“I’ve Eloped A Week Earlier Because My Parents And My Sister’s BF Were Planning A Surprise Engagement On My Wedding Day”
Just as there is no place for two bears in one lair, two eagles in one nest, so there should be no place for two celebrations at one wedding. At the very least, this is an event that should ideally be remembered for a lifetime. This celebration is primarily for two people.
But not everyone seems to think so. Firstly, it often happens that parents impose their opinion on the newlyweds about what their wedding should be like. And secondly, sometimes there are people who want to steal the day. This story is, in particular, about one of those people.
The r/TrueOffMyChest community once had a post with almost 900 upvotes and nearly 200 different comments where almost everyone supported the Original Poster. Yes, she defended her right to marry the way she and her fiancé thought they should – but she paid a rather high price for it. However, let’s talk about everything in order.
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The Original Poster planned a wedding and her parents decided to arrange the party at their own expense
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So, the OP planned the wedding, and her parents were going to arrange a large-scale celebration with a number of guests, and even undertook organizing it – despite the fact that the bride herself was not happy about this idea. However, she was even more upset when she learned about another idea her relatives had.
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The OP’s sister’s boyfriend came up with the idea to propose to her directly during the wedding party
The fact is that the OP has a sister, and her boyfriend came up with the idea to propose to her during the wedding ceremony. Of course, it would be a spectacular, memorable sight, and the OP’s sister would be happy… which was not the case for the OP herself. Who would be actually happy if your special day had to be stolen by someone else?
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The OP was not happy with this idea as she didn’t want to have her special day literally stolen
The bride tried to argue with her parents, but she was literally put before the fact, and when the OP suggested just organizing a special engagement party, they said that it should be a surprise for her sister and guests. The OP hinted to her parents that they should not spend insane money on organizing the party, but they did not want to take their daughter seriously.
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The OP had to talk about this with her sister, thereby ruining the surprise for her
The OP decided to talk to her own sister, trying to enlist at least her support – even though it would ruin the future surprise. We must say that the sister was not happy with the idea of sharing the celebration, but was also very upset because the surprise was now ruined. However, the real surprise was yet to come…
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The OP and her fiancé eloped a week earlier, inviting only his parents and their closest friends
The OP talked with her fiancé, his parents and closest friends, and secretly arranged a small wedding ceremony a week before the planned date. Everything turned out extremely beautiful and romantic, and the in-laws gave the newlyweds a honeymoon in a five-star hotel.
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The OP’s mother ended up making a huge post on a Facebook and demanded to be reimbursed for the costs of organizing the wedding
The couple asked all guests not to share photos from the wedding until they left on their honeymoon. And so it happened. And then the bride’s relatives found out about the incident, and her mother wrote a huge wrathful post on Facebook, accusing her daughter of ingratitude. To top it off, the parents demanded that the OP reimburse them for the costs of organizing her wedding!
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The OP’s father also supported his wife, saying that he was cutting off all relations with his daughter, and also demanded compensation for the money spent. And this despite the fact that the OP herself warned her parents more than once that she did not want their financial participation, and that it was not worth spending a lot of money on this at all.
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Most people in the comments told the OP that she did everything absolutely right and simply didn’t let anybody steal her happy day
We must admit that people in the comments massively supported the OP and, of course, congratulated her on her wedding. In fact, according to commenters, the OP’s parents look at least strange trying to ruin their daughter’s wedding with her sister’s engagement at the same time – and when she went against their will, also demanding that she pay them.
Some commenters also noted that the OP’s tale looks similar to their own because narcissistic parents are, alas, a fairly common thing. Either way, the OP and her fiancé did the right thing by standing their ground and not letting other people steal the day of their happiness.
By the way, we have many more wedding stories that may interest you. For instance, this post about a bride whose family tried to impose an unpleasant bridesmaid on her, or about an overly annoying wedding guest. In the meantime, we will be so glad to know your opinion about this very story in the comments.
To everyone that reads this:YOU DON'T PROPOSE, ANNOUNCE ENGAGEMENT OR PREGNANCY AT SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING!!!! The wedding is about the people getting married and not you. If you can't understand this, then you are a jerk.
There can't be enough emphasis put on this. Do NOT steal the thunder from the bride and groom by upstaging them with your own announcement. Let them have this one...damn...day... that is for them.
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I think we're missing the beginning as it starts with an update. So the mom was paying for a wedding party, decided with her future SIL that this should also be proposal day, a small event nestled into a much bigger event, taking away attention from the bride and groom. 👰&🤵have no say in it, are obviously pissed off and move the wedding day. Instead of turning the wedding party into a lavish engagement party, mom and FSIL are canceling the proposal too as its main purpose of ruining/upstaging the wedding is no longer in existence? Some people. Congrats on having been cut off.
Thank you! I read it twice and still thought I was missing something.
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How spiteful do you have to be to ruin your daughter’s wedding day so your other daughter can be proposed to?
Chances are things like this has happened all her life. That family seems focused on their 'little darling' and OP has had to suck it up all her life. Good for her to establish boundaries!
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I'll bet this was the type of family where when OP had a birthday, the mom let the sister open all of OP's presents because the sister is jealous and whining (or the mom bought the sister presents too, even though it was OP's birthday). I swear I can smell the parent's favoritism for OP's sister, from here. *smh* WTG OP for going your own way on this. Your parents, your sister and her bf are, unfortunately, very selfish people, and don't deserve to be part of your special day.
I think she said something to that effect in her original post. I cant remember 100% but she said something about being surprised her parents were willing to pay for something like this just for her, then she found out thier real plan. Also the "new" wedding that she did do was the original plan but it wasnt good enough for her parents so they changed her plans when they offered to pay to make it better for sister.
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So...the parents are "cutting her off" but also "expecting compensation"? Do they realize what cutting someone off means?
How crappy would it be to have to grow up with a mom and sister like that? Did the OP ever get to celebrate any special day or achievement without having to share it with the sister? How awful it seems that it would have been.
More than likely no. She probably had to share every special moment of her life with her sister.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/vaxsed/im_planning_to_elope_because_my_parents_are/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf For anyone looking for the first half of the story
Thanks for this, it confirms my reading that the sister wasn't in on the plan: it was supposed to be a surprise for her. This story does look strangely familiar, I wonder whether I've seen it or something similar on AITA 🤔
Load More Replies... I think in future, wedding invitations should include, we would also humbly request to both family and friends that no engagements or pregnancy announcements be made on our social day. The DJ should be informed that in the event any of such takes place to start playing music loud to take any attention away. Also make sure to send bridesmaids and groomsmen a gentle reminder of such as well cause often it comes from there as well. It's sad that that is a thing these days. Family is nit exempt. Congrats to the bridal couple and glad your real loved ones support you.
I went to a wedding once where half way through the best man's speech, a table at the far end suddenly erupted with applause and people screaming. Everything stopped and the Bride and Groom and parents etc on the head table were all looking over staring wondering what the hell was going on. I kid you not but this older woman actually goes up to the best man, grabs the microphone off him and announces that her friend is engaged after her fiancé proposed. You could have cut the air with a knife. There were some who just instinctively clapped half heartedly but the bride and her family all had faces like thunder. Turns out these people at the table were just all co workers of the groom that were only invited to the evening disco event as the bride didn't even know them to invite to the church or breakfast. Ithought
I'm reminded of when Dolly Parton said she was changing the name of her dinner theatre production, by removing the word Dixie. When people asked her why, she said that when she learned it was hurtful to some people, she changed it, because if she can make the change that would keep them from hurting why on earth would she not? More people should be like her. When this woman told her family how she felt, the proper response should've been just like Dolly's. It's clear the bride's family don't value her, and she doesn't owe them anything.
I'm sorry but proposing at someone else's wedding is a low class thing to do. You will not score points. All you will do is lose family and friends.
It's classless and frankly just damned lazy on a man's part imo... I mean really dude Can't you come up with something original bro??!!! Maybe karma will step in on the sister wedding day and one of her man's friends does the exact same thing to their celebration (most guys are friends with other guys that are usually just like themselves... )🥳🎉🎉
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What is with a surprise engagement? Why does it have to be some big elaborate thing? For the life of me, I will never understand why. You are with a person, you talk, you know where it is headed, you know if you want to, the rest is window dressing. Especially when it is done with bells and whistles and of course a photographer ready to snap the perfect picture so you can plaster it all over social media
It's an awful lot of pressure to put on your intended too. What if they wanted to say no? To the OP I say congratulations and I wish you every happiness for your lives together. Sadly, like others have said, the parents were more interested in the engagement than her wedding. Cut them off, they're no big loss.
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Your only mistake was telling your sister; the surprise proposal would have at least made the party worth it to some degree. Your parents never had your wishes in mind, you owe them nothing. And your elopement (which sounds like fun) was everything you wanted. Congratulations and best wishes.
I don't think THAT was the mistake in this situation. How do you imagine the situation - no wedding, because bride and groom are not there, but the party will still go on, happy and all, because of surprise engagment...? That would not be happy occasion, for sure...
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So she cuts her off AND demands compensation?!?! Momma, cutting off doesn't work that way!!! Hilarious. Congrats on the wedding.
Honestly, this is pretty fishy. I mean, her own sister trying to steal your wedding and her parents backing her up?!? I just think that either her family is pretty clueless or this post is fake.
If you read the original this was updating, she said that her sister was the golden child and she was expected to share every big event with her and things that couldnt be shared she was not allowed to do. Sadly that is reality in some families.
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Unfortunately, I have a family that would probably do this. I'm currently in the process of cutting them off. Narcissistic parents do some really effed up things to their children/adult children. It is mind blowing.
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So lemme make sure I've got this straight: OP and OPFiance are getting married. OPMom makes huge plans. OPSister's BF wants to propose to Sister at OP's wedding party. OPMom agrees and apparently thinks this is a marvelous idea. Oddly enough OP wants her own wedding day to be about her and not tacky people wanting to hone in on her joy but would have allowed it if OPMom hadn't made it so plainly clear that her agreement was absolutely expected. OP and OPF did the right thing and married at future GPIL's place. OPMom bitches a btchfit. SM drama ensues.
This would be hilarious: do your early wedding, invite everyone. At the mother/sister wedding, walk halfway down the aisle then stop and theatrically call the boyfriend up to propose to the sister. Later, make a toast where you thank the parents for planning a big wedding when what you really just wanted was a small one. ‘Apologize’ for selfishly wanted your wedding to just be a wedding, not a wedding/engagement party. Explain that you were married the previous week. Apologize to all guests who were not invited to the real wedding and explain it had to be arranged on short notice and had to be kept secret so as not to spoil sister’s surprise. Good-naturedly remark that everyone got a surprise, the guests, the sister and even you. If she did this with a straight face, she would come off as an absolute angel, a saint. “Oh, yes, I’m a little disappointed, but my mother explained how selfish I was being.”
“This was the best compromise because I think this was always really her engagement party. It’s important for my family to always keep the focus on my sister. Did you know she had cancer?…”
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I would post every text I had with my parents, Fbil, and sister on the subject and find out how many wives would appreciate their parents doing that to the on their wedding day. It's always a shame when BOTH parents have the same favorite child. Glad I didn't have to experience that.
Great choice to elope and with the true friends in attendance. All the mean, self-centered, spiteful, vindictive ones, just leave them behind, which is the nice way of saying Kick um to the curb! A joyful new life and friend circle to you!
Give the parents a surprise and announce that you are not awarding them compensation at all since the money was well used towards another event. They thought they could get off cheap by expecting to hold a wedding party and engagement party at the same time. And this is what they get for trying to live outside their means while trying to keep up with people who can afford to have lavish parties for life events.
Good for her! I would've done the same thing! Wonder what will happen when they have kids? That will be something else they will be dealing with. I am so sorry her family tried to hijack her wedding with her sisters’ engagement. That is low and says just how little respect they have for her feelings… let alone love for her happiness.
It seems to me that this did not just happen with this wedding. Reading between the lines, it sounds like the mother has always imposed her will on this daughter. I am happy as a pig in slop that this bride turn the tables on her mother and sister by having her wedding all to herself. What mother plans one daughter's wedding so that another daughter can be proposed to. Maybe this family cutting the bride off is doing her the biggest favor in her life. To the bride and groom---be happy and in love. Don't let anything ruin the beginning of your new lives together. You don't need any family drama. Be happy!!!
Just because someone is a family member, it doesn't mean you have to keep them in your life. She'll be better off without her selfish family members in her life. My mother stole over $100k from me and I haven't talked to her in almost 3 years. It's been so refreshing not having her in my life; well worth the money when you consider I no longer have to interact with her. Don't be afraid to knock your parents down a notch, if that's what they need.
For the OP i wish you EVERY BLESSING honey As for your sister well i hope she gets just what she deserves for choosing such a classless brainless neanderthal to come up with an idea like proposing at someone else's wedding. that's Just LAZY , she will never have anything worthwhile with that small-minded male she got The what kind family did the sister find this meathead from?🙄
Here's what I saw...a mother who was trying to get a two-for. She paid for the party of the wedding and was also going to make it an engagement party to save herself some money. My sister had something similar. Her birthday is so close to Christmas, she'd get one present for "both" situations. It's hard not to feel like you're getting short changed.
Why do people think that this sort of s**t is even remotely OK? And I don't buy the "well, this is the perfect time since all of the family is gonna be there anyway" excuse. WE HAVE THIS THING CALLED SOCIAL MEDIA THAT YOU CAN USE TO ANNOUNCE ANYTHING AT ANY TIME. People f*****g suck. Good on OP for eloping.
I hope she already knew she is not her parents favorite because this would be a heartbreakingway to find out. If she did not, she does now.
The Bible says when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing. Your husband found you and as long as you are happy with him is all that matters. It would have been one thing if the boyfriend just got up at the wedding reception and propose to your sister surprising everyone. But to actually plan a engagement party on the day of your wedding during your wedding, they are the ones being selfish. Number one; the fact that your sister got mad because they was doing it at your wedding and number two; because you ruined the surprise however she should have gone to your parents and the boyfriend and said I'm not doing that at my sister's wedding. This let you know how they really feel about you. Enjoy your life enjoy your husband have children be with God and move on.
It's a shame she deleted her account. She did the wrong thing by asking her friends to not bother to correct the lies her family is spreading about her. She's a doormat, and now we'll never know what happened.
You did it right. That is your special day. After the wedding party would have not been a disaster but to do it during they are the ah. You will be happier cut off. I have a feeling that is a life long issue of being treated like that. I wish you all the happiness in the world.
Congratulations on your wedding! I'm sorry that your family is being so ridiculous, but that's their problem, not yours. And it's totally crazy your dad wants to cut all relations with you but still expects compensation!!! You can find the song from Judas Priest "You got another thing coming!" And play it VERY LOUD, just for them. Or you could just say "Ok, whatever!" like blowing them off. PLEASE, don't let them guilt trip you!!! When your family doesn't respect you, and your wishes, that's when you find your friends are more like family! Congratulations sweetie, now it's time to live your life and create your memories!!
Did you actually read the post or just make assumptions based on the title? The bride said she was perfectly cool with the idea of her sister being proposed to and had she been asked about it she would have allowed it, but her family essentially told her "this is what's going to happen and you don't have any say in it".
Load More Replies... To everyone that reads this:YOU DON'T PROPOSE, ANNOUNCE ENGAGEMENT OR PREGNANCY AT SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING!!!! The wedding is about the people getting married and not you. If you can't understand this, then you are a jerk.
There can't be enough emphasis put on this. Do NOT steal the thunder from the bride and groom by upstaging them with your own announcement. Let them have this one...damn...day... that is for them.
Load More Replies... I think we're missing the beginning as it starts with an update. So the mom was paying for a wedding party, decided with her future SIL that this should also be proposal day, a small event nestled into a much bigger event, taking away attention from the bride and groom. 👰&🤵have no say in it, are obviously pissed off and move the wedding day. Instead of turning the wedding party into a lavish engagement party, mom and FSIL are canceling the proposal too as its main purpose of ruining/upstaging the wedding is no longer in existence? Some people. Congrats on having been cut off.
Thank you! I read it twice and still thought I was missing something.
Load More Replies... How spiteful do you have to be to ruin your daughter’s wedding day so your other daughter can be proposed to?
Chances are things like this has happened all her life. That family seems focused on their 'little darling' and OP has had to suck it up all her life. Good for her to establish boundaries!
Load More Replies... I'll bet this was the type of family where when OP had a birthday, the mom let the sister open all of OP's presents because the sister is jealous and whining (or the mom bought the sister presents too, even though it was OP's birthday). I swear I can smell the parent's favoritism for OP's sister, from here. *smh* WTG OP for going your own way on this. Your parents, your sister and her bf are, unfortunately, very selfish people, and don't deserve to be part of your special day.
I think she said something to that effect in her original post. I cant remember 100% but she said something about being surprised her parents were willing to pay for something like this just for her, then she found out thier real plan. Also the "new" wedding that she did do was the original plan but it wasnt good enough for her parents so they changed her plans when they offered to pay to make it better for sister.
Load More Replies... So...the parents are "cutting her off" but also "expecting compensation"? Do they realize what cutting someone off means?
How crappy would it be to have to grow up with a mom and sister like that? Did the OP ever get to celebrate any special day or achievement without having to share it with the sister? How awful it seems that it would have been.
More than likely no. She probably had to share every special moment of her life with her sister.
Load More Replies... https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/vaxsed/im_planning_to_elope_because_my_parents_are/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf For anyone looking for the first half of the story
Thanks for this, it confirms my reading that the sister wasn't in on the plan: it was supposed to be a surprise for her. This story does look strangely familiar, I wonder whether I've seen it or something similar on AITA 🤔
Load More Replies... I think in future, wedding invitations should include, we would also humbly request to both family and friends that no engagements or pregnancy announcements be made on our social day. The DJ should be informed that in the event any of such takes place to start playing music loud to take any attention away. Also make sure to send bridesmaids and groomsmen a gentle reminder of such as well cause often it comes from there as well. It's sad that that is a thing these days. Family is nit exempt. Congrats to the bridal couple and glad your real loved ones support you.
I went to a wedding once where half way through the best man's speech, a table at the far end suddenly erupted with applause and people screaming. Everything stopped and the Bride and Groom and parents etc on the head table were all looking over staring wondering what the hell was going on. I kid you not but this older woman actually goes up to the best man, grabs the microphone off him and announces that her friend is engaged after her fiancé proposed. You could have cut the air with a knife. There were some who just instinctively clapped half heartedly but the bride and her family all had faces like thunder. Turns out these people at the table were just all co workers of the groom that were only invited to the evening disco event as the bride didn't even know them to invite to the church or breakfast. Ithought
I'm reminded of when Dolly Parton said she was changing the name of her dinner theatre production, by removing the word Dixie. When people asked her why, she said that when she learned it was hurtful to some people, she changed it, because if she can make the change that would keep them from hurting why on earth would she not? More people should be like her. When this woman told her family how she felt, the proper response should've been just like Dolly's. It's clear the bride's family don't value her, and she doesn't owe them anything.
I'm sorry but proposing at someone else's wedding is a low class thing to do. You will not score points. All you will do is lose family and friends.
It's classless and frankly just damned lazy on a man's part imo... I mean really dude Can't you come up with something original bro??!!! Maybe karma will step in on the sister wedding day and one of her man's friends does the exact same thing to their celebration (most guys are friends with other guys that are usually just like themselves... )🥳🎉🎉
Load More Replies... What is with a surprise engagement? Why does it have to be some big elaborate thing? For the life of me, I will never understand why. You are with a person, you talk, you know where it is headed, you know if you want to, the rest is window dressing. Especially when it is done with bells and whistles and of course a photographer ready to snap the perfect picture so you can plaster it all over social media
It's an awful lot of pressure to put on your intended too. What if they wanted to say no? To the OP I say congratulations and I wish you every happiness for your lives together. Sadly, like others have said, the parents were more interested in the engagement than her wedding. Cut them off, they're no big loss.
Load More Replies... Your only mistake was telling your sister; the surprise proposal would have at least made the party worth it to some degree. Your parents never had your wishes in mind, you owe them nothing. And your elopement (which sounds like fun) was everything you wanted. Congratulations and best wishes.
I don't think THAT was the mistake in this situation. How do you imagine the situation - no wedding, because bride and groom are not there, but the party will still go on, happy and all, because of surprise engagment...? That would not be happy occasion, for sure...
Load More Replies... So she cuts her off AND demands compensation?!?! Momma, cutting off doesn't work that way!!! Hilarious. Congrats on the wedding.
Honestly, this is pretty fishy. I mean, her own sister trying to steal your wedding and her parents backing her up?!? I just think that either her family is pretty clueless or this post is fake.
If you read the original this was updating, she said that her sister was the golden child and she was expected to share every big event with her and things that couldnt be shared she was not allowed to do. Sadly that is reality in some families.
Load More Replies... Unfortunately, I have a family that would probably do this. I'm currently in the process of cutting them off. Narcissistic parents do some really effed up things to their children/adult children. It is mind blowing.
Load More Replies... So lemme make sure I've got this straight: OP and OPFiance are getting married. OPMom makes huge plans. OPSister's BF wants to propose to Sister at OP's wedding party. OPMom agrees and apparently thinks this is a marvelous idea. Oddly enough OP wants her own wedding day to be about her and not tacky people wanting to hone in on her joy but would have allowed it if OPMom hadn't made it so plainly clear that her agreement was absolutely expected. OP and OPF did the right thing and married at future GPIL's place. OPMom bitches a btchfit. SM drama ensues.
This would be hilarious: do your early wedding, invite everyone. At the mother/sister wedding, walk halfway down the aisle then stop and theatrically call the boyfriend up to propose to the sister. Later, make a toast where you thank the parents for planning a big wedding when what you really just wanted was a small one. ‘Apologize’ for selfishly wanted your wedding to just be a wedding, not a wedding/engagement party. Explain that you were married the previous week. Apologize to all guests who were not invited to the real wedding and explain it had to be arranged on short notice and had to be kept secret so as not to spoil sister’s surprise. Good-naturedly remark that everyone got a surprise, the guests, the sister and even you. If she did this with a straight face, she would come off as an absolute angel, a saint. “Oh, yes, I’m a little disappointed, but my mother explained how selfish I was being.”
“This was the best compromise because I think this was always really her engagement party. It’s important for my family to always keep the focus on my sister. Did you know she had cancer?…”
Load More Replies... I would post every text I had with my parents, Fbil, and sister on the subject and find out how many wives would appreciate their parents doing that to the on their wedding day. It's always a shame when BOTH parents have the same favorite child. Glad I didn't have to experience that.
Great choice to elope and with the true friends in attendance. All the mean, self-centered, spiteful, vindictive ones, just leave them behind, which is the nice way of saying Kick um to the curb! A joyful new life and friend circle to you!
Give the parents a surprise and announce that you are not awarding them compensation at all since the money was well used towards another event. They thought they could get off cheap by expecting to hold a wedding party and engagement party at the same time. And this is what they get for trying to live outside their means while trying to keep up with people who can afford to have lavish parties for life events.
Good for her! I would've done the same thing! Wonder what will happen when they have kids? That will be something else they will be dealing with. I am so sorry her family tried to hijack her wedding with her sisters’ engagement. That is low and says just how little respect they have for her feelings… let alone love for her happiness.
It seems to me that this did not just happen with this wedding. Reading between the lines, it sounds like the mother has always imposed her will on this daughter. I am happy as a pig in slop that this bride turn the tables on her mother and sister by having her wedding all to herself. What mother plans one daughter's wedding so that another daughter can be proposed to. Maybe this family cutting the bride off is doing her the biggest favor in her life. To the bride and groom---be happy and in love. Don't let anything ruin the beginning of your new lives together. You don't need any family drama. Be happy!!!
Just because someone is a family member, it doesn't mean you have to keep them in your life. She'll be better off without her selfish family members in her life. My mother stole over $100k from me and I haven't talked to her in almost 3 years. It's been so refreshing not having her in my life; well worth the money when you consider I no longer have to interact with her. Don't be afraid to knock your parents down a notch, if that's what they need.
For the OP i wish you EVERY BLESSING honey As for your sister well i hope she gets just what she deserves for choosing such a classless brainless neanderthal to come up with an idea like proposing at someone else's wedding. that's Just LAZY , she will never have anything worthwhile with that small-minded male she got The what kind family did the sister find this meathead from?🙄
Here's what I saw...a mother who was trying to get a two-for. She paid for the party of the wedding and was also going to make it an engagement party to save herself some money. My sister had something similar. Her birthday is so close to Christmas, she'd get one present for "both" situations. It's hard not to feel like you're getting short changed.
Why do people think that this sort of s**t is even remotely OK? And I don't buy the "well, this is the perfect time since all of the family is gonna be there anyway" excuse. WE HAVE THIS THING CALLED SOCIAL MEDIA THAT YOU CAN USE TO ANNOUNCE ANYTHING AT ANY TIME. People f*****g suck. Good on OP for eloping.
I hope she already knew she is not her parents favorite because this would be a heartbreakingway to find out. If she did not, she does now.
The Bible says when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing. Your husband found you and as long as you are happy with him is all that matters. It would have been one thing if the boyfriend just got up at the wedding reception and propose to your sister surprising everyone. But to actually plan a engagement party on the day of your wedding during your wedding, they are the ones being selfish. Number one; the fact that your sister got mad because they was doing it at your wedding and number two; because you ruined the surprise however she should have gone to your parents and the boyfriend and said I'm not doing that at my sister's wedding. This let you know how they really feel about you. Enjoy your life enjoy your husband have children be with God and move on.
It's a shame she deleted her account. She did the wrong thing by asking her friends to not bother to correct the lies her family is spreading about her. She's a doormat, and now we'll never know what happened.
You did it right. That is your special day. After the wedding party would have not been a disaster but to do it during they are the ah. You will be happier cut off. I have a feeling that is a life long issue of being treated like that. I wish you all the happiness in the world.
Congratulations on your wedding! I'm sorry that your family is being so ridiculous, but that's their problem, not yours. And it's totally crazy your dad wants to cut all relations with you but still expects compensation!!! You can find the song from Judas Priest "You got another thing coming!" And play it VERY LOUD, just for them. Or you could just say "Ok, whatever!" like blowing them off. PLEASE, don't let them guilt trip you!!! When your family doesn't respect you, and your wishes, that's when you find your friends are more like family! Congratulations sweetie, now it's time to live your life and create your memories!!
Did you actually read the post or just make assumptions based on the title? The bride said she was perfectly cool with the idea of her sister being proposed to and had she been asked about it she would have allowed it, but her family essentially told her "this is what's going to happen and you don't have any say in it".
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