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Dating is tricky. You want to be yourself, but also impress the person; have a fun time without appearing aloof. Hold an interesting and meaningful conversation but not go too deep and bore them. A sprinkle of romance doesn't hurt too.

It's a delicate balance and to make matters worse, you have to find it with a person you don't know that well. So, not surprisingly, sometimes we go a little too far. And while nobody is safe from crossing the line, one Twitter user was interested in hearing how men do it.

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A few days ago, @sohosatan asked everyone to share what was it that guys did on a date that seemed really weird, and got plenty of replies. 2,172 to be exact. Here are some of the most memorable ones.

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digitalin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yay! I was reading thinking "...but that sounds nice...?" So glad for a happy story.

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We often use the word "creepy" to caution our friends about people to avoid. "Watch out for him," we warn a person we care about, "he's a total creep." But what, exactly, makes someone seem that way?

According to a study published in New Ideas in Psychology — the first-ever empirical study of "creepiness," its authors say — analyzed the perspectives of 1,029 women and 312 men with an average age of 29 to determine the most common markers of a "creepy" individual.

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Jihana
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that guy found 5 women who not only dated but MARRIED him?

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The results of the research show that men are more likely to be seen as creepy than women, and women who feel creeped out are more likely to also feel sexually threatened than men are.

Furthermore, unpredictability is often associated with creepiness, which we can see a lot in these tweets.

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And it makes sense. Think about it someone laughing at seemingly random times or making sudden and unexpected attempts to hug you. A big part of the uneasiness they make you feel comes from not knowing what to expect from them next.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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Oh go fuck off
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It must’ve been so satisfying to just stand up and walk out

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Sapna Sarfare
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never understand this mentality... why do something that the other person does not like and then get offended? What kind of high do you get?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Always wondered this too. Haven't eaten meat in probably 15 years or so, but a few incidences on dates of "I'll get you to eat a steak again." But why?? I never gave a s**t if my date ordered a steak, I'm just not trying it or ordering one. Not sure why the guys would be offended somehow??

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Bobby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Went on a 1st date with a girl who was vegan. She recommended a vegan place and we went there. I was floored by how good some of those vegan dishes taste. My fellow meat eaters, give vegan dining a chance. I didn't do the switch myself, but don't rule out a business just cause it's vegan, I promise you can find some real gems out there

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Seanette Blaylock
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The food might be just fine, but I can do without the side dish of sanctimonious smugness. If you meet vegans who are actually tolerant of others' dietary choices, that's great. The ones I've met are very in-your-face bullies about it.

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JJ
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After a couple of dates my husband suggested we could go out for dinner to a steak house. He said, "They have nice salad there. With chicken." About half a second after he finished that sentence, it became clear to him that chicken was meat too. We've been together for 11 years now and I still tease him with that on a regular basis 🤣

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Rocky Mom
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This world is so bizarre that primarily men harass people for being vegan, like how they harass women for being.. women. Four comments here alone prove that. Bizarre asf.

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Kross T.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's just an extension of toxic masculinity. Veganism is seen as the "opposite" of masculinity (Western masculinity putting an emphasis on meat--the hunting, preparing (grilling) and eating of meat as male occupations/status symbols), and so veganism becomes a threat to toxic masculinity. This is because toxic masculinity is not secure enough to exist with things unlike itself. In toxic masculinity, feminity is "allowed" to exist as a weaker, lesser, wanting-to-be form of masculinity, but something like veganism is an outright rejection of a masculine ideal, so whether they are a man or a woman, a vegan is a threat to the toxic-masculine. Note that men who are secure in their masculinity don't give two shits about what other people are eating, as long as everyone's having a good time.

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Teresa Taylor
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If someone took it upon themself to order food for me on our first date, that would be an instant clue for me to walk out of his controlling presence.

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I I
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

thats just ignorant , why would he even think you'd break your beliefs to please him ? i cook meat for the wife and kids , dont often eat it but they dont expect me to eat

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Vee!
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

vegans have such a bad rep for what?? vegan food is actually pretty yummy!

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A Jones
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

welp, that dude just served them a red flag on a plate.

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Suzy the observer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Vegan non-drinker here. If a dude ever pulls this on me, I will empty the bottle on his head.

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Kross T.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or just walk out. Pouring the drink on his head, while both satisfying and sit-com-esque, is actually assault. You can be fined, or even arrested if he decides to press charges. As insulting as it is, him pre-ordering food you won't eat isn't illegal.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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Riley Quinn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't have made it that far into the date. No one orders my food/drink because I'm a grown-ass person!!!

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Hans Bass
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That right there is a narcissist type behavior,i hope you lost the creepy bossy moron!

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cecilia kilian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is a huge red flag when your date orders for you without asking or suggesting. I can see it being ok in a solid relationship when they know what you like and want to surprise you with your favorite dishes, which sometimes have to be pre ordered.

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CammyCat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh! I’m sure he just wanted to show u what u have been missing! U would have loved it if u had tried it! 🙄

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Pamela Blue
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's just pure BS. I'm not a vengeful person normally, but I think I would have dumped the steak dinner into his lap with my left hand, while pouring the wine over his head with my right. Then I would have just left. (and I'm a carnivore! But that behaviour was despicable)

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Janet Pattison
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously, he clearly didn’t grasp the concept of vegan… like what it actually means if you are told, ‘I don’t eat meat, and I don’t eat any dairy products’. Even if it’s explained many ppl just don’t get it, that vegan or vegetarian is not a meal by meal decision, but an actual way of living. And Some ppl will actually call themselves a vegetarian when they eat sea food. Sounds like an awful date that’s for sure.

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Nancy Freer
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Disrespectful Barabarian Prick! Woman! As soon as he pulled into the restaurant's driveway, I'd be on my phone calling a taxi. He pulls that stunt on a first date, best to walk in the opposite direction. There's no use argueing with a*s***es!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Vegan tea totalers and meat eating drinkers will never work out because one will judge the other, even if it's in silence.

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Simon Gabb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would of at least chosen a vegetarian restaurant, so then at least I'm willing to show a slight compromise.

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NaMiMoore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol if he's already not paying attention to her needs, he never will. Yikes.

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Mickie Shea
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Next time, if one, get the steak to go. Bring it here and I'll make you a nice vegan salad with any fluid you desire.

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Dan Pieniak
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who the heck goes to dinner on a first date. Never could undstand that.... not easy to leave after a few minutes if it goes bad.

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Kross T.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've gone to lots of first-date dinners? Granted, it's becoming rarer, I think, but still, I don't think that's rare or unusual.

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I'm guessing everyone knows you're vegan, because vegans love telling people they're vegan

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madbakes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When they're going to eat somewhere, yes, people often state their dietary restrictions

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Vegans are just picky eaters and a pain to date since they hate most food, date carnivores they are always more fun

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The researchers highlighted that these findings support the idea that being “creeped out” is a response that we evolved to pay more attention to something that could turn out to be a threat.

When your gut feeling tells you that something is off about someone, don’t instantly dismiss that reaction, even if you can’t pin down exactly why you have it — more often than not, it's there to protect you.

To identify the behaviors likeliest to make someone seem creepy, researchers instructed respondents to rate 44 different patterns on how likely they thought it was that a "creepy" individual would demonstrate them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Should've stopped and let him keep walking to see how long until he noticed he was alone

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1. He watches you before interacting. Being watched by someone before he introduces himself or joins the conversation can make your skin crawl — you're wondering, What is he thinking? while dreading that whatever it is, it's inappropriate.

2. He touches you frequently. Even a "friendly" hug or kiss on the cheek is unacceptable if it's not invited.

3. He steers the conversation toward sex. Unwanted intimacy can be verbal too.

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4. He asks to take a picture of you. Unless you are balancing 10 plates on top of your head while also riding a unicycle, there is no reason a rando should want a photo of you.

5. He asks for personal details about your family. Hey, dude, stick with complaining about the weather or asking me if I have any restaurant recommendations. That's what we call "small talk" — leave my family out of it.

6. He has greasy hair. Well, there are many possible explanations for having greasy hair, but let's just say it generally isn't a turn-on. Bad hygiene can be a sign that someone isn't aware of or doesn't care about the impression they make on others, a definite creepiness red flag.

7. He never looks you in the eye. This can come off shady and disengaged, as though he's plotting something.

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8. He's significantly older than you. To be fair, this one doesn't make someone "creepy" in and of itself, but combined with other behaviors, such as frequent touching or sex talk, it can make someone seem predatory.

9. He shows little emotional expression. A deadpan stare is disconcerting. Again, what is he thinking — or hiding, for that matter?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not saying he should have done this on the 1st date... but YES, Thanos was right

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe it was a body switch situation and somewhere else in doggy day care a fluffy bobtail was begging for a coffee and the Sunday Times.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember when I was a kid, my cousin had to tell me red wasn't a flavor but apparently it is

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s just gross. You can pee into your toilet and then not flush until it becomes absolutely necessary…

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