Ex-Teacher Learns That His Simple Act Of Kindness Years Ago Changed The Life Of His Student
We know that not every hero wears a cape. But what if a hero doesn’t know he is one? Stay with me—the story sounds like the script from a Tarantino movie. The guy is in the navy. Out of the blue, he finds out that he transformed the life of his former student.
“My initial reaction was stunned. I know that most people that have read it in the past have said the story is fake and that it is too circumstantial to have ever happened,” the hero of the story, who wanted to remain anonymous, told Bored Panda. Tune in for the whole interview about this inspirational story below.
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The former teacher shared this inspirational story
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Bored Panda contacted the man for an exclusive interview. “Teaching was a ton of fun and a ton of work. I thoroughly enjoyed my time spent teaching. Interacting with students on a personal level was one of the great joys of the work. I always strived to be real with my students and be someone they felt they could trust to tell them the truth. I frequently spoke with my students about real-world issues with real viewpoints on college, drug/alcohol/smoking, future careers, and all the potential challenges that lay ahead of them.”
The hero, who wanted to remain anonymous, explained what got him outside of the classroom. “There’s a hefty amount of politics and kowtowing to maintain a position and the runaround can be exhausting. Ultimately, I decided to choose a career that was more stable in the long run.” He still looks back at teaching with fondness: “especially in light of this story, and I am glad to have had positive impacts with my students. I definitely miss it sometimes, but I’m excited to see where a career in the Navy takes me.”
“My initial reaction was stunned. Why would I tell that story about the one girl? I honestly don’t know. I retell that story often because honestly, it had a big impact on me. It showed me the value of positive self-talk and how small acts of kindness can yield extraordinary results. It reaffirms my belief that there’s never a reason to be mean to each other. There’s more than enough hate in the world; why would I ever want to add to it?”
Students, whatever you do, you cannot turn on yourselves. “Learning to love yourself is hard, but everyone at your age is going through the same thing. Middle/High school are supremely crappy times in the majority of the population’s life. Everyone is struggling to discover who they are and what kind of human they want to be when they grow up. Then they decided to shove 30+ of ‘em in a room for hours at a time and just let them hash it out. It makes for a grand struggle as students yearn to be heard and acknowledged. Just know that it gets sooo much better.”
It’s all about being nice to one another. “The adult world doesn’t care what you do in your free time or what kind of music you listen to. It doesn’t care that your hobbies are considered strange, especially since there are plenty of people who probably love to do what you do. The world cares about kindness. Be warm to those around you and it will always be paid back in the long run. My end of the year speech was always about legacy. How will you be remembered when you are gone? What will they say about you when you’re not around? How will you choose to impact the world every day? Be excellent to one another! (Although I think that reference was lost on most of my students…)”
This is what people had to say about it
I occasionally run into ex students (I've left teaching) and love to hear how they are going. I had one girl I always wondered about as she was having a tough time. Anyway I went into a Lilly shop in search of sugar free lollies and the girl at the counter called my name it took me a moment to recognise her but I nearly cried. It was that beautiful girl and she is doing well. I was so happy
I probably already shared this once here but I think this is the moment to do it again. About 12 years ago one of my favourite high school teachers of all time was leaving the school. I was 14 and was really going to miss her. So I wrote her a letter back then saying how much she taught me and how much I enjoyed her lessons and somehow delivered it to her. I've since met her twice (by accident) and she always brings it up and how much it meant to her. And that she has it saved. I don't remember now what I wrote, I bearly remember doing it in the first place but it warms my heart to know that it meant so much to her. And I'm writing all this not to brag but to tell you - think about the teachers that were really important to you in your life and write them a letter/postcard/email/tell them. Considering how often they have an enormous impact, I don't think many people actually tell them. In many countries, they're the most underpaid college profession. They deserve it.
Teachers can make or break children. One summer his teacher apologized for his bad standardized tests scores, which she hadn't seen. He got a perfect score in 11 out of 18 sections. Thank goodness for standardized tests. Still they put him in special ed for some subjects. He figured out how to get more challenging work and take care of himself. I have always worked with children, swim coach, room mother, taught art as a volunteer, etc. All children matter. The first day my son went to middle school, I was helping hand out gym shorts. The line to see me was crazy long. These were my special kids. They each asked if I remembered them. "Of course" was my answer regardless. Oh the warm smiles. Seeing me, someone they knew and liked in grammar school, was comforting, I guess. The memories they gave me, they don't know how much they changed me.
I had teachers who would write "Yeah, you DO SUCK!" into it and slam it back on the table, smiling. None did to me, though, I was pretty disconnected internally from 1st grade on... Went out ... well, as it should have. Don't think I could have taken all that I heard from teachers if I'd have cared much...
My son's journal was full accounts of horrible teaching methods, gangs, and worse. Of course I read it. At the end of the section he wrote, "That was fun, what shall I make up next...." When I commented, I got a long lecture on privacy. He was right.
I wish I had teachers like this. I was on the other side... I was the one the teachers s**t on... regardless of the fact that I got good grades, turned stuff in on time, did the 'extra' stuff like cleaning up around the classroom... they crapped on me... and I think back on it and realize... they were trying to look "cool" for the popular kids.
This is a great post. Middle school is often tough for kids - wonderful that you went above and beyond. I'm glad you this news about your student years later. I'll never forget the teachers who had a positive impact on me - it's such important work, and needs to be much more highly valued.
The only _verifiable_ form of immortality is how you're remembered after you shuffle off this mortal coil. What you do, bad or good, you will exist in people's memories and the impacts you make will echo down through the future. This is why one should strive to do the right thing.
One of my favorite teachers instilled in me an appreciation for literature and she was just one of the sweetest people I had ever known. After I graduated high school, I wrote her a letter telling her how much I enjoyed being one of her students and how much I had enjoyed her class. I later saw her in a grocery store(we live in a small town) and she told me that she really appreciated my letter and that when teachers know that they impacted a student's life, that that knowledge gives them the strength to keep on teaching.
Both good and bad teachers can make a lasting impression on a kid. Unfortunately, I didn't have many good ones, and some of them, it takes you years to undo the damage they've done to you. I really wish there were more teachers like the one in the article out there, think of how much better off we'd all be.
Very moved. Thankyou. For a second god dammit I wanted to be a teacher. Bless ❤💃🏾
Why would he be carrying around a picture of his High school class? They dont take high school class pictures
I'm in the minority here, but I find this icky. He read her journal. He took her personal property from her. And he wrote that she is beautiful. This crosses so many lines for me. I'm not surprised that this guy isn't a teacher anymore. I know everyone else thinks this is lovely, so downvote away.....
That's okay, it's your very own opinion and I respect that. But by writing she was beautiful I'm sure he didn't simply mean her outer appearance. A person doesn't have to be good looking to be beautiful. :)
Load More Replies...I occasionally run into ex students (I've left teaching) and love to hear how they are going. I had one girl I always wondered about as she was having a tough time. Anyway I went into a Lilly shop in search of sugar free lollies and the girl at the counter called my name it took me a moment to recognise her but I nearly cried. It was that beautiful girl and she is doing well. I was so happy
I probably already shared this once here but I think this is the moment to do it again. About 12 years ago one of my favourite high school teachers of all time was leaving the school. I was 14 and was really going to miss her. So I wrote her a letter back then saying how much she taught me and how much I enjoyed her lessons and somehow delivered it to her. I've since met her twice (by accident) and she always brings it up and how much it meant to her. And that she has it saved. I don't remember now what I wrote, I bearly remember doing it in the first place but it warms my heart to know that it meant so much to her. And I'm writing all this not to brag but to tell you - think about the teachers that were really important to you in your life and write them a letter/postcard/email/tell them. Considering how often they have an enormous impact, I don't think many people actually tell them. In many countries, they're the most underpaid college profession. They deserve it.
Teachers can make or break children. One summer his teacher apologized for his bad standardized tests scores, which she hadn't seen. He got a perfect score in 11 out of 18 sections. Thank goodness for standardized tests. Still they put him in special ed for some subjects. He figured out how to get more challenging work and take care of himself. I have always worked with children, swim coach, room mother, taught art as a volunteer, etc. All children matter. The first day my son went to middle school, I was helping hand out gym shorts. The line to see me was crazy long. These were my special kids. They each asked if I remembered them. "Of course" was my answer regardless. Oh the warm smiles. Seeing me, someone they knew and liked in grammar school, was comforting, I guess. The memories they gave me, they don't know how much they changed me.
I had teachers who would write "Yeah, you DO SUCK!" into it and slam it back on the table, smiling. None did to me, though, I was pretty disconnected internally from 1st grade on... Went out ... well, as it should have. Don't think I could have taken all that I heard from teachers if I'd have cared much...
My son's journal was full accounts of horrible teaching methods, gangs, and worse. Of course I read it. At the end of the section he wrote, "That was fun, what shall I make up next...." When I commented, I got a long lecture on privacy. He was right.
I wish I had teachers like this. I was on the other side... I was the one the teachers s**t on... regardless of the fact that I got good grades, turned stuff in on time, did the 'extra' stuff like cleaning up around the classroom... they crapped on me... and I think back on it and realize... they were trying to look "cool" for the popular kids.
This is a great post. Middle school is often tough for kids - wonderful that you went above and beyond. I'm glad you this news about your student years later. I'll never forget the teachers who had a positive impact on me - it's such important work, and needs to be much more highly valued.
The only _verifiable_ form of immortality is how you're remembered after you shuffle off this mortal coil. What you do, bad or good, you will exist in people's memories and the impacts you make will echo down through the future. This is why one should strive to do the right thing.
One of my favorite teachers instilled in me an appreciation for literature and she was just one of the sweetest people I had ever known. After I graduated high school, I wrote her a letter telling her how much I enjoyed being one of her students and how much I had enjoyed her class. I later saw her in a grocery store(we live in a small town) and she told me that she really appreciated my letter and that when teachers know that they impacted a student's life, that that knowledge gives them the strength to keep on teaching.
Both good and bad teachers can make a lasting impression on a kid. Unfortunately, I didn't have many good ones, and some of them, it takes you years to undo the damage they've done to you. I really wish there were more teachers like the one in the article out there, think of how much better off we'd all be.
Very moved. Thankyou. For a second god dammit I wanted to be a teacher. Bless ❤💃🏾
Why would he be carrying around a picture of his High school class? They dont take high school class pictures
I'm in the minority here, but I find this icky. He read her journal. He took her personal property from her. And he wrote that she is beautiful. This crosses so many lines for me. I'm not surprised that this guy isn't a teacher anymore. I know everyone else thinks this is lovely, so downvote away.....
That's okay, it's your very own opinion and I respect that. But by writing she was beautiful I'm sure he didn't simply mean her outer appearance. A person doesn't have to be good looking to be beautiful. :)
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