“No Boring People”: Woman Goes Viral For Listing 13 Rules For Guests At Her Future Wedding
A woman has sparked an online debate after she revealed her list of 13 strict wedding rules that have been in the works since she was little.
Content creator Kennedy Marks, who isn’t engaged yet, posted a video to TikTok where she said she started planning her big day when she was 8 years old and shared all the things she won’t compromise on when it finally comes.
She explained each point, and you can see the woman has put a lot of thought into everything, but people weren’t sure if they would like to attend such an event and the comment section under Kennedy’s clip quickly turned into a discussion revolving around the demands couples can place on their wedding guests.
22-year-old TikToker Kennedy Marks has recently gone viral for her wedding guest rules that she has been developing since she was 8 years old
Kennedy provided plenty of comments for each point but people aren’t sure if they’re reasonable or not
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While people and the way they behave themselves are no doubt important parts of how the night goes, according to the findings of The Knot’s 2021 Real Weddings Study, a majority of couples believe that food and beverages are what they should focus on to deliver a pleasant and memorable experience.
The survey also revealed that weddings are trending smaller, but pricier: the average number of wedding guests in 2021 was 105 (while that’s an increase from 2020’s pandemic-influenced average of 66 guests, it’s a drop from 2019’s average of 131 guests), and in 2021, couples spent an average of $266 on each guest (a jump up from $214 in 2019). So there are definitely more people like Kennedy in that they concentrate on how to spend their wedding rather than how big it should be.
And while, as we can see, everyone has their own understanding of how to throw a wedding, this past year guests were looking forward to them more than ever, as folks were ready to get back to socializing and gladly welcomed a reason to dress up and celebrate.
The original video already has over a million views
@kennedymarks♬ original sound – Kennedy Marks
In fact, 50% of guests said they loved attending weddings (up from 39% in 2019), while 68% of guests were also willing to spend more on weddings (as a result of a year-long quarantine)—most commonly spending more on gifts from the couple’s registry. On average, guests spent $160 on a wedding gift in 2021 (up from $120 in 2019), with the average overall cost of attending one being $460 (+$30 from 2019). Of course, this cost greatly varies by location as guests who are flying to an out-of-town wedding spend upwards of $1,300 on average vs. $270 for in-town.
And Kennedy also made another one to make sure she explains everything
@kennedymarks♬ original sound – Kennedy Marks
In return, couples spend on average $266 per guest (up from $214 in 2019).
From start to finish, couples offer open bars (79%) and champagne toasts (51%) to interactive food experiences (11%) and personalized favors to round out the night (56%).
In addition, nearly 60% of couples accommodate various diets and offer vegan or gluten-free options.
In order to make sure that guests are fully present and enjoying the day, 41% of couples ask guests to ‘unplug’ (up 19% versus five years ago).
And even after the reception officially ends, roughly one in four couples host an after-party (27%) and morning-after brunch (26%).
So while we’re debating if Kennedy’s requests are too much or not, I just want to take a moment to appreciate the fact that we’re going back to celebrating weddings altogether. Yay!
While many of her requests make perfect sense, the reactions remain mixed
I feel old as f**k saying this... These used to simply be common wedding etiquette. (Besides "no boring people," which, she's the one making the invitation list, so that's on her.)
I was gonna say that MOST are just common decency and etiquette. (Except "dragged"...really? Can't just ask nicely?)
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Compared to other (insane) lists I quite like this one. Lots of the points should be common sense like not wearing white and not interrupting the first dance. I particularly love the one about being nice to staff. What bothers me tough, is the fact that she has been planning her wedding since she was eight. I noticed quite a lot women on the Internet from the US, who said or insinuated similar. Something is really wrong with the style of upbringing of girls AND boys there. Do they live in the middle ages, that boys must be strong and girls only fit for marriage?
I’ve planned my wedding since I was about 8 too. I don’t even know if I want to get married yet. It’s just a fun things kids do. My dad actually planned his wedding since he was like 8. For me personally I dreamed about the cake and the dress and such. I think it’s not that we’re only fit for marriage, it’s just because it’s something you can dream about and plan and probably change a million times. There are certainly other things I dreamt about (and planned) too such college, prom, graduation, and other things associated with growing up. I hope this makes sense 😀
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She has been planning this wedding since she was 8? She hasn't even had the proposal yet? This gal is off and running and the starter hasn't fired a shot! Sounds like the dullest wedding ever. Movies of this will be one big yawn. Sounds like the kinda gal who will go to someone else's wedding and do all these things, since she's such an attention seeker. Most marriages end quickly, maybe this one won't get off the ground. Can't imagine what her kids will be like if she ever breeds. Why she has any friends at all is a sad statement of social intercourse today. Not the wedding I would attend . . . of course, we wouldn't be friends in the first place.
I mentioned this same thing before. It seems unhealthy to have these kind of pseudo-princess dreams. This isn't about sharing your union with friends, this is about summoning your friends to admire you.
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She's real serious about her first dance. She should probably add that nobody should talk or move during her first dance and that everyone must clap when it's done...or "you're out, sorry, but no thank you."
I had only one rule at my wedding (besides reiterating the *venue's* rule that if you were late you wouldn't be admitted if the ceremony had already started) and that was "no confetti" - I just really dislike the stuff. Well, my MIL decided she wanted confetti - and practically emptied two boxes of the stuff over us during our first dance, making the dance floor dangerously slippery for the rest of the dance until staff fetched a brush. Now I wish I did have a "no one on the dance floor during our first dance rule"!
Load More Replies... "Reese might not ever want to marry me. Be he is, he's going to have to." Are you planning on trapping him or something?
Lol that was interestingly expressed.. but I also think it's good she knows what's important to her. I've known women who really wanted to get married but didn't want to push it and lived with their boyfriend for 25 years. Still unmarried. I feel bad for people in those situations if marriage was important to them.
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This sounds like a miserable wedding day. She's gonna spend the whole time sending people away. I especially feel bad for her bf who clearly has no intention of marrying her. He needs to get out, fast!
They've only been dating for 2 years, we can hardly tell from what we know that he "has no intention of marrying her."
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Well..at least she's upfront about it. My wedding was fairly cheap, family only and everyone could wear whatever they wanted. It was a very nice evening. Everyone looked great and had a good time. Trust me..it isn't the frills of the day.. it's getting to marry the one you love. Years later you aren't going to be pouring over what that day was like other than looking into your future spouses eyes while saying vows and sharing a kiss. There's plenty of times in life you can play dress up on the cheap. Use all that wedding money for a home down payment or at least an emergency fund.
I agree wholeheartedly. Use your money wisely people! How you live those first years is more important than how big you celebrate for a few hours. Quality of life, security money etc... Besides, it's said that money is the nr 1 reason couples fight (and often divorce) over.
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Judging by the list of demands, I assume she has been planning her imminent divorce since she was eight years old also.
While most of it is just common sense, does the future husband get to have any say in anything?
A lot of women think it's about them only, disregarding their spouse, unfortunately. So probably not. (Before anyone calls me a misogynist, I identify as a woman)
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The rules are OK I guess, I just don't like how she worded her explanations for the rules. Basically, "You do this small thing, and you're out of my life completely" (except the part about big announcements, I agree entirely) I know it's her big day but geez.
Weddings aren't really fun for kids, I love kids and have a daughter now but didn't have kids at my wedding either.
I think it depends on the kid. As a child I LOVED weddings, I was very into fashion and I loved looking at the pretty dresses and wishing I was wearing the trumpet shaped dress the bride was wearing, I think maybe letting kids come for part of it but leave early. That’s what we always did and it always seemed to work, but that was just us😀
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Who the f**k would want to marry you??? You give "high maintenance" a new definition. Half of your rules are just common sense (we live in a society). Do guests need permission to take their first bite of dinner? Do they have to raise their hand to use the restroom? God forbid, but what if they have to pee during the toast? Will they be escorted out? Hairstyles! You forgot about hairstyles! What if someone come in with the same cut as you? Get out! You're forgetting "why I want to get married" and making "how I want to get married" far too important. The groom just seems like another prop in your twisted view of marriage.
Most of these rules I agree with but some of them are taking it a little bit too far.
They have been together for 2 years she's what nightmares are made of! Has her man been stripped of his ball's? There are red flags and sirens RUN dude!!! Wedding's are the biggest waste of time and money. Her need for attention is a ridiculous statement and a huge red flag! She's far from being a woman. Hopefully she'll put as much effort into being a wife as she's doing for this circus she's calling a wedding.
Had a simple, tasteful wedding with no insane bridezilla rules. Been happily married 32 years. All my cousins with huge bridezilla weddings divorced at least once. Don’t make the wedding the high point of your marriage.
Kennedy's making her Dream Wedding the high point of her entire life.
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I like the No Children rule. Almost every wedding I have been to had kids wailing through the ceremony or disrupting it running loose. Same for the reception.
Never once I imagined or thought about marriage when I was a kid because I was busy being a kid 😀
Honestly, I’m glad I am at no risk to be invited to this. It’d have to be a HARD pass. Not wanting kids there is one thing, I can get that one, but I have a problem with being invited to anything social under the demand I behave according to some strange half assėd script. Either you like and trust me, or you don’t invite me. HARD pass. Why don’t you just make a list of people guaranteed to have your exact preferences and who’s behaviour you can predict exactly and invite THEM? Less grief for everybody.
Children brought so much fun and joy to all the marriages I've been to... They make the people's moods lighter and bring (stranger) people together, as everybody understands kid play and kid talk. Maybe the difference was that they were also planned with the kids in mind. So there was space to run, games etc.
All these rules are perfectly fine. Tho the no boring people should be no miserable people. Im boring and just sit around at parties most of the time, but I sure as heck would get up and dance if the bride asks me to lol No plus one sounds harsh, but I think it's totally fine, especially with COVID and you know who (antivaxers). Nobody's coming to my wedding without getting fully vaccinated 🤷🏻♂️
To be fair, most of these are perfectly acceptable and mostly common sense / courtesy. I've personally never wanted to get married so I cant really relate to the 'planning this since age 8' but i have friends who had every detail of their wedding planned before even meeting their future husbands!
We had a "no children" rule at our wedding, and of course, my godmother showed up with her "grandbabies" because "they want to see a bride!" which meant that I then got to hear from every cousin who didn't bring their kids that they "should have brought them anyway." No, I actually should've kicked my godmother and the kids out. Our wedding is not about you showing off your grandchildren who none of us know, especially when the 3-year-old starts running dangerous laps around the cake and servers at the reception. Other people's weddings are not about you.
I'm surprised she has a boyfriend or any friends at all with her attitude.
I would change the constant "me" And "my" And "mine" into ours, us, we. Its not Just her wedding, but I agree with the list.
I don't see a problem here. Obviously a woman like this can't have many friends, so not many people are affected.
Some people just don’t dance. My husband is not comfortable dancing, I use a walker due to a birth defect so I guess we are boring. She sounds mean about the boring people.
"My first dance". Is it a common thing for the bride to have a solo dance performance? 😄
"I'm an attention seeker through and through" - No f****n s**t, planning your wedding since age 8 is ok as a childish game, actually expecting a currently non existent fiancé to just slot in to those plans without having his wishes taken into account is selfish and unrealistic. What a shallow, manipulative, self centred cow, but on the bright side she is setting herself up for the massive disappointment she deserves. No wonder Rhys doesn't want to marry her, run Rhys run...
Personally I felt some parts of these rules to be quite rude. This is quite opposite from where I'm from, where people place great importance to show hospitality to those appearing for the wedding and always try to accomodate them. After all, it's not like we're someone at the center of the world and the others are way too eager to come. A softer approach is generally used to solve such issues.
What the fvck is "L"? Loser? Lesbian? iLL? Loner? Most of the list is fine, but this lady is a dumpster fire.
These 13 "rules" should not even be necessary. But most people have forgotten how to behave with common politeness and decency, it seems. These are not overbearing or unreasonable in any way. They merely outline the minimal norms of public behavior at someone's wedding. Anywhere. Anytime. Good for her.
I think the point about children is especially justified. I don't understand why it's so normalised to take your children to a wedding where there are a bunch of people you don't know, most of them drunk, and the parents of most of these children are oftentimes drunk as well. It's not very safe, it distracts from the celebration, it's generally a mess. Adults shouldn't take children to adult parties, even if it's an important occasion.
These are the most reasonable wedding rules I've ever seen. They're not even rules really, just basic wedding etiquette.
I agree with rules like 'don't be rude to the staff, even though It's common sense. But what the hell is 'No boring people' One thing I really don't understand is 'planning wedding since she was eight' thing. Sure something changed since she was 8 years old?
Besides the "no boring people" which I assume is a joke, 100% on board with these rules.
Her explanation of that rule didn't sound like she was joking to me.
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Maybe some people "plan their wedding since they are eight", however, once they reach adulthood, you usually let go of these things. If she wants to make it "HER day" so badly I already feel sorry for the husband-to-be. In addition, the list is a bit stupid, as they are the ones inviting the guests. You know someone has triplets under two? Get a babysitter. You know Uncle Bob tends to grap waitresses when drunk? Well, leave Uncle Bob at home. You do not want any people you do not know - guess what? Don't invite them. And, for your own sanity, free yourself of the idea that everything has to be perfect! You can neither control the behaviour of other people, nor the weather, nor most of the other circumstances. Wish for the best and then roll with it!
These are the only acceptable list of rules for a wedding that I would 100% be supporting even if the staff rule was they are there working they don’t deserve any crap from a guest but her rule was much better and if I worked it I would love to be on the dance floor when the cheesy music gets played. This is a wonderful person and future bride
Im never getting married and pretty much agree with all of these. People are getting mad that single people can't bring someone. She never said that. She says not to ASSUME a plus one. So obviously there will be plus ones but will be based on some priority.
Pretty much I understand it to be "I'll invite your plus one if I (and/or the groom) know them" which to me seems eminently reasonable.
Load More Replies... I think her rules are perfectly fine to me.This is the only list of wedding rules that haven't been unreasonable at all. I love the fact that she has included that people must be kind to the staff and wants them to eat,dance and have fun too. Also that she doesn't care what her guests wear as long as they are comfortable.Hopeflly Rhys pops the question and they can have their big day.
I was expecting a bridezilla list and instead got a pretty reasonable one. Good job!
Super simple, if i am presented a list in any way for a wedding, i dont go, period. Some of these i grant are common sense, but if you have to list common sense stuff like dont wear white, then the person you are inviting is to stupid to be there to begin with. Got married in Cancun with family and close friends only, no list, no rules, wear what you want. All 30 of us had a great time. No rules, no drama and plenty of kids. I cant imagine life, marriage, life or a wedding without kids. If you hate kids that much, you should both get fixed before getting married. Simply put calm down and stop being stuck up snobs.
She said that she loves kids, where did you get the hating from? That she doesn't want screaming kids ruining the cermony? Running around and making a mess? You can't trust that a kid is well behaved, and even a usually well behaved kid can make hell around them if they're tired. Not wanting this to happen is not a sign of hating children. Children isn't the center of the universe, they aren't the goal with life, nor the goal with a marriage. You seem to get really offended by the fact that she doesn't want kids there, so offended that you even say that they should both get themselves fixed? That they should undergo a medical procedure and making themselves sterile, because she doesn't want kids at her wedding. You sound like a stuck up parent that can't accept that your children shouldn't be a part of everything. You can't imagine a life without kids, but I sure as hell can and I love it.
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Number 8, why would anyone want to go to a stranger's wedding. Some people are full of themselves.
This might be a heads-up to her parents/in-laws that they're not going to invite their mum's cousin's childhood friend, you know, she used to live down the street before you were born, and was going to be your godmother but she emigrated when you were two.... (Not that I know what that's like...)
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This sounds absolutely crazy. I wouldn't go even if invited. The way she has all these rules is off-putting imo. I wouldn't be able to stand it I'm 33 and still a wall flower by nature due to all the bullying that happened to me throughout my school years that the school system refused to deal with. So she expects me to go against my very nature and be uncomfortable and go out on the dance floor just to satisfy her selfish needs. I'd end up going into a full blown anxiety attack and then all her coveted attention would end up going to me as they would end up needing to call my mom, or (God forbid) the paramedics, depending on how bad my anxiety attack hit. (I have meds for it, but sometimes they hit so bad I have so much trouble breathing, I either need my mom to sit with me or I need oxygen cause I start to hyperventilate and go to pass out) and if she wants me to dress comfortably, she needs to get used to the fact that I usually wear oriental clothing (kimonos and the like) to
Special occasions and who knows that just might draw her coveted attention to me as well but that's just what I feel comfortable wearing
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Honestly, I agree with a lot of these rules. I don't get the no boring people one though. I mean, I understand that she wants to see her guests having a good time but not everyone has a good time dancing or socializing with a bunch of people. What if she has friends or family like that and they really want to go and see her get married? Shouldn't they have that choice?
This woman has been planning her wedding since she was "eight years old?" I didn't have to read any further.
Most of these are really just fine... except the "no boring people" one. How the hell are you going to control that, sis? If only people you know are invited, then you should know if they are "boring" or not.
It seems like weddings are all just opportunities for (usually) brides to make demands for attention. It baffles me when people say it’s about love for their partner. I can’t think of any aspect of it that is anything to do with (unconditional) love. Your love is so unconditional that you need to sign a legal contract, with a built in deterrent? Yeah sounds really genuine and secure. Then you invite people who aren’t your partner to witness this contract signing whilst asking them for money and gifts. And you do that to “prove” you love your partner. No-one outside your relationship needs proof, and a contract isn’t proof or guarantee of any emotion (it’s completely the opposite).
This is all just common sense and standard wedding etiquette? Don't bring uninvited people, don't go if you don't know the couple, no wearing white, no interrupting the first dances or ceremony, and don't be rude, stressful, or make the whole thing about you. The only slightly weird one is "no boring people" which, considering you aren't letting your parents invite people you don't know, should solve itself.
What is it with Americans and their belief that weddings should be "solemn", that they should be "perfect", and that they should follow some weird set of choreographed steps? Weddings should be messy, and noisy, and happy, and FUN. These rules all presuppose that wedding SHOULD be in a certain way. No wonder the poor girl expects to be stressed. Instead of figuring out rules to make a stressful wedding less stressful, she should be figuring out a way to have a less stressful wedding. Also, the entire thing is dumb. She should be figuring out how to have a life with another person. So she spends all that time and energy figuring out how to make a single day "perfect", but what, the next 50 years are going to take care of themselves? A person who "has dreamt of the perfect wedding since I was 10" should not be married, since they evidently don't care about being in a relationship. They should be wedding planners for other people.
Most of the items on this list are common sense or basic etiquette. My issue is with the fact that she needs to verbalize them in the first place followed by how she chooses to do so. And then let's add in the remaining red flags: 1. Every single statement begins with "I, me, or my", nary a single first person plural pronoun to be found ANYWHERE. We know just from the tense she chooses that this wedding will not involve Rhys (or whoever proposes to her). 2. She's been planning the festivities since she was 8 years old. Has she given that much thought or attention to Rhys? 3. She's a perfectionist. Satan bless whoever she hires for this celebration and for Rhys if he is ever able to meet her expectations of the ring she wants. 4. "For all the money I'm paying...".she says at least 4x. Is it a competition with your high school rivals or the happiest day of your life, sweetheart? And who is paying for it? You? You and Rhys if he asks? What's all this "I am paying" nonsense? 5. Last but not least, maybe wait until you are ACTUALLY engaged before you start thinking about potential problems with your (non-existent) wedding.
If anyone needs to make a list similar to this, they desperately need to get new friends and/or family. Where has etiquette, common sense and decency gone? And the bride needs to chill out a bit. Enjoy your wedding reception, with or without children, boring people dressed in white being rude to the staff. ( you"ll laugh at the stories 25 years from now). Stop being a Dictator and start being an excited woman soon to be married.
I have to agree with this totally. Sadly, it's such a shame that she has has to list what should be common sense. When I got married (a long time ago now) my friends and family just knew what was appropriate and not. The explanation of her rules just made such sense to me. Good for you !!!
The list is ok. At least she didn't ask guests to pay for the food or bring a gift worth X amount of dollars.
Ok Bridezilla. I'll be delighted as not to be invited to this nightmare.
P.S. Don't be mean to the girl if her opinion differs from your own. She may think differently.
I'm going to be honest: I am so PROUD of this woman for taking charge and making her day perfect. I am a perfectionist as well! I agree with EVERY LAST rule she has here! You go girl!
I dislike the bridezilla movement but honestly there is nothing wrong with this list. She has sound reasoning for everything except boring (I mean we could always invite the dancer that gave the groom a private dance in the bedroom at his bachelor shower). Sometimes boring is better especially if your uncle finds out it's open bar!
Identifying what she wants for her marriage is so much more important to her happiness than the perfect wedding day. Not that weddings aren't very special & deserve plenty of planning & knowing what you want! But I've always heard plan your marriage before you plan your wedding, if you want a strong & happy marriage.
To rule 7: What if I CANNOT dance / had an F in dancing class? Or what if I DO NOT drink alcohol?
I have only been to two weddings, and then again I'm only a teenager, the first one I went to I don't remember, but I was in my half sisters wedding, it was super chill, and I am a SUPER introverted person, especially when it come to doing things out of my comfort zone, or around people I don't know, like dancing. . . I was on the dance floor, but didn't want to dance so I kinda just moved around, and all her friends were telling me to dance, but I can't dance, so it was really awkward-
Not all of these rules are unreasonable, but her explanations of them are over the top. Angry and bitter, as if she is expecting every single one of her rules to be broken. And she is going to cut off anyone who breaks even the smallest rule. Most of her rules don't even need to be stated, they are just common knowledge. 🙄 And "no boring people?" Not everyone likes to dance!
It does sound like she has planed this since she was 8 years old. She does have to prepare, if that day ever becomes a reality, that... you can't always get what you want...(sing it with me).
God, I hate weddings. And these rules are the reason. Just say yes, have a couple of beers with people you like and have a really happy life together. I have a rule of my own: don't invite me to your ceremony, dinner or party at all. I DO NOT, and I can't stress this enough, want to be there.
I was thinking about the plus one thing. Okay if she knows that person? If it's a recent relationship or a family member that she has never met, she would have no way of knowing how they might act. But if she knows her friends at all, she would be aware, even a little, about their track record. And I can't imagine how the "Big Announcement" like a proposal or baby due or anything like that is even tolerated. I guess if the bride and groom are okay with it,it's done, but it is so "Low Rent". There are as many variables as there are people.
Well it says don't *assume* it's a +1. So presumably if she knows the partner then she would send a +1 invitation
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Apart from the 'no boring people' all of this is basic manners, imo. But maybe I'm just really old.
Most of these rules are for simplicity and practicality. Ours was very similar. Similar rules, and we deemed it a formal event. Wear whatever you want but do not out-dress the groom or bride. We had a few requests on dress code, but it was more so that the theme was enhanced. The no children scenario is also something i demanded, and a lot of people, in hindsight actually agree with this.
The "no children" rule is an act of kindness to the children. I didn't go to a wedding until I was nine, and I had never been so bored in my life. I couldn't wait to get out of there.
Now I feel guilty for my friend having paid all that money to have me be boring at her wedding. :/
The only thing that annoyed me was the BP spelling mistakes in the transcript. She clearly says “mum” not “mom” as she’s British and her boyfriend’s name is Rhys not Reese.
The only thing that annoyed me were the spelling mistakes in the Bored Panda transcript. She clearly says “mum” not “mom” because she’s British and her husband’s name is spelt “Rhys” not “Reese”.
And yet the word "spelt" is a type of wheat, not the past tense of spell, which is "spelled". Also Rhys (pronounced "reese") is not her husband nor her fiance. Rhys is her boyfriend.
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Number 8 sounds like Kennedy's planning a pregnancy to force marriage on Reese. End of 1st paragraph seems ominous. In addition, Kennedy demands that no strangers attend her precious wedding, yet she wants the staff to sit down and dine with the wedding party. How are they NOT strangers to Princess Kennedy? WTAF? She's a hypocritical looney. Save your time and effort and send regrets only. This one is delusional.
I’m only 16 but even I know that private weddings family are less strict than this. Im sorry but this wedding sounds like a great way to get ruined and have all your guests leave. Also I would change every rule because they all are really hurtful and very rude. I would recommend getting a wedding planner while still keeping your ideas original. Plus this wedding REALLY lacks creativity.
Wow I can't believe she is giving the rule # 9 to her guest. She sounds so rude and unpleasant to be around.
BS. BS. BS. I am sick of these bride wedding guests rules, which are obvious nonsense and posted solely for attention.
I think she's taking things to the extreme, and really she's removing all the fun stuff that will actually be memorable. The only one I agree with is no phones
Removing fun stuff that's going to be memorable? Like that random girlfriend that showed up with Paul, who he's been dating for two months and broke up with a week after the wedding? Or being rude to the staff? The half-drunk college roommate who's decided the story about how you woke him up by having sex for the first time is a great thing to tell to both your parents and all the other guests? Or the kid that's either so hyper she jumps on your back mid first dance, or so tired and bored mid-dinner he decides to cry until parents take him home?
Load More Replies... Hate the no plus 1 thing. Yeah i get it's expensive. Mine was too! BUT if i dont know a ton of folks & your wedding is the same as every other 1 ive been to, i at least want someone fun to drink/hang with
Then maybe instead of demanding to bring your partner so you can ignore everyone else, you just send a "thanks but no thanks" reply...
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The bride too be be is far from attractive plus she sounds very unstable and controlling if I were the husband to be I would not have let it get this far, but it sounds like she already has his balls in her handbag
You have no right to judge her attractiveness. Do you think you are all that great looking?
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I feel old as f**k saying this... These used to simply be common wedding etiquette. (Besides "no boring people," which, she's the one making the invitation list, so that's on her.)
I was gonna say that MOST are just common decency and etiquette. (Except "dragged"...really? Can't just ask nicely?)
Load More Replies... Compared to other (insane) lists I quite like this one. Lots of the points should be common sense like not wearing white and not interrupting the first dance. I particularly love the one about being nice to staff. What bothers me tough, is the fact that she has been planning her wedding since she was eight. I noticed quite a lot women on the Internet from the US, who said or insinuated similar. Something is really wrong with the style of upbringing of girls AND boys there. Do they live in the middle ages, that boys must be strong and girls only fit for marriage?
I’ve planned my wedding since I was about 8 too. I don’t even know if I want to get married yet. It’s just a fun things kids do. My dad actually planned his wedding since he was like 8. For me personally I dreamed about the cake and the dress and such. I think it’s not that we’re only fit for marriage, it’s just because it’s something you can dream about and plan and probably change a million times. There are certainly other things I dreamt about (and planned) too such college, prom, graduation, and other things associated with growing up. I hope this makes sense 😀
Load More Replies... She has been planning this wedding since she was 8? She hasn't even had the proposal yet? This gal is off and running and the starter hasn't fired a shot! Sounds like the dullest wedding ever. Movies of this will be one big yawn. Sounds like the kinda gal who will go to someone else's wedding and do all these things, since she's such an attention seeker. Most marriages end quickly, maybe this one won't get off the ground. Can't imagine what her kids will be like if she ever breeds. Why she has any friends at all is a sad statement of social intercourse today. Not the wedding I would attend . . . of course, we wouldn't be friends in the first place.
I mentioned this same thing before. It seems unhealthy to have these kind of pseudo-princess dreams. This isn't about sharing your union with friends, this is about summoning your friends to admire you.
Load More Replies... She's real serious about her first dance. She should probably add that nobody should talk or move during her first dance and that everyone must clap when it's done...or "you're out, sorry, but no thank you."
I had only one rule at my wedding (besides reiterating the *venue's* rule that if you were late you wouldn't be admitted if the ceremony had already started) and that was "no confetti" - I just really dislike the stuff. Well, my MIL decided she wanted confetti - and practically emptied two boxes of the stuff over us during our first dance, making the dance floor dangerously slippery for the rest of the dance until staff fetched a brush. Now I wish I did have a "no one on the dance floor during our first dance rule"!
Load More Replies... "Reese might not ever want to marry me. Be he is, he's going to have to." Are you planning on trapping him or something?
Lol that was interestingly expressed.. but I also think it's good she knows what's important to her. I've known women who really wanted to get married but didn't want to push it and lived with their boyfriend for 25 years. Still unmarried. I feel bad for people in those situations if marriage was important to them.
Load More Replies... This sounds like a miserable wedding day. She's gonna spend the whole time sending people away. I especially feel bad for her bf who clearly has no intention of marrying her. He needs to get out, fast!
They've only been dating for 2 years, we can hardly tell from what we know that he "has no intention of marrying her."
Load More Replies... Well..at least she's upfront about it. My wedding was fairly cheap, family only and everyone could wear whatever they wanted. It was a very nice evening. Everyone looked great and had a good time. Trust me..it isn't the frills of the day.. it's getting to marry the one you love. Years later you aren't going to be pouring over what that day was like other than looking into your future spouses eyes while saying vows and sharing a kiss. There's plenty of times in life you can play dress up on the cheap. Use all that wedding money for a home down payment or at least an emergency fund.
I agree wholeheartedly. Use your money wisely people! How you live those first years is more important than how big you celebrate for a few hours. Quality of life, security money etc... Besides, it's said that money is the nr 1 reason couples fight (and often divorce) over.
Load More Replies... Judging by the list of demands, I assume she has been planning her imminent divorce since she was eight years old also.
While most of it is just common sense, does the future husband get to have any say in anything?
A lot of women think it's about them only, disregarding their spouse, unfortunately. So probably not. (Before anyone calls me a misogynist, I identify as a woman)
Load More Replies... The rules are OK I guess, I just don't like how she worded her explanations for the rules. Basically, "You do this small thing, and you're out of my life completely" (except the part about big announcements, I agree entirely) I know it's her big day but geez.
Weddings aren't really fun for kids, I love kids and have a daughter now but didn't have kids at my wedding either.
I think it depends on the kid. As a child I LOVED weddings, I was very into fashion and I loved looking at the pretty dresses and wishing I was wearing the trumpet shaped dress the bride was wearing, I think maybe letting kids come for part of it but leave early. That’s what we always did and it always seemed to work, but that was just us😀
Load More Replies... Who the f**k would want to marry you??? You give "high maintenance" a new definition. Half of your rules are just common sense (we live in a society). Do guests need permission to take their first bite of dinner? Do they have to raise their hand to use the restroom? God forbid, but what if they have to pee during the toast? Will they be escorted out? Hairstyles! You forgot about hairstyles! What if someone come in with the same cut as you? Get out! You're forgetting "why I want to get married" and making "how I want to get married" far too important. The groom just seems like another prop in your twisted view of marriage.
Most of these rules I agree with but some of them are taking it a little bit too far.
They have been together for 2 years she's what nightmares are made of! Has her man been stripped of his ball's? There are red flags and sirens RUN dude!!! Wedding's are the biggest waste of time and money. Her need for attention is a ridiculous statement and a huge red flag! She's far from being a woman. Hopefully she'll put as much effort into being a wife as she's doing for this circus she's calling a wedding.
Had a simple, tasteful wedding with no insane bridezilla rules. Been happily married 32 years. All my cousins with huge bridezilla weddings divorced at least once. Don’t make the wedding the high point of your marriage.
Kennedy's making her Dream Wedding the high point of her entire life.
Load More Replies... I like the No Children rule. Almost every wedding I have been to had kids wailing through the ceremony or disrupting it running loose. Same for the reception.
Never once I imagined or thought about marriage when I was a kid because I was busy being a kid 😀
Honestly, I’m glad I am at no risk to be invited to this. It’d have to be a HARD pass. Not wanting kids there is one thing, I can get that one, but I have a problem with being invited to anything social under the demand I behave according to some strange half assėd script. Either you like and trust me, or you don’t invite me. HARD pass. Why don’t you just make a list of people guaranteed to have your exact preferences and who’s behaviour you can predict exactly and invite THEM? Less grief for everybody.
Children brought so much fun and joy to all the marriages I've been to... They make the people's moods lighter and bring (stranger) people together, as everybody understands kid play and kid talk. Maybe the difference was that they were also planned with the kids in mind. So there was space to run, games etc.
All these rules are perfectly fine. Tho the no boring people should be no miserable people. Im boring and just sit around at parties most of the time, but I sure as heck would get up and dance if the bride asks me to lol No plus one sounds harsh, but I think it's totally fine, especially with COVID and you know who (antivaxers). Nobody's coming to my wedding without getting fully vaccinated 🤷🏻♂️
To be fair, most of these are perfectly acceptable and mostly common sense / courtesy. I've personally never wanted to get married so I cant really relate to the 'planning this since age 8' but i have friends who had every detail of their wedding planned before even meeting their future husbands!
We had a "no children" rule at our wedding, and of course, my godmother showed up with her "grandbabies" because "they want to see a bride!" which meant that I then got to hear from every cousin who didn't bring their kids that they "should have brought them anyway." No, I actually should've kicked my godmother and the kids out. Our wedding is not about you showing off your grandchildren who none of us know, especially when the 3-year-old starts running dangerous laps around the cake and servers at the reception. Other people's weddings are not about you.
I'm surprised she has a boyfriend or any friends at all with her attitude.
I would change the constant "me" And "my" And "mine" into ours, us, we. Its not Just her wedding, but I agree with the list.
I don't see a problem here. Obviously a woman like this can't have many friends, so not many people are affected.
Some people just don’t dance. My husband is not comfortable dancing, I use a walker due to a birth defect so I guess we are boring. She sounds mean about the boring people.
"My first dance". Is it a common thing for the bride to have a solo dance performance? 😄
"I'm an attention seeker through and through" - No f****n s**t, planning your wedding since age 8 is ok as a childish game, actually expecting a currently non existent fiancé to just slot in to those plans without having his wishes taken into account is selfish and unrealistic. What a shallow, manipulative, self centred cow, but on the bright side she is setting herself up for the massive disappointment she deserves. No wonder Rhys doesn't want to marry her, run Rhys run...
Personally I felt some parts of these rules to be quite rude. This is quite opposite from where I'm from, where people place great importance to show hospitality to those appearing for the wedding and always try to accomodate them. After all, it's not like we're someone at the center of the world and the others are way too eager to come. A softer approach is generally used to solve such issues.
What the fvck is "L"? Loser? Lesbian? iLL? Loner? Most of the list is fine, but this lady is a dumpster fire.
These 13 "rules" should not even be necessary. But most people have forgotten how to behave with common politeness and decency, it seems. These are not overbearing or unreasonable in any way. They merely outline the minimal norms of public behavior at someone's wedding. Anywhere. Anytime. Good for her.
I think the point about children is especially justified. I don't understand why it's so normalised to take your children to a wedding where there are a bunch of people you don't know, most of them drunk, and the parents of most of these children are oftentimes drunk as well. It's not very safe, it distracts from the celebration, it's generally a mess. Adults shouldn't take children to adult parties, even if it's an important occasion.
These are the most reasonable wedding rules I've ever seen. They're not even rules really, just basic wedding etiquette.
I agree with rules like 'don't be rude to the staff, even though It's common sense. But what the hell is 'No boring people' One thing I really don't understand is 'planning wedding since she was eight' thing. Sure something changed since she was 8 years old?
Besides the "no boring people" which I assume is a joke, 100% on board with these rules.
Her explanation of that rule didn't sound like she was joking to me.
Load More Replies... Maybe some people "plan their wedding since they are eight", however, once they reach adulthood, you usually let go of these things. If she wants to make it "HER day" so badly I already feel sorry for the husband-to-be. In addition, the list is a bit stupid, as they are the ones inviting the guests. You know someone has triplets under two? Get a babysitter. You know Uncle Bob tends to grap waitresses when drunk? Well, leave Uncle Bob at home. You do not want any people you do not know - guess what? Don't invite them. And, for your own sanity, free yourself of the idea that everything has to be perfect! You can neither control the behaviour of other people, nor the weather, nor most of the other circumstances. Wish for the best and then roll with it!
These are the only acceptable list of rules for a wedding that I would 100% be supporting even if the staff rule was they are there working they don’t deserve any crap from a guest but her rule was much better and if I worked it I would love to be on the dance floor when the cheesy music gets played. This is a wonderful person and future bride
Im never getting married and pretty much agree with all of these. People are getting mad that single people can't bring someone. She never said that. She says not to ASSUME a plus one. So obviously there will be plus ones but will be based on some priority.
Pretty much I understand it to be "I'll invite your plus one if I (and/or the groom) know them" which to me seems eminently reasonable.
Load More Replies... I think her rules are perfectly fine to me.This is the only list of wedding rules that haven't been unreasonable at all. I love the fact that she has included that people must be kind to the staff and wants them to eat,dance and have fun too. Also that she doesn't care what her guests wear as long as they are comfortable.Hopeflly Rhys pops the question and they can have their big day.
I was expecting a bridezilla list and instead got a pretty reasonable one. Good job!
Super simple, if i am presented a list in any way for a wedding, i dont go, period. Some of these i grant are common sense, but if you have to list common sense stuff like dont wear white, then the person you are inviting is to stupid to be there to begin with. Got married in Cancun with family and close friends only, no list, no rules, wear what you want. All 30 of us had a great time. No rules, no drama and plenty of kids. I cant imagine life, marriage, life or a wedding without kids. If you hate kids that much, you should both get fixed before getting married. Simply put calm down and stop being stuck up snobs.
She said that she loves kids, where did you get the hating from? That she doesn't want screaming kids ruining the cermony? Running around and making a mess? You can't trust that a kid is well behaved, and even a usually well behaved kid can make hell around them if they're tired. Not wanting this to happen is not a sign of hating children. Children isn't the center of the universe, they aren't the goal with life, nor the goal with a marriage. You seem to get really offended by the fact that she doesn't want kids there, so offended that you even say that they should both get themselves fixed? That they should undergo a medical procedure and making themselves sterile, because she doesn't want kids at her wedding. You sound like a stuck up parent that can't accept that your children shouldn't be a part of everything. You can't imagine a life without kids, but I sure as hell can and I love it.
Load More Replies... Number 8, why would anyone want to go to a stranger's wedding. Some people are full of themselves.
This might be a heads-up to her parents/in-laws that they're not going to invite their mum's cousin's childhood friend, you know, she used to live down the street before you were born, and was going to be your godmother but she emigrated when you were two.... (Not that I know what that's like...)
Load More Replies... This sounds absolutely crazy. I wouldn't go even if invited. The way she has all these rules is off-putting imo. I wouldn't be able to stand it I'm 33 and still a wall flower by nature due to all the bullying that happened to me throughout my school years that the school system refused to deal with. So she expects me to go against my very nature and be uncomfortable and go out on the dance floor just to satisfy her selfish needs. I'd end up going into a full blown anxiety attack and then all her coveted attention would end up going to me as they would end up needing to call my mom, or (God forbid) the paramedics, depending on how bad my anxiety attack hit. (I have meds for it, but sometimes they hit so bad I have so much trouble breathing, I either need my mom to sit with me or I need oxygen cause I start to hyperventilate and go to pass out) and if she wants me to dress comfortably, she needs to get used to the fact that I usually wear oriental clothing (kimonos and the like) to
Special occasions and who knows that just might draw her coveted attention to me as well but that's just what I feel comfortable wearing
Load More Replies... Honestly, I agree with a lot of these rules. I don't get the no boring people one though. I mean, I understand that she wants to see her guests having a good time but not everyone has a good time dancing or socializing with a bunch of people. What if she has friends or family like that and they really want to go and see her get married? Shouldn't they have that choice?
This woman has been planning her wedding since she was "eight years old?" I didn't have to read any further.
Most of these are really just fine... except the "no boring people" one. How the hell are you going to control that, sis? If only people you know are invited, then you should know if they are "boring" or not.
It seems like weddings are all just opportunities for (usually) brides to make demands for attention. It baffles me when people say it’s about love for their partner. I can’t think of any aspect of it that is anything to do with (unconditional) love. Your love is so unconditional that you need to sign a legal contract, with a built in deterrent? Yeah sounds really genuine and secure. Then you invite people who aren’t your partner to witness this contract signing whilst asking them for money and gifts. And you do that to “prove” you love your partner. No-one outside your relationship needs proof, and a contract isn’t proof or guarantee of any emotion (it’s completely the opposite).
This is all just common sense and standard wedding etiquette? Don't bring uninvited people, don't go if you don't know the couple, no wearing white, no interrupting the first dances or ceremony, and don't be rude, stressful, or make the whole thing about you. The only slightly weird one is "no boring people" which, considering you aren't letting your parents invite people you don't know, should solve itself.
What is it with Americans and their belief that weddings should be "solemn", that they should be "perfect", and that they should follow some weird set of choreographed steps? Weddings should be messy, and noisy, and happy, and FUN. These rules all presuppose that wedding SHOULD be in a certain way. No wonder the poor girl expects to be stressed. Instead of figuring out rules to make a stressful wedding less stressful, she should be figuring out a way to have a less stressful wedding. Also, the entire thing is dumb. She should be figuring out how to have a life with another person. So she spends all that time and energy figuring out how to make a single day "perfect", but what, the next 50 years are going to take care of themselves? A person who "has dreamt of the perfect wedding since I was 10" should not be married, since they evidently don't care about being in a relationship. They should be wedding planners for other people.
Most of the items on this list are common sense or basic etiquette. My issue is with the fact that she needs to verbalize them in the first place followed by how she chooses to do so. And then let's add in the remaining red flags: 1. Every single statement begins with "I, me, or my", nary a single first person plural pronoun to be found ANYWHERE. We know just from the tense she chooses that this wedding will not involve Rhys (or whoever proposes to her). 2. She's been planning the festivities since she was 8 years old. Has she given that much thought or attention to Rhys? 3. She's a perfectionist. Satan bless whoever she hires for this celebration and for Rhys if he is ever able to meet her expectations of the ring she wants. 4. "For all the money I'm paying...".she says at least 4x. Is it a competition with your high school rivals or the happiest day of your life, sweetheart? And who is paying for it? You? You and Rhys if he asks? What's all this "I am paying" nonsense? 5. Last but not least, maybe wait until you are ACTUALLY engaged before you start thinking about potential problems with your (non-existent) wedding.
If anyone needs to make a list similar to this, they desperately need to get new friends and/or family. Where has etiquette, common sense and decency gone? And the bride needs to chill out a bit. Enjoy your wedding reception, with or without children, boring people dressed in white being rude to the staff. ( you"ll laugh at the stories 25 years from now). Stop being a Dictator and start being an excited woman soon to be married.
I have to agree with this totally. Sadly, it's such a shame that she has has to list what should be common sense. When I got married (a long time ago now) my friends and family just knew what was appropriate and not. The explanation of her rules just made such sense to me. Good for you !!!
The list is ok. At least she didn't ask guests to pay for the food or bring a gift worth X amount of dollars.
Ok Bridezilla. I'll be delighted as not to be invited to this nightmare.
P.S. Don't be mean to the girl if her opinion differs from your own. She may think differently.
I'm going to be honest: I am so PROUD of this woman for taking charge and making her day perfect. I am a perfectionist as well! I agree with EVERY LAST rule she has here! You go girl!
I dislike the bridezilla movement but honestly there is nothing wrong with this list. She has sound reasoning for everything except boring (I mean we could always invite the dancer that gave the groom a private dance in the bedroom at his bachelor shower). Sometimes boring is better especially if your uncle finds out it's open bar!
Identifying what she wants for her marriage is so much more important to her happiness than the perfect wedding day. Not that weddings aren't very special & deserve plenty of planning & knowing what you want! But I've always heard plan your marriage before you plan your wedding, if you want a strong & happy marriage.
To rule 7: What if I CANNOT dance / had an F in dancing class? Or what if I DO NOT drink alcohol?
I have only been to two weddings, and then again I'm only a teenager, the first one I went to I don't remember, but I was in my half sisters wedding, it was super chill, and I am a SUPER introverted person, especially when it come to doing things out of my comfort zone, or around people I don't know, like dancing. . . I was on the dance floor, but didn't want to dance so I kinda just moved around, and all her friends were telling me to dance, but I can't dance, so it was really awkward-
Not all of these rules are unreasonable, but her explanations of them are over the top. Angry and bitter, as if she is expecting every single one of her rules to be broken. And she is going to cut off anyone who breaks even the smallest rule. Most of her rules don't even need to be stated, they are just common knowledge. 🙄 And "no boring people?" Not everyone likes to dance!
It does sound like she has planed this since she was 8 years old. She does have to prepare, if that day ever becomes a reality, that... you can't always get what you want...(sing it with me).
God, I hate weddings. And these rules are the reason. Just say yes, have a couple of beers with people you like and have a really happy life together. I have a rule of my own: don't invite me to your ceremony, dinner or party at all. I DO NOT, and I can't stress this enough, want to be there.
I was thinking about the plus one thing. Okay if she knows that person? If it's a recent relationship or a family member that she has never met, she would have no way of knowing how they might act. But if she knows her friends at all, she would be aware, even a little, about their track record. And I can't imagine how the "Big Announcement" like a proposal or baby due or anything like that is even tolerated. I guess if the bride and groom are okay with it,it's done, but it is so "Low Rent". There are as many variables as there are people.
Well it says don't *assume* it's a +1. So presumably if she knows the partner then she would send a +1 invitation
Load More Replies... Apart from the 'no boring people' all of this is basic manners, imo. But maybe I'm just really old.
Most of these rules are for simplicity and practicality. Ours was very similar. Similar rules, and we deemed it a formal event. Wear whatever you want but do not out-dress the groom or bride. We had a few requests on dress code, but it was more so that the theme was enhanced. The no children scenario is also something i demanded, and a lot of people, in hindsight actually agree with this.
The "no children" rule is an act of kindness to the children. I didn't go to a wedding until I was nine, and I had never been so bored in my life. I couldn't wait to get out of there.
Now I feel guilty for my friend having paid all that money to have me be boring at her wedding. :/
The only thing that annoyed me was the BP spelling mistakes in the transcript. She clearly says “mum” not “mom” as she’s British and her boyfriend’s name is Rhys not Reese.
The only thing that annoyed me were the spelling mistakes in the Bored Panda transcript. She clearly says “mum” not “mom” because she’s British and her husband’s name is spelt “Rhys” not “Reese”.
And yet the word "spelt" is a type of wheat, not the past tense of spell, which is "spelled". Also Rhys (pronounced "reese") is not her husband nor her fiance. Rhys is her boyfriend.
Load More Replies... Number 8 sounds like Kennedy's planning a pregnancy to force marriage on Reese. End of 1st paragraph seems ominous. In addition, Kennedy demands that no strangers attend her precious wedding, yet she wants the staff to sit down and dine with the wedding party. How are they NOT strangers to Princess Kennedy? WTAF? She's a hypocritical looney. Save your time and effort and send regrets only. This one is delusional.
I’m only 16 but even I know that private weddings family are less strict than this. Im sorry but this wedding sounds like a great way to get ruined and have all your guests leave. Also I would change every rule because they all are really hurtful and very rude. I would recommend getting a wedding planner while still keeping your ideas original. Plus this wedding REALLY lacks creativity.
Wow I can't believe she is giving the rule # 9 to her guest. She sounds so rude and unpleasant to be around.
BS. BS. BS. I am sick of these bride wedding guests rules, which are obvious nonsense and posted solely for attention.
I think she's taking things to the extreme, and really she's removing all the fun stuff that will actually be memorable. The only one I agree with is no phones
Removing fun stuff that's going to be memorable? Like that random girlfriend that showed up with Paul, who he's been dating for two months and broke up with a week after the wedding? Or being rude to the staff? The half-drunk college roommate who's decided the story about how you woke him up by having sex for the first time is a great thing to tell to both your parents and all the other guests? Or the kid that's either so hyper she jumps on your back mid first dance, or so tired and bored mid-dinner he decides to cry until parents take him home?
Load More Replies... Hate the no plus 1 thing. Yeah i get it's expensive. Mine was too! BUT if i dont know a ton of folks & your wedding is the same as every other 1 ive been to, i at least want someone fun to drink/hang with
Then maybe instead of demanding to bring your partner so you can ignore everyone else, you just send a "thanks but no thanks" reply...
Load More Replies... The bride too be be is far from attractive plus she sounds very unstable and controlling if I were the husband to be I would not have let it get this far, but it sounds like she already has his balls in her handbag
You have no right to judge her attractiveness. Do you think you are all that great looking?
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