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Knowingly or not, we all have those little lists of qualities we tend to look for in a potential romantic partner. However, there's also the other side of the coin—traits we're not so stoked about. And while some of these unappealing traits we can accept or at least halfway tolerate, some of them are absolute deal-breakers that we simply can't stand. And since nothing unites people more strongly than a common dislike, let's talk about that.

Recently, Reddit user u/Pnd1528 went on the platform and asked fellow users to share an "all too common" trait they find extremely unattractive in the opposite (or same) sex. As expected, the Reddit community didn't hesitate and delivered some pretty spot-on ones. Bored Panda has compiled a list of some of the best, relatable, and most interesting answers found in this viral thread, so here you go! As per usual, don't forget to vote for your favorite submissions and feel free to talk about the traits you find unappealing in the comment section down below.

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#1

Littering. You'd be surprised how many people dont give a f*** and throw s*** out their car window. It's disgusting.

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Being rude to wait staff

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Bianca Du Toit
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. An ex-boyfriend of mine did this, and the waiter was still a trainee. Fumbled with the wine bottle, trying to keep his composure while my boyfriend treated him like crap. I just gave the guy many "Please excuse this dumbass" looks, and insisted that my boyfriend tip him properly when paying the bill. Needless to say, we didn't last long.

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Men bragging about being violent. Bar fights ain't sexy honey.

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hazel robin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS IS SOOOO TRUE - neither is telling me how many women you've 'had'. The whole macho thing is extremely unattractive.

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#5

Lack of compassion. They only seem to care about themselves.

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#6

The inability to admit they are wrong or when they apologize and then justify their actions.

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The “Im an a**hole and I don't care if people call me an a**hole” attitude.

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#8

A general lack of curiosity towards the world

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hazel robin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Big one. Take someone to one of your fav' places and if they don't seem to register it on any level - it's a bit of a red flag for me.

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#9

Chewing with your mouth open. F*** dude it drives me crazy

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Always on their phone. This s*** annoys me so much, I want to talk to someone while looking at them. When they are constantly on their phone it makes me feel like I am talking to myself and its awkward as f***.

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Kamelion
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OR OR... you can be on your phone as well and text each other instead of talking! But seriously, it's sad how many people actually spend time with their partners / friends this way... Soon we will forget how to communicate in person!

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#12

Everyone says they want their partner to be super career ambitious. Screw that, I say put in your 40 hours then chill. I want someone who knows how to relax

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Career ambitious = bringing in the big bucks. Aka someone who will buy me nice things! (This is not me. I want someone with a sensible work ethic - sometimes that means doing some overtime, but that should be the exception, not the rule)

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#13

The telepathy tax. Partners who hold it against their SO when they fail to anticipate and fulfill their unspoken needs and desires.

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JennyLaRue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"did you tell them that annoyed you?" 'no, they should just know' Life is way too short to waste time huffing about and sulking, just communicate with each other properly.

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#14

Anyone who takes any advice, disagreement, constructive criticism as a personal attack

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#15

S*** talking others to make themselves look better

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#16

Toxic positivity, I need to be able to feel bad for a moment when I am dealing with something crappy. It helps me get through it. I dislike people pleasers too, be kind but don’t be a doormat.

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#17

Being oblivious to different economic circumstances.

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hazel robin
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So true. At times in my life, I've been incredibly poor and it stops you from taking part in so many things that people who aren't in the same position simply don't understand.

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#18

Just general "toxic"/jeslous behaviour.

No, i do not want to sleep with the Barista because they asked my name for my order. Yes, i was told to treat as I wanted to be treated as a child so I Will be polite and smile to others from Time to Time, this does not mean i want to shag every human being i interact with.

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Abhainn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad you don't want to shag every human being you come across, if you did, we'd have a problem. AND if the point you're making is "just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm flirting" I TOTALLY agree. I smile all the time, and I love talking to people, but I'm sick of people thinking I'm flirting just cause I talked to them. it's only happened a few times, but when it does happen it can mess you up for a while and leave you thinking, "wtf?"

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#19

People being obsessed with their social media presence.

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JennyLaRue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It saddens me that some people care more about their curated online presence than their real life.

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#20

For me, its the girls who CONSTANTLY say “I’m ugly” and then you tell them they aren’t, and then they go “no, im really ugly” and it just goes back and forth. I can’t stand it :/

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Kristal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would find this annoying too if it was apparent she only says it for compliments. However, some people really just have that bad self esteem. I used to be similar in my self image and have had too many experiences with people saying contrary to what they actually think that I wouldn't believe someone unless their actions matches their words. Some people are just treated badly.

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#21

Narcissistic, that goes to both genders

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Mama Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It could be argued that all of you, who are arguing about gender identities are being narcissistic with your beliefs while denying others their beliefs such as the OP's. Priscilla and the rest, stop trying to dictate how others think and where their beliefs fall. You believe in all genders meaning there are more than one and that is groovy but it's not a shared concept by quite a lot of us. And that is perfectly ok because each of us is allowed to think for ourselves. Stop trying to change the narrative of a post you didn't create.

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#22

Self absorbed behavior... the Kardashian/Housewives of ??? Syndrome. You are NOT the star of some reality show, stop acting like it.

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Abhainn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is a turn off in a friendship, business partnership, interaction, school project, anything at all -- not just a romantic relationship

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#23

The whole “let me push all your buttons, you’re wrong, I’m right, I do it because I think it’s funny to rile you up” schtick. Then repeat it immediately.

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Kristal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad does this to my mom and tries to do it with me and I'm like "no, I have too much anxiety to find more anxiety funny"

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#24

Spitting. Just grosses me out.

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#25

When they think that their taste in music makes them a superior person instead of just having different tastes. Applies to both genders. Edit: phrasing

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JennyLaRue
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looking down on anyone because of a personal preference that impacts nothing makes them pretty douchey

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El Dee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh God yes! Not being sexist but (then immediately follows with sexist remark lol!) I do think men are somewhat more guilty of this than women. Looking down on 'pop' music, criticising bands for having 'gone commercial' and saying that they 'knew them before they sold out' etc. You like what you like and you can like pop, classic and rap music too. There's no limits on the different things you can like. Someone else's different tastes don't make them wrong, we all have different favourite colours too..

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Flying Captain
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well then don't make a sexist remark, if you don't want to. Just say that this is your observation. :) Nobody can s**t on your personal observation. ^^ And thus: I have made the same observation! :D

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Persp Gold
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you don't know what is meant when someone says "both genders," your time is better spent reading books than correcting posts. There is nothing obfuscating or offensive unless you are looking for a fight, which us pandas don't want.

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Marianne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, I used to be like that as a teenager. Luckily, I grew out of it.

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Kat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do all the posts with mentioning BOTH genders turn into argument about genders? To each their own. You can define yourself as an unicorn or helicopter or whatever, just don't force your views to other people.

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Jeff Bunn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Music is music, unless it’s Rap. Then it’s just bad poetry put to an overly heavy disco beat!!

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Bernardita Valdés
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate this, for example, when EXTREME heavy metal fans say all other styles are crap when theyr style is an extreme use of voice, shout and very loud instruments. Please notice im talking about exagerated cases of compositions. Each one has their own tastes, but exageration in aplication kind of ruins music. Autotune was declared one of the worst inventions, now u dont need to work on your voice to be a singer and thats sad.

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Alex De Leon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well I don't think it's a problem if you lightly tease them about it.

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Seabeast
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh lord, I hated this so much when I was young and single. Usually the pretentious boors who looked down their noses at my choice of music were just baffled when I rejected their invitation to date them.

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Gavin Johnson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m a huge music fan, it’s a huge part of my life, I listen to a lot, I watch live music a lot, all sorts of stuff from run-of-the-mill regular rock through pop and throwaway cheesy stuff through to blues & jazz and onwards to industrial metal and properly off beat weird stuff. It brings me a huge amount of joy. Do I have better taste in music? No. I have my taste in music. Do I want everyone to have access to all varieties of music? Hell yes. OK, I’ll talk about my passion at length with anyone who’ll join me for a chat, I’ll try and find something you love to listen to and use it to expand my collection or to educate my ears a bit more. Just like your taste in art, comedy, tv shows, clothes, what you eat, what you drink, who you love or who your favourite sports team is and on and on. These things are what make us human, these are the things we have to celebrate, enjoy them and share them with others. PS this applies to all genders.

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Marnie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This goes for taste in anything, just about. I went on a first date years ago with a guy I'd met online and had been talking to for three weeks. We stupidly went to a movie (Queen of the Damned). He fondled my leg during the movie, and I swatted him away. After the movie, we discussed, and I had some positive and negative things to say. He was livid that I didn't love it. I should have taken it as a sign. We went out two more times. Then I focused on the person who became my husband. But he stalked me (and him) for about a year. Worst thing was he walked into my house when my 12yo son was there alone, in full black. (We don't know why the door was not locked.) Saw my son, turned around and left. My son was hysterical, of course.

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#26

Being needy and acting like your the only human in their life. Like please give me a f****** break I didn’t adopt a 37 year old child.

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#27

Refusing to do anything they think is considered more "feminine" cause they think it's gay. Not washing your face doesn't make you straight, it just makes you crusty. I may have some bias since i do lean towards more feminine guys, but there's certain limits, man.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed, same with cleaning you room/house. Tells me I won't have to pick up after you

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#28

Fake tans, like the ones where they look orange. I've seen both men and women walking around like they are hot s*** looking like an Oompa Loompa

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Susan Green
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When they look orange, like Trump? That really does look absurd.

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#29

Smell and poor hygene. No one smells just because they are a dude, they smell because they don't clean themselves. Excessive body spray is not an alternative

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Michael Green
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I can smell your stink at a normal conversation-having distance... I don't want to know what other aromas lurk. 🤮

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#30

Making fun of my appearance, even as a joke. It’s a giant red flag and I won’t date anyone who “teases” me about it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Very true. I don't like it when someone teases you in a really bullying way and then says 'it was just a joke, can't you take a joke?' Making you feel even worse!!

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#31

Not being "teachable", as in can't be introspective or when faced with new information cannot budge on their initial opinions/conclusions, is unattractive. It comes off as stupid and arrogant and makes me feel like I'm dealing with someone who is unreasonable.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am accused about this a lot at work. By one guy. Because I don't agree with him. He's always telling me, 'well that's your perspective'. But often it is just his personal opinion which he hasn't bothered to research or back with any credible evidence, findings or reports. So there could be two responses to this, is the person who you're referring to like him, someone who just refuses to think about or acknowledge statistics and facts that have been peer-reviewed in respected publications? Or are they like me and are simply not going to substitute whatever your opinion is for their own, just because you think they should with no viable basis for it?

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#32

Pushing you to do something you don't want to because " everyone does it and it's fun"

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When they can’t take no for an answer. This is a pretty broad statement, but a lot of guys have trouble taking no. It can go from slightly annoying to really scary in a heartbeat

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Abhainn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ladies too... it can get ugly quick, especially if they pull the Potiphar's wife stunt bc/ they didn't get what they wanted.

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#34

Playing hard to get. if you like me just f**** tell me, stop beating around the bush.

edit: i am a girl.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or being really vague about what you mean to them, so you don't know what sort of relationship you are in. You feel like a nag if you try to clarify it all. I think it's so that they can justify the 'non' status of your relationship when they start dating other people without telling you.

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#35

Inflated egos. Entitlement. Incapability of being humble and make fun of yourself.

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#36

Lip fillers. Its super popular right now but it just grosses me the f*** out.

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Squeaky little girl voices, especially if it’s on purpose.

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People who only like one side of you. No, I'm not going to be upbeat and cracking jokes all the time, sometimes I wanna be serious and if you can't even pretend to care then the whole relationship feels kinda fake

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup. Had this one. Fair weather friendship - here for the fun, not for anything else. Everybody has rough patches and bad days and we should be allowed to be prepared for all sorts of weather in life.

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#39

Messiness and having poor hygiene.

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Ivana
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I could never be with someone who is fine with clothes on the floor or empty cups all over.

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#40

Feeling the need to post on social media constantly and pretending that they don’t care about it but obviously care A LOT

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Acting thirsty or making sexual innuendos early on. Nothing dries me up more

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Michael Green
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they think making innuendos on day 1 is sexy, then they probably also lack maturity/ respect.

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#42

The need to take pictures so often and record everything. This should never have been normalized.

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Judith Wilson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I write everything down. On any piece of paper from anywhere. I don't know why - and I seldom use that information for anything further. Because I can't find it anyway. I think it's just a latent desire to be a writer of things and stuff.

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#43

Not taking the f***** compliment. Like, if I say your hair looks good today, and you say, "haha, no! It looks like s***!" And i try to tell you again that it looks good, if you disagree the second time, I will tell you that fine, I agree it looks like s***.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once I was at a large convention. A woman complimented me on my eye color, and I did the above behavior. She told me that compliments are like gifts, you can either say thank you and appreciate or toss the gift back in the person's face like a jerk. 20 years later I still remember this wise woman's words.

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#45

People who do things for ‘clout’ and don’t actually care for being genuine until they need something from you.

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Helen Haley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're at work apparently that's called being 'professional'. Which as far as I can tell is another word for pseudo-sociopath.

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"Im just too crazy😝", "Not like other girls"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

b-bb-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b-bb-b-b-b-but I'm not like other girls... I'm a microwave

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#47

Acting stupid for attention.

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#48

Using your partner as your therapist.

Man, I don't know why I attract the 'broken' guys, but every date I've been on where it went past the first date, they'd start telling me all about their disturbing thoughts and I'd be supportive, but I'd internally be screaming because this was supposed to be a fun time and I didn't emotionally prepare for this.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well this last one is I guess more about Americans... I dont think that in europe people are so obsessed with dating for the sake of dating. In europe people just hang out and try to make friends,we do t get the part where I will sleep with you and you can buy me meals but I dont really like you as a person and that's ok... it's just madness what americans see as standard..

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Desperately trying to be unique

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Abhainn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

in a way that is "socially acceptable"... so not as unique as they think :/

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