“I’ve Eloped A Week Earlier Because My Parents And My Sister’s BF Were Planning A Surprise Engagement On My Wedding Day”
Just as there is no place for two bears in one lair, two eagles in one nest, so there should be no place for two celebrations at one wedding. At the very least, this is an event that should ideally be remembered for a lifetime. This celebration is primarily for two people.
But not everyone seems to think so. Firstly, it often happens that parents impose their opinion on the newlyweds about what their wedding should be like. And secondly, sometimes there are people who want to steal the day. This story is, in particular, about one of those people.
The r/TrueOffMyChest community once had a post with almost 900 upvotes and nearly 200 different comments where almost everyone supported the Original Poster. Yes, she defended her right to marry the way she and her fiancé thought they should – but she paid a rather high price for it. However, let’s talk about everything in order.
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The Original Poster planned a wedding and her parents decided to arrange the party at their own expense
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So, the OP planned the wedding, and her parents were going to arrange a large-scale celebration with a number of guests, and even undertook organizing it – despite the fact that the bride herself was not happy about this idea. However, she was even more upset when she learned about another idea her relatives had.
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The OP’s sister’s boyfriend came up with the idea to propose to her directly during the wedding party
The fact is that the OP has a sister, and her boyfriend came up with the idea to propose to her during the wedding ceremony. Of course, it would be a spectacular, memorable sight, and the OP’s sister would be happy… which was not the case for the OP herself. Who would be actually happy if your special day had to be stolen by someone else?
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The OP was not happy with this idea as she didn’t want to have her special day literally stolen
The bride tried to argue with her parents, but she was literally put before the fact, and when the OP suggested just organizing a special engagement party, they said that it should be a surprise for her sister and guests. The OP hinted to her parents that they should not spend insane money on organizing the party, but they did not want to take their daughter seriously.
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The OP had to talk about this with her sister, thereby ruining the surprise for her
The OP decided to talk to her own sister, trying to enlist at least her support – even though it would ruin the future surprise. We must say that the sister was not happy with the idea of sharing the celebration, but was also very upset because the surprise was now ruined. However, the real surprise was yet to come…
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The OP and her fiancé eloped a week earlier, inviting only his parents and their closest friends
The OP talked with her fiancé, his parents and closest friends, and secretly arranged a small wedding ceremony a week before the planned date. Everything turned out extremely beautiful and romantic, and the in-laws gave the newlyweds a honeymoon in a five-star hotel.
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The OP’s mother ended up making a huge post on a Facebook and demanded to be reimbursed for the costs of organizing the wedding
The couple asked all guests not to share photos from the wedding until they left on their honeymoon. And so it happened. And then the bride’s relatives found out about the incident, and her mother wrote a huge wrathful post on Facebook, accusing her daughter of ingratitude. To top it off, the parents demanded that the OP reimburse them for the costs of organizing her wedding!
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The OP’s father also supported his wife, saying that he was cutting off all relations with his daughter, and also demanded compensation for the money spent. And this despite the fact that the OP herself warned her parents more than once that she did not want their financial participation, and that it was not worth spending a lot of money on this at all.
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Most people in the comments told the OP that she did everything absolutely right and simply didn’t let anybody steal her happy day
We must admit that people in the comments massively supported the OP and, of course, congratulated her on her wedding. In fact, according to commenters, the OP’s parents look at least strange trying to ruin their daughter’s wedding with her sister’s engagement at the same time – and when she went against their will, also demanding that she pay them.
Some commenters also noted that the OP’s tale looks similar to their own because narcissistic parents are, alas, a fairly common thing. Either way, the OP and her fiancé did the right thing by standing their ground and not letting other people steal the day of their happiness.
By the way, we have many more wedding stories that may interest you. For instance, this post about a bride whose family tried to impose an unpleasant bridesmaid on her, or about an overly annoying wedding guest. In the meantime, we will be so glad to know your opinion about this very story in the comments.
To everyone that reads this:YOU DON'T PROPOSE, ANNOUNCE ENGAGEMENT OR PREGNANCY AT SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING!!!! The wedding is about the people getting married and not you. If you can't understand this, then you are a jerk.
There can't be enough emphasis put on this. Do NOT steal the thunder from the bride and groom by upstaging them with your own announcement. Let them have this one...damn...day... that is for them.
Exactly right! Yes fellas, the reception venue WOULD make a super romantic backdrop for your proposal. That's because the bride and groom and their families shelled out THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS for the wedding and reception. Please guys, don't be a turd and steal the bride and groom's thunder. It's their day, and they paid for this special occasion. You are, JUST A GUEST.
I know a family, four weddings. Same sibling (M) at 1st wedding announces she is getting married. Next wedding is hers and she throws a hissy fit because sister is pregnant and showing and "everyone" is paying attention to the pregnant one. Wedding 3, M announces she is getting divorced. She didn't. Because wedding 4 she announces she is pregnant (about 10 days pregnant) The most self-absorbed person you will ever meet.
What would happen if she wasn’t invited to the next wedding? Would she storm there anyway and put a curse on the newlyweds?
I have no doubt, but they ran out of siblings getting married, lol. When her mother bought a brand new house, she decided her house needed complete reno, so she and hubby packed up her house, two kids, one being an infant and moved in with mom. She had a downstairs that was finished. M decided that the baby was too crowded there, so put the -waking every two hours - in the room adjacent to her mother - and would always accidentally forget to turn on the baby monitor. M and crew destroyed every carpet. After 18 months, she left, no thank you, no offer to clean. The mother raised that pos, I guess it was no surprise.
It's also not about your kids, so leave them at home, too, unless they've been personally and specifically invited.
**Unless you have explicit permission from the bride and groom!** I have seen videos of them, where the bride will pull the woman (usually) being proposed to up, for some reason or another, and then the proposal happens. Obviously they had consent to do that, but if they had said 'no' they are allowed to do that, go and figure out your own way, but not on the wedding day! I actually saw a neat one where it was sisters (one was the bride) and they both announced their pregnancies at the wedding. I forget how they did it, but it was good.
Yes, I have no idea why anyone even thinks of doing something so selfish and clueless at someone's wedding. It's bad enough that this woman's parents actually sort of ganged up and supported the clueless fiancé with his plan but to tell her this was happening whether she liked it or not is heartless. The reasons why some parents disown or fall out with their own children is incredibly sad. This is a perfect example of a person who has just awful parents that only think of themselves. It's like they are also twisting the knife in by implying their other daughter's happiness is way more important than the brides.
Pretty sure the fiancé is not clueless, but actually as narcissistic as the mom, dad, and sister. A perfect little self-centered family. Hope the bride keeps them cut off, and together the four of them live miserably ever after.
You can ONLY do this if you have permission from the bride AND groom!!!
Maybe someone should have told the Markle this rule. She announced her pregnancy at Princess Eugenie's wedding. PE wasn't happy.
Did she? Were you there?
I think we're missing the beginning as it starts with an update. So the mom was paying for a wedding party, decided with her future SIL that this should also be proposal day, a small event nestled into a much bigger event, taking away attention from the bride and groom. 👰&🤵have no say in it, are obviously pissed off and move the wedding day. Instead of turning the wedding party into a lavish engagement party, mom and FSIL are canceling the proposal too as its main purpose of ruining/upstaging the wedding is no longer in existence? Some people. Congrats on having been cut off.
Thank you! I read it twice and still thought I was missing something.
If I'm reading it correctly, it was supposed to be a surprise for the SISTER AS WELL! So the OP was upset because the sister was more worried about her surprise being spoilt than OP's wedding 🤦♂️ CONFIRMED: someone linked the original story in another comment (might be anywhere on the list by now ;-)
Yes, even for something scraped off Reddit, it was confusing. I think the person that wrote the material around the original posts missed parts of the story.
I seem to remember reading the original post before she decided to elope. Do not know where but if I am right that explains the confusion.
Everything is right here except it was her sis and not fSIL looks like poster deleted the original story to make room for the update. Reddit messed up and didn't keep copies of the original as it normally does.
FSIL is for Future Son In Law…..hope that clears that up
How spiteful do you have to be to ruin your daughter’s wedding day so your other daughter can be proposed to?
Chances are things like this has happened all her life. That family seems focused on their 'little darling' and OP has had to suck it up all her life. Good for her to establish boundaries!
In her first post, she confirmed that her sister is the golden child and she'd been upstaged her whole life.
Yep. Long past time to cut ties.
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Too much assumption on that part
I would be willing to bet OP is either the oldest, or most likely, the middle child
To everyone that reads this:YOU DON'T PROPOSE, ANNOUNCE ENGAGEMENT OR PREGNANCY AT SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING!!!! The wedding is about the people getting married and not you. If you can't understand this, then you are a jerk.
There can't be enough emphasis put on this. Do NOT steal the thunder from the bride and groom by upstaging them with your own announcement. Let them have this one...damn...day... that is for them.
Exactly right! Yes fellas, the reception venue WOULD make a super romantic backdrop for your proposal. That's because the bride and groom and their families shelled out THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS for the wedding and reception. Please guys, don't be a turd and steal the bride and groom's thunder. It's their day, and they paid for this special occasion. You are, JUST A GUEST.
I know a family, four weddings. Same sibling (M) at 1st wedding announces she is getting married. Next wedding is hers and she throws a hissy fit because sister is pregnant and showing and "everyone" is paying attention to the pregnant one. Wedding 3, M announces she is getting divorced. She didn't. Because wedding 4 she announces she is pregnant (about 10 days pregnant) The most self-absorbed person you will ever meet.
What would happen if she wasn’t invited to the next wedding? Would she storm there anyway and put a curse on the newlyweds?
I have no doubt, but they ran out of siblings getting married, lol. When her mother bought a brand new house, she decided her house needed complete reno, so she and hubby packed up her house, two kids, one being an infant and moved in with mom. She had a downstairs that was finished. M decided that the baby was too crowded there, so put the -waking every two hours - in the room adjacent to her mother - and would always accidentally forget to turn on the baby monitor. M and crew destroyed every carpet. After 18 months, she left, no thank you, no offer to clean. The mother raised that pos, I guess it was no surprise.
It's also not about your kids, so leave them at home, too, unless they've been personally and specifically invited.
**Unless you have explicit permission from the bride and groom!** I have seen videos of them, where the bride will pull the woman (usually) being proposed to up, for some reason or another, and then the proposal happens. Obviously they had consent to do that, but if they had said 'no' they are allowed to do that, go and figure out your own way, but not on the wedding day! I actually saw a neat one where it was sisters (one was the bride) and they both announced their pregnancies at the wedding. I forget how they did it, but it was good.
Yes, I have no idea why anyone even thinks of doing something so selfish and clueless at someone's wedding. It's bad enough that this woman's parents actually sort of ganged up and supported the clueless fiancé with his plan but to tell her this was happening whether she liked it or not is heartless. The reasons why some parents disown or fall out with their own children is incredibly sad. This is a perfect example of a person who has just awful parents that only think of themselves. It's like they are also twisting the knife in by implying their other daughter's happiness is way more important than the brides.
Pretty sure the fiancé is not clueless, but actually as narcissistic as the mom, dad, and sister. A perfect little self-centered family. Hope the bride keeps them cut off, and together the four of them live miserably ever after.
You can ONLY do this if you have permission from the bride AND groom!!!
Maybe someone should have told the Markle this rule. She announced her pregnancy at Princess Eugenie's wedding. PE wasn't happy.
Did she? Were you there?
I think we're missing the beginning as it starts with an update. So the mom was paying for a wedding party, decided with her future SIL that this should also be proposal day, a small event nestled into a much bigger event, taking away attention from the bride and groom. 👰&🤵have no say in it, are obviously pissed off and move the wedding day. Instead of turning the wedding party into a lavish engagement party, mom and FSIL are canceling the proposal too as its main purpose of ruining/upstaging the wedding is no longer in existence? Some people. Congrats on having been cut off.
Thank you! I read it twice and still thought I was missing something.
If I'm reading it correctly, it was supposed to be a surprise for the SISTER AS WELL! So the OP was upset because the sister was more worried about her surprise being spoilt than OP's wedding 🤦♂️ CONFIRMED: someone linked the original story in another comment (might be anywhere on the list by now ;-)
Yes, even for something scraped off Reddit, it was confusing. I think the person that wrote the material around the original posts missed parts of the story.
I seem to remember reading the original post before she decided to elope. Do not know where but if I am right that explains the confusion.
Everything is right here except it was her sis and not fSIL looks like poster deleted the original story to make room for the update. Reddit messed up and didn't keep copies of the original as it normally does.
FSIL is for Future Son In Law…..hope that clears that up
How spiteful do you have to be to ruin your daughter’s wedding day so your other daughter can be proposed to?
Chances are things like this has happened all her life. That family seems focused on their 'little darling' and OP has had to suck it up all her life. Good for her to establish boundaries!
In her first post, she confirmed that her sister is the golden child and she'd been upstaged her whole life.
Yep. Long past time to cut ties.
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Too much assumption on that part
I would be willing to bet OP is either the oldest, or most likely, the middle child