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It's not unusual to have a more or less complicated relationship with your parents. After all, they're human just like you, navigating the same complex feelings and emotions. However, there's a line between familial disagreement and toxic behavior. And Reddit user snoofle-science wanted to find it.

So they made a post on the platform, asking its users to share what signs have they noticed indicate that their moms and dads were lousy caregivers. From not being able to show affection to desperate attention cravings, here are some of the most popular problems that people attribute to their upbringing.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents You feel intimidated by everyone around you, you feel like you're never good enough for anyone, no matter how much they tell you that you don't need to try so hard, and you generally have low self-worth.

Edit: Wow. I don't know whether to feel encouraged that so many people know where I’m coming from with this, or heartbroken about it. Either way, thank you, everyone.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents A second chance to do it better when you have kids. Every time I got angry or upset with my own children, I would take a breath and think about what my mom would do—and then do the exact opposite. Lots of laughter and forgiveness in our house and zero violence. My mantra has always been “there is value in a bad example.”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well done!!!! I admire and respect your courage and sanity.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Doing everything yourself, not asking for help, because you knew no help was coming.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Was shocked reading a re-imagined story about Cinderella " other kids knew they could ask any adult for help - and get it, not Rella ". My sister and I were both kind of Cinderella.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Never believing a compliment. Always being anxious that people are mad at you/ignoring you if they're being quiet/not responding. Not being able to deal with confrontation/conflict in a constructive/healthy way.

Basically you get shitty people skills and emotional damage.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same here. Whenever someone told me that I did a good job on something I would instantly think "Did I really do a good job? or is she/he just feeling sorry for me?"

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Over-explain the tiniest issues because of a compulsive need to justify every thought, action or inaction

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents You can't identify your own emotions immediately, or sometimes at all, but can identify others without them having to say a word. Don't know how to react to things in the moment, and are extremely mature for your age. Mature kids often aren't a result of great parenting.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i cannot say enough how true this is. i’ve wondered why i am always so uncomfortable if i am unable to read someone, and this really explains it.

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I had to sneak out of the house through my bedroom window to go to school and take my finals because my mom locked my room from the outside. This was punishment because I wouldn’t do the dishes because I was cramming for my exams. To top it off after she locked me in my room she went to the breaker and turned off the lights to my bedroom so I wouldn’t have any lighting to study and I had to spend the whole night studying with a flashlight.

I aced all my exams. And instead of my mother being proud of me she locked me up in my room for a week for sneaking out.

I ended up going to college and grad school in STEM and made something of myself. And now she brags to people that I am successful because of her. When she says that I tell her and everyone “absolutely not! I’m successful DESPITE her”.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh i am so happy for this person. they managd to get good grades with bad parents? now thats a great achievment

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#8

50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents The panicked rush to jump and start “doing something” when you hear someone come in the house. Lest you be subjected to a barrage of insults and commands.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG this! Heaven forbid I'd be resting while nobody was home to see or comment....

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#9

50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Why is nobody mentioning the silent foot steps?

When you grow up with parents that will yell at you for existing you develop the ability to hide your presence as much as possible and always try to keep your noise and visibility to a minimum.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

and you also leanr whos steps are whos when they are walking up and down the stairs.

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#10

50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Emotional numbness especially in the face of bad things. Once you've seen enough shit certain things just don't faze you anymore

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And not knowing how to comfort someone. Like I know I should feel something, but I just don't.

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#11

Okay lets do it -

self doubt, self esteem issues and overall not feeling good enough or feeling like you have an intense obligation or expectation to fulfil to keep your parents happy.

The inability to know what you want or not knowing how to say no when someone asks something of you in fear they will react poorly.

Inability to be assertive and telling people what you are/aren't ok with.

Not having high values of yourself and putting everyone else before you.

Feeling guilt the minute you 'let someone down.'

TRIGGER WORDS - example 'I'm disappointed'

Having a habit of toxic and repetitive relationships with friends and partners. Also switching around friend groups often or having little to none.

Feeling emotionally inept or being extremely emotional and feeling like you cannot express it.

Difficulty with maintaining life skills, self care, hygiene, finances ect

feeling like a child stuck in an adults body

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#12

50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents You apologize for everything you do, good or bad.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Paranoia when people are just being nice. Like why are you being friendly? What do I have that you want from me?

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Being a people-pleaser to the point of it being detrimental to yourself

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents being really good at hiding things (physical or mental). being able to sneak something to my room, being able to look like i haven't cried even though i was five minutes ago.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Being afraid that you'll continue the cycle and treat your kids terribly

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents You are in your 40s and still crave attention and validation from anyone at all because you were ignored all the time.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

::raises hand:: I'm 40 right now and I still have "the class clown" personality because at least if people are laughing at me, they're paying attention to me, right? Right?!

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents When i tell stories of my childhood that i think are funny but my friends stare in horror

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Haha, omg guys, so once when I was 6, my dad was about to leave on a business trip and my mom grabbed me, pressed the revolver she'd gotten from my grandpa into my throat under my chin, and told my dad that if he left on one more business trip, she'd kill us kids and then herself! Isn't that hilarious?" (that is a true story from my childhood, sadly)

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#19

50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Being surprised people will apologize and want to talk out and deal with an issue instead of screaming and pretending everything is fine and never mentioning why there was a fight or argument at all.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was always terrified of my mother as a young child, because one moment she would be screaming at me, beating me, and throwing me across the room, and then 5 minutes later she'd come into the room smiling with a plate of cookies she'd just baked all "Do you want a cookie, Cryssie?" I was off-balance all the time because I had NO idea what I'd done to make her angry, nor why she suddenly wasn't angry AT ALL any more, and I was terrified that I'd do whatever I'd done to p**s her off again and she'd go nuclear again in the next 30 seconds. I had no idea that that wasn't normal.

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#20

50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents When you really don’t remember any good times you spent with them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There were some good times in my childhood, but I was constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop because it always, always did. Every day, good or bad, would end with my dad being in a bad mood for some stupid reason.

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#21

50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Not reacting appropriately to ordinary situations. Usually an overreaction to a normal situation or underreacting to very messed up situations.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah. This is when survival instincts kick in, based on previous experience with your parents. I overreacted so many times in normal situations, because I felt in danger - and obviously this affected my relationships.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents My dad was yelling at me once and I couldn't take it so I made a snappy comment back. Instinctively I threw my hands up to block the blow I knew was coming. But then they both tried to convince me that my dad has never hit me before and why would I act like that.....so physically abusive and mentally abusive with gas lighting

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My older sister gets pissed when I talk about how abusive my mother was towards me. She'll say "Mom never HIT you!" Uh, mom used to cut me with the kitchen knives, not just hit me/throw me across the room. But my sister is my parents' biological child, and I'm adopted. My sister is just like my mother and is/was "the perfect child", so she was never yelled at or hit while we were growing up.

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Terri Azevedo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother actually told me just a few years ago that the reason my dad didn't go after my sister and physically abuse her was because "she got straight A's, of course he didn't!" The last time he came at me I was 17.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Quit acting as if you were abused"... Maybe there is a reason I act this way, mom...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everytime my mother would get upset I'd get some distance. If she started gesticulating, I'd raise my arms instinctively to protect my face, to not do so would make me feel unbearably vulnerable (I tried to, to make her feel better). My heart would be jumping and I'd mentally freeze. Until I became an adult. Now I feel like I'm going to get beaten up (and get a mental freeze, and unconsciously try to smoothe things down and accommodate as much as possible) every time someone's slightly angry at me, or I have an argument with a boyfriend. I'm slowly getting better though. But it seriously screwed all my relationships up.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m 53 and still paying thousands of dollars to have teeth repaired and replaced from having them broken in the jaw bone from hits to the side of the face where “you won’t bruise” when I was growing up. Sooooo many dental surgeries. So, so many. And still another 3 needed that we can foresee for the next year.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad hit me with phone books on me to not make a mark. Courts never believed me or my mom because of that. Justice system needs SOOOO much reform....

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother wrote me a letter saying I shouldn't be making everyone's life a living hell because the family has done nothing to me. I was abused growing up, I jave a child now that my mother thinks is her do over baby, and everyone believes I'm the narcissist instead of my mother. She's now living the life she antagonised me for growing up and wonders why I'm so angry. I have unchecked trauma and a combination of mental illnesses that not only makes me disabled but also cuts my life span by 20 years if it continues to go unchecked. Just last night, I had thoughts that everyone would be happier with me not around. I know those are lies that my mental illness tells me. It's easy to distinguish. I just wish I didn't have those moments where I'm close to believing the nonsense my mind tells me. Or the fact that I've somewhat become the same mother that raised me. My anger for how things are affects my relationship with my child. I cant believe I've allowed myself to be moved to the point of becoming the same detrimental person who attempted to destroy my childhood and now lives a life I used to have. Anyone I express this to just says I'm immature, insecure and attacking my mom. No one k own what she says to me in private because of course, it's in private. I've stayed quiet but idk what else to do

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's okay to cut your mom out of your life. She doesn't deserve you, and you and your child deserve better than her. It's not your fault.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was never physically hit, but I was screamed at a lot. But it makes me wonder if I hadn't been overweight my whole life what might have happened...my father touches me without my consent, and it used to be way more often, and in places that made me really uncomfortable (back of the neck, lower back), but I can't say anything because then I'm the bad guy. Always was...setting boundaries was not allowed for me...

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I flinched any time anyone moved quickly by my head for years as an adult because it was such an instinctive thing to do.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother always says now that she cannot believe how abusive parents are to thier children. She seems to forget how she use to beat us with electrical cords and try to kill her children all the time. Must be nice to forget about how you damaged your children from your verbal abuse and beatings

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like mine. She seems to totally forget how her & my father treated us. My parents marriage was a perfect example of what not to do in a marriage. Yet she brags they never had an argument (fought constantly). How great it was, yet all she did was complain abt my father, never had a nice thing to say about him, tried turning the kids against him, etc., etc. I had gotten to the point to not cry when hit. I refused to let them see it hurt me. Took me years to allow myself to cry. Now I cry over anything that is sad, mean, cruel, even cry happy tears now..

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was 35 and still threw up my hands when my mother got angry. I fully expected to be hit.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad beat the s**t out of us. Even though he’s dead nearly 20 years I still can’t form a coherent picture of him or work out my feelings about him. Ambivalent at best.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

oh I remember having something like this happening when I was just starting school. I had a subconscious instinct to block my face and say 'please don't hurt me' whenever an adult deemed upset after any action I've taken. The school contacted my folks and I was embarrassed and they tried to pretty much cover it up and had me repeat my defense until I got sick of it. Nothing had changed in the family, it got worse over the years.

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Can’t explain myself without crying

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Frustration tears, angry tears, sad tears, and tears from laughing too hard...basically all the crying. I'd give anything for this to not be a knee jerk reaction from my body.

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Someone raises their voice- doesn't even have to be in anger; they could just have a deep voice but suddenly its *loud* - and your first reaction is to either shrink in on yourself or focus on anything but their face and wait for your throat to stop feeling so tight or for your eyes to stop watering.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this!!! i have never been able to describe the feeling i get when someone becomes loud- it has always terrified me.

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#25

50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents When, as an adult, you witness an example of good parenting - and experience a sense of shock, and get dizzy.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS. Spent a weekend at a friend's home. Was shocked how nice her parents were. Was shocked how she could joke *with* them.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents You remember being severely neglected yet you were told “you are spoiled.”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm apparently "spoiled" because I was adopted! My biological mother was an unmarried alcoholic/drug addict who already had two other children (from unknown fathers) and she didn't even have working utilities in her trailer. I was told from a very early age (5ish or so) that I needed to be grateful because I had been taken away from such a HORRIBLE situation and brought to have a "normal" life. Apparently that = me being spoiled.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Unable to form or desire romantic attachments and not to forget the numerous mental illnesses you have no control over because your parent doesn’t believe in poor mental health so allowed you to go undiagnosed your whole life :)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mine treated me like I was slow. My twin was very book smart. Took a therapist when I was 16 to test my math skills (first diagnosis) and at 23 I got the full testing to find out, nope not slow.. lots of mental disabilities.. I cried hysterically because I finally had a name to the learning disabilities that plagued my life. Best day of my life.

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Not being able to recognize affection or how to show it healthily.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents A fantastic sense of humor

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Making jokes hides the pain! If you can make others laugh, even if they're laughing AT you, then you are a-o-kay. I'm a master "class clown"/comedian and most of my jokes are self-deprecating.

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- Thinking you do everything wrong, even small daily tasks, and at a certain moment you hear other people compliment you about doing it well or asking why I am a perfectionist.

- Always apologizing for everything, multiple times

- When people say something, you suspect that they mean something else, something you did wrong, buy they won't tell you until they get so mad they burst.

- Extremely nauseous feelings when someone gets irritated or angry

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've tried to explain to my husband what it's like to ALWAYS feel that things are my fault. If anyone is ever unhappy in my circle, it's my fault and it's my responsibility to fix what's wrong. I think it It must be amazing not to feel this way.

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I can never open up to them. No matter how big or small my problems are, because they'll just tell me I'm being dramatic.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. There have been a lot of days lately when I really needed to "talk to my mom" but that's just not an option

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You don't talk to them anymore or want them in your life otherwise as an adult (e.g., not inviting them to your wedding, or want them around any potential children you may have).

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cutting off all contact was one of the sanest things I have ever done for myself. And telling social services that my nephews must a NEVER be left alone with either grandparent was also. edit:Life is a bit complicated for them.

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Lot of anger problems

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents They don’t want you to have any better of a life than they did

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So much this. I had several opportunities as a teen that were never even discussed but shot down immediately. A trip to Greece for $400 with my class (better believe I would try to scrape that money together for my kids), an invitation to study abroad and the big one, admittance into art school my junior year of highschool. My mom never wanted me to succeed or have anything better than she ever had and she pulled opportunities out from under me any chance she had. I even won "sweetheart" at a Valentine's dance at church as a kid, I was so thrilled then because I never won a thing. In the car on the way home she told me about a lady who said I was very rude to her when she said I looked pretty. I couldn't then recall anything close to this situation , she called me a liar and made me feel awful. It wasn't until much later in life that I realized she was the liar.

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My mother treats me like her personal therapist and I'm only 17. She asks me where she went wrong in raising my brother and I and I don't want to tell her because I'm scared of her when she yells.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Apologizing constantly

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#37

Even at 31 feeling like if I get close to anyone they'll find a way to take advantage of me

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#38

You're raised by people who can barely function, people who are basically at subsistence level. So you have no tools to be successful in the real world. There's no support other than vague crappy advice to just keep plugging along. You know that everything you get in life can disappear in a moment, and no one will be there to provide for you. Worse, your parents are expecting that you'll somehow magically provide for them in their old age. They send you out into the world with worse-than-s**t life skills, and they expect you to support them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When your valid feelings are dismissed with the words, "You've got to be better than that."

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Feeling weird when people tell you that they love you, recieving hugs, feeling weirded out when you have to give hugs, and my personal favorite, being at the end of the favorite's list

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i like hugs. but one of my friends constantly calls me her favorite, and is very affectionate, and i get very confused. like, why me??

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Not knowing a lot of things that are "common sense" and not realizing til you're an adult yourself

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes as a student nurse there were some really basic things I didn't know. Like where adults use talc powder. *arm pits and groin.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents If you're the eldest, an extreme urge to help and "save" your younger siblings, even to the detriment of your own mental health.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the youngest and I constantly tried to save my older sister. From her drug addictions, from the poverty, from her abusive husband.....and so on. It was *all* my fault.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents When you are telling a story which you think is a funny story from your childhood, only for someone to turn around and tell you "That's not normal".

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If you've grown up in a very dysfunctional household, then not only is your norm set at a very messed up bar, but things that would be horrifying to others might be funny to you because of where your norm was set at. Examples of this can include "funny stories" that actually featured a lot of violent or neglect.

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Lakota Wolf
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. I've told my friends "funny stories" of times when my mom cut me with kitchen knives, or times when she'd hit me only below the neck so that "no one would see the bruises", or how funny it was that when I was small and light, she'd throw me across the room and into the walls. My friends would be all O_O; and then hug me.

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Parents that lean more on you in rough times when it should be 100% the other way around

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Lakota Wolf
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was 18 and planning to move out, when my dad had an accident that resulted in a catastrophic brain injury. He had such extensive brain damage that he was bedridden, could not speak/communicate or understand, had to wear diapers, and had to have a feeding tube installed. My mother refused to hire professional caregivers for him, so I was his primary caregiver for the next 21 years (he died last year). I never moved out. My dad was a wonderful person and a great father, so I willingly cared for him because I loved him, but it was pretty awful that my mother assumed that well OF COURSE I'd stay living at home and take care of him so that she could go to the casinos/on vacation whenever she wanted.

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You can’t stick to your boundaries

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Self-harm such as cutting

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And taking far too many pills and alcohol just to stop thinking about it all.

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50 People Are Sharing The Signs That Made Them Realize They Were Raised By Toxic Parents Uncomfortably into Disney stuff well into old age. I've noticed that a lot of hardcore Disney fans AS ADULTS (I'm talking people who buy the plates, cups, figures, cookie jars, plush characters, etc) often have had bad parents or experiences as a kid. They probably are trying to hold on to some child like feeling that's still in them. Idk.

There's nothing wrong with being into Disney, but, at a certain point, I have to question what exactly went down in your household as a kid.

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Lakota Wolf
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not into Disney specifically, but I'm 40 and I still buy stuffed animals for myself quite often.

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Always screaming. Always angry. Never showed any physical affection. Completely out of tune with their children's lives.

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Alana Voeks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Heyyyyyy. This is me 100%. Also never giving any life lessons, like don't lose your virginity to someone who shows you romantic affection for the first time! (Or ever teaching me about sex. Still yet to be taught, they still think I'm a virgin.)

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I knew how to open a beer and pour it with minimal foam for my mom while she was driving.

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You call them for advice and they give you literally the worst advice ever. So you have been doing the opposite haha

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Ronald Cookson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hearing the phrase " when life hands you lemons,make lemonade" is the most repeated and worthless platitude I've ever heard.makes me want to choke the ever loving s**t out of the person who says it.

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They told me the wrong date was my birthday. Didnt find out until my sixteenth birthday going for my drivers licence. Couldnt be bothered with getting it right, real nice of them.

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Alana Voeks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mine is just always forgotten. 10/23. Not hard to remember, yet no one ever can. It's literally 0123 with the 0 and 1 flipped. It's not that hard. And I've never been anywhere even out of the city for my birthday because "education" was so "important" here. But since my brother's birthday was during the summer, we've celebrated his every time we went on vacation.

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