“That’s Disgraceful”: Discussion Ensues After Comedian’s Son Gets Ridiculed By A Teacher For Waving His Mom Goodbye
Toxic masculinity isn’t some kind of new phenomenon that no one has ever heard about—in fact, it’s one of the most widely discussed concepts that raises a lot of questions and concerns. It is said that big changes start with small steps, so keeping the conversation going about the matter and “reporting” situations that shouldn’t occur in the first place is one step closer to these changes. British comedian and writer Joanna Neary also decided to share her experience of a time when her son was exposed to this toxic behavior.
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On October 13, Neary shared on her Twitter account that her son who always waves goodbye to her once she drops him off at school no longer wants to do that. The reason behind this sudden change was the boy’s teacher. He mocked the kid for doing this, so the next day after the incident, Neary’s son said he doesn’t want to wave his mom anymore. The woman concluded her tweet by stating “This is how it starts.”
British comedian Joanna Neary shared online how her 9-year-old son was mocked by a teacher
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Toxic masculinity is described as a distorted picture of manliness that encourages men to always show up as strong, independent and tough. These “real” men are always expected to be leaders, breadwinners and guardians. The truth is that such high and unrealistic expectations also come together with aggression, homophobia and narcissism, making those around such men be intimidated and afraid of them.
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This is why Neary and others who follow her on social media got quite concerned about this situation. The post that received almost 160k likes on Twitter soon became a place where users started a heated discussion on the matter. A lot of people agreed that this behavior could not be tolerated and should be reported as this could have an effect on how the little boy later will interpret things.
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Neary expressed her wish to do something more so that incidents like this one would not reoccur
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Share on FacebookI just read the conversation on Twitter. Joanna Neary and her wee lad have decided to carry on with waving, blow kisses if they want, and yes, wave to Mr. NoWaves. He might be immortalized as a comedy sketch or hand puppet.
Carrying on how you want no matter what some a**e thinks is the best take away from this and a good life lesson. Another good lesson is some teachers are arses, don't let their opinions define you.
Load More Replies...What the teacher did was absolutely disgusting. My 14 year old still hugs me and says good bye at the bus stop (I have to walk down with his sister) or even in the hallways at school if I'm there for a meeting! I feel bad for that teacher's mother.
Or maybe she taught him it. Either way, it needs to change
Load More Replies...One commenter asked why the teacher mocked the boy, suggesting that it was out of jealousy. I just don't get it. I don't understand how a grown man could act like that or what he could possibly get from teasing a kid. I was at a kid's birthday party recently where adults were bad mouthing an 8-year-old kid behind his back and I was flabbergasted. How can adults do this!
Because, at least in thr US and I think the UK, men have been conditioned to, and widely accepted, be emotionless and above showing the public that they care.
Load More Replies...That teacher sounds like an asshole who should be nowhere near impressionable kids.
Agree. I had nuns in primary school. They should be nowhere near children at all, utterly toxic in a school environment.
Load More Replies...When I was a child other kids - and more than one adult - told me I looked stupid when I smiled. So I stopped smiling, and was instead made fun of for always looking surly.
I am so sorry. Kids can be cruel when adults pass that attitude on to them and teachers even make it acceptable. I hope you can smile now
Load More Replies...My ten year old regularly wants to hold my hand and because of some serious trauma's at school and in the hospital and an all around sweet personality, he always has his little stuffed animal with him and he made the choice to leave him in the car or in a backpack when actually in school or somewhere else participating with others. He did, not the adults around him. And you know what? If that makes him feel safe because so many adults couldn't find a way to facilitate that during harsh times, then the jokes on them. He found a way to stay grounded. The kiddo in this story has a healthy bond with his mum and that teacher is one jealous sob. That man needs a good talk and maybe some therapy.
More like his dad was an asshole, and bullied him into believing the bullshit.
Load More Replies...Teachers are supposed to teach, and guide, and be supportive of students. Not mocking them.
Aside from everything that's been already said about the teacher being wrong. What the heck is wrong in a 9 yo waving their mum? Where I live it's normal, not even considered affectionate, to wave someone goodbye. It baffles me that it could be even something that a person could mock with adults, let alone a kid.
I live just a few houses from my kids school and I often stay on our front porch to wave them goodbye all the way to school. It makes them super happy and me too. And I don't care if the neighbors see me do that little happy dance I do when they walk back from school. :P We are happy, loving people, deal with it!
Aw hell no! I wave to my students constantly through Zoom and no class end without a wave from me! Kids, teens, adults, everyone gets a goodbye wave and a smile!!
Teachers sometimes are Assholes. What follows haunts me for almost 14 years now. I'm from Germany, here we have a Three-tier school system: Gymnasium, Realschule, Hauptschule (high school, secondary school, middle school), depending on the intellectual capabilities of the pupils. When I was 10, 5th grade, I went to Gymnasium (High school). But then a teacher told me I was way too stupid for the school and should go to Hauptschule (middle school). I said to her that there were one step in between: Realschule (secondary school). But she said I'm really stupid and should go to the appropriate school for idiots and "social cases" like me. She said I would fail in all of my future life... ehm, NO! Went to Realschule at 14, 7th grade, graduated as one of the best in my class, got a good job and one cannot say I failed in my life yet. What a bitch she was!!!
My son has never stopped waving to me, he gives me a kiss, now on the forehead as he's almost 6ft, he went from holding my hand so he would be safe to holding my hand to make sure I'm safe. This teacher must have had a sad childhood if this teacher thinks parent child love is something to ridicule.
Car bomb. Lol, JK, talk to the head teacher and let them know either the guy changes his behavior, or she'll ensure he's terminated from the school via a lawsuit and taking the matter to the Education Board.
We all know that expressions of love and affection are powerful and meaningful, and should be instilled in children as a loving choice early on in life. Teachers who tease, mock or otherwise bully young children should be suspended immediately. Do they not have to take child psychology classes before they are allowed in the classroom?
This doesn't involve a teacher, but my son's friends. He was was always an affectionate little guy. When he was about 13, I took him and some friends to the mall. We agreed to meet back at a certain spot in 2 hours. My son said, "Bye Mommy I love you" as I walked away. His friends started teasing him about it and he just looked at them incredulously and asked "What, you don't love your MOTHER?" Totally shamed them and they never teased him for being a decent son again.
ok so im normally a nice person but i want to smack the s**t out of that guy
I always wonder whether the people in these Twitter threads ever see the reproductions of them on other sites like BP or Reddit. In this case the responses Ms Neary got on Twitter were as supportive as most we see here and I wanted to upvote every one.
HA! My 17 year old son gives me hugs and kisses and calls me Momma or Momma Bear when I drop him off and pick him up from football practice. ONE kid tried to talk crap and he looked at him dead ass in the face and said "I'm sorry you don't love your mom" kid never said another word. This teacher would've had me in his face so fast. Don't you EVER talk down to my kids ever. Especially when I know I've raised them to be healthy emotional kids / young adults.
I would’ve flipped that teacher off right in front of my kid and everybody else. “F**k off, Mr. Prick” and let him deal with that ridicule for the rest of the year. Might get called in to talk with the head but it would be so worth it. Don’t tolerate bullies even when they are authority figures.
(Some) teachers are assholes. I say this as a teacher. My first year teaching my coworkers talked about me behind me back, sometimes to the kids. They would say I had no idea what I was doing, that I was a bad teacher, etc. Of course I had no idea what I was doing, I was only 22 years old and was only given a 5 week training.
Waving goodbye to your mother should never be mocked or made fun of. This teacher sounds like a grown up bully. I am thirty six and I still hug my mom.
Listen, it doesn’t matter male or female, this teacher was bullying a child about doing something he didn’t think a little boy should do, and that’s not his job. I can tell you that, if it was a female teacher publicly berating a little short haired girl wearing pants because she doesn’t have long hair and wear frilly pink clothing “like all little girls are supposed to”, you bet there would be a similar article about it. Not everyone conforms to gender norms, and we shouldn’t force them into choosing, then only give them two options to choose from—-when we’ve discovered there are so many more possibilities than just the two. Conformity is just so f*****g bland and dull. Same old same old. Give me variety, and the coolness, the fascination, the big colorful personality, and the sheer glamor that can go with it, any day. Not to mention the utter happiness of someone who is truly free to live their authentic life. Theirs. Not yours.
Load More Replies...Having discussions around issues like this is how we bring awareness and change. I don't know why you think she wants internet points? Hopefully she has also addressed it with the school, but talking about it publicly is important to lots of people.
Load More Replies...I just read the conversation on Twitter. Joanna Neary and her wee lad have decided to carry on with waving, blow kisses if they want, and yes, wave to Mr. NoWaves. He might be immortalized as a comedy sketch or hand puppet.
Carrying on how you want no matter what some a**e thinks is the best take away from this and a good life lesson. Another good lesson is some teachers are arses, don't let their opinions define you.
Load More Replies...What the teacher did was absolutely disgusting. My 14 year old still hugs me and says good bye at the bus stop (I have to walk down with his sister) or even in the hallways at school if I'm there for a meeting! I feel bad for that teacher's mother.
Or maybe she taught him it. Either way, it needs to change
Load More Replies...One commenter asked why the teacher mocked the boy, suggesting that it was out of jealousy. I just don't get it. I don't understand how a grown man could act like that or what he could possibly get from teasing a kid. I was at a kid's birthday party recently where adults were bad mouthing an 8-year-old kid behind his back and I was flabbergasted. How can adults do this!
Because, at least in thr US and I think the UK, men have been conditioned to, and widely accepted, be emotionless and above showing the public that they care.
Load More Replies...That teacher sounds like an asshole who should be nowhere near impressionable kids.
Agree. I had nuns in primary school. They should be nowhere near children at all, utterly toxic in a school environment.
Load More Replies...When I was a child other kids - and more than one adult - told me I looked stupid when I smiled. So I stopped smiling, and was instead made fun of for always looking surly.
I am so sorry. Kids can be cruel when adults pass that attitude on to them and teachers even make it acceptable. I hope you can smile now
Load More Replies...My ten year old regularly wants to hold my hand and because of some serious trauma's at school and in the hospital and an all around sweet personality, he always has his little stuffed animal with him and he made the choice to leave him in the car or in a backpack when actually in school or somewhere else participating with others. He did, not the adults around him. And you know what? If that makes him feel safe because so many adults couldn't find a way to facilitate that during harsh times, then the jokes on them. He found a way to stay grounded. The kiddo in this story has a healthy bond with his mum and that teacher is one jealous sob. That man needs a good talk and maybe some therapy.
More like his dad was an asshole, and bullied him into believing the bullshit.
Load More Replies...Teachers are supposed to teach, and guide, and be supportive of students. Not mocking them.
Aside from everything that's been already said about the teacher being wrong. What the heck is wrong in a 9 yo waving their mum? Where I live it's normal, not even considered affectionate, to wave someone goodbye. It baffles me that it could be even something that a person could mock with adults, let alone a kid.
I live just a few houses from my kids school and I often stay on our front porch to wave them goodbye all the way to school. It makes them super happy and me too. And I don't care if the neighbors see me do that little happy dance I do when they walk back from school. :P We are happy, loving people, deal with it!
Aw hell no! I wave to my students constantly through Zoom and no class end without a wave from me! Kids, teens, adults, everyone gets a goodbye wave and a smile!!
Teachers sometimes are Assholes. What follows haunts me for almost 14 years now. I'm from Germany, here we have a Three-tier school system: Gymnasium, Realschule, Hauptschule (high school, secondary school, middle school), depending on the intellectual capabilities of the pupils. When I was 10, 5th grade, I went to Gymnasium (High school). But then a teacher told me I was way too stupid for the school and should go to Hauptschule (middle school). I said to her that there were one step in between: Realschule (secondary school). But she said I'm really stupid and should go to the appropriate school for idiots and "social cases" like me. She said I would fail in all of my future life... ehm, NO! Went to Realschule at 14, 7th grade, graduated as one of the best in my class, got a good job and one cannot say I failed in my life yet. What a bitch she was!!!
My son has never stopped waving to me, he gives me a kiss, now on the forehead as he's almost 6ft, he went from holding my hand so he would be safe to holding my hand to make sure I'm safe. This teacher must have had a sad childhood if this teacher thinks parent child love is something to ridicule.
Car bomb. Lol, JK, talk to the head teacher and let them know either the guy changes his behavior, or she'll ensure he's terminated from the school via a lawsuit and taking the matter to the Education Board.
We all know that expressions of love and affection are powerful and meaningful, and should be instilled in children as a loving choice early on in life. Teachers who tease, mock or otherwise bully young children should be suspended immediately. Do they not have to take child psychology classes before they are allowed in the classroom?
This doesn't involve a teacher, but my son's friends. He was was always an affectionate little guy. When he was about 13, I took him and some friends to the mall. We agreed to meet back at a certain spot in 2 hours. My son said, "Bye Mommy I love you" as I walked away. His friends started teasing him about it and he just looked at them incredulously and asked "What, you don't love your MOTHER?" Totally shamed them and they never teased him for being a decent son again.
ok so im normally a nice person but i want to smack the s**t out of that guy
I always wonder whether the people in these Twitter threads ever see the reproductions of them on other sites like BP or Reddit. In this case the responses Ms Neary got on Twitter were as supportive as most we see here and I wanted to upvote every one.
HA! My 17 year old son gives me hugs and kisses and calls me Momma or Momma Bear when I drop him off and pick him up from football practice. ONE kid tried to talk crap and he looked at him dead ass in the face and said "I'm sorry you don't love your mom" kid never said another word. This teacher would've had me in his face so fast. Don't you EVER talk down to my kids ever. Especially when I know I've raised them to be healthy emotional kids / young adults.
I would’ve flipped that teacher off right in front of my kid and everybody else. “F**k off, Mr. Prick” and let him deal with that ridicule for the rest of the year. Might get called in to talk with the head but it would be so worth it. Don’t tolerate bullies even when they are authority figures.
(Some) teachers are assholes. I say this as a teacher. My first year teaching my coworkers talked about me behind me back, sometimes to the kids. They would say I had no idea what I was doing, that I was a bad teacher, etc. Of course I had no idea what I was doing, I was only 22 years old and was only given a 5 week training.
Waving goodbye to your mother should never be mocked or made fun of. This teacher sounds like a grown up bully. I am thirty six and I still hug my mom.
Listen, it doesn’t matter male or female, this teacher was bullying a child about doing something he didn’t think a little boy should do, and that’s not his job. I can tell you that, if it was a female teacher publicly berating a little short haired girl wearing pants because she doesn’t have long hair and wear frilly pink clothing “like all little girls are supposed to”, you bet there would be a similar article about it. Not everyone conforms to gender norms, and we shouldn’t force them into choosing, then only give them two options to choose from—-when we’ve discovered there are so many more possibilities than just the two. Conformity is just so f*****g bland and dull. Same old same old. Give me variety, and the coolness, the fascination, the big colorful personality, and the sheer glamor that can go with it, any day. Not to mention the utter happiness of someone who is truly free to live their authentic life. Theirs. Not yours.
Load More Replies...Having discussions around issues like this is how we bring awareness and change. I don't know why you think she wants internet points? Hopefully she has also addressed it with the school, but talking about it publicly is important to lots of people.
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