Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app
Continue in app Continue in browser

BoredPanda Add post form topAdd Post Search
Tooltip close

The Bored Panda iOS app is live! Fight boredom with iPhones and iPads here.

Mom Of Two Explains What It Feels Like To Be Sober For Two Years And People Instantly Relate
User submission
253
64.6K

Mom Of Two Explains What It Feels Like To Be Sober For Two Years And People Instantly Relate

ADVERTISEMENT

We have all been to situations where we don’t want to do something, we know why but just can’t be bothered explaining ourselves to everyone else, knowing that would sure suck us in an endless conversation about the decision and ain’t nobody got time for that, right?

Therefore, it really takes courage to expose yourself in sensitive topics and even more so, when you’re doing that on the Internet. This didn’t put off this brave mom of two, Celeste Yvonne about an issue many can relate but rarely speak of and the Internet loves it. This is not the first time she’s drawn attention to serious issues parents face though.

More info: Celeste Yvonne

This is Celeste Yvonne – a writer, Instagramer, marketing guru and most importantly a mom of two

Image credits: andwhatamom

In her blog, she mostly writes on parenting in an excruciatingly honest manner that every parent can relate to. She also tries to bring awareness to social issues that are usually kept under wraps. Her latest topic of quitting drinking has drawn a lot of attention since her decision to talk about it publically.

About a year ago she decided to go public about being “alcohol-free”

Image credits: andwhatamom

In an interview with Bored Panda, Celeste said she made the decision to quit drinking completely in December 2017 after realizing she couldn’t be the mom she wanted to be with three glasses of wine in her system almost every evening.

ADVERTISEMENT

And her sobriety post went viral

Not drinking had a huge impact on her family life

Image credits: andwhatamom

Her relationships with her kids and her spouse have absolutely grown. “I’m less distracted and I’m more present. I still get angry, I still get frustrated, but I don’t experience the tremendous guilt that came with over-drinking around my family. I don’t worry my kids would always remember me with a drink in my hand, and then as they grow up my own worry about what kind of effect that would have on their own decisions as adults. ”

It wasn’t an easy decision to go public about it though

ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT

Image credits: andwhatamom

It took Celeste a year to go public with her decision to stop drinking. But it was all worth it as she is now getting messages every day, thanking her for bringing awareness to this and talking so openly about her own journey.

She has advice for people tackling similar problems

Image credits: andwhatamom

The mom of two admits she was very reluctant to talk about her decision to quit drinking in the first year but now she feels more confident about it every day. Despite believing that “No” is a complete sentence, she admits people are fascinated with a person’s choice to not drink, and a “no” response often gets volleyed back with a “how come?” Her recommendation is saying “it’s for personal reasons” and changing the topic. “But as I become more confident, I’ve discovered it’s a lot easier for me to say “I quit drinking a year and a half ago and it’s the best decision I ever made.” I love my success story and it’s exciting to share my journey with others. ” she adds.

And refuses to be a member of “mommy wine” culture for any longer

ADVERTISEMENT

Image credits: andwhatamom

Sometimes it may seem moms, in particular are being targeted by alcohol companies through advertising and in social media with the so-called “mommy wine culture.” and it’s dangerously effective. Celeste herself admits having used the “mommy wine” memes and jokes as justification to her overindulgence and definitely feels like the minority now that she’s not drinking. “Almost all my mom friends drink and swear by their wine. The difference between them and me was I never wanted to stop with just one drink,” she told Bored Panda.

Women on the Internet could instantly relate

ADVERTISEMENT

65Kviews

Share on Facebook
You May Like
Popular on Bored Panda
Share your thoughts
Add photo comments
POST
paperstars86 avatar
Sarah Barker
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your friends are willing to exclude you for not drinking, they are not your friends.

hazelree avatar
Stille20
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It irritates me when people feel the need to have a PSA about their minor struggle. Yes, when you don't drink, people ask why. Have an answer ready, "I just don't". If they press it, they are not the kind of people you want to hang out with anyway. But you can't freak out because someone offered you a drink and you didn't tell them you don't drink.

terybriggs avatar
Mama Panda
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand what you are saying and can partially agree with you. But I think the PSAs help a lot of people who are not assertive or are introverts cope with something they are having issues with on a daily basis. I figure if you don't have that problem, then just ignore them and move on with your day. Everyone needs support at one time or another right?

Load More Replies...
krystalzombiegirladams avatar
ZombieGirl5591
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At least she has kids...try being childless and a non drinker...that makes so many people uncomfortable lol

paperstars86 avatar
Sarah Barker
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Child-free, non-drinker AND vegetarian over here! Proud of who I am though, just waiting for the rest of the world to stop feeling personally offended by MY chosen lifestyle.

Load More Replies...
dopethronepunkuk avatar
HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this even a thing?, so she chooses not to drink, well done, why the world needs to know i don't get. Drink or don't, whatever, if people don't like you for it, forget about them.

ns_1 avatar
N S
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

cause alco-mom did not learn anything proper and now needs to do "something"

Load More Replies...
hello_274 avatar
Hermien Scholten
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wait, is this a weird American thing? I've never even heard of moms drinking while their children are on a play date. How do you get home sober? Why is this a thing?

ralica_iliewa avatar
Rall
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the same. Here in Europe this is not a thing, moms drink coffee and eat cake when are on a play date.

Load More Replies...
shoop0da0whoop avatar
Suzanne Harris
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I drink but I don't give a damn if my friends do or not. A no is a no. I'm still going to offer my friends alcohol, just like I offer them juice, water, milk, or soda when they come over.

aniasnever avatar
Ani Davis
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll admit that -- even as someone who likes to have an occasional drink -- it's bizarre to see so many posts of moms/wine.

r0berts102817 avatar
Laura Roberts
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s like being told THIS IS THE CORRECT WAY TO COPE. Sure I am not a parent but I’m the weird 31 year old that hasn’t been drunk and only drinks a handful of times a year.

Load More Replies...
lean_on_sky avatar
Anqi Wang
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's strange that you can go viral with something as trivial as not drinking. I don't drink, I just say it, and there is never a fuss about it, anywhere.

donna_mok avatar
Donna Cheung
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad that she has made a simple decision and doesn't even have the confidence to tell her "friends" that she just decides not to drink. Either she doesn't have actual friends who respect her decision, or she's too hung up on how people think of her.

katsotiriou avatar
Kat Sotiriou
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anytime someone says NO I just think "hallelujah more for me" haha

theredqueen_1 avatar
the redqueen
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she is making the whole thing a big deal, and being weird about it, and that's how some people have reacted to it ; because like someone said in their comment, "she is not owning it". I think that she is struggling to "own it" , because she hasn't even admitted / dealt with the fact that "she had a problem", at all. I even detect a bit of deflection on her part; she feels ostracized, and judged, and it's all about how "they" are dealing with her "no drinking", and it's a distraction for her, because I bet she has not dealt with the REASON she started drinking, and got to where she didn't want to stop. I really feel for her, but she is going to struggle until she deals with the underlying reasons/issues that contributed to her "problem." I think that she is embarrassed, and ashamed, and the word "alcoholic " is a dirty word that does not apply to her-but it's not a dirty word. This strikes all kinds of people, and it knows no prejudices..I wish she would get some help...

amberly_middlemiss avatar
Amberly Middlemiss
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i dont drink and get asked all the time to, or asked why i don't. Have an answer ready, no big deal.

kate_mar avatar
Kate Marešová
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

try being sober in a society where beer is a huge cultural thing... I cannot even count how many times I have been called "weird", "not fun" or "hipster" for not drinking... and those who are saying "you are around wrong people" just don't understand there are many social situations where you just cannot choose - family gathering, work party, weddings...

mintyminameow avatar
Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone saying s**t about “the wrong people” is just blaming the person who did nothing wrong. I rarely drink and nobody gives me a hard time but I don’t blame her for the fact that people give her a hard time.

Load More Replies...
hard2guesss avatar
Hard 2 Guess
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am almost 39 years old, I have never drunk alcohol in my life and I do not plan to. I will proudly announce this. It's just who I am.

theredqueen_1 avatar
the redqueen
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know the step to get help is one of the hardest parts, but it's like a weight gets lifted off your shoulders, and you are surprised how much relief you feel. You start liking yourself again, you forgive yourself in time, and you will wish you had done it along time ago. I had to get help.....over 5 years clean and sober...

mpolini1117 avatar
wusah
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sure nobody cares that she doesn't drink. Problem with being sober on the month the people that drink is that drunk people are sloppy and I'm nauseous. It's been that way my whole life I'm the non-drinker and I have to put up with the drinkers. And always the designated driver

mpolini1117 avatar
wusah
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me try that again the problem with being sober in the middle of people that drink it's a drunk people are sloppy and obnoxious LOL

Load More Replies...
ria144 avatar
Krysta Pandoo
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just say no, you weak-willed human being. Not every mother out there is a alcoholic, they just want to share a drink with a friend - who the hell are you to judge them? It's useless weak people like you who just can't politely refuse instead of splay all your neurotic c**p over the Internet.

kiki68sg avatar
AuntyJem
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In response to Krysta Pandoo-I respectfully disagree. I don't think she is judging others. She is explaining her own struggles. It is very difficult for recovering alcoholics. It becomes clear how much of our society revolves around alcohol when you become sober. And people do ask why you aren't drinking, even when you prefer to keep your reasons private. Yes, you can say no. But it also comes with a deep internal struggle.

Load More Replies...
brandiisawkward avatar
Theamazingfrobo
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know what I never really thought about it but shes right. People are always so shocked when they hear that a 22 year old has never drank. Some have even tried to pressure me into drinking and I feel embarrassed when I tell them my family has a history with alcohol abuse and I don't want to become another statistic. You don't have to drink to have fun.

nikkid avatar
Nikki D
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She looks wired, like her eyes are as wide as they will go! I think she traded wine for too much caffeine!

mamma2molly avatar
MammaG
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have the wrong friends if you think this is a big deal.

katoglow avatar
Kato Glow
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been sober two years and don't feel my plight is so special I need to share it with the world. Get over yourself!

shari_custer avatar
Shari Custer
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 54 and have never touched a drop of alcohol (not religious, just not interested and I hate the smell). I have never had anyone push me to drink or question my decision. I think it has a lot to do with how you refuse. If you are confident and don't make a big deal out of it, they understand you are serious and leave you alone. If you act like you're conflicted and sound wishy-washy, they think you want someone to give you permission and will push. This isn't a huge thing unless you make it one. Just say, "No thanks, alcohol doesn't interest me." And, if they don't get it, tell them to move on.

tamora_spiller avatar
Tamora Spiller
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've had a drink, once, when I turned 21. Never again. I have zero reasons why just never been interested. At 40, I get more flack for not drinking from folks who drink and want a deep and personal reason why I don't drink. When I don't have one, it's on to them justifying how much they're going to drink and a guilt(?) that I'm somehow judging them. I don't like how people's internal guilt about drinking gets projected on me because I don't care what you drink and I have no idea how much wine/liqour is considered "socially unacceptable" so I can' t (and don't care to) judge what you do. This is and has always been a thing in my world.

aine avatar
Aine
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not saying you're not going through this, but you must be unlucky... I don't drink, and I live in a culture known for enjoying alcohol quite a bit. Everyone is cool with that, no questions asked. I'm not offended when someone offers me a drink, though, they're being polite. I understand that me saying yes to a glass of wine would be the most obvious thing to do. But I found that after a few instances of saying no, folks actually get juice or other drinks for me when I come over. I don't expect it, but they do. You must have very stubborn friends... and you do seem to get upset easily, to be frank.

aine avatar
Aine
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, I've been the (very much appreciated) DD ever since I was a teen (I'm 38 now). I really don't mind doing it, I'd rather my friends be safe. And I still have amazing parties and evenings with them. No need for a drink.

Load More Replies...
johnlouis avatar
John Louis
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NO ONE, NO ONE, NO ONE Should ever have to explain why they do not drink!

monilip avatar
Monilip
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just say "I don't drink" and that's it. What's the problem? I don't drink because I don't like most of alcoholic drinka and noone has every asked me twicd or asked me why. First world problems, really...

james_fox1984 avatar
Foxxy
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t drink and some people are surprised but rarely get negative comments and I don’t feel pressured to drink just because others are drinking. More people are shocked and react to me not drinking coffee and get called a weirdo etc. Can’t stand anything alcohol or coffee flavoured.

beejayw avatar
Ben Smith
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look at me!!! Look at me!!! Lady no one cares about your supposed “struggle.” Don’t drink, drink, whatever. This will come as a shock to you: people don’t care about your every little move.

abdallah06apple avatar
Blue Cicada
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This will come as a shock to you, then, but there are some very rude and crude people out there. They will criticize and belittle you for being different from them. If you have never encountered this, then you are very blessed, and you should be thankful. For the rest of us, we have to constantly explain our religious backgrounds, our medical restrictions, our sobriety etc. We say, "none for me, thanks!" That should be enough, but we are pressured with the demand to explain our dietary needs. Going out for lunch with the boss? Say no to alcohol? Prepare to get a lecture from your boss about not being a team player. Going to the church choir director's house for a picnic ? Say no to beer? Prepare to be lectured about being a party pooper, and playing holier than thou.

Load More Replies...
jasminkatanner avatar
Cat person
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad was a heavy alcoholic for much of his life and I used to find empty beer bottles hidden in places around the house, but then he made the life changing decision to quit all on his own, without any coaxing from anyone or AA groups

monakhadra avatar
Mona Khadra
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I barely drink but seeing these comments make me want a drink.

nanz1956 avatar
NanZ
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand what she is talking about. My husband and I both drank for years. He just decided he didn't want to anymore. When people we partied with for years would offer him a beer, he would just say no thanks. You would have thought from their reactions that he had said he wasn't going to breath anymore. I haven't drank for years just because I got tired of it and didn't want to do it anymore. I didn't realize that people would be shocked that we didn't drink, like there was something wrong with us because we didn't drink. To each their own is how I feel about it. As long as you aren't hurting anybody then I really don't care whether you drink or not.

elisepimenta avatar
Elise Pimenta
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only statement I can relate to is about alcohol being the only drug that we seem to have to explain why someone doesn't do it. I experienced this a lot especially when I turned 21. I would be be pressured to drink and when I would say no, people would always want an explanation. Usually, when I would say that I just don't want to, that wasn't enough of a reason for people and they would still bug me. Thankfully, now that I'm in my 30s, I don't get pressured to drink much anymore and I really haven't had to explain myself.

tamora_spiller avatar
Tamora Spiller
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At 40, I still have to have the "you don't drink?" conversation/confused look from folks, especially those I'm meeting for the first time. And then the stammering follow up about what they plan on drinking. I 100% don't give a fig what the hell you plan on doing and you don't have to clear your drinking choices with me. There was a point where I used to carry soda and lime so folks would quit asking me about it, but now I just roll out with my ginger soda and walk away from folks with that "confused look" .

Load More Replies...
jennylee avatar
Jenny Lee
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 39 and do not want kids. I also recently stopped drinking alcohol. Now I avoid going to the local bar/restaurant to socialize, because of the reactions I get when I say "I'm not drinking, thanks". OMG ARE YOU PREGNANT!?!?! is the usual annoying and inappropriate reaction from people. Then I have to get in to that topic...LOL

natalie-rhoads38 avatar
Natalie Rhoads
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why are you hanging out with people that peer pressure you to drink in the first place? If they can't take no for an answer the first time, then don't go back!

andreabenedictaz avatar
Andrea Benedict
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In this instance, I'm guessing it's because she said, "not right now" instead of "I don't drink." To me, the first means, "maybe later."

Load More Replies...
abdallah06apple avatar
Blue Cicada
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some of you have been very blessed, never have been ridiculed or berated for choosing to say no to alcohol. Here in the Midwest, if you say no to alcohol, (oftentimes) people demand to know why you won't drink. If you try to be vague, to protect your own privacy, they demand more information. If people feel comfortable with their decision to drink alcohol, and they are not in anyway threatened by someone else's decision not to drink alcohol. A rabbi explained this to me in college, and it has helped me quite a bit when dealing with intrusive people.

j_kaestner avatar
JayJayKay
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so refreshing! I find it so strange how accepted and sometimes even expected it is to drink. So many people are living with an alcohol addiction that is destroying their health, their social life etc and nobody says anything because that's just how it goes...

bluebellforawhile avatar
Bluebell Rizzi
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm allergic to alcohol and I'm always scared that someone might give me alcohol as a joke... tough times.

andreabenedictaz avatar
Andrea Benedict
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How bout this? Tell them the truth to begin with and they won't keep asking!

kenvan40_1 avatar
Ken Van Kouwenberg
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just tell people "Alcholol always got me into more trouble than it ever got me out of".

wangl avatar
m. b
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I haveboth, friends drinking and not both get along perfectly, also kids are not the reason to drink, it means you had issues before. But funny for me is the immediate thought crossing same my hubbies and my mind- that woman FOoKIN serious looks like she needs a drink rigt now! And dont get me/us wrong.any kind of abusement is wrong.from nodespray to opiates. It's your own and hopefully sto g mind to reason witbit andfrontime to time let itgo overboard.

alex_scott_newell avatar
Alex Newell
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Caffeine is another drug to have to explain not using. But I like my Coke Zero

stormcent avatar
Lisa Potts Pass
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I so relate to this. 11 years sober, but it was hard to have an answer to why at first. Funny, but most of my friends were happier that I didn't. Except the ones that were as sloppy as I had been

idrow avatar
Id row
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never feel the need to explain. If it's offered, I just say I don't drink. Why are these people so afraid to speak up? Are they afraid of losing 'friends'? I wouldn't want to hang with anyone who judged me and a friend would do that in the first place.

jennifer_n_harris_35 avatar
Jennifer Harris
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never a drop of alcohol in my life and guess what! No regrets. Not needed for any reason.

dysamoria-accounts avatar
Jace
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the “alcohol is the only drug we have to explain not using”. But: I often have to explain to people that they’re addicted to caffeine. Caffeine addiction is the ONLY CELEBRATED addiction.

mandybuchanan avatar
Mandy Buchanan
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 40 and have never had any alcohol in my life. I come from a family of teetotallers, my parents and my grandparents before them never touched alcohol. Some of the younger members of my family do drink now but I just tell them that I know myself and I have seen in other areas I have an addictive personality so I don't want to go down that road because I know I would never be happy with one or be able to control it so why start?

megwil79 avatar
Megan Wilson
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Celeste, it's like we are the same person. I made the decision to stay sober 291 days ago and I have been back and forth everyday about my willingness and comfort level in talking about it. I also did it for my kids and I totally understand the need to prepare for a "social gathering" days in advance. I cannot tell you how comforting it is to know there are others in my position, as I choose not to attend support meetings of any kind (I'm doing this my way) and I have a select few that I can confide in but nobody who truly gets it.

katie-trondsen avatar
KT Trondsen
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she's looking too far into it. Wine and moms go hand in hand for memes, but it's not a necessity for hanging out. I've never EVER seen it be an issue for any play dates ever. Just say you don't drink and own that sh*t.

ellenwall89 avatar
Crochet lady
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't be judging her, I'd be judging the mom who drinks when she's at home with her kids. I raised 3 boys in the 90's and I can tell you none of us stay at home moms were sitting around drinking. We were taking care of our kids. And while there were certainly days where I felt overwhelmed and exhausted (and outnumbered) with 3 under the age of 2, drinking wasn't where my brain went. Seems if anything it would just make you more tired, who sits around drinking at a play date?

marinamercouri avatar
Beatrice Multhaupt
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Help! How do I explain that I'm allergic to everything fermented AND that my liver doesn't produce the enzymes necessary to break down alcohol? I was born this way; it's not even a choice. There,s one problem i rarely have anymore, though....people just don,t invite me. A pleasant young man I work with was about to do so when he asked, ''So what happens to you when you do drink?''. I described the symptoms. No more invite.

kjorn avatar
Kjorn
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as myself i don,t drink and never had the need too and i Don't understand why i have to explain why i Don't drink.

dariab_1 avatar
Daria B
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was into Straight Edge as a teenager, so I was the sober one amongst drunks. For your information, although the legal drinking age in Croatia is 18, kids start as early as 12-14. Alcohol free teenagers are very rare. So, now I'm not a heavy drinker either, I might have a glass or two, but I'm picky. I like the sweet drinks and I don't like the taste of alcohol. But the cheapest alcohol here in Korea doesn't taste to my liking, so I usually refuse it, then they think I just don't drink, and many think mine is not a drinking culture. Nope, I just don't like the taste.

emory_ce avatar
Carol Emory
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you tell them you don't drink and they have a problem with it or chastise you for it..they are the ones with a problem..not you. I was a teenager drinker..Southern Comfort was my choice drink. Then one evening..I'm getting ready to go out with my girlfriends. One pours me a drink in a big mug..half alcohol, half cola. I was encouraged to slam it down. A friend drops us off near a teen dance club. And I realized as I'm staggering down the street..."Wtf am I doing?!?" I realized every weekend with these friends was a drunk fest. I'd spend the weekend hung over and tired. I stopped hanging out with them and sobered up.

curiousswiss avatar
M O’Fll
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why oh why is alcohol equated to fun? Because let’s be honest, it’s not the single glass of wine that makes it “fun”; it’s the excess, the lack of inhibitions, the giddiness, i.e., the mind-altering effects of alcohol. I won’t speak for all women but I am sure that I speak for some when I say that being around men who drink too much isn’t “fun.” It is f...ing scary, because... well... let Dr. Blasey Ford tell you.

mintyminameow avatar
Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I rarely drink but I’ve never been an alcoholic. I just don’t care enough about it to bother. This has never been a big deal, but sometimes people ask why and I just say I am not a big drinker. Mommy wine culture is trash and basic as f**k. Almost anything with the word “mommy” before it is horrendously lame. Anyway I guess when you’re an alcoholic it feels like a bigger deal to you than what it is to anyone else. And I understand that for sure. But also the line about alcohol being the only drug people pressure you about is clueless. Obviously if you’re hanging out with alcoholics (and that’s what those mommy wine women are) they will ask why you don’t drink. Go hang out with weedheads and they’d ask why someone doesn’t smoke.

ashleyslack avatar
Ashley Slack
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ma'am, I am so sorry that you have this struggle with other moms, but for goodness sake find some new friends. Being pressured to drink during a playdate? I have never encountered this among any friends, scattered across 7 different states. You deserve better. And please for the safety of your children, do not leave them alone on a playdate with these moms. It's not cute. It's not funny. It's child endangerment and these women need help, love and prayers if they can't get through a playdate without a cocktail. I have been out on "moms night out" events with a MOPS group but those ladies were out of control and I stopped attending the program as a result. If not already, try linking in with a women's church group. You may find some healthier mom friends that way as I have. God bless you for seeking healthier options for yourself and your family.

ns_1 avatar
N S
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

instagramer and marketing guru, lol.... all u need to know about this fail

captaindash avatar
Full Name
Community Member
4 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

The pic that says alcohol is the only drug you have to explain not using is AWESOME! Drives me nuts. I've had people with a beer in one hand and a smoke in the other tell me they'd never do drugs, and then tell me how people who do are such losers, haha. Unrelated: this women is absolutely gorgeous.

paperstars86 avatar
Sarah Barker
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your friends are willing to exclude you for not drinking, they are not your friends.

hazelree avatar
Stille20
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It irritates me when people feel the need to have a PSA about their minor struggle. Yes, when you don't drink, people ask why. Have an answer ready, "I just don't". If they press it, they are not the kind of people you want to hang out with anyway. But you can't freak out because someone offered you a drink and you didn't tell them you don't drink.

terybriggs avatar
Mama Panda
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand what you are saying and can partially agree with you. But I think the PSAs help a lot of people who are not assertive or are introverts cope with something they are having issues with on a daily basis. I figure if you don't have that problem, then just ignore them and move on with your day. Everyone needs support at one time or another right?

Load More Replies...
krystalzombiegirladams avatar
ZombieGirl5591
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At least she has kids...try being childless and a non drinker...that makes so many people uncomfortable lol

paperstars86 avatar
Sarah Barker
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Child-free, non-drinker AND vegetarian over here! Proud of who I am though, just waiting for the rest of the world to stop feeling personally offended by MY chosen lifestyle.

Load More Replies...
dopethronepunkuk avatar
HoffLensMetalHedLovesAnimalsUK
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this even a thing?, so she chooses not to drink, well done, why the world needs to know i don't get. Drink or don't, whatever, if people don't like you for it, forget about them.

ns_1 avatar
N S
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

cause alco-mom did not learn anything proper and now needs to do "something"

Load More Replies...
hello_274 avatar
Hermien Scholten
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wait, is this a weird American thing? I've never even heard of moms drinking while their children are on a play date. How do you get home sober? Why is this a thing?

ralica_iliewa avatar
Rall
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the same. Here in Europe this is not a thing, moms drink coffee and eat cake when are on a play date.

Load More Replies...
shoop0da0whoop avatar
Suzanne Harris
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I drink but I don't give a damn if my friends do or not. A no is a no. I'm still going to offer my friends alcohol, just like I offer them juice, water, milk, or soda when they come over.

aniasnever avatar
Ani Davis
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll admit that -- even as someone who likes to have an occasional drink -- it's bizarre to see so many posts of moms/wine.

r0berts102817 avatar
Laura Roberts
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s like being told THIS IS THE CORRECT WAY TO COPE. Sure I am not a parent but I’m the weird 31 year old that hasn’t been drunk and only drinks a handful of times a year.

Load More Replies...
lean_on_sky avatar
Anqi Wang
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's strange that you can go viral with something as trivial as not drinking. I don't drink, I just say it, and there is never a fuss about it, anywhere.

donna_mok avatar
Donna Cheung
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sad that she has made a simple decision and doesn't even have the confidence to tell her "friends" that she just decides not to drink. Either she doesn't have actual friends who respect her decision, or she's too hung up on how people think of her.

katsotiriou avatar
Kat Sotiriou
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anytime someone says NO I just think "hallelujah more for me" haha

theredqueen_1 avatar
the redqueen
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she is making the whole thing a big deal, and being weird about it, and that's how some people have reacted to it ; because like someone said in their comment, "she is not owning it". I think that she is struggling to "own it" , because she hasn't even admitted / dealt with the fact that "she had a problem", at all. I even detect a bit of deflection on her part; she feels ostracized, and judged, and it's all about how "they" are dealing with her "no drinking", and it's a distraction for her, because I bet she has not dealt with the REASON she started drinking, and got to where she didn't want to stop. I really feel for her, but she is going to struggle until she deals with the underlying reasons/issues that contributed to her "problem." I think that she is embarrassed, and ashamed, and the word "alcoholic " is a dirty word that does not apply to her-but it's not a dirty word. This strikes all kinds of people, and it knows no prejudices..I wish she would get some help...

amberly_middlemiss avatar
Amberly Middlemiss
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i dont drink and get asked all the time to, or asked why i don't. Have an answer ready, no big deal.

kate_mar avatar
Kate Marešová
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

try being sober in a society where beer is a huge cultural thing... I cannot even count how many times I have been called "weird", "not fun" or "hipster" for not drinking... and those who are saying "you are around wrong people" just don't understand there are many social situations where you just cannot choose - family gathering, work party, weddings...

mintyminameow avatar
Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anyone saying s**t about “the wrong people” is just blaming the person who did nothing wrong. I rarely drink and nobody gives me a hard time but I don’t blame her for the fact that people give her a hard time.

Load More Replies...
hard2guesss avatar
Hard 2 Guess
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am almost 39 years old, I have never drunk alcohol in my life and I do not plan to. I will proudly announce this. It's just who I am.

theredqueen_1 avatar
the redqueen
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know the step to get help is one of the hardest parts, but it's like a weight gets lifted off your shoulders, and you are surprised how much relief you feel. You start liking yourself again, you forgive yourself in time, and you will wish you had done it along time ago. I had to get help.....over 5 years clean and sober...

mpolini1117 avatar
wusah
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sure nobody cares that she doesn't drink. Problem with being sober on the month the people that drink is that drunk people are sloppy and I'm nauseous. It's been that way my whole life I'm the non-drinker and I have to put up with the drinkers. And always the designated driver

mpolini1117 avatar
wusah
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me try that again the problem with being sober in the middle of people that drink it's a drunk people are sloppy and obnoxious LOL

Load More Replies...
ria144 avatar
Krysta Pandoo
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just say no, you weak-willed human being. Not every mother out there is a alcoholic, they just want to share a drink with a friend - who the hell are you to judge them? It's useless weak people like you who just can't politely refuse instead of splay all your neurotic c**p over the Internet.

kiki68sg avatar
AuntyJem
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In response to Krysta Pandoo-I respectfully disagree. I don't think she is judging others. She is explaining her own struggles. It is very difficult for recovering alcoholics. It becomes clear how much of our society revolves around alcohol when you become sober. And people do ask why you aren't drinking, even when you prefer to keep your reasons private. Yes, you can say no. But it also comes with a deep internal struggle.

Load More Replies...
brandiisawkward avatar
Theamazingfrobo
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know what I never really thought about it but shes right. People are always so shocked when they hear that a 22 year old has never drank. Some have even tried to pressure me into drinking and I feel embarrassed when I tell them my family has a history with alcohol abuse and I don't want to become another statistic. You don't have to drink to have fun.

nikkid avatar
Nikki D
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She looks wired, like her eyes are as wide as they will go! I think she traded wine for too much caffeine!

mamma2molly avatar
MammaG
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You have the wrong friends if you think this is a big deal.

katoglow avatar
Kato Glow
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been sober two years and don't feel my plight is so special I need to share it with the world. Get over yourself!

shari_custer avatar
Shari Custer
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 54 and have never touched a drop of alcohol (not religious, just not interested and I hate the smell). I have never had anyone push me to drink or question my decision. I think it has a lot to do with how you refuse. If you are confident and don't make a big deal out of it, they understand you are serious and leave you alone. If you act like you're conflicted and sound wishy-washy, they think you want someone to give you permission and will push. This isn't a huge thing unless you make it one. Just say, "No thanks, alcohol doesn't interest me." And, if they don't get it, tell them to move on.

tamora_spiller avatar
Tamora Spiller
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've had a drink, once, when I turned 21. Never again. I have zero reasons why just never been interested. At 40, I get more flack for not drinking from folks who drink and want a deep and personal reason why I don't drink. When I don't have one, it's on to them justifying how much they're going to drink and a guilt(?) that I'm somehow judging them. I don't like how people's internal guilt about drinking gets projected on me because I don't care what you drink and I have no idea how much wine/liqour is considered "socially unacceptable" so I can' t (and don't care to) judge what you do. This is and has always been a thing in my world.

aine avatar
Aine
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not saying you're not going through this, but you must be unlucky... I don't drink, and I live in a culture known for enjoying alcohol quite a bit. Everyone is cool with that, no questions asked. I'm not offended when someone offers me a drink, though, they're being polite. I understand that me saying yes to a glass of wine would be the most obvious thing to do. But I found that after a few instances of saying no, folks actually get juice or other drinks for me when I come over. I don't expect it, but they do. You must have very stubborn friends... and you do seem to get upset easily, to be frank.

aine avatar
Aine
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, I've been the (very much appreciated) DD ever since I was a teen (I'm 38 now). I really don't mind doing it, I'd rather my friends be safe. And I still have amazing parties and evenings with them. No need for a drink.

Load More Replies...
johnlouis avatar
John Louis
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NO ONE, NO ONE, NO ONE Should ever have to explain why they do not drink!

monilip avatar
Monilip
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just say "I don't drink" and that's it. What's the problem? I don't drink because I don't like most of alcoholic drinka and noone has every asked me twicd or asked me why. First world problems, really...

james_fox1984 avatar
Foxxy
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t drink and some people are surprised but rarely get negative comments and I don’t feel pressured to drink just because others are drinking. More people are shocked and react to me not drinking coffee and get called a weirdo etc. Can’t stand anything alcohol or coffee flavoured.

beejayw avatar
Ben Smith
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look at me!!! Look at me!!! Lady no one cares about your supposed “struggle.” Don’t drink, drink, whatever. This will come as a shock to you: people don’t care about your every little move.

abdallah06apple avatar
Blue Cicada
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This will come as a shock to you, then, but there are some very rude and crude people out there. They will criticize and belittle you for being different from them. If you have never encountered this, then you are very blessed, and you should be thankful. For the rest of us, we have to constantly explain our religious backgrounds, our medical restrictions, our sobriety etc. We say, "none for me, thanks!" That should be enough, but we are pressured with the demand to explain our dietary needs. Going out for lunch with the boss? Say no to alcohol? Prepare to get a lecture from your boss about not being a team player. Going to the church choir director's house for a picnic ? Say no to beer? Prepare to be lectured about being a party pooper, and playing holier than thou.

Load More Replies...
jasminkatanner avatar
Cat person
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad was a heavy alcoholic for much of his life and I used to find empty beer bottles hidden in places around the house, but then he made the life changing decision to quit all on his own, without any coaxing from anyone or AA groups

monakhadra avatar
Mona Khadra
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I barely drink but seeing these comments make me want a drink.

nanz1956 avatar
NanZ
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand what she is talking about. My husband and I both drank for years. He just decided he didn't want to anymore. When people we partied with for years would offer him a beer, he would just say no thanks. You would have thought from their reactions that he had said he wasn't going to breath anymore. I haven't drank for years just because I got tired of it and didn't want to do it anymore. I didn't realize that people would be shocked that we didn't drink, like there was something wrong with us because we didn't drink. To each their own is how I feel about it. As long as you aren't hurting anybody then I really don't care whether you drink or not.

elisepimenta avatar
Elise Pimenta
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only statement I can relate to is about alcohol being the only drug that we seem to have to explain why someone doesn't do it. I experienced this a lot especially when I turned 21. I would be be pressured to drink and when I would say no, people would always want an explanation. Usually, when I would say that I just don't want to, that wasn't enough of a reason for people and they would still bug me. Thankfully, now that I'm in my 30s, I don't get pressured to drink much anymore and I really haven't had to explain myself.

tamora_spiller avatar
Tamora Spiller
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At 40, I still have to have the "you don't drink?" conversation/confused look from folks, especially those I'm meeting for the first time. And then the stammering follow up about what they plan on drinking. I 100% don't give a fig what the hell you plan on doing and you don't have to clear your drinking choices with me. There was a point where I used to carry soda and lime so folks would quit asking me about it, but now I just roll out with my ginger soda and walk away from folks with that "confused look" .

Load More Replies...
jennylee avatar
Jenny Lee
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 39 and do not want kids. I also recently stopped drinking alcohol. Now I avoid going to the local bar/restaurant to socialize, because of the reactions I get when I say "I'm not drinking, thanks". OMG ARE YOU PREGNANT!?!?! is the usual annoying and inappropriate reaction from people. Then I have to get in to that topic...LOL

natalie-rhoads38 avatar
Natalie Rhoads
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why are you hanging out with people that peer pressure you to drink in the first place? If they can't take no for an answer the first time, then don't go back!

andreabenedictaz avatar
Andrea Benedict
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In this instance, I'm guessing it's because she said, "not right now" instead of "I don't drink." To me, the first means, "maybe later."

Load More Replies...
abdallah06apple avatar
Blue Cicada
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some of you have been very blessed, never have been ridiculed or berated for choosing to say no to alcohol. Here in the Midwest, if you say no to alcohol, (oftentimes) people demand to know why you won't drink. If you try to be vague, to protect your own privacy, they demand more information. If people feel comfortable with their decision to drink alcohol, and they are not in anyway threatened by someone else's decision not to drink alcohol. A rabbi explained this to me in college, and it has helped me quite a bit when dealing with intrusive people.

j_kaestner avatar
JayJayKay
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so refreshing! I find it so strange how accepted and sometimes even expected it is to drink. So many people are living with an alcohol addiction that is destroying their health, their social life etc and nobody says anything because that's just how it goes...

bluebellforawhile avatar
Bluebell Rizzi
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm allergic to alcohol and I'm always scared that someone might give me alcohol as a joke... tough times.

andreabenedictaz avatar
Andrea Benedict
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How bout this? Tell them the truth to begin with and they won't keep asking!

kenvan40_1 avatar
Ken Van Kouwenberg
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just tell people "Alcholol always got me into more trouble than it ever got me out of".

wangl avatar
m. b
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I haveboth, friends drinking and not both get along perfectly, also kids are not the reason to drink, it means you had issues before. But funny for me is the immediate thought crossing same my hubbies and my mind- that woman FOoKIN serious looks like she needs a drink rigt now! And dont get me/us wrong.any kind of abusement is wrong.from nodespray to opiates. It's your own and hopefully sto g mind to reason witbit andfrontime to time let itgo overboard.

alex_scott_newell avatar
Alex Newell
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Caffeine is another drug to have to explain not using. But I like my Coke Zero

stormcent avatar
Lisa Potts Pass
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I so relate to this. 11 years sober, but it was hard to have an answer to why at first. Funny, but most of my friends were happier that I didn't. Except the ones that were as sloppy as I had been

idrow avatar
Id row
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never feel the need to explain. If it's offered, I just say I don't drink. Why are these people so afraid to speak up? Are they afraid of losing 'friends'? I wouldn't want to hang with anyone who judged me and a friend would do that in the first place.

jennifer_n_harris_35 avatar
Jennifer Harris
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never a drop of alcohol in my life and guess what! No regrets. Not needed for any reason.

dysamoria-accounts avatar
Jace
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the “alcohol is the only drug we have to explain not using”. But: I often have to explain to people that they’re addicted to caffeine. Caffeine addiction is the ONLY CELEBRATED addiction.

mandybuchanan avatar
Mandy Buchanan
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 40 and have never had any alcohol in my life. I come from a family of teetotallers, my parents and my grandparents before them never touched alcohol. Some of the younger members of my family do drink now but I just tell them that I know myself and I have seen in other areas I have an addictive personality so I don't want to go down that road because I know I would never be happy with one or be able to control it so why start?

megwil79 avatar
Megan Wilson
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Celeste, it's like we are the same person. I made the decision to stay sober 291 days ago and I have been back and forth everyday about my willingness and comfort level in talking about it. I also did it for my kids and I totally understand the need to prepare for a "social gathering" days in advance. I cannot tell you how comforting it is to know there are others in my position, as I choose not to attend support meetings of any kind (I'm doing this my way) and I have a select few that I can confide in but nobody who truly gets it.

katie-trondsen avatar
KT Trondsen
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she's looking too far into it. Wine and moms go hand in hand for memes, but it's not a necessity for hanging out. I've never EVER seen it be an issue for any play dates ever. Just say you don't drink and own that sh*t.

ellenwall89 avatar
Crochet lady
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't be judging her, I'd be judging the mom who drinks when she's at home with her kids. I raised 3 boys in the 90's and I can tell you none of us stay at home moms were sitting around drinking. We were taking care of our kids. And while there were certainly days where I felt overwhelmed and exhausted (and outnumbered) with 3 under the age of 2, drinking wasn't where my brain went. Seems if anything it would just make you more tired, who sits around drinking at a play date?

marinamercouri avatar
Beatrice Multhaupt
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Help! How do I explain that I'm allergic to everything fermented AND that my liver doesn't produce the enzymes necessary to break down alcohol? I was born this way; it's not even a choice. There,s one problem i rarely have anymore, though....people just don,t invite me. A pleasant young man I work with was about to do so when he asked, ''So what happens to you when you do drink?''. I described the symptoms. No more invite.

kjorn avatar
Kjorn
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as myself i don,t drink and never had the need too and i Don't understand why i have to explain why i Don't drink.

dariab_1 avatar
Daria B
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was into Straight Edge as a teenager, so I was the sober one amongst drunks. For your information, although the legal drinking age in Croatia is 18, kids start as early as 12-14. Alcohol free teenagers are very rare. So, now I'm not a heavy drinker either, I might have a glass or two, but I'm picky. I like the sweet drinks and I don't like the taste of alcohol. But the cheapest alcohol here in Korea doesn't taste to my liking, so I usually refuse it, then they think I just don't drink, and many think mine is not a drinking culture. Nope, I just don't like the taste.

emory_ce avatar
Carol Emory
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you tell them you don't drink and they have a problem with it or chastise you for it..they are the ones with a problem..not you. I was a teenager drinker..Southern Comfort was my choice drink. Then one evening..I'm getting ready to go out with my girlfriends. One pours me a drink in a big mug..half alcohol, half cola. I was encouraged to slam it down. A friend drops us off near a teen dance club. And I realized as I'm staggering down the street..."Wtf am I doing?!?" I realized every weekend with these friends was a drunk fest. I'd spend the weekend hung over and tired. I stopped hanging out with them and sobered up.

curiousswiss avatar
M O’Fll
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why oh why is alcohol equated to fun? Because let’s be honest, it’s not the single glass of wine that makes it “fun”; it’s the excess, the lack of inhibitions, the giddiness, i.e., the mind-altering effects of alcohol. I won’t speak for all women but I am sure that I speak for some when I say that being around men who drink too much isn’t “fun.” It is f...ing scary, because... well... let Dr. Blasey Ford tell you.

mintyminameow avatar
Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I rarely drink but I’ve never been an alcoholic. I just don’t care enough about it to bother. This has never been a big deal, but sometimes people ask why and I just say I am not a big drinker. Mommy wine culture is trash and basic as f**k. Almost anything with the word “mommy” before it is horrendously lame. Anyway I guess when you’re an alcoholic it feels like a bigger deal to you than what it is to anyone else. And I understand that for sure. But also the line about alcohol being the only drug people pressure you about is clueless. Obviously if you’re hanging out with alcoholics (and that’s what those mommy wine women are) they will ask why you don’t drink. Go hang out with weedheads and they’d ask why someone doesn’t smoke.

ashleyslack avatar
Ashley Slack
Community Member
4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ma'am, I am so sorry that you have this struggle with other moms, but for goodness sake find some new friends. Being pressured to drink during a playdate? I have never encountered this among any friends, scattered across 7 different states. You deserve better. And please for the safety of your children, do not leave them alone on a playdate with these moms. It's not cute. It's not funny. It's child endangerment and these women need help, love and prayers if they can't get through a playdate without a cocktail. I have been out on "moms night out" events with a MOPS group but those ladies were out of control and I stopped attending the program as a result. If not already, try linking in with a women's church group. You may find some healthier mom friends that way as I have. God bless you for seeking healthier options for yourself and your family.

ns_1 avatar
N S
Community Member
4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

instagramer and marketing guru, lol.... all u need to know about this fail

captaindash avatar
Full Name
Community Member
4 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

The pic that says alcohol is the only drug you have to explain not using is AWESOME! Drives me nuts. I've had people with a beer in one hand and a smoke in the other tell me they'd never do drugs, and then tell me how people who do are such losers, haha. Unrelated: this women is absolutely gorgeous.

Popular on Bored Panda
Trending on Bored Panda
Also on Bored Panda