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People Shame Mom For Asking Her Stepson To Be Photoshopped Out Of Family Pics, She Responds To Backlash
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People Shame Mom For Asking Her Stepson To Be Photoshopped Out Of Family Pics, She Responds To Backlash

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Lots of people probably thought that stories about ‘evil’ stepmothers holding a grudge against their stepchildren were something meant only for fairytales and storytime before going to bed. Sadly, they occur in real life, too.

One stepmother faced major backlash both online and in the media for the way that she treated her stepchild. She asked a Facebook group to edit her stepson out of the pictures in a family photo shoot, while also adding that she loves him.

The internet was outraged by her demands. People quickly shared the story about the stepmom and the story went viral.

Bored Panda reached out to the child’s biological mother to talk about her first reaction to the story breaking online and in the news, as well as how much support she got from her friends, family, and the online community.

“My first reaction: I was pissed, because I had to find out from my youngest son’s grandma because she saw it on a stepmom’s Facebook page she follows. Her post was posted on Saturday from what she told me, and she and his father didn’t even inform me of how her original post was,” the biological mom told Bored Panda. Scroll down for the full interview.

A woman asked people to photoshop her stepson out of the family pictures taken during a professional photo shoot

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This is what the child’s biological mother said

“I didn’t know until Monday. And she didn’t try to apologize until after I had called my son’s grandma asking if she knew. The internet’s reactions to me is honestly amazing. I would expect anyone to stick up for a 3-year-old. Honestly, I’m not sure what I plan to do next,” the child’s biological mother revealed.

She continued: “Emotionally, it started out very badly. I was pissed to an extreme, but now I’m really happy about this situation, because of all the support me and my son are getting through this situation.”

“My family and friends are very supportive to me and my children through any situation.”

Bored Panda also asked her what advice she would give to new stepparents who want to get closer to their stepchildren. Here’s what she had to say: “Honestly, my advice would be, get to know the children before you get married. Build a relationship with them. And if your not willing to do that—Do Not Marry Their Parent.”

“I do want to add that the support we are getting from everyone all over the world is amazing, and me and my whole family appreciates everything.”

And here’s what the kid’s stepmom said after the story went viral

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We get it, it’s not always easy getting to know your stepchildren; but that’s life for you and there’s bound to be difficulties in any family, whether they’re biologically related to you or not. Fortunately, there are some things that stepparents can do to get closer to their stepchildren.

All Pro Dad explains that most stepparents find it hard to reach out to their stepkids at the start. However, you should never set unrealistic expectations about creating the perfect family: start off small by building respect with the child before expecting them to love you and you loving them back.

Openness is also very important. Even if your stepchildren probably won’t open up to you at the start, it’s important that they know that you’re always there if they need someone to talk to. Furthermore, you should be supportive and not try to replace the kids’ biological parents; your relationship will be unique, there’s no need to replicate one that already exists. And when it comes to disciplining your stepchildren, well, it’s best to let the parent do that until you earn the kids’ respect.

Here’s how internet users reacted to the situation

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Bored Panda also reached out to Redditors Foilfun and Smokegenovese who posted the story online and helped make it go viral.

Foilfun said that they reacted with “sadness” when they first saw the story online. “Seeing the boy she wanted photoshopped out sitting by himself next to his step-siblings on the blanket just sort of broke me. But my reaction has changed after seeing it absolutely blow up. What really gets to me now is seeing people tell stories about being step-children who felt unloved (or at least not as loved as their step-siblings) growing up. That’s been my biggest takeaway from it.”

“I can’t help but feel like it’s a fundamental misunderstanding of what family means. She probably didn’t mean anything malicious by the request, but the fact that she made it—or wanted it in the first place—makes me sad,” Foilfun said. “The mother made the choice to step into this family; that means she made a choice to step into all of the family. Stepson most definitely included. He’s just a little boy. He doesn’t know what is going on and he didn’t have a say in the matter. She most certainly does. She was given the chance to raise him as her own (or some complicated version of “her own”) and her response was to photoshop him out.”

Foilfun explained that they don’t have a stepparent nor do they want to have children of their own, but they said that they do know loving households look like: “They certainly don’t have to be blood to be family. I think that if you’ve made the choice to be a parent—step or otherwise—the responsibility is the same. These kids are the future. They’ll take both the best and the worst of you with them. If I were a father, I can’t help but feel like this would constantly be on my mind. Want to be a better parent of any kind? Don’t treat your kids like “kids.” Treat them like the future. They didn’t ask to be here, but you get the chance to help them realize they can be everything.”

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According to the Redditor, they didn’t expect the compassion that internet users showed when they read the story: “Both for this kid and for the mom.”

“I don’t want to see anybody hurt, but I also don’t want to see a world where kids continue to be pawns in their parents’ games and spats. Calling this mentality out whenever we get the chance is an important step if we’re going to see healthier generations going forward—ones that are better than we are.”

Meanwhile, Redditor Smokegenovese said that they believe that “no one should be in a family that treats them like utter [crap] and doesn’t love them even as a stepchild.” In the Redditor’s opinion, the stepmother “deserves to be on the news.”

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I love Foxxy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When she married her partner the step child became “her” child too. He IS family whether she likes it or not. It’s bad enough that she has him sitting away from her whilst the other children are on her. I feel so sad for him. If he is being put in the sidelines for family photos, I hate to think what else he misses out on etc.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will play a devil's advocado a bit. It seems that the biological mom has full custody and the child sees the father just once in a while (first time in 6 months it says). It means he is not a full-time family member, sad but that is how divorces work. The stepmom didn't have anything against the stepson being on family photos, and it seems she is nice enough to him. We don't know why the kid stays on the side in the photos, maybe he doesn't feel like hugging a person who is almost a stranger to him? You can't make them all to love each other and be one big happy family if they see each other twice a year... I agree that the stepmom was not very sensitive to post her request online, but I can understand that she might want a couple of pictures only with what is her close family. Also, she admitted being insensitive and explained her reasons. Familly matters might be very complicated. The thing is, the kid would probably never even know, but now the whole thing got blown up...

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Patti Brock
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have 3 boys - One has a different dad - credit to my Ex-husband as all my boys were treated the same by him and I will always love him for that. He still treats them the same. He even considers the grandchildren his!

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Al Jones
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I don't want you to think he's being treated different because he really isn't". Asks for him (only him) to be edited out of a photo.

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David_C Surrey
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid is not living with them and this was his first visit. As usual the salty vinegary people of the internet like to get the knives out.

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Lsai Aeon
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had similar. I was adopted at birth, no siblings, but my cousins that are all around the same age did stuff like this to me, "Family picture, oh, no Lsai, not you" or we would be introduced to new people "Hey, meet C, K & S, they are L's kids! Oh and um, this is Lsai, she's adopted" then this new person would squat down, get right in my face and "OH HOW CUTE! They took you in! :D" I'm not one of L's kids I'm L's brother's daughter, but still they didn't even acknowledge that... Family sucks

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Jenica Thomas
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn Lsai, I am sorry to hear that! I just don't understand how family could do this to each other. Adopted, step, or otherwise! BLOOD doesn't make a family, LOVE does and the love should go to EVERYONE.

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MJ
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow just wow. So many massive leaps in outrage. Let's be honest I doubt the husband arranged the outfits and the photo shoot. Clearly she did and went to the trouble to get a matching outfit to include the child. It says it's the first time they saw him in months and yet they took the opportunity to do family photos then with him. How is that excluding him when if they didn't want him in the pics they could have done them literally any other time. Anyone who's taken family pictures knows you do combos of people. She's allowed to want pictures with just her biological children in addition to group shots. It says the ones they took solo didn't turn out, editing one she took with the child to make up for the ones that didn't turn out is totally reasonable. Would we be outraged for their children if the Dad took one alone with just his older son. No because sometimes you want memories that capture you and specific people in your life solo.

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Pseudo Puppy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've run a photography studio, which included organising the post-production of the images ie cropping / retouching etc etc. These kinds of requests are actually fairly normal, for a whole range of reasons, especially with mixed families (which is very common nowadays). Sometimes, the photographer plans to take a huge range of different combinations of family members, and sometimes, it's not possible to get all combinations - therefore, a request to have someone cropped out, or to have retouching done (to either include or exclude certain combinations). The biggest mistake the step-mum made, was NOT approaching this in a professional way, and speaking directly with the photographer. Putting such a request online, is simply asking for trouble. Another reason why it pays to hire a *professional* (vs someone just doing it for quick cash on the side), is that they treat it professionally & don't gossip about it online. In the end, you get what you pay for. Hopefully she's learned.

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the UK, at least, b***h isn't much of a swear word at all... you'd have to try harder than that to be offensive! 😀

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Vicky Zar
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is it just me or does his position in the first photo tells it all? If she loves him so much, why is he sitting all alone while the other kids kuddle with her? And couldn't she just habe made photos with her own kids at the photosession? Geez

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Vicky Zar
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Scratch that. I should read the whole thing before posting. I'm sure the stepson didn't want to kuddle like the other two. It seams he doesn't know her that well if this was the first time he saw her in 6 months. Noone wants to kuddle "strangers" and its ok.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see how this sounds bad but she just wanted one with the children she birthed and i'm sure she cares for him why else would she take the picture with him and get the matching outfits.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so lucky to have a stepdad whom I don't think of as different than any other dad, and vice versa.

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Anna McHugh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 41 and it's still a painful thing to remember when my parents (Father and stepmother) went off to get pics of them and the kids without me. I was older though; I was an adult.

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Stille20
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yea, its not a great thing to ask, but the internet also needs to cool it's jets sometimes. I hate the way "the internet" drags family drama into an international debate for amusement.

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Sandra La Madeleine
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow thank god she loves him eqqually! Or else she would have him sit on the far side of the picture, or worse, she would ask if people could photoshop him out. Imagine being that cruel! But that's great she doesn't treat him differently.

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Robyn Rob
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had the misfortune of having two step parents abuse me since I was a young child, simply because I was not their biological child. I’ve moved on and created a good life and family, but let me say it’s a pain that never really leaves you.

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Cat
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not all stepmothers treat their stepchildren differently. My uncle is half sibling to the rest and he and my mum and other uncle didn't find out until he was about to get married. That was when he found out that his birth mother died during birth and my grandma treated him just like her biological children. He visited my grandma everyday during her last a few years before she passed away, even though she was in a coma. There are genuinely good stepparents out there. Don't lose hope <3

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Imitating
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am very lucky to have grown up with step siblings/parents and always felt equally included. Unfortunately I do get to live through this as an adult with my SIL and MIL, every family gathering they always want a family only picture. It irritates all 3 brothers in the family as they try to stand up for their wives.

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SIL & MIL need to stop being so petty and pedantic. Why people think a photo matters more or less just because there are some other 'less related' people in it... beats the hell out of me. I think I'd be tempted to refuse to be part of the photos just to be as petty and pedantic back.

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Catherine Cramer
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And throughout this long story covering everyone's opinions...what did DAD have to say about the situation and how come DAD hasn't seen him in 6 months?? This would really make me consider how visitation is handled, as in "cut out step-mom". Why does it usually seem like its a "mom" issue - both biological parents need to figure this one out.

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Stevie B
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should have been handled with the photographer. Why post it online? While it may be more expensive this way, there is no element of shaming involved. I don't really fault her for wanting a photo with just her kids, but posting it publicly & announcing it to the world is wrong. A little discretion can go a long way.

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Adilya
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And all people criticising her are angels. Do not exaggerate, step mother always remains step mother.

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Pacifico Fernandez
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The internet could be a real as**le these days and ruin the life of everyone. I hope you guys don't experience what is it to be a second wife. She probably had millions of photos of the first child with her and the dad. She was taking care of him, but was never allowed to have oppinion about whether he was spoiled or misbehaving. Whatever the biological mother says - she needs to do. The father probably loves his big son more, because he was the first. Everyone compares her with the first wife. Everyone blames hew why she does not have children yet. She does not have a normal family. Finally she gets kids and all she wants is one photo with them. Yes, its sound bad, but it is not like she thew away the big kid in the trash bin. You must be more understanding and not so fast to judge.

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Niffler_13
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I want to know why it was the first time the father had seen his son in 6 months.

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Brother of a divorce lawyer here. In this scenario we don't have enough information. A lot of the time both parents are too busy scoring points off each other. Many see custody as a way to 'win' regardless of what is best for the child. Not always of course, sometimes one parent is reasonable and the other is not, sometimes step parents cause the problems. There was one case where a mum had brainwashed her children so that they had learned to hate their father without any justification, poor man. Another where the father only wanted custody when his parents were there to look after his children because he couldn't really be bothered. However, anyone who thinks that mums are always perfect and dads won't be there is just as wrong as those who thinks dads are always too harshly viewed. It's a very mixed bag of possibilities.

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Ashley Richard
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I kinda hate the fact how, she explained everything, and even said she regretted posting the comment. But everyone still hates on her, does no one care that she said stepmother...7__700.jpg stepmother-asks-photoshop-group-remove-stepson-from-family-photo-5dfb3e6361d67__700.jpg ( click link) It seems to me that she wanted pictures alone with both her stepson and her biological kids, but as she said, she couldn't get a good picture with her birth children cause they wanted to go on the playground, and he only photos she had was of all of them together. ( her birth kids, stepson, and herself). So thats why she asked if the photographer could edit her stepson out of some of the photos.

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Tarpyan Bilnazzi
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For God's sake. The stepmom just wanted to have a few good pictures of her and her biological children only since the ones taken weren't as good. AND the fact is there are other pictures of her and children with the stepson. Anyone who thinks she was being nasty and cruel need to learn how to read.

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Randy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Was an unwanted step child several times ,reason to leave home early and neither biological parents did much if any thing to change things either treat them all the same ,know them before hand or move on

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Karen Johnston
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I married a man that had two children. They were 4 and 2 at the time. My husband and I made a pact that we would never say anything bad about their mother (at least in front of them). Which we never did. And it was hard. That being said, I NEVER excluded them from family photos. And also took them to have their individual pictures taken. And I also did that for the children we had together (twins). I bit my tongue over the c**p their mother pulled for 13 years. When my stepdaughter was 17, she had enough of her mother and moved in with us. She has become my best friend. Unfortunately, her brother (my husband's other child) wanted nothing to do with me, being brainwashed by their mother. Stepparenting is tough, but you must always put the welfare of the child first.

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Cathy Price
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My second husband opened his arms and his heart right away to my two kids by my first marriage. He has always thought and treated them as though he was their biological dad. He even shelled out $30,000 when "our" daughter got married. Her biological father didn't pay one penny! And she named our second grandson after my husband. There is a difference between being a father and a dad, being a mother and a mom. When I married my first husband at 19, I became the step"mom" of a 5 year old and he and I had a blast!!!!!

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your_lesbian_friend
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats so mean! The poor kid prolly just want to bel loved by his step mom and be treated nicely!!!

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Doob
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if she really wanted him outta the pic, she couldve cropped it, but she is rude

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Aliquid A
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And here I though the "evil step mother" trope in fairy tales was just a made up thing for the sake of a story.

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Don't Look
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s not really fair is it? There’s two sides to every story.

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Azure Adams
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She will never see her grandchildren or her adult children once they leave her and the sooner the better

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Quita Clark
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay, it sucks, but I can see this on her side. I had a unique situation myself like this. I adopted two sons with my ex husband, and then had a biological son with a boyfriend after that. We made Christmas cards. I didn't take separate pictures of the boys, but I considered it because I figured my ex husband and his family wouldn't want a pic of my son that I had later. Maybe the stepmom is a b***h, but it sounds like she just wanted some pictures of her bio kids for maybe their dad or something.

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TC
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm surprised how in the States apparently your spouse's kids become your kids. Does this happen in any other country? They are not family at all. This doesn't mean they are not respected or even loved. They're not even adopted !! I think what the lady wanted to do is perfectly acceptable. She even says she loves him but let's remember he isn't her own kid because he has his own mother.

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Tracy Braat
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's very sad Happened to me when I was in grade 9, Dundurn Saskatchewan My mums 2nd husband's sister took me in when I was 11, February 11, 1979 We never had family pictures before and while we were taking the family pictures the mother asked me to step aside so the family could take some pictures without me.... It was like a knife in my side, I was actually winded but stepped aside... I asked to go to foster care after this incident because I knew they Didn t care about me just my dad's $169.00 a month they received from my dad's passing in 1970... I'm 52 now, it still bothers me what a sociopathic Ignorant Greedy family they truly were... I also know it was not about me, it was about them and their vaccuous ignorant issues

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Eddie
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was raised by my "step" father. He's pretty much the one who I consider my dad. all of my stories about my "dad" are about him. I am also a father to seven kids. Four biologically mine. I've raised my kids with the saying that there are no steps in the family. My youngest daughter (18 months when she came into my life) is white, I'm Puerto Rican and you'd never know that we didn't spend her first 18 months together. Today my dad has 15 grand kids, and 4.5 great grand kids even though he never had any biological children, but you'd never guess that by how he loves them and us all.

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vagabond soul
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait, what? 6 months since the Father had any time with his child? How could anyone be so cruel to keep a father away for that long. Shame on you for doing that to a child. Shame on you! SHAME ON YOU! Then have the audacity to mention and insinuate that the child is not loved by his father's side of the family. Truly a very sick woman to be that vindictive. SHAME ON YOU!

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Pandana
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This reminds me of this lady. She was my respite mom at a point. She took pics, family pics, but her adopted son with autism was not in any of them. Just her, her husband, and her baby girl. He was not in any of them.

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Claire Armstrong
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow!! Did she honestly expect to say something like that and not get any backlash? Unbelievable! I was brought up with my step-dad and not once did I ever feel a difference between me and my brother and sister! My biological dad - I have only recently made contact with him and I get on great with his wife too, and my sisters on his side. But, his current wife is not the mother of my sisters! Their mother on the other hand, phew! She told my dad "I don't mind if you see Claire, if you want her in your life, but she's not welcome in my house"! I have never had any contact with her in my life to justify this reaction, and this was also said when they were fairly recently married and I was just a child! But it turned out OK, I didn't make contact with him until a few years ago, I always knew who he was and that he was my biological father but I wasn't ready to make contact until later. And, it was actually his current wife who helped initiate contact.

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Monday
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you aren't willing to accept a stepchild as your own child, do not marry a person that has children. It doesn't matter if their children don't live with them, you never know what the future will bring. If you can't learn to love that stepchild as your own kid, stay the hell away from their parent.

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Laura is The bombdigity
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why isn't he on the mat with the rest of them? He looks so excluded. Poor Lil guy

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Christina Uhlir
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The family courts are not doing their job, they supposed to rule in the best interest of a child, not a biological parent, and allow only supervised visitations in the slightest sign of abuse. Children's lives are being ruined.

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C.S.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

there is no, mine and the other. You are a FAMILY. You are all or none. No wonder the world is going to the shitter.

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Gabby M
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care wht her reasoning or excuses or wants are....eliminating a CHILD from a "family" photo makes her a huge P O S!!!

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Naomi
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not saying anyoe involved in this story is "bad" or anything else. I'm here to give some isight on my opinion, and if you're not ready (and going to hate) scroll right down to the next comment. What I think is that I understand it takes time to adjust, I understand it takes time to move on, but I'm surprised a FULL GROWN, mom, could ever request ANYTHING like that, infact I wouldn't even DREAM of it. I mean, you have kids of your own. You've experienced it all. You iknow how YOUR child would feel, and even other children too. I mean, think from his perspective. Your parents separated, you haven't seen your dad for ages, and you've just met your stepmom who treats you like poop. I mean, thats messed up.

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Kali Fugatte
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am the stepmother of my 2 children. Granted, I got them after the birth mother passed away, so it's not the same thing. I can not even imagine treating my children different from any that I would give birth to. But, again, they are mine in every sense at this point, since the birth mother has passed. In a selfish point of view, I guess I can see why the step mom would want a pic of just her and the children she created biologically. But from the viewpoint of that child, the idea of having pictures without him can be very damaging. I hope she understands this now and has learned from the outcry this has caused.

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Glynis Lailann
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its not only step-moms that behave like that. Sometimes one's own mother behaves in the same way.

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Gabby
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a step-child, I became too much stress for my step-mom so she left me at my mother's doorstep at 8pm one night at the age of 5 WITHOUT telling my mom. A few days later, my father and her showed up with my stuff in garbage bags and thrw them into the house like how they throw garbage into the trucks.

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Yili Lai
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her "remove him from the full family photo please". REMOVE him? Yahhh that shows how much she loves her step son. Wow her choice of words

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Minnie-me
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What do we expect from a fat selfish cow such as this one?

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Loraine D.G. MacGinness
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her vacant right arm should have been around the wee boy's shoulders ! The actual photo looks unbalanced, A 'professional' photographer should have seen this, pointed it out AND rectified it, It doesn't reflect well on him as a 'family ' picture-taker !!

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Crystal Withem
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't have it happen with a step sibling, but with my half siblings. When my younger sister got married she took pictures with her mom, our dad and our brother, but I wasn't invited nor my family. It really hurt.

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Latoya Graham
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she’s a b***h. My ex husband girlfriend was so nice to our kids. Until she got married.l to him.Then my kids are a problem. My ex husband is full of c**p. I told him the kids will always be yours. Hell she’s the second wife. He doesn’t have the best track record

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Meagan Loe
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing wrong with her request and if I were her I would have never responded to the trolling/shaming.

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Barbara Vandewalle
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Treated the same NO! He is sitting off to the side the other two are in her lap. He noticed.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He just met them first time after 6 months... Would you really expect a child to sit on a lap of a person he barely knows? It would be weird if she made him do it x_x

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Steve Cruz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, it was stupid of her to post that request. Glad she realizes it. The only person we haven't heard from is the boy's FATHER -- where is he in all this? C'mon dude, step-up!

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Ashley Wright
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

‼️Of course(!) it wasn’t her intention to have her outrageous request go viral! But it WAS her intention to leave him out of the FAMILY photo. What an awful woman. She should pay more attention to her weight gain than pushing her stepson off to her left, out of camera view. This poor kid will find out about this SOMEHOW, some time, if he doesn’t already. How hurtful.😭😭😭

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Karen Klinck
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, she didn't ask that he be edited out of all of them. She just wanted some with her biological children IN ADDITION to those with him.

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Bee Diaz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The way the other kid is sitting away from her says a lot. She should not have married the child's father if she cannot accept the child. What a horrible, horrible woman.

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Darlynn Margrave
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Has anyone asked where the sperm donor was in all this? He was obviously there. What about pics of just him and his older sin. How would stepmom feel if donor dadasked to have her and her children photoshopped out of the pic?

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Anne
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But she wanted pics with her and her bio kids. Not with her husband in it either. I don't even know if her bio kids are his kids too, or if they are a fully blended family. I'm assuming to have some - just in case we ever divorce, we still have this year documented-pics?

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe she would have made a better impression if she hadn't asked if someone could have "Photoshopped the kid to the right out of the picture." If she had started with, "In need of help. I recently went to a photo shoot with my biological children to have some photos of us taken, much like my husband's pictures of him alone with his son from previous marriage. The photos I had taken did not come out. I do not have the ability to have them redone, but would like to have some with my kids from my first marriage. These are ones with my kids and my husbands son (my adorable step son.) These are some of my favorite photos, but I was wondering if someone can move my stepson from these and create separate ones with just me and my two biological kids and maybe a separate one with just my stepson. That way I have all of them, but can have ones that spread out the beauty of these photos. Thanks"

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elfin
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lady, leaving the kid out of the pictures IS treating him differently. It's the old "separate but equal" meme that has historically been used for other types of bigotry. This child should not be removed from the photos. He should be removed from the household as long as that woman is in it. Good thing he lives with his Mom.

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Randi Hart
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My stepfather took me and brother in from day one. This woman is mean and nasty. I hope the father can see what kind of real person she really is. Just because she didn't give birth to him shouldn't make a difference. He seemed to be a cute little boy who is getting treated by an evil stepmother. I hope his mom makes sure that the father can only see him and not her. She doesn't deserve to be in his life until she can realize that he is family too. I had this happen when my stepmom came into my life, but by the time that happened I was already in my mid-twenties, married, and living out of state, but when I did move back and had children I was cute out of her and my dad's lives. She made it all about her kids and her grandchildren. I am an only child with my dad, and he didn't stick up for me. I only hope this father decides to get more involved in his son's life and sticks up for him.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, Randi, you would like her husband to dump her because you think she didn't behave like she's supposed to? Of course the fact she didn't give birth to him makes a difference - he is not her child, she probably sees him every half a year and she is not obliged to care. But she still welcomes him in her home and probably is nice enough to him, like you would be to a child that is a distant relative that you just see once in a while. I hear your sad childhood stories, but you cannot judge a person by one unfortunate decision that got blown out of proportion.

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Antonia
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

same here with my son and his stepmom. she has two sons of her own and when there was a fight between the 3 bros, my son always was the one, who gets the anger from her. now he is nearly 16 and i said to him: be always polite to her, but you dont have to put up with everything"..

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When he turns 16 he should also be able to have more say in how he sees his father - it doesn't have to be with any step-family at all if he doesn't want it.

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Ginger Gibson
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was stupid enough to post that in the first place but people who hate on her are just self-righteous a******s. Unless you've been a step parent, you have no idea how difficult and complicated the situation is. It's so easy to say "treat your step children like your own or you shouldn't marry his/her parent" but not everyone is so lucky to have that kind of bond with their stepchildren. You fall in love with their parent first and the kid(s) might very well be a compromise you have to make in order to have a life with this special person in your life. I'm more inclined to believe that she does her best to treat her stepson with kindness but it's just not the same when she also has biological children of her own, especially if the ex-wife is some kind of pain in the a*s. So don't be so quick to judge.

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hobbitly
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand they dont have the same bond like she does with her other children, but what is the harm in having him in all the shots? Its always better to make people feel included than excluded.

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y a n a
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen first-hand the damage step mums can do to their step kids. I blame the dad though! Who marries a woman who doesn't love or even appreciates his own kids? It's an unfortunate example of how selfish people are.

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Zelda Blue
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you marry someone you accept their family as part of the deal. That includes step children as well as crazy in-laws. For this woman to ask that her step son be photo shopped out of the pictures is disgraceful. I don't care if she later said that she loves him etc. He is part of your family no matter how much he sees his father. If I were this child's biological mother I would make sure that the step mom had absolutely nothing to do with my son because if she can be this cruel on facebook what is she like in person. There is a special circle of hell for people who hurt children both physically and emotionally. I work with a woman who's ex-husband adopted her first daughter and they went on to have 2 more girls together. His mother would not buy her birthday or Christmas presents because "she's not my biological granddaughter" How evil is that! What is wrong with people today, children should be loved and cherished.

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why we have courts who put the childrens needs first. The child's biological mother can't make the decisions in isolation - the father must be consulted too unless a court has said otherwise. Both parents have a duty to be reasonable and if they can't then the decisions get taken out of their hands.

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K.B.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can Photoshop. I'll Photoshop her head into the a*****e she is.

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Leopoldo Pisanello
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This mother need to see "Lilo and Stitch": 'Ohana means family. Family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.'

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Marcellus the Third
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Read: "I do love him but only when it's on my court-ordered schedule".

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CP
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it is much more complicated than you make it out to be.

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AnnieLaurie Burke
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I don't want anyone to think we treat him differently...." but we just don't want him in family photos. Does anyone believe he isn't treated differently???? And what of his father? Is he a man or a mouse? This reminded me of a scene from the movie "Blazing Saddles", where Mel Brooks used some stereotypes and racial epithets to show the blazing hypocrisy of bigots. In one scene near the end, one of the town fathers reluctantly agrees to accept SOME of the new settlers, but..."OK, OK, we'll take the n*****rs and the ch*nks, but we don't want the Irish!"

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Donna Leske
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He (the dad) has those two little kids on her lap? Plus he has a 3 year old, he's been real busy, I'm thinking he's not Mr. Rock Solid Dad.

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Id row
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This story is now out there forever and that kid will see it one day. You can't unring that bell. This woman is horrid and she still sees nothing wrong with what she did. She's only sorry there was such backlash at her attitude towards her stepson and she wishes she didn't post it. She is disgusting and I'm so sorry that poor little boy is going to grow up with her around.

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Deborah Fox
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this woman needs family counseling. What she wrote/said was disgusting. He is Family. If you wanted pics without him you all should have gone on your own time without that little Angel there. You must be a real peach of a person, a real work of art. As I always say even Jesus had a step parent and he loved him and his mother. What if he had not? Ponder that for a minute. Religion aside. My mother had the nerve to call me her eldest daughter, my husband who my dad adored, and my 2 beautiful daughters( and yes the oldest was from my first marriage) "Extended Family" because we had to move 6.5 hrs away in the same state for my husbands work. She is a certifiable "Narcassist" per counselor so I am guessing you are probably one too. Who says this about a child that is blood to your husband. I bet you also have something to do with him not seeing him in 6 months too. I'm sure you make it quite difficult. Just remember 1 day you will be old and feeble. Your kids may even grow up to hate you and your husband may be gone or passed. Now realize that little boy could be the only person in your life to see to your care and well being. What if he asks the Dr.s to remove himself from the picture because you aren't "Family" and he doesn't care where you end up. Karma is truly a B@tch my friend. What goes around comes back to you 10 fold. Just keep that in mind. That little boy has done nothing to you besides be created by your husband. Have some modicum of respect and love for that little one. You are Unbelievable Lady. Gotta go. This woman makes me physically ill with her cold- detached behavior. Like I said if you see this you need counseling so you can learn how to be a decent human being.

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Scratch
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would she need photos with and without her stepson? Her explanation made it worse.

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CP
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought it was a good explanation. For reasons we don't know the kid only sees her every six months. It is hard to build a relationship especially a delicate one like step parent and child with only seeing someone every six months. Her request was indeed insensitive, but due to the infrequent visits the step son relationship can't flourish.

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Kathy Baylis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So where’s the father in all this? Why didn’t he stick up for his son? The boy may not be the evil stepmother’s biological son, but he is his father’s. Instead of only focusing on the mothers, let’s bring the father into this. It’s more up to him to set the rules than the stepmother. If he’s unwilling to defend his child, then his visitation should be cut down to just a check in the mailbox.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How and why is he supposed to "defend" his child? The kid is not in any danger. Do you really want to argue just because the stepmom wanted a couple of pictures just with her biological children? What is the damage? Is it a reason to forbid him to see his son? Calm down people...

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is the silliest insult I've ever heard o_O BTW, we all should be full of garlic, it is very healthy!

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I love Foxxy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When she married her partner the step child became “her” child too. He IS family whether she likes it or not. It’s bad enough that she has him sitting away from her whilst the other children are on her. I feel so sad for him. If he is being put in the sidelines for family photos, I hate to think what else he misses out on etc.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will play a devil's advocado a bit. It seems that the biological mom has full custody and the child sees the father just once in a while (first time in 6 months it says). It means he is not a full-time family member, sad but that is how divorces work. The stepmom didn't have anything against the stepson being on family photos, and it seems she is nice enough to him. We don't know why the kid stays on the side in the photos, maybe he doesn't feel like hugging a person who is almost a stranger to him? You can't make them all to love each other and be one big happy family if they see each other twice a year... I agree that the stepmom was not very sensitive to post her request online, but I can understand that she might want a couple of pictures only with what is her close family. Also, she admitted being insensitive and explained her reasons. Familly matters might be very complicated. The thing is, the kid would probably never even know, but now the whole thing got blown up...

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Patti Brock
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have 3 boys - One has a different dad - credit to my Ex-husband as all my boys were treated the same by him and I will always love him for that. He still treats them the same. He even considers the grandchildren his!

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Al Jones
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I don't want you to think he's being treated different because he really isn't". Asks for him (only him) to be edited out of a photo.

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David_C Surrey
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid is not living with them and this was his first visit. As usual the salty vinegary people of the internet like to get the knives out.

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Lsai Aeon
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had similar. I was adopted at birth, no siblings, but my cousins that are all around the same age did stuff like this to me, "Family picture, oh, no Lsai, not you" or we would be introduced to new people "Hey, meet C, K & S, they are L's kids! Oh and um, this is Lsai, she's adopted" then this new person would squat down, get right in my face and "OH HOW CUTE! They took you in! :D" I'm not one of L's kids I'm L's brother's daughter, but still they didn't even acknowledge that... Family sucks

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Jenica Thomas
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn Lsai, I am sorry to hear that! I just don't understand how family could do this to each other. Adopted, step, or otherwise! BLOOD doesn't make a family, LOVE does and the love should go to EVERYONE.

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MJ
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow just wow. So many massive leaps in outrage. Let's be honest I doubt the husband arranged the outfits and the photo shoot. Clearly she did and went to the trouble to get a matching outfit to include the child. It says it's the first time they saw him in months and yet they took the opportunity to do family photos then with him. How is that excluding him when if they didn't want him in the pics they could have done them literally any other time. Anyone who's taken family pictures knows you do combos of people. She's allowed to want pictures with just her biological children in addition to group shots. It says the ones they took solo didn't turn out, editing one she took with the child to make up for the ones that didn't turn out is totally reasonable. Would we be outraged for their children if the Dad took one alone with just his older son. No because sometimes you want memories that capture you and specific people in your life solo.

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Pseudo Puppy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've run a photography studio, which included organising the post-production of the images ie cropping / retouching etc etc. These kinds of requests are actually fairly normal, for a whole range of reasons, especially with mixed families (which is very common nowadays). Sometimes, the photographer plans to take a huge range of different combinations of family members, and sometimes, it's not possible to get all combinations - therefore, a request to have someone cropped out, or to have retouching done (to either include or exclude certain combinations). The biggest mistake the step-mum made, was NOT approaching this in a professional way, and speaking directly with the photographer. Putting such a request online, is simply asking for trouble. Another reason why it pays to hire a *professional* (vs someone just doing it for quick cash on the side), is that they treat it professionally & don't gossip about it online. In the end, you get what you pay for. Hopefully she's learned.

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the UK, at least, b***h isn't much of a swear word at all... you'd have to try harder than that to be offensive! 😀

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Vicky Zar
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is it just me or does his position in the first photo tells it all? If she loves him so much, why is he sitting all alone while the other kids kuddle with her? And couldn't she just habe made photos with her own kids at the photosession? Geez

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Vicky Zar
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Scratch that. I should read the whole thing before posting. I'm sure the stepson didn't want to kuddle like the other two. It seams he doesn't know her that well if this was the first time he saw her in 6 months. Noone wants to kuddle "strangers" and its ok.

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hunger games
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see how this sounds bad but she just wanted one with the children she birthed and i'm sure she cares for him why else would she take the picture with him and get the matching outfits.

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pusheen buttercup
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so lucky to have a stepdad whom I don't think of as different than any other dad, and vice versa.

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Anna McHugh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 41 and it's still a painful thing to remember when my parents (Father and stepmother) went off to get pics of them and the kids without me. I was older though; I was an adult.

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Stille20
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yea, its not a great thing to ask, but the internet also needs to cool it's jets sometimes. I hate the way "the internet" drags family drama into an international debate for amusement.

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Sandra La Madeleine
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow thank god she loves him eqqually! Or else she would have him sit on the far side of the picture, or worse, she would ask if people could photoshop him out. Imagine being that cruel! But that's great she doesn't treat him differently.

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Robyn Rob
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had the misfortune of having two step parents abuse me since I was a young child, simply because I was not their biological child. I’ve moved on and created a good life and family, but let me say it’s a pain that never really leaves you.

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Cat
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not all stepmothers treat their stepchildren differently. My uncle is half sibling to the rest and he and my mum and other uncle didn't find out until he was about to get married. That was when he found out that his birth mother died during birth and my grandma treated him just like her biological children. He visited my grandma everyday during her last a few years before she passed away, even though she was in a coma. There are genuinely good stepparents out there. Don't lose hope <3

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Imitating
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am very lucky to have grown up with step siblings/parents and always felt equally included. Unfortunately I do get to live through this as an adult with my SIL and MIL, every family gathering they always want a family only picture. It irritates all 3 brothers in the family as they try to stand up for their wives.

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

SIL & MIL need to stop being so petty and pedantic. Why people think a photo matters more or less just because there are some other 'less related' people in it... beats the hell out of me. I think I'd be tempted to refuse to be part of the photos just to be as petty and pedantic back.

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Catherine Cramer
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And throughout this long story covering everyone's opinions...what did DAD have to say about the situation and how come DAD hasn't seen him in 6 months?? This would really make me consider how visitation is handled, as in "cut out step-mom". Why does it usually seem like its a "mom" issue - both biological parents need to figure this one out.

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Stevie B
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This should have been handled with the photographer. Why post it online? While it may be more expensive this way, there is no element of shaming involved. I don't really fault her for wanting a photo with just her kids, but posting it publicly & announcing it to the world is wrong. A little discretion can go a long way.

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Adilya
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And all people criticising her are angels. Do not exaggerate, step mother always remains step mother.

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Pacifico Fernandez
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The internet could be a real as**le these days and ruin the life of everyone. I hope you guys don't experience what is it to be a second wife. She probably had millions of photos of the first child with her and the dad. She was taking care of him, but was never allowed to have oppinion about whether he was spoiled or misbehaving. Whatever the biological mother says - she needs to do. The father probably loves his big son more, because he was the first. Everyone compares her with the first wife. Everyone blames hew why she does not have children yet. She does not have a normal family. Finally she gets kids and all she wants is one photo with them. Yes, its sound bad, but it is not like she thew away the big kid in the trash bin. You must be more understanding and not so fast to judge.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I want to know why it was the first time the father had seen his son in 6 months.

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Brother of a divorce lawyer here. In this scenario we don't have enough information. A lot of the time both parents are too busy scoring points off each other. Many see custody as a way to 'win' regardless of what is best for the child. Not always of course, sometimes one parent is reasonable and the other is not, sometimes step parents cause the problems. There was one case where a mum had brainwashed her children so that they had learned to hate their father without any justification, poor man. Another where the father only wanted custody when his parents were there to look after his children because he couldn't really be bothered. However, anyone who thinks that mums are always perfect and dads won't be there is just as wrong as those who thinks dads are always too harshly viewed. It's a very mixed bag of possibilities.

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Ashley Richard
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I kinda hate the fact how, she explained everything, and even said she regretted posting the comment. But everyone still hates on her, does no one care that she said stepmother...7__700.jpg stepmother-asks-photoshop-group-remove-stepson-from-family-photo-5dfb3e6361d67__700.jpg ( click link) It seems to me that she wanted pictures alone with both her stepson and her biological kids, but as she said, she couldn't get a good picture with her birth children cause they wanted to go on the playground, and he only photos she had was of all of them together. ( her birth kids, stepson, and herself). So thats why she asked if the photographer could edit her stepson out of some of the photos.

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Tarpyan Bilnazzi
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For God's sake. The stepmom just wanted to have a few good pictures of her and her biological children only since the ones taken weren't as good. AND the fact is there are other pictures of her and children with the stepson. Anyone who thinks she was being nasty and cruel need to learn how to read.

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Randy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Was an unwanted step child several times ,reason to leave home early and neither biological parents did much if any thing to change things either treat them all the same ,know them before hand or move on

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Karen Johnston
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I married a man that had two children. They were 4 and 2 at the time. My husband and I made a pact that we would never say anything bad about their mother (at least in front of them). Which we never did. And it was hard. That being said, I NEVER excluded them from family photos. And also took them to have their individual pictures taken. And I also did that for the children we had together (twins). I bit my tongue over the c**p their mother pulled for 13 years. When my stepdaughter was 17, she had enough of her mother and moved in with us. She has become my best friend. Unfortunately, her brother (my husband's other child) wanted nothing to do with me, being brainwashed by their mother. Stepparenting is tough, but you must always put the welfare of the child first.

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Cathy Price
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My second husband opened his arms and his heart right away to my two kids by my first marriage. He has always thought and treated them as though he was their biological dad. He even shelled out $30,000 when "our" daughter got married. Her biological father didn't pay one penny! And she named our second grandson after my husband. There is a difference between being a father and a dad, being a mother and a mom. When I married my first husband at 19, I became the step"mom" of a 5 year old and he and I had a blast!!!!!

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your_lesbian_friend
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats so mean! The poor kid prolly just want to bel loved by his step mom and be treated nicely!!!

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Doob
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if she really wanted him outta the pic, she couldve cropped it, but she is rude

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Aliquid A
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And here I though the "evil step mother" trope in fairy tales was just a made up thing for the sake of a story.

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Don't Look
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s not really fair is it? There’s two sides to every story.

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Azure Adams
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She will never see her grandchildren or her adult children once they leave her and the sooner the better

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Quita Clark
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay, it sucks, but I can see this on her side. I had a unique situation myself like this. I adopted two sons with my ex husband, and then had a biological son with a boyfriend after that. We made Christmas cards. I didn't take separate pictures of the boys, but I considered it because I figured my ex husband and his family wouldn't want a pic of my son that I had later. Maybe the stepmom is a b***h, but it sounds like she just wanted some pictures of her bio kids for maybe their dad or something.

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TC
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm surprised how in the States apparently your spouse's kids become your kids. Does this happen in any other country? They are not family at all. This doesn't mean they are not respected or even loved. They're not even adopted !! I think what the lady wanted to do is perfectly acceptable. She even says she loves him but let's remember he isn't her own kid because he has his own mother.

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Tracy Braat
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's very sad Happened to me when I was in grade 9, Dundurn Saskatchewan My mums 2nd husband's sister took me in when I was 11, February 11, 1979 We never had family pictures before and while we were taking the family pictures the mother asked me to step aside so the family could take some pictures without me.... It was like a knife in my side, I was actually winded but stepped aside... I asked to go to foster care after this incident because I knew they Didn t care about me just my dad's $169.00 a month they received from my dad's passing in 1970... I'm 52 now, it still bothers me what a sociopathic Ignorant Greedy family they truly were... I also know it was not about me, it was about them and their vaccuous ignorant issues

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Eddie
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was raised by my "step" father. He's pretty much the one who I consider my dad. all of my stories about my "dad" are about him. I am also a father to seven kids. Four biologically mine. I've raised my kids with the saying that there are no steps in the family. My youngest daughter (18 months when she came into my life) is white, I'm Puerto Rican and you'd never know that we didn't spend her first 18 months together. Today my dad has 15 grand kids, and 4.5 great grand kids even though he never had any biological children, but you'd never guess that by how he loves them and us all.

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vagabond soul
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait, what? 6 months since the Father had any time with his child? How could anyone be so cruel to keep a father away for that long. Shame on you for doing that to a child. Shame on you! SHAME ON YOU! Then have the audacity to mention and insinuate that the child is not loved by his father's side of the family. Truly a very sick woman to be that vindictive. SHAME ON YOU!

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Pandana
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This reminds me of this lady. She was my respite mom at a point. She took pics, family pics, but her adopted son with autism was not in any of them. Just her, her husband, and her baby girl. He was not in any of them.

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Claire Armstrong
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow!! Did she honestly expect to say something like that and not get any backlash? Unbelievable! I was brought up with my step-dad and not once did I ever feel a difference between me and my brother and sister! My biological dad - I have only recently made contact with him and I get on great with his wife too, and my sisters on his side. But, his current wife is not the mother of my sisters! Their mother on the other hand, phew! She told my dad "I don't mind if you see Claire, if you want her in your life, but she's not welcome in my house"! I have never had any contact with her in my life to justify this reaction, and this was also said when they were fairly recently married and I was just a child! But it turned out OK, I didn't make contact with him until a few years ago, I always knew who he was and that he was my biological father but I wasn't ready to make contact until later. And, it was actually his current wife who helped initiate contact.

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Monday
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you aren't willing to accept a stepchild as your own child, do not marry a person that has children. It doesn't matter if their children don't live with them, you never know what the future will bring. If you can't learn to love that stepchild as your own kid, stay the hell away from their parent.

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Laura is The bombdigity
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why isn't he on the mat with the rest of them? He looks so excluded. Poor Lil guy

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Christina Uhlir
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The family courts are not doing their job, they supposed to rule in the best interest of a child, not a biological parent, and allow only supervised visitations in the slightest sign of abuse. Children's lives are being ruined.

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C.S.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

there is no, mine and the other. You are a FAMILY. You are all or none. No wonder the world is going to the shitter.

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Gabby M
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't care wht her reasoning or excuses or wants are....eliminating a CHILD from a "family" photo makes her a huge P O S!!!

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Naomi
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not saying anyoe involved in this story is "bad" or anything else. I'm here to give some isight on my opinion, and if you're not ready (and going to hate) scroll right down to the next comment. What I think is that I understand it takes time to adjust, I understand it takes time to move on, but I'm surprised a FULL GROWN, mom, could ever request ANYTHING like that, infact I wouldn't even DREAM of it. I mean, you have kids of your own. You've experienced it all. You iknow how YOUR child would feel, and even other children too. I mean, think from his perspective. Your parents separated, you haven't seen your dad for ages, and you've just met your stepmom who treats you like poop. I mean, thats messed up.

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Kali Fugatte
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am the stepmother of my 2 children. Granted, I got them after the birth mother passed away, so it's not the same thing. I can not even imagine treating my children different from any that I would give birth to. But, again, they are mine in every sense at this point, since the birth mother has passed. In a selfish point of view, I guess I can see why the step mom would want a pic of just her and the children she created biologically. But from the viewpoint of that child, the idea of having pictures without him can be very damaging. I hope she understands this now and has learned from the outcry this has caused.

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Glynis Lailann
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its not only step-moms that behave like that. Sometimes one's own mother behaves in the same way.

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Gabby
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a step-child, I became too much stress for my step-mom so she left me at my mother's doorstep at 8pm one night at the age of 5 WITHOUT telling my mom. A few days later, my father and her showed up with my stuff in garbage bags and thrw them into the house like how they throw garbage into the trucks.

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Yili Lai
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her "remove him from the full family photo please". REMOVE him? Yahhh that shows how much she loves her step son. Wow her choice of words

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Minnie-me
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What do we expect from a fat selfish cow such as this one?

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Loraine D.G. MacGinness
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her vacant right arm should have been around the wee boy's shoulders ! The actual photo looks unbalanced, A 'professional' photographer should have seen this, pointed it out AND rectified it, It doesn't reflect well on him as a 'family ' picture-taker !!

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Crystal Withem
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't have it happen with a step sibling, but with my half siblings. When my younger sister got married she took pictures with her mom, our dad and our brother, but I wasn't invited nor my family. It really hurt.

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Latoya Graham
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she’s a b***h. My ex husband girlfriend was so nice to our kids. Until she got married.l to him.Then my kids are a problem. My ex husband is full of c**p. I told him the kids will always be yours. Hell she’s the second wife. He doesn’t have the best track record

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Meagan Loe
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing wrong with her request and if I were her I would have never responded to the trolling/shaming.

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Barbara Vandewalle
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Treated the same NO! He is sitting off to the side the other two are in her lap. He noticed.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He just met them first time after 6 months... Would you really expect a child to sit on a lap of a person he barely knows? It would be weird if she made him do it x_x

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Steve Cruz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, it was stupid of her to post that request. Glad she realizes it. The only person we haven't heard from is the boy's FATHER -- where is he in all this? C'mon dude, step-up!

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Ashley Wright
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

‼️Of course(!) it wasn’t her intention to have her outrageous request go viral! But it WAS her intention to leave him out of the FAMILY photo. What an awful woman. She should pay more attention to her weight gain than pushing her stepson off to her left, out of camera view. This poor kid will find out about this SOMEHOW, some time, if he doesn’t already. How hurtful.😭😭😭

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Karen Klinck
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, she didn't ask that he be edited out of all of them. She just wanted some with her biological children IN ADDITION to those with him.

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Bee Diaz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The way the other kid is sitting away from her says a lot. She should not have married the child's father if she cannot accept the child. What a horrible, horrible woman.

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Darlynn Margrave
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Has anyone asked where the sperm donor was in all this? He was obviously there. What about pics of just him and his older sin. How would stepmom feel if donor dadasked to have her and her children photoshopped out of the pic?

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Anne
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But she wanted pics with her and her bio kids. Not with her husband in it either. I don't even know if her bio kids are his kids too, or if they are a fully blended family. I'm assuming to have some - just in case we ever divorce, we still have this year documented-pics?

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe she would have made a better impression if she hadn't asked if someone could have "Photoshopped the kid to the right out of the picture." If she had started with, "In need of help. I recently went to a photo shoot with my biological children to have some photos of us taken, much like my husband's pictures of him alone with his son from previous marriage. The photos I had taken did not come out. I do not have the ability to have them redone, but would like to have some with my kids from my first marriage. These are ones with my kids and my husbands son (my adorable step son.) These are some of my favorite photos, but I was wondering if someone can move my stepson from these and create separate ones with just me and my two biological kids and maybe a separate one with just my stepson. That way I have all of them, but can have ones that spread out the beauty of these photos. Thanks"

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elfin
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lady, leaving the kid out of the pictures IS treating him differently. It's the old "separate but equal" meme that has historically been used for other types of bigotry. This child should not be removed from the photos. He should be removed from the household as long as that woman is in it. Good thing he lives with his Mom.

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Randi Hart
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My stepfather took me and brother in from day one. This woman is mean and nasty. I hope the father can see what kind of real person she really is. Just because she didn't give birth to him shouldn't make a difference. He seemed to be a cute little boy who is getting treated by an evil stepmother. I hope his mom makes sure that the father can only see him and not her. She doesn't deserve to be in his life until she can realize that he is family too. I had this happen when my stepmom came into my life, but by the time that happened I was already in my mid-twenties, married, and living out of state, but when I did move back and had children I was cute out of her and my dad's lives. She made it all about her kids and her grandchildren. I am an only child with my dad, and he didn't stick up for me. I only hope this father decides to get more involved in his son's life and sticks up for him.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, Randi, you would like her husband to dump her because you think she didn't behave like she's supposed to? Of course the fact she didn't give birth to him makes a difference - he is not her child, she probably sees him every half a year and she is not obliged to care. But she still welcomes him in her home and probably is nice enough to him, like you would be to a child that is a distant relative that you just see once in a while. I hear your sad childhood stories, but you cannot judge a person by one unfortunate decision that got blown out of proportion.

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Antonia
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

same here with my son and his stepmom. she has two sons of her own and when there was a fight between the 3 bros, my son always was the one, who gets the anger from her. now he is nearly 16 and i said to him: be always polite to her, but you dont have to put up with everything"..

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When he turns 16 he should also be able to have more say in how he sees his father - it doesn't have to be with any step-family at all if he doesn't want it.

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Ginger Gibson
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was stupid enough to post that in the first place but people who hate on her are just self-righteous a******s. Unless you've been a step parent, you have no idea how difficult and complicated the situation is. It's so easy to say "treat your step children like your own or you shouldn't marry his/her parent" but not everyone is so lucky to have that kind of bond with their stepchildren. You fall in love with their parent first and the kid(s) might very well be a compromise you have to make in order to have a life with this special person in your life. I'm more inclined to believe that she does her best to treat her stepson with kindness but it's just not the same when she also has biological children of her own, especially if the ex-wife is some kind of pain in the a*s. So don't be so quick to judge.

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hobbitly
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand they dont have the same bond like she does with her other children, but what is the harm in having him in all the shots? Its always better to make people feel included than excluded.

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y a n a
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen first-hand the damage step mums can do to their step kids. I blame the dad though! Who marries a woman who doesn't love or even appreciates his own kids? It's an unfortunate example of how selfish people are.

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Zelda Blue
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you marry someone you accept their family as part of the deal. That includes step children as well as crazy in-laws. For this woman to ask that her step son be photo shopped out of the pictures is disgraceful. I don't care if she later said that she loves him etc. He is part of your family no matter how much he sees his father. If I were this child's biological mother I would make sure that the step mom had absolutely nothing to do with my son because if she can be this cruel on facebook what is she like in person. There is a special circle of hell for people who hurt children both physically and emotionally. I work with a woman who's ex-husband adopted her first daughter and they went on to have 2 more girls together. His mother would not buy her birthday or Christmas presents because "she's not my biological granddaughter" How evil is that! What is wrong with people today, children should be loved and cherished.

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Liam Walsh
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why we have courts who put the childrens needs first. The child's biological mother can't make the decisions in isolation - the father must be consulted too unless a court has said otherwise. Both parents have a duty to be reasonable and if they can't then the decisions get taken out of their hands.

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K.B.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can Photoshop. I'll Photoshop her head into the a*****e she is.

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Leopoldo Pisanello
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This mother need to see "Lilo and Stitch": 'Ohana means family. Family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.'

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Marcellus the Third
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Read: "I do love him but only when it's on my court-ordered schedule".

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CP
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it is much more complicated than you make it out to be.

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AnnieLaurie Burke
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I don't want anyone to think we treat him differently...." but we just don't want him in family photos. Does anyone believe he isn't treated differently???? And what of his father? Is he a man or a mouse? This reminded me of a scene from the movie "Blazing Saddles", where Mel Brooks used some stereotypes and racial epithets to show the blazing hypocrisy of bigots. In one scene near the end, one of the town fathers reluctantly agrees to accept SOME of the new settlers, but..."OK, OK, we'll take the n*****rs and the ch*nks, but we don't want the Irish!"

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Donna Leske
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He (the dad) has those two little kids on her lap? Plus he has a 3 year old, he's been real busy, I'm thinking he's not Mr. Rock Solid Dad.

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Id row
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This story is now out there forever and that kid will see it one day. You can't unring that bell. This woman is horrid and she still sees nothing wrong with what she did. She's only sorry there was such backlash at her attitude towards her stepson and she wishes she didn't post it. She is disgusting and I'm so sorry that poor little boy is going to grow up with her around.

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Deborah Fox
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this woman needs family counseling. What she wrote/said was disgusting. He is Family. If you wanted pics without him you all should have gone on your own time without that little Angel there. You must be a real peach of a person, a real work of art. As I always say even Jesus had a step parent and he loved him and his mother. What if he had not? Ponder that for a minute. Religion aside. My mother had the nerve to call me her eldest daughter, my husband who my dad adored, and my 2 beautiful daughters( and yes the oldest was from my first marriage) "Extended Family" because we had to move 6.5 hrs away in the same state for my husbands work. She is a certifiable "Narcassist" per counselor so I am guessing you are probably one too. Who says this about a child that is blood to your husband. I bet you also have something to do with him not seeing him in 6 months too. I'm sure you make it quite difficult. Just remember 1 day you will be old and feeble. Your kids may even grow up to hate you and your husband may be gone or passed. Now realize that little boy could be the only person in your life to see to your care and well being. What if he asks the Dr.s to remove himself from the picture because you aren't "Family" and he doesn't care where you end up. Karma is truly a B@tch my friend. What goes around comes back to you 10 fold. Just keep that in mind. That little boy has done nothing to you besides be created by your husband. Have some modicum of respect and love for that little one. You are Unbelievable Lady. Gotta go. This woman makes me physically ill with her cold- detached behavior. Like I said if you see this you need counseling so you can learn how to be a decent human being.

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Scratch
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would she need photos with and without her stepson? Her explanation made it worse.

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CP
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I thought it was a good explanation. For reasons we don't know the kid only sees her every six months. It is hard to build a relationship especially a delicate one like step parent and child with only seeing someone every six months. Her request was indeed insensitive, but due to the infrequent visits the step son relationship can't flourish.

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Kathy Baylis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So where’s the father in all this? Why didn’t he stick up for his son? The boy may not be the evil stepmother’s biological son, but he is his father’s. Instead of only focusing on the mothers, let’s bring the father into this. It’s more up to him to set the rules than the stepmother. If he’s unwilling to defend his child, then his visitation should be cut down to just a check in the mailbox.

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How and why is he supposed to "defend" his child? The kid is not in any danger. Do you really want to argue just because the stepmom wanted a couple of pictures just with her biological children? What is the damage? Is it a reason to forbid him to see his son? Calm down people...

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Eva Verde
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is the silliest insult I've ever heard o_O BTW, we all should be full of garlic, it is very healthy!

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