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Each person is a whole world inside, and it is usually far from clear what is happening in this world. Even for the closest friends, even for loved ones and spouses. It happens that people live together literally for an eternity, not even suspecting what is going on in the head of the person who is always next to them.

Yes, each of us has our own "skeletons in the closet". It can be both small harmless pranks like the next episode of your favorite show, watched alone, as well as the realization that you have not loved the person with whom you have been together for a long time. And sometimes it's so hard to admit it, even to yourself.

There is a thread in the AskWomen Reddit community that started with the question: "What do you want to tell your spouse, but it would ruin everything?" As of today, it has already collected 1.4K upvotes and almost 800 comments. Not as much as some other threads - but it's really not that easy to say something that can actually ruin everything!

Bored Panda collected a list of the most popular and thought-provoking comments on this post for you, so feel free to scroll to the very end and, of course, write something of your own. You don't have to confess anything, just tell us what you think about it.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships I want a separate bedroom. One that is super feminine and just my own space. I will still sleep with him in his room whenever he wanted but I know he would always want to plus he would be super hurt. I’m sick of sharing half the drawers and closet. I’m sick of his socks on the floor. He works nights anyways so we only sleep together on the weekend anyways unless he is on holidays. Plus he comes home in the morning, crawls into bed and it wakes me up. Once I’m up I can’t go back to sleep. Plus I can never have a nicely made bed. I don’t make it because when I wake up he’s going to sleep for the day. When he wakes up he won’t make it because I’m going to go to bed in a few hours anyways and it’s such a hassle for him. I miss crawling into a freshly made bed.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships I’m not going to the dentist today, I lied about having an appointment. Instead I’m going to the airport and picking up his best friend that he hasn’t seen in a year and a half. We’ve planned this since January and I’m so excited.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships that I will never forgive him for cheating on me no matter how hard I try. I think of leaving him everyday. Even though I love him, i absolutely resent him for putting me in such a f****d up situation. He’s sucked out my self-esteem. I hate when he’s selfish even for the tiniest things. He’ll never be able to emotionally satisfy me ever again and he may as well just move on because I want to so bad. Even though I’m scared and it’s going to be hard. I feel like I’ll never get closure or healing if I stay. I’m scared to break up my kids home. What if I f**k them up by leaving? I don’t want to be selfish. But, I’m honestly so miserable because I’ll never love or trust him the same and I’ll never forgive him. I’m extremely torn.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

then leave.trust me that your kids will be at a better situation if you leave so that you can have a better mental health

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Bubbles and sparks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a woman who got cheated on, I know what you mean... but love isn't always enough to be able to trust again... An unhappy parent is always worse then a divorced parent, because no matter how hard you try, you will always radiate your emortions and kids pick up on that.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every word of that is true Bubbles. Infidelity is like a death in the immediate family. OP needs to be able to talk about her feelings of loss. Saying things out loud makes you think things through. She has a lot of decisions to make.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids get more messed up by being in a fraught home than they do dealing w/ divorce. They're always walking on eggshells, never knowing if something will happen.

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Ines Olabarria-Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Take one step, something that makes you fell happy. One at a time. Try to not fell bad about it. Take care of yourself. If you fell ok everything will be clearer.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your kids need an emotionally healthy mother more than anything else. Cheating is such an incursion, such an unfair violation of finances, emotions, your space... That it's best to leave (plan well) when it's tearing you apart. Make it a deal breaker in your next relationship from the beginning. As a child I saw father do so much cheating ; I made it clear in my happiest relationship that it is a no-no; and I absolutely require loyalty and fidelity and all the tools needed ( no objections to what I ask, or do to be secure) to be in a relationship. The person in love with you who has no intention of cheating will have no problems with what you want. We're happy and trust each other. But we always reserve the right to check in on or discuss anything which makes us uncomfortable.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The poster needs to understand that by staying with this PoS, she's actually hurting her children, and perpetuating the myth.

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Key Lime
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So you are teaching your kids that it's okay to be treated bad?

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Amy S
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb's book, "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone:" 'Forced forgiveness: sometimes people feel that in order to get past a trauma they need to forgive whoever caused the damage. But too often, people feel pressured to forgive and then end up believing that something is wrong with them if they can't quite get there - that they aren't enlightened enough, or strong enough, or compassionate enough. (However) you can have compassion without forgiving. There are many ways to move on, and pretending to feel a certain way isn't one of them.'

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Oliver Nelson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who's mom is only staying because of the kids, leave. The kids can tell something is wrong and it will mess with them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My marriage fell apart, not because he cheated on me, but because he didn't love me anymore; instead of telling me this so that we could split up amicably, he put me through 5 years of emotional wasteland while I desperately try to salvage a marriage that wasn't worth saving. If I'd had any self-esteem in the first place, I would have walked the first time he allowed his mother to be abusive towards me.

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Rens
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes you have to make a horrible choice to save your own mental health.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leave. It's not easy. But, trust me... after 13 years married to an abusive, lying cheater It got so bad I'd go to bed at night and pray to just not wake up in the morning. A catholic priest told me to leave, so I did. It was hard at first.. but I focused on myself and finding what made me happy and it was amazing!!!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Leave. You owe it to yourself and your children to be happy. Think of it like this.. imagine one of your kids in the same situation as you're in now (when they are older).. would you tell them to suck it up and stay or would you tell them to leave and be happy? You get one life and you deserve to be happy

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Levi Owens
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know from experience how hard your situation is. Trust me (said the random internet stranger), it'll be a hard road for a bit, but you'll be happier in the long run if you just pull the rip cord now.

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El Dee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is where you need to break up for the sake of the kids. They sense your feelings and things are only going to get worse. Some people CAN work it out but it doesn't mean you should feel bad if you can't..

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's up to you, what are you doing with your only life. I'd never stay by anyone not even a day, whom I don't trust. But that's just me ....

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Yea, when you are alone an can't find a suckered to be faithful, reality will hit you in the face

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't stay for the kids. Trust me they will be much happier. Even though you may not think they know how you feel they can feel it. That's a huge burden for them.

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Antonia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It will take some courage but please leave... You will be a better person for it and that will benefit your children too...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know that feeling. It’s gonna be hard but you can do it…I did and my kids aren’t messed up because of it

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Caroline Starr
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel your pain. It's been over 20 years and I'm still resentful.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't have to forgive him but it's doing yourself a disservice to continue to be with him when you clearly don't want to be. If you feel like you still love him then you should still leave because this is clearly eating you up inside and it isn't being honest with him... NOT THAT HE DESERVES YOUR HONESTY RIGHT NOW but... it's like lying to him AND to yourself by staying with him. I'm just sayin...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone from a broken home, I can attest to the fact that I was much happier when my mother left my father. She was no longer miserable and she actually smiled and laughed more often. While it's sad to have parents that no longer mutually love each other, it's beautiful how a person can become better and happier when they remove themselves from such a miserable, abusive and toxic situation. On the other plus side... Two sets of Christmas!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I stayed with my now ex-husband for another 4 years after I discovered his affair trying to forgive and move on. He never stopped and it did so much psychological damage to me that I started single for almost 10 years after finally leaving him. When I did get into a relationship, I discovered I still had trust issues to work through. Ex has cheated on all of the women he been in relationships with since. I know some can work through it but for most, it's truly not worth it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kids already know there's tension in the air.. The more you fake it the more they see it.. Even if they don't know what it is..

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just remember, you don't always have to be selfless--sometimes you have to do things for yourself and your own emotional health and stability

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please leave, break up. I've had a bf who also cheated on me once. I never trusted him afterwards, how hard I tried it didn't work. Every time he was home late I thought he was cheating again. This is not your fault, this is his fault and you should not be the one who is feeling bad. Believe me, without him your life will be better.... Eventually

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you left would you ever want him back? If not...maybe time come up with an exit strategy for your own health. You dont have to act on it right away but it might get the ball rolling so your mind and heart can do what's best for you (and your kids). Sending wishes for your happiness, no matter which way you decide.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Adults f-up children by projecting own feelings on them, and showing what to feel and when. Kids don't know divorce is 'bad' unless someone tells them so. When I was a kid I was begging my mom to divorce seeing how things were fdup in their marriage. She didn't, I'm repeating what she modeled to me for so many years

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can’t be your best self, the best mother to your kids, if you are so miserable. At some point the stress may affect your physical health, trust me on that one, and you do not want to go there. Be honest with him and take it from there. It’s your marriage, too, not just his. I broke up my family due to my health, and we are all much happier.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's noting wrong with being selfish when it's a matter of your mental health

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that’s fine. This nonsense about how you need to let it go to move on is rubbish.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your kids know you're unhappy, so do it for their sakes if not your own. You deserve better!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't f**k your kids up by leaving, your husband f****d them up by cheating on you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Make HIM leave! Get child support and alimony. Keep the house for the kids. You will find the new, much better, decent and loving partner that you deserve … trust me!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stay, and you'll teach your kids that that behavior is acceptable. Respect yourself, leave. Once a cheater...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a very tough situation, exacerbated by the fact that you have children to think about and care for. Individual counselling and couples therapy is what I would recommend in order for you both to understand each other and make a decision that is best for you all including your children. Your happiness matters, and whether you know it or not it matters to your children too no matter how young they are. Separation may be required and some serious time apart in order to re-evaluate your life and goals together, but before you make any permanent decisions talk to a counsellor, ask your husband if he will go to one himself for the sake of your relationship (in most cases affairs aren't the root of the problem, just the externalisation of an issue), and go to couples therapy to assist you in communicating with each other and ensuring you have a relationship after this, at least for your children's sake as you can't co-parent without cooperation.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know where you are, but I went to Relate in the UK, the relationship guidance organisation. My now ex wouldn't go. They didn't tell me to leave, all they did was have a conversation about how I actually wanted to progress . Questions asked in such a way that it made you think clearly about your situation. It helped me immensely .

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You think a man exists on earth who wouldn't want to cheat on you? Sorry but no such man has ever existed. I've been happily married for 13 years and love my wife more than absolutely anything in the world. She's given me 5 beautiful kids and saved my life and I'm eternally indebted to her. I love her more than 99% women will ever be loved. I'd die for her in a heartbeat and I'd do it with a smile. And yes I crush on, have sex with, and rarely even fall in love with other women. All with her blessing. I wouldn't lie to her because I don't need to. She understands me and the nature of being male better than you ever have and probably ever will. If you had given him your blessing then it wouldn't have been behind your back and trust wouldn't be an issue. But the desire is 100% unavoidable. "So what?" You might say. "The desire might be there but for the sake of love and for the sake of our relationship and our kids he should have suppressed that desire." Well the same goes for you now

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90 % of men cheat! It's the way of nature. Just liok around you in the animal kingdom. Just get uver it.

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Why is it so hard to forgive something so whimsical than sex with a stranger. Yeah, falling in love with someone else that can kill a marriage but simple sex? Why the fuss?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cheating on a spouse isn't "whimsical". It's a deep betrayal of trust, and an incredibly selfish act.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships I don’t want to have a child with him because I feel like I will really be stuck in the marriage. It’s been so rocky for the last two years and his temper is scary. I would just rather not.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Children is definitely not a good option going from your "temper is scary". Maybe therapy or hightail it out of there if you don't feel safe?

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships Sometimes I want to live separately, right next to each other, but stay married, a la Frida Khalo and Diego Rivera. He has some hoarding tendencies and it really drives me crazy. Makes me want to cry. Yes we’ve talked about, no he doesn’t think it’s a problem. He’s very traditional about marriage and he’d never go for this idea. To him this would equate to asking for a divorce.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships Literally that he is an awful, horrible man who goes out of his way to ruin anything that is important to me. He is selfish and nasty and I would have split up with him when he ruined Christmas (again) last year. However he was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and I have decided that I will look after him until he dies as he will be alone otherwise. I don’t want his behaviour to dictate mine so I have chosen to care for him because my nature is caring and nurturing. This doesn’t mean I passively accept his behaviour or let him walk all over me but if I told him what I really think he would spend his time left trying to ruin my life. It’s so desperately sad as I really loved him and he has ensured that I will never feel like that towards him again.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a better person then I ever would be... Ne doesn't deserve you, but you already know that... I wish you strenght and send a hug...

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships That I'd just love to live on my own

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Totally distracted by The Dragonbone Chair love that series 💗

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships How much of a catch he really is. I do tell him but he doesn’t believe me.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships Sometimes I don't want to hear about how s***ty your friends are! Make better friends! Sorry!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that when you go from teens to 20s to 30s most of your friends change, only a few remain. I think that's growth. What was good and fun back then, isn't exactly the same years later. Graduate and find people who are willing to do so too.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships That I would give almost anything to live as a woman, while we continue our life together. Unfortunately, I think it would cost our marriage, and that’s the one thing I won’t give up.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sending hugs and love. Know a friend she talked about it with her wife when she was 50. After the initial shock, they are still together after her transition.

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I can’t stand how he doesn’t take care of health. His parents were/are not the healthiest. Dad is diabetic, obese, sedentary, weak gait and mom passed away from cancer. A lot of his family hate drinking water, don’t exercise, don’t like vegetables, and love red meat. My husband has all kinds of allergies and constantly has stomach issues yet doesn’t do much to improve his health. We have a newborn and he still won’t shift his eating habits. I don’t get how he doesn’t see how he needs to step it up.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he may need to see a therapist, which might be tricky considering he doesn't pay any mind to his health. Sometimes you need someone externally to help and show you it from the outside. Maybe it'll work.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships That I think about leaving him everyday. If I could hire someone to find me a new place to live , pack up everything and move it while I was at work… I would be gone in a heartbeat

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is definitely something to talk about. Is it abusive or is there a root cause? No more love or affection? Maybe you can determine what it is and mutually separate.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships I love him. I love the little family we built and are building. But I wasn’t ready for any of it. I wish I could go back and just wait a few more years for this aspect of my life to start. I feel like I’m drowning in a stage of my life I didn’t want yet.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh please sweety, go seek help... you might be in a post partum depression without even knowing it... And if the relationship with your significant other is strong enough, talk about it... only when you speak up you can share some of the burden, it doesnt mean the love is gone, in situations like this things can sometimes get to much to just suck it up by yourself... Even if your SO and you have jobs, make sure you both get the time and space to just relax without having to take care of another human being... Taking good care for another person starts with taking good care for yourself equally as much.... Hugs... just because you sound you can use one or maybe even two or more...

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships I watched all of stranger things season 4 without him while he was at work

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh no you didn't lol just pretend to be surprised when you rewatch it.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships That I absolutely hate some members of his family, and i wish he would cut them out

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, been there, done that.... Now, we moved to Spain and there is no family to meet anymore ;) That being said, just talk to your SO about this and tell him that you feel uncomfortable around some family members and it's okay if he wants to visit them, but you'll stay at home. The same goes for him... You chose your partner, not all the family and friends that come with it ;)

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships It wouldn’t ruin everything, but I am scared to tell him I ran up my credit cards that I paid off…AGAIN. He would be mad for about a day then he’d tell me we’ll figure it out but yeah.

Edit to add for the rude tonsil stone who commented: they’re 5k combined, I paid them off myself after our wedding and he was so proud of me, and then I went crazy and ran them up again. Goal is to pay them off again by myself but don’t want to tell him because again, of how proud he was.

Being nice is completely free—you don’t need to charge it to do that!

My parents never taught us how to save or not overspend, bad examples growing up, so I’ve had to do it myself. Trial and error, mistakes are made and then fixed. I have: a full time job, paid bills, a good credit score, a paid off car within 3.5 years od purchase, so I think I’m doing ok. 😘

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my god, calling someone a tonsil stone is going to be one of my new go-to insults. xD , anyway. You could look into a bank that lets you set a limit on cards etc. Maybe set a lower limit so you're not overspending. But if you're able to pay your bills and for a decent quality of life, well.. you're allowed to treat yourself, but always remember to save some for the future. No one knows what can happen down the line.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships I’m better at league of legends than him.

We’ve almost broken up over duo ranked games, he makes terrible dives & gets angry when no one follows him in. I’ve got a lower win ratio with him than I do playing by myself or with my friends.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's just got to accept you can't be good at everything, sometimes the things you like. I like playing FIFA but it took me years to be able to play with a controller and not a keyboard and I'm sure I'll lose 20-0 if I play someone really good lol but I can't get angry, that's just how it is. He should however be very happy that he has a significant other that also likes league of legends, that's awesome that you can both share that. Start being a fan of your SO dude, she's really good at LoL, be her #1 fan.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships That I hate all the thirsty women you follow on IG and the likes you give them.

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DennyS (denzoren)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Social media isn't always a good thing. Maybe have a talk about it and if it's really necessary? Maybe it'll work.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships I imagine what life would be like if we broke up, and sometimes it feels like it would be a relief. I love him so much, and I don’t want to lose him. I know I’m just fantasising, bc there’s a lot I haven’t done or tried and some of that stuff I can’t do with him. But none of it is worth losing him.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is this a dependent relationship? Check out Michael Newton Institute if you can afford it. I always advise that you talk to someone trustworthy and not involved.

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He’s Italian but I make better meatballs than him

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don’t ever confess to this or prove it. Either the strain to his national ego will be just too much &/or you are now the official maker of meatballs for eternity. Wish I’d never let ex know how much better I was at BBQ… It was the only meal sufficiently manly for him to cook! 🥺

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My ex gave me PTSD and it creeps up in our relationship . I’m scared you’re going to cheat on me even though logically I can see you’re faithful.

But I thought he was too. I thought he was perfect but I was overlooking a lot of things and making excuses for him and falling for his b******t logic and excuses when he f****d up. He may not have been physically abusive but he was emotionally and mentally abusive and when he and I broke up I had literal physical reactions to it. My therapist said I went through emotional and physical trauma because of him.

I’m working on it honey, I really am. But I get scared that the bottom is going to drop out. You’re in medical school surrounded by these beautiful women for a majority of your day. You’re an endangered species in your cohort. 5 guys out of 81. Again, I have no logical reason to believe you’d cheat or leave me for them, but I’m scared of it happening because I didn’t see it coming with him either. And youve led this incredible life. I mean your ex is a neurologist from the UK and looks like Taylor Swift. How the f**k do I compare to that?! Why on earth would you choose a farm girl from BFE Oklahoma?..

I can’t lose you. I waited so long to find someone as perfect as you. Someone that fits my heart so flawlessly. I don’t feel I deserve you. I’m glad you love me and love me wholly and truly… but my anxiety is always telling me “but for how long?”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sweety, if your SO wanted someone else, then he would have... And yes, he might have been in a relationship with a "Taylor Swift neurologist" but guess what, he broke up with her for a reason and he chose you, also for a reason. With you there is no rivalry, there is no "I've been the biggest of heroes today" , no endless shoptalk... With you he finds exactly what he wants and needs, love, a warm heart, an ear to listen, eyes he can look into and see love in them, the love of his life... No one can guarantee love forever, but really, it is better to love and trust then to be scared and insecure over nothing at all. Your SO knows your past, he knows not to hurt you.... I've once been in your shoes and was lucky enough to meet my SO at the age of 51, he knows all there is to know about me and still he stayed and wouldn't want it any other way. Try to love yourself as he loves you and you will be able to let go of your insecurities.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships Sometimes I have regretted getting with him so early (we were 17, now we’re 20) because when we found each other I was just beginning to discover/learning to navigate my sexual and romantic life after spending most of my teenage years tucked away in this idea of “the perfect person will just come for you one day.”

I like women significantly more than men, but I fell in love with him just when I was starting to let go. I got very few experiences with girls (which none ended well and were very brief). I don’t see myself breaking up with him any time soon, we love each other so much and our relationship is freaking great, but I mourn the experiences I wished to have that I never had. I wish I had seriously dated a girl even once, I wonder what it would feel like, how different it would be.

I choose to love him every day, but sometimes I wish things had happened differently. Idk if that makes any sense.

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LH25
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It does make sense. One thought, every decision we make means there are other paths we chose not to follow. There will always be thoughts about "what if", at least there are for me. Hubby and I knew each other for 10 years before we started dating, I wonder what our life together would be if we had started dating earlier. I love him and we will celebrate 29 years married this weekend, so it worked out fine.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships Domestic partner, but that I hate how he made me lose some of the trust I have and how violated he made me feel. When weeks before I was ready to spend forever together, but now I’m terrified because I am young and may want to be single and find who I am outside of our relationship that I was so content in before.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships That he is to blame for alot of my self body image issues.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships We had a cockroach that lived in our bedroom last summer. It used to sleep next to me on the wall, behind a lamp. It would poop in the same place, so I would just clean it up. I had originally tried to capture it to release outside, but eventually gave up. It used to spend some of the day in the walk in closet, and I just started ignoring it. Want to tell my husband, but he’d be mortified.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I doubt you have just one cockroach... yo'll see more soon. There's never just one! Sorry tho!

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships I want out 😂

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't say why but what's stopping you? In the end, you're not in this life to please family, friends or the world. If you're in a holding pattern - ask yourself why? You deserve just as much happiness as anyone else. Talk to someone trustworthy and not involved for advice.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships That I think he has only found love with me because he was looking for the love he never received from his parents. His mom left him almost immediately after giving birth, his dad was working on the road and that caused his grandparents to raise him. They passed away fairly early on.

He has always been in some type of a relationship and I truly believe it's because of the the lack of love. It created a hole and I believe I'm the band aid that covers the hole.

He'd be devasted if I said what I think about this matter. I know he does love me and I absolutely love him so I just leave it be until we're both drunk and ready to have the conversation.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What am I missing here? I'm not sure I see a problem. You say he really loves you and you love him back, all this other psychoanalyst BS is just that. BS. He wants to be loved and in a good relationship and you're sitting here talking about band-aids and hole in his heart. No s**t he has desire to be loved, we all do. Don't create some issues/drama where there doesn't need to be any. Not everything needs to be drug out in the open and examined in detail. Sometimes you just need to move forward, and that's enough.

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Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships That I truly love him, but I think I might be poly and I also love someone else. And I love them both different and equally, but there’s parts of me that neither one can fulfill independently.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love can be different with different people... you can either cheat (if one doesn't know about the other) and hurt, or be honest and talk about it... These love traingles can function perfectly well, as long as you are open and honest about it with all parties involved. And putting a name on it... what does it matter, your heart is big enough to just love both ;)

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#30

Women Disclose 30 Secrets They Wish To Tell Their Partners But Fear It Would Jeopardize Their Relationships I think I might not be a woman.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As I said on the other post regarding a change in gender... You are still the same person, gender doesn't define our personality. It is definitely something you need to talk about. You shuold not have to hide after all.

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