Family Drama Arises As Ex’s New Girlfriend Throws Out 3 Y.O. Step-Son’s Homemade Blanket, Mom Sets Her Straight By Complaining To In-Laws
William Shakespeare believed that “never was a story of more woe than this of Juliet and her Romeo”. Four centuries have passed since then, and much sadder stories have appeared. It is quite possible that the great playwright would have dedicated his new outstanding plays to many of them.
In fact, however, Romeo and Juliet simply did not have time to live a family life. It is quite possible that adultery, divorce, child custody trials, and all the other attributes of many family tales, about which Shakespeare had no idea, could have awaited them. And thank God that he didn’t, otherwise the world classics would look completely different.
For example, like this story from the AITA Reddit community, which has already gained about 28.2K upvotes and over 800 different comments. A story in which, unfortunately, a small child suffered the most. However, let’s take it from the very beginning…
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The Original Poster shares custody of her 3 Y.O. son with her former husband
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So, the Original Poster was married and seven months pregnant when she found out that her husband was cheating on her. She filed for divorce and shared custody of the newborn son with her ex-husband.
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The OP’s ex-husband’s girlfriend tried to take part in parenting and the mom wasn’t happy about it
Three years have passed since then. The woman brings up her son alone, and from time to time, he goes home to his father. We must say that the girlfriend of the OP’s ex-husband is also trying to take part in parenting, although the kid’s mom did not ask her about this.
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It was especially upsetting for the OP that the woman had recently begun to throw away some of the boy’s things while he was at their house. The OP doesn’t earn much money, so she can’t afford to buy a lot of things, although she tries very hard to make her son comfortable.
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Upon picking the boy up from the dad’s house, the OP suddenly found out that the GF had upset him by throwing his favorite blanket out
For example, she knitted him a blanket with his name, which the boy loved very much. On another visit to his dad, the child asked to take the blanket with him to sleep with. How upset the mother was when, having arrived to pick up the kid a few days later, she found out that her ex-husband’s GF had thrown the blanket away!
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The son said that the woman offered him another blanket, and when he refused, she threw away his favorite one “as a punishment”. Of course, the boy was upset, but when the OP called his father, he told her not to do stupid things, but rather find a good job.
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The woman decided to vent about it with ex-hubby’s relatives, with whom she maintained a good relationship
As a result, the woman decided to visit her ex-husband’s relatives and complain to them. The fact is that they have long maintained good relations, and now they support the OP as well. Moreover, her SIL even wrote an outraged Facebook post about this situation.
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The former husband later called the OP and threw a fit that she ruined his GF’s relationship with his family
After some time, the OP got a call from her ex-husband and he threw a tantrum, outraged that she had complained to his family. It turned out that the man’s girlfriend had been trying for a long time (and not quite successfully) to establish relations with his relatives, and now everything seems to have completely collapsed.
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People in the comments told the OP that she did everything right and maybe she should apply for a custody review
Of course, the woman was upset again, but this time she was calmed down by the commenters, who almost unanimously sided with her. According to one of the people in the comments, the hubby’s GF is abusing her little son and, if she were in her place, she would have already sued.
Also, commenters criticized the kid’s father, who actually allowed this to happen. In any case, according to many people, the OP should apply for a custody review so that her ex-husband’s girlfriend is less involved in parenting – and ideally excluded overall.
As we have already said, family stories from divorced spouses, where a small kid is involved, are often quite sad. In any case, we would like to know your opinion about this tale, so please feel free to comment.
As a step parent I find this thread deeply disturbing. This woman has no business being part of this child's life. Being a step parent is hard, but don't do it if you're not willing to put those kids first.
Not just disturbing. Enraging. I would never allow this.
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I'm absolutely sickened by this, both her ex and the new girlfriend are abusive. She wanted to change her son's name to something they all like? She threw out that blanket? The girlfriend and the ex are sociopaths. That household is a dangerous environment for her son and she urgently needs to speak to a lawyer who specialises in family law. The child needs supervised visits with her ex and completely excluding this evil girlfriend. I really can't get over how f**ked up they are. I'm curious to know how long the ex and his abusive girlfriend have been together. She's the epitome of a stereotypical stepmother. I'm truly appalled.
Yeah, wanting to change his name is a bizarre thing to say. She sounds a bit mental.
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The girlfriend is a real f*****g b***h. I can't imagine not only trying to change his name (if you like a particular name then have your own child & name them that.) But to throw out his baby blanket because his mother made it for him. Seriously that type of thing is traumatizing (to anyone) but especially a toddler. WTF. The father is no better because he allows this. The mother should seek full custody. My SO has 2 older children from a previous relationship, together we have a 4yr old. It has NEVER once crossed my mind to interfere with his children when they come to visit. They're his kids not mine.
I’m a step parent and I’m gonna be honest and say that had I known beforehand how it would be, I would have opted out BUT, I never ever make decisions unless asked by my husband or the mother! I simply just remain in the “grey zone”.
It's a lousy situation to be in. That's one of the reasons I stay single. A great guy was interested. I said I'm not gonna ruin your life. Find someone without kids and without an ex. You will have nothing to say. Dad is still the boss. Kids don't want someone with a new set of rules. You will have to obey my ex, else CPS steals my kids. Oh and btw don't earn too much. Else you can pay him too.
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I am angry and frightened for this little boy. Things that happen in early childhood can have a profound effect on their lives. The girlfriend sounds sadistic and narcissistic. Mom, go to court. Your child is at grave risk.
It's almost as if ex's girlfriend isn't aware that actions have consequences.
Unfortunately they often don't in family court. You would think psychological damage and well-being of the child would be a big concern, but at least here in FL, most lawyers will tell you that judges only care about dividing time equally and nailing down child support. Everything else they usually won't even listen too. It's absolutely horrid.
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She should sue for full custody. The father obviously cares more about his girlfriend than the happiness and welfare of his son, and appears to be very ignorant. The girlfriend must be extremely immature.
A new partner of a parent is never automatically a stepparent. Not until the child acknowledges the new partner as such. As long as there is no acknowledgement they are the BF/GF or husband/wife of the parent. I only started to call my father's second wife my stepmother when my own mother died when I was 39 yo.
right there with you. however, I'm not going to dirty my hands with that trash. It'll get handled though. What's that? Oh they found what in your gf car? Huh. Guess I better go for full custody. 🤣😆No, I'm kidding but this story did p**s me off!
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If by SIL means that she's his sister, she should tell that pos to get the blanket to her within 72 hours to PROVE her worth to the family or at least Double the cost of the materials so mom can create a new one. ($80 for the materials and $80 for pain and suffering) The boy is caught in a poor sitution, and needs an advacate in his corner. Sounds like the SIL may be that person. Not emotionally/mentally clouded in judgement, but close enough to see that he is getting treated well.
This girlfriend doesn't need to be around a pet, let alone a child. There is something seriously wrong with her and the dad is just putting up with it. I wonder if he will still be defending her if he loses access to his child.
I wonder if the girlfriend is jealous, wishes that the child was hers. Maybe she is infertile? That would explain why she would throw away items that the mother bought or made for the child. She sounds like she has serious mental health issues and shouldn't be around the child at all.
Our 7 y/o was 'given' to my husband and myself when he was 4. His father would get him Occasionally for a weekend. Then the father moved in with a girlfriend. The son went to spend a weekend. Father went to work at midnight, the girlfriend put the boy on the couch, in the dark, with her door closed. It took 3 years of counseling and 5 years before he could sleep in his own room. He would sleep on the couch, with me in a recliner holding my hand every night in order to sleep. We finally were able to adopt him a year ago. He never spent another night with his father. Get your son talking to a counselor and make ex pay for it.
She is just a jealous b***h because you have the child before hers(not sure if she has one but sure she wants one). For now on RECORD, record every conversation, every interaction and everything your child says about the situation. You will come to realize you have enough leverage to sue him AND HER about their parenting ways and have evidence of your child's humiliation and pain. Trust me you can get alot with evidence. Most peoples problems are no evidence. Once a judge sees how your child is truly being treated you can cut his balls off and shove them in her mouth which seems to me where they are anyway. Sorry for the language. I am a firm believer if you have cold hard evidence you can shut both of them up. The hell to what anyone else says ....your child is your one and only priority.
Talk to a lawyer asap! That is child abuse. I grew up being mentally/physically abused by my father and I hated him. I am glad that mf is dead.
Ah, yes, the horrific injustice of facing the consequences of your very own actions, eh, mr Ex Husband? Alas; the hellish sneakyness of OP, seeking out some of the few people who has any kind of backstory and context regarding the situation so as to discuss the matter with them and ventilate some frustration within the safe place of family. Oh, the blatant drama seeking of OP, causing the above mentioned people to have their very own reactions (being adult, thinking human and all) to those pesky actions that insists on remaining… yours. How Machiavellian of OP that OPs sister-in-law, completely autonomously and of her own volition, chose to share those darned, tiresome actions of yours over further a field. … No, you manbaby bag of d**kś - a dickbag devoid of testicles - and dickbagette Evil StepKaren: this one is aaall, exclusively, 100%, totally and fully on you.
I would also revisit alimony and child support. It doesn't sound like he's providing for his (other) family. I'm sure little miss wouldn't be with him if he were poor.
That gf is a B***H from hell, tf would think that's ok for to do to a child? She does not have the custody of the child, she is not the parent, so why the hell would she thinking she is entitled to be parent and have say in the child's name first of all? The ex husband sounds like a piece of trash anyway, letting his girlfriend who does not originally have anything to do with the child try to parent him. I would try to figure out how to save all of these instances of cruel parenting and present in court for seeing to have 100% the custody of the child and a restraining order against the girlfriend so she couldn't possibly do any other crazy thing!
Dearly pray that she seeks a family law lawyer n in the meantime takes her child to a counselor plus keeps a journal of all interactions with anyone concerning her son. This is straight up abuse to her son by ex and his gf. A parent is suppose to protect their child/ren not encourage the abuser to continue on. Dad needs only Supervised visitation n the gf not allowed anywhere near that child.
The Cow punished a TODDLER by denying him *any* blanket after she threw *his* special blanket in the trash and offered him one that SHE provided, that he refused? That is PHYSICAL ABUSE. That b***h is trying to steal the child from his mother! Change his name? WTF??? What other things is she doing to him while away from his home~~not feeding him when he refuses something that the COW determines should be his favorite now? Not allowing baths due to the soap? She has thrown out expensive items~~if Mom is smart (and does the documentation people have suggested, PLUS confer with a family law attorney) she will only send over clothing and toys that other family members have provided. Explain to Grandma what happened to the things that THEY gifted their grandchild with! HELL will rain down on 'Dad' and Cow!
That girlfriend is a sociopath and maybe so is the dad. He certainly is a terrible father to allow that woman to throw things away that came with his son and most outrageously pull that stunt of hers with that little boy's blanket! I wouldn't let that witch anywhere near my child and I'm not sure if I'd even let the dad see him except during supervised visitation. Mom needs to toughen up fast. If she lets her son visit at his dad's place with that woman there ever again, she's being negligent herself. A lawyer is a good idea but not everyone can afford one. I'd just stop letting my son go there and tell dad why. There's always the chance the girlfriend will be secretly relieved. She probably resents the child anyway. Dad might to not fight mom too hard about it. He can't really care about his son anyway if he defended that witch. Maybe a solution is he can see his son when he's visiting his aunt and grandparents. Let them supervise dad. And let them say the girlfriend isn't welcome.
As a step parent I find this thread deeply disturbing. This woman has no business being part of this child's life. Being a step parent is hard, but don't do it if you're not willing to put those kids first.
Not just disturbing. Enraging. I would never allow this.
Load More Replies... I'm absolutely sickened by this, both her ex and the new girlfriend are abusive. She wanted to change her son's name to something they all like? She threw out that blanket? The girlfriend and the ex are sociopaths. That household is a dangerous environment for her son and she urgently needs to speak to a lawyer who specialises in family law. The child needs supervised visits with her ex and completely excluding this evil girlfriend. I really can't get over how f**ked up they are. I'm curious to know how long the ex and his abusive girlfriend have been together. She's the epitome of a stereotypical stepmother. I'm truly appalled.
Yeah, wanting to change his name is a bizarre thing to say. She sounds a bit mental.
Load More Replies... The girlfriend is a real f*****g b***h. I can't imagine not only trying to change his name (if you like a particular name then have your own child & name them that.) But to throw out his baby blanket because his mother made it for him. Seriously that type of thing is traumatizing (to anyone) but especially a toddler. WTF. The father is no better because he allows this. The mother should seek full custody. My SO has 2 older children from a previous relationship, together we have a 4yr old. It has NEVER once crossed my mind to interfere with his children when they come to visit. They're his kids not mine.
I’m a step parent and I’m gonna be honest and say that had I known beforehand how it would be, I would have opted out BUT, I never ever make decisions unless asked by my husband or the mother! I simply just remain in the “grey zone”.
It's a lousy situation to be in. That's one of the reasons I stay single. A great guy was interested. I said I'm not gonna ruin your life. Find someone without kids and without an ex. You will have nothing to say. Dad is still the boss. Kids don't want someone with a new set of rules. You will have to obey my ex, else CPS steals my kids. Oh and btw don't earn too much. Else you can pay him too.
Load More Replies... I am angry and frightened for this little boy. Things that happen in early childhood can have a profound effect on their lives. The girlfriend sounds sadistic and narcissistic. Mom, go to court. Your child is at grave risk.
It's almost as if ex's girlfriend isn't aware that actions have consequences.
Unfortunately they often don't in family court. You would think psychological damage and well-being of the child would be a big concern, but at least here in FL, most lawyers will tell you that judges only care about dividing time equally and nailing down child support. Everything else they usually won't even listen too. It's absolutely horrid.
Load More Replies... She should sue for full custody. The father obviously cares more about his girlfriend than the happiness and welfare of his son, and appears to be very ignorant. The girlfriend must be extremely immature.
A new partner of a parent is never automatically a stepparent. Not until the child acknowledges the new partner as such. As long as there is no acknowledgement they are the BF/GF or husband/wife of the parent. I only started to call my father's second wife my stepmother when my own mother died when I was 39 yo.
right there with you. however, I'm not going to dirty my hands with that trash. It'll get handled though. What's that? Oh they found what in your gf car? Huh. Guess I better go for full custody. 🤣😆No, I'm kidding but this story did p**s me off!
Load More Replies... If by SIL means that she's his sister, she should tell that pos to get the blanket to her within 72 hours to PROVE her worth to the family or at least Double the cost of the materials so mom can create a new one. ($80 for the materials and $80 for pain and suffering) The boy is caught in a poor sitution, and needs an advacate in his corner. Sounds like the SIL may be that person. Not emotionally/mentally clouded in judgement, but close enough to see that he is getting treated well.
This girlfriend doesn't need to be around a pet, let alone a child. There is something seriously wrong with her and the dad is just putting up with it. I wonder if he will still be defending her if he loses access to his child.
I wonder if the girlfriend is jealous, wishes that the child was hers. Maybe she is infertile? That would explain why she would throw away items that the mother bought or made for the child. She sounds like she has serious mental health issues and shouldn't be around the child at all.
Our 7 y/o was 'given' to my husband and myself when he was 4. His father would get him Occasionally for a weekend. Then the father moved in with a girlfriend. The son went to spend a weekend. Father went to work at midnight, the girlfriend put the boy on the couch, in the dark, with her door closed. It took 3 years of counseling and 5 years before he could sleep in his own room. He would sleep on the couch, with me in a recliner holding my hand every night in order to sleep. We finally were able to adopt him a year ago. He never spent another night with his father. Get your son talking to a counselor and make ex pay for it.
She is just a jealous b***h because you have the child before hers(not sure if she has one but sure she wants one). For now on RECORD, record every conversation, every interaction and everything your child says about the situation. You will come to realize you have enough leverage to sue him AND HER about their parenting ways and have evidence of your child's humiliation and pain. Trust me you can get alot with evidence. Most peoples problems are no evidence. Once a judge sees how your child is truly being treated you can cut his balls off and shove them in her mouth which seems to me where they are anyway. Sorry for the language. I am a firm believer if you have cold hard evidence you can shut both of them up. The hell to what anyone else says ....your child is your one and only priority.
Talk to a lawyer asap! That is child abuse. I grew up being mentally/physically abused by my father and I hated him. I am glad that mf is dead.
Ah, yes, the horrific injustice of facing the consequences of your very own actions, eh, mr Ex Husband? Alas; the hellish sneakyness of OP, seeking out some of the few people who has any kind of backstory and context regarding the situation so as to discuss the matter with them and ventilate some frustration within the safe place of family. Oh, the blatant drama seeking of OP, causing the above mentioned people to have their very own reactions (being adult, thinking human and all) to those pesky actions that insists on remaining… yours. How Machiavellian of OP that OPs sister-in-law, completely autonomously and of her own volition, chose to share those darned, tiresome actions of yours over further a field. … No, you manbaby bag of d**kś - a dickbag devoid of testicles - and dickbagette Evil StepKaren: this one is aaall, exclusively, 100%, totally and fully on you.
I would also revisit alimony and child support. It doesn't sound like he's providing for his (other) family. I'm sure little miss wouldn't be with him if he were poor.
That gf is a B***H from hell, tf would think that's ok for to do to a child? She does not have the custody of the child, she is not the parent, so why the hell would she thinking she is entitled to be parent and have say in the child's name first of all? The ex husband sounds like a piece of trash anyway, letting his girlfriend who does not originally have anything to do with the child try to parent him. I would try to figure out how to save all of these instances of cruel parenting and present in court for seeing to have 100% the custody of the child and a restraining order against the girlfriend so she couldn't possibly do any other crazy thing!
Dearly pray that she seeks a family law lawyer n in the meantime takes her child to a counselor plus keeps a journal of all interactions with anyone concerning her son. This is straight up abuse to her son by ex and his gf. A parent is suppose to protect their child/ren not encourage the abuser to continue on. Dad needs only Supervised visitation n the gf not allowed anywhere near that child.
The Cow punished a TODDLER by denying him *any* blanket after she threw *his* special blanket in the trash and offered him one that SHE provided, that he refused? That is PHYSICAL ABUSE. That b***h is trying to steal the child from his mother! Change his name? WTF??? What other things is she doing to him while away from his home~~not feeding him when he refuses something that the COW determines should be his favorite now? Not allowing baths due to the soap? She has thrown out expensive items~~if Mom is smart (and does the documentation people have suggested, PLUS confer with a family law attorney) she will only send over clothing and toys that other family members have provided. Explain to Grandma what happened to the things that THEY gifted their grandchild with! HELL will rain down on 'Dad' and Cow!
That girlfriend is a sociopath and maybe so is the dad. He certainly is a terrible father to allow that woman to throw things away that came with his son and most outrageously pull that stunt of hers with that little boy's blanket! I wouldn't let that witch anywhere near my child and I'm not sure if I'd even let the dad see him except during supervised visitation. Mom needs to toughen up fast. If she lets her son visit at his dad's place with that woman there ever again, she's being negligent herself. A lawyer is a good idea but not everyone can afford one. I'd just stop letting my son go there and tell dad why. There's always the chance the girlfriend will be secretly relieved. She probably resents the child anyway. Dad might to not fight mom too hard about it. He can't really care about his son anyway if he defended that witch. Maybe a solution is he can see his son when he's visiting his aunt and grandparents. Let them supervise dad. And let them say the girlfriend isn't welcome.
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