Woman’s SIL “Forgets” Her Wallet All The Time When They Go To Restaurants, So She Took It For Her
Recently a story from a 28-year-old woman caught everyone’s attention on the AITA subreddit. The author who goes by the handle Slow-Pianist-4431 wrote that her sister-in-law Amy always comes to visit from out of town.
“She stays with us instead of a hotel, and always wants to go to expensive restaurants. She always conveniently forgets her wallet, or comes up with some excuses as to why she can’t pay her share,” the author explained. If that wasn’t enough, Amy has implied that since the author makes much more money than her, she should be the one to pay.
As you may suspect, at one point Slow-Pianist-4431 had enough of Amy’s constant forgetfulness when they dine out, so she pulled a trick that Amy clearly didn’t see coming. “I’ll admit I got this move straight from an episode of Two and a Half Men,” the author confessed, so scroll down below to find out what happened.
A woman shared an incident with her ‘forgetful’ sister-in-law when, after having enough of paying for her in restaurants, she pulled a smart trick
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Many people expressed their support for the author
A number of comments have been about 'next time'. In my world, there would be no 'next time' until the manipulative sister-in-law apologised. She would not be welcome in my house.
I know right. First time would be the last and she would have known exactly why. But I’m a b***h when it comes to fair play.
Load More Replies...Spineless people. Once was a warning, twice you know how she operates. LEARN HOW TO SAY NO! Say no to her staying with you, Say no to dinner out, Say no to anything that costs money. And if your husband can't say no, you need to seek divorce counsel.
I really don't get all the " boss move" comments. This isn't high school. IMO a " boss" move would be the OP confronting her SIL and say " Listen, I believe that you deliberately keep not taking your wallet so I would have to cover for you. I don't like this and it stops here. Go and take your wallet with you". I don't think it's a '' boss" move that she took her SIL's wallet without her permission. No matter how pathetic her SIL's little plan is, OP is just passive aggressive. You're a grown up. Speak.Or just stop to go to dinners with her.. I mean...
Infuriating. Nobody should be forced to pay for someone else's choice. And debts should be paid before going out again. When my ex and I went out to eat with his family, the bill was over $100 per person because of the alcohol consumed. We didn't drink and ordered less expensive meals. Our portion was about $50, we contributed $75. Their loud reactions were embarrassing. They picked the restaurant, we wanted to join them -- but had less to spend.
After the first couple of times she did this I’d just refuse any dinner invitations. Although the OP’s solution was a boss move.
Sometimes I feel sorry for people like OP. But most times I think they need a spine replacement.
It's time to cut the cord with these toxic family members. I did and I've never felt better.
As others have said, why would you go out to dinner with her anymore? Once you realise she's scamming you ( twice would be enough for me to work her out) then that should be it. Nobody is forcing you to go to a restaurant with her. She's a thief basically. She's a toxic person who needs to be shown the door.
In many of these reddit stories, people will come back and say that their family members saw the post. But how does that happen? Do all of these people coincidently read reddit as well as the poster? It just seems like SO MANY of them conveniently go on aita reddit and read what a family member says about them. It seems suspicious.
LMAO...too bad you couldn't just pay for you and your husband and leave her to wash dishes
Considering the SIL walked out of the restaurant in a huff and the OP wound up paying everything anyways, this was less of a win than she is pretending.
If somebody repeatedly did this to me, I’d wait until it was just her and I at dinner and excuse myself to the restroom in the middle of the meal, discreetly leaving her wallet on my chair. Then I’d go to the car instead and shoot her a text that reads, ‘your wallet’s on my chair. Meet you in the car.’
I understand your husband is kind of a weakling when it comes to his family, but this is ridiculous. She's expecting YOU to pay, so YOU get to be the one to tell her no. And stop letting her stay at your house instead of a hotel. What a scheming little mooch.
She said the SIL left, and she still ended up paying. Nope. She IS too nice. I'd have given the restaurant the SIL's information, and let them sort the dine-and-dadh theft our, with HER. And I'd go NC with my in-laws. Fúck that, fúck them, and fúck HER.
SHOULD MAKE HER PAY FOR HER OWN SH IT, THEN ON THE WAY HOME TOSS HER OUT OF THE CAR ON THE HIGHWAY AT 75 MILES AN HOUR RIGHT IN FRONT OF A BIG RIG TRUCK. SHE WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN ALSO AT THE RESTAURANT YOU SHOULD KICK HER IN THE CU NT AS HARD AS YOU CAN THEN SMASH A CHAIR OVER HER HEAD AND TAKE ONE OF THE BROKEN CHAIR LEGS AND CRAM IT UP HER BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE!
this meant zero b/c the sister skipped out so she still had to pay the bill. Her husband has no testicles to stand up to his awful sister.
this is an easy fix just don't go out with her if she always does this
That is shameful of your SIL. Next time I would change one thing. In addition to letting her know you won't be paying her bill before going, I would ask her if she remembered her wallet on the way out the door. This way she can't complain about you touching her wallet. Husband should say something too. Once in a while is fine as long as it is reciprocated when you visit her and/or if she buys next time you go out to dinner. A very expensive restaurant she chose no less. Smells of shameless premeditation.
When we stay with friends or family we always take them out and pay the bill because they are kind enough to let us stay. Isn't that how it works? And we leave them a gift too. I want to always be welcome in my friends' homes...I don't ever want them to dread me coming to visit!
Just all of a sudden say, oh! I forgot to tell you when I got in the car! I found your wallet on the floor in the hallway! I think it fell out of your purse! Here it is!
You could just simply refuse to pay for her meal, period. Let her figure it out with the restaurant. They'll either have her in police custody or washing dishes for 12 hours. Either way, problem solved.
Add up the total you’ve paid and invoice her. If she has Venmo-request payment. And since she likes to lose her sh** give her a good reason. Post it. Tag her on every social media site she is on. Make her get feedback that she doesn’t want. People like that unfortunately only listen if their business is broadcasted. Wish you had Tik Tok’d the interaction. Would have gone viral!! 🤔next time??
I saw an awesome strategy once how someone prevented mooching people from constantly hitting them up. The guy texted everyone in the family saying he was in a jam and needed to borrow some money. Of course, none of the moochers ever offered- only the non-moochers responded. Guy told them he didn't actually need the cash, but now all the moochers figured he was broke and left him alone.
This should never have been tolerated for so long. Once is a mistake, anything after is deliberate. There would be no going out again unless she showed me her wallet with cash or credit cards ready to pay.
NTA and the OP should just stop going out with her SIL. If SIL wont pay then she shouldn't make reservations at expensive restaurants or nowhere at all. If SIL still manages to "invite" them then the husband should pay. Maybe that will motivate him faster to grow the courage to cut the toxic members of his family out of his life.
Funny story. Personally, my own opinion is ESH. Obviously the moochy SIL behaved way worse than OP, but I don't think it was the #1 best idea ever to touch her things or resort to that public "gotcha" moment. OP could have reminded SIL to bring her wallet on their way out the door, even asking to see the wallet to make sure SIL had it. That way, the confrontation could happen privately, and if SIL still made excuses that she wouldn't be able to pay, they could stay at home and eat rice and beans. But I can definitely understand why OP did it.
Hurry to break up contact until they paid back the bills. Encourage your husband to break up contact to them.
If her wallet was on top of her suitcase, you know damn well she took it out of her purse on purpose before she left for the restaurant. Does her husband not carry a wallet either, because if she didn't bring hers, why would her husband not pay? But definitely talk to your husband and growing some balls.
Please someone tell me she’s never eating with this b***h again, or letting her stay at her home. I’d strangle a “man” who allowed this.
would have paid using HER card....then said "OOPS I picked up the wrong purse"!!!
I honestly don’t see why you allow her to visit. The whole purpose of her visuals seem to be for her to get to be treated out to expensive meals and who knows what else. I think you also need to look and see where you need to build yourself up to not become taken by your husbands family. I say this as someone who has manipulative family - in different ways of course.
This will be very blunt - when you let assholes take advantage of you they will do that to the fullest. Stop letting them
.... I'm with everyone wondering why the EFF OP keeps going out to dinner with this mooch. She can't force you to pay for her expensive meal if you're not THERE. She can eat at your table, or she can pay for her own meals. It's that simple.
A number of comments have been about 'next time'. In my world, there would be no 'next time' until the manipulative sister-in-law apologised. She would not be welcome in my house.
I know right. First time would be the last and she would have known exactly why. But I’m a b***h when it comes to fair play.
Load More Replies...Spineless people. Once was a warning, twice you know how she operates. LEARN HOW TO SAY NO! Say no to her staying with you, Say no to dinner out, Say no to anything that costs money. And if your husband can't say no, you need to seek divorce counsel.
I really don't get all the " boss move" comments. This isn't high school. IMO a " boss" move would be the OP confronting her SIL and say " Listen, I believe that you deliberately keep not taking your wallet so I would have to cover for you. I don't like this and it stops here. Go and take your wallet with you". I don't think it's a '' boss" move that she took her SIL's wallet without her permission. No matter how pathetic her SIL's little plan is, OP is just passive aggressive. You're a grown up. Speak.Or just stop to go to dinners with her.. I mean...
Infuriating. Nobody should be forced to pay for someone else's choice. And debts should be paid before going out again. When my ex and I went out to eat with his family, the bill was over $100 per person because of the alcohol consumed. We didn't drink and ordered less expensive meals. Our portion was about $50, we contributed $75. Their loud reactions were embarrassing. They picked the restaurant, we wanted to join them -- but had less to spend.
After the first couple of times she did this I’d just refuse any dinner invitations. Although the OP’s solution was a boss move.
Sometimes I feel sorry for people like OP. But most times I think they need a spine replacement.
It's time to cut the cord with these toxic family members. I did and I've never felt better.
As others have said, why would you go out to dinner with her anymore? Once you realise she's scamming you ( twice would be enough for me to work her out) then that should be it. Nobody is forcing you to go to a restaurant with her. She's a thief basically. She's a toxic person who needs to be shown the door.
In many of these reddit stories, people will come back and say that their family members saw the post. But how does that happen? Do all of these people coincidently read reddit as well as the poster? It just seems like SO MANY of them conveniently go on aita reddit and read what a family member says about them. It seems suspicious.
LMAO...too bad you couldn't just pay for you and your husband and leave her to wash dishes
Considering the SIL walked out of the restaurant in a huff and the OP wound up paying everything anyways, this was less of a win than she is pretending.
If somebody repeatedly did this to me, I’d wait until it was just her and I at dinner and excuse myself to the restroom in the middle of the meal, discreetly leaving her wallet on my chair. Then I’d go to the car instead and shoot her a text that reads, ‘your wallet’s on my chair. Meet you in the car.’
I understand your husband is kind of a weakling when it comes to his family, but this is ridiculous. She's expecting YOU to pay, so YOU get to be the one to tell her no. And stop letting her stay at your house instead of a hotel. What a scheming little mooch.
She said the SIL left, and she still ended up paying. Nope. She IS too nice. I'd have given the restaurant the SIL's information, and let them sort the dine-and-dadh theft our, with HER. And I'd go NC with my in-laws. Fúck that, fúck them, and fúck HER.
SHOULD MAKE HER PAY FOR HER OWN SH IT, THEN ON THE WAY HOME TOSS HER OUT OF THE CAR ON THE HIGHWAY AT 75 MILES AN HOUR RIGHT IN FRONT OF A BIG RIG TRUCK. SHE WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN ALSO AT THE RESTAURANT YOU SHOULD KICK HER IN THE CU NT AS HARD AS YOU CAN THEN SMASH A CHAIR OVER HER HEAD AND TAKE ONE OF THE BROKEN CHAIR LEGS AND CRAM IT UP HER BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE! BUT THOLE!
this meant zero b/c the sister skipped out so she still had to pay the bill. Her husband has no testicles to stand up to his awful sister.
this is an easy fix just don't go out with her if she always does this
That is shameful of your SIL. Next time I would change one thing. In addition to letting her know you won't be paying her bill before going, I would ask her if she remembered her wallet on the way out the door. This way she can't complain about you touching her wallet. Husband should say something too. Once in a while is fine as long as it is reciprocated when you visit her and/or if she buys next time you go out to dinner. A very expensive restaurant she chose no less. Smells of shameless premeditation.
When we stay with friends or family we always take them out and pay the bill because they are kind enough to let us stay. Isn't that how it works? And we leave them a gift too. I want to always be welcome in my friends' homes...I don't ever want them to dread me coming to visit!
Just all of a sudden say, oh! I forgot to tell you when I got in the car! I found your wallet on the floor in the hallway! I think it fell out of your purse! Here it is!
You could just simply refuse to pay for her meal, period. Let her figure it out with the restaurant. They'll either have her in police custody or washing dishes for 12 hours. Either way, problem solved.
Add up the total you’ve paid and invoice her. If she has Venmo-request payment. And since she likes to lose her sh** give her a good reason. Post it. Tag her on every social media site she is on. Make her get feedback that she doesn’t want. People like that unfortunately only listen if their business is broadcasted. Wish you had Tik Tok’d the interaction. Would have gone viral!! 🤔next time??
I saw an awesome strategy once how someone prevented mooching people from constantly hitting them up. The guy texted everyone in the family saying he was in a jam and needed to borrow some money. Of course, none of the moochers ever offered- only the non-moochers responded. Guy told them he didn't actually need the cash, but now all the moochers figured he was broke and left him alone.
This should never have been tolerated for so long. Once is a mistake, anything after is deliberate. There would be no going out again unless she showed me her wallet with cash or credit cards ready to pay.
NTA and the OP should just stop going out with her SIL. If SIL wont pay then she shouldn't make reservations at expensive restaurants or nowhere at all. If SIL still manages to "invite" them then the husband should pay. Maybe that will motivate him faster to grow the courage to cut the toxic members of his family out of his life.
Funny story. Personally, my own opinion is ESH. Obviously the moochy SIL behaved way worse than OP, but I don't think it was the #1 best idea ever to touch her things or resort to that public "gotcha" moment. OP could have reminded SIL to bring her wallet on their way out the door, even asking to see the wallet to make sure SIL had it. That way, the confrontation could happen privately, and if SIL still made excuses that she wouldn't be able to pay, they could stay at home and eat rice and beans. But I can definitely understand why OP did it.
Hurry to break up contact until they paid back the bills. Encourage your husband to break up contact to them.
If her wallet was on top of her suitcase, you know damn well she took it out of her purse on purpose before she left for the restaurant. Does her husband not carry a wallet either, because if she didn't bring hers, why would her husband not pay? But definitely talk to your husband and growing some balls.
Please someone tell me she’s never eating with this b***h again, or letting her stay at her home. I’d strangle a “man” who allowed this.
would have paid using HER card....then said "OOPS I picked up the wrong purse"!!!
I honestly don’t see why you allow her to visit. The whole purpose of her visuals seem to be for her to get to be treated out to expensive meals and who knows what else. I think you also need to look and see where you need to build yourself up to not become taken by your husbands family. I say this as someone who has manipulative family - in different ways of course.
This will be very blunt - when you let assholes take advantage of you they will do that to the fullest. Stop letting them
.... I'm with everyone wondering why the EFF OP keeps going out to dinner with this mooch. She can't force you to pay for her expensive meal if you're not THERE. She can eat at your table, or she can pay for her own meals. It's that simple.
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