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What Happens When People Realize How Their Loved Ones Rate Them
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People, Social Issues6 years ago

What Happens When People Realize How Their Loved Ones Rate Them

We are often our own harshest critics, but that can sometimes hold us back. By asking people’s loved ones to rate their level of “success,” this social experiment shows us that we often seem more successful to others than to ourselves.

The video, which was created by Strayer University and Aplus, is part of a campaign to literally redefine the word “success” by petitioning the Merriam Webster English dictionary. According to Strayer University, 90% of Americans associate success with happiness rather than “the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame,” which is the current Merriam-Webster definition of success. If you agree with their campaign, be sure to sign their petition!

The people in the video were often surprised to see how their loved ones rated them, so remember – we should let our loved ones know what we think of them more often and we might often be more successful than we realize!

More info: strayer.edu | Aplus

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LouieNeira
Community Member
6 years ago

I cried because I have no one in my life who will rate me, or cares enough to do so.

NuongNguyen
Community Member
6 years ago

Don't cry , i believe ,someday, you will find a one, who love you enough to rate 10/10 for you :) Let's smile

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AnnaKapalka
Community Member
6 years ago

Please put captions on your videos. My husband is Deaf and I want to show him stuff like this, but without the cc option, he can't understand this. And I want him to, because I would give him a ten.

SimoneArthur
Community Member
6 years ago

Go to YouTube and click CC at the right bottom of the image for captions.

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Rism
Community Member
6 years ago

Deep... So deep T-T *now crying

Martin
Community Member
6 years ago

This whole exercise is stupid, unless you mom was Joan Crawford why wouldn't it be a 10... and of course people will always judge themselves lower than what other people do... and the testers ask for very vague definition of 'success'

Annie
Community Member
6 years ago

This is just...amazing. No, spectacular. You know what? I'm not good with words but seriously, this moved me. Especially the ending.

TonyaFore
Community Member
6 years ago

Absolutely beautiful! I hope my loved ones think just as highly of me as theirs did.

tiwipuspo
Community Member
6 years ago

this is great, thankyou :)

Renatewahl
Community Member
6 years ago

I cried, this is super!

MarwanMahdy
Community Member
6 years ago

who cares what other people think anyway -_-

Flob
Community Member
6 years ago

well, it´s cute. but its not really a social experiment since the people rating knew, that they are going to have to show their rating, putting the pressure of not hurting the other one on them. this is not about being honest, it´s about being nice.

LunaIndigo
Community Member
6 years ago

Very heartwarming, thanks dude

BryhtonBeach
Community Member
6 years ago

This is why I made my channel. Honestly everyone needs someone who can give them a rate or to make them feel special. Anyone who watches this just know if you really want someone who will always be there. Come talk to me :) I dotn want you to subscribe to my channle or like the videos I just want to help you in anyway that I can. I'm brabadab. Come look me up on YouTube. :)

laurab
Community Member
6 years ago

Love this

TonyFurlong
Community Member
6 years ago

Maybe this also shows how much we don't really know the person we are around every day.

DavidVincentMirasol
Community Member
6 years ago

that feels trip

SabineHage-Malsch
Community Member
6 years ago

This is wonderful, just heart-warming! And what is more important than the assesment of our loved ones?

SabineHage-Malsch
Community Member
6 years ago

This is such a wonderful documentation, just heard-warming! And what is more important than the assesment of our loved ones?

ChrisMcCurry
Community Member
6 years ago

I do not understand. If you want a false sense of reality ask someone close, the vast majority of the time they will rate you higher than deserved to spare you from hurt feelings. Why would someone want an ego boost like this? It encourages us to not change, to stop growing as a person.

BinjaminGenest-Lebel
Community Member
6 years ago

Because sometimes you simply need it, you need to feel all the work you do for this person is worth something, because all this work you aren't doing it for some random people judging you without knowing anything about you.

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FurnishMyWay_Blog
Community Member
6 years ago

I loved this so much. It's important to remember that the way others view us is different than how we view ourselves. People can be so critical towards themselves, but sometimes such criticism is unnecessary.

ElisaClanetti
Community Member
6 years ago

i cried too :) so touching...

SofiaAviv
Community Member
6 years ago

I cry because i know id rate my self like 3 and my mom would 1 lol. Still trying trying to get more points from my self though..

PetraGrünwaldová
Community Member
6 years ago

It's similar with me and my father :-/

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MrPositive
Community Member
6 years ago

Ok, I really liked that one. Made me cry.

IrinaHm
Community Member
6 years ago

I cried with joy

guess
Community Member
6 years ago

woof. Soul just took a deep, shuddering breath that moved all my internal organs...... cuz that stuff there is some deep soul searching stuff. Dang. ...Dang. It really makes you think, doesn't it? I support their cause, success is about so much more than material possessing. Dang.

AdityaGogia
Community Member
6 years ago

Awesome!!

MicaelaOlivera
Community Member
6 years ago

Goddamit, it though i would be able to take it, but the feelings are too strong~ *cries*

PaulCurrie
Community Member
6 years ago

I would rate myself 0.

AndreeaNica
Community Member
6 years ago

It's so sad that the last guy was lying... But the saddest part is that she knew. Watch again and you'll see it.

SteveBowcutt
Community Member
6 years ago

Could be. It could also be that they both are uncomfortable being emotional around others, in front of the camera, and possibly even with each other. That would explain the awkwardness as well, and is what I believe happened. Also, if your self-esteem is low enough to where you rate yourself a 4/10, then you literally won't believe anyone that thinks you're a 10. You would think "oh that's sweet and naive, but yeah, no I'm a 4."

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exilio
Community Member
6 years ago

I don't understand...is this meant to be representational of the American populace? Why are so many people in this video gay? According to recent demographic, gays makeup 4% of the American population...yet they are a large part of this video...is there a bias here?

RobertMiller
Community Member
6 years ago

That girl would be out the door after rating me a 4

Lilian
Community Member
6 years ago

You Didn't watch the video did you?

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RobertMiller
Community Member
6 years ago

That girl would be out the door after rating me a four

vikramarya
Community Member
6 years ago

This is Hindi version of Counting Stars by One republic. Please enjoy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkX8RmFlzDg

NataliaKempin
Community Member
6 years ago

In most cases relatives and lovers will not give any correct mark to your professional success. Just because they love you. I do not know what htis experiment is about: probably just about the reaction of those, who saw that they have been rated higher than they thought. But then it's nothing unusual. If you are not happy in matter of what you have reached, it will not really help.

HeatherAlisse
Community Member
6 years ago

it's about your success as a person and how important to those around you, not where you are in your career

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AlexSteel
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6 years ago

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that biaci gave BF- 4 and he gave there a 10 ....

BjarneJørgensen
Community Member
6 years ago

She rated herself 4 and her BF rated her 10. I think you missed the point here Alex Steel...

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LouieNeira
Community Member
6 years ago

I cried because I have no one in my life who will rate me, or cares enough to do so.

NuongNguyen
Community Member
6 years ago

Don't cry , i believe ,someday, you will find a one, who love you enough to rate 10/10 for you :) Let's smile

Load More Replies...
AnnaKapalka
Community Member
6 years ago

Please put captions on your videos. My husband is Deaf and I want to show him stuff like this, but without the cc option, he can't understand this. And I want him to, because I would give him a ten.

SimoneArthur
Community Member
6 years ago

Go to YouTube and click CC at the right bottom of the image for captions.

Load More Replies...
Rism
Community Member
6 years ago

Deep... So deep T-T *now crying

Martin
Community Member
6 years ago

This whole exercise is stupid, unless you mom was Joan Crawford why wouldn't it be a 10... and of course people will always judge themselves lower than what other people do... and the testers ask for very vague definition of 'success'

Annie
Community Member
6 years ago

This is just...amazing. No, spectacular. You know what? I'm not good with words but seriously, this moved me. Especially the ending.

TonyaFore
Community Member
6 years ago

Absolutely beautiful! I hope my loved ones think just as highly of me as theirs did.

tiwipuspo
Community Member
6 years ago

this is great, thankyou :)

Renatewahl
Community Member
6 years ago

I cried, this is super!

MarwanMahdy
Community Member
6 years ago

who cares what other people think anyway -_-

Flob
Community Member
6 years ago

well, it´s cute. but its not really a social experiment since the people rating knew, that they are going to have to show their rating, putting the pressure of not hurting the other one on them. this is not about being honest, it´s about being nice.

LunaIndigo
Community Member
6 years ago

Very heartwarming, thanks dude

BryhtonBeach
Community Member
6 years ago

This is why I made my channel. Honestly everyone needs someone who can give them a rate or to make them feel special. Anyone who watches this just know if you really want someone who will always be there. Come talk to me :) I dotn want you to subscribe to my channle or like the videos I just want to help you in anyway that I can. I'm brabadab. Come look me up on YouTube. :)

laurab
Community Member
6 years ago

Love this

TonyFurlong
Community Member
6 years ago

Maybe this also shows how much we don't really know the person we are around every day.

DavidVincentMirasol
Community Member
6 years ago

that feels trip

SabineHage-Malsch
Community Member
6 years ago

This is wonderful, just heart-warming! And what is more important than the assesment of our loved ones?

SabineHage-Malsch
Community Member
6 years ago

This is such a wonderful documentation, just heard-warming! And what is more important than the assesment of our loved ones?

ChrisMcCurry
Community Member
6 years ago

I do not understand. If you want a false sense of reality ask someone close, the vast majority of the time they will rate you higher than deserved to spare you from hurt feelings. Why would someone want an ego boost like this? It encourages us to not change, to stop growing as a person.

BinjaminGenest-Lebel
Community Member
6 years ago

Because sometimes you simply need it, you need to feel all the work you do for this person is worth something, because all this work you aren't doing it for some random people judging you without knowing anything about you.

Load More Replies...
FurnishMyWay_Blog
Community Member
6 years ago

I loved this so much. It's important to remember that the way others view us is different than how we view ourselves. People can be so critical towards themselves, but sometimes such criticism is unnecessary.

ElisaClanetti
Community Member
6 years ago

i cried too :) so touching...

SofiaAviv
Community Member
6 years ago

I cry because i know id rate my self like 3 and my mom would 1 lol. Still trying trying to get more points from my self though..

PetraGrünwaldová
Community Member
6 years ago

It's similar with me and my father :-/

Load More Replies...
MrPositive
Community Member
6 years ago

Ok, I really liked that one. Made me cry.

IrinaHm
Community Member
6 years ago

I cried with joy

guess
Community Member
6 years ago

woof. Soul just took a deep, shuddering breath that moved all my internal organs...... cuz that stuff there is some deep soul searching stuff. Dang. ...Dang. It really makes you think, doesn't it? I support their cause, success is about so much more than material possessing. Dang.

AdityaGogia
Community Member
6 years ago

Awesome!!

MicaelaOlivera
Community Member
6 years ago

Goddamit, it though i would be able to take it, but the feelings are too strong~ *cries*

PaulCurrie
Community Member
6 years ago

I would rate myself 0.

AndreeaNica
Community Member
6 years ago

It's so sad that the last guy was lying... But the saddest part is that she knew. Watch again and you'll see it.

SteveBowcutt
Community Member
6 years ago

Could be. It could also be that they both are uncomfortable being emotional around others, in front of the camera, and possibly even with each other. That would explain the awkwardness as well, and is what I believe happened. Also, if your self-esteem is low enough to where you rate yourself a 4/10, then you literally won't believe anyone that thinks you're a 10. You would think "oh that's sweet and naive, but yeah, no I'm a 4."

Load More Replies...
exilio
Community Member
6 years ago

I don't understand...is this meant to be representational of the American populace? Why are so many people in this video gay? According to recent demographic, gays makeup 4% of the American population...yet they are a large part of this video...is there a bias here?

RobertMiller
Community Member
6 years ago

That girl would be out the door after rating me a 4

Lilian
Community Member
6 years ago

You Didn't watch the video did you?

Load More Replies...
RobertMiller
Community Member
6 years ago

That girl would be out the door after rating me a four

vikramarya
Community Member
6 years ago

This is Hindi version of Counting Stars by One republic. Please enjoy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkX8RmFlzDg

NataliaKempin
Community Member
6 years ago

In most cases relatives and lovers will not give any correct mark to your professional success. Just because they love you. I do not know what htis experiment is about: probably just about the reaction of those, who saw that they have been rated higher than they thought. But then it's nothing unusual. If you are not happy in matter of what you have reached, it will not really help.

HeatherAlisse
Community Member
6 years ago

it's about your success as a person and how important to those around you, not where you are in your career

Load More Replies...
AlexSteel
Community Member
6 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

that biaci gave BF- 4 and he gave there a 10 ....

BjarneJørgensen
Community Member
6 years ago

She rated herself 4 and her BF rated her 10. I think you missed the point here Alex Steel...

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