Woman Puts Boyfriend’s Mates In Their Place By Revealing She Makes Twice His Salary After They Called Her A Gold Digger
When entering a relationship, there’s always a side of you that worries about the most random things:
Am I going to get along with their family? Will the dog like me? Do they have the same stance on eating breakfast foods for dinner? Whatever it is, chances are that you know what it’s like to have your honeymoon stage sabotaged by a worrisome mind.
Things pass, and you become comfortable and sure in your significant other – however, there’s a big deal breaker that most people fear, and that’s meeting each other’s friends.
It’s a known fact that your mates hold a lot of weight when it comes to who you share your precious life with, and most folks take these first-time meetings with extreme precaution. After all, who would want to make a terrible impression on those who know your partner better than their own mother?
But what should one do if the friends end up being unfriendly? Well, buckle up, because this Reddit user has a story to tell.
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Sometimes getting along with your partner’s friends is just not meant to be
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“AITA for telling my boyfriend’s friends I make twice what he does, when they called me a gold digger and he didn’t defend me?” – this netizen took to one of Reddit’s well-liked communities asking if she was wrong to stand up for herself when her partner’s friends called her out for being a gold digger. The post has managed to receive over 35K upvotes and 3.5K worth of comments discussing the blatant audacity of some.
Woman wonders if she’s a jerk for telling her boyfriend’s pals that she makes twice as much as him after they called her a gold digger
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The Reddit user began her post by sharing that she’s in a relationship with a guy who works in a similar sphere to her: he’s doing programming at a large company and makes $68K, and she’s a mechanical engineer at a robotics start-up, where she earns $130K.
When the couple arrived at the party, instead of chattering about her career, the OP decided to talk about her hobbies
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One day, the OP’s boyfriend brought her to a party where she had the opportunity to meet his friends. The guy’s pals work in tech too and mostly talked about their jobs before moving on to the author and asking her about herself.
Instead of talking about her profession, the woman decided to cover her hobbies. She told them that she’s a hiker, does archery, loves road trips, camping, and riding dirt bikes – however, this didn’t stop one of them from wondering about her career.
The OP avoided the topic and said that she didn’t want to talk about work, as she’d spent her whole day sweating her bottom off trying to replace a busted motor.
She then realized that some of the things she said might’ve made her seem poorer
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The woman then added that she wasn’t trying to downplay that she has a good job, she simply wasn’t in the mood to talk about it.
Some other conversations came up that, according to the author, made her seem poorer. She said that car dealership repairs are a rip off and also mentioned how her childhood neighbor’s trailer caught on fire and that she was planning to visit and help her out.
The OP said that she wasn’t doing it on purpose, as she was just talking about her life – yet, for some reason, folks assumed that she was not too well off.
When everyone got drunk, one of the friends made a joke about her living in a trailer and being a gold digger
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However, her partner failed to defend her, so she told his friends that she makes twice what he does
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As everyone got drunker, the boyfriend’s buddies started to loosen up and began making jokes about the OP growing up in a trailer and being a gold digger that was ready to “jump to a richer guy” – a case of some toxic misogyny, basically.
The thing is, the OP’s partner didn’t defend her. He later justified it by saying that he’d smoked too much, which made it hard for him to engage in the conversation – but the woman was hurt regardless.
The boyfriend wanted to leave shortly afterwards, as he said that her exposing him was “humiliating”
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Naturally, the incredibly out-of-place accusations had wound her up, so she asked the men why would they say such a thing when she makes twice what her boyfriend does.
As expected, everyone got really quiet, yet the woman continued and said that there was no gold to dig – not from him or anyone else at the party.
The boyfriend wanted to leave shortly after that, as he was upset that his friends now knew that he was making way less that the OP – however, the woman said that she’d have held her tongue if he’d stood up for her in the first place.
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The guy said that it was humiliating and embarrassing, whereas the woman is angry that she had to say anything at all, since it was supposed to be on him to put them in their place.
What do you think about this situation? Was the author right to defend herself?
Fellow Reddit users shared their thoughts and opinions on this unpleasant but satisfying story
When I was dating now-hubby, his dad made a comment about me being a gold-digger. Hubby started laughing, and told his dad that if I was a gold-digger, I was the worst one ever. Since I made about 3 times what he did. His line was "dad, we don't have any gold to dig. If anything, I'm the gold-digger here"
"Oh, gee, look who has no trouble carrying on a quick conversation all of a sudden! You must be some medical marvel to snap out of your 'serious high' so quickly!" Honestly, some people... 🙄
Yes, it certainly must be humiliating for this doofball to have a talented, well paid, outdoorsy girlfriend. Excuse me while I find my tiniest violin.
It's really an impressive amount of cognitive dissonance that men will degrade women as, "stupid, useless, gold diggers," and then they are embarrassed, and feel emasculated, when a women isn't. Do you want to be, "the strong man," or not?
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If he's only making $68k as a developer in this market, that's on him being too lazy to get a higher paying gig.
If he was too high to follow the conversation before and defend her when his friends were laying into her for a long time, why was he suddenly not too high to hear when she briefly said she makes more than him? Also, why is the fact that she makes more than him a problem? Closet misogynist.
I'm just wondering how anybody thinks 68k/yr is gold digging territory? What gold is being dug here? Groceries?
He didn't say anything while his friends were insulting you because he was too high but as soon as you mentioned you make twice more money than him, he immediately sobered up. What a freaking miracle.
Did he expect her to just take that kind of abuse and say nothing? Sure, I wouldn't generally bring up what I make or that I made more than my partner, but in that situation, they started the vulgar talk about money. Beyond that, they were insulting her. I suppose she could've tried keeping him out of it with something like "I do just fine as a mechanical engineer. I don't need his money." But I doubt these sexist trolls would've left it at that. Still, if that's the company he keeps, I don't think he's much of a loss.
Let’s stop automatically assuming people who live in trailers are trash. Have you seen modern double wides?! They’re nicer than my little two bedroom house.
I work in the mortgage industry and one of my clients has a 600k+ mobile home. It is beautiful and better than some 1 million+ homes in CA. They community has a ton of amenities and it looks like taking a vacation.
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Dear guys, always have your partners side. Even when its your mom who talks c*ap about them. Also : if your partner is earning more then you : dont be ashamed, that is good for both of you they get decent salary
My daughter's fiance defends her. We don't have a whole lot of money but we make it. My daughter has had a job since she was 11 dog walker groomer child care a restaurant at 16 became manager at 17. She went to college does landscaping for her school and takes care of the schools president house while they are out of town. Her fiance's family likes to control what he spends money on so they wouldn't let him get a job while in school. So my daughter would buy him groceries give him money buy clothes etc... now they are engaged and he graduated and started to work. My daughter works on line because she's pregnant and takes classes on line through her school. So when she gives birth and takes off from school she won't be behind. She is in school for law and is on the deans list. His mom keeps staten that my daughter is only using him. He said 1 it takes to to make a baby. 2 she works and when I didn't have money she was paying for everything of mines. 3 her mom buys us groceries every
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One time I went out with crowd of my (now husband) bf friends and their girlfriends. One guy had brought a new girl. They left early, and everyone started criticising her - mainly gold digger comments and being desperate. As it was in a language I was only just starting to learn, it took me a while - but then I got angry. Like all our friend had to offer was money, and this girl had seemed nice and into him so what was the problem? One girl who had been quite, started to drop hints the others had said way worse about me - my fella got mad, he felt it insulted both of us. When I told the girl who had been most critical (her bf had very rich family) she needed to stop projecting her issues - the party ended. Fast forward 15 years, me and my fella, the quite couple and the pair who left early are all still together and happily married. The rest are single/ divorced or we lost contact long ago.
I think that's a major red flag that he didn't stand up for you and he thinks you embarrassed him but doesn't think that they embarrassed you. My ex is currently divorcing me. He makes way less than I do and now I have to pay him alimony because he's useless. Dump him runaway so you don't find yourself in the same situation
I would like to see women in these kinds of stories use the exact same language back to the men. He says he was humiliated she told them she makes more? "I was humiliated you let them think I made less than all I've worked for!" He thinks she made him look uncool? "You let them make me look uncool!" She embarrassed him? "you embarrassed me by letting your friends say nasty things about your girlfriend and just taking it lying down!"
So, he was too high to defend her, but not enough to be pissy she said makes more money? Ok, bf has two options, apologise or f**k off. It's not like she needs him after all. Perhaps had he said something he wouldn't have been "humiliated" 🙄
Anyone who thinks it's an embarrassment that their partner earns more than they do, is not a keeper. Anyone who get angry about their partner standing up for themselves, is not a keeper. Anyone who doesn't stand up for their partner with their friends is not a keeper. Also, doing weed? IMO not a keeper. This bloke, definitely not a keeper.
We meet our significant others' friends and family members to find out who they really are. OP, you found out. GTFO! You deserve waaaaay better. NTA
My daughter works at Google and makes 4 times what her teacher husband makes and he is more than happy to tell everyone he knows. He is proud of her and he is an awesome husband and father and she is equally proud of him. When my wife met and married me I was living in my brothers basement trying to start my own business and I was poor. She was a new teacher and equally poor. Who makes more is completely irrelevant.
My brother in law once told my husband to stop me from spending his money. I quickly came back with the fact that I earn more than him. Prick. My husband's friends blamed me for him stopping drinking!!!
Before I lost my late husband I was in school to be an architect and pregnant. Architect is a demanding field this was 20 years ago. I got a job offer 50k plus full benefits a company house.i knew it was going to take up a lot of my time. It was in a different state than I was from and I had no family. My husband said he would stay home with our baby so I can focus and the world was not raising her. I am like yeah right you are a man you will be hurt your woman making money and you are not. He said no he wouldn't as long as I am not using it to make him feel like c**p but he knows that is not how I am. I was like for real he said yes. Cool he was so happy talking about why does it always got to be a woman being a stay at home parent. He wanted to be on the PTO board and be the soccer dad. That he was taking cooking lessons so he can care for his daughter and wife. He brag to everyone that he couldn't wait. We lost him before I had the baby so I changed my career.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you lost a treasure. 😥
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All the (toxically awful) gold digger comments aside, I wonder if anyone would have thought he was an arsehole if he made more money and announced that to all of his friends. It seems to be acceptable when men make the better money . . .
If he made more then the douchebag friends would have felt they were right.
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So he was too high to defend the OP yet he got angry when she defended herself...how convenient.
NTA but she could have said something along the lines of "I make good money, I don't have to depend on others" instead of saying "there's no gold to dig here" because that sounded a little humiliating tbh
Perhaps, but she had taken a lot of c**p by then, and her useless boyfriend didn't stick up for her!
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this ones for you: https://open.spotify.com/track/4lPH8G0LiCTHVPgvakBw1N?si=ff77e51c669748cc go girl!!!
LOL!! Weed, alcohol, plus what else? Ain't nobody gonna be thinking straight while under the influence! I don't drink or do drugs so it can be pretty interesting to watch tongues loosen and good judgement fly out the window even after 1 beer or glass of wine.
I don't think you should be mad at him for not saying anything. Cannabis does do that, but even if it didn't, he could have just been distracted, not realizing it was a big deal, etc. That said, he has NO right to be mad at you for saying what you earn. He should not be embarrassed that you make more than he does and he needs to get over that right quick.
Not true! My partner has smoked weed for 40+ years and he would NEVER have let his friends talk s**t to me!
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NTA~~Loser (and hopefully now EX BF) IS a major A*****E. Dump that creep and let him b***h to his friends that he no longer has a 'sugartit' to suck on. There are more than enough *good* men out there who are secure in their masculinity to be proud of not only you but their own capabilities.
He is a b***h!!!! My man would have broken his best friends jaw if they said something like that to me! He values their ignorant opinions and their long term circle jerks over you obviously. You might as well realize now that if he doesn't have your back now when everything is newer and exciting and fun he never will have your back in hard times. He's to weak and yes a to much a little b***h to be your man. Find a man who carries his balls in his own pants!
How high was he? It doesn't require quick thinking to tell someone they're crossing a line and to back off.
Sounds like op boyfriend wanted friends to think that.... Relationship adjustment may be needed on this one.
The problem with AITA is that it's giving validation to the situation. Yes she's right. Yes he should've spoken up. But this thread is like talking to your parents about your spouse's shortcomings. When you should be using it as a learning opportunity for both of you. He will learn to stick up for you in the future and that it really hurt you when he didn't. Maybe she learned that he's self conscious about money and feels inferior(even though he shouldn't). Who knows but then you can move on in your relationship and be better people for it. There will be times in a relationship when you're right and times when they'll be right. How you settle problems is the important part.
I married into a well-off family and my husband was a computer tech, making 6 figures. I made minimum wage. He lost his computer job, wouldn't upgrade his skills in tech and got a job as a teacher which drove him mad. He retired early, his investments are going way down and he's still stubbornly spending the same amounts of money he used to. When his pension is gone, maybe he'll wake up. No gold to dig...
Can't help but think that the alleged BF felt "emasculated" by OP earning 2x what he does. So much so that he couldn't tell her himself, he decided to take her to meet his friends and let the "friends" do it for him. Then he says he "couldn't" defend OP because "he gets quiet when he's high," yet he was more than capable of getting angry with her when she defended herself?! Eff that immature jerk. OP can (and should) do way better than him or his friends.
NTA girl you killed it!!!! You will forever be my hero . F**k them losers and please find a new bf that has your back .
The most pathetic and sorry-a$$ men out there are the men who don't defend their woman's dignity. Looking at this case, I'm afraid this girl picked a really insecure scum bag of a boyfriend and I feel sorry for her. Her reaction was spot on tho, brilliant!
The dude hasnt got your back. Is that something you want to deal with in the future? Think about it.
Oh please. Your Bf is now embarrassed.. but didnt say a word about you as they crack their lame af jokes. P_$$ies if you ask me...self absorbed idiots. This whole story shows lack of respect from all angles in my opinion. NTA
Mechanical engineering life! As an ME student I can confirm that code monkeys are the worst (I had one tell me to my face that homosexuality is unholy and shouldn't exist)
N T A. Girl. YOUR man got EMBARRASSED and HUMILIATED after he LET his friends RUN you DOWN. Didn't DEFEND you. All because he was too STONED?? HORSE S**T. He was LOVING it until YOU yaked the rug out from underneath his Sorry a*s. LOOSE HIM RIGHT B@#%H. .
This is one sign I wish I would have taken into consideration when I started dating years ago. The world we live in, we don't need men to support us or give us things. So if a man thinks that's his job... dump him.
I think she did the right thing. Boyfriend had chance to respond and didn't. Being high is just an excuse, he did that to himself. And since his friends were disrespectful, why would she be respectful back. Either boyfriend needs better friends or she needs better boyfriend, if you ask me.
First of all I wouldn't waste time with a junkie. Second what kind of a lame excuse he used "Sorry honey, I was so fu***ng high I couldn't manage conversation"?!? No, thank you, goodbye. 😒
I kinda feel like it was a bit of a set up and I do understand why her BF was embarrassed. It seems like she set up where this situation was heading. She should be very proud of her accomplishments but there was no need for this situation to turn like it did.
A set up? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 You're such an ah. Seriously? How the actual is it a set up when those boys shouldn't have been saying that to her no matter what?
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When I was dating now-hubby, his dad made a comment about me being a gold-digger. Hubby started laughing, and told his dad that if I was a gold-digger, I was the worst one ever. Since I made about 3 times what he did. His line was "dad, we don't have any gold to dig. If anything, I'm the gold-digger here"
"Oh, gee, look who has no trouble carrying on a quick conversation all of a sudden! You must be some medical marvel to snap out of your 'serious high' so quickly!" Honestly, some people... 🙄
Yes, it certainly must be humiliating for this doofball to have a talented, well paid, outdoorsy girlfriend. Excuse me while I find my tiniest violin.
It's really an impressive amount of cognitive dissonance that men will degrade women as, "stupid, useless, gold diggers," and then they are embarrassed, and feel emasculated, when a women isn't. Do you want to be, "the strong man," or not?
Load More Replies... If he's only making $68k as a developer in this market, that's on him being too lazy to get a higher paying gig.
If he was too high to follow the conversation before and defend her when his friends were laying into her for a long time, why was he suddenly not too high to hear when she briefly said she makes more than him? Also, why is the fact that she makes more than him a problem? Closet misogynist.
I'm just wondering how anybody thinks 68k/yr is gold digging territory? What gold is being dug here? Groceries?
He didn't say anything while his friends were insulting you because he was too high but as soon as you mentioned you make twice more money than him, he immediately sobered up. What a freaking miracle.
Did he expect her to just take that kind of abuse and say nothing? Sure, I wouldn't generally bring up what I make or that I made more than my partner, but in that situation, they started the vulgar talk about money. Beyond that, they were insulting her. I suppose she could've tried keeping him out of it with something like "I do just fine as a mechanical engineer. I don't need his money." But I doubt these sexist trolls would've left it at that. Still, if that's the company he keeps, I don't think he's much of a loss.
Let’s stop automatically assuming people who live in trailers are trash. Have you seen modern double wides?! They’re nicer than my little two bedroom house.
I work in the mortgage industry and one of my clients has a 600k+ mobile home. It is beautiful and better than some 1 million+ homes in CA. They community has a ton of amenities and it looks like taking a vacation.
Load More Replies... Dear guys, always have your partners side. Even when its your mom who talks c*ap about them. Also : if your partner is earning more then you : dont be ashamed, that is good for both of you they get decent salary
My daughter's fiance defends her. We don't have a whole lot of money but we make it. My daughter has had a job since she was 11 dog walker groomer child care a restaurant at 16 became manager at 17. She went to college does landscaping for her school and takes care of the schools president house while they are out of town. Her fiance's family likes to control what he spends money on so they wouldn't let him get a job while in school. So my daughter would buy him groceries give him money buy clothes etc... now they are engaged and he graduated and started to work. My daughter works on line because she's pregnant and takes classes on line through her school. So when she gives birth and takes off from school she won't be behind. She is in school for law and is on the deans list. His mom keeps staten that my daughter is only using him. He said 1 it takes to to make a baby. 2 she works and when I didn't have money she was paying for everything of mines. 3 her mom buys us groceries every
Load More Replies... One time I went out with crowd of my (now husband) bf friends and their girlfriends. One guy had brought a new girl. They left early, and everyone started criticising her - mainly gold digger comments and being desperate. As it was in a language I was only just starting to learn, it took me a while - but then I got angry. Like all our friend had to offer was money, and this girl had seemed nice and into him so what was the problem? One girl who had been quite, started to drop hints the others had said way worse about me - my fella got mad, he felt it insulted both of us. When I told the girl who had been most critical (her bf had very rich family) she needed to stop projecting her issues - the party ended. Fast forward 15 years, me and my fella, the quite couple and the pair who left early are all still together and happily married. The rest are single/ divorced or we lost contact long ago.
I think that's a major red flag that he didn't stand up for you and he thinks you embarrassed him but doesn't think that they embarrassed you. My ex is currently divorcing me. He makes way less than I do and now I have to pay him alimony because he's useless. Dump him runaway so you don't find yourself in the same situation
I would like to see women in these kinds of stories use the exact same language back to the men. He says he was humiliated she told them she makes more? "I was humiliated you let them think I made less than all I've worked for!" He thinks she made him look uncool? "You let them make me look uncool!" She embarrassed him? "you embarrassed me by letting your friends say nasty things about your girlfriend and just taking it lying down!"
So, he was too high to defend her, but not enough to be pissy she said makes more money? Ok, bf has two options, apologise or f**k off. It's not like she needs him after all. Perhaps had he said something he wouldn't have been "humiliated" 🙄
Anyone who thinks it's an embarrassment that their partner earns more than they do, is not a keeper. Anyone who get angry about their partner standing up for themselves, is not a keeper. Anyone who doesn't stand up for their partner with their friends is not a keeper. Also, doing weed? IMO not a keeper. This bloke, definitely not a keeper.
We meet our significant others' friends and family members to find out who they really are. OP, you found out. GTFO! You deserve waaaaay better. NTA
My daughter works at Google and makes 4 times what her teacher husband makes and he is more than happy to tell everyone he knows. He is proud of her and he is an awesome husband and father and she is equally proud of him. When my wife met and married me I was living in my brothers basement trying to start my own business and I was poor. She was a new teacher and equally poor. Who makes more is completely irrelevant.
My brother in law once told my husband to stop me from spending his money. I quickly came back with the fact that I earn more than him. Prick. My husband's friends blamed me for him stopping drinking!!!
Before I lost my late husband I was in school to be an architect and pregnant. Architect is a demanding field this was 20 years ago. I got a job offer 50k plus full benefits a company house.i knew it was going to take up a lot of my time. It was in a different state than I was from and I had no family. My husband said he would stay home with our baby so I can focus and the world was not raising her. I am like yeah right you are a man you will be hurt your woman making money and you are not. He said no he wouldn't as long as I am not using it to make him feel like c**p but he knows that is not how I am. I was like for real he said yes. Cool he was so happy talking about why does it always got to be a woman being a stay at home parent. He wanted to be on the PTO board and be the soccer dad. That he was taking cooking lessons so he can care for his daughter and wife. He brag to everyone that he couldn't wait. We lost him before I had the baby so I changed my career.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you lost a treasure. 😥
Load More Replies... All the (toxically awful) gold digger comments aside, I wonder if anyone would have thought he was an arsehole if he made more money and announced that to all of his friends. It seems to be acceptable when men make the better money . . .
If he made more then the douchebag friends would have felt they were right.
Load More Replies... So he was too high to defend the OP yet he got angry when she defended herself...how convenient.
NTA but she could have said something along the lines of "I make good money, I don't have to depend on others" instead of saying "there's no gold to dig here" because that sounded a little humiliating tbh
Perhaps, but she had taken a lot of c**p by then, and her useless boyfriend didn't stick up for her!
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LOL!! Weed, alcohol, plus what else? Ain't nobody gonna be thinking straight while under the influence! I don't drink or do drugs so it can be pretty interesting to watch tongues loosen and good judgement fly out the window even after 1 beer or glass of wine.
I don't think you should be mad at him for not saying anything. Cannabis does do that, but even if it didn't, he could have just been distracted, not realizing it was a big deal, etc. That said, he has NO right to be mad at you for saying what you earn. He should not be embarrassed that you make more than he does and he needs to get over that right quick.
Not true! My partner has smoked weed for 40+ years and he would NEVER have let his friends talk s**t to me!
Load More Replies... NTA~~Loser (and hopefully now EX BF) IS a major A*****E. Dump that creep and let him b***h to his friends that he no longer has a 'sugartit' to suck on. There are more than enough *good* men out there who are secure in their masculinity to be proud of not only you but their own capabilities.
He is a b***h!!!! My man would have broken his best friends jaw if they said something like that to me! He values their ignorant opinions and their long term circle jerks over you obviously. You might as well realize now that if he doesn't have your back now when everything is newer and exciting and fun he never will have your back in hard times. He's to weak and yes a to much a little b***h to be your man. Find a man who carries his balls in his own pants!
How high was he? It doesn't require quick thinking to tell someone they're crossing a line and to back off.
Sounds like op boyfriend wanted friends to think that.... Relationship adjustment may be needed on this one.
The problem with AITA is that it's giving validation to the situation. Yes she's right. Yes he should've spoken up. But this thread is like talking to your parents about your spouse's shortcomings. When you should be using it as a learning opportunity for both of you. He will learn to stick up for you in the future and that it really hurt you when he didn't. Maybe she learned that he's self conscious about money and feels inferior(even though he shouldn't). Who knows but then you can move on in your relationship and be better people for it. There will be times in a relationship when you're right and times when they'll be right. How you settle problems is the important part.
I married into a well-off family and my husband was a computer tech, making 6 figures. I made minimum wage. He lost his computer job, wouldn't upgrade his skills in tech and got a job as a teacher which drove him mad. He retired early, his investments are going way down and he's still stubbornly spending the same amounts of money he used to. When his pension is gone, maybe he'll wake up. No gold to dig...
Can't help but think that the alleged BF felt "emasculated" by OP earning 2x what he does. So much so that he couldn't tell her himself, he decided to take her to meet his friends and let the "friends" do it for him. Then he says he "couldn't" defend OP because "he gets quiet when he's high," yet he was more than capable of getting angry with her when she defended herself?! Eff that immature jerk. OP can (and should) do way better than him or his friends.
NTA girl you killed it!!!! You will forever be my hero . F**k them losers and please find a new bf that has your back .
The most pathetic and sorry-a$$ men out there are the men who don't defend their woman's dignity. Looking at this case, I'm afraid this girl picked a really insecure scum bag of a boyfriend and I feel sorry for her. Her reaction was spot on tho, brilliant!
The dude hasnt got your back. Is that something you want to deal with in the future? Think about it.
Oh please. Your Bf is now embarrassed.. but didnt say a word about you as they crack their lame af jokes. P_$$ies if you ask me...self absorbed idiots. This whole story shows lack of respect from all angles in my opinion. NTA
Mechanical engineering life! As an ME student I can confirm that code monkeys are the worst (I had one tell me to my face that homosexuality is unholy and shouldn't exist)
N T A. Girl. YOUR man got EMBARRASSED and HUMILIATED after he LET his friends RUN you DOWN. Didn't DEFEND you. All because he was too STONED?? HORSE S**T. He was LOVING it until YOU yaked the rug out from underneath his Sorry a*s. LOOSE HIM RIGHT B@#%H. .
This is one sign I wish I would have taken into consideration when I started dating years ago. The world we live in, we don't need men to support us or give us things. So if a man thinks that's his job... dump him.
I think she did the right thing. Boyfriend had chance to respond and didn't. Being high is just an excuse, he did that to himself. And since his friends were disrespectful, why would she be respectful back. Either boyfriend needs better friends or she needs better boyfriend, if you ask me.
First of all I wouldn't waste time with a junkie. Second what kind of a lame excuse he used "Sorry honey, I was so fu***ng high I couldn't manage conversation"?!? No, thank you, goodbye. 😒
I kinda feel like it was a bit of a set up and I do understand why her BF was embarrassed. It seems like she set up where this situation was heading. She should be very proud of her accomplishments but there was no need for this situation to turn like it did.
A set up? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 You're such an ah. Seriously? How the actual is it a set up when those boys shouldn't have been saying that to her no matter what?
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