As many of you probably know, men are definitely from Mars and women are from Venus. Even if you have not read the book of the same name, it is already clear to everyone that male and female types of thinking are quite different, while each of the genders has its own specific features and behaviors.
Any communication with another person is a continuous process of study, analysis and simple curiosity (unless, of course, we are so selfish that we always listen only to our feelings and reactions). And so, in the process of such a study, even the most sophisticated people sometimes discover incredible interesting facts about others, which can be especially interesting if these facts concern another gender.
Recently, a question was asked in the AskReddit community on exactly this topic, addressed exclusively to women. It sounded like: "Women, what is a surprising fact you discovered about men?" We are not at all sure that among the people who wrote over 8.8K comments in just under two weeks were exclusively women, however, the resulting thread has already gained about 9.3K upvotes, and there are really a lot of different interesting discoveries.
Bored Panda has compiled for you a selection of the most unexpected, discouraging, funny and simply the most popular comments from the original thread, so now please feel free to scroll to the very end of this list, mark the submissions that are most interesting to you, and of course, share your own discoveries - if you're a woman. If a man - well, introspection can also bring a lot of great things, while comments are always welcome.
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Many men get an erection in the morning. Morning moves around the globe every 24 hours. This means that there is an erection wave that has been going around the globe without end since the beginning of any species with which this started.
That men rarely ever receive compliments in their lives. I purposely go out of my way to express even the smallest compliments in case they haven’t heard one for a long time.
That they suffer from gender stereotyping too.
That they are not criticizing women’s bodies as much as women are led to believe (maybe by themselves or whomever is driving this culture). They are far more acceptant of how women look like naturally than women themselves. This was such a game changer for me.
Well, growing up in a southern country town here in the U.S. A lot of my female friends never wore makeup and were more interested in shooting sports. They were always the most beautiful when they were just doing what they wanted and not focusing on their appearance. We had beauty pagents and stuff, high school girls that were obsessed with looks and all, but I never saw the appeal of that. They looked much better natural with the confidence that they were more than their appearance.
Most men don’t actually know how to fix things. They just pull it apart and put it back together again and hope for the best.
Fix-it-ability, like any other skill, requires training. It's not instinctual.
And the best training is to disassemble stuff and put it back together. It's fun and educational!
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This is exactly how you learn. Take it apart and see if you can put it back together.
If it's already broke you can't make it worse. I lived by that and now I'm the guy that can fix anything.
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Guess my husband is an outlier in this. His mother even told me he was always the kid who would take the broken clock or radio apart, figure out what was wrong with it and fix it, then put it back together and it would work just great. He has picked up so many power tools and other stuff that people have put to the curb for the garbage collectors, figured out why the former owners thought they were broken, generally just ordered a really cheap part from the manufacturer, fixed it, and ended up with a power tool, circular saw, leaf blower, and a lot of other stuff for nearly free (just the cost of usually cheap replacement part). And I haven’t even mentioned the older solid wood furniture he’s picked up, repaired, and refinished, which is now absolutely gorgeous and in our house. Those are talents I totally envy, as I do not possess them and wholeheartedly wish I did. I’ve told him many times that, had he been interested in studying medicine, he would’ve been a natural as a surgeon because he’s so capable at diagnosing, then fixing, whatever is broken in a machine—-a talent for understanding how all the parts of something fit together to make the entire machine work like it’s supposed to—-that can translate to fixing and/or replacing whatever is broken in a human body.
This is true. But it is instinct with some of us. Being born with a mechanical ability to see how things work together and why, I have that. However, I know lots of men that don't know which end of a screw driver to hold.
And not necessarily a gendered thing. When I was a kid I disassembled and put back together my electric alarm clock just to see how it was made and if I could. It still worked. Different people have the inclination towards different things, I wish our culture would stop pushing "gender norms" that assign who can be interested in what.
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This is one of those stereotypes mentions above in a different post. Just cuz your a guy doesn't mean we automatically know how to build or fix things.
As an engineer, can confirm. Also, when taking something apart sometimes there's no logical reason visible for why it's broken and so you put it back together and it works, this is called FM in trades- F*cking Magic
I've been a Marine Engineer, a motor-vehicle mechanic, a welder, a computer hardware technician, and a travel photographer. I used to assume that many people could do that, and it still amazes me how few people actually can. My therapist said that it's common with autistic people, so there's a trade-off. More Tech-Q to offset the lower EQ, I suppose.
My dad set the bar high. That man really could fix or MacGiver anything.
I have almost always been the one to fix things in relationships. In my current relationship I fix all the broken things in my house.
Unlike Felix Fix-it, we are more destructive with hammers than constructive.
I’m a large custom home builder so people are always asking me to fix stuff but I’m just smart enough to hire guys who actually know how to do things.
😂🤣my uncle all day. Hopefully he remembers how to put in back together. One time, he "fixed" a loose door and when my cousin went to open the door, it fell off the hinges 😂🤣 my aunt ended up changing the hinges and fixed it lol
My late father put the proverbial screwdriver in my hand as I was a child. I'm thankful for that every day, because not every boy gets that chance in their formative years.
Well... I mean pulling things apart and putting them back together again is how we learn how things work and how to fix them, so .. But yea, no, we don't just automatically know how things work and how to fix them from birth, that's true. I don't think ANY man does. Also pretty sure women can learn how to fix things too. OP might wanna give it a shot!
I'm going to brag here. My wife knows there is nothing that I can't fix. House, car, computers, electronics, furniture, animals whatever. I can fix it and probably have the tools. I'm not handsome but I am handy. That's how I married a woman far out of my league. She says I'm handsome but it's because I can fix the dishwasher and load it properly.
More than fixing things, we're curious enough to dismantle them and learn how they work.
Taking apart and putting back together is the physical equivalent of turning the power off and back on again. The success rate like is likely similar…surprisingly high.
That's how I fix stuff too. Take apart everything, use ultra instinct, fix the problem.
That's exactly HOW you learn though... By tearing it apart and having to put it back together, you inevitably learn how it works, and therefore learn how to fix it.
That depends, I can look at mechanical things and easily see how they work. Now when I need a new part, everyone's screwed. I can't research parts for the life of me.
It's true. But there's a technical approach in that. When you take stuff apart, you might notice that something doesn't look right. Most of the times we happen to find that.
It is like the IT saying "Have you tried turning it off and on again?" It is amazing how many broken things can be fixed by just taking it apart and putting it back together again. Often, the broken bits become really obvious but sometimes something is just dirty or misaligned.
Tearing down and reassembling mechanisms is a valuable experience, teaches observation, patience, commitment, thoughtfulness, dexterity, sensitivity, delicacy with fragile items, previsualisation, and perseverance. Med students disassemble (and dont actually reassemble... mostly) cadavers. There's formal training for the critical, intricate or novel stuff, but naive tinkering and curiosity is how guys generally get started.
I will add that men have more logical brains that are suited to investigating how to fix things and so many do have a natural aptitude but yes, everything takes learning and practice.
Take it apart, clean the parts, put it back together. Works surprisingly often.
same thing as thinking just because she;s a woman she can cook. *there goes my account*
I've often had been get offended because I know more about fixing vehicles than they did, and I could replace a waher hose and breakers/fuses without help, and fix a vacuum cleaner and install a ceiling fan...🤷♀️
I'm pretty handy but nobody else in my family was. I was curious and started out by simply taking things apart and then trying to put them back together. It ended one of two ways- either it worked or it didn't! Or it never got put back together at all. But that is how I learned. The interwebs make it much easier but it was but a dream when I was a kid.
Sometimes that works, sometimes you end up with a pile disassembled lawn equipment parts. Sorry dad.
The trick is learning how to recognize what is out of place, and how to sort it out properly. Good diagnostic skill comes from understanding how something works at a fundamental level.
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It's generational too. I don't expect anyone - regardless of gender - to know how to fix stuff, if they are under 30. It's not a skill I feel parents teach their children anymore. Like sewing and mending clothes.
Today we are taught to throw any malfunctioning widget in the landfill and replace it with an even cheaper widget from China. Oh, and then brag about how f*****g green we are.
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Pull it apart (carefully,) have a look at how it works, figure out why it doesn't work, change that, put it back together. (This process has been made a LOT easier with the advent of digital photography. )
My husband is MacGuyver lol the guy can fix anything!! When we met, my power window on my car broke, and he fixed it for me. That was when I knew he was a keeper! Even better? He taught me how to fix a lot of things too!! I'm Mrs. MacGuyver, lol
There's nothing magical about my penis that let's me fix things. I just look up YouTube videos, then get to work.
I have actual anxiety dreams where I'm expected to do something I have no clue about.
If you pull something apart and are able to put it back together it means you understand how it works, hence you are capable of fixing it.
This is the dumbest on here. You're right most men can't fix things so they won't even try or will just buy a new one.
At my first job, I used to work mostly with women, then switched to IT and now it’s mostly men. I was surprised to learn that guys don’t hold a grudge as much as the women I worked with did. We’d have an argument on Friday, I was worked up about it all weekend and worried how it would affect our future relationship, then come Monday and boom…nothing. They genuinely seemed like they let it go. It’s a pretty sweet thing.
Most times it's easier just to let it go ..... No drama. Failing that a good fist fight solves most petty squabbles.
That they want to be loved as badly as we do and they’re also mushy gushy
I make no secret about this. My greatest dream has always been to have someone to share my life with.
Not surprising but i’m shocked that some women genuinely don’t think men suffer from mental health problems. I’ve heard “he’s lazy” or “he expects the woman to do everything” when 60% of the time it’s just him being depressed as s**t.
I can confirm. Sometimes you just don't want to get out of bed or do something because you just can't.
The fact that men really are physically stronger. I always assumed this was purely based on size but I'm a woman who works out every day (lifts weights, yoga, jogging/peloton.) My older brother doesn't exercise outside of an occasional hike. He's 4inches taller than me and 10 lbs lighter than I am (I'm a dress size 0 or 2.) He's faster than me on a hike (including backpacking) and can lift up heavier things. It makes me SO angry.
That most men don’t care that your stomach isn’t flat.
When they say they don't know why they feel a certain way they ACTUALLY don't know. I find it crazy and I couldn't trust it the first times.
Well we're told to "man up" or whatever from such a young age, it's not even not knowing why we feel a certain way. It's not even understanding what we're feeling.
That if you show them exactly how much you appreciate them they are more likely to be motivated to complete a task than if you nag them.
They only pretend to not like gentle affection. Lay your head in my lap and let me pet you you know you like it you fall asleep within minutes.
We're like dogs really! We'd like nothing more than to curl up on the sofa, head on your lap, and get stroked while we doze.
that they have a whole set of unsaid rules about where to pee in public bathrooms
I am constantly floored by how little some men know about their close friends’ lives! I know multiple men who speak to their best friends super regularly, but could not say with certainty if they’re single, what kind of work they do/where they work, etc. I don’t understand it at all, but I just keep meeting men like this.
Some actually want a real relationship and not just f**k
Actually, most of us chaps who managed to get to being a grown up (at whatever age) want precisely that, some of us are actually an ickle bit romantic too x
That 80% of the time they concretely mean exactly what they say, which is why only 20% of the time they understand what I’m saying.
So, knowing this, why wouldn't you (a woman) say what you mean? why play games? why want them to read your mind? why getting pissed at them for something you saw in your sleep? And after all, complain about not having proper communication... This is not always the case, but i have seen it over and over between many couples
when they wake up, they just sit down and stare at nothing for a good 5 minutes...
That when a guy is invested in a girl they are oblivious to other flirting women.
When my husband and I were still dating I saw women hitting on him so bad and he not realizing these women were hitting on him was jaw dropping.
Me: what do those 2 girls wanted? (All dresse up with drinks in their hand)
Edit2: girls were all smiling, giggling and doing the hair thing. And I kept an eye on those 2... they did not go to the restroom after talking to him.
My husband: they wanted to know where the bathrooms were.
Me: dude, these women knew where the bathrooms are, they just wanted to make small talk with you.
My husband: nah, i told the the bathrooms were over there.
Me: 🤯
He was being nice. He realises. And it's weird, because the minute you're in a relationship as a guy, it seems women start throwing themselves at you. Whether it's because without the nerves of chatting up you notice signals more, or that being in a relationship makes you more attractive to women, I really have no idea.
You guys really can love and be faithful
Considering the environment I grew up, that’s surprising
We can, more than we're given credit for actually lol (I do acknowledge however that it's not all of us).
Men like things that women seem to be insecure about
The man in the photo is leading the woman up to the edge of an erupting volcano. We do that stuff all the time.
how much they touch you
my boyfriend won’t let me sit away from him when we’re together (long distance pain :,) and he’d be touching me in some way- hand on my leg, twisting my hair with his fingers, holding my wrist while he scrolls on his phone or looming over my shoulders while I eat and on. I find it funny when while standing he absent-mindedly holds my waist instead of keeping his hand on his xD
Sometimes its good to just "fade out" you know. Let the brain go on autopilot and not think about anything "important".
ProTip: take heed of surroundings -- do not stumble over walkway obstructions.
It took me way too long to notice public bathrooms don't keep toilet paper near urinals and the implications of that scar me to this day.
I learned something! Men prefer oval shaped toilets over round so they have somewhere to put their dangly bits! I had no clue round toilets caused squishing before we bought a new toilet. Husband hasn't shut up about how much roomier it is. Might have something to do with how hilarious the convos get though!
Is Bored Panda part of the Reddit Company? I've also seen shared posts on the Chive Nation from here too and Vice Versa. Are all media outlets merging? It's so boring seeing the same posts on different media platforms ...
they copypaste off reddit. I prefer it here because reddit is really hard to follow with the indents and indents...
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I concur with the frustration of how men are so often naturally physically gifted. I also lift weights, work out, do strong girl things, but can't hold a candle compared to even skinny dudes! It's really annoying. I can still win arm wrestling contests against my 9yo son but I know even those days are numbered!
This is why transwomen beat women in sports but you will never see a transman even make it into the men's team.
Load More Replies... As much as i like this article, none of it is new info LOL. upvote anyway
Ay other men out there dislike for women to wear high heels? Or just not care? You couldn't design a dumber, barely functional shoe. Yet I get told all the time how men love them, but I have always suspected it is more of a competition among women.
Personally, I hate high heels. The clacking sound they make sends a chill up my spine.
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It’s nice to see more mention of men being able to be emotionally honest and loving. I know that growing up in the 80s as someone who wore their emotions on their sleeve, who liked tenderness, and who eschewed violence and braggadocio I was often ridiculed my most other boys, most men, and quite a few girls, too, as a “wimp” “p***y” f*****t” etc. I think this is changing, and men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings, not just stifled bags of anger and frustration. I see more and more men that are much more masculine than me, with typical “manly” interests, that can freely express themselves with their partners, their children and their animals. I love seeing some big ol’ bearded biker doting on his little Frenchie in a doggie sweater! That WOULD NOT have happened 40 years ago!
"men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings." Well...not by women.
Load More Replies... It was quite refreshing to read a post about things women learned about men, after seeing so many vice versa. I'd say we need more of these, but really a lot of the items in either apply to humans in general, not necessarily by gender
Nonsense. You're gonna give a medal to Bored Panda for asking about the experience of being male in a male-dominated world? While we're at it, let's ask Sauron about the trials of being an omniscient force of malevolence in a world he has made in his own image. Stop acting like the oppressor's story is as compelling as that of the people they oppress.
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And another round of stereotypes and general assumptions, this time about men. Come on, people are super different, men are much more diverse than the hypothetical "average man". The average man or the average woman does not exist IRL. You really need to look at the person before you.
True, but a lot of these are true for a huge majority of blokes, so I don't feel stereotyped.
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Yeah, none of this is surprising, y'all just live in your own little worlds, don't you? The only thing that is surprising (though I've heard it many times), is the whole "not thinking about anything" thing, I just can't wrap my head around that. Like I already have heard about it a ton, so the fact that it's a thing for guys isn't surprising, but the ability to do that is surprising, I just can't see it
Sorry - what is this for? To cuddle up to the "unseen" trials that men experience? Honey, yall boys got nobody to blame but the patriarchy. THIS IS WHAT WE'RE SAYING. Capitalism, colonialism, slavery - the psychology of these things CANNOT EXIST without the psychology of the patriarchy - the notion that some humans are made for success, while others are made for servitude. It's a lot easier to see a tribe of people as "less than" when you've already made that distinction in your own wife. Barbarism begins at home, kids. You don't like it? Cede power. We're not making these requirements of you. Nobody relates to the "hero" who faces no hardship. If you want anyone to sing when you're winning, they have to see how you behave when you lose. I really don't want to hear about the "unseen" troubles of men when we live in a world where the #1 killer of women is femicide. We are not equal, as men have made abundantly clear. Neither are men's struggles equal to those of the women they dominate.
So when a woman says on TV that women are unfit to be President, who would be at fault for that? If it's her, that would mean women DO contribute to preservation of the patriarchy. I can easily imagine someone saying, "She was indoctrinated by the patriarchy!" Fair enough, but why is indoctrination only a valid excuse for women? Have men NOT been indoctrinated by the patriarchy? Isn't criticizing men for a bad thing and then tolerating the same bad thing from women kind of like holding women to a LOWER standard than men?
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I learned something! Men prefer oval shaped toilets over round so they have somewhere to put their dangly bits! I had no clue round toilets caused squishing before we bought a new toilet. Husband hasn't shut up about how much roomier it is. Might have something to do with how hilarious the convos get though!
Is Bored Panda part of the Reddit Company? I've also seen shared posts on the Chive Nation from here too and Vice Versa. Are all media outlets merging? It's so boring seeing the same posts on different media platforms ...
they copypaste off reddit. I prefer it here because reddit is really hard to follow with the indents and indents...
Load More Replies... I concur with the frustration of how men are so often naturally physically gifted. I also lift weights, work out, do strong girl things, but can't hold a candle compared to even skinny dudes! It's really annoying. I can still win arm wrestling contests against my 9yo son but I know even those days are numbered!
This is why transwomen beat women in sports but you will never see a transman even make it into the men's team.
Load More Replies... As much as i like this article, none of it is new info LOL. upvote anyway
Ay other men out there dislike for women to wear high heels? Or just not care? You couldn't design a dumber, barely functional shoe. Yet I get told all the time how men love them, but I have always suspected it is more of a competition among women.
Personally, I hate high heels. The clacking sound they make sends a chill up my spine.
Load More Replies... It’s nice to see more mention of men being able to be emotionally honest and loving. I know that growing up in the 80s as someone who wore their emotions on their sleeve, who liked tenderness, and who eschewed violence and braggadocio I was often ridiculed my most other boys, most men, and quite a few girls, too, as a “wimp” “p***y” f*****t” etc. I think this is changing, and men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings, not just stifled bags of anger and frustration. I see more and more men that are much more masculine than me, with typical “manly” interests, that can freely express themselves with their partners, their children and their animals. I love seeing some big ol’ bearded biker doting on his little Frenchie in a doggie sweater! That WOULD NOT have happened 40 years ago!
"men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings." Well...not by women.
Load More Replies... It was quite refreshing to read a post about things women learned about men, after seeing so many vice versa. I'd say we need more of these, but really a lot of the items in either apply to humans in general, not necessarily by gender
Nonsense. You're gonna give a medal to Bored Panda for asking about the experience of being male in a male-dominated world? While we're at it, let's ask Sauron about the trials of being an omniscient force of malevolence in a world he has made in his own image. Stop acting like the oppressor's story is as compelling as that of the people they oppress.
Load More Replies... And another round of stereotypes and general assumptions, this time about men. Come on, people are super different, men are much more diverse than the hypothetical "average man". The average man or the average woman does not exist IRL. You really need to look at the person before you.
True, but a lot of these are true for a huge majority of blokes, so I don't feel stereotyped.
Load More Replies... Yeah, none of this is surprising, y'all just live in your own little worlds, don't you? The only thing that is surprising (though I've heard it many times), is the whole "not thinking about anything" thing, I just can't wrap my head around that. Like I already have heard about it a ton, so the fact that it's a thing for guys isn't surprising, but the ability to do that is surprising, I just can't see it
Sorry - what is this for? To cuddle up to the "unseen" trials that men experience? Honey, yall boys got nobody to blame but the patriarchy. THIS IS WHAT WE'RE SAYING. Capitalism, colonialism, slavery - the psychology of these things CANNOT EXIST without the psychology of the patriarchy - the notion that some humans are made for success, while others are made for servitude. It's a lot easier to see a tribe of people as "less than" when you've already made that distinction in your own wife. Barbarism begins at home, kids. You don't like it? Cede power. We're not making these requirements of you. Nobody relates to the "hero" who faces no hardship. If you want anyone to sing when you're winning, they have to see how you behave when you lose. I really don't want to hear about the "unseen" troubles of men when we live in a world where the #1 killer of women is femicide. We are not equal, as men have made abundantly clear. Neither are men's struggles equal to those of the women they dominate.
So when a woman says on TV that women are unfit to be President, who would be at fault for that? If it's her, that would mean women DO contribute to preservation of the patriarchy. I can easily imagine someone saying, "She was indoctrinated by the patriarchy!" Fair enough, but why is indoctrination only a valid excuse for women? Have men NOT been indoctrinated by the patriarchy? Isn't criticizing men for a bad thing and then tolerating the same bad thing from women kind of like holding women to a LOWER standard than men?
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