Unless you’re Canadian, you’re not doing anyone any favors by saying “sorry” all the time. In fact, being overly apologetic can lead a person to start feeling guilty about being themselves. The power of words and self-conditioning with them is a capable thing, and the more you say sorry, the more you are likely to feel guilty when there’s no need for that. Of course, simple politeness goes a long way, but in this case, that’s not what we’re talking about.

New York-based artist Yao Xiao takes this a step further in her cute drawings, where she suggests that you should say thank you instead. The Internet is full of empty promises and terrible art, but this idea is worth paying attention to; see how being thankful instead of sorry plays out below.

Yao Xiao was born in China but now lives in New York. Many of her comics are autobiographical, and she describes herself as an “enthusiast for queer fashion, vintage cabaret, collecting odd objects, and absurd science fiction with a flair of whimsy.” The rest of Xiao’s work is quite different from the comics below, so be sure to check out her website, but for now, learn how to get that ‘sorry not sorry’ attitude.

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