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Dating is tricky. You want to be yourself, but also impress the person; have a fun time without appearing aloof. Hold an interesting and meaningful conversation but not go too deep and bore them. A sprinkle of romance doesn't hurt too.

It's a delicate balance and to make matters worse, you have to find it with a person you don't know that well. So, not surprisingly, sometimes we go a little too far. And while nobody is safe from crossing the line, one Twitter user was interested in hearing how men do it.

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A few days ago, @sohosatan asked everyone to share what was it that guys did on a date that seemed really weird, and got plenty of replies. 2,172 to be exact. Here are some of the most memorable ones.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yay! I was reading thinking "...but that sounds nice...?" So glad for a happy story.

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We often use the word "creepy" to caution our friends about people to avoid. "Watch out for him," we warn a person we care about, "he's a total creep." But what, exactly, makes someone seem that way?

According to a study published in New Ideas in Psychology — the first-ever empirical study of "creepiness," its authors say — analyzed the perspectives of 1,029 women and 312 men with an average age of 29 to determine the most common markers of a "creepy" individual.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that guy found 5 women who not only dated but MARRIED him?

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The results of the research show that men are more likely to be seen as creepy than women, and women who feel creeped out are more likely to also feel sexually threatened than men are.

Furthermore, unpredictability is often associated with creepiness, which we can see a lot in these tweets.

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And it makes sense. Think about it someone laughing at seemingly random times or making sudden and unexpected attempts to hug you. A big part of the uneasiness they make you feel comes from not knowing what to expect from them next.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he doesn't know what it is but he already knows they're wrong .........

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Chris M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Gaslighting doesn't exist, you made it up because you're crazy". - Rick & Morty

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Bobby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm torn between this guy was making a (bad) joke, he'd been told he does it and doesn't understand the concept so looking for someone else to explain it, maybe they do a better job, or he knows what he's doing, doesn't care, and won't stop. Mom and ex are wrong because that would make him the bad guy, and no one believes they're the bad guy, the just justify/rationalise everything

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He doesn't know what it is but somehow knows they're wrong. Maybe it was a joke but it was a bad one

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Marco Hub-Dub
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This seems off. There’s implication he’s already had it explained to him, so it sounds more like he was either joking or, here me out, cowardly used it a line to end the date or let her know they don’t connect. He hears date say it once and is curious enough to have it explained, but when been called it by others he knows better isnt curious at all what it means????? Joke or scapegoat.

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Adagar
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed, it's sort of like when someone explains what condescending means in a very condescending way as a bit of a goof.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s pretty funny, he wanted to make a confession right up front, so you’d understand, going forward that he’s a bonafide narcissist. LOL.

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robman1ok1 Hernandez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know that's epic...a majority of the people that I've heard talk about being gaslighted don't know what it is, they think it's a substitute for being lied to.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On the up side, maybe he was trying to do better by asking what specific behaviors they were talking about? (Still big red flag energy, but also optimistic? Are optimistic red flags a thing?)

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Kate Malcom
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is Gaslighting? I get that it's wrong, but I only ever heard it in context.

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Brent Kaufman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's when you Google a term that you don't understand and then learn something new.

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Teresa Stabler
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he was gaslighting in asking. Oh poor me. Everyone hates me. I need you to be on my side because I'm such a *nice* guy.

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Nicole Cabrera
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband calls his running shoes his "Fast as F shoes". I hope you were wearing yours.

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Riley Quinn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I fully get OP's point, but the fact he never bothered to look the term up is tripping me.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think his plan was to get her to mollify him that no, he seems like a great, misunderstood guy that maybe just needs some guidance and make it more difficult for her to call him out when she ultimately, inevitably, catches him lighting the gas. Maybe not, but it's surely some part of his weird game playing.

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Pamela Blue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That made me burst out laughing. Yes, definitely a time to call off any further attempts at a relationship. LOL!

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John Wilson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, it's a term that nowadays is often used completely contrary to the plot of the film that it took its name from. Ironically, that can be in a demeaning and bullying way that's effectively a form of reverse gaslighting.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes you can gaslight someone by accusing them of gaslighting when they are not gaslighting 😁.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, the could be wrong. Did you try to find out the situation? He seems honest.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gaslighting is a form of emotional and psychological abuse wherein a person uses verbal and behavioral tricks to convince another person they are losing their mind or—at the very least—cannot trust their own judgment. Why? To gain control.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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The researchers highlighted that these findings support the idea that being “creeped out” is a response that we evolved to pay more attention to something that could turn out to be a threat.

When your gut feeling tells you that something is off about someone, don’t instantly dismiss that reaction, even if you can’t pin down exactly why you have it — more often than not, it's there to protect you.

To identify the behaviors likeliest to make someone seem creepy, researchers instructed respondents to rate 44 different patterns on how likely they thought it was that a "creepy" individual would demonstrate them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Should've stopped and let him keep walking to see how long until he noticed he was alone

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1. He watches you before interacting. Being watched by someone before he introduces himself or joins the conversation can make your skin crawl — you're wondering, What is he thinking? while dreading that whatever it is, it's inappropriate.

2. He touches you frequently. Even a "friendly" hug or kiss on the cheek is unacceptable if it's not invited.

3. He steers the conversation toward sex. Unwanted intimacy can be verbal too.

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4. He asks to take a picture of you. Unless you are balancing 10 plates on top of your head while also riding a unicycle, there is no reason a rando should want a photo of you.

5. He asks for personal details about your family. Hey, dude, stick with complaining about the weather or asking me if I have any restaurant recommendations. That's what we call "small talk" — leave my family out of it.

6. He has greasy hair. Well, there are many possible explanations for having greasy hair, but let's just say it generally isn't a turn-on. Bad hygiene can be a sign that someone isn't aware of or doesn't care about the impression they make on others, a definite creepiness red flag.

7. He never looks you in the eye. This can come off shady and disengaged, as though he's plotting something.

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8. He's significantly older than you. To be fair, this one doesn't make someone "creepy" in and of itself, but combined with other behaviors, such as frequent touching or sex talk, it can make someone seem predatory.

9. He shows little emotional expression. A deadpan stare is disconcerting. Again, what is he thinking — or hiding, for that matter?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not saying he should have done this on the 1st date... but YES, Thanos was right

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe it was a body switch situation and somewhere else in doggy day care a fluffy bobtail was begging for a coffee and the Sunday Times.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I remember when I was a kid, my cousin had to tell me red wasn't a flavor but apparently it is

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s just gross. You can pee into your toilet and then not flush until it becomes absolutely necessary…

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