Man’s Stepdaughter Chooses Her “Real Dad” To Walk Her Down The Aisle, So He Pulls The Plug

While a wedding is primarily about the happy couple, many consider it to be a family affair as well. The bride and groom’s parents will be thrilled to be part of the occasion, and they might even have a say in some of the planning if they’re paying for the entire event.

But in the midst of his stepdaughter’s wedding planning, one man realized that he was much less important to her than he previously thought. Below, you’ll find the full story that this man shared on Reddit detailing why he pulled out of paying for his stepdaughter’s big day, as well as some of the replies readers left him.

This man was more than happy to fund his stepdaughter’s wedding

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Until he realized that he was expected to foot the bill without being involved in the big day at all

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Later, the author responded to a couple of comments from readers and shared a few more details

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Readers were shocked by the story, and many applauded the man for standing up for himself

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However, some weren’t impressed by how the author handled the situation

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And some even had similar stories of their own to share

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Wedding costs are often split between the bride, groom and both of their families

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Hearing that a wedding is approaching gets the whole family excited. The bride and groom’s parents will be thrilled to see their child start this new chapter in their life, and their siblings will be thrilled to welcome a new brother or sister-in-law into the family. But, of course, one of the biggest practical concerns when planning a wedding is how big the budget will be.

According to Zola, the average wedding in the United States in 2025 costs a whopping $36,000. But Brides.com notes that half of the couples planning a wedding will go over budget. 

There are many factors that will impact how much the big day will cost, one of which being the location. Throwing a wedding in a big city will typically cost more, while having one in a smaller city in the Midwest or South might come out to only $20,000.

The venue and catering are going to be some of the biggest expenses for the couple to cover, but there’s a long list of things to pay for when planning a wedding. The Knot notes that the photographer, wedding planner, music or DJ, flowers, videographer, wedding dress, cake, alcohol, rings and more can add up to a massive price tag extremely quickly. And don’t forget that you’ll probably want to go on a honeymoon too!

Because getting married can be so expensive, many couples don’t end up footing the entire bill themselves. The Knot says that the costs are usually split between the bride, the groom, each of their families and the wedding party. 

Paying for the big day usually guarantees parents a few invites for their friends

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A study from The Knot found that half of couples who got married in the United States paid for a minority of their wedding, while 36.8% paid for the majority, and only 13.2% funded the entire day. 

Traditionally, the bride’s family has been expected to cover the wedding venue, while the groom’s family pays for a portion of or the entire honeymoon. Meanwhile, the wedding party usually covers their own wedding attire, wedding gifts and the bachelor/bachelorette parties.

However, there’s no right or wrong way to plan a wedding. Not everyone’s parents have the means to help out financially, and some couples prefer to plan the entire day themselves to ensure that they get to make all of the decisions. After all, if someone is shelling out $20,000 for their child’s wedding, they should probably get to invite at least a few guests.

Of course, it’s best for everyone to be on the same page about who’s invited and how many invites each parent gets. And it’s probably not a good idea to invite anyone who doesn’t know the happy couple. But if family members have been kind enough to contribute a significant portion of money to the big day, they deserve to feel included too, even if that means inviting just a few of their friends.

We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this man made the right choice by pulling out of funding his stepdaughter’s wedding? Then, if you’re looking for another Bored Panda article featuring wedding drama, look no further than right here. 

Later, the author shared a brief update on his situation

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And finally, he revealed where his relationship with the women is at today

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