsArrow down menu
#23

Cursing.

Seriously, how and why the f*ck did society decide that certain sounds will corrupt children?

depthandbloom Report

Add photo comments
POST
saragregory0508 avatar
NsG
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Swearing also has degrees. The US really dislikes the c-word that Australians use with abandon! Swearing also has power - that's the point of it. If your three year old peppers conversation with f-bombs it loses its emphatic effect. Which is why we end up having to create new curse words, because the old ones aren't strong enough any more.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#24

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Apparently self defense isn’t allowed in schools. I guess I just have to accept the beating.

TheBananaHamook , pexels Report

#25

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Having fun as an adult. Fun has no expiration date, you don't suddenly no longer qualify for fun and have to live a life of watching the news and drinking coffee. People shame adults for doing fun things and that's absolute nonsense

merabih , pexels Report

ADVERTISEMENT
See Also on Bored Panda
#26

Not wanting to make small talk. Sometimes being alone in a public place is my only alone time.

I have to put on the show at work and talk to people ALL DAY LONG and if I just want to sit in a bar or cafe or on a bench by myself and stare at my phone I shouldn't be forced to exchange small talk with someone just because they happen to be in the vicinity of me.

Like currently, I'm having a really bad day and just want to go sit and have a drink and stare at cats or something because being in my house is making it worse, but I can't, because I'll be forced to chit chat with someone near me.

romperstomp Report

Add photo comments
POST
der-tod-auf-raedern avatar
Cactus McCoy
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Weird idea: Say "I had a very stressful day and need some quite time alone now, please." It is surprising how often that works.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#27

Showing distaste for ones family in any way, shape, or form

Foodcity Report

#28

Not hiding your tampon when you go to the restroom

IwishIhadbiggerfeet Report

Add photo comments
POST
nbornkessel avatar
Natalie Bohrteller
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't. I'm a woman, I bleed. Thinking that something is socially unacceptable is not a one way road. I think it's socially unacceptable to find this socially unacceptable.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#29

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Going to the movies alone.

orbesomebodysfool , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
desireemckinnon620 avatar
Desiree McKinnon
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pre-pandemic I would go to the movies alone all the time. It's nice. Nobody jabbering away at you so much you can't hear the movie.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#30

Being a virgin

CWbr Report

Add photo comments
POST
andreavilarmelego avatar
Ozacoter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I blame media for this. Many teenager series show old and very fit actors that have sex like rabbits. Thats completely unreal but it makes people self-conscious

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#31

Being the first person to get up from your chair when snacks are brought into a meeting room. There's always that one hero that does it though so others can get in line.

Mool901 Report

#32

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Men caring about skincare and getting manicures

Old-Physics , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
magister_ix avatar
Fei
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then I guess my grandpa and uncle are very progressive... Even though they're not fond of manicure, they use skincare since their teenage years. And they are very manly!

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#33

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Walking your cat.

SentinelVortexx , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
bp_10 avatar
WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not socially unacceptable. I have the highest respect for people who walk their cats instead of kicking them out the door when they leave for work so the cat has to roam the neighborhood and pee and poop in other peoples gardens.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#34

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Refusing generosity. It's perfect alright to politely decline, even though others would vilify you for being ungrateful and cold.

ETC3000 , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
markmelton avatar
Mark Melton
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes one should allow others to experience the act of giving. It makes me uncomfortable to be a recipient, but people need that sometimes.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#35

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever My dad gets SUPER offended when I put my elbows on the table. I still dont know why.

Briannarhea1513 , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
angelina-black avatar
SentimentAndBadJokes
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know, I guess I was raised with this as table etiquette? I suppose it's one of those things which has just come through history. Any pandas here know?

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
See Also on Bored Panda
#36

There are a ton of rules around clothing that are completely arbitrary nonsense. And I don’t even just mean workplace dress codes and gendered clothing that are obvious bullsh*t. Even in casual situations, jeans and a flannel shirt are normal, but if you wore plaid flannel pajama pants and a denim shirt, you would look psychotic.

notevaluatedbyFDA Report

Add photo comments
POST
stienbabe avatar
Becky Samuel
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Clothing rules are used as a proxy to see at a glance how good you are at conforming to the rules of society.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#37

Ladies can call their friends her "girlfriends," but a man, absolutely not, cannot call his friends his "boyfriends." That's not fair.

llcucf80 Report

#38

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Laying down in public.

Source: likes to lay.

Musclemagic , unsplash Report

Add photo comments
POST
andreavilarmelego avatar
Ozacoter
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or sitting in the floor. Sorry sometimes I am tired and there arent chairs or benches available.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#39

hats indoors. No one has given me a valid reason why I need to tell students to take their hats off.

EchoStellar12 Report

Add photo comments
POST
robseymour avatar
fire bug
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's the norm going back to the days when people wore helmets (knights, vikings and such). It was a way to show trust and respect when entering someone else's home. Its pretty antiquated but that's where it came from.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu
#40

People Are Sharing 40 Things That Aren't Socially Acceptable For No Reason Whatsoever Running everywhere instead of walking.

TotallyRealFBIAgent , pexels Report

Add photo comments
POST
wendillon avatar
Monday
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But you are more likely to collide with someone if running rather than walking, so I wouldn't say that there's no reason for this to be socially unacceptable. It's also very impractical since most of us don't want to run everywhere and thus it'll be hard for those who do want to run to get around us safely.

View More Replies...
View more commentsArrow down menu

Note: this post originally had 52 images. It’s been shortened to the top 40 images based on user votes.