Woman Calls Her Sister To Babysit Because ‘No One Else Can’, She Comes Over To Discover Their Dad Is Just Chilling At Home
A father is many things but he is not a “babysitter” for his kids.
When 17-year-old Reddit user u/Throwaway9876-57 got a call from her older sister, asking to look after her kids, the teen immediately rushed to help. After all, that’s what family is for.
But upon her arrival, u/Throwaway9876-57 couldn’t believe her eyes. The dad, her sister’s husband, was at home. Playing video games. Refusing to “babysit” the kids because it was his day off.
Of course, the Redditor stayed — her sister was in a pinch and she needed help — but the evening got progressively weirder as the guy kept refusing to spend time with the little ones.
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One of the toughest things to navigate as a parent is making sure that child care is in place when needed. If grandparents and other extended family members don’t live close by and your husband is a terrible father, it can be tricky figuring out how to make it all work.
It’s also probably impossible to give an exact number of stay-at-home dads, but various organizations have tried.
The U.S. Census Bureau, for example, reported in 2012 that 189,000 married men with children under the age of 18 identified themselves as stay-at-home fathers — this number was restricted to those who could identify as men who had remained outside the labor force for at least one year, while their wives worked outside the home.
A 2014 Pew Research Center paper found that 2 million U.S. fathers with children under age 18 still at home were not working outside the home. However, this report didn’t confirm that the dads were the primary caregiver or even providing child care for the children.
Societal standards don’t help the situation either. Stay-at-home dads are sometimes wrongly portrayed as lazy, clueless, or lacking masculinity.
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You don't get a day off from being a parent. Being a parent is full on, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. If you are lucky, you get a babysitter whilst you go on a night out or weekend away. What you don't do is let your other half do all of the parenting whilst you slouch around because you want time out. The sister should book a day off herself and see how he likes it. The only way to get these people to own up to their behaviour is to throw their behaviour back at them and ask them how unreasonable it now seems whilst they bear the brunt of it. Little sister, if you are reading this then your sister needs your support right now. I have no doubt she realises his behaviour is not on, and maybe is angry with you because you pointed out the obvious. His behaviour must be embarrassing for her. Stick with her, refuse to apologise to him, but be supportive to her cause she and her kids could do with a bit of kindness in their lives right now.
It's not his day off from being a Dad. He is no real Dad to begin with. His wife does everything on her own
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Why did tell her mother a different story? The fact he lied to her mother tells me he knew he was wrong.
Bugger me, how useless is this guy, and how can anyone back him up? You don't get down-time as a parent unless you manage to get your kids to nap a while, but that's what you expect and to demand you keep your "day off" to lock yourself away like a teenager to play games is disgraceful.
I cannot wrap my head around OPs mother calling her a AH. Teenagers are prone to dramatics, but let's look at the facts which seem to be agreed upon by all parties. 1) Sister had to leave the house and asked OP to babysit, knowing that her husband was at home. 2) Sister had to leave work after husband kicked OP out so there was someone to continue looking after the kids. Neither of these seems to be being disputed. Hey, let's play a fun game - let's take *his* version, and OP was just playing on her phone and ignoring the kids requests for snacks. HE WAS THE PARENT PRESENT. There was no need for a babysitter AT ALL. Why, WHY is OPs mother apparently completely blind to *this* fact? Who cares if OP wandered in, called him a useless piece of sputum and played Candy Crush for an hour? HE WAS THE PARENT PRESENT. There was no need for a babysitter AT ALL. The mere fact that this isn't registering with OPs mother makes her every bit as big an AH as the useless husband.
AND *she* doesn't have the excuse of "I cant leave him, it's too hard/dangerous/whatever" that the sister could potentially have. (I'm not defending the sister, but these are often factors in why women stay with abusive partners and we don't know every detail). OPs mother is not directly in the situation and chooses to align herself with the *husband*. Husband is the AH, Mother is the Queen of AHs.
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Parenthood is forever. To refer to it as "babysitting" when it's your *own* children indicates this person shouldn't be around children, IMHO. A day off with his kids? There's people who would love to have a day off with their kids!
I remember the commercials where the parent would go into the kids room and said they needed a sick day. Parents don’t get sick days. Parents don’t get days off. Parents don’t babysit their own kids. I don’t see their marriage lasting if he’s that immature. I’m also a gamer, currently pregnant, but already know my gaming will be cut back a lot when the baby arrives. She’ll always come first.
I have absolutely no words for this man (and not in a good way). Day off, so don't want to take care of his kids? Well his wife prolly takes care of them on her days off, so why can't he?
I've had to read this twice now because it is so unbelievable. Like others have said, parenting is 24/7 unless your child is staying at grandparents or friends. The sister should just tell her husband that she has a work emergency, look after your own children and not enable his nonsense. There will be so many special moments where your children make you go "WOW!" that will never happen because of not spending the time with them.
My brother works 7 days a week during the summer with hardly any days off and still does his part to parent his children, and works as a team with his wife who also works full time.
I wonder if the sister gets a "free day" too, but i seriously doubt it. What a jerk
Probanly if the teenager babysits the kids. No way that the father is doing it
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y knee-jerk reaction is I feel like she should divorce him. But then I was thinking, at what point did the mother let it come to this... early on in the parenting years did she not ever say "wtf? these are your kids too!" the first time she needed help? Is this a pattern that now the husband and wife feel is "normal?" And if she couldn't say ever ask for help early on- there is far more wrong in this marriage than his lack of parenting.
My sisters husband is the same kind. Played computer game on his day off and decided he doesn't want to WASTE his day off. So my mom drowe from another town to babysit while this a...hole played games the whole time.
Perhaps you could conduct an expediment on this guy, since you have him available and he doesn't deserve any consideration. Call your sister away, having arranged in advance for every female relative within 100 miles to be unavailable for babysitting. What does he do, when actually left alone with his own children?
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You do not get a day off when you have kids; the fact that wife actually called her sister is very telling. She needs to have a serious conversation with her husband about his stinking attitude. Some people want to be married no matter what.
NTA. Your sister is the breadwinner AND the caregiver AND the housekeeper? WTF does she need him for? Like, at all.
Why do so many men call it "baby sitting" when they have to take care of their own kids? You helped make the kids, man up and take care of them! And the mother how does she manage to work and take care of everything else when she has no back bone what so ever? People like this just burn my butt like a flame 3 ft high. They have been blessed with children and treat them like a burden. The teenage sister is not the one who is wrong, her mother is for believing the story the loser father doled out, the sister is wrong for not making her husband man up, and there is not enough space on this post to tell you exactly what I think of the father.
This whole dynamic is broken. Wife finds it normal to hire a babysitter when her husband is in the house. Brother in law sees being asked to watch his own children as a sign of disrespect. Mother believes whatever garbage comes out of brother in law's mouth instead of siding with her daughter. Brother in law decides to use the children as a way to get an apology from babysitter. The only other rational person in this entire scenario is the girl's father. The brother in law needs a reality check and fast. Sister needs to wake up and realize how toxic her home situation is. Mother needs to realize that her son in law is a lying piece of trash.
He's not a father, he was just the seed-carrier. If he were to be a father he would make sure his kids are taken care of, instead of playing his video games. What an a**e.
Honestly, it is not the posters problem or concern. Her sister has decided that is what she wants in a spouse so that means that when it is her husband's day off and she needs to go into work, then they need to just find a babysitter and leave the younger sister out of it. The husband sounds like a horrible human being and entitled but to each their own. People can be extremely happy in relationships that I would rather die than be in. I would never be in a relationship like this but others have different boundaries and dynamics that outsiders may not be aware of. My entire family has tried to get me to leave my husband because I support us financially, they see my husband as unworthy of me, but I couldn't be married to someone like me, we would be neurotic nut cases. My husband does all the emotional support and that is what I need. I refuse to comment on relationships unless there is abuse. Just stay out of it and have them find a professional sitter.
I think possibly both the sister and mom are angry at OP bc otherwise they would have to confront that big uncomfortable truth. It's probably not an easy thing to admit that the husband is trash. Like when she eventually admits this to herself it's probably going to result in divorce, I can understand being afraid of a big life change and sheltering yourself from that for a time (not sympathize, but understand). Hope OP doesn't let the family drag them into this this drama anymore and that things will work out in the end.
I'd f**k with his gaming. Unplug the router and put a dirty diaper on it, so when he had to come and plug it back in he'd have to deal with that. In fact I'd just dirty diaper bomb his gaming set up. Or let his baby run around pants free in his room. Turn the main electricity switch of the house off, say you're doing 1300 old fashion baby sitting lol. Tell the kids that the best game is to see who can distract dad the best. Offer them candy as reward
The brother-in-law is a sperm donor with limited benefits. She's the breadwinner, primary caregiver, and I bet she does all the cooking and cleaning. She should have just gone a sperm bank, instead of getting it fresh from the tap. Her husband is gross.
The mother of those kids is the problem here. First, she chose to have kids with an idiot, and now gives the idiot a free pass on parenting those kids. Those kids already realize their father would rather play video games than spend time with them. This is so damaging. Shame on both parents.
This is the kind of family who thinks a teen girl should consider it a great treat to babysit...so she can "practice" for when she has her own kids. She's probably not even going to be out of her teens before grandma is on her case to get married and start her own family. So I see this as an opportunity to solve two problems at once. "Dear Sis: Thanks so much for giving me the chance to babysit. It's really helped me realize that taking care of children all day without any help is just not what I'm cut out to do. I've decided to get another job so I can work on skills that will help me on a future career path. Here is a link for a babysitting referral service. I'm sure they'll help you find someone who can do the non-stop, full-service work that your unique family situation requires."
Parents don't get days off from parenting. Or nights for that matter. Likely, the marriage will end in divorce, or the kids will grow up and resent their father for his selfishness.
i dont understand people. If they are not mentally ready to accept the responsibility of bearing a child why even bother giving birth? the child is not only responsibility of the mom's.
It starts like this then your sister will slowly have you over less and less. Then BIL will eliminate your side of the family from normal family functions and stop coming to them because he needs "respect". People that look out for his wife will slowly be eliminated and undermined. Sis will be too terrified to not have the perfect family image and she jumps to him. Throw in a little family money and a some narcissistic folks and you got a decades of anxiety. Unless you see it for what it is. Girl you nailed it. My advise -Set boundaries, be sincere in interactions and go live a wonderful life. Your sister will never ever return the favor of being an involved auntie to your possible future children. Your mother will always see herself in her oldest and it will be hurtful if you do not realize they are broken and it ain't your job to fix them. Do special stuff with your Dad.Keep healthy boundries with her too.
Your BIL is a POS. And I hope your sis comes to her senses and leaves his @SS
You can have a day off work, you can't have a day off being a parent. Not that it sounds like this dad does much parenting, poor kids.
I was hired to babysit a LONG time ago (the "baby" should be about 30 now). I was told that the older (by about 4 yrs.) was in preschool & his dad would take him & bring him home, Turns out that"Daddy" wanted to take care of his son ONLY & not his baby girl!! (He'd stay home on days off & play video games--the 4-yr.-old would watch, not play. I didn't stay long with that job (hoping that the kids grew up to be better than what their "dad" was showing to be!!
When I was a newlywed Navy wife , I went to a makeup party and the hostess told me a story about how she asked her husband to turn on the washing machine or something because she was bathing their child. She no shiz said "I would never ask him to do the laundry or anything like that, I just wanted him to turn it on". He was mad because she'd asked him to do "housework". She thought it was perfectly reasonable. I just sat their with my mouth hanging open trying to stop the sarcastic comments from coming out of my mouth. Yikes, to each their own I guess ... but I could never live like that. I'm too mean lol
The father sounds like an extra kid himself. He needs to grow the f up and recognise his responsibilities. The best thing that could happen to this man is a divorce, then he’d have to spend time with the children on his own and hopefully manage to salvage his relationship with them. The wife is mental putting up with this nonsense.
The term father, husband, human and man does not seem to describe this creature. He found the need to breed but not the need to feed the breed. Wife better known ultimate slave. ,Her family except the sister is the only mature one. A father who locks himself in his room to play video games. Treat this little boy like he should be treated dispose of his toys and take him to a psychiatrist immediately!
What a lazy ass, POS excuse for a father! He can't take care of his own children because he wants to play video games instead?! How pathetic! If I was the mother, I would cut the cord right now and get rid of her 3rd and most useless child because apparently he contributes nothing to the household. He barely even pulls his own weight. She's better off on her own. Kick this loser to the curb!
The 'father' is a child himself. Selfish, spoiled and manipulating his mother in law with lies when what he is actually revealing is his lack of responsibility. His wife is constantly trying to clean up his messes. Every minute that he prioritizes his childish needs above the needs of his children, he presents an immature and underdeveloped role model to his kids. In the parlance of the 1960's this guy is a punk.
I’m only able to see my daughter one or two days a week (I’m separated from her Mum), whenever they are I’m grateful for the time we get to share. I find it very sad that someone would see their day off as only theirs, it’s a chance to reconnect with the children, a longer period to enjoy / explore / hunker down and have a snuggle in front of a film. Yes, have time for yourself, it’s important to keep your hobbies, no, don’t make your children feel like they are a burden. Share sone time together, teach yourself that decompressing from work includes spending time with your family they need that time too they’ve missed you for six days of the week. Remember, almost anyone can be a father, it takes someone special to be a Dad. Be that person for the most important people in your life. You won’t regret it.
I've seen a few families like this where the mom constantly has to find people to care for the kids while she does anything because the dads 'didn't want to babysit'. I feel bad for the sister , you don't imagine yourself being in a situation like this. She probably ignored some red flags earlier in the relationship . Now she is where she is with a s**t partner . I'd personally stick up for my sister , but I can understand why some women feel like that isn't an option
There are no "days off" when you're a parent. Ever. Period. Wait, I lied. Once my wife and I were both unbelievably ill with norovirus at the same time and the kids spent the weekend at their grandparents house while we both puked and sh*t our brains out for two days. That was a great vacation.
NTA: She should have left the house immediately when she saw what the „emergency“ was all about, a pathetic excuse of a father
People who refer to a parent watching their own children as "babysitting" need to grow up and not reproduce until they are ready for the responsibility of actually having a child. My partner doesn't even see him watching the kids as babysitting and he is their step-dad. Grow-up and quit letting behavior like this be normalized. And expect more from a partner.
There is a big difference between being a father and being a dad. Doesn't matter if it's your day off, the kids doesn't come with a power switch in the back, when you become a father you sign up for a life long commitment. How many days off (from the kids) do the mother get? Probably none. The people that side with the father here has really missed out on what it is to be a dad. You need to make the bond with your kids when they are young, when they get to be teens it's too late, you will always be a father but never a dad. And you are not babysitting your own kids, you are caring for your children.
Are we really sure he was "gaming" and that "gaming" is not his job? (streamer/youtuber). In that case it would make sense, but a 5min conversation would've resolve the argument already
I would 100% leave those kids with the dad for a week without notice. That'll teach that lazy sperm donor he has a responsibility
Ffs why is this evena question.the older sister is a stupid doormat and deserves being treated like s**t.if you act like a doormat don't be surprised when everyone walks all over you.
You don't get a day off from being a parent. Being a parent is full on, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. If you are lucky, you get a babysitter whilst you go on a night out or weekend away. What you don't do is let your other half do all of the parenting whilst you slouch around because you want time out. The sister should book a day off herself and see how he likes it. The only way to get these people to own up to their behaviour is to throw their behaviour back at them and ask them how unreasonable it now seems whilst they bear the brunt of it. Little sister, if you are reading this then your sister needs your support right now. I have no doubt she realises his behaviour is not on, and maybe is angry with you because you pointed out the obvious. His behaviour must be embarrassing for her. Stick with her, refuse to apologise to him, but be supportive to her cause she and her kids could do with a bit of kindness in their lives right now.
It's not his day off from being a Dad. He is no real Dad to begin with. His wife does everything on her own
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Bugger me, how useless is this guy, and how can anyone back him up? You don't get down-time as a parent unless you manage to get your kids to nap a while, but that's what you expect and to demand you keep your "day off" to lock yourself away like a teenager to play games is disgraceful.
I cannot wrap my head around OPs mother calling her a AH. Teenagers are prone to dramatics, but let's look at the facts which seem to be agreed upon by all parties. 1) Sister had to leave the house and asked OP to babysit, knowing that her husband was at home. 2) Sister had to leave work after husband kicked OP out so there was someone to continue looking after the kids. Neither of these seems to be being disputed. Hey, let's play a fun game - let's take *his* version, and OP was just playing on her phone and ignoring the kids requests for snacks. HE WAS THE PARENT PRESENT. There was no need for a babysitter AT ALL. Why, WHY is OPs mother apparently completely blind to *this* fact? Who cares if OP wandered in, called him a useless piece of sputum and played Candy Crush for an hour? HE WAS THE PARENT PRESENT. There was no need for a babysitter AT ALL. The mere fact that this isn't registering with OPs mother makes her every bit as big an AH as the useless husband.
AND *she* doesn't have the excuse of "I cant leave him, it's too hard/dangerous/whatever" that the sister could potentially have. (I'm not defending the sister, but these are often factors in why women stay with abusive partners and we don't know every detail). OPs mother is not directly in the situation and chooses to align herself with the *husband*. Husband is the AH, Mother is the Queen of AHs.
Load More Replies... Parenthood is forever. To refer to it as "babysitting" when it's your *own* children indicates this person shouldn't be around children, IMHO. A day off with his kids? There's people who would love to have a day off with their kids!
I remember the commercials where the parent would go into the kids room and said they needed a sick day. Parents don’t get sick days. Parents don’t get days off. Parents don’t babysit their own kids. I don’t see their marriage lasting if he’s that immature. I’m also a gamer, currently pregnant, but already know my gaming will be cut back a lot when the baby arrives. She’ll always come first.
I have absolutely no words for this man (and not in a good way). Day off, so don't want to take care of his kids? Well his wife prolly takes care of them on her days off, so why can't he?
I've had to read this twice now because it is so unbelievable. Like others have said, parenting is 24/7 unless your child is staying at grandparents or friends. The sister should just tell her husband that she has a work emergency, look after your own children and not enable his nonsense. There will be so many special moments where your children make you go "WOW!" that will never happen because of not spending the time with them.
My brother works 7 days a week during the summer with hardly any days off and still does his part to parent his children, and works as a team with his wife who also works full time.
I wonder if the sister gets a "free day" too, but i seriously doubt it. What a jerk
Probanly if the teenager babysits the kids. No way that the father is doing it
Load More Replies... y knee-jerk reaction is I feel like she should divorce him. But then I was thinking, at what point did the mother let it come to this... early on in the parenting years did she not ever say "wtf? these are your kids too!" the first time she needed help? Is this a pattern that now the husband and wife feel is "normal?" And if she couldn't say ever ask for help early on- there is far more wrong in this marriage than his lack of parenting.
My sisters husband is the same kind. Played computer game on his day off and decided he doesn't want to WASTE his day off. So my mom drowe from another town to babysit while this a...hole played games the whole time.
Perhaps you could conduct an expediment on this guy, since you have him available and he doesn't deserve any consideration. Call your sister away, having arranged in advance for every female relative within 100 miles to be unavailable for babysitting. What does he do, when actually left alone with his own children?
Load More Replies... You do not get a day off when you have kids; the fact that wife actually called her sister is very telling. She needs to have a serious conversation with her husband about his stinking attitude. Some people want to be married no matter what.
NTA. Your sister is the breadwinner AND the caregiver AND the housekeeper? WTF does she need him for? Like, at all.
Why do so many men call it "baby sitting" when they have to take care of their own kids? You helped make the kids, man up and take care of them! And the mother how does she manage to work and take care of everything else when she has no back bone what so ever? People like this just burn my butt like a flame 3 ft high. They have been blessed with children and treat them like a burden. The teenage sister is not the one who is wrong, her mother is for believing the story the loser father doled out, the sister is wrong for not making her husband man up, and there is not enough space on this post to tell you exactly what I think of the father.
This whole dynamic is broken. Wife finds it normal to hire a babysitter when her husband is in the house. Brother in law sees being asked to watch his own children as a sign of disrespect. Mother believes whatever garbage comes out of brother in law's mouth instead of siding with her daughter. Brother in law decides to use the children as a way to get an apology from babysitter. The only other rational person in this entire scenario is the girl's father. The brother in law needs a reality check and fast. Sister needs to wake up and realize how toxic her home situation is. Mother needs to realize that her son in law is a lying piece of trash.
He's not a father, he was just the seed-carrier. If he were to be a father he would make sure his kids are taken care of, instead of playing his video games. What an a**e.
Honestly, it is not the posters problem or concern. Her sister has decided that is what she wants in a spouse so that means that when it is her husband's day off and she needs to go into work, then they need to just find a babysitter and leave the younger sister out of it. The husband sounds like a horrible human being and entitled but to each their own. People can be extremely happy in relationships that I would rather die than be in. I would never be in a relationship like this but others have different boundaries and dynamics that outsiders may not be aware of. My entire family has tried to get me to leave my husband because I support us financially, they see my husband as unworthy of me, but I couldn't be married to someone like me, we would be neurotic nut cases. My husband does all the emotional support and that is what I need. I refuse to comment on relationships unless there is abuse. Just stay out of it and have them find a professional sitter.
I think possibly both the sister and mom are angry at OP bc otherwise they would have to confront that big uncomfortable truth. It's probably not an easy thing to admit that the husband is trash. Like when she eventually admits this to herself it's probably going to result in divorce, I can understand being afraid of a big life change and sheltering yourself from that for a time (not sympathize, but understand). Hope OP doesn't let the family drag them into this this drama anymore and that things will work out in the end.
I'd f**k with his gaming. Unplug the router and put a dirty diaper on it, so when he had to come and plug it back in he'd have to deal with that. In fact I'd just dirty diaper bomb his gaming set up. Or let his baby run around pants free in his room. Turn the main electricity switch of the house off, say you're doing 1300 old fashion baby sitting lol. Tell the kids that the best game is to see who can distract dad the best. Offer them candy as reward
The brother-in-law is a sperm donor with limited benefits. She's the breadwinner, primary caregiver, and I bet she does all the cooking and cleaning. She should have just gone a sperm bank, instead of getting it fresh from the tap. Her husband is gross.
The mother of those kids is the problem here. First, she chose to have kids with an idiot, and now gives the idiot a free pass on parenting those kids. Those kids already realize their father would rather play video games than spend time with them. This is so damaging. Shame on both parents.
This is the kind of family who thinks a teen girl should consider it a great treat to babysit...so she can "practice" for when she has her own kids. She's probably not even going to be out of her teens before grandma is on her case to get married and start her own family. So I see this as an opportunity to solve two problems at once. "Dear Sis: Thanks so much for giving me the chance to babysit. It's really helped me realize that taking care of children all day without any help is just not what I'm cut out to do. I've decided to get another job so I can work on skills that will help me on a future career path. Here is a link for a babysitting referral service. I'm sure they'll help you find someone who can do the non-stop, full-service work that your unique family situation requires."
Parents don't get days off from parenting. Or nights for that matter. Likely, the marriage will end in divorce, or the kids will grow up and resent their father for his selfishness.
i dont understand people. If they are not mentally ready to accept the responsibility of bearing a child why even bother giving birth? the child is not only responsibility of the mom's.
It starts like this then your sister will slowly have you over less and less. Then BIL will eliminate your side of the family from normal family functions and stop coming to them because he needs "respect". People that look out for his wife will slowly be eliminated and undermined. Sis will be too terrified to not have the perfect family image and she jumps to him. Throw in a little family money and a some narcissistic folks and you got a decades of anxiety. Unless you see it for what it is. Girl you nailed it. My advise -Set boundaries, be sincere in interactions and go live a wonderful life. Your sister will never ever return the favor of being an involved auntie to your possible future children. Your mother will always see herself in her oldest and it will be hurtful if you do not realize they are broken and it ain't your job to fix them. Do special stuff with your Dad.Keep healthy boundries with her too.
Your BIL is a POS. And I hope your sis comes to her senses and leaves his @SS
You can have a day off work, you can't have a day off being a parent. Not that it sounds like this dad does much parenting, poor kids.
I was hired to babysit a LONG time ago (the "baby" should be about 30 now). I was told that the older (by about 4 yrs.) was in preschool & his dad would take him & bring him home, Turns out that"Daddy" wanted to take care of his son ONLY & not his baby girl!! (He'd stay home on days off & play video games--the 4-yr.-old would watch, not play. I didn't stay long with that job (hoping that the kids grew up to be better than what their "dad" was showing to be!!
When I was a newlywed Navy wife , I went to a makeup party and the hostess told me a story about how she asked her husband to turn on the washing machine or something because she was bathing their child. She no shiz said "I would never ask him to do the laundry or anything like that, I just wanted him to turn it on". He was mad because she'd asked him to do "housework". She thought it was perfectly reasonable. I just sat their with my mouth hanging open trying to stop the sarcastic comments from coming out of my mouth. Yikes, to each their own I guess ... but I could never live like that. I'm too mean lol
The father sounds like an extra kid himself. He needs to grow the f up and recognise his responsibilities. The best thing that could happen to this man is a divorce, then he’d have to spend time with the children on his own and hopefully manage to salvage his relationship with them. The wife is mental putting up with this nonsense.
The term father, husband, human and man does not seem to describe this creature. He found the need to breed but not the need to feed the breed. Wife better known ultimate slave. ,Her family except the sister is the only mature one. A father who locks himself in his room to play video games. Treat this little boy like he should be treated dispose of his toys and take him to a psychiatrist immediately!
What a lazy ass, POS excuse for a father! He can't take care of his own children because he wants to play video games instead?! How pathetic! If I was the mother, I would cut the cord right now and get rid of her 3rd and most useless child because apparently he contributes nothing to the household. He barely even pulls his own weight. She's better off on her own. Kick this loser to the curb!
The 'father' is a child himself. Selfish, spoiled and manipulating his mother in law with lies when what he is actually revealing is his lack of responsibility. His wife is constantly trying to clean up his messes. Every minute that he prioritizes his childish needs above the needs of his children, he presents an immature and underdeveloped role model to his kids. In the parlance of the 1960's this guy is a punk.
I’m only able to see my daughter one or two days a week (I’m separated from her Mum), whenever they are I’m grateful for the time we get to share. I find it very sad that someone would see their day off as only theirs, it’s a chance to reconnect with the children, a longer period to enjoy / explore / hunker down and have a snuggle in front of a film. Yes, have time for yourself, it’s important to keep your hobbies, no, don’t make your children feel like they are a burden. Share sone time together, teach yourself that decompressing from work includes spending time with your family they need that time too they’ve missed you for six days of the week. Remember, almost anyone can be a father, it takes someone special to be a Dad. Be that person for the most important people in your life. You won’t regret it.
I've seen a few families like this where the mom constantly has to find people to care for the kids while she does anything because the dads 'didn't want to babysit'. I feel bad for the sister , you don't imagine yourself being in a situation like this. She probably ignored some red flags earlier in the relationship . Now she is where she is with a s**t partner . I'd personally stick up for my sister , but I can understand why some women feel like that isn't an option
There are no "days off" when you're a parent. Ever. Period. Wait, I lied. Once my wife and I were both unbelievably ill with norovirus at the same time and the kids spent the weekend at their grandparents house while we both puked and sh*t our brains out for two days. That was a great vacation.
NTA: She should have left the house immediately when she saw what the „emergency“ was all about, a pathetic excuse of a father
People who refer to a parent watching their own children as "babysitting" need to grow up and not reproduce until they are ready for the responsibility of actually having a child. My partner doesn't even see him watching the kids as babysitting and he is their step-dad. Grow-up and quit letting behavior like this be normalized. And expect more from a partner.
There is a big difference between being a father and being a dad. Doesn't matter if it's your day off, the kids doesn't come with a power switch in the back, when you become a father you sign up for a life long commitment. How many days off (from the kids) do the mother get? Probably none. The people that side with the father here has really missed out on what it is to be a dad. You need to make the bond with your kids when they are young, when they get to be teens it's too late, you will always be a father but never a dad. And you are not babysitting your own kids, you are caring for your children.
Are we really sure he was "gaming" and that "gaming" is not his job? (streamer/youtuber). In that case it would make sense, but a 5min conversation would've resolve the argument already
I would 100% leave those kids with the dad for a week without notice. That'll teach that lazy sperm donor he has a responsibility
Ffs why is this evena question.the older sister is a stupid doormat and deserves being treated like s**t.if you act like a doormat don't be surprised when everyone walks all over you.
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