There are many things in our world that cause us to wonder. Why do birds fly? Why is 42 the answer to everything? What's the secret ingredient to Krabby Patties? These questions remind us that there are no silly questions, only silly answers.

For this very reason, a subreddit called r/NoStupidQuestions was made. Just recently, a Reddit user by the name of No-job-no-money created a thread wondering why are there so many young people flaunting their money these days, and how do they manage it, and the question sparked a vigorous debate that reached 9.3k upvotes and generated 1.5k comments. And below you'll find what people had to say about the subject.

Though the thread originally started on Reddit, you can also add your answers to this post too!

#1

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers The US is grossly unfair in terms of starting wealth. I don't hate rich kids: they didn't choose to be born rich. But we lived on different planets, and I hate the society that punishes kids for not being born rich.

I grew up on the bottom end. Single mom, with no child support, no job, but with untreated mental health issues. One bedroom apt for three people. Evicted every couple of years. Never enough money for food (not even the unhealthy kind) or clothes without holes. Beg, borrow and steal. No money for doctors, dentists or other fancy services. Sometimes no money for electricity. No fancy luxuries like a shower or AC - so you perpetually look dirty even if you take a bath daily. And kids were mercilessly cruel about things like that.

For school, if it wasn't free, it wasn't happening. Extra curriculars? $10 to join a sport team wasn't happening. Gym clothes? No. Running shoes? No. Want to play ball? Go look around the park and ses if you can find a lost ball. Want to take an AP class or SAT? Better go beg for someone else to pay for it. Want to do science fair? Posterboard and markers are too expensive.

You're 12? Old enough to work under the table. You're 14? You can now get government program jobs with a waiver. You're 16? Now you can step up to legit minimum wage jobs. Just get a passing grade and fuck homework so you have time to do paying work. Graduate as fast as you can to get out of here.

You want to go to college? Ha. Who's going to pay for that application? Who's paying for the bus ride just so you can look at a campus? Who's going to accept you with that shit GPA? I'm lucky I got a waiver on SAT fees and a good score so I still had a chance.

You're 17? Now you can join the Army and get away. A legit paycheck, with legit food and a legit shower and legit work clothes without holes. I put on 20 pounds in basic training because food. Nothing to be scared of from a foreign army compared to the shootings Saturday night in the hood. Dentist had a lot of work to do to catch up. And that poverty-line salary made me the richest I've ever been. Even got a computer.

Turning 18 I had no monetary debt, but years of catching up on basic expenses just to catch up to middle class high schoolers. In another 5 years, I'd even be rich enough to get a 15 year old car. Living off student loans and ramen was heaven, even though the other kids bitched about living off $1000/mo, I was living off $500/mo on food and a room and that was finally the best years of my life. I lost a few years going to wars, but by 25 I caught up to where those middle class kids were at 18.

But of course I hadn't really caught up. After 18 some kids got a cheap room at their parents place, or their parents paid for a cell phone bill, or even paid for their car or college. And after college, some parents helped kids get jobs or down payments for mortgages.

Grad school was great until the scholarships dried up. Interviewing is hard when you've never interacted with corporate white collar employees. Be yourself is terrible advice when they can't relate to your life. Many, many cringeworthy career limiting interactions. Laid off? At least you had a parent with a couch you could crash on. I had that old car that was just getting older to sleep in.

But it got better. I'm still a straight white American male who never got caught up in crime or drugs and did well on standarized tests. I had a chance. I got out of the hood, figured out how to pretend to be middle class, and kept finding work. Hopefully by retirement age I will catch up to the kids born rich who spent most of their adult lives in jail and rehab.

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BetweenTheCracks
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2 months ago

How is this not higher, like in the top 3 at least?

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#2

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers Also different priorities.

In Germany there is a stereotype that young guys from migrants from the south east (Turkey / Afghanistan / etc.) always have big expensive cars. Brand new Mercedes in their twenties. Conservative Germany see that and can only wonder how someone can have something at that young age. It must be stolen, from money laundering in those weird shisha bars. Must be something illegal.

The thing is, Germans prefer other things in life. They don’t show pride in owning something expensive, they don’t want to make someone else jealous. Your neighbors won’t congratulate on your brand new Porsche. They will envy you and probably think you didn’t deserve it. Thing is, those migrants don’t think that way. They are not jealous if you show up with a Mercedes.

So when young men spend the money on a risky loan for an expensive car, it doesn’t make sense to conservative Germans, therefore those young boys didn’t do it and therefore it must be stolen or somehow illegal. In addition I recently learned that to own such a car people will also share it with close friends and instead of having 3 shitty cars they share one luxury car instead. Not many people see your house/flat but wherever you go, people see your car, or cloths or jewelry therefore those things are more important to other cultures than to yourself.

Different priorities, different choices. For you it’s a fake facade, for their circle it is a sign of pride in their belongings. Don‘t project your expectations on others.

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Caro Caro
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2 months ago

I also think that it is vulgar to flaunt your wealth/possessions.

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#3

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers Rich parents.

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denzoren
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2 months ago

Soooo many times this is the case. Financial support and backing to do what you want without having to worry.

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#4

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers Lots of people have family money, but very few are honest about it.

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denzoren
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2 months ago

If you asked them they all built it from the ground up...not to mention those "small loans".

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#5

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers Not paying rent is the primary. You know how much money I would save just by not paying rent. I could pay my mortgage that's how much money.

Tbh I am working just to pay rent :(

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denzoren
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2 months ago

Rent is horrible. It's okay for me to pay $2000 in rent per month but the bank wouldn't give me a mortgage at $1000 per month.

BetweenTheCracks
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2 months ago

Isn't capitalism fun?? /s

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Nicki
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2 months ago

It is so bad here in California...The hubs and I were lucky and bought after the real estate bubble burst (2009) and got a newly built house in a bedroom community in SoCal (about an hour north of San Diego). Now our mortgage is about the same as a 2 bedroom apartment in the same town! We are not going anywhere so if the bubble pops again, we will be fine, but still! Sometimes it can be about luck and timing...

SZ
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2 months ago

I once worked at a non-profit where my boss was paying her son's rent, cause he couldn't make ends meet. He was doing a residency at a large well known hospital, but couldn't pay rent cause he only made $60k a year. I made $30k working for her and had to pay my own rent.

Ozzie Ogawa
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2 months ago

I'm so lucky for getting a place to stay (with electricity and water, all for free), with decent wage. The downside is i have to work 7 days a week most of the time. NB : i work in aquaculture industry, a fish hatchery to be exact

Ladyandthetramp
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2 months ago

Like rich people blow off Thousands of euros just on a bottle of wine. When that could be very helpful and change my life.

ChrisZAUR
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1 month ago

I live with my parents and still pay rent, I'm not complaining as I am using their house, but they do give me a discount cause renting the same space would easily cost me double what I am paying them

Steven Santos
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1 month ago

Rents suck and banks even more ...

Rebecca Shockley
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1 month ago

If you are carrying to much debt you can't get a loan unless you get a government loan and they are there to get. Sometimes it's best to start there to get your credit started.

Madadh Sweeney
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2 months ago

Getting a mortgage is absurd. An apartment complex has no trouble fitting you into a unit that soaks up 3/4's of your income. However, a bank won't lend you jack or s**t to buy a house even if the mortgage payment would be half of what you're currently paying in rent. Oh yeah, and got student loans? Be prepared to be flogged for that as well.

First Name Last Name
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2 months ago

What I don't get is how many younger people won't even consider living with others to split rental costs. Six people in a $1000 per month house is cheap as heck!

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#6

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers Don’t compare your life to someone’s highlight reel on social media.

You see what they want you to see, but you never get to see their problems.

I highly doubt that individuals in their young 20s have the means to live that kind of lifestyle without some kind of support such as their parents. There are exceptions im sure, but the point being is that you should always take what you see with a grain of salt.

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2 months ago

True, but the Reddit poster didn't say he saw this on social media exclusively.

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#7

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers Don't even get me started. I was the only one in my ex-friend circle doing literally everything I could to financially educate myself fresh out of high-school.

Those same people are in crippling debt today because they were so busy with building this ridiculous image of themselves as being rich JUST for social media.

One of those guys fucked up real good. He took out a loan for a BMW M3 at 16% interest over 7 years with $3000 down. How he was even approved for that loan is beyond my understanding.

People will do anything for clout, man.

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BetweenTheCracks
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2 months ago

"People will do anything for clout." Truest damn thing I'll read today.

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#8

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers I'm grew up in a pretty rural area and most wealthy young people I know are in Factory/manufacturing and work 60-70 hours a week and have virtually NO free time. They'll have a 50k truck and 200k house in their mid 20's but are stuck in a brutal 12-14hr workday lifestyle.

I know very few wealthy kids that have lots of free time, maybe in that case they would probably have come from wealthy families? Trust fund kids maybe?

Personally Ill take free time over money any day (well to a certain extent I guess) I'm not lazy, I just believe that your TIME is the most valuable currency that you own, not the money in the bank.

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Leo Domitrix
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2 months ago

I've been in *poverty*. Food, clothign, shelter, money to buy a book? *WEALTH*

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#9

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers My aunt and uncle are loaded. Some years ago, my younger cousin would tell me he bought his expensive car (for a 17 year old) all by himself.

My uncle told me that he had bought both cars for his kids with his own money. Wanted them to save their money.

Totally fine with this. But lying just makes him look desperate for attention.

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Mazer
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2 months ago

It goes both ways, many rich kids feel the need to hold themselves to an unrealistic standard but so do poor kids

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#10

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers Also the rent economy - people can rent almost anything these days! Fancy clothes and handbags, cars, property... hell, even friends. So often we only see the surface of people, not the reality.

This is super common in the "influencer" world.

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denzoren
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2 months ago (edited)

It's also really sad that these people are "influencers" for the younger generations.

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#11

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers I only recently learnt a mate has a dozens trust funds & stock handed down generationally. They spend most of their time in a constant state of decorating. I always wondered how they afforded to do it considering they don’t do much or anything else.

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Mazer
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2 months ago

Sounds like a pretty sad existence

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#12

I've been poor and felt just like you. I'm 31 now and my expenses are literally 600 a month. The rest of my money is spent buying gifts, traveling, and basically doing whatever I want. My friends get annoyed that I "do whatever all the time" but the truth is im almost living day to day like a 14 year old. I eat fast food, leftovers, live with 5 roommates. My actual life is really gross. But I put up with that because I get to have way more freedom and adventures pretty often.

I'm not married, have no kids, hell I haven't owned a car in 5 years, but if you look at my social media it looks like all I do is travel, skydive, party, eat well, kayake, etc.

I'm not posting me sitting at home.

Also, I'm not in debt at all but lots of people are.

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denzoren
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2 months ago

This is pretty cool. Not an option for all I must say though. I live at home but I also help support my parents, I'm paying for graduate school and where I live I don't have a choice when it comes to owning a car (public transport is horrible). My expenses aren't extremely high but I still can't really afford so much extra stuff.

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#13

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers Also - If you're a natural "life of the party" type of person. If you have a likable and interesting personality. People are drawn to you and opportunities can heavily turn to your favor.

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 months ago

Yes, but if you are too much into being the life of the party but not enough into knuckling down and doing some actual work, those opportunities will dry up. Quickly.

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#14

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers A lot of people like that are actually in debt. They go into debt to sell the "perfect IG lifestyle." I have plenty of classmates from high school who moved to LA right after graduation (no rich parents btw) and continuously post photos of them showing off cars, going on luxury shopping trips, etc. and most of them are in so much debt it's crazy. One of my classmates left LA last year during the pandemic because she couldn't afford to keep up with her fake lifestyle anymore. Now she has a job working at Target to pay off some of the debt she's accumulated and moved back in with her parents.

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Mazer
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2 months ago

Your friend is the lucky one. She is fortunate in that she has a family to fall back on. So many poor people had broken families growing up and nothing to fall back on.

#15

I'm young (23) and make way more than I need but if I ever posted a video on a boat or drove a nice car or went to clubs 24/7, it's safe to say it is either my parents vehicles, or I was able to afford it due to the position my parents put me in. No 23 year old who didn't come from a nice upbringing could afford an Audi (I don't drive an Audi, but you get the point), even if they make six figures. Most 23 year old's have a negative net worth. The ones that flaunt anything either are 1) coming from nice backgrounds or 2) are digging themselves into debt. I can confidently say this because I come from the first scenario.

I guess my point is that it is all noise. Don't get distracted by it and pulled into the lifestyle of impressing others. If your life revolves around impressing others, you will not be happy regardless of how much money you have. The future super wealthy people who are currently your age are probably moving silently, without broadcasting their endeavors for the world to see. With that being said, it is nice to try and achieve the highest earning potential you can. An example of that would be me leaving engineering and going into an MBA program that later became a project management gig. Make double as I did as an engineer. Just don't get sucked into the noise. Even someone who makes 300K but can't budget will always be broke. Infinite spending is an illness.

Also the miami/fort lauderdale area is its own beast. You have to take everything with a grain of salt there. I'm sure there are people living in mansions down there who are struggling to make ends meet. I know a few.

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Mazer
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2 months ago

Your schooling is a privilege.

#16

Beware of debt.

I make what most would consider a comfortably large amount of money. I drive older cars, have a modest house, and an constantly fixing my broken things.

My neighbors have brand new cars from nice manufacturers, sometimes boats, a second house maybe, and all this and that.

Why? Because they over leverage liability debt. Besides my home, I have none. It's my choice, cause I don't give a fuck about what any one thinks.

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 months ago

It used to be called “keeping up with the Joneses”, it was ridiculous to do back in the day, and it’s ridiculous to do now.

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#17

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers I come from a pretty well-off family, and I have made it very, VERY clear that my parents are not to help me unless I ask. I have my own bank account, I'm setting up a life map.

And I probably won't be as rich as these people, because-ngl-some of them are REALLY spoiled.

So. My answer? Rich family. Boom. But hard work is always the answer.

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Sam Chilton
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2 months ago

Hard work and luck. I've always worked hard, but hardly anyone wants things done thoroughly, just quickly. Lots of exhausting overtime (especially in the culinary section) usually unpaid, and then get laid off. Being an immigrant (UK->EU) sucks.

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#18

That almost always is the result of rich parents. Either their parents just directly give them money, their parents hooked them up with a job they didn't deserve that pays way better than it should, or their parents cover major bills (car payments, rent, etc) so all of their money can just be spent on "fun time" stuff .

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Monty Glue
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2 months ago

Living a frugal life as a child showed me what I would have to do to survive. Mother died when I was 6, father died when I was 19. So I was on my own without a safety net, if I screwed up, I was screwed. I ate rice and beans, saved my money. invested fairly well (I made bad mistakes, but I made a lot of good decisions too). So, I retired at 55 with my house paid off and no debt. At age 64, I have more assets then when I retired despite living off my savings. My pickup is 20 years old and runs fine, I still dress cheap, but I do eat well and I can sleep knowing I have zero debt. It wasn't easy, but walking the tight rope without a safety net has a way of making you focus on your goals and making the necessary sacrifices.

#19

Person Starts A Thread Asking If He's Missing Something About Young People Having So Much Money, And People Delivered Their Answers Couple of options:

Wealthy parents

Still living at home - even a poor paying job can let you live well if your main expenses don't exist

social media effect - you only see the BEST days you don't see the other 6 days in the week.

EDITS to add from other comments:

Debt - especially a way to have the "nice car" they really should not be buying

Luck - there are people out there who get super lucky and fall into the right job that gets them wealthy, or get lucky on Crypto or stocks

Life of the party - Some people get invited to cool events because they are good fun

EDIT 2 Because this blew up more while i was sleeping:

Drug Dealing/Crime - a way to get a lot of money fast

Vacation - this is more for the people around your friends but people will be there for a good time and spending their money.

Hard work - At age 21 this usually going to have be in concert with a bit of luck or parental help, but hard work will take those advantages further.

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Stephanie IV
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2 months ago

Trafficking humans.

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#20

Possible reasons: family money, credit card debt, illegal activities, "morally ambiguous" activities, rich friends and/or suckers. There are plenty more, and everyone's circumstances are different. Some have planned and budgeted for whatever it is they do. Money isn't everything. Keeping good people around you is. Live within your means, or ideally below it. r/personalfinance is a great repository of information and guidance if you ask for it to get you on track. Flashy clothes and cars aren't everything you think they are; mileage varies with the people who possesses them. The great thing about being 21 is you get to experience that all for yourself and find out. The fact your asking these questions, and hopefully sincerely seeking answers is a great start. Follow up.

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 months ago (edited)

I’ve known 25 year olds who graduated high school at 18, immediately got themselves apprenticed to master plumbers/electricians/HVAC specialists, and worked their way up to become masters in their fields themselves by the time they were 25-28 years old. There’s good money in those fields if you’re good at them, and good at running a business as well (evening business classes at the local community college can help). But those young folks were also very mature, responsible, and committed to learning their trades at a young age. Rare gems, it seems.

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#21

What you are missing is called “inherited wealth.”

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#22

Adding to this: If your wealthy parents pay your rent and give you a monthly allowance. Mine pay my rent currently and while I’m too much of a homebody to really ever want to show it off, I am putting 90% of the money I’m earning at my job into savings for when I get an apartment I’m paying for after I graduate. I’ve gotten $1600 in my savings for two weeks just because I don’t have to pay for anything, including school debt.

My parents are great and it pisses me off to see other kids in that situation taking it for granted

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Nikki Owens
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2 months ago

This. I'm advising both my kids to live at home until they've saved enough money to make a down payment on their own place. Renting is a scam & you end up with nothing.

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#23

I wonder if it's a different family dynamic, my friends from SEA, India, etc seem to keep money in the family so to speak, and pool money/accommodation/cars. Until people get married they live in the family house and sometimes even carry on living at home once married or at least in another family-owned home.

This pool of cash/wealth means it's easier to have a nice car. My friend at university (20 years ago) was driving a brand new civic fancy edition something or other. The rest of us couldn't afford cars, but he mentioned it's technically a family car (one of many) that he uses.

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 months ago (edited)

Used to be that way in the US too, especially amongst immigrant families. My father’s parents had him and my aunt (their only two children) living at home even after they both got married. Once they saved enough for a house and furniture, plus enough money in the bank and savings to cover emergencies, they moved out. It was their parents’ way of giving them a house without actually buying it for them, and helping them get a good headstart in life, instead of having to dig themselves out of a deep hole by going into debt. I wish more parents did this—-as long as the kids understand it’s a chance to work and save without being buried under expenses, not a license to lay around the house all day and freeload.

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#24

I know a lot of girls that are wealthy because they do "lewd" content in various sites. Others do pr0n. Both are lucrative endeavors if you have the discipline to be entrepreneurial. These friends grew up poor, decided to capitalize on their looks while they are still young and can and have been doing extremely well for themselves. Some are smart with their money others not so much

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 months ago (edited)

Yes, but what are they going to do when that runs out? The internet isn’t written in pencil, so it will follow them forever, including if they decide to get a college degree and go into another line of work. You can’t just think in the short term, unless you know for a fact you’ll be dead by 30. Since most of us are going to live til three times that age, or even close to four, long term thinking is what we should all be doing way more of.

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#25

Also another option. Some people just get extremely lucky.

My cousin went to work in a local factory in high school. He was making 80K by the age of 21. Likewise a guy I knew from high school, got a degree that landed him a tech job betting $125,000 after graduating from college.

Not saying these situations are common, but they do happen.

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lailyfnoor
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2 months ago

My parents had ever said to me: doesn't matter how smart or how hard working we are, they are nothing without luck.

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#26

Rich Parents and Credit Cards

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 months ago

Correction: rich parents, who are also paying their kids’ credit card bills.

#27

I swear I ask myself this all the time.

I see other teenagers on TikTok, and when I say teenagers I really mean it like not even 20.

They have trendy clothes, a never ending wardrobe, a bunch of books, music albums or whatever they like to collect, have expensive phones etc

And I'm just looking at that like how!??

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denzoren
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2 months ago

I'm in my 30s...working since I was 22 and I don't have any of these. Lol

#28

Outside appearances are honestly more of a sign they don’t have as much money as you think, but also could he explained in some ways.

A nice car and nice clothes are not good indicators that they have money. Almost anyone can get a car on loan but what you don’t see if their 16% interest car payments on their 6 years loans, equating to likely double the advertised cost of vehicle, which is depreciated by half once it’s finally paid off.

Nice clothes depending on the brand can still be found for cheap or even at thrift stores. I’ve found lots of great clothes this way.

Also they could be buying these but the rest of their life is crap. My neighbor for example (not hating) doesn’t have to pay for his house because his parents paid for it. So he spends his money on a brand new, big feature truck. Okay fine. But doesn’t have much else - no investments, savings, or any preparation for the future.

Some people just spend money on outside materials - sometimes even to impress others - but have nothing else.

Of course come people have rich parents are might be doing okay for a season. But you can look rich without being rich.

Also in my experience the higher middle class to slightly wealthy people show rarely any signs that they are.

Im not rich my any means but I drive a 16 year old car that is literally worth only a couple grand and has rust. I don’t upgrade because I don’t need to and rather have the money in investments.

That being said, the best way to start having free time and make good money is to start looking at options like starting a business, investing opportunities, etc.

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Mazer
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2 months ago

More choices many poor people do not have. People here have no concept that those choices are not afforded to everyone equally. I hope that sentence can sink in to someone’s grey matter here.

#29

For me, I have a good job that I do 14 13 hours days straight with 14 days off to rest.

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 months ago

Medical job, like nurse or doctor (intern)? Offshore oil rig? Commercial deep sea fishing?

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#30

Also - DEBT. In particular for Cars.

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Kathryn Baylis
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2 months ago (edited)

Beautiful expensive luxury car. Parked in the driveway of a f*****g tumbledown shack.

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