As many of you probably know, men are definitely from Mars and women are from Venus. Even if you have not read the book of the same name, it is already clear to everyone that male and female types of thinking are quite different, while each of the genders has its own specific features and behaviors.
Any communication with another person is a continuous process of study, analysis and simple curiosity (unless, of course, we are so selfish that we always listen only to our feelings and reactions). And so, in the process of such a study, even the most sophisticated people sometimes discover incredible interesting facts about others, which can be especially interesting if these facts concern another gender.
Recently, a question was asked in the AskReddit community on exactly this topic, addressed exclusively to women. It sounded like: "Women, what is a surprising fact you discovered about men?" We are not at all sure that among the people who wrote over 8.8K comments in just under two weeks were exclusively women, however, the resulting thread has already gained about 9.3K upvotes, and there are really a lot of different interesting discoveries.
Bored Panda has compiled for you a selection of the most unexpected, discouraging, funny and simply the most popular comments from the original thread, so now please feel free to scroll to the very end of this list, mark the submissions that are most interesting to you, and of course, share your own discoveries - if you're a woman. If a man - well, introspection can also bring a lot of great things, while comments are always welcome.
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Many men get an erection in the morning. Morning moves around the globe every 24 hours. This means that there is an erection wave that has been going around the globe without end since the beginning of any species with which this started.
That men rarely ever receive compliments in their lives. I purposely go out of my way to express even the smallest compliments in case they haven’t heard one for a long time.
That they suffer from gender stereotyping too.
That they are not criticizing women’s bodies as much as women are led to believe (maybe by themselves or whomever is driving this culture). They are far more acceptant of how women look like naturally than women themselves. This was such a game changer for me.
Well, growing up in a southern country town here in the U.S. A lot of my female friends never wore makeup and were more interested in shooting sports. They were always the most beautiful when they were just doing what they wanted and not focusing on their appearance. We had beauty pagents and stuff, high school girls that were obsessed with looks and all, but I never saw the appeal of that. They looked much better natural with the confidence that they were more than their appearance.
no man has ever said, "You'd be prettier with long eyelashes and blue eyelids."
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I'm a bartender and I hear men say some pretty ugly things about women when speaking to each other. The latest one was a guy talked about how cool a girl he dated was, but that she wasn't hot enough and he thinks he'd end up cheating. And another was a guy trashing his friends new GF for having bad hair. I realize that most guys aren't doing this regularly, but the things I hear at work make me never want to date again.
I think you get the worst type though. A very niche sub-group.The types of guys who hang at the bar and criticise women. My friends, though we go to bars, just never do that.
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9 out of 10 times I would prefer no (or at least unnoticeable) make-up. And you could be the most beautiful person in the outside, but a bad personality will turn you into a troll in a nanosecond. If you think your value is tied entirely to your appearance, then you're most likely just going to end up unhappy.
Yep...unattractive inside can ruin an attractive outside.
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I'd love to hear from the men on BP about this. This would be good information for women to have.
As a man, I can confirm. Its really only the jerks (who unfortunately tend to be the loudest) that are super critical of girls. We're a lot more likely to go "wow, she's beautiful" than any sort of criticism.
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That's mostly true...but there are some men who are as obsessed with appearances as much as women...I was lucky to have had a grandmother who, when I was very young, taught me beauty comes from within, not from a bottle of foundation or a pot of lip gloss...we're most beautiful when we're our authentic selves and comfortable in our own bodies...confidence is beautiful; loving yourself is beautiful...our culture doesn't make that easy but we're learning ❤️
A lot of these comments are really sweet and they're making me tear up. I'm still in my early 20's but I've spent most of my life hating my body/physically appearance. There's so many things I did to myself that I wish I could take back. I've been single my whole life and I used to think it was because I was unattractive, which led to developing ED's and other unhealthy habits. I now realize it's because I come off very intense as it takes me a long time to be comfortable and open around new people, but I used to think it was all because I wasn't "pretty" enough
Now you know and you can approach with confidence instead of intensity...you can do this!
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Wait a moment... You mean, you're here on a progressive, partly feminist website with all the posts about relationships, red flags and other stuff like this and didn't know this? Okay, than let me tell you something: the more a guy is interested how you look, the less he's interested in who you are. But most guys really don't give a f*ck what you a*s or tits or belly look like, with clothes or without.
Honestly, every time I watch reality TV I always think the women are incredibly beautiful in the morning sections of the show before they have a chance to put on makeup. And then they put on makeup and are unrecognizable and all look exactly the same.
Most men don't even notice whether a woman is wearing make-up or not. Or has just spent a fortune at the hair salon, or nail salon. We just don't care. If women tell us they had just spent half a day at the spa, we assume it is self-therapy thing with their girlfriends.
Tell that to all the jerks I’ve met. I’ve never heard a man say anything remotely positive about me.
Swim in a different pool where you are more appreciated...there will be guys that aren't jerks
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criticizing women’s bodies comes from the fashion scene which women seem to love. It's those tabloïds who are often the cause. You have to look like this, wear that, put on makeup, hairstyle etcetera. Basically it are these tabloïds women love to read that provide the basic ground for body shaming.
Yep! When I was a teenager, my best friends were all guys and I would never hear them picking apart a girl when talking about them to me. I'm sure they said worse things when they weren't around me but men are simple. They notice like 10 times less than women lol
If you have ever worked in a bar or as serving staff at a restaurant- or just listened in when your boyfriends friends came over for a beer - you wouldn't believe this statement. The conversation in men's circles describe women as a collection of body parts. This I say from experience.
I already knew this but women are more sensitive to that especially as you get older. I'm not going to lie there is a natural young glow women do have that is attractive no mater how you slice it. I mean aging women are beautiful too don't me wrong, but i can see that clear as day everytime i look at my daughter growing more more - i'm just in aww
I'm calling BS I'm FTM and once I started to pass and be seen like "one of the guys" I was shocked by all the gossiping about women. What I've seen is guys are more likely than women to gossip and critic people's appearance. There are a few differences don't get me wrong. Guys tend to critique everyone not just the gender they are attracted to or the opposite gender, we will critique women, men, oneself, our friends, our partner, someone in that same conversation, kids, elderly, your damn dog, literally everything but when we do it it's not because we don't accept looks it's just something that happens. When a guy criticizes a woman (or anyone, really) it doesn't mean they don't accept the way that they look, it's just part of culture. We do tend to keep this conversation strictly among guys cause we are more likely to be considered "creeps" and the like. Bottomline is we do criticize (everyone) but that doesn't reflect on acceptance. Also straight men seem to prefer (what they think is) a natural look not knowing in most cases it's even more effort than looking "fake" (we queer men are even more complicated)
I wish that more women (especially young women) would "own" their bodies, their looks, and the aging process. Women kowtow to the media and to artificial "celebrities" when it comes to those topics. Real beauty has nothing to do with makeup and plastic surgery.
This depends greatly on class and income and region and so many other factors.
I am a female and went to a strip club with a male friend. What we women perceive as an imperfection (stretch marks) men don't notice/care. Katt Williams does an awesome take on this.
Ask a man what kind of eyebrows he finds attractive. Hell most likely give you a confused look. This might make you realize that many of the beauty things women do are unnoticed by men.
I don’t know any man that likes fake eyelashes, fake eyebrows, fake hair, fake hair extensions and too much make up. When I met my wife she had none of that and was the most beautiful woman I ever met and now she does all that stuff and I know it’s for other women and for herself.
My personal experience....Men: we don't care or judge women based on appearance. I walk past: Oh I do love a redhead! Did you see her eyes? Look at that a*s! Me: rolls eyes and keeps walking. I'm used to it but to say that guys don't judge appearances is false. Also guys please don't tell me to smile. You have no idea the things I ideal with on a daily basis.
Being engaged to a romantic man has opened my eyes on how men can really see us.
I remember seeing a graphic at university--men, in general, thought the prefect shape for a woman was 10 to 15 pounds heavier than what the women thought was the ideal. They also said that with advertising, this gap was closing....
It's capitalism. Beauty companies profit more when they make girls and women believe they need to change their entire bodies to be considered "normal"
That most (real) man hate all the plastic "enhancement" that is going on today...
I agree that men don’t care about frivolous things; I’ve never seen a guy kick a woman out of bed for stretch marks. But I think it’s a bit false to say men ‘accept’ how women look naturally. Not caring if women aren’t wearing makeup doesn’t make you non-judgmental- that’s like me saying to a guy ‘I am okay with your face, aren’t I wonderful?’ You don’t get a cookie for that. There can also be a passive criticism- especially toward fat women. Men treat fat women differently socially. It's okay to say you aren't attracted to fat/unhealthy women. You aren't required to be attracted to someone. But to say you see them the same is often false. And I wish it we could stop with the narrative that a woman wearing 'natural' makeup is makeup free. Or that she is somehow better or more real/pure than the girl who likes wearing more. Tomboys wearing sneakers saying they ‘aren’t like other girls’ are actually just like other girls. She isn’t any more real than anyone else.
True that. We all like diffferent body shapes - and we NEVER dislike our WAG's body shape :-)
I always say that you may marry the person on the outside, but you end up married to the person on the inside!
The only people who Really go hard at criticising women's bodies are Other Women. I schlit you not, women have uttered 9 out of 10 of every misogynist remark I've ever heard.
Most men don’t actually know how to fix things. They just pull it apart and put it back together again and hope for the best.
Fix-it-ability, like any other skill, requires training. It's not instinctual.
At my first job, I used to work mostly with women, then switched to IT and now it’s mostly men. I was surprised to learn that guys don’t hold a grudge as much as the women I worked with did. We’d have an argument on Friday, I was worked up about it all weekend and worried how it would affect our future relationship, then come Monday and boom…nothing. They genuinely seemed like they let it go. It’s a pretty sweet thing.
Most times it's easier just to let it go ..... No drama. Failing that a good fist fight solves most petty squabbles.
That they want to be loved as badly as we do and they’re also mushy gushy
I make no secret about this. My greatest dream has always been to have someone to share my life with.
Not surprising but i’m shocked that some women genuinely don’t think men suffer from mental health problems. I’ve heard “he’s lazy” or “he expects the woman to do everything” when 60% of the time it’s just him being depressed as s**t.
I can confirm. Sometimes you just don't want to get out of bed or do something because you just can't.
The fact that men really are physically stronger. I always assumed this was purely based on size but I'm a woman who works out every day (lifts weights, yoga, jogging/peloton.) My older brother doesn't exercise outside of an occasional hike. He's 4inches taller than me and 10 lbs lighter than I am (I'm a dress size 0 or 2.) He's faster than me on a hike (including backpacking) and can lift up heavier things. It makes me SO angry.
That most men don’t care that your stomach isn’t flat.
When they say they don't know why they feel a certain way they ACTUALLY don't know. I find it crazy and I couldn't trust it the first times.
Well we're told to "man up" or whatever from such a young age, it's not even not knowing why we feel a certain way. It's not even understanding what we're feeling.
That if you show them exactly how much you appreciate them they are more likely to be motivated to complete a task than if you nag them.
They only pretend to not like gentle affection. Lay your head in my lap and let me pet you you know you like it you fall asleep within minutes.
We're like dogs really! We'd like nothing more than to curl up on the sofa, head on your lap, and get stroked while we doze.
that they have a whole set of unsaid rules about where to pee in public bathrooms
I am constantly floored by how little some men know about their close friends’ lives! I know multiple men who speak to their best friends super regularly, but could not say with certainty if they’re single, what kind of work they do/where they work, etc. I don’t understand it at all, but I just keep meeting men like this.
Some actually want a real relationship and not just f**k
Actually, most of us chaps who managed to get to being a grown up (at whatever age) want precisely that, some of us are actually an ickle bit romantic too x
That 80% of the time they concretely mean exactly what they say, which is why only 20% of the time they understand what I’m saying.
So, knowing this, why wouldn't you (a woman) say what you mean? why play games? why want them to read your mind? why getting pissed at them for something you saw in your sleep? And after all, complain about not having proper communication... This is not always the case, but i have seen it over and over between many couples
when they wake up, they just sit down and stare at nothing for a good 5 minutes...
That when a guy is invested in a girl they are oblivious to other flirting women.
When my husband and I were still dating I saw women hitting on him so bad and he not realizing these women were hitting on him was jaw dropping.
Me: what do those 2 girls wanted? (All dresse up with drinks in their hand)
Edit2: girls were all smiling, giggling and doing the hair thing. And I kept an eye on those 2... they did not go to the restroom after talking to him.
My husband: they wanted to know where the bathrooms were.
Me: dude, these women knew where the bathrooms are, they just wanted to make small talk with you.
My husband: nah, i told the the bathrooms were over there.
Me: 🤯
He was being nice. He realises. And it's weird, because the minute you're in a relationship as a guy, it seems women start throwing themselves at you. Whether it's because without the nerves of chatting up you notice signals more, or that being in a relationship makes you more attractive to women, I really have no idea.
You guys really can love and be faithful
Considering the environment I grew up, that’s surprising
We can, more than we're given credit for actually lol (I do acknowledge however that it's not all of us).
Men like things that women seem to be insecure about
The man in the photo is leading the woman up to the edge of an erupting volcano. We do that stuff all the time.
how much they touch you
my boyfriend won’t let me sit away from him when we’re together (long distance pain :,) and he’d be touching me in some way- hand on my leg, twisting my hair with his fingers, holding my wrist while he scrolls on his phone or looming over my shoulders while I eat and on. I find it funny when while standing he absent-mindedly holds my waist instead of keeping his hand on his xD
Sometimes its good to just "fade out" you know. Let the brain go on autopilot and not think about anything "important".
ProTip: take heed of surroundings -- do not stumble over walkway obstructions.
It took me way too long to notice public bathrooms don't keep toilet paper near urinals and the implications of that scar me to this day.
I learned something! Men prefer oval shaped toilets over round so they have somewhere to put their dangly bits! I had no clue round toilets caused squishing before we bought a new toilet. Husband hasn't shut up about how much roomier it is. Might have something to do with how hilarious the convos get though!
Is Bored Panda part of the Reddit Company? I've also seen shared posts on the Chive Nation from here too and Vice Versa. Are all media outlets merging? It's so boring seeing the same posts on different media platforms ...
they copypaste off reddit. I prefer it here because reddit is really hard to follow with the indents and indents...
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I concur with the frustration of how men are so often naturally physically gifted. I also lift weights, work out, do strong girl things, but can't hold a candle compared to even skinny dudes! It's really annoying. I can still win arm wrestling contests against my 9yo son but I know even those days are numbered!
This is why transwomen beat women in sports but you will never see a transman even make it into the men's team.
Load More Replies... As much as i like this article, none of it is new info LOL. upvote anyway
Ay other men out there dislike for women to wear high heels? Or just not care? You couldn't design a dumber, barely functional shoe. Yet I get told all the time how men love them, but I have always suspected it is more of a competition among women.
Personally, I hate high heels. The clacking sound they make sends a chill up my spine.
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It’s nice to see more mention of men being able to be emotionally honest and loving. I know that growing up in the 80s as someone who wore their emotions on their sleeve, who liked tenderness, and who eschewed violence and braggadocio I was often ridiculed my most other boys, most men, and quite a few girls, too, as a “wimp” “p***y” f*****t” etc. I think this is changing, and men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings, not just stifled bags of anger and frustration. I see more and more men that are much more masculine than me, with typical “manly” interests, that can freely express themselves with their partners, their children and their animals. I love seeing some big ol’ bearded biker doting on his little Frenchie in a doggie sweater! That WOULD NOT have happened 40 years ago!
"men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings." Well...not by women.
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It was quite refreshing to read a post about things women learned about men, after seeing so many vice versa. I'd say we need more of these, but really a lot of the items in either apply to humans in general, not necessarily by gender
Nonsense. You're gonna give a medal to Bored Panda for asking about the experience of being male in a male-dominated world? While we're at it, let's ask Sauron about the trials of being an omniscient force of malevolence in a world he has made in his own image. Stop acting like the oppressor's story is as compelling as that of the people they oppress.
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And another round of stereotypes and general assumptions, this time about men. Come on, people are super different, men are much more diverse than the hypothetical "average man". The average man or the average woman does not exist IRL. You really need to look at the person before you.
True, but a lot of these are true for a huge majority of blokes, so I don't feel stereotyped.
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Yeah, none of this is surprising, y'all just live in your own little worlds, don't you? The only thing that is surprising (though I've heard it many times), is the whole "not thinking about anything" thing, I just can't wrap my head around that. Like I already have heard about it a ton, so the fact that it's a thing for guys isn't surprising, but the ability to do that is surprising, I just can't see it
Sorry - what is this for? To cuddle up to the "unseen" trials that men experience? Honey, yall boys got nobody to blame but the patriarchy. THIS IS WHAT WE'RE SAYING. Capitalism, colonialism, slavery - the psychology of these things CANNOT EXIST without the psychology of the patriarchy - the notion that some humans are made for success, while others are made for servitude. It's a lot easier to see a tribe of people as "less than" when you've already made that distinction in your own wife. Barbarism begins at home, kids. You don't like it? Cede power. We're not making these requirements of you. Nobody relates to the "hero" who faces no hardship. If you want anyone to sing when you're winning, they have to see how you behave when you lose. I really don't want to hear about the "unseen" troubles of men when we live in a world where the #1 killer of women is femicide. We are not equal, as men have made abundantly clear. Neither are men's struggles equal to those of the women they dominate.
So when a woman says on TV that women are unfit to be President, who would be at fault for that? If it's her, that would mean women DO contribute to preservation of the patriarchy. I can easily imagine someone saying, "She was indoctrinated by the patriarchy!" Fair enough, but why is indoctrination only a valid excuse for women? Have men NOT been indoctrinated by the patriarchy? Isn't criticizing men for a bad thing and then tolerating the same bad thing from women kind of like holding women to a LOWER standard than men?
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I learned something! Men prefer oval shaped toilets over round so they have somewhere to put their dangly bits! I had no clue round toilets caused squishing before we bought a new toilet. Husband hasn't shut up about how much roomier it is. Might have something to do with how hilarious the convos get though!
Is Bored Panda part of the Reddit Company? I've also seen shared posts on the Chive Nation from here too and Vice Versa. Are all media outlets merging? It's so boring seeing the same posts on different media platforms ...
they copypaste off reddit. I prefer it here because reddit is really hard to follow with the indents and indents...
Load More Replies... I concur with the frustration of how men are so often naturally physically gifted. I also lift weights, work out, do strong girl things, but can't hold a candle compared to even skinny dudes! It's really annoying. I can still win arm wrestling contests against my 9yo son but I know even those days are numbered!
This is why transwomen beat women in sports but you will never see a transman even make it into the men's team.
Load More Replies... As much as i like this article, none of it is new info LOL. upvote anyway
Ay other men out there dislike for women to wear high heels? Or just not care? You couldn't design a dumber, barely functional shoe. Yet I get told all the time how men love them, but I have always suspected it is more of a competition among women.
Personally, I hate high heels. The clacking sound they make sends a chill up my spine.
Load More Replies... It’s nice to see more mention of men being able to be emotionally honest and loving. I know that growing up in the 80s as someone who wore their emotions on their sleeve, who liked tenderness, and who eschewed violence and braggadocio I was often ridiculed my most other boys, most men, and quite a few girls, too, as a “wimp” “p***y” f*****t” etc. I think this is changing, and men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings, not just stifled bags of anger and frustration. I see more and more men that are much more masculine than me, with typical “manly” interests, that can freely express themselves with their partners, their children and their animals. I love seeing some big ol’ bearded biker doting on his little Frenchie in a doggie sweater! That WOULD NOT have happened 40 years ago!
"men are more and more allowed to be fully realized human beings." Well...not by women.
Load More Replies... It was quite refreshing to read a post about things women learned about men, after seeing so many vice versa. I'd say we need more of these, but really a lot of the items in either apply to humans in general, not necessarily by gender
Nonsense. You're gonna give a medal to Bored Panda for asking about the experience of being male in a male-dominated world? While we're at it, let's ask Sauron about the trials of being an omniscient force of malevolence in a world he has made in his own image. Stop acting like the oppressor's story is as compelling as that of the people they oppress.
Load More Replies... And another round of stereotypes and general assumptions, this time about men. Come on, people are super different, men are much more diverse than the hypothetical "average man". The average man or the average woman does not exist IRL. You really need to look at the person before you.
True, but a lot of these are true for a huge majority of blokes, so I don't feel stereotyped.
Load More Replies... Yeah, none of this is surprising, y'all just live in your own little worlds, don't you? The only thing that is surprising (though I've heard it many times), is the whole "not thinking about anything" thing, I just can't wrap my head around that. Like I already have heard about it a ton, so the fact that it's a thing for guys isn't surprising, but the ability to do that is surprising, I just can't see it
Sorry - what is this for? To cuddle up to the "unseen" trials that men experience? Honey, yall boys got nobody to blame but the patriarchy. THIS IS WHAT WE'RE SAYING. Capitalism, colonialism, slavery - the psychology of these things CANNOT EXIST without the psychology of the patriarchy - the notion that some humans are made for success, while others are made for servitude. It's a lot easier to see a tribe of people as "less than" when you've already made that distinction in your own wife. Barbarism begins at home, kids. You don't like it? Cede power. We're not making these requirements of you. Nobody relates to the "hero" who faces no hardship. If you want anyone to sing when you're winning, they have to see how you behave when you lose. I really don't want to hear about the "unseen" troubles of men when we live in a world where the #1 killer of women is femicide. We are not equal, as men have made abundantly clear. Neither are men's struggles equal to those of the women they dominate.
So when a woman says on TV that women are unfit to be President, who would be at fault for that? If it's her, that would mean women DO contribute to preservation of the patriarchy. I can easily imagine someone saying, "She was indoctrinated by the patriarchy!" Fair enough, but why is indoctrination only a valid excuse for women? Have men NOT been indoctrinated by the patriarchy? Isn't criticizing men for a bad thing and then tolerating the same bad thing from women kind of like holding women to a LOWER standard than men?
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