Student Has Had Enough Of Financially-Struggling Roommate Eating All Of Her Food, Buys A Mini Fridge For Her Room Only, Drama Ensues
If you’ve ever had a roommate, you probably have a story or two to tell. Because there’s nothing quite like sharing a living facility with a person you barely know. On some occasions, you become inseparable friends with countless memories to share, but it also happens that you don’t particularly enjoy each other’s company.
There are many reasons why your roommate may be bugging you. The classic scenario is getting your food eaten and this is what happened to the author of this story posted on the AITA Reddit.
Turns out, the 19-year-old student at an expensive college lives with a roommate who isn’t so well off. “She comes from a poor background and has to work because her parents can’t pay her tuition and she doesn’t even have a partial scholarship,” the author explained.
The author was kind enough to buy food for both of them until the roommate’s behavior became unbearable. Read below for how the story evolved!
A 19-year-old student had enough of her roommate eating all her food because she couldn’t afford her own, so she installed a mini fridge to keep her away
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For anyone who’s ever had a roommate, this scenario is not something they couldn’t imagine: you come home from a rough day at work, daydreaming about the chicken tikka you saved from yesterday. But as soon as you open the fridge, you realize you’re not having that chicken tikka for dinner, because someone else just did. Busted.
You start to wonder if roommate food etiquette exists and whether it’s too late to set boundaries. Dr. John Mayer, a clinical psychologist at Doctor On Demand, suggests having the food talk before the move-in day in order to not make things weird for the future. “If you address the subject from the beginning,” Dr. Mayer told Elite Daily, “it sets expectations for the future and tells your potential roommate a great deal about you.”
Someone was wondering what kind of cake it was to cost that much
Living with anyone is teamwork that requires collaboration on both ends. And now that rent prices keep sky-rocketing, and more and more millennials and Gen Z’ers can’t afford their own apartment, living with roommates is the only option. It’s either live close to your parents or big expensive cities, where career prospects and better-paid jobs are.
This comes with some trade-offs, of course. One is less privacy, second is more awkward conversations about household chores and food etiquette. The third is a high chance of passive-aggressive behavior you have nowhere to hide from. Do you have a roommate story to share with us? Hit us in the comments below!
Others expressed their support for the author in the comments
Genuinely hungry and poor doesn't mean eating a whole cake in one day. It sounds like she has binge eating disorder, it's an addiction, and you are not required to enable her. If you are worried about her needing food, buy some cheap staples and leave them in the shared fridge - bread, eggs, peanut butter, carrots, maybe some bananas. You don't need to give her free access to your food if she's going to abuse your generosity.
Genuinely hungry and poor and binge eating aren't mutually exclusive, but they actually occur together a lot because the eating patterns that are survival strategies when there isn't enough food, such as "eat as many calories as you can bc you don't know when you can get more" are disorders when there is enough food. Roommate needs therapy, hopefully a big expensive campus has student mental health services. Also, there are probably resources where roommate can obtain her own food - if she wasn't able to qualify for financial aid she may not qualify for govt food assistance, but a large expensive university likely is in a big enough city to have a wide variety of religious or community groups that have food pantries or hot meals with no restrictions (Most Sikh temples, for example, offer free daily meals to anyone, as they consider feeding the hungry to be a core religious practice)
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Hell no to that noise. And if I just bought an expensive cake and somebody who did not contribute a dime just ate all of it...her being hungry would be the LEAST of her problems
I’d be livid. She said she can have some, but she helped herself to the whole thing. That’s just greedy, inconsiderate, and selfish.
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I shared a house with an entitled selfish rich kid who did no chores (because he had a maid to do that for him back home) and would drink a 10-year old single malt without sharing while I was drinking out of date cider. Worst of all, he stole my food without asking and thought he was doing nothing wrong. He got chucked out of college after one year for not doing any coursework. I gather he’s still being an entitled selfish prick somewhere in the US. He’s their problem now 🙂
That's clearly someone who's never had to worry about money, thus doesn't appreciate that it actually costs money and time to stock the fridge with food. Jerks for sure. It's a combo of ignorance and arrogance.
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I was wandering how my ancle able to eat one week amount of food, cooked for the grandparents. Mystery solved- he bring a big company. So this roommate looks like that- she feed all her friends fancy food for free. Of course they are angry to lose the source of free delicacies. Girl owe them nothing. And about poverty- one of my classmates passed out because did not ate for days after medical bill emptied her pocket, but did not touch a thing or demand to give her anything, even from friends. It tells about personality, not money amount.
I don't think anyone can eat a WHOLE cake without puking or something. Maybe her friends were helping her eat it. I eat a lot but I could never eat a whole chocolate cake.
Definitely she feed her friends, that why they jump into action immediately
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If she was really hungry she wouldn’t be spending money on cosmetics. Binge eating is spot on if she’s eating that much that they run out of food so quickly all of a sudden. Who the heck eats an entire cake in one sitting?!?
It seems like the roommate could buy her own food, but chooses to spend her money on unnecessary things. It shouldn't matter how much money the OP has, it is not her responsibility to make sure that her roommate stays fed. The OP was being generous by letting this girl eat her food, but the girl took it too far when she ate an entire cake by herself because she was "stressed". If this girl's friends are this concerned about her food needs then they should be willing to buy her some food. This agreement they are talking about was ended the moment the roommate ate an entire two tier cake by herself. Don't let them gaslight you and don't let anyone take advantage of you just because you have money. If she is this poor she should have gone to a community college where she lived. This is coming from a person that went to a community college. It sounds like she just doesn't want to spend her money on her own food.
There’s something really passive-aggressive about eating an entire cake when asked to leave half. She sounds resentful af and self-entitled. NTA
So she has money for clothes but not food...she's taking advantage of you. Not your responsibility to feed her and she needs to get her priorities straight
NTA tell her to quit buying unnecessary c**p and she can buy her own food
NTA roommate read sounds like she may have a stress eating problem. Who else could empty the refrigerator in one day, and eating such a rich cake. But either way, she needs to focus on priorities when she has money. OP isn't a doormat. I think I'd put a lock on that mini fridge because she's going to empty that too.
Btw, it’s your parents who are paying for her food, not you. Do they know this? Is this something they are willing to pay for? Like many free loaders, she knows how to apply the guilt but doesn’t know how keep the demands small enough so the mark (you) doesn’t protest. She definitely has a binge eating disorder as the cake made clear or you are also feeding her friends who are chastising you to keep it coming. Even if you decide to keep helping her, going forward she should not eat anything of yours without your explicit permission.
As a former binge eater, that's definitely binge eating behavior. When you're addicted, you'll do anything for a fix. That includes theft.
I left home at age 15 (looked 21). I worked in a fancy steakhouse as a hostess. I was allowed to take home ALL leftovers from the buffet including bread, baked potatoes, huge chunks of cheese. This is literally all I ate while still attending high school and sleeping at a friends house for 2 years. When times are tough you figure a way to earn your keep.
Just my two cents, because I can see both points of view, as I usually do, regardless of who's right. I know she needs to feed herself,; maybe she needed an ultimatum about what you intended to do first? Regardless;,I certainly agree with your choice to keep your own fridge and keep her out of it. Her friends are way out of line as is she. As I prepare for food shortages, it occurs to me she might be hungry enough to eat basic cheap foods as do most students and all poor people. If you brought her a bag of rice, some beans, tinned meat, peanut butter, and some bread, and noodles, then she's fed if not happy until her next cheque shows up. Gently firmly letting her know that is the end of the charity after that; because she doesn't benefit or learn from enabling.an eating disorder. Boundaries are important and I think you really showed compassion towards her. I have a feeling you will be having issues with your boundaries and her for a little bit, but stick to your guns so to speak.
She is not responsible for feeding her RM regardless of her situation!! In my state low income students are eligible for a small amount of food stamp benefits. It sounds like OP has been MORE than generous. Who relies on a complete stranger to feed them? It doesn't sound like they knew each other prior to school. I wouldn't even expect a good friend to take on the responsibility of feeding me let alone a stranger. I was in a similar situation when I was in nursing school...I had a friend who's parents owned a tanning salon n 2 pizza shops . My friends mom was kind enough to give me a job at the salon which was right across the street from one of the pizza shops. I was only working a few 4hr evenings a week n 6hrs on Saturdays. I was told I could call the pizza shop anytime n order something under 10$ for free. I would only do it once in awhile..I NEVER took advantage of their generosity!! Sounds like RM needs to grow up n prioritize her spending.
Okay, I also grew up very poor. When I went to college, I worked 4 jobs to support myself and applied for literally every scholarship and grant I could possibly qualify for to pay for it myself. I’m incredibly proud that I did it on my own, but I STRUGGLED. And when I struggled, I budgeted accordingly. That is to say, I cooked budget-friendly meals at home, went to parks or free community activities for fun instead of going out to bars (you can easily drop $50 on drinks in one night), I didn’t go shopping, I made my decorations myself and got much of my furniture from “hippie Christmas” (the time of year when students just dump their furniture on the curb and it’s free to take), mostly used e-books since they were cheaper (or used paper books when necessary) and I bought entirely drugstore makeup and cut/dyed my hair myself. if I had a roommate who helped pay for my food, I’d be cooking enough for us both everyday and keeping the kitchen clean as a thank you.
Also, I didn’t go to a crazy expensive private school because I’m not an idiot. I went to a state school. Given, I’m lucky that my state’s flagship university is one of the best in the world, so I didn’t need to compromise quality education due to finances. BUT I still would never have gone to a private school in the first place, unless the school would pay for my entire education.
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NTA. She's sitting on the pity pot thinking about ways to guilt trip you, into buying her food. She doesn't respect you, and clearly doesn't understand boundaries, come on?! She barged into your room! WTF?! Also, her friends helped her eat the cake, also that some jailhouse 💩, con the newbie.
Self entitled people are the worst. Today a large majority of people are very self entitled. Who has the gall to say the agreement was to buy me food? Strange days we are in
Former binge eater! Fact is I ate when I was stressed, but I bought my own stuff to do it. It is an illness and you should not have to pay for it. Best wishes for a resolution.
If she was truly poor to the point of food insecurity, she could (if you are in the U.S.) 1) go to a cheaper state college 2) qualify for federal food stamps. She has a psych issue and her friends are a-holes too. You won’t change her. Be assertive and stand your ground; and move out of there as soon as possible.
Buy Mac & cheese, ramen noodles, hot dogs and buns and some condiments, some fresh fruits and veggies and tell her to make it last! And that's only if you're feeling charitable and she can act like a decent person and tell her friends the truth that you've been her Guardian Angels! Otherwise let her eat toejam!
She could very well have an eating disorder. Either binge eating disorder or possibly bulimia. I can’t understand the frustration of having to rebuy food so frequently, but it may not be in the control of the roommate to stop eating. She needs medical and psychological help.
So what? She's still stealing from OP, Who is neither their parent nor their doctor.
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I'm poor as hell, I make just enough to scrape by, and even then sometimes it's close. I go and donate plasma to make an extra 60 bucks when twice a week. And when even that isn't enough to buy groceries? I go to dollar tree. 3 dollars gets me enough noodles, sauce and meatballs to make spaghetti to last 3 days. Is it embarrassing to pay in pennies and nickels? Yeah. Buts it's far more embarrassing to have to ask for help. That's not to say those who need it shouldn't ask. It's okay to ask when you genuinely need it. But stuff like this? If you can buy makeup, you can buy food.
The entitlement some people believe they have. Nobody ever is ENTITLED to someone elses food, they picked that college, maybe they should have picked a less expensive one. That roommate was far more generous than I would have been. I have kicked out roommates for doing that
Even if I was poor, I wouldn't expect someone to provide food for me. I grew up starving so I don't take food for granted. If someone ate my entire cake, I would be beyond pissed and would have done the same thing and even would put a lock on it. You just don't f**k with people's food like that. She has a job and can buy her own food. She can even try to see if she can get food stamps if it's that hard for her.
Nta-----welcome to the world. Be firm. It's not really your money. It's your parents. I would think they would be concerned about your eating habits with the amount of your food bill. Wow. Make that girl and her friends fend for themselves. Thier meal ticket 🎫 was revoked.
I don’t blame you for buying your own mini refrigerator. People not all but most have this sick habit of using people and thinking they can get away with it. If the tables were turned I wonder if she would have fed you or been so kind I doubt it. She said she was stressed so she ate an entire cake that’s not stress that’s greed. I wish you could get a room by yourself so you wouldn’t have any problems.
NTA. Let her friends take her in if they are so worried about you being mean to her, OP/
Mine is opposite i used to live with rich way richer than me but too selfish i used to buy her take outs and she use to take my stuffs , dress and make ups and accessories she didn't even use to ask , she just am gonna take this i like it but she asks everything return if i use her things even a single penny she use to take a note of it and ask back lol i never seen such shameless and cheap person
You are so NTA!! You've actually resorted to what I had to do in order in order to eat my own groceries. Because, believe me my brother ate everything and then I had no snacks and food. He even ate my left overs from restaurant. So, no! You're not responsible for her. You're responsible for yourself in college. The $120 cake was the line she shouldn't have crossed. I know because I used to buy stuff like that for me. Back at home and my brother wouldn't eat half. Nope! He would eat all the donuts and cakes and pastries I bought. I really hope you find a different roommate. If your parents are rich. Get a solo room at college. I know they offer that. Because, just the struggle of thinking that you're coming home from classes and you find nothing to eat? Cause your roommate ate it? Nahhh That's a mental struggle that no student should have. Poor or wealthy or middle class....
Can't the roommate apply for state sponsored foodshare program (EBT) I don't know the requirements in that state but in my state low income collage students qualify for EBT Even if EBT is not available food Pantries are an option
Binge eating is pretty common when you grow up not knowing where your next meal is going to come from. I have problems with it too, and hoarding food in the house out of habit. it's a struggle but she needs to learn to control it, that's so rude to have a friend that will buy food for you and make no effort to stop yourself from eating all of it when it's not even yours. That's just selfish.
She is narcissistic. PLEASE DO NOT WAIT until you have become much older to realize this. Her parents are probably*glad she has left. Her eating up your food is a representation of the envy and jealousy and selfishness that is eating her up. She is not your problem. You tried...she didn't. It was at the very least *spiteful for her to eat up all the cake🎂. I don't think calling her a binge eater was mean. Aaaand you ANTA. She can sign up for food stamps. We all are dealt cards. How you play your hand is everything. *Learn 🕵from this *very teachable🎓 moment or it will continue to circle back around.😒
Tell them that if they're all that concerned then they should pitch in and help her out that's what true friends do for one another
1. You made the mistake of spending your parents money on food, for both you and her. Your parents are under NO OBLIGATION TO FEED HER. STOP THIS NOW. Do your parents know you're feeding her? It's actually not your money to give away, it's your parents. Absolutely selfish and rude of you to assume your parents would be ok with this. 2. Report that girl to the dean. This is actually theft, at this point. It's beyond forgiveness, this roommate is a train wreck. You need to get her expelled. This is not a joke. You've told her to stop and she isn't.
Can u binge eat a two tier chocolate cake? She shared that cake with her friends.
My 1st year of college my dorm mates pitched in and bought a full sheet cake for our dorm Mother's birthday. When we got ready to serve it, it was gone. We found out later one girl binge ate the whole think. She was a ballerina and Bulimic. It was a HUGH cake and Instill can't believe she ate it.
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What part time job can pay for a whole expensive college tuition and then can still be spent unnecessarily on makeup/clothes/decorations? Asking genuinely, I want the job
First off, you can't allow someone to take the slightest bit of advantage of you. "Give a mouse a cookie" secondly people like this get angry and mean when they know they are wrong. She sounds like a crappy person. Be a friend and buy me food. Nonsense. Thirdly miralax has no flavor. Im sure she could have went a whole day without a entire cake. Omg you are a good person..
This baffles me because I have been in a really dark place in my college years to the point of also hardly affording food but never did I ask a friend for food and even less a flatmate. Also, If I was the affected one I would either inmediatly leave or kick her out instead of buying a mini fridge.
I hope she locks her door when she's not there because this roommate will absolutely raid her mini fridge.
The cake was the final straw, I don't care how much it cost, you specifically wrote a note asking to save half for you. The complete disregard she had for you regardless of stress is showing how she expects from you instead of appreciating your generosity. Then to turn around and bad mouth you to all that will listen, only to have them pressure you to feed her. Please tell them to go fly a kite.
I was very poor in college. I could only eat once a day and have 2 $1 coffees to see me through the rest of the day. Even if my roommates told me i could eat their food i wouldn't have. You are not an ashole, that girl is a thief.
Lmao a problem I would shut down and get the roommate replaced real quick with one who understands that feeding themselves is their own top priority. We have a grifols plasma donation center that pays and I lol up local food pantries. Growing up in poverty, taught me to get creative and hunker down when we must. We do what we got to do. Non essential purchases but yo butt snacking up on my stuff. Smh
You have to set boundaries and be strict about keeping them. I’ve read about more than a few mental health professionals citing that; if you don’t set and keep those boundaries, it’s really your fault for allowing it to go on and on. However she handled it pretty well and didn’t waiver, which is important…although I would’ve demanded compensation for the cake. It doesn’t matter how poor she is, I would’ve started scooping up that expensive make-up and clothes, to be taken as payment for eating everything in sight.
Your got a trash personality roommate. She's sucking out your kindness like a vampire sucking blood.
Had a roommate always eating my food so he didn't like spicy food would give him serious heartburn plus I think he may have had ulcers. Back story felt sorry for the guy he was going through a bad divorce needed a place to stay. He started bitching about my cooking saying it was too spicy. Hey I said you could move in not eat my food. After that everything was 5stars he never ate my food again
Instead of being grateful for your generosity, your roommate chose to be an entitled, I'll mannered hog. I don't blame you for cutting off her supply because you don't owe her anything. And I fail to see why you should have to explain your reasons to third parties. If anyone gives you any grief about it, tell them to take her into their home.
As someone who is a second generation Hispanic and grew up in a 2 bedroom apartment with a dad, 2 siblings and myself. I can assure you I never once asked for somebody's food, relied on them or spent money on unnecessary things when in a financial struggle. None of my friends have either. I chose to actually work instead of going to college because I take care of my family. This girl sounds like a spoiled brat truthfully for someone who is allegedly poor. Makeup is expensive and so are other things if they aren't on your bill nor a necessity.
Your roommate took advantage of you. Sounds as if, she never bought food for herself. She choose to go to the expensive school. I can see sharing or offering some food with her sometimes. But, she made you her sole provider. She binged on your food. To eat the whole cake is just selfish. Once she starts buying her own food, the binging will stop. She will be rationing her food. Your roommate was using you. Tell her friend to support her habit. If the continue to harass you, block them.
See she wouldn't want to see me cuz I would fix her a*s. Make a big bowl of chocolate Hershey pudding and put laxative in it! I bet her a*s stop eating all your s**t then. I had this problem with my brother no less he would eat you out a house and home worked everyday but never brought groceries 😒 last straw was when my grandfather made my daught homemade ice cream for her birthday and my bro comes back and eats half of it left it on the sink and it MELTED! I was hot 🔥 to say the least. I made that chocolate Hershey pudding and let's just say it was a shitty situation lmmfao! P.S. I'm the oldest of six so I'm a little 😈
If she can buy makeup and other non essentials then she can buy here own food. Don't let her nor her friends guilt trip you. You owe her NOTHING! I would of told her NO in the beginning. The nerve of some people. My granddaughter has been working since 16 and saved over 2 thousand dollars because she doesn't want to worry about her first two years of college. That doesn't include the money we been saving for her since she was born. That girl should of been working all through high school. It's called having a plan.
You are not required to supply food to your roommate. I would go to the dean of students or dean of women and report the.problem to him or her. I am certain there are programs that could assist your roommate, or Evey assist you into moving into your own apartment so you do not have to deal with this problem. You have to look after you, and make certain that your needs are met, do you can get a good education, and be successful at uni. You don't need the added worry of taking care of someone else. It's ALWAYS better to live alone than with a thief, and that is exactly what she is. Tell her the food train stops immediately, and you are going to notify school authorities of her THEFT, and if necessary, law enforcement as well. Tell her friends, that if they are indeed her friends, to start feeding your roommate themselves, or f**k off, because you aren't her mother. If worst comes to worst, have the dean of students contact her parents and tell them what is going on. That's why we have pl
Also, I didn't know people could *choose* to get scholarships..... LOL... that comment was so fucken stupid
There's something illogical here. Your roomie is poor and doesn't have a scholarship. Yet she chose to enroll in an exclusive, expensive college. That really doesn't compute.
NTA…. I think the roommate has psychological problems. I have been dealing with a similar problem for years with my sister. She was a highly successful professional for a number of years. After losing her job, she lived off of one brother, then another brother, and more recently off my husband and I. She has not worked a real job in 12 years. She just expects that her needs will be met by others. This is a mental illness. As a roommate, OP is not responsible for feeding her. I think it was very nice of OP to share food with her, but she took advantage of the situation. She needed to get a job!!! She also needed to get a therapist to deal with her mental illness!!! Whether or not the roommate has eating issues is the least of her problems. She feels an entitlement that is inappropriate. I feel bad for the roommate, but she is not entitled to eat your food. Good move on the private fridge. There are food banks/pantries available in most areas of the country. Tell her to go there,.
I've seen people who come from third world countries that suffer from this binge eating. If OP purchase a $120 cake means she is knowledgeable in high end foods. You have someone who's palette was never exposed to the world of rich delicacies. My children today have a very diverse eating habits. Here's the thing my Son worked in the AV department for a 5 Star hotel food in the cafeteria was free for staff and for a guess a few bucks and the food was excellent. But working in AV and setting up meeting rooms exposed him to the fine dinning catered to diplomats, ext. Today his palette is only good enough for the best and he learned how to cook. This student binge eating is a result of her exposure to high end food not no generic no frills items. I'm not defending her she should have had the respect for the OPs generous food expenditure. The roommate was abusive and needed to learn a lesson the hard way.
My parents were both from that side of the tracks. That both had little in their youth. They provided at least well enough for myself and two sisters. But growing up and comparing myself to my school mates, I thought I was poor. I found out what that means when I had to put myself, and later my wife as well both through college what poor really means. Working two full-time jobs, only able to afford one modest meal of fresh fruit and bread a day. But my friends very seldom were able to help. Most has similar straights. Tell your friend to eat it. Pun intended.
This story reminds me of the AITA post about the guy and his wife and the frozen food 🤔
I would install a camera near the fridge to document how much she eats. Stock it with things that can be pre-made on a weekend. A huge pot of soup. Frozen in individual containers.pancakes things that a $stretchers.Ramen noodles. Keep receipts separate of all that she eats and document it. Then tell her you have to budget groceries expenses after you document her expenses.
I had a roommate in college who was bulimic. We knew she was, but had been to treatment before moving in. It was okay for a little while, but then we started noticing that things like an entire dozen eggs or a whole tub of butter would disappear. Then actual food started to go. We all bought our own food, and split condiments/spices. Entire bottles of ketchup, honey bears, Mayo jars, etc would disappear. Finally, we confronted her, she flipped out and ended up back in residential treatment.
If nothing else buy food from Walmart, Aldi and Walmart if she complains ignore her for the main fridge as for ramen protein and vegetables can be added in for a meal even boulin cubes makes a decent broth add 3 or 4 to 2 cups of water and other spices could be thrown in with seasoning packet I once added a fried egg with some cheese and pickle juice with diced pickles it's surprisingly tasted like an omelet even added broth to it then another time I used steak ems meat fried it up and an egg with peppers and onions with pickled juice and diced up pickles with the broth and added a dash of horseradish sauce tasted like a philly cheesesteak or if u want to just crushed up the bag of noodles add in the seasoning packet shake up and eat like chips possibilities with ramen are endless plus there's tons of recipes to be found with ramen as an ingredient feel free to experiment when able
She needs serious help if she thinks you should buy her food everyday they need to learn how to spend money responsible way and how to budget her money or start buying cheaper clothes and makeup and buy her own food how you were generous but she took advantage that's ain't what friends do that's a fake friend they need to learn how to cut down and learn to buy stuff for them selves hell most budget struggling ppl relay on ramen noodles which could be turn into a meal hell walmart, save alot and Aldi are aim at ppl who eats on a budget just need to do price comparison and limits how much she eats cleaning out an entire fridge in 2 weeks is ridiculous I say have her start buying cheaper stuff and have her deal with it while you still keep your mini fridge stock and she pays for her own food
I think the real problem here is that someone from a wealthy family gets a scholarship and someone from a poor background has to pay full tuition. Thats not your fault but I think there is something fundamentally wrong with this. A good education should not just be for the rich.
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Most people don't like a freeloader. It feels like you're being taken advantage of. On the other hand, sounds like the one has loads of cash to spend. So why not carry her cash-strapped roomie for a few years? Just need to buy more food more often. Of course, then it's enabling the other's binging behavior! Either way, it's problematic. Quit school and move back home! J/K
lWhen I was in college and had roommates that stole my food, I got a job working in the college cafeteria because one of the perks is you got a free meal besides a wage. I got her to work there too and so she got food that way.
NTA. For some, stress eating is a thing, but manners and respect are also a thing. Buyer of the food should have their own fridge. Roommate just needs to figure out some type of budget, though difficult it may be, they are only one person.
I wish I could see the face of that b***h who isn't even thankful for what her roommate good deeds for her. She should be like a fat bear. Where bear is better cause they know how to find their own food
Have either one of these people heard of the government assistance program for the poor called food stamps??? This would give the room mate a benefits card that could only be used to purchase food. End of problem.
I have vowed NEVER to live with anyone again. That includes my family. Because of these same issues. People have ingrained habits that are very hard to change. Most of the time this causes conflict. Add to that immaturity and perhaps emotional issues and you have the setting for an unhappy life. I would rather live alone in a dump and have peace of mind than live in luxury and dread coming home every day!
She can live with me. I've not worked in 8 years - living off savings. The food she buys I can eat!! :)
Unhealthy people are just plain impossible to satisfy. This is why you should never agree to be the food provider for someone with an unhealthy diet... eventually you will be fed up with their eating habits.
Like, does this B eat apples and vegetables first in order to curve cravings/hunger/addiction? If not, then don't feed it. Plain and simple.
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As presenter IT sounds spoiled to me. One has all the money needed AND a scholarship even though the parents could afford schoolfees. The other has to work for everything. Do not judge - Share the wealth - help thy neighbour. Let us hear the other side of the story too.
Apparently the rich student got merit scholarships, which are not based on financial need. The poor roommate could have done the same had she applied for scholarships herself. The poor roommate is like a sinkhole that can never be filled and she will probably continue to live her life preying on others. Let her starve, as she is ungrateful and lacks humility.
Load More Replies... When people who are financially stable & come from wealthy backgrounds get full rides to college..... when their families can afford to pay for it....... but then poor people don't & usually can't even attend due to this circumstance......... must be nice. Obviously this is an issue with how our country is run & not necessarily about wealthy people getting shot for free all the time.... but still. If you can afford it. F*****g pay for it. & hopefully someone who can't afford it will get the scholarship. Just saying. If my parents could afford to send me to school & give me all the s**t I want... the last thing I would do is take a scholarship away from someone else who isn't born with a silver spoon.
Seriously...OP sounds like the most entitled, selfish twat.
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Most schools have food pantries, as do some churches… free for those in need, serving a lot of students. No scholarship but no FASFA either?? Seems her “ friends” texting you would help her out each week.
I got a question... What do you buy that goes into your fridge that is suppose to last more than 2 weeks? Usually it takes me an my room mates to finish our food by 2 weeks if not the food goes bad. Id rather have no good than wasted food .. Now if u have unique items an u tell her please don't touch that an she does that's 1 thing i never touch certain things that are my room mates vice versa with them but besides that i wouldn't expect your food to last longer then weeks in your fridge there is expiration dates
Something doesn't add up here. Even if the roommate is working, how can she afford an expensive college without a scholarship if she comes from a poor family?
Something doesn't add up. Even if your roommate is working, how can she afford the tuition at an expensive college without a scholarship?
This girl is not her responsibility because her parents are poor. Use her money to buy food instead of makeup or find a cheaper college.
The first ten years of my adult life were spent eating grilled cheese, mac & cheese, potatoes, rice, pinto beans and cornbread, and baloney sandwiches. I did this in college so I could afford to go, and after I got married we ate that way so our kids could eat better. Go to the grocery. Get her a big bag of rice, a big bag of pinto beans, a loaf of bread and a pound of baloney. Tell her you bought her groceries and how much it was so she can BUDGET her grocery expenses. Take a photo of the receipt and share it with her friends. She should be thankful for what you have done instead of being mad because you stopped. I would be. Every time one of my friends treated me to a meal, I tried to do something to show my appreciation. I cut off and hemmed a lot of pairs of jeans in college. Lol
1. Your parents are NOT responsible for feeding other people. Do they know you're spending their money feeding two people, one of which is not their daughter? 2. Call the dean and get her expelled. She's actually stealing at this point and that is called theft. Yes, there are mental problems at play, but you don't have time for that. Get her the heck out of there and stop wasting your parents money, feeding other people. That's actually incredibly inconsiderate of you to spend their money that way.
So NTA for stashing your food. You know what makes you TA? Going online and dumping out your dirty laundry so people can tell you did the right thing. AIMTA is just a toxic cesspool full of people looking to talk c**p about someone else without looking like they're trying to talk c**p about someone else...and of course free Internet points!
This is absolutely outrageous!! Room mate is clearly taking advantage of this girl. I don't agree with the "binge eating" comment bc I have struggled with ED in the past n I don't feel it was necessary. There are other choices of words that could've been used. That being said it sounds like RM is just a greedy entitled trash can of a person. I mean who relies on a total stranger to provide food for them?! Granted they aren't strangers now but it doesn't sound like they knew each other before becoming room mates. Regardless of RMs situation Its not the OPs responsibility to feed her!! Maybe she should stop buying dumb s**t like makeup n decor n buy some food. Also she should act like an adult n look into assistance. Idk where they are located but i know in my state students (especially full time ones) are eligible for a certain amount of food stamp benefits..its not a lot but its something.
Ladies, we don’t need that much to eat. Definitely not the whole cake in a day. You don’t eat cakes because you are hungry. Couple of potatoes couple eggs and a bit of chicken with salad is enough . We are actually thinking better on empty stomach. You can’t have it all when you are in college
Are you one of those people who believes they are entitled to eat other people's food?
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"...and it costed me..." HowTF did they get into college and on a scholarship, nonetheless?
"You just barged into my room. Your attitude suggests fighting words. Here, let me introduce you to Lil G, my Glock. Now, step out before I have to drop you." Get a gun and some self respect.
Your roommate acting like Danny McBride, from This Is The End. We all got that one person😒who does not care how much calorie consumption their eating in a day. My question is how often are you both living a healthy diet? If not just cut out all the junk food. And live a plant based diet and see where that goes? Not really sure what you and your roommate agreed upon?... You can also just move out and rent an apartment on your own without the hindrance of awful roommates.
Fat folks are often binge eaters. She'll likely lose a few pounds now.
Nobody is getting the feeling that OP is lying and exaggerating the situation to garner empathy and support? Think about it. I strongly doubt that someone ate a whole cake, much less one with a note on it. I also noted how she claimed that she “wants” to spend money on miscellaneous goods; the wealthy never “want” for anything so she’s probably not a good judge of what a want and a need are. Seems disingenuous, but it tracks that all of you simpletons are falling for her ploy. Too easy; like fish in a barrel.
If you buy $120 cakes you can afford to feed your greedy roommate! This was more of a flex because you can afford a fridge in your own room too.
Ok, First and foremost if theres a wealthy little girl whoes parents pay for everything, they are spoiled little bratts, yes sge was nice enough to pay for tbe girls food, but to cut her off after agreeing to help her out was wrong, the go who loves to eat well she feels like wow I can actually enjoy food, and took advantage of it being the other girl agreed, but she should have been more grateful of the other girl being she was feeding her, they are both young and still growing, that stops at 21, but mentally a human brain keeps going unlike the physical, and it peaks at 35, two totally different lifestyles and they do not click, unless you have respect, morals and empathy for others. They are both wrong.
No, the free loading poor roommate is wrong. Just because the other girl is richer, does not mean that she is responsible for feeding a poor roommate. I don't think that she should give the roommate another bread crumb because this girl is using being poor as an excuse for lacking gratitude and humility.
Load More Replies... I have a fast digestive system I tend to eat more than I should but I'm not fat I lose it all with in a day and it's not my fault either.
nearly all of these 'AITA' reddit posts are so pointless and transparent. the author always paints themselves as the saint who does everything right because they want a bunch of internet strangers to pat them on the back and say how much of a good person they are to raise their self-esteem. and people always fall for it.
And anyone who tries to point this out gets downvoted to hell
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it is one thing if they agreed on Op helping her. but the other girl just assumed she can take whatever she wants and that is stealing. she should be embarrassed and not even more entitled. she is using OP. she eats more than she needs. she has money to buy food but chooses to just steal food from OP and spend her own money on c**p.
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But its not OP problem if the roomate needed food. If the roomate needed food that much they wouldnt be spending there money on unnecessary things, but buying food OP shouldnt have too pay a dime for them thay were kind enough to share there food, but the roomate was jsut using them and if the friends cared so much they should be paying for the roomates food.
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Maybe English isn't their first language...Or they're not good with grammar.
Load More Replies... Genuinely hungry and poor doesn't mean eating a whole cake in one day. It sounds like she has binge eating disorder, it's an addiction, and you are not required to enable her. If you are worried about her needing food, buy some cheap staples and leave them in the shared fridge - bread, eggs, peanut butter, carrots, maybe some bananas. You don't need to give her free access to your food if she's going to abuse your generosity.
Genuinely hungry and poor and binge eating aren't mutually exclusive, but they actually occur together a lot because the eating patterns that are survival strategies when there isn't enough food, such as "eat as many calories as you can bc you don't know when you can get more" are disorders when there is enough food. Roommate needs therapy, hopefully a big expensive campus has student mental health services. Also, there are probably resources where roommate can obtain her own food - if she wasn't able to qualify for financial aid she may not qualify for govt food assistance, but a large expensive university likely is in a big enough city to have a wide variety of religious or community groups that have food pantries or hot meals with no restrictions (Most Sikh temples, for example, offer free daily meals to anyone, as they consider feeding the hungry to be a core religious practice)
Load More Replies... Hell no to that noise. And if I just bought an expensive cake and somebody who did not contribute a dime just ate all of it...her being hungry would be the LEAST of her problems
I’d be livid. She said she can have some, but she helped herself to the whole thing. That’s just greedy, inconsiderate, and selfish.
Load More Replies... I shared a house with an entitled selfish rich kid who did no chores (because he had a maid to do that for him back home) and would drink a 10-year old single malt without sharing while I was drinking out of date cider. Worst of all, he stole my food without asking and thought he was doing nothing wrong. He got chucked out of college after one year for not doing any coursework. I gather he’s still being an entitled selfish prick somewhere in the US. He’s their problem now 🙂
That's clearly someone who's never had to worry about money, thus doesn't appreciate that it actually costs money and time to stock the fridge with food. Jerks for sure. It's a combo of ignorance and arrogance.
Load More Replies... I was wandering how my ancle able to eat one week amount of food, cooked for the grandparents. Mystery solved- he bring a big company. So this roommate looks like that- she feed all her friends fancy food for free. Of course they are angry to lose the source of free delicacies. Girl owe them nothing. And about poverty- one of my classmates passed out because did not ate for days after medical bill emptied her pocket, but did not touch a thing or demand to give her anything, even from friends. It tells about personality, not money amount.
I don't think anyone can eat a WHOLE cake without puking or something. Maybe her friends were helping her eat it. I eat a lot but I could never eat a whole chocolate cake.
Definitely she feed her friends, that why they jump into action immediately
Load More Replies... If she was really hungry she wouldn’t be spending money on cosmetics. Binge eating is spot on if she’s eating that much that they run out of food so quickly all of a sudden. Who the heck eats an entire cake in one sitting?!?
It seems like the roommate could buy her own food, but chooses to spend her money on unnecessary things. It shouldn't matter how much money the OP has, it is not her responsibility to make sure that her roommate stays fed. The OP was being generous by letting this girl eat her food, but the girl took it too far when she ate an entire cake by herself because she was "stressed". If this girl's friends are this concerned about her food needs then they should be willing to buy her some food. This agreement they are talking about was ended the moment the roommate ate an entire two tier cake by herself. Don't let them gaslight you and don't let anyone take advantage of you just because you have money. If she is this poor she should have gone to a community college where she lived. This is coming from a person that went to a community college. It sounds like she just doesn't want to spend her money on her own food.
There’s something really passive-aggressive about eating an entire cake when asked to leave half. She sounds resentful af and self-entitled. NTA
So she has money for clothes but not food...she's taking advantage of you. Not your responsibility to feed her and she needs to get her priorities straight
NTA tell her to quit buying unnecessary c**p and she can buy her own food
NTA roommate read sounds like she may have a stress eating problem. Who else could empty the refrigerator in one day, and eating such a rich cake. But either way, she needs to focus on priorities when she has money. OP isn't a doormat. I think I'd put a lock on that mini fridge because she's going to empty that too.
Btw, it’s your parents who are paying for her food, not you. Do they know this? Is this something they are willing to pay for? Like many free loaders, she knows how to apply the guilt but doesn’t know how keep the demands small enough so the mark (you) doesn’t protest. She definitely has a binge eating disorder as the cake made clear or you are also feeding her friends who are chastising you to keep it coming. Even if you decide to keep helping her, going forward she should not eat anything of yours without your explicit permission.
As a former binge eater, that's definitely binge eating behavior. When you're addicted, you'll do anything for a fix. That includes theft.
I left home at age 15 (looked 21). I worked in a fancy steakhouse as a hostess. I was allowed to take home ALL leftovers from the buffet including bread, baked potatoes, huge chunks of cheese. This is literally all I ate while still attending high school and sleeping at a friends house for 2 years. When times are tough you figure a way to earn your keep.
Just my two cents, because I can see both points of view, as I usually do, regardless of who's right. I know she needs to feed herself,; maybe she needed an ultimatum about what you intended to do first? Regardless;,I certainly agree with your choice to keep your own fridge and keep her out of it. Her friends are way out of line as is she. As I prepare for food shortages, it occurs to me she might be hungry enough to eat basic cheap foods as do most students and all poor people. If you brought her a bag of rice, some beans, tinned meat, peanut butter, and some bread, and noodles, then she's fed if not happy until her next cheque shows up. Gently firmly letting her know that is the end of the charity after that; because she doesn't benefit or learn from enabling.an eating disorder. Boundaries are important and I think you really showed compassion towards her. I have a feeling you will be having issues with your boundaries and her for a little bit, but stick to your guns so to speak.
She is not responsible for feeding her RM regardless of her situation!! In my state low income students are eligible for a small amount of food stamp benefits. It sounds like OP has been MORE than generous. Who relies on a complete stranger to feed them? It doesn't sound like they knew each other prior to school. I wouldn't even expect a good friend to take on the responsibility of feeding me let alone a stranger. I was in a similar situation when I was in nursing school...I had a friend who's parents owned a tanning salon n 2 pizza shops . My friends mom was kind enough to give me a job at the salon which was right across the street from one of the pizza shops. I was only working a few 4hr evenings a week n 6hrs on Saturdays. I was told I could call the pizza shop anytime n order something under 10$ for free. I would only do it once in awhile..I NEVER took advantage of their generosity!! Sounds like RM needs to grow up n prioritize her spending.
Okay, I also grew up very poor. When I went to college, I worked 4 jobs to support myself and applied for literally every scholarship and grant I could possibly qualify for to pay for it myself. I’m incredibly proud that I did it on my own, but I STRUGGLED. And when I struggled, I budgeted accordingly. That is to say, I cooked budget-friendly meals at home, went to parks or free community activities for fun instead of going out to bars (you can easily drop $50 on drinks in one night), I didn’t go shopping, I made my decorations myself and got much of my furniture from “hippie Christmas” (the time of year when students just dump their furniture on the curb and it’s free to take), mostly used e-books since they were cheaper (or used paper books when necessary) and I bought entirely drugstore makeup and cut/dyed my hair myself. if I had a roommate who helped pay for my food, I’d be cooking enough for us both everyday and keeping the kitchen clean as a thank you.
Also, I didn’t go to a crazy expensive private school because I’m not an idiot. I went to a state school. Given, I’m lucky that my state’s flagship university is one of the best in the world, so I didn’t need to compromise quality education due to finances. BUT I still would never have gone to a private school in the first place, unless the school would pay for my entire education.
Load More Replies... NTA. She's sitting on the pity pot thinking about ways to guilt trip you, into buying her food. She doesn't respect you, and clearly doesn't understand boundaries, come on?! She barged into your room! WTF?! Also, her friends helped her eat the cake, also that some jailhouse 💩, con the newbie.
Self entitled people are the worst. Today a large majority of people are very self entitled. Who has the gall to say the agreement was to buy me food? Strange days we are in
Former binge eater! Fact is I ate when I was stressed, but I bought my own stuff to do it. It is an illness and you should not have to pay for it. Best wishes for a resolution.
If she was truly poor to the point of food insecurity, she could (if you are in the U.S.) 1) go to a cheaper state college 2) qualify for federal food stamps. She has a psych issue and her friends are a-holes too. You won’t change her. Be assertive and stand your ground; and move out of there as soon as possible.
Buy Mac & cheese, ramen noodles, hot dogs and buns and some condiments, some fresh fruits and veggies and tell her to make it last! And that's only if you're feeling charitable and she can act like a decent person and tell her friends the truth that you've been her Guardian Angels! Otherwise let her eat toejam!
She could very well have an eating disorder. Either binge eating disorder or possibly bulimia. I can’t understand the frustration of having to rebuy food so frequently, but it may not be in the control of the roommate to stop eating. She needs medical and psychological help.
So what? She's still stealing from OP, Who is neither their parent nor their doctor.
Load More Replies... I'm poor as hell, I make just enough to scrape by, and even then sometimes it's close. I go and donate plasma to make an extra 60 bucks when twice a week. And when even that isn't enough to buy groceries? I go to dollar tree. 3 dollars gets me enough noodles, sauce and meatballs to make spaghetti to last 3 days. Is it embarrassing to pay in pennies and nickels? Yeah. Buts it's far more embarrassing to have to ask for help. That's not to say those who need it shouldn't ask. It's okay to ask when you genuinely need it. But stuff like this? If you can buy makeup, you can buy food.
The entitlement some people believe they have. Nobody ever is ENTITLED to someone elses food, they picked that college, maybe they should have picked a less expensive one. That roommate was far more generous than I would have been. I have kicked out roommates for doing that
Even if I was poor, I wouldn't expect someone to provide food for me. I grew up starving so I don't take food for granted. If someone ate my entire cake, I would be beyond pissed and would have done the same thing and even would put a lock on it. You just don't f**k with people's food like that. She has a job and can buy her own food. She can even try to see if she can get food stamps if it's that hard for her.
Nta-----welcome to the world. Be firm. It's not really your money. It's your parents. I would think they would be concerned about your eating habits with the amount of your food bill. Wow. Make that girl and her friends fend for themselves. Thier meal ticket 🎫 was revoked.
I don’t blame you for buying your own mini refrigerator. People not all but most have this sick habit of using people and thinking they can get away with it. If the tables were turned I wonder if she would have fed you or been so kind I doubt it. She said she was stressed so she ate an entire cake that’s not stress that’s greed. I wish you could get a room by yourself so you wouldn’t have any problems.
NTA. Let her friends take her in if they are so worried about you being mean to her, OP/
Mine is opposite i used to live with rich way richer than me but too selfish i used to buy her take outs and she use to take my stuffs , dress and make ups and accessories she didn't even use to ask , she just am gonna take this i like it but she asks everything return if i use her things even a single penny she use to take a note of it and ask back lol i never seen such shameless and cheap person
You are so NTA!! You've actually resorted to what I had to do in order in order to eat my own groceries. Because, believe me my brother ate everything and then I had no snacks and food. He even ate my left overs from restaurant. So, no! You're not responsible for her. You're responsible for yourself in college. The $120 cake was the line she shouldn't have crossed. I know because I used to buy stuff like that for me. Back at home and my brother wouldn't eat half. Nope! He would eat all the donuts and cakes and pastries I bought. I really hope you find a different roommate. If your parents are rich. Get a solo room at college. I know they offer that. Because, just the struggle of thinking that you're coming home from classes and you find nothing to eat? Cause your roommate ate it? Nahhh That's a mental struggle that no student should have. Poor or wealthy or middle class....
Can't the roommate apply for state sponsored foodshare program (EBT) I don't know the requirements in that state but in my state low income collage students qualify for EBT Even if EBT is not available food Pantries are an option
Binge eating is pretty common when you grow up not knowing where your next meal is going to come from. I have problems with it too, and hoarding food in the house out of habit. it's a struggle but she needs to learn to control it, that's so rude to have a friend that will buy food for you and make no effort to stop yourself from eating all of it when it's not even yours. That's just selfish.
She is narcissistic. PLEASE DO NOT WAIT until you have become much older to realize this. Her parents are probably*glad she has left. Her eating up your food is a representation of the envy and jealousy and selfishness that is eating her up. She is not your problem. You tried...she didn't. It was at the very least *spiteful for her to eat up all the cake🎂. I don't think calling her a binge eater was mean. Aaaand you ANTA. She can sign up for food stamps. We all are dealt cards. How you play your hand is everything. *Learn 🕵from this *very teachable🎓 moment or it will continue to circle back around.😒
Tell them that if they're all that concerned then they should pitch in and help her out that's what true friends do for one another
1. You made the mistake of spending your parents money on food, for both you and her. Your parents are under NO OBLIGATION TO FEED HER. STOP THIS NOW. Do your parents know you're feeding her? It's actually not your money to give away, it's your parents. Absolutely selfish and rude of you to assume your parents would be ok with this. 2. Report that girl to the dean. This is actually theft, at this point. It's beyond forgiveness, this roommate is a train wreck. You need to get her expelled. This is not a joke. You've told her to stop and she isn't.
Can u binge eat a two tier chocolate cake? She shared that cake with her friends.
My 1st year of college my dorm mates pitched in and bought a full sheet cake for our dorm Mother's birthday. When we got ready to serve it, it was gone. We found out later one girl binge ate the whole think. She was a ballerina and Bulimic. It was a HUGH cake and Instill can't believe she ate it.
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First off, you can't allow someone to take the slightest bit of advantage of you. "Give a mouse a cookie" secondly people like this get angry and mean when they know they are wrong. She sounds like a crappy person. Be a friend and buy me food. Nonsense. Thirdly miralax has no flavor. Im sure she could have went a whole day without a entire cake. Omg you are a good person..
This baffles me because I have been in a really dark place in my college years to the point of also hardly affording food but never did I ask a friend for food and even less a flatmate. Also, If I was the affected one I would either inmediatly leave or kick her out instead of buying a mini fridge.
I hope she locks her door when she's not there because this roommate will absolutely raid her mini fridge.
The cake was the final straw, I don't care how much it cost, you specifically wrote a note asking to save half for you. The complete disregard she had for you regardless of stress is showing how she expects from you instead of appreciating your generosity. Then to turn around and bad mouth you to all that will listen, only to have them pressure you to feed her. Please tell them to go fly a kite.
I was very poor in college. I could only eat once a day and have 2 $1 coffees to see me through the rest of the day. Even if my roommates told me i could eat their food i wouldn't have. You are not an ashole, that girl is a thief.
Lmao a problem I would shut down and get the roommate replaced real quick with one who understands that feeding themselves is their own top priority. We have a grifols plasma donation center that pays and I lol up local food pantries. Growing up in poverty, taught me to get creative and hunker down when we must. We do what we got to do. Non essential purchases but yo butt snacking up on my stuff. Smh
You have to set boundaries and be strict about keeping them. I’ve read about more than a few mental health professionals citing that; if you don’t set and keep those boundaries, it’s really your fault for allowing it to go on and on. However she handled it pretty well and didn’t waiver, which is important…although I would’ve demanded compensation for the cake. It doesn’t matter how poor she is, I would’ve started scooping up that expensive make-up and clothes, to be taken as payment for eating everything in sight.
Your got a trash personality roommate. She's sucking out your kindness like a vampire sucking blood.
Had a roommate always eating my food so he didn't like spicy food would give him serious heartburn plus I think he may have had ulcers. Back story felt sorry for the guy he was going through a bad divorce needed a place to stay. He started bitching about my cooking saying it was too spicy. Hey I said you could move in not eat my food. After that everything was 5stars he never ate my food again
Instead of being grateful for your generosity, your roommate chose to be an entitled, I'll mannered hog. I don't blame you for cutting off her supply because you don't owe her anything. And I fail to see why you should have to explain your reasons to third parties. If anyone gives you any grief about it, tell them to take her into their home.
As someone who is a second generation Hispanic and grew up in a 2 bedroom apartment with a dad, 2 siblings and myself. I can assure you I never once asked for somebody's food, relied on them or spent money on unnecessary things when in a financial struggle. None of my friends have either. I chose to actually work instead of going to college because I take care of my family. This girl sounds like a spoiled brat truthfully for someone who is allegedly poor. Makeup is expensive and so are other things if they aren't on your bill nor a necessity.
Your roommate took advantage of you. Sounds as if, she never bought food for herself. She choose to go to the expensive school. I can see sharing or offering some food with her sometimes. But, she made you her sole provider. She binged on your food. To eat the whole cake is just selfish. Once she starts buying her own food, the binging will stop. She will be rationing her food. Your roommate was using you. Tell her friend to support her habit. If the continue to harass you, block them.
See she wouldn't want to see me cuz I would fix her a*s. Make a big bowl of chocolate Hershey pudding and put laxative in it! I bet her a*s stop eating all your s**t then. I had this problem with my brother no less he would eat you out a house and home worked everyday but never brought groceries 😒 last straw was when my grandfather made my daught homemade ice cream for her birthday and my bro comes back and eats half of it left it on the sink and it MELTED! I was hot 🔥 to say the least. I made that chocolate Hershey pudding and let's just say it was a shitty situation lmmfao! P.S. I'm the oldest of six so I'm a little 😈
If she can buy makeup and other non essentials then she can buy here own food. Don't let her nor her friends guilt trip you. You owe her NOTHING! I would of told her NO in the beginning. The nerve of some people. My granddaughter has been working since 16 and saved over 2 thousand dollars because she doesn't want to worry about her first two years of college. That doesn't include the money we been saving for her since she was born. That girl should of been working all through high school. It's called having a plan.
You are not required to supply food to your roommate. I would go to the dean of students or dean of women and report the.problem to him or her. I am certain there are programs that could assist your roommate, or Evey assist you into moving into your own apartment so you do not have to deal with this problem. You have to look after you, and make certain that your needs are met, do you can get a good education, and be successful at uni. You don't need the added worry of taking care of someone else. It's ALWAYS better to live alone than with a thief, and that is exactly what she is. Tell her the food train stops immediately, and you are going to notify school authorities of her THEFT, and if necessary, law enforcement as well. Tell her friends, that if they are indeed her friends, to start feeding your roommate themselves, or f**k off, because you aren't her mother. If worst comes to worst, have the dean of students contact her parents and tell them what is going on. That's why we have pl
Also, I didn't know people could *choose* to get scholarships..... LOL... that comment was so fucken stupid
There's something illogical here. Your roomie is poor and doesn't have a scholarship. Yet she chose to enroll in an exclusive, expensive college. That really doesn't compute.
NTA…. I think the roommate has psychological problems. I have been dealing with a similar problem for years with my sister. She was a highly successful professional for a number of years. After losing her job, she lived off of one brother, then another brother, and more recently off my husband and I. She has not worked a real job in 12 years. She just expects that her needs will be met by others. This is a mental illness. As a roommate, OP is not responsible for feeding her. I think it was very nice of OP to share food with her, but she took advantage of the situation. She needed to get a job!!! She also needed to get a therapist to deal with her mental illness!!! Whether or not the roommate has eating issues is the least of her problems. She feels an entitlement that is inappropriate. I feel bad for the roommate, but she is not entitled to eat your food. Good move on the private fridge. There are food banks/pantries available in most areas of the country. Tell her to go there,.
I've seen people who come from third world countries that suffer from this binge eating. If OP purchase a $120 cake means she is knowledgeable in high end foods. You have someone who's palette was never exposed to the world of rich delicacies. My children today have a very diverse eating habits. Here's the thing my Son worked in the AV department for a 5 Star hotel food in the cafeteria was free for staff and for a guess a few bucks and the food was excellent. But working in AV and setting up meeting rooms exposed him to the fine dinning catered to diplomats, ext. Today his palette is only good enough for the best and he learned how to cook. This student binge eating is a result of her exposure to high end food not no generic no frills items. I'm not defending her she should have had the respect for the OPs generous food expenditure. The roommate was abusive and needed to learn a lesson the hard way.
My parents were both from that side of the tracks. That both had little in their youth. They provided at least well enough for myself and two sisters. But growing up and comparing myself to my school mates, I thought I was poor. I found out what that means when I had to put myself, and later my wife as well both through college what poor really means. Working two full-time jobs, only able to afford one modest meal of fresh fruit and bread a day. But my friends very seldom were able to help. Most has similar straights. Tell your friend to eat it. Pun intended.
This story reminds me of the AITA post about the guy and his wife and the frozen food 🤔
I would install a camera near the fridge to document how much she eats. Stock it with things that can be pre-made on a weekend. A huge pot of soup. Frozen in individual containers.pancakes things that a $stretchers.Ramen noodles. Keep receipts separate of all that she eats and document it. Then tell her you have to budget groceries expenses after you document her expenses.
I had a roommate in college who was bulimic. We knew she was, but had been to treatment before moving in. It was okay for a little while, but then we started noticing that things like an entire dozen eggs or a whole tub of butter would disappear. Then actual food started to go. We all bought our own food, and split condiments/spices. Entire bottles of ketchup, honey bears, Mayo jars, etc would disappear. Finally, we confronted her, she flipped out and ended up back in residential treatment.
If nothing else buy food from Walmart, Aldi and Walmart if she complains ignore her for the main fridge as for ramen protein and vegetables can be added in for a meal even boulin cubes makes a decent broth add 3 or 4 to 2 cups of water and other spices could be thrown in with seasoning packet I once added a fried egg with some cheese and pickle juice with diced pickles it's surprisingly tasted like an omelet even added broth to it then another time I used steak ems meat fried it up and an egg with peppers and onions with pickled juice and diced up pickles with the broth and added a dash of horseradish sauce tasted like a philly cheesesteak or if u want to just crushed up the bag of noodles add in the seasoning packet shake up and eat like chips possibilities with ramen are endless plus there's tons of recipes to be found with ramen as an ingredient feel free to experiment when able
She needs serious help if she thinks you should buy her food everyday they need to learn how to spend money responsible way and how to budget her money or start buying cheaper clothes and makeup and buy her own food how you were generous but she took advantage that's ain't what friends do that's a fake friend they need to learn how to cut down and learn to buy stuff for them selves hell most budget struggling ppl relay on ramen noodles which could be turn into a meal hell walmart, save alot and Aldi are aim at ppl who eats on a budget just need to do price comparison and limits how much she eats cleaning out an entire fridge in 2 weeks is ridiculous I say have her start buying cheaper stuff and have her deal with it while you still keep your mini fridge stock and she pays for her own food
I think the real problem here is that someone from a wealthy family gets a scholarship and someone from a poor background has to pay full tuition. Thats not your fault but I think there is something fundamentally wrong with this. A good education should not just be for the rich.
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Load More Replies... Most people don't like a freeloader. It feels like you're being taken advantage of. On the other hand, sounds like the one has loads of cash to spend. So why not carry her cash-strapped roomie for a few years? Just need to buy more food more often. Of course, then it's enabling the other's binging behavior! Either way, it's problematic. Quit school and move back home! J/K
lWhen I was in college and had roommates that stole my food, I got a job working in the college cafeteria because one of the perks is you got a free meal besides a wage. I got her to work there too and so she got food that way.
NTA. For some, stress eating is a thing, but manners and respect are also a thing. Buyer of the food should have their own fridge. Roommate just needs to figure out some type of budget, though difficult it may be, they are only one person.
I wish I could see the face of that b***h who isn't even thankful for what her roommate good deeds for her. She should be like a fat bear. Where bear is better cause they know how to find their own food
Have either one of these people heard of the government assistance program for the poor called food stamps??? This would give the room mate a benefits card that could only be used to purchase food. End of problem.
I have vowed NEVER to live with anyone again. That includes my family. Because of these same issues. People have ingrained habits that are very hard to change. Most of the time this causes conflict. Add to that immaturity and perhaps emotional issues and you have the setting for an unhappy life. I would rather live alone in a dump and have peace of mind than live in luxury and dread coming home every day!
She can live with me. I've not worked in 8 years - living off savings. The food she buys I can eat!! :)
Unhealthy people are just plain impossible to satisfy. This is why you should never agree to be the food provider for someone with an unhealthy diet... eventually you will be fed up with their eating habits.
Like, does this B eat apples and vegetables first in order to curve cravings/hunger/addiction? If not, then don't feed it. Plain and simple.
Load More Replies... As presenter IT sounds spoiled to me. One has all the money needed AND a scholarship even though the parents could afford schoolfees. The other has to work for everything. Do not judge - Share the wealth - help thy neighbour. Let us hear the other side of the story too.
Apparently the rich student got merit scholarships, which are not based on financial need. The poor roommate could have done the same had she applied for scholarships herself. The poor roommate is like a sinkhole that can never be filled and she will probably continue to live her life preying on others. Let her starve, as she is ungrateful and lacks humility.
Load More Replies... When people who are financially stable & come from wealthy backgrounds get full rides to college..... when their families can afford to pay for it....... but then poor people don't & usually can't even attend due to this circumstance......... must be nice. Obviously this is an issue with how our country is run & not necessarily about wealthy people getting shot for free all the time.... but still. If you can afford it. F*****g pay for it. & hopefully someone who can't afford it will get the scholarship. Just saying. If my parents could afford to send me to school & give me all the s**t I want... the last thing I would do is take a scholarship away from someone else who isn't born with a silver spoon.
Seriously...OP sounds like the most entitled, selfish twat.
Load More Replies... Most schools have food pantries, as do some churches… free for those in need, serving a lot of students. No scholarship but no FASFA either?? Seems her “ friends” texting you would help her out each week.
I got a question... What do you buy that goes into your fridge that is suppose to last more than 2 weeks? Usually it takes me an my room mates to finish our food by 2 weeks if not the food goes bad. Id rather have no good than wasted food .. Now if u have unique items an u tell her please don't touch that an she does that's 1 thing i never touch certain things that are my room mates vice versa with them but besides that i wouldn't expect your food to last longer then weeks in your fridge there is expiration dates
Something doesn't add up here. Even if the roommate is working, how can she afford an expensive college without a scholarship if she comes from a poor family?
Something doesn't add up. Even if your roommate is working, how can she afford the tuition at an expensive college without a scholarship?
This girl is not her responsibility because her parents are poor. Use her money to buy food instead of makeup or find a cheaper college.
The first ten years of my adult life were spent eating grilled cheese, mac & cheese, potatoes, rice, pinto beans and cornbread, and baloney sandwiches. I did this in college so I could afford to go, and after I got married we ate that way so our kids could eat better. Go to the grocery. Get her a big bag of rice, a big bag of pinto beans, a loaf of bread and a pound of baloney. Tell her you bought her groceries and how much it was so she can BUDGET her grocery expenses. Take a photo of the receipt and share it with her friends. She should be thankful for what you have done instead of being mad because you stopped. I would be. Every time one of my friends treated me to a meal, I tried to do something to show my appreciation. I cut off and hemmed a lot of pairs of jeans in college. Lol
1. Your parents are NOT responsible for feeding other people. Do they know you're spending their money feeding two people, one of which is not their daughter? 2. Call the dean and get her expelled. She's actually stealing at this point and that is called theft. Yes, there are mental problems at play, but you don't have time for that. Get her the heck out of there and stop wasting your parents money, feeding other people. That's actually incredibly inconsiderate of you to spend their money that way.
So NTA for stashing your food. You know what makes you TA? Going online and dumping out your dirty laundry so people can tell you did the right thing. AIMTA is just a toxic cesspool full of people looking to talk c**p about someone else without looking like they're trying to talk c**p about someone else...and of course free Internet points!
This is absolutely outrageous!! Room mate is clearly taking advantage of this girl. I don't agree with the "binge eating" comment bc I have struggled with ED in the past n I don't feel it was necessary. There are other choices of words that could've been used. That being said it sounds like RM is just a greedy entitled trash can of a person. I mean who relies on a total stranger to provide food for them?! Granted they aren't strangers now but it doesn't sound like they knew each other before becoming room mates. Regardless of RMs situation Its not the OPs responsibility to feed her!! Maybe she should stop buying dumb s**t like makeup n decor n buy some food. Also she should act like an adult n look into assistance. Idk where they are located but i know in my state students (especially full time ones) are eligible for a certain amount of food stamp benefits..its not a lot but its something.
Ladies, we don’t need that much to eat. Definitely not the whole cake in a day. You don’t eat cakes because you are hungry. Couple of potatoes couple eggs and a bit of chicken with salad is enough . We are actually thinking better on empty stomach. You can’t have it all when you are in college
Are you one of those people who believes they are entitled to eat other people's food?
Load More Replies... "...and it costed me..." HowTF did they get into college and on a scholarship, nonetheless?
"You just barged into my room. Your attitude suggests fighting words. Here, let me introduce you to Lil G, my Glock. Now, step out before I have to drop you." Get a gun and some self respect.
Your roommate acting like Danny McBride, from This Is The End. We all got that one person😒who does not care how much calorie consumption their eating in a day. My question is how often are you both living a healthy diet? If not just cut out all the junk food. And live a plant based diet and see where that goes? Not really sure what you and your roommate agreed upon?... You can also just move out and rent an apartment on your own without the hindrance of awful roommates.
Fat folks are often binge eaters. She'll likely lose a few pounds now.
Nobody is getting the feeling that OP is lying and exaggerating the situation to garner empathy and support? Think about it. I strongly doubt that someone ate a whole cake, much less one with a note on it. I also noted how she claimed that she “wants” to spend money on miscellaneous goods; the wealthy never “want” for anything so she’s probably not a good judge of what a want and a need are. Seems disingenuous, but it tracks that all of you simpletons are falling for her ploy. Too easy; like fish in a barrel.
If you buy $120 cakes you can afford to feed your greedy roommate! This was more of a flex because you can afford a fridge in your own room too.
Ok, First and foremost if theres a wealthy little girl whoes parents pay for everything, they are spoiled little bratts, yes sge was nice enough to pay for tbe girls food, but to cut her off after agreeing to help her out was wrong, the go who loves to eat well she feels like wow I can actually enjoy food, and took advantage of it being the other girl agreed, but she should have been more grateful of the other girl being she was feeding her, they are both young and still growing, that stops at 21, but mentally a human brain keeps going unlike the physical, and it peaks at 35, two totally different lifestyles and they do not click, unless you have respect, morals and empathy for others. They are both wrong.
No, the free loading poor roommate is wrong. Just because the other girl is richer, does not mean that she is responsible for feeding a poor roommate. I don't think that she should give the roommate another bread crumb because this girl is using being poor as an excuse for lacking gratitude and humility.
Load More Replies... I have a fast digestive system I tend to eat more than I should but I'm not fat I lose it all with in a day and it's not my fault either.
nearly all of these 'AITA' reddit posts are so pointless and transparent. the author always paints themselves as the saint who does everything right because they want a bunch of internet strangers to pat them on the back and say how much of a good person they are to raise their self-esteem. and people always fall for it.
And anyone who tries to point this out gets downvoted to hell
Load More Replies... it is one thing if they agreed on Op helping her. but the other girl just assumed she can take whatever she wants and that is stealing. she should be embarrassed and not even more entitled. she is using OP. she eats more than she needs. she has money to buy food but chooses to just steal food from OP and spend her own money on c**p.
Load More Replies... But its not OP problem if the roomate needed food. If the roomate needed food that much they wouldnt be spending there money on unnecessary things, but buying food OP shouldnt have too pay a dime for them thay were kind enough to share there food, but the roomate was jsut using them and if the friends cared so much they should be paying for the roomates food.
Load More Replies... Maybe English isn't their first language...Or they're not good with grammar.
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