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Dad Asks If He Was Wrong For Snapping At His Sister After She Called Him “Creepy And Perverted” For Hugging His Son
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Dad Asks If He Was Wrong For Snapping At His Sister After She Called Him “Creepy And Perverted” For Hugging His Son

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Having a good relationship with your family is somewhat of a blessing. Although many parenting philosophies exist, whether it’s the free-range or helicopter kind, family experts agree that kids who have a secure and healthy attachment to their parents have a better chance of developing content relationships with others in their life.

And a 32-year-old single dad who goes by the handle u/illbreakuo seems to be blessed to have such a relationship with his 16-year-old son. Except, his sister doesn’t think it’s particularly healthy.

In a lengthy Reddit post, the dad shared an incident he recently had with his sister who not only questioned his parenting style, but even accused him of being “creepy” for his loving relationship with his son.

Read on for the full incident as written by the dad himself down below, and share whether you think he’s an “AITA for telling my sister that she’s sick and delusional” in the comment section.

A single dad snapped at his sister after she accused him of being “creepy” for hugging his son, and now he’s asking Reddit if his reaction was adequate

Image credits: August de Richelieu (not the actual photo)

Parenting styles and dynamics is a sensitive topic. There’s no universal way one should raise their child and maintain a healthy relationship. But we all want one. After all, being loved and cared about by your parents is something every child needs, and it’s no different in father-son relationships.

But according to Roland C. Warren, a board member of the National Fatherhood Initiative, “too often, fathers think they’re doing a better job in these areas than they really are.” Every parent wants what’s best for their child, and they seemingly put all the effort they can into it, but are they really?

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Roland starts with the concept of nurturing. “Nurturing means a lot of things. It certainly includes hugging and kissing our boys on a daily basis and telling them that we love them.” He stressed that “yes, even boys need hugs and kisses,” an idea which angered the sister of the author of this Reddit post so much.

So he shared the whole incident on the AITA subreddit

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People weighed in on the incident and shared what they thought of it

But Roland says it’s not only about being affectionate. Nurturing also “includes taking care of their daily needs, like cooking for them, giving them baths, playing with them, reading to them, and helping their mothers.”

Stereotypically, nurturing one’s child is a practice often associated with mothers. But “despite the conventional wisdom that nurturing is primarily mom’s territory, the root meaning of ‘nurture’ is ‘to protect’—a role that most dads are comfortable with.”

A dad’s love for his son doesn’t end with nurturing. One of the most crucial things is that of a son’s innate need to be affirmed by his own father. “Your affirmation prepares your son to enter the world with the confidence and ’emotional armor’ that he needs in order not just to survive, but to thrive,” explained Roland.

Telling your son how happy you are about him, not because of his accomplishments, but because of who he is as a person, is something every child greatly benefits from. Even when the relationship feels strained at times, and it’s normal if that happens, knowing that whatever happens, you have your father behind your back is one of the most valuable things any parent can bring their child.

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And this is what people had to comment on the incident the anonymous dad posted on Reddit

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StIJN
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you are right about the plague rats comment. But he is trying to be a Remy about it. A family that doesn't like you take responsability for your own kid,???

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Not Proud British
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a 17 year old who regularly hugs me and his dad and has a snuggle with us on the couch when watching TV. My mother never hugged me much so I now hug my own kids all I can and I encourage their father to do the same. I feel so sorry for her teenage daughter who must feel so alienated and unloved.

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband’s mom was the same way towards him growing up. He has 2 brothers and his mom never hugged or kissed him or them. I’ve known him for 6 years and I’ve never seen her display any kind of affection towards him. We have a 2 1/2 year old and we are always hugging and kissing her and she’s started doing it back to us. It’s so cute. I know if we have a son I’ll do the same thing with him too. I’m sorry your mom was like that towards you.

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Joonscrab
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well. We need more dads like you!!! I would LOVE to have a dad like this ahhhhh please just cut off that sister's words from your mind :/ My dad will never accept my identity, plus he thinks all my health issues are my own fault and then blames me for making him worry about it when I'm the one actually going through pain day and night

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FroggyGirl
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, your dad is an asshead and a bitch. We will accept you for who you are. lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender it is okay. you are you and no one and nothing will ever change that

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lotus3721
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The first thing I found odd was the fact the family hasn't spoken to him because he took responsibility for his child. That is already toxic. Then the sister comes around only when she needed something and had the nerve to stick her nose into his parenting and gets mad when he finally says something. That's BS!!!! I agree she needs help, however she need to understand boundaries and if she does like it then she has to go.

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Sigmand Froid
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The 16 year old should next time hug his crazy aunt and smother her with love. Seems like she needs it.

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Tee
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Family can be so toxic and it's sad because we do want a relationship with our family. He is raising his son the right way and his sister needs to get her mind outta the gutter. She would have been out of my house!

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Zona Garcia
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I completely agree with you here. Family is family and we should help family as needed. HOWEVER, the sister is a guest in HIS house. Just because she is older does not mean that she is ENTITLED to be RUDE and DISRESPECTFUL in HIS house. She is entitled to her opinion, she made it known, and she received HIS opinion on response - too bad she can't handle what she dishes out.The sheer audacity of his sister baffles me. She has the nerve to give her opinions on his parenting skills, although he took responsibility for his child, and obviously is raising his son right! His son is honest, open, loving. Yet her daughter is distant, uncommunicative and essentially rude. Her toxicity would not be tolerated in MY house.

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Edward Treen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've just turned 71: my son is 35 & he always hugs me when we meet and when we part. If anyone thinks that's creepy, that is due to the warped nature of their mind and nothing else.

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AzKhaleesi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right? I'll be 40 this year and I hug and kiss my parents (closed lip on the mouth) , always have always will. These are the people that gave me my life, and made me the person I am today, and I do the same with my children and I pray every day when they are 40 (and beyond) they do the same to me

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kjorn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

damn. if your kids at 16 still want to give you hug and have no shame to say love you dad. you did a damn good job!!!

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RavenClaw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister is so dumb..Like affection comes in many forms why do dads and sons have to be 6 feet away to show love for each other.. and lets admit it if the first thing after a hug you think about perverting thoughts you must be the pervert.

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Alexis draskinis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My kid just turned 14 last month. He still hugs us & says "love you" when he leaves or goes to bed. Hell! He forget to put his plate in the sink last night BUT STILL thanked me for dinner! The fact that she thinks its perverted is what gets me. Does she think the kid is gay b/c him & dad still hug? Does she think that the hug has to be sexual b/c hes gay? Its pretty homophobic & makes me wonder what type of upbringing he missed when he left to take care of his son...

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Marcellus the Third
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The audacity to be anything beyond grateful when you get a free stay from a barely known person (hasn't seen single dad's kid in 10+ years, hence hasn't seen him either in that time)... No need to think further. Some people's opinions truly don't matter and are impossible to let upset you.

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Nikki Sevven
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First red flag: Family upset because dad is taking responsibility for his own child. Second red flag: The sister: "I was offensive, so you owe me an apology." Here's a stand-up guy who's caring for his son in the best way, and all he gets from his "family" is crap.

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Rae Black
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd be worried about the daughter. Seriously, that's not good.

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Analyn Lahr
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your family is upset with for stepping up and taking care of your kid? Screw them. You don't need them. You, sir, deserve a father of the year award. Your sister needs therapy. Maybe see if you can help your niece, sounds like she could use some love and attention.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is that creepy?? So you hug your child, it's a form of affection. Are you supposed to handshake your child as a form of affection?!

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Carmen Elena
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! His sister is actually sick! A perv just bc he and his son love each other?? I have a 8yo daughter and we love snuggling on the couch... She will always be my baby.

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Martz Migraña
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My brothers and I relationship with our parents are the same. My brothers (who are 35 and 30 y.o) still kiss goodbye on the cheek both of our parents before they leave when they visit them, it's completely normal for them cause my dad was always affectionate and caring towards them (same with me, but we're discussing father/son bonding on the post)

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Xylle Flora
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uh whenever I went to school my dad would drop me off, and I'd say "love you" and kiss him bye it's not weird or creepy

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Erik Granqvist
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 48 years old, and I stil give a big hug to my 72 years old dad whenever meet.

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deanna woods
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 35 years old and I still hug both of my parents. There is nothing wrong with showing physical affection towards your parents and the sister needs to pack her things and leave. You can't come in someone else's house and treat them this way.

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Sum Guy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The way I was raised, it would be weird seeing it for the first time, but not perverted. That being said, if I ever have a child, I would hope they are comfortable with being affectionate

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Ivana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I come from a family that is very close but we do not touch. We do not show signs of affection either verbally or physically. My father said "I love you" only a hand full of time to me but I grew up knowing he loved me regardless. I never felt unloved or any lack of affection. My husband's family touch, hug, and verbally proclaim their love. I remember how much it threw me off to see him give his dad a back rub. The whole bunch of them, father, son, mother, step-mom, and sister all snuggling up on the sofa to watch a movie. It was kind of jarring to me. I didn't think it was perverted, but it still threw me off. I had a hard enough time adjusting to my husband wanting to snuggle, hold hands, and being verbally affectionate. After 13 years I find myself now in-between, I will join in the snuggling but then have to kind of take a break and go sit by myself. I think it is great for families to touch. Even when I was the most startled by it, I never took it as anything perverted.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is normal behavior. I hug my dad when im going somewhere. its what kids with healthy relationships with their parents do.

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K.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, when you invite toxic people into your life, you risk your own health and sanity. Keeping them around as they are can ruin your compassion for others. There’s only one person you need to love unconditionally (?), and if you want a reciprocal relationship with any member of your family you have to look at things realistically: what do you want from them, is it healthy, where are they and what are they capable of doing, steps they’re willing to take to meet you halfway, and is it even worth it? Physical intimacy is a powerful way to show affection and establish friendly rapport, but make sure the other person is comfortable with it too. Raise your son with love, we need more good, stable people in the world.

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K.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, everyone who applauded him in the article has said what needed to be said. 👍🏻

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Liz the Wanderer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are two kinds of people in the world. This dad is the right kind.

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A Head
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son is 13, and every night he says "I love you", and gives me the biggest hug (he's almost as big as I am), and I love it. My 15 year old daughter does the same thing. That's how my wife an I raised them.

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Lara Kristelle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who gave her the right to lecture about parenting when she can't even solve her own?

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Kay blue
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to spend a lot of time in bed and when my 20 year old daughter comes to visit she will often jump into bed next to me. Completely 100% normal. I agree with other posters, I think the real issue is the fact that the son is (openly) gay and has boyfriend, tinged with a bit of jealousy and heartache that the sister doesn't have a close relationship with her daughter. She probably knows absolutely nothing about her daughter.

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BabaBizzle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She’s a jealous c***! Her brother had a relationship with his son and her daughter doesn’t even want to be around her. He is confident enough to hug his son and vice versa even when his son is a teenager. His sons clearly comfortable enough to come out to his dad and his dads acceptance speaks volumes about their relationship. She is a hater. She is implying incest which is horrible to insinuate. He needs to kick her ratchet ass out. Her daughter is going to suffer but he can’t let the toxicity of his sisters jealousy and homophobia ruin his family structure.

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DGT
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm in my 40's and I still hug and kiss my 80 yr old pops whenever I see him.

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Donny Cromwell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like I told my friend about changing diapers. "It's only weird if you make it weird."

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Emma Love
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keep loving your son! Hug and kiss him forever and ever! I wish I still had my daddy, and yes I hugged and kissed him till he left at age 78. Forget your sister, her daughter, and the high horses they rode in on!

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NinjaWolfy94
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't dump the daughter because of what her mother has done. That kid needs more help than her terrible sounding mother.

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Elizabeth Molloy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a great Dad! His family is f****d up anyway; they refuse to have anything to do with him because he's raising his son alone? Yeah, right ... homophobia rears its ugly head again, I think.

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AzKhaleesi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This woman obviously had zero relationship with her kid and I feel bad so when she sees your relationship she is automatically jealous and has to make something nefarious out of it. And on top of that how is everyone missing the point that his own family is mad at him for STAYING IN HIS CHILD'S LIFE... wtf is that all about? So his own family would've preferred that he be a dead beat dad? wow.... I will be your family my dude!

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Chris Meyers
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lets talk about how HER mind saw this exchange. WHO is the pervert Momma?

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LiuLiu
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son is 27 & my daughter is 25 - we always say "I love you", hug and give each other a kiss on the cheek good-bye. Nothing weird. My son even did it when he was in high school in front of his friends and they would wait and all say good-bye. My son happens to be straight but so what!!! Your sister has issues. Sorry. You were kind to let her stay with you but enough might be enough.

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Eunice Probert
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good grief, my daughter is 34 and we still hug and say "I love you". I even kiss her! Shock!!! There's nothing wrong with having a good, loving relationship with one's kids. My parents were completely undemonstrative. In all my life my mother never said she loved me. I don't think she even liked me,

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Happy Happy Gay Guy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The documentary THE MASK YOU LIVE IN is all about boys, young men and masculinity. How at a young age, many westernized societies expect males to disengage, not be emotional, not exhibit vunlernatbility. How "masculinity" is very often exhibited thorugh aggression. This dad and his son are okay. Sister needs to shut up and be a good guest, or move out.

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Byron Smith
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I simply can't believe that there are people out there who think this is creepy. I hugged and kissed my dad (and mom) every night before I went to bed up until the day I moved out at 21. From then on, a hug and a kiss was our hello and goodbye at every visit right up until the day he passed when I was 38. I cherish the relationship I had with my dad, and I would give anything to hug and kiss him again.

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Aroha
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to invite this sister to a family gathering at a summer cottage in Finland. We don't necessarily hug and kiss, but we will get naked and to the sauna together :D! Can be grandparents, parents, siblings, cousins, grandchildren and so on. Maybe a neighbour. And no, nothing strange happens there and it's all normal :).

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Sadie Vincent
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

excuse my language, but F!@% that dudes sister. She is a bad parent, sister, guest, and everything in-between. If hugging your dad and being honest about your relation ship is weird, then that lady needs to get a life. There is NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH SAYING " I love you, bye!" TO YOUR BIOLOGICAL FATHER. Ok lady?

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Roxanne D'souza
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh I hate people like this sister. I'm 31F and I hug my own sister often. We sometimes even hold hands and walk and people find that weird as well. As for my own dad, before he passed, he hugged me all the time and sometimes would even pet my head (which I hated because it messed up my hair.) Now I sleep in the same room as my mom so that she's not alone and hug her as well. If you can't hug your family, who else are you going to hug/?

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Cassy Michael
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm in my 30's and I regularly hug my dad, and everyone else I care about. I'm very huggy. Lol and if my brother hadn't passed away at 29 he'd be just as huggy, with dad and both Grandpas, much less the women in the family.

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QueerTheory
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sigh. I come from a culture where casual affectionate physical contact between family members is avoided. Even more so with the male members. After my dad was diagnosed with cancer and 6months to live, me (17then) and he(59) had this attitude that imma give you all the love for the rest of my life, RIGHT NOW!! And that’s how we broke the barrier, and i would put my head on his shoulders, hug him or hold his hand while watching tv together, stroke each other’s hair sometimes. It is the most precious time i spent with my dad. He showed me his love so that i could remember that for the rest of my life. Toxic masculinity isn’t worth it guys.

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René Kok
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe this will sound harsh: she has to leave. Having her in your house, what clearly is a safe place for your son could break that. At 16 this can have a big mental impact having toxic people so close to you. You will not forgive yourself if this affects your son in the long run.

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Kalpana M
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please kick her out. At this point I couldn't care less if she has a roof on her head or not. Ungrateful snobby lady criticizing a beautiful relationship! I hug my mom and dad very tight regularly! I love them. So what?

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Scratch
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He could tell her to get out of his house if she doesn't like his parenting style. Problem solved.

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Kim Lorton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. The sister was way out of line! You are a wonderful parent! No need to ever second guess

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Salty Old Woman
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sister is obviously jealous because she has a lousy relationship with her daughter.

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Thalia Lovering
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't wait for the pandemic to end so that I can hug and kiss my parents. His sister is an idiot.

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MiraiJack
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Behold, fellow humans. This is when petty family discussions know no boundaries.

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kath morgan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s sad, I wonder if something happened to her when she was young.

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Brett Layton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am not saying the sister is right in this case, becasue she is not. But have some empathy folks, the gentleman that posted this did say he had a bad relationship with his own family for being a a responsible parent to his son. Let that sink in a moment, family mad becuase hes trying to raise his son right. That right there should tell you that the family probably did a number on the sister as well. I hope whomever hurt her pays and she moves forward with her life.

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Kaspar Kristiansen
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Way to go with downvoting a post offering some perspective.... Noone will ever give him the AITA stamp when presenting his case like this. It's a slam dunk who's to blame in this tale.

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Sonia Bailey
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My kids are 13 and 9. I hope the day never comes when they feel it is no longer appropriate to give me a hug. This dad is winning at parenting, I just feel so sorry for his niece having such a prejudiced and ignorant mother!

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Iggy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the pandemic has taught us all just how important hugs are. I love that this father and son have a hugging relationship.

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Mark Buxbaum
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Our son almost died in a horrible car crash. Miraculously, he lived. Not an hour goes by that I'm not thankful he's alive, and I can talk to him, and hug him tightly when I see him. Never take your children for granted. The dad in the story is parenting perfectly. His sister is apparently doing a horrible job at it, almost like her kid is a burden.

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Nizumi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First indication there were going to be problems: *his* family is upset that he's taken on caring for his son.

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Jessi Zultanky
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 27 and I always give my mom a hug and tell her I love her! We're very close and can talk about anything. She accepts that I am a lesbian and respects me, and in turn I respect her and always let her know what time I'm leaving or will be home. Like the father in the above example. On the other hand, I never hug my father and don't talk to him much. He's just not approachable. He's somewhat homophobic and sometimes emotionally abusive. Like the mother in the example. So I can see both parenting styles first hand and this guy's father is definitely in the right. The mother is making her daughter feel alienated and distant. There is nothing creepy about showing affection for a loved one. It shows a healthy relationship! Not hugging or talking is a sign something is wrong there.

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Leo H
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your sister is a karen..and its sad when a father cant hug his own son without being called a pedo..what has society come to

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Azure Adams
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd say say it is high time for your entitled bitch of a sister to be greatly encouraged to find new lodgings. No surprise her attitude and crap is likely the single reason for her shitty circumstances. No longer your job to bail her out since she hasn't learned

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really struggle to understand why this man's family would have any issue with him taking responsibility for his own son.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Homophobic and dying with envy at their warm and close relationship, obviously. Absolutely right to snap at toxic people telling you how to live your life (eager to control and damage).

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LittleMissPanda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of my family members hug and kiss on the cheeks. No matter of gender or age (from 5, the youngest, up to 78, the oldest). My husband's family always hugs (men) and hugs and kisses on the cheeks (women) also regardless of age... it is frickin' normal and part of a healthy relationship. Smh

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Zucchini
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a kid, I would like to point out that no phyisical contact and never talking to your kid is not going to help anyone.

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Orionpax75
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's bugging throw her out ASAP f**k that!! She can't even pay her bills and she's giving out parenting advise must be crazy!! Pack your s**t and go!!!

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Amy Begun Saab
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's an awesome dad & his sister sounds like a spoiled brat. Keep up the good parenting sir!!

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Katharine Lancaster
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every time I see my dad, I hug him and give him a kiss on the cheek. He does the same back. We tell each other that we love each other, too. My dad is 67 years old and I’m almost 40 years old! Anyone who has a problem with parents and their children showing love and affection can go to hell.

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Drée Genot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your sister is definitely out of line. Affection is important and for your teenage son, i repeat teenage, to hug you of his own accord!? Good job i say 👍

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perfectly fine! I am 55 and my son is 19, we regularly hug. People just don't hug each other enough....

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A "creepy" parent would NOT do such actions publicly.... because they're a f*****g creep. THIS dad, is just plain awesome. His sister however, is as toxic as all hell. Shame on her.

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EQXL
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First of all this is great, that's the connection every parent should aspire to have with his child. But let's take the opinion of the sister, assume she actually lives this opinion. Weirdly enough it isn't that far fedged an opinion these days and it could just be the or one of the reasons that the relation between her and her daughter is so bad. A loving approach to this situation might be helpful, even enlightening, for both the sister and her daughter.

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Barry McCullock
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A close affectionate and loving relationship with your family is something I was raised to appreciate. My wife and I have 3 adult sons all of whom hug us when leaving from a visit. We frequently say how much we love each other without embarrassment. For this man’s sister to interpret her nephew’s affection for his father as anything unnatural, is a sign of her own stunted emotional development. To also imply her nephew’s sexuality is an issue also is an indication of narrow mindedness and insecurity. That troubled woman and her poor daughter need help in my opinion.

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James Pointer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"We don't have good relationship with my family because they're upset that I decided to take responsibility of my son." There's your problem right there. I need not read more. If someone has a problem with you being a a parent to your child, wtf people are they? What's the opposite to that? - Well done, treating the child like s**t, you should lock it in the basement too. Even if there was an abusive partner that birthed the child, is that child now satan's off spring and should be burnt?

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Darcy Nestler
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My 16 (almost 17) year old son hugs me on a regular basis. I still hug my parents. I think it's weird and creepy that she doesn't talk to her daughter or try to parent her, but still tries to tell you how to parent your son.

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Patty Leaton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

your sister & her daughter should move out no respect at all ,she's lucky to have a brother like you. the truth hurts deal with it your sister need to deal with it .There is a lot of families that are homeless .seriously they both need to grow up

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Pandana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the f**k? Who has a dirty enough mind to thinkt that hugging your own kid is perveted tf?

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Nancy Massi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would be heaven to have a teenager who felt safe and loved enough to hug and kiss a parent the way this young man does. Major props for parenting!

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backatya
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hugging your son is perfectly NORMAL. Don't listen to her. She has issues. You never know it'll be the last time you hug and say I love you to a loved one. God forbid they get into an accident or get murdered etc. She has audacity to say things when you're helping her out when she needs it. I'd throw her out.

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King Joffrey
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 40 and I still hug my parents, even though I haven't lived with them for over 20 years.

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Bonnie Edwards
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First thing.. his family is upset because he decided to be a Dad? Are they mental? Secondly, sure, it's not a great idea to allow kids to roam unchecked because of weird adults - but this bloke seems like he's been an awesome parent, and raised a well-balanced and emotionally secure son. I think I would keep the sister for a while, and start on coaxing the niece out of her room, and fixing the emotional damage such a mis-informed woman may have caused.

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Kad
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Need to put her out cause this the type of trash that'll call cps and make false statements and cause trouble. The whole family trash so toss her out give your niece your phone number and let her know that she can care you any time but stop all contact with the sister

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"We don't have a good relationship with my family because they're upset that I decided to take responsibility of my son" That is the most messed up thing in this whole article. What? A dad being a dad is wrong? What culture was this?

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Marnie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents were born in the mid-1920s. My Mom read that old Dr. Spock book, which apparently encouraged parents to treat their children like unloved pets - food, cloth, and shelter, but show no love and don't teach them anything. My parents were very good people at heart, excellent, but were not good parents due to this (my 4 siblings and I agree completely on this). I would have loved for them to give me lots of hugs (plus to say just once, "Good job!"). This sister is disgusting, really disgusting. What is more alarming is just in general that there are people who find physical affection between family members to be outside the norm. Having read a lot of cultural anthropology work, I can tell you that it is NOT outside the norm.

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Elizabeth Gardner
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it wonderful that you and your son have such a great rrelationship. That he loves you and showss it and you return that . Why should you not we ( well most of ust ) love out children and hugging and kissing them is part of the way we react . Your sister is one sick person and her relationship with her daughter needs a real kick. And speaking of Kick I would be doing just that , asking her to leave and find somewhere else to live. You seem to have a good life you trust your son and that is great and is your business. Do yourself a favour and get rid of your sister.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Granted, as a Mom, I guess my interactions with my son would be considered normal. I dropped him & a few friends off at the mall (they were about 14) and said we'd meet back up at X in about an hour. An hour later & I'm looking around when I hear "Mommy!" and this 6' tall boy crashes into me and proceeds to smother me with kisses. His friends started to give him crap. Without missing a beat, he turned around and asked "You don't love your MOTHER"? He's going to be 41 this summer & still has no problem running up to hug or kiss me. He also still likes to sit on my lap - mainly to watch me cringe under the weight.

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Joanne Hudson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since when do people automatically think a sleep-over is a homosexual hookup? It would never cross my mind. Besties have sleep-overs for any number of reasons; watch a TV show together that no one else can stand, play a game, just hang out. And no one said there weren't a dozen other guys at the sleepover as well. I'd set a specific limit on how long sis was in your house in case that poison started to spread. At any rate, she has absolutely NO right to criticize ANYTHING in your home or relationships when she is a guest in your home.

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Lori Spins
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad refused to show any kind of love or affection or physical contact to both my brothers, but not me. They have serious issues, one being married twice, with three different baby mamas, the other never having an actual relationship or children. I do not like physical touch. I've been married for 12 years. He really messed us all up. The kicker, he isn't even my biological father!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Anna Repp
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a 15 y.o. daughter and she still snuggles with me in bed sometimes and we fall asleep together, just like when she was a toddler. Nothing wrong with that - only love and trust and a great relationship.

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Faith Hurst
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd be really worried about what has gone on in his sister's life that she thinks that. It is much more about her than about him. And, like everyone else here, my kids still hug me at 23 and 24. It's because we love each other.

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Veronica Vatter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every call with my kids ends with I love you. Hugs before the bus comes. Running my fingers thru their hair watching the TV on the couch, like I did when they were little. A child should never be afraid to show affection to their children. My dad was raised without. He makes sure to always give the hugs he never had.

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Artoonist Corine
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You NEVER know when it will be the last time you get to hug your kid, your mom, your sister - whomever. If she doesn't like - there is THE DOOR.

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Sam Cook
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m twenty-three and still hug my dad whenever I feel like I need reassurance or to let him know I love him. I usually don’t see him throughout school weeks since I’m in college, so I hug him as I leave and then hug him again when I return. If this woman has a problem with that, regardless of the kid’s ideas when it comes to love, then she should shut her mouth and realize that she’s ruining her chances to spend time with her nephew. I don’t support homosexuality, but even if one of my nieces or nephews practiced that lifestyle, I would still want to spend time with them.

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Sebastian Melmoth
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kinda thought that almost everyone had no problem hugging family members regardless of gender. Had a few people who thought it was cute that my family always ends telephone conversations with “I love you, bye” but they never thought it to be perverted or strange.

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Anamaria Mazer de Toledo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This sister is only showing how frustrated and unable to give love. She should take advantage of the excellent tutorial on " How to show love" her brother is offering...and free of charge. Kudos to dad!

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Aubryanna Walker
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bitch?!? If one of my family members moved in with me and criticized me on that. I would have told them to pack their bags you're leaving tomorrow...

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Anne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good dad, sister has major issues and should see a therapist. And her daughter too. Maybe keep the daughter for a while, let her hang with your son so she can see what a normal parent-child relationship should be.. If she ever has kids, she can break the cycle.

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Jennifer Jenkins
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a good dad. And it sounds like you have a good kid, too. Your sister is myopic. She was offering unsolicited feedback on her skewed view of your relationship with your son--but you need to apologize for doing the same regarding her relationship with her daughter? Weak sauce. But she's family/you love her so maybe try to teach her, set boundaries & if she abides by those boundaries--maybe she'll start to see things clearly.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 40 and still give my dad the same hug and kiss on his forehead as I did when I was a kid.

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Jenný Samúelsdóttir Herlufsen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You seem to have a beautiful relationship with your son, and your relatives are toxic and I hope you will put your son first and rid him of your sisters' "good intentions" My family hugs and kisses everytime we meet and everyone loves everyone! I feel sorry for you sister and her daughter. If you don't throw her out, I at least hope you will be a good influence on her.

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Brigette Legg Bridges
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Sounds like your sister didn't get enough hugs herself. But whatever the reasoning she is wrong. You are blessed to have a relationship like you do with your son. You've obviously done an amazing job raising him. Hearing that your family is upset that you took responsibility for your son threw up a number of red flags for me. I don't understand that at all. But it could be they are in denial about something... no matter... keep doing what your doing Dad!!!

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Katinka Min
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She made a viscious remark, he had a viscious comeback. I'd say, they are even. But she needs to find her own place asap. I love my siblings and we are all grown-ups, but I still could not live under the same roof with them for more than a few days.

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SoozeeQ
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this Dad is amazing! He's 32-years-old and has a 16-year-old son. Not many 16-year-olds step up to take responsibility for an unplanned pregnancy. Good for him! And he did it without his own family's support. He's also an amazing parent. To be able to show love and affection to his child, when he obviously came from a toxic family himself. (Plus, teenagers cam be very moody, regardless of family circumstances, so for his son to voluntarily hug him and tell him he loves him - unselfconsciously - only shows what a great relationship these two have.). Instead of berating him, his sister should be asking what his secret is!

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David Miguel Ribeiro
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe she's just jealous because you have a great relationship with your son and unfortunately she doesn't. It's just a very normal situation regarding the human nature.

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Iva Kazalova
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hugs are scientifically proven to release endorphins, one thing that has not been mentioned by all the previous, excellently justified responses is, you are stimulating your child’s happiness, close human contact, with a parent no less, is bonding, i would say necessary, for a child to feel loved, even if they’re a teenager. You’re an awesome dad dude, your sister’s behaviour is absolutely disgusting!

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NinjaWolfy94
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wish I could have this kind of relationship with my dad... I'm 18, came out as trans(male) a year ago, dad didn't accept me. He's always wanted a baby girl, and while he's in no way abusive (good father otherwise) we have moved miles apart to what we used to be like when I was a young kid. I barely even talk to him at all, only if he talks to me first, and I actively avoid having a conversation with him because it's just so damn awkward and painful. My mother and I are kinda like OP and his son though, I just don't like being touched really, dunno why. But despite that, we still hug, and I still tell her I love her.

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Inga Viviane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a good father, her sister is a bad mom. The girl must feel forlorn seeing up close a good relationship. Be good to her.

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Anthony O'hara
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Father wasn't affectionate with his Father. One day I decided that I was going to show him affection and he would just have to get used to it. I hugged him every time I saw him. I was in my late 30's when my Father passed. He hugged me every time he saw me.

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Christian Bradshaw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a 16 year old, and I hug my dad all the time. There's nothing creepy or perverted about it

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d bradley
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you are so far ahead of normal she doesn't even recognize you anymore. she has her hands full, good luck to her trying to catch up to where you are. hope you can help her, but i certainly don't think you need to look in the mirror to find out what's wrong, she should though. keep on helping to make this world a better place

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KelBel
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Showing affection between parents & kids at any age is COMPLETELY NORMAL. The sister butted into HIS relationship with his son, yet SHE gets offended when he says something back? NOPE. Not ok. She clearly does not understand what a healthy relationship is. This DAD Rocks. Keep on doing what you're doing, because it sounds like you're doing a great job as a parent, single parent at that, and you should be proud. You're raising a future, healthy, well-adjusted young man. We need more people like this.

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Lyn Moffett
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time to help her pack her stuff OR you could just fire it out AFTER your sister!!

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Amber Cook
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me and my husbands kids all hug and give us kisses before they leave. Our daughters soon to be husband has gotten o to the groove of always giving us hugs and gives me a kiss on the cheek. Hell, our kids will come over if they've had a bad day or bad experience and come climb up into us and cuddle into one or both of us and just want that parental comfort.

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scorpesh
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this person's sister honestly,really felt his relationship with his son was creepy and perveted she would have left the house right away along with her daughter,instead goes upstairs and then briefly argues after few hours only to seek back an apology with "good intentions"🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️.

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Teresa Taylor
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are so many men out there that don't have relationships with their children (my father was one). This man has gone above and beyond by being a single dad--and an excellent one at that!! He should be praised for his ability to nurture and raise such a loving and secure son, not accused of an inappropriate "creepy" relationship with him. This reminds me of the photo of Joe Biden kissing his son. Someone (I don't remember who) complained it was creepy and inappropriate. The web was flooded with men kissing their fathers or sons. Those photos were beautiful. This guy is doing everything right in his son's world. He needs to kick his sister back to the curb. They were better off without her toxicity in their lives.

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Ross Hamilton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was either the father or the son, the sister would be missing teeth now. The sister is a c**t and she needs to f**k off and find somewhere else to live

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Hermione
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems pretty normal to me. Is there more to this story?

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Piper McLean
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s obvious that him and his son have a good relationship. His sister clearly has some problems and I pity her but she still has no reason to act like that

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CatWoman312
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m pretty sure if your son was a daughter she would have been mum. I think because your son is gay she found it to be an issue. It’s like she’s insinuating you made him gay by being affectionate. Your sisters the asshole

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The Dave
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This whole culture of sharing how you've handled your life for and asking for validation from tons of unknown folks (AITA Posts) is silly. I can understand asking a close friend, but why post it all out on the internet for the world to know your business?

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Debrina Blackmoon
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a ridiculous homo(and all other orientations/gender)phobic fucktard snooty asshole bitch! So twisted and cruel.

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Domi Lee Bjelka
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His sister is creepy and weird. My son (almost 2yo) huggs and kisses his father every evening before he goes to sleep. It's most beautiful gesture I've ever seen. These moments will become increasingly rare 👨‍👩‍👦

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time for the aunt and her sullen daughter to somewhere new to freeload.

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Paul Werner
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should keep her mouth shut and take notes he sounds like a great Dad! Hopefully having her there doesn't have a negative impact on your and your son's relationship

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! Kick the sister out asap. Sounds like she's jealous of the relationship he has with his child. I'm 31 and I still give my mom hugs and say I love you, and I did with my dad as well up until he passed away in October 2020. Something is really wrong with this guy's sister.

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spencer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ill be 16 in 3 weeks, i still hug both my parents. theres literally nothing weird about that

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Aunt Messy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kick that snot bag out of your house, tell her to lose your number, and block her on all social media. SHE was the creepy pervert and she needs to go. You don't need that kind of bullshit in your own home.

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Russian Otaku
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So aside from minor mental defects he does very well at raising his son. Story reminds me of this incident where father was assaulted and arrested for being a pedophile since his wife is a different ethnicity hence the daughter has different skin tone and hugging and kissing little girls as a man is illegal because people are f*****g dumb as hell and can't mind their own business

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Zophra
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this even an issue? This is stupid - like a post for validation.

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Gyro Pilot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Context is everything. Some cultres hug and some don't, so maybe the OP is in line with local mores or maybe he is deviant. Hugs and PDA are not exactly human rights issues, so let he and his community sort it out without misinformed opinions from commentators who may not understand the culture. FWW my culture hugs, but I'm not writing to Amnesty International if another's discourages it

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Solrac
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His family is weird but otherwise not a very interesting situation. With so many people in the world nothing like this surprises me.

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IF he's in his 20s then maybe but otherwise tell the sister to shut the f**k up and mind her own beeswax

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IF the son is in his 20s then she may have a point (doubtful tho) but any younger and tell her to F-off and mind her own beeswax

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Unverified story on reddit makes front page of BP? *Facepalm*... most of the stuff on AITA and Relationships subs are fake, my friend is one of the people who used to use reddit to practice their creative writing, they think it's hilarious when it goes viral.

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What kind of person lets their kid go to a sleepover in a pandemic tho? Sister is an idiot of a different breed, but they’re both gross.

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He'll never get the the UATA stamp when he puts it like this. The wording is designed to make him look good to the readers and his sister bad. Not saying she's right, but this is majorly buyest.

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I'm almost equally disturbed by mashourmasher's presumption that the son is gay. Or was that based on some previous or outside information?

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So, if I understand it right, the father "made" the kid when he himself was 16, has been raising him, son is gay and sister is homophobic. Okay, I call BS. Someone got creative on Reddit. As if we wouldn't have enough stories in real life, they come up with fake shits.

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StIJN
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you are right about the plague rats comment. But he is trying to be a Remy about it. A family that doesn't like you take responsability for your own kid,???

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a 17 year old who regularly hugs me and his dad and has a snuggle with us on the couch when watching TV. My mother never hugged me much so I now hug my own kids all I can and I encourage their father to do the same. I feel so sorry for her teenage daughter who must feel so alienated and unloved.

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband’s mom was the same way towards him growing up. He has 2 brothers and his mom never hugged or kissed him or them. I’ve known him for 6 years and I’ve never seen her display any kind of affection towards him. We have a 2 1/2 year old and we are always hugging and kissing her and she’s started doing it back to us. It’s so cute. I know if we have a son I’ll do the same thing with him too. I’m sorry your mom was like that towards you.

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Joonscrab
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well. We need more dads like you!!! I would LOVE to have a dad like this ahhhhh please just cut off that sister's words from your mind :/ My dad will never accept my identity, plus he thinks all my health issues are my own fault and then blames me for making him worry about it when I'm the one actually going through pain day and night

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FroggyGirl
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, your dad is an asshead and a bitch. We will accept you for who you are. lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender it is okay. you are you and no one and nothing will ever change that

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lotus3721
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The first thing I found odd was the fact the family hasn't spoken to him because he took responsibility for his child. That is already toxic. Then the sister comes around only when she needed something and had the nerve to stick her nose into his parenting and gets mad when he finally says something. That's BS!!!! I agree she needs help, however she need to understand boundaries and if she does like it then she has to go.

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Sigmand Froid
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The 16 year old should next time hug his crazy aunt and smother her with love. Seems like she needs it.

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Tee
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Family can be so toxic and it's sad because we do want a relationship with our family. He is raising his son the right way and his sister needs to get her mind outta the gutter. She would have been out of my house!

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Zona Garcia
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I completely agree with you here. Family is family and we should help family as needed. HOWEVER, the sister is a guest in HIS house. Just because she is older does not mean that she is ENTITLED to be RUDE and DISRESPECTFUL in HIS house. She is entitled to her opinion, she made it known, and she received HIS opinion on response - too bad she can't handle what she dishes out.The sheer audacity of his sister baffles me. She has the nerve to give her opinions on his parenting skills, although he took responsibility for his child, and obviously is raising his son right! His son is honest, open, loving. Yet her daughter is distant, uncommunicative and essentially rude. Her toxicity would not be tolerated in MY house.

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Edward Treen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've just turned 71: my son is 35 & he always hugs me when we meet and when we part. If anyone thinks that's creepy, that is due to the warped nature of their mind and nothing else.

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AzKhaleesi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right? I'll be 40 this year and I hug and kiss my parents (closed lip on the mouth) , always have always will. These are the people that gave me my life, and made me the person I am today, and I do the same with my children and I pray every day when they are 40 (and beyond) they do the same to me

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kjorn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

damn. if your kids at 16 still want to give you hug and have no shame to say love you dad. you did a damn good job!!!

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RavenClaw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The sister is so dumb..Like affection comes in many forms why do dads and sons have to be 6 feet away to show love for each other.. and lets admit it if the first thing after a hug you think about perverting thoughts you must be the pervert.

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Alexis draskinis
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My kid just turned 14 last month. He still hugs us & says "love you" when he leaves or goes to bed. Hell! He forget to put his plate in the sink last night BUT STILL thanked me for dinner! The fact that she thinks its perverted is what gets me. Does she think the kid is gay b/c him & dad still hug? Does she think that the hug has to be sexual b/c hes gay? Its pretty homophobic & makes me wonder what type of upbringing he missed when he left to take care of his son...

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Marcellus the Third
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The audacity to be anything beyond grateful when you get a free stay from a barely known person (hasn't seen single dad's kid in 10+ years, hence hasn't seen him either in that time)... No need to think further. Some people's opinions truly don't matter and are impossible to let upset you.

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Nikki Sevven
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First red flag: Family upset because dad is taking responsibility for his own child. Second red flag: The sister: "I was offensive, so you owe me an apology." Here's a stand-up guy who's caring for his son in the best way, and all he gets from his "family" is crap.

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Rae Black
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd be worried about the daughter. Seriously, that's not good.

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Analyn Lahr
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your family is upset with for stepping up and taking care of your kid? Screw them. You don't need them. You, sir, deserve a father of the year award. Your sister needs therapy. Maybe see if you can help your niece, sounds like she could use some love and attention.

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-OldCarnival-
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is that creepy?? So you hug your child, it's a form of affection. Are you supposed to handshake your child as a form of affection?!

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Carmen Elena
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow! His sister is actually sick! A perv just bc he and his son love each other?? I have a 8yo daughter and we love snuggling on the couch... She will always be my baby.

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Martz Migraña
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My brothers and I relationship with our parents are the same. My brothers (who are 35 and 30 y.o) still kiss goodbye on the cheek both of our parents before they leave when they visit them, it's completely normal for them cause my dad was always affectionate and caring towards them (same with me, but we're discussing father/son bonding on the post)

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Xylle Flora
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uh whenever I went to school my dad would drop me off, and I'd say "love you" and kiss him bye it's not weird or creepy

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Erik Granqvist
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 48 years old, and I stil give a big hug to my 72 years old dad whenever meet.

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deanna woods
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am 35 years old and I still hug both of my parents. There is nothing wrong with showing physical affection towards your parents and the sister needs to pack her things and leave. You can't come in someone else's house and treat them this way.

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Sum Guy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The way I was raised, it would be weird seeing it for the first time, but not perverted. That being said, if I ever have a child, I would hope they are comfortable with being affectionate

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Ivana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I come from a family that is very close but we do not touch. We do not show signs of affection either verbally or physically. My father said "I love you" only a hand full of time to me but I grew up knowing he loved me regardless. I never felt unloved or any lack of affection. My husband's family touch, hug, and verbally proclaim their love. I remember how much it threw me off to see him give his dad a back rub. The whole bunch of them, father, son, mother, step-mom, and sister all snuggling up on the sofa to watch a movie. It was kind of jarring to me. I didn't think it was perverted, but it still threw me off. I had a hard enough time adjusting to my husband wanting to snuggle, hold hands, and being verbally affectionate. After 13 years I find myself now in-between, I will join in the snuggling but then have to kind of take a break and go sit by myself. I think it is great for families to touch. Even when I was the most startled by it, I never took it as anything perverted.

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seahawks fan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is normal behavior. I hug my dad when im going somewhere. its what kids with healthy relationships with their parents do.

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K.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, when you invite toxic people into your life, you risk your own health and sanity. Keeping them around as they are can ruin your compassion for others. There’s only one person you need to love unconditionally (?), and if you want a reciprocal relationship with any member of your family you have to look at things realistically: what do you want from them, is it healthy, where are they and what are they capable of doing, steps they’re willing to take to meet you halfway, and is it even worth it? Physical intimacy is a powerful way to show affection and establish friendly rapport, but make sure the other person is comfortable with it too. Raise your son with love, we need more good, stable people in the world.

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K.
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also, everyone who applauded him in the article has said what needed to be said. 👍🏻

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Liz the Wanderer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are two kinds of people in the world. This dad is the right kind.

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A Head
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son is 13, and every night he says "I love you", and gives me the biggest hug (he's almost as big as I am), and I love it. My 15 year old daughter does the same thing. That's how my wife an I raised them.

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Lara Kristelle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who gave her the right to lecture about parenting when she can't even solve her own?

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Kay blue
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to spend a lot of time in bed and when my 20 year old daughter comes to visit she will often jump into bed next to me. Completely 100% normal. I agree with other posters, I think the real issue is the fact that the son is (openly) gay and has boyfriend, tinged with a bit of jealousy and heartache that the sister doesn't have a close relationship with her daughter. She probably knows absolutely nothing about her daughter.

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BabaBizzle
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She’s a jealous c***! Her brother had a relationship with his son and her daughter doesn’t even want to be around her. He is confident enough to hug his son and vice versa even when his son is a teenager. His sons clearly comfortable enough to come out to his dad and his dads acceptance speaks volumes about their relationship. She is a hater. She is implying incest which is horrible to insinuate. He needs to kick her ratchet ass out. Her daughter is going to suffer but he can’t let the toxicity of his sisters jealousy and homophobia ruin his family structure.

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DGT
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm in my 40's and I still hug and kiss my 80 yr old pops whenever I see him.

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Donny Cromwell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like I told my friend about changing diapers. "It's only weird if you make it weird."

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Emma Love
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keep loving your son! Hug and kiss him forever and ever! I wish I still had my daddy, and yes I hugged and kissed him till he left at age 78. Forget your sister, her daughter, and the high horses they rode in on!

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NinjaWolfy94
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't dump the daughter because of what her mother has done. That kid needs more help than her terrible sounding mother.

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Elizabeth Molloy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a great Dad! His family is f****d up anyway; they refuse to have anything to do with him because he's raising his son alone? Yeah, right ... homophobia rears its ugly head again, I think.

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AzKhaleesi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This woman obviously had zero relationship with her kid and I feel bad so when she sees your relationship she is automatically jealous and has to make something nefarious out of it. And on top of that how is everyone missing the point that his own family is mad at him for STAYING IN HIS CHILD'S LIFE... wtf is that all about? So his own family would've preferred that he be a dead beat dad? wow.... I will be your family my dude!

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Chris Meyers
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lets talk about how HER mind saw this exchange. WHO is the pervert Momma?

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LiuLiu
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My son is 27 & my daughter is 25 - we always say "I love you", hug and give each other a kiss on the cheek good-bye. Nothing weird. My son even did it when he was in high school in front of his friends and they would wait and all say good-bye. My son happens to be straight but so what!!! Your sister has issues. Sorry. You were kind to let her stay with you but enough might be enough.

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Eunice Probert
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good grief, my daughter is 34 and we still hug and say "I love you". I even kiss her! Shock!!! There's nothing wrong with having a good, loving relationship with one's kids. My parents were completely undemonstrative. In all my life my mother never said she loved me. I don't think she even liked me,

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Happy Happy Gay Guy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The documentary THE MASK YOU LIVE IN is all about boys, young men and masculinity. How at a young age, many westernized societies expect males to disengage, not be emotional, not exhibit vunlernatbility. How "masculinity" is very often exhibited thorugh aggression. This dad and his son are okay. Sister needs to shut up and be a good guest, or move out.

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Byron Smith
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I simply can't believe that there are people out there who think this is creepy. I hugged and kissed my dad (and mom) every night before I went to bed up until the day I moved out at 21. From then on, a hug and a kiss was our hello and goodbye at every visit right up until the day he passed when I was 38. I cherish the relationship I had with my dad, and I would give anything to hug and kiss him again.

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Aroha
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to invite this sister to a family gathering at a summer cottage in Finland. We don't necessarily hug and kiss, but we will get naked and to the sauna together :D! Can be grandparents, parents, siblings, cousins, grandchildren and so on. Maybe a neighbour. And no, nothing strange happens there and it's all normal :).

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Sadie Vincent
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

excuse my language, but F!@% that dudes sister. She is a bad parent, sister, guest, and everything in-between. If hugging your dad and being honest about your relation ship is weird, then that lady needs to get a life. There is NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH SAYING " I love you, bye!" TO YOUR BIOLOGICAL FATHER. Ok lady?

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Roxanne D'souza
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh I hate people like this sister. I'm 31F and I hug my own sister often. We sometimes even hold hands and walk and people find that weird as well. As for my own dad, before he passed, he hugged me all the time and sometimes would even pet my head (which I hated because it messed up my hair.) Now I sleep in the same room as my mom so that she's not alone and hug her as well. If you can't hug your family, who else are you going to hug/?

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Cassy Michael
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm in my 30's and I regularly hug my dad, and everyone else I care about. I'm very huggy. Lol and if my brother hadn't passed away at 29 he'd be just as huggy, with dad and both Grandpas, much less the women in the family.

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QueerTheory
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sigh. I come from a culture where casual affectionate physical contact between family members is avoided. Even more so with the male members. After my dad was diagnosed with cancer and 6months to live, me (17then) and he(59) had this attitude that imma give you all the love for the rest of my life, RIGHT NOW!! And that’s how we broke the barrier, and i would put my head on his shoulders, hug him or hold his hand while watching tv together, stroke each other’s hair sometimes. It is the most precious time i spent with my dad. He showed me his love so that i could remember that for the rest of my life. Toxic masculinity isn’t worth it guys.

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René Kok
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe this will sound harsh: she has to leave. Having her in your house, what clearly is a safe place for your son could break that. At 16 this can have a big mental impact having toxic people so close to you. You will not forgive yourself if this affects your son in the long run.

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Kalpana M
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please kick her out. At this point I couldn't care less if she has a roof on her head or not. Ungrateful snobby lady criticizing a beautiful relationship! I hug my mom and dad very tight regularly! I love them. So what?

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Scratch
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He could tell her to get out of his house if she doesn't like his parenting style. Problem solved.

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Kim Lorton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. The sister was way out of line! You are a wonderful parent! No need to ever second guess

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Salty Old Woman
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sister is obviously jealous because she has a lousy relationship with her daughter.

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Thalia Lovering
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't wait for the pandemic to end so that I can hug and kiss my parents. His sister is an idiot.

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MiraiJack
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Behold, fellow humans. This is when petty family discussions know no boundaries.

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kath morgan
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s sad, I wonder if something happened to her when she was young.

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Brett Layton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am not saying the sister is right in this case, becasue she is not. But have some empathy folks, the gentleman that posted this did say he had a bad relationship with his own family for being a a responsible parent to his son. Let that sink in a moment, family mad becuase hes trying to raise his son right. That right there should tell you that the family probably did a number on the sister as well. I hope whomever hurt her pays and she moves forward with her life.

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Kaspar Kristiansen
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Way to go with downvoting a post offering some perspective.... Noone will ever give him the AITA stamp when presenting his case like this. It's a slam dunk who's to blame in this tale.

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Sonia Bailey
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My kids are 13 and 9. I hope the day never comes when they feel it is no longer appropriate to give me a hug. This dad is winning at parenting, I just feel so sorry for his niece having such a prejudiced and ignorant mother!

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Iggy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the pandemic has taught us all just how important hugs are. I love that this father and son have a hugging relationship.

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Mark Buxbaum
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Our son almost died in a horrible car crash. Miraculously, he lived. Not an hour goes by that I'm not thankful he's alive, and I can talk to him, and hug him tightly when I see him. Never take your children for granted. The dad in the story is parenting perfectly. His sister is apparently doing a horrible job at it, almost like her kid is a burden.

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Nizumi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First indication there were going to be problems: *his* family is upset that he's taken on caring for his son.

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Jessi Zultanky
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 27 and I always give my mom a hug and tell her I love her! We're very close and can talk about anything. She accepts that I am a lesbian and respects me, and in turn I respect her and always let her know what time I'm leaving or will be home. Like the father in the above example. On the other hand, I never hug my father and don't talk to him much. He's just not approachable. He's somewhat homophobic and sometimes emotionally abusive. Like the mother in the example. So I can see both parenting styles first hand and this guy's father is definitely in the right. The mother is making her daughter feel alienated and distant. There is nothing creepy about showing affection for a loved one. It shows a healthy relationship! Not hugging or talking is a sign something is wrong there.

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Leo H
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your sister is a karen..and its sad when a father cant hug his own son without being called a pedo..what has society come to

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Azure Adams
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd say say it is high time for your entitled bitch of a sister to be greatly encouraged to find new lodgings. No surprise her attitude and crap is likely the single reason for her shitty circumstances. No longer your job to bail her out since she hasn't learned

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really struggle to understand why this man's family would have any issue with him taking responsibility for his own son.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Homophobic and dying with envy at their warm and close relationship, obviously. Absolutely right to snap at toxic people telling you how to live your life (eager to control and damage).

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LittleMissPanda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of my family members hug and kiss on the cheeks. No matter of gender or age (from 5, the youngest, up to 78, the oldest). My husband's family always hugs (men) and hugs and kisses on the cheeks (women) also regardless of age... it is frickin' normal and part of a healthy relationship. Smh

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Zucchini
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a kid, I would like to point out that no phyisical contact and never talking to your kid is not going to help anyone.

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Orionpax75
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's bugging throw her out ASAP f**k that!! She can't even pay her bills and she's giving out parenting advise must be crazy!! Pack your s**t and go!!!

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Amy Begun Saab
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's an awesome dad & his sister sounds like a spoiled brat. Keep up the good parenting sir!!

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Katharine Lancaster
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every time I see my dad, I hug him and give him a kiss on the cheek. He does the same back. We tell each other that we love each other, too. My dad is 67 years old and I’m almost 40 years old! Anyone who has a problem with parents and their children showing love and affection can go to hell.

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Drée Genot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your sister is definitely out of line. Affection is important and for your teenage son, i repeat teenage, to hug you of his own accord!? Good job i say 👍

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ahmad fauzi md sharif
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perfectly fine! I am 55 and my son is 19, we regularly hug. People just don't hug each other enough....

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Pseudo Puppy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A "creepy" parent would NOT do such actions publicly.... because they're a f*****g creep. THIS dad, is just plain awesome. His sister however, is as toxic as all hell. Shame on her.

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EQXL
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First of all this is great, that's the connection every parent should aspire to have with his child. But let's take the opinion of the sister, assume she actually lives this opinion. Weirdly enough it isn't that far fedged an opinion these days and it could just be the or one of the reasons that the relation between her and her daughter is so bad. A loving approach to this situation might be helpful, even enlightening, for both the sister and her daughter.

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Barry McCullock
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A close affectionate and loving relationship with your family is something I was raised to appreciate. My wife and I have 3 adult sons all of whom hug us when leaving from a visit. We frequently say how much we love each other without embarrassment. For this man’s sister to interpret her nephew’s affection for his father as anything unnatural, is a sign of her own stunted emotional development. To also imply her nephew’s sexuality is an issue also is an indication of narrow mindedness and insecurity. That troubled woman and her poor daughter need help in my opinion.

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James Pointer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"We don't have good relationship with my family because they're upset that I decided to take responsibility of my son." There's your problem right there. I need not read more. If someone has a problem with you being a a parent to your child, wtf people are they? What's the opposite to that? - Well done, treating the child like s**t, you should lock it in the basement too. Even if there was an abusive partner that birthed the child, is that child now satan's off spring and should be burnt?

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Darcy Nestler
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My 16 (almost 17) year old son hugs me on a regular basis. I still hug my parents. I think it's weird and creepy that she doesn't talk to her daughter or try to parent her, but still tries to tell you how to parent your son.

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Patty Leaton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

your sister & her daughter should move out no respect at all ,she's lucky to have a brother like you. the truth hurts deal with it your sister need to deal with it .There is a lot of families that are homeless .seriously they both need to grow up

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Pandana
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the f**k? Who has a dirty enough mind to thinkt that hugging your own kid is perveted tf?

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Nancy Massi
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would be heaven to have a teenager who felt safe and loved enough to hug and kiss a parent the way this young man does. Major props for parenting!

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backatya
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hugging your son is perfectly NORMAL. Don't listen to her. She has issues. You never know it'll be the last time you hug and say I love you to a loved one. God forbid they get into an accident or get murdered etc. She has audacity to say things when you're helping her out when she needs it. I'd throw her out.

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King Joffrey
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 40 and I still hug my parents, even though I haven't lived with them for over 20 years.

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Bonnie Edwards
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First thing.. his family is upset because he decided to be a Dad? Are they mental? Secondly, sure, it's not a great idea to allow kids to roam unchecked because of weird adults - but this bloke seems like he's been an awesome parent, and raised a well-balanced and emotionally secure son. I think I would keep the sister for a while, and start on coaxing the niece out of her room, and fixing the emotional damage such a mis-informed woman may have caused.

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Kad
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Need to put her out cause this the type of trash that'll call cps and make false statements and cause trouble. The whole family trash so toss her out give your niece your phone number and let her know that she can care you any time but stop all contact with the sister

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foo i am
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"We don't have a good relationship with my family because they're upset that I decided to take responsibility of my son" That is the most messed up thing in this whole article. What? A dad being a dad is wrong? What culture was this?

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Marnie
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents were born in the mid-1920s. My Mom read that old Dr. Spock book, which apparently encouraged parents to treat their children like unloved pets - food, cloth, and shelter, but show no love and don't teach them anything. My parents were very good people at heart, excellent, but were not good parents due to this (my 4 siblings and I agree completely on this). I would have loved for them to give me lots of hugs (plus to say just once, "Good job!"). This sister is disgusting, really disgusting. What is more alarming is just in general that there are people who find physical affection between family members to be outside the norm. Having read a lot of cultural anthropology work, I can tell you that it is NOT outside the norm.

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Elizabeth Gardner
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it wonderful that you and your son have such a great rrelationship. That he loves you and showss it and you return that . Why should you not we ( well most of ust ) love out children and hugging and kissing them is part of the way we react . Your sister is one sick person and her relationship with her daughter needs a real kick. And speaking of Kick I would be doing just that , asking her to leave and find somewhere else to live. You seem to have a good life you trust your son and that is great and is your business. Do yourself a favour and get rid of your sister.

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Granted, as a Mom, I guess my interactions with my son would be considered normal. I dropped him & a few friends off at the mall (they were about 14) and said we'd meet back up at X in about an hour. An hour later & I'm looking around when I hear "Mommy!" and this 6' tall boy crashes into me and proceeds to smother me with kisses. His friends started to give him crap. Without missing a beat, he turned around and asked "You don't love your MOTHER"? He's going to be 41 this summer & still has no problem running up to hug or kiss me. He also still likes to sit on my lap - mainly to watch me cringe under the weight.

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Joanne Hudson
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Since when do people automatically think a sleep-over is a homosexual hookup? It would never cross my mind. Besties have sleep-overs for any number of reasons; watch a TV show together that no one else can stand, play a game, just hang out. And no one said there weren't a dozen other guys at the sleepover as well. I'd set a specific limit on how long sis was in your house in case that poison started to spread. At any rate, she has absolutely NO right to criticize ANYTHING in your home or relationships when she is a guest in your home.

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Lori Spins
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad refused to show any kind of love or affection or physical contact to both my brothers, but not me. They have serious issues, one being married twice, with three different baby mamas, the other never having an actual relationship or children. I do not like physical touch. I've been married for 12 years. He really messed us all up. The kicker, he isn't even my biological father!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Anna Repp
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a 15 y.o. daughter and she still snuggles with me in bed sometimes and we fall asleep together, just like when she was a toddler. Nothing wrong with that - only love and trust and a great relationship.

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Faith Hurst
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd be really worried about what has gone on in his sister's life that she thinks that. It is much more about her than about him. And, like everyone else here, my kids still hug me at 23 and 24. It's because we love each other.

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Veronica Vatter
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every call with my kids ends with I love you. Hugs before the bus comes. Running my fingers thru their hair watching the TV on the couch, like I did when they were little. A child should never be afraid to show affection to their children. My dad was raised without. He makes sure to always give the hugs he never had.

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Artoonist Corine
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You NEVER know when it will be the last time you get to hug your kid, your mom, your sister - whomever. If she doesn't like - there is THE DOOR.

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Sam Cook
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m twenty-three and still hug my dad whenever I feel like I need reassurance or to let him know I love him. I usually don’t see him throughout school weeks since I’m in college, so I hug him as I leave and then hug him again when I return. If this woman has a problem with that, regardless of the kid’s ideas when it comes to love, then she should shut her mouth and realize that she’s ruining her chances to spend time with her nephew. I don’t support homosexuality, but even if one of my nieces or nephews practiced that lifestyle, I would still want to spend time with them.

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Sebastian Melmoth
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kinda thought that almost everyone had no problem hugging family members regardless of gender. Had a few people who thought it was cute that my family always ends telephone conversations with “I love you, bye” but they never thought it to be perverted or strange.

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Anamaria Mazer de Toledo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This sister is only showing how frustrated and unable to give love. She should take advantage of the excellent tutorial on " How to show love" her brother is offering...and free of charge. Kudos to dad!

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Aubryanna Walker
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bitch?!? If one of my family members moved in with me and criticized me on that. I would have told them to pack their bags you're leaving tomorrow...

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Anne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good dad, sister has major issues and should see a therapist. And her daughter too. Maybe keep the daughter for a while, let her hang with your son so she can see what a normal parent-child relationship should be.. If she ever has kids, she can break the cycle.

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Jennifer Jenkins
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a good dad. And it sounds like you have a good kid, too. Your sister is myopic. She was offering unsolicited feedback on her skewed view of your relationship with your son--but you need to apologize for doing the same regarding her relationship with her daughter? Weak sauce. But she's family/you love her so maybe try to teach her, set boundaries & if she abides by those boundaries--maybe she'll start to see things clearly.

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InfectedVoice
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 40 and still give my dad the same hug and kiss on his forehead as I did when I was a kid.

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Jenný Samúelsdóttir Herlufsen
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You seem to have a beautiful relationship with your son, and your relatives are toxic and I hope you will put your son first and rid him of your sisters' "good intentions" My family hugs and kisses everytime we meet and everyone loves everyone! I feel sorry for you sister and her daughter. If you don't throw her out, I at least hope you will be a good influence on her.

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Brigette Legg Bridges
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. Sounds like your sister didn't get enough hugs herself. But whatever the reasoning she is wrong. You are blessed to have a relationship like you do with your son. You've obviously done an amazing job raising him. Hearing that your family is upset that you took responsibility for your son threw up a number of red flags for me. I don't understand that at all. But it could be they are in denial about something... no matter... keep doing what your doing Dad!!!

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Katinka Min
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She made a viscious remark, he had a viscious comeback. I'd say, they are even. But she needs to find her own place asap. I love my siblings and we are all grown-ups, but I still could not live under the same roof with them for more than a few days.

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SoozeeQ
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this Dad is amazing! He's 32-years-old and has a 16-year-old son. Not many 16-year-olds step up to take responsibility for an unplanned pregnancy. Good for him! And he did it without his own family's support. He's also an amazing parent. To be able to show love and affection to his child, when he obviously came from a toxic family himself. (Plus, teenagers cam be very moody, regardless of family circumstances, so for his son to voluntarily hug him and tell him he loves him - unselfconsciously - only shows what a great relationship these two have.). Instead of berating him, his sister should be asking what his secret is!

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David Miguel Ribeiro
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe she's just jealous because you have a great relationship with your son and unfortunately she doesn't. It's just a very normal situation regarding the human nature.

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Iva Kazalova
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hugs are scientifically proven to release endorphins, one thing that has not been mentioned by all the previous, excellently justified responses is, you are stimulating your child’s happiness, close human contact, with a parent no less, is bonding, i would say necessary, for a child to feel loved, even if they’re a teenager. You’re an awesome dad dude, your sister’s behaviour is absolutely disgusting!

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NinjaWolfy94
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wish I could have this kind of relationship with my dad... I'm 18, came out as trans(male) a year ago, dad didn't accept me. He's always wanted a baby girl, and while he's in no way abusive (good father otherwise) we have moved miles apart to what we used to be like when I was a young kid. I barely even talk to him at all, only if he talks to me first, and I actively avoid having a conversation with him because it's just so damn awkward and painful. My mother and I are kinda like OP and his son though, I just don't like being touched really, dunno why. But despite that, we still hug, and I still tell her I love her.

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Inga Viviane
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a good father, her sister is a bad mom. The girl must feel forlorn seeing up close a good relationship. Be good to her.

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Anthony O'hara
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Father wasn't affectionate with his Father. One day I decided that I was going to show him affection and he would just have to get used to it. I hugged him every time I saw him. I was in my late 30's when my Father passed. He hugged me every time he saw me.

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Christian Bradshaw
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a 16 year old, and I hug my dad all the time. There's nothing creepy or perverted about it

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d bradley
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you are so far ahead of normal she doesn't even recognize you anymore. she has her hands full, good luck to her trying to catch up to where you are. hope you can help her, but i certainly don't think you need to look in the mirror to find out what's wrong, she should though. keep on helping to make this world a better place

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KelBel
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Showing affection between parents & kids at any age is COMPLETELY NORMAL. The sister butted into HIS relationship with his son, yet SHE gets offended when he says something back? NOPE. Not ok. She clearly does not understand what a healthy relationship is. This DAD Rocks. Keep on doing what you're doing, because it sounds like you're doing a great job as a parent, single parent at that, and you should be proud. You're raising a future, healthy, well-adjusted young man. We need more people like this.

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Lyn Moffett
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time to help her pack her stuff OR you could just fire it out AFTER your sister!!

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Amber Cook
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me and my husbands kids all hug and give us kisses before they leave. Our daughters soon to be husband has gotten o to the groove of always giving us hugs and gives me a kiss on the cheek. Hell, our kids will come over if they've had a bad day or bad experience and come climb up into us and cuddle into one or both of us and just want that parental comfort.

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scorpesh
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this person's sister honestly,really felt his relationship with his son was creepy and perveted she would have left the house right away along with her daughter,instead goes upstairs and then briefly argues after few hours only to seek back an apology with "good intentions"🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️.

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Teresa Taylor
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are so many men out there that don't have relationships with their children (my father was one). This man has gone above and beyond by being a single dad--and an excellent one at that!! He should be praised for his ability to nurture and raise such a loving and secure son, not accused of an inappropriate "creepy" relationship with him. This reminds me of the photo of Joe Biden kissing his son. Someone (I don't remember who) complained it was creepy and inappropriate. The web was flooded with men kissing their fathers or sons. Those photos were beautiful. This guy is doing everything right in his son's world. He needs to kick his sister back to the curb. They were better off without her toxicity in their lives.

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Ross Hamilton
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was either the father or the son, the sister would be missing teeth now. The sister is a c**t and she needs to f**k off and find somewhere else to live

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Hermione
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems pretty normal to me. Is there more to this story?

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Piper McLean
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s obvious that him and his son have a good relationship. His sister clearly has some problems and I pity her but she still has no reason to act like that

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CatWoman312
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m pretty sure if your son was a daughter she would have been mum. I think because your son is gay she found it to be an issue. It’s like she’s insinuating you made him gay by being affectionate. Your sisters the asshole

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The Dave
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This whole culture of sharing how you've handled your life for and asking for validation from tons of unknown folks (AITA Posts) is silly. I can understand asking a close friend, but why post it all out on the internet for the world to know your business?

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Debrina Blackmoon
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a ridiculous homo(and all other orientations/gender)phobic fucktard snooty asshole bitch! So twisted and cruel.

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Domi Lee Bjelka
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His sister is creepy and weird. My son (almost 2yo) huggs and kisses his father every evening before he goes to sleep. It's most beautiful gesture I've ever seen. These moments will become increasingly rare 👨‍👩‍👦

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A
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Time for the aunt and her sullen daughter to somewhere new to freeload.

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Paul Werner
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should keep her mouth shut and take notes he sounds like a great Dad! Hopefully having her there doesn't have a negative impact on your and your son's relationship

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Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA! Kick the sister out asap. Sounds like she's jealous of the relationship he has with his child. I'm 31 and I still give my mom hugs and say I love you, and I did with my dad as well up until he passed away in October 2020. Something is really wrong with this guy's sister.

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spencer
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ill be 16 in 3 weeks, i still hug both my parents. theres literally nothing weird about that

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Aunt Messy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kick that snot bag out of your house, tell her to lose your number, and block her on all social media. SHE was the creepy pervert and she needs to go. You don't need that kind of bullshit in your own home.

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Gabi
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Russian Otaku
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So aside from minor mental defects he does very well at raising his son. Story reminds me of this incident where father was assaulted and arrested for being a pedophile since his wife is a different ethnicity hence the daughter has different skin tone and hugging and kissing little girls as a man is illegal because people are f*****g dumb as hell and can't mind their own business

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Zophra
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is this even an issue? This is stupid - like a post for validation.

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Gyro Pilot
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Context is everything. Some cultres hug and some don't, so maybe the OP is in line with local mores or maybe he is deviant. Hugs and PDA are not exactly human rights issues, so let he and his community sort it out without misinformed opinions from commentators who may not understand the culture. FWW my culture hugs, but I'm not writing to Amnesty International if another's discourages it

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Solrac
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3 years ago

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His family is weird but otherwise not a very interesting situation. With so many people in the world nothing like this surprises me.

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Martin Mcbride
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3 years ago

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IF he's in his 20s then maybe but otherwise tell the sister to shut the f**k up and mind her own beeswax

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Martin Mcbride
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IF the son is in his 20s then she may have a point (doubtful tho) but any younger and tell her to F-off and mind her own beeswax

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Beans
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3 years ago

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Unverified story on reddit makes front page of BP? *Facepalm*... most of the stuff on AITA and Relationships subs are fake, my friend is one of the people who used to use reddit to practice their creative writing, they think it's hilarious when it goes viral.

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What kind of person lets their kid go to a sleepover in a pandemic tho? Sister is an idiot of a different breed, but they’re both gross.

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Kaspar Kristiansen
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He'll never get the the UATA stamp when he puts it like this. The wording is designed to make him look good to the readers and his sister bad. Not saying she's right, but this is majorly buyest.

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Daniel Marsh
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I'm almost equally disturbed by mashourmasher's presumption that the son is gay. Or was that based on some previous or outside information?

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Gabi
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So, if I understand it right, the father "made" the kid when he himself was 16, has been raising him, son is gay and sister is homophobic. Okay, I call BS. Someone got creative on Reddit. As if we wouldn't have enough stories in real life, they come up with fake shits.

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