Engineer Calls This Scientist ‘Unprofessional’ Because Of Her Red Hair And Tattoos, She Bashes Him On Twitter
Thankfully, the days of strict dress codes at work are slowly disappearing in most industries. Bosses have finally cottoned on to the fact that forcing people to sit at a desk all day sweltering in a rigid suit and tie just doesn’t make any sense.
Some work environment habits die hard, however, and in traditionally male-dominated areas – which science still is, for now – women boldly expressing themselves at work are apparently seen as ‘unprofessional’ for some.
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So when environmental scientist Joleah Lamb started a Twitter thread asking for stories and biased opinions about men commenting on women’s dress in the scientific community, she certainly got some eye-opening responses.
One, in particular, stood out, however – an exchange between Stephanie E. Suarez and an engineer from Chevron.
Stephanie received a message on LinkedIn from the engineer, criticizing her red hair dye and tattoos likening her to a “waiter of Midtown,” whatever that means. To which Stephanie gave the good comeback that he deserved.
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Why do some people feel the need to share their unsolicited opinions about others’ appearance? Do they think they are doing a favor or something? Stephanie’s looks are utterly irrelevant to her job, and it is nobody’s business to suggest what she wears at work, interview, or otherwise!
The exchange sheds some light on the issues that some women scientists are faced with. Rather than allowing their work to speak for itself, some men still expect women to justify themselves through their appearance. That is asking that they ‘fit in’ with old-fashioned views on what is acceptable in the profession. Who are you to decide what is ‘professional’ and what is gender equality?
Stephanie went on to give some further background on the situation
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While people were quick to offer their support
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What do you think? Does your job have expectations of how you should dress at work? Why do you think that some people need to tell others how they ‘should’ look? Share your own stories in the comments below!
He did all of that because she called him out for trying to hit on women on LinkedIn. He was embarrassed and attempted to hurt her feelings, which he failed at big time while digging himself into a hole.
Why would anyone think this is even slightly okay? Just because someone chose to have tattoos and red hair does not mean in the SLIGHTEST that they are unprofessional or uneducated. It isn't a random guy's job to tell her what she can and can't do with her body!
It's not ok and he knows it. He acted unprofessional (hitting on someone in LinkedIn...) and got called out. That hurts and is a reminder of his own unacceptable behavior. So in order to counter it, he tries to twist his own widely considered inappropriate behavior to make it her problem by pointing out something that's actually fine (but is still frowned upon by some people that hang onto believes that will not survive) in hopes of touching a weakness (and clearly she had to put up with people like this before or it would not have hurt her). And the best part is how this creep makes something he probably thought of as attractive (why hit on her other wise) into something to hurt her. Bottom line; he's someone with low self-esteem and low integrity, might be connected and and she's a smart expressive woman with absolutely normal emotional responses.
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Exactly. That dude no longer deserves to be served properly at restaurants, honestly.
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Trying to remember where I saw the following conversation posted: A woman was talking with her male boss about a photo on Linkedin. He said that women shouldn't use slutty pictures as their profile. She looked at the woman in a white blouse with small, diamond earrings and asked what was slutty about it, since most women in their office wore the same thing everyday. They went round and round until he finally had to say, "but she's hot!" So a beautiful woman will be called a s**t because in her picture she appears as a beautiful woman. Stands to reason then, that a woman who wears non-traditional business clothes will be threatened because she doesn't wear traditional business clothes.
I'm fairly sure I saw it on Bored Panda. Yes - https://www.boredpanda.com/?s=linkedin
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I'm a 20 year geologist who is transitioning to a Ph.D. in Geochemistry, and recently the company I worked for was purchased by an engineering firm. The engineers were absolutely adamant that we must all wear suits while we were in the field. Every geologist in the place let them know how stupid of an idea it was. Not only do I work in Florida, where wearing a suit and tie is considered suicide because of the heat, but its dangerous as hell to be in such a confining uniform while working around heavy equipment like drill rigs, and we are not engineers, we actually get our hands dirty and do actual work. There is no way any of us were going to buy suits just so we could get them covered in mud daily, and die of heat exhaustion.
That's crazy, it's 2019 everyone needs to relax. I do photography as a second job and I had a parent of a bride try to say that I had to cover my tattoos for the wedding. The bride was like ummm no. "She is who she is, and she will be comfortable so she can do her job. I wouldn't even have her cover them if she was IN the wedding party. If you don't like it, don't come." TO HER OWN MOTHER I was like hell ya! (I met in the middle. I wore a sheer long sleeve top so they could still "see" the tattoos but they were "covered" the bride thought it was hilarious. Mom....not so much.
Nice one! I am truly puzzled as to why someone decorating their own skin matters to anyone else. A LOT more live and let live needs to exist.
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I would have fired back with "I'm sure your bosses at Chevron would like a chance to ring in on what is more unprofessional...a woman with red hair and tattoos..or an employee that uses job search sites to pick up women. I happen to think they will lean towards the idea that the unprofessionalism is linked to the person that is most likely to earn them a trip to civil court. Don't make yourself a liability."
Ok Mr. Small PP.... *eyeroll* Threatened by successful and attractive women much?
Who randomly picks someone they don't know at all to message and harass about their looks? Losers and egomaniacs! It's not like he's a hiring manager and she's an applicant. Some people really need to learn to mind their own business. On a positive note, I love that NASA loves to hire people for their talent and abilities not looks :)
Pfft, my colourful hair and tattoos have not stopped me from being a data scientists working at a university. Dude is just an insecure child who can't cope with rejection. Hitting on someone over a professional website is totally creepy, and inappropriate.
Agreed. Blue hair and ink haven't stopped me from being an embalmer. Honestly, tons of funeral directors have full sleeves of ink and piercings, you can hide a lot with a suit...
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That is mansplaining in its purest form. If you are that superficial, call it that way and don't disguise it as "professional". My brain doesn't change if I change my cloth or the color of my hair. Thinking like that is just stupid. And approaching a stranger like that is just rude.
Nothing about that is mansplaining. He tried to hit on her on a job platform, got rightfully rejected and then lashed out because he got rejected.
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It honestly never matters what you actually think, just never say something like this. It's so rude.
Regardless of how you feel about tattoos and hair dye- saying "you're cute" on linkedin is creepy. In a bar it might be a nice way of flirting, depending upon the context, but that website is for business. I'd also like to add that people who are both attractive and intelligent have very hard lives... we assume intelligence is a compensation for not being beautiful and that beauty is a person's way of excusing lack of intelligence. If only we humans weren't so shallow.
He can't redeem himself there...Just because her hair is red and she has tattoos clearly doesn't mean she is unprofessional. People are way too quick to judge.
Jezz, my daughter colors her hair all the time, has a full back tattoo as well as a half leg, nose piercing, is gorgeous and about to become a Nurse Practitioner to add to her 2 other degrees.She is kind,generous and smart and would hope no one judges her for just her looks,we should be way past those days!!
I give her mad props. I got my undergrad degree in geology. It kicked my butt. People don't realize just how difficult and complex geology is.
Funny coincidence: my mother also has dyed red hair and tattoos all over her arms.
So basically this guy tried to innocently flirt with her and on Linkedin of all places. He got shot down and decided to turn it into bigger drama than it needed to be. What a douche. If the employer don't care about your attire and you're doing your job well. Who cares how you're dressed. Long as it's not causing an actual problem. Sorry the poster had to go through that nonsense. That dude was extremely unprofessional.
Readers are confusing the bad behavior of a stalker with the relationship between dress and professional opportunity. Being stalked is horrible. Period. In some professions, how we dress affects our job opportunities. That is just a reality. If we have one of those jobs, *we* have to decide which is more important: the career or our desire to dress unconventionally.
This has nothing to do with her tattoos or hair color, it’s due to the fact that this guy is a troll. He didn’t get what he thought should happen because of his own inflated ego, when it didn’t. Well, then like a 16 year old you get nasty and mean. If he is like this on line what the hell is he like, with his fellow female workers.
Aww, small dicked man felt embarrassed the beautiful, educated woman didn't want his small d**k so tried to hurt her. Send the entire thread to his boss. He/she has a right to laugh and then admonish small d**k too.
Sounds to me like another butthurt man who couldn’t handle rejection so he turns to insults and mansplaining to make his bad feelings go away. There’s a reason guys like this are single. Does this sound like you? Reevaluate your life
Can we call this "man" a wee bit passive-aggressive? Just a bit? What a tool.
I love how people say rude things and then follow it up with a "sorry" as if that makes it ok. If you need to follow with a sorry then you know you shouldn't say it in the first place.
Where I work, even some CEOs have tats. No one there cares about your hair, tats or how you look like.
Several points: one) Dyed hair & tattoos =/= unprofessionalism, that's essentially judging someone by their looks instead of their relevant qualifications, which should be considered unprofessionalism in this situation. Besides, we're in the 21st century, geez. two) Everyone has already pointed this out, but his cAnDiD oPiNIoN (which totally isn't a poor attempt ar flirting, btw) wasn't solicited. And three) she's absolutely stunning, if anything; those tattoos are hella cool, you go, girl!
My mother had a tattoo on her foot and was a third grade teacher. Both the students and their parents loved her and she was one of the most popular teachers at the school. One of the shift managers I worked with at Pizza Hut had tattoos all the way down both arms and he was a really great and professional manager. People need to stop basing someone's ability to do their job on their appearance. There are people with no tattoos or piercings who are terrible on their jobs.
His argument, boiled down to the basics, appears to be that she has some sort of obligation to dress and color her hair in a manner that he finds attractive. Total BS!
Most researchers I know don't look/dress business formal so she doesn't even stand out that much (I don't mean this in a mean way, just that she doesnt look out of place in the sciences). The only thing that picture of her shows is that she is definitely an Earth scientist (because no one loves beer like earth scientists/geologists)
Ma’am I think you are pretty and that person was stupider than a crackhead no one asked him to talk
You are expressing yourself, there should be nothing wrong with that. I love your hair color and your tattoo looks amazing. Now I know why I don't buy gas at Chevron! HA!
Sad that we still live in this world where we judge appearances over intellect or even kindness
What exactly is an isotope geochemist supposed to look like anyway? Because somehow I think this look perfectly suits an isotope geochemist. From now on in my mind this style/look is what I will forever associate with geochemists.
What got me the most was "you look like a waitress" What a jerk! My mother was a waitress for 30 years and made just as much money as some of those so-called educated a-holes.
My wife has bright hair and tattoos, is a vastly intelligent woman and works as a senior pediatric nurse and is the most caring person you will ever meet. People like this guy only have their work, no happy life, work is everything to them.
No one cares about your damn opinions. Mind your own business. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. I am sooo glad I got off FB, got sick and tired of people yelling at each other. So brave typing, so cowardly face to face. Being kind goes a long way..just be nice, it isn't that hard.
Here's the rule for STUPID MEN who can't figure out how to speak to women: IF YOU WOULDN'T SAY IT TO THE OWNER OF THE COMPANY WHERE YOU WORK, DON'T SAY IT TO A WOMAN.
He let his “human nature” get the best of him ... we are visual creatures and tend to judge with what we see first ... it is still up to us, as individuals, to find better criteria for better (i.e. more informed) judgment ... that is what a resumé is for and any employer putting her looks before her experience does not deserve a qualified employee, le alone one that is not afraid to express his or herself ...
This reminds me of my brother who at 17 enrolled at a catering college a year late as it was in England and we had just moved over from Ireland and had to do 2 years worth of college work in 1 year. He finished at the top of his class and won an award for that and graduated with higest honours and a degree in Food Hygene as well as becoming a highly qualifed chef. He worked all over in hotels as a head chef. All while he went through his "Goth" phase. He was sporting a large black mohican hair cut and (When outside of work) was dressed head to toe in black.
All person at some points of their lives work like a waiter or waitress. Depending on serving what customers.
The guy is probably butt ugly and jealous that she is a double whammy. Smokin hot AND super intelligent. People suck!!
I've worked for engineers most of my adult life. Many of them have really terrible dress sense, so I find it hilarious that an engineer would feel competent to judge her fashion choices.
It doesn't matter to me how do you look, performance is what I want to know. And about hair... if bugs are not falling from it I do not care.
This is why I never made a LinkedIn profile. That site is notorious for harassing women. I read a story a little while back about a guy saying a woman on LinkedIn was too 'slutty' looking. She was wearing a gray t-shirt and it was a pic from the shoulders up. https://www.indy100.com/article/sexist-male-boss-calls-woman-slutty-linkedin-profile-picture-t-shirt-sexism-8967616
People like him are slowly being replaced with decent people who don't look at someone and judge them by their looks. Maybe in a generation or two they will all be gone and we don''t have to expend mental energy on this.
Where do you see this guys name? It isn't anywhere in the post. How can you tell someone this face to face over the internet? Your post makes zero sense.
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I, too, am a scientist that "dresses differently" but I've never had anything like this happen to me because............................I don't use LinkedIn or any other social media. I'm not online, you can't find me in any personal capacity. How about that for a solution? People suck, avoid them as much as possible is my advice because they are NEVER going to change. In my personal experience, it has been OTHER WOMEN that have tried to keep me down rather than men, and that's in the field of physics. Misanthropy is the way to go. F**k everyone and their s****y opinions, and be happy with who you are and what you do.
Why do you want to compliment people that you don't know and have no idea what their life is like? What they might have been through? Why is that something that you'll argue for? Over something as random as how they look - born with and not an achievement. A lot of women have been groped and bothered or worse and you don't know who they are. Who could be harmed by something you think is harmless. You don't know if the person you are saying 'hey you are cute' to had that said to them by someone who turned into a stalker. Or were in a relationship with someone that knocked them about. Instead of just accepting that most women do not want to be treated like this people like 'iblowsheep' decide that it's all about feminism and not vulnerability. Or that women want to be valued for who they are and not what they look like. Leave people be. Compliment the ones you know - they will value it more.
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Sorry but you don't want to be called that on Linkedin where it's all about profession. It's just disrespectful. And yes, pathetic too.
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So women are required to be nice to any random guy who isn't even smart enough to know the difference between LinkedIn and Tinder? Mmmkay, that's cute.
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Ah, maybe because he made the comment on LinkedIn - not Tinder
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He did all of that because she called him out for trying to hit on women on LinkedIn. He was embarrassed and attempted to hurt her feelings, which he failed at big time while digging himself into a hole.
Why would anyone think this is even slightly okay? Just because someone chose to have tattoos and red hair does not mean in the SLIGHTEST that they are unprofessional or uneducated. It isn't a random guy's job to tell her what she can and can't do with her body!
It's not ok and he knows it. He acted unprofessional (hitting on someone in LinkedIn...) and got called out. That hurts and is a reminder of his own unacceptable behavior. So in order to counter it, he tries to twist his own widely considered inappropriate behavior to make it her problem by pointing out something that's actually fine (but is still frowned upon by some people that hang onto believes that will not survive) in hopes of touching a weakness (and clearly she had to put up with people like this before or it would not have hurt her). And the best part is how this creep makes something he probably thought of as attractive (why hit on her other wise) into something to hurt her. Bottom line; he's someone with low self-esteem and low integrity, might be connected and and she's a smart expressive woman with absolutely normal emotional responses.
Load More Replies... Exactly. That dude no longer deserves to be served properly at restaurants, honestly.
Load More Replies... Trying to remember where I saw the following conversation posted: A woman was talking with her male boss about a photo on Linkedin. He said that women shouldn't use slutty pictures as their profile. She looked at the woman in a white blouse with small, diamond earrings and asked what was slutty about it, since most women in their office wore the same thing everyday. They went round and round until he finally had to say, "but she's hot!" So a beautiful woman will be called a s**t because in her picture she appears as a beautiful woman. Stands to reason then, that a woman who wears non-traditional business clothes will be threatened because she doesn't wear traditional business clothes.
I'm fairly sure I saw it on Bored Panda. Yes - https://www.boredpanda.com/?s=linkedin
Load More Replies... I'm a 20 year geologist who is transitioning to a Ph.D. in Geochemistry, and recently the company I worked for was purchased by an engineering firm. The engineers were absolutely adamant that we must all wear suits while we were in the field. Every geologist in the place let them know how stupid of an idea it was. Not only do I work in Florida, where wearing a suit and tie is considered suicide because of the heat, but its dangerous as hell to be in such a confining uniform while working around heavy equipment like drill rigs, and we are not engineers, we actually get our hands dirty and do actual work. There is no way any of us were going to buy suits just so we could get them covered in mud daily, and die of heat exhaustion.
That's crazy, it's 2019 everyone needs to relax. I do photography as a second job and I had a parent of a bride try to say that I had to cover my tattoos for the wedding. The bride was like ummm no. "She is who she is, and she will be comfortable so she can do her job. I wouldn't even have her cover them if she was IN the wedding party. If you don't like it, don't come." TO HER OWN MOTHER I was like hell ya! (I met in the middle. I wore a sheer long sleeve top so they could still "see" the tattoos but they were "covered" the bride thought it was hilarious. Mom....not so much.
Nice one! I am truly puzzled as to why someone decorating their own skin matters to anyone else. A LOT more live and let live needs to exist.
Load More Replies... I would have fired back with "I'm sure your bosses at Chevron would like a chance to ring in on what is more unprofessional...a woman with red hair and tattoos..or an employee that uses job search sites to pick up women. I happen to think they will lean towards the idea that the unprofessionalism is linked to the person that is most likely to earn them a trip to civil court. Don't make yourself a liability."
Ok Mr. Small PP.... *eyeroll* Threatened by successful and attractive women much?
Who randomly picks someone they don't know at all to message and harass about their looks? Losers and egomaniacs! It's not like he's a hiring manager and she's an applicant. Some people really need to learn to mind their own business. On a positive note, I love that NASA loves to hire people for their talent and abilities not looks :)
Pfft, my colourful hair and tattoos have not stopped me from being a data scientists working at a university. Dude is just an insecure child who can't cope with rejection. Hitting on someone over a professional website is totally creepy, and inappropriate.
Agreed. Blue hair and ink haven't stopped me from being an embalmer. Honestly, tons of funeral directors have full sleeves of ink and piercings, you can hide a lot with a suit...
Load More Replies... That is mansplaining in its purest form. If you are that superficial, call it that way and don't disguise it as "professional". My brain doesn't change if I change my cloth or the color of my hair. Thinking like that is just stupid. And approaching a stranger like that is just rude.
Nothing about that is mansplaining. He tried to hit on her on a job platform, got rightfully rejected and then lashed out because he got rejected.
Load More Replies... It honestly never matters what you actually think, just never say something like this. It's so rude.
Regardless of how you feel about tattoos and hair dye- saying "you're cute" on linkedin is creepy. In a bar it might be a nice way of flirting, depending upon the context, but that website is for business. I'd also like to add that people who are both attractive and intelligent have very hard lives... we assume intelligence is a compensation for not being beautiful and that beauty is a person's way of excusing lack of intelligence. If only we humans weren't so shallow.
He can't redeem himself there...Just because her hair is red and she has tattoos clearly doesn't mean she is unprofessional. People are way too quick to judge.
Jezz, my daughter colors her hair all the time, has a full back tattoo as well as a half leg, nose piercing, is gorgeous and about to become a Nurse Practitioner to add to her 2 other degrees.She is kind,generous and smart and would hope no one judges her for just her looks,we should be way past those days!!
I give her mad props. I got my undergrad degree in geology. It kicked my butt. People don't realize just how difficult and complex geology is.
Funny coincidence: my mother also has dyed red hair and tattoos all over her arms.
So basically this guy tried to innocently flirt with her and on Linkedin of all places. He got shot down and decided to turn it into bigger drama than it needed to be. What a douche. If the employer don't care about your attire and you're doing your job well. Who cares how you're dressed. Long as it's not causing an actual problem. Sorry the poster had to go through that nonsense. That dude was extremely unprofessional.
Readers are confusing the bad behavior of a stalker with the relationship between dress and professional opportunity. Being stalked is horrible. Period. In some professions, how we dress affects our job opportunities. That is just a reality. If we have one of those jobs, *we* have to decide which is more important: the career or our desire to dress unconventionally.
This has nothing to do with her tattoos or hair color, it’s due to the fact that this guy is a troll. He didn’t get what he thought should happen because of his own inflated ego, when it didn’t. Well, then like a 16 year old you get nasty and mean. If he is like this on line what the hell is he like, with his fellow female workers.
Aww, small dicked man felt embarrassed the beautiful, educated woman didn't want his small d**k so tried to hurt her. Send the entire thread to his boss. He/she has a right to laugh and then admonish small d**k too.
Sounds to me like another butthurt man who couldn’t handle rejection so he turns to insults and mansplaining to make his bad feelings go away. There’s a reason guys like this are single. Does this sound like you? Reevaluate your life
Can we call this "man" a wee bit passive-aggressive? Just a bit? What a tool.
I love how people say rude things and then follow it up with a "sorry" as if that makes it ok. If you need to follow with a sorry then you know you shouldn't say it in the first place.
Where I work, even some CEOs have tats. No one there cares about your hair, tats or how you look like.
Several points: one) Dyed hair & tattoos =/= unprofessionalism, that's essentially judging someone by their looks instead of their relevant qualifications, which should be considered unprofessionalism in this situation. Besides, we're in the 21st century, geez. two) Everyone has already pointed this out, but his cAnDiD oPiNIoN (which totally isn't a poor attempt ar flirting, btw) wasn't solicited. And three) she's absolutely stunning, if anything; those tattoos are hella cool, you go, girl!
My mother had a tattoo on her foot and was a third grade teacher. Both the students and their parents loved her and she was one of the most popular teachers at the school. One of the shift managers I worked with at Pizza Hut had tattoos all the way down both arms and he was a really great and professional manager. People need to stop basing someone's ability to do their job on their appearance. There are people with no tattoos or piercings who are terrible on their jobs.
His argument, boiled down to the basics, appears to be that she has some sort of obligation to dress and color her hair in a manner that he finds attractive. Total BS!
Most researchers I know don't look/dress business formal so she doesn't even stand out that much (I don't mean this in a mean way, just that she doesnt look out of place in the sciences). The only thing that picture of her shows is that she is definitely an Earth scientist (because no one loves beer like earth scientists/geologists)
Ma’am I think you are pretty and that person was stupider than a crackhead no one asked him to talk
You are expressing yourself, there should be nothing wrong with that. I love your hair color and your tattoo looks amazing. Now I know why I don't buy gas at Chevron! HA!
Sad that we still live in this world where we judge appearances over intellect or even kindness
What exactly is an isotope geochemist supposed to look like anyway? Because somehow I think this look perfectly suits an isotope geochemist. From now on in my mind this style/look is what I will forever associate with geochemists.
What got me the most was "you look like a waitress" What a jerk! My mother was a waitress for 30 years and made just as much money as some of those so-called educated a-holes.
My wife has bright hair and tattoos, is a vastly intelligent woman and works as a senior pediatric nurse and is the most caring person you will ever meet. People like this guy only have their work, no happy life, work is everything to them.
No one cares about your damn opinions. Mind your own business. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. I am sooo glad I got off FB, got sick and tired of people yelling at each other. So brave typing, so cowardly face to face. Being kind goes a long way..just be nice, it isn't that hard.
Here's the rule for STUPID MEN who can't figure out how to speak to women: IF YOU WOULDN'T SAY IT TO THE OWNER OF THE COMPANY WHERE YOU WORK, DON'T SAY IT TO A WOMAN.
He let his “human nature” get the best of him ... we are visual creatures and tend to judge with what we see first ... it is still up to us, as individuals, to find better criteria for better (i.e. more informed) judgment ... that is what a resumé is for and any employer putting her looks before her experience does not deserve a qualified employee, le alone one that is not afraid to express his or herself ...
This reminds me of my brother who at 17 enrolled at a catering college a year late as it was in England and we had just moved over from Ireland and had to do 2 years worth of college work in 1 year. He finished at the top of his class and won an award for that and graduated with higest honours and a degree in Food Hygene as well as becoming a highly qualifed chef. He worked all over in hotels as a head chef. All while he went through his "Goth" phase. He was sporting a large black mohican hair cut and (When outside of work) was dressed head to toe in black.
All person at some points of their lives work like a waiter or waitress. Depending on serving what customers.
The guy is probably butt ugly and jealous that she is a double whammy. Smokin hot AND super intelligent. People suck!!
I've worked for engineers most of my adult life. Many of them have really terrible dress sense, so I find it hilarious that an engineer would feel competent to judge her fashion choices.
It doesn't matter to me how do you look, performance is what I want to know. And about hair... if bugs are not falling from it I do not care.
This is why I never made a LinkedIn profile. That site is notorious for harassing women. I read a story a little while back about a guy saying a woman on LinkedIn was too 'slutty' looking. She was wearing a gray t-shirt and it was a pic from the shoulders up. https://www.indy100.com/article/sexist-male-boss-calls-woman-slutty-linkedin-profile-picture-t-shirt-sexism-8967616
People like him are slowly being replaced with decent people who don't look at someone and judge them by their looks. Maybe in a generation or two they will all be gone and we don''t have to expend mental energy on this.
Where do you see this guys name? It isn't anywhere in the post. How can you tell someone this face to face over the internet? Your post makes zero sense.
Load More Replies... I, too, am a scientist that "dresses differently" but I've never had anything like this happen to me because............................I don't use LinkedIn or any other social media. I'm not online, you can't find me in any personal capacity. How about that for a solution? People suck, avoid them as much as possible is my advice because they are NEVER going to change. In my personal experience, it has been OTHER WOMEN that have tried to keep me down rather than men, and that's in the field of physics. Misanthropy is the way to go. F**k everyone and their s****y opinions, and be happy with who you are and what you do.
Why do you want to compliment people that you don't know and have no idea what their life is like? What they might have been through? Why is that something that you'll argue for? Over something as random as how they look - born with and not an achievement. A lot of women have been groped and bothered or worse and you don't know who they are. Who could be harmed by something you think is harmless. You don't know if the person you are saying 'hey you are cute' to had that said to them by someone who turned into a stalker. Or were in a relationship with someone that knocked them about. Instead of just accepting that most women do not want to be treated like this people like 'iblowsheep' decide that it's all about feminism and not vulnerability. Or that women want to be valued for who they are and not what they look like. Leave people be. Compliment the ones you know - they will value it more.
Load More Replies... Sorry but you don't want to be called that on Linkedin where it's all about profession. It's just disrespectful. And yes, pathetic too.
Load More Replies... So women are required to be nice to any random guy who isn't even smart enough to know the difference between LinkedIn and Tinder? Mmmkay, that's cute.
Load More Replies... Ah, maybe because he made the comment on LinkedIn - not Tinder
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