Women Tweet Their Abortion Stories Using #ShoutYourAbortion Hashtag To Defend Their Right To Choose
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This weekend, women started using the #ShoutYourAbortion hashtag on Twitter in an effort to remove the stigma surrounding this controversial decision. The women using the hashtag explained why they decided to abort their unwanted pregnancies and why they don’t regret their decisions.
The Twitter hashtag was started by two writers, Lindy West and Amelia Bonow. Bonow wrote about her positive experience with Planned Parenthood, a reproductive health non-profit in the U.S. “The narrative of those working to defund Planned Parenthood relied on the assumption that abortion procedure is still something to be whispered about,” Bonow wrote on Facebook.
Though supporters of legal abortion rights in the U.S. have rallied around the Twitter thread, opponents have as well. Some have simply expressed their opposition to abortion laws, while others have also started shaming the women using it.
More info: Twitter | plannedparenthood.org
These two writers started the #ShoutYourAbortion hashtag
Image credits: Amelia Bonow / Lindy West
Here’s how others responded:
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I had my son at 21 years old. I'm attending college and working on 3 degrees while obtaining scholarships and ensuring his life is the best ever. My mom was raped and conceived me. I'm glad she didn't abort because of the circumstances. I plan on being a Nurse and helping the homeless while ensuring my son has the brightest future possible. He was conceived via failed contraceptive. I would never have given him up and aborting never crossed my mind. Truth is, where there's a will there's a way. Do I struggle? Yeah, but no more than anyone else. In the end, I benefit because he's the most special person to me in this world.
Awesome, thankyou so much for posting : )
Claidia. Kudos and kudos a million times. Yes, those who'd made the choice to abort did that undervarious circumstances. I'd never judge them. My mum wanted to abort me but I held on strongly in the womb. I read with such abhorence these justifications and the glorifications that go with them as if they were the only options on the table. Rightly put: where there's a will there's a way. You'd made the right choice, Claudia. Very good of you. No need, pride, justification in killing innocent kids. My mum told me, in confidence, when she saw the good things I was doing for her as a child. Easy way out to justify? Of course, rip the innocent body apart, glorify it to the world and walk away with a clean conscience. It's pro-choice. Point taken in bad faith.
I look back at what I did and I'm not in the least bit proud of it! I think about it often...
I'm right there with you. I feel it was the worst choice I EVER made.
I'm sorry that it's hard for you. I'm glad you shared it though.
Before this gets any more hate than it already has, just try and think from these women's perspectives. Please? I mean, I know I can't hate on any of them, because I've never been in their situation. NONE of you have been, I can guarantee you. You didn't grow up in their homes, learn what they did, witness what they saw or felt the same pain they have, so naturally you could never know for sure that you would do something different if you were in their shoes. We're no better nor worse than these women, and God loves us all the same regardless of our choices when we're backed into a corner. I will say that I wish that there was some other solution for their predicaments, that if only there could have been a way to avoid the pregnancy or put the child up for adoption, or anything that could have meant it's life would have been spared, but I WILL NOT stand to judge or watch any of you judging these women without speaking my mind because we simply have no right to do so. Let's pray instead
Everyone's feeling sorry for the women what about the baby's they had scraped out pray for the women but pray for the baby's too please xx
We should have one for Abortion survivors , Who's parents made a different choice .
I get what these ladies are trying to do but I think this campaign takes away from the real message. only around 3% of PP's services are abortions, the other 97% is women's health issues. Personally, I don't think "shouting out" your abortion is any more necessary than "shouting out" your pelvic exam. It's a personal procedure between you and your physician.
"only around 3% of PP's services are abortions" I agree that abortions are a very small percent of Planned Parenthood. But, many conservative candidates don't frame it that way and use their pro-life agenda as a reason for defunding Planned Parenthood. I'm not saying that I think this is a good or bad idea, but I get the point and I do think it has a purpose.
This is wonderful. Women shouldn't be shamed for making a personal medical decision. Over 95% of women who have had an abortion say it was the right choice for them. It's fine if you're against abortion... you have the CHOICE to not have one. See how that works?
Abortion is the easy road out, the heroes are the women that made it through and took the long hard road and accomplished their goals while raising their child.
Every female deserves a voice - and the right to health, including mental health. If you choose to live in the past and have regrets, you will never move forward or be truly happy. Women are not told enough to embrace themselves and their choices. Love yourself
Reading through the comments, both Bored Panda and Facebook, one this has come to light - the open and somewhat callous judgement women who choose to abort, for whatever reason, are subjected to is the very reason this campaign started. Think back about 10 or 20 years and consider how poorly another race or member of the LGBT community were treated, with time and motivated work, issues reduced in various instances South Africa abolished Apartheid and North America recently legalised gay marriages. Yes, there are still haters, but proportionately less than 10 or 20 years ago. For those of you who believe that women should shush about their abortions, this is the reason the campaign started. For those of you judge under the protection of your god, go and read your texts, specifically that bit just after the burning bush on Mount Ararat. Consider this number for a brief moment : 7,000,000,000plus and realise that abortion is a personal choice, a tough one and the right of any mother.
You don't choose to be black gay or part of the LGBT but you do choose for your baby to be scraped out by God you even pay your 30 pieces of damn silver for it
Do you people really think that these were easy decitions? That they all were irresponsible idiots who got pregnant, and with any further thinking just decided that "Ohwell, abortion it is then!" I don't know any of these women, but I'm pretty sure they gave it plenty of thought, and that it wasn't an easy decition to make. Yes, they're happy about it now, but that doesn't mean they were all jolly and happy about it back then. But you know what - this is life. You have to make choises, and when the choise is made you may regret it or feel terrible about it, but it's done and you can't go back and change it, so you have to accept it, and after a whie you will be happy again and you may see that perhaps it was for the best, and you will be forced to see the good things about your choise so that you won't stay depressed for the rest of your life. Either way, everyone has to make the choises they feel is right. It's not up to you or me, we know nothing about these womens lives.
Gonna get one tomorrow...I feel a whole lot of things, guilt included...but it would be unfair to the baby to bring it to the world when both of us are so unprepared emotionally and financially...really didn't want to do this to my first though... :-(
If something inside of you, deep inside of you is telling you not to...then don't. It's not right for you. Don't listen to anyone but your inner self. It could be the spirit of your child trying to whisper to you. Your are already referring to it as your first. That tells me that, no matter what your political beliefs, you feel it is your child. Cancel the appointment. There are other options, so many good options!
Yeah... It could be the spirit of her child. On the other hand it might be all the anti-abortion propaganda and religious superstition whispering. There is no shortage of orphans in the US. Especially African-American babies. Your foetus doesn't have any emotions, hopes or dreams, it does not feel pain and it is not any more intelligent than a garden vegetable. Make the responsible choice.
Dear Martha Stewart, I can't even imagine what you're going through. I sit on the opposite end...unable to have children. Please know there is hope. I believe God is in ultimate control. It's no surprise to Him that you are pregnant or that I am not. He has a perfect plan for you but it often does not look like what we want or imagined. It's far better!!! I am lifting you and your unborn baby up in prayer. Call upon Jesus. He will help. God is close to the broken-hearted. Call upon the Creator, the Healer, our Heavenly Father. He loves you and your baby. Choose life, not death. My heart goes out to you! Hugs!
How about you put your baby up for adoption? I have a friend who had a baby and she definitely couldn't care for him herself. So she gave birth to him and gave him to a loving family who had been trying to adopt a child for YEARS. There are so many people in this country who want children, please be the loving woman who spared her child and allowed him/her to live a fulfilling life!
Cool just kill it instead that will be better
At least I'm happy you called it "baby",implying that itvis HUMAN but doesn't deserve to live because of finances and emotions.
Adoption?
If you didn't want "responsibility", then be a responsible F@*#%CKR
Some people are responsible but no method of birth control is 100% effective, and you are casually (and probably offensively to some) dismissing those who become pregnant via ways out of their control, e.g. from rape, abusive partnerships, ill mental health. I'm sure you already know this and are intelligent enough to understand. I do agree that to some, it may have been a lapse in judgement though! Yet no parent should regret having a child, and no child should feel unwanted by their parents.
I would guess that some point or another most parents regret having children
Well said.
Yeah, like a judgmental bitch.
I don't think there will be an end to "stigma" or "shame" about abortion anytime soon. It's your choice to have an abortion, but it's not your choice how people might react to it or think about it. So it's great to take care of your mental health, by turning something hard into something positive.....it's just still really sad that a new unknown life was lost. Along with all the hope and possibilities that little one had.
But that's the worst thing it wasn't lost it was a choice some one chose to have a scrape
People need to stop being so butthurt about this. The foetus is not living from day one. Open a biology book. In the first weeks it's just a pluricellular mass called a preembryo. Like a cyst, it's not alive, it's just a mass of cells growing up by being made of more and more cells each day. Then comes the stage of the embryo (still not a living creature). And then, finally ypu have the foetus and it becomes unethical to kill it. But before? It's nothing more than getting rid of a tumor. It's just more traumatizing because of the psychological shock of knowing that it could have become a foetus and then an independant human.
Open a book and learn how to spell fetus!!
Never hoes
Blah blah blah. I'm not from your shity country. In mine it's written foetus. If that's all your closed mind is capable of producing, just shut up and let the adults talk.
The comments are not biased but the tweets all express how great the decision was. The worst one is the provider whose mother choose life and adoption twists her life into destroying others that were once her. Her mom should have had an abortion if her argument should make any sense.
Why is this so biased?
I struggled to have a baby and I can't imagine ever having reason enough to have an abortion but I think if we take away that choice so many women's health services would suffer so much. Planned parenthood helped one of my family members make a choice. She chose adoption and now our family has encompassed the adoptive family as their own. They came to my baby shower, I babysat for them when I was younger. Planned parenthood did that
I am glad my mother did not have an abortion.
That's funny.... I did all these things that they are so proud of WITH a child. No amount of money and no career could ever amount to the happiness my daughter gives me.
I will always support women choosing what to do with their own bodies; that said, I also don't think this is something that should be celebrated. Shame should NOT be associated with this. By that token, however, neither should pride. This campaign is inherently flawed because it assumes that because woman shouldn't feel embarrassed that they chose to have an abortion, that they should then cheer for it. Regardless of whether it was necessary, and even though they may well have made the right choice for themselves and their baby - a life was still lost in the process. Love, a pro-choicer who respects life. You should, too.
Cognitive dissonance at its finest.
What really grinds my gears is when a woman gets her unborn unwanted baby scraped out and she's happy even showing off about it like on a page like this and then crys when she miscarries look up the word hypocrite in a dictionary and you'll see sad woman's face nicr
Why does the mother have rights when the baby has none
What happen if EVERYONE was aborted by the mothers because they didn't want you.... How would it feel if your mother said she almost aborted you, but decided not to? I don't even get it, if someone murders a pregnant woman it counts as killing two people. But a woman decides to kill her fetus and somehow it is accepted, wtf is the world doing? I would rather kill myself and my unborn baby before killing my fetus.
I can't live with so much regret if I did that!
Wow....I have no regret...I killed potential life....Tears roll down my eyes
Abortion is murder.
It sickens me that some people would kill an innocent, living baby just because they don't want it
its not a baby, it's a fetus. It is alive, like a chicken egg is alive. It has a potential to produce a brilliant chicken who will one day cure cancer or achieve world peace. But until it's halfway hatched, its okay to smash it against the counter and cook it with butter. Mmm delicious scramble baby....
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Abortions are only possible at the stage where the foetus is not living
No Debbie the foetus is not living from day one. Open a biology book. In the first weeks it's just a pluricellular mass. Like a cyst, it's not alive, it's just a mass of cells growing up by being made of more and more cells each day. Then comes the stage of cellular differenciation that creates the various organs of ... the foetus! And then it becomes unethical to kill it. But before? It's nothing more than getting rid of a tumor. It's just more traumatizing because of the psychological shock of knowing that it could have become a foeatus and then an independant human.
fetus or foetus?
This is disgusting. Shame on you Bored Panda for sharing this. Reveling in the death of infants? Really?
What infants are you talking about? Open a biology book. In the first weeks it's just a pluricellular mass. Like a cyst, it's not alive, it's just a mass of cells growing up by being made of more and more cells each day. Then comes the stage of cellular differenciation that creates the various organs of ... the foetus! And then it becomes unethical to kill it. But before? It's nothing more than getting rid of a tumor. It's just more traumatizing because of the psychological shock of knowing that it could have become a foeatus and then an independant human.
Oh stop it. The death of infants? A fetus is NOT an infant. Just stop.
It is! It is a living thing.
My mom had a miscaradge a couple of weeks ago, and to think someone is choosing to kill their is heart breaking.
Their choice to not be pregnant is their choice. It has nothing to do with your mom. They did not make a decision based on disrespect for your mom. They made it on what was best for them.
I'm a new mom, and this just saddens my heart. So many lives... some many.... :(
Wouldn't it suck to learn that your mother wanted you to die
I have friends who are paralyzed, have autism, downs, a multitude of other things but they all have a love for life
https://youtu.be/KqudONcQ9dA
I had my first when I was 18, I now have 4 live in a 6 bedroom house , have a great husband, and pretty good jobs. I did not give up I my child. You could have gave that baby to someone who can't have one. I hope they get rid of abortions for good. You made the choice to lay down now grow up and raise your choice.
There are already more children up for adoption than people willing to adopt one. No need to put one more if you're confortable enough with the other option or if you don't want to go through the process of pregnancy.
I wonder who that baby would have been. There would be a unique 3 year old human being in the world and in her family. I wonder if, if she knew that child (having not had the abortion), she'd want it dead. There will be a family somewhere, unable to have kids and desperate to adopt, who would have loved that child if she couldn't look after it. Let's imagine she becomes pregnant in the future - why would those babies be of any value as human beings if this one could simply be destroyed? Choice is great! People should be able to choose whether to have sex. Personally, I don'gt think that they should get to choose to destroy another person's life.
1. There's already plenty of children waiting for a familiy to adopt them. Noone should feel obligated to have children just because some other family might want them. And what if the family that adopts the child is abusive, or simply just not a good home. I know there's strict rules for adoption, but you can never be 100% sure. 2. Having an abortion does not always mean that you don't find the life inside you valuable. It could simply be because you don't feel fit for becoming a parent at that moment, and you don't want to give a child a crappy life. And 3: Destroying a life can be so many diffrent thing. I have often cursed my mother for bringing me into this world, for being so selfish that she wanted to have a baby. I struggle a lot in life, and often think that we would all be better off is I was never born. Just saying. Anyway, I think abortion is way better than having a bunch of unwanted children running around. Not good for the parents, and definatly not good for the kids.
They all sound like an option of ADOPTION wasnt existent...
Why the fuck would they go trough the whole process of pregnancy if they know that in the end they will abandon it like others abandon their pet? They choose to get their life back in order and if that makes them feel alright then it was the right choice. Incredible the number of people who want to control others body...
I think some people make bad choices, others make good choices, but then end up in a tough situation. What do you do if you're not emotionally or financially prepared for being a mother, the truth is there are a lot of options. I know many people put a lot of thought into getting an abortion, and some just use it as another form of birth control. But it isn't victimless. There are empty chairs at your table. Missing shoes in your hall closet. And stockings missing from over your fireplace. Are you better off? Really? Wouldn't an adoption have given you more peace of mind? Yes, carrying a child to term and then giving them up for adoption is hard, an abortion is quicker. But there are so many couples waiting for a baby they can make into their little prince or princess and give them the whole world! Isn't that better than an abortion? At least give it a little more thought. Search a little deeper. Pray hard. Maybe shed a few tears. Then decide.
I aborted my three-year-old girl because she was too much of a burden to me financially. I now have a good job, a good husband, and money to keep getting my nails done on Thursdays.
3 years old? I'm assuming you mean you put her up for adoption. Getting your nails done is more important to you than caring for your child?
Isn't that what the hole post is about killing something because it's a burden
This is f#$%&8 ridiculous!! I lost my 3rd pregnancy at 4 months!! It was horrible! Be responsible don't have sex or have SAFE sex instead of ending a life! Its irresponsible to end a life! Wtf is wrong with people! Its not cool to have an abortion unless u were raped!! Ugh..
Many Abortions are because of failed contraceptives, and a woman might be dangerously Ill and not want the baby to be born only to die hours later
So they kill it earlier cool
Not one of these posts mentioned illness. If there is a shout your abortion (ugh) post relating to an illness and/or definite death or mother and/or baby, show me. Women who have to abort because of illness usually take it pretty hard, and don't proudly advertise it like food on Instagram. You have failed in trying to defend abortion as something more than a convenience.
So sorry to hear that you can boast about the death of a child...
They aren't boasting about the death of a child. They are telling you they aborted a fetus, in order to try and break the stereotype of abortions being closeted operations.
Faye Faraday: No, if people "closet" their abortions it's because they don't want crap from people like you, who feel they can say whatever they want without knowing anything about these womens lives. Abortion is barely ever an easy choise, and it often comes with huge depressions and shit afterwards. Not necessarily because you feel that you did the wrong thing, but because it's a hard choise and you know that you just ended a life that you might have (already) loved. Having all those feelings, you really don't feel like getting crap from ignorant people who really wouldn't give a shit about your child if you had decided to keep it. And having children is selfish aswell, ever thought about that? Most people have children because they WANT children, often even though they can't take care of them or provide for them. Even though you love your child, it may grow up with a crappy life, with no friends, big physical and psychological problems, and so on. It's selfish.
The moment the child is concieved, it is alive. They are killing the fetus. The fetus is the baby. They are killing the baby.
fe·tus ˈfēdəs/ noun an unborn offspring of a mammal, in particular an unborn human baby more than eight weeks after conception. synonyms:embryo, unborn baby/child "an ultrasonic photo of the fetus" You lovers of the word "fetus", who try to use it in a dehumanizing manner, should probably find a new word. "Fetus" is only the medical term for an unborn baby. I bet you're all the same people who are all up in arms about equality and human rights, too. Gross.
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The reason people "closet" their abortions is because they feel convicted and they know that what they are doing is EVIL and SELFISH
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this makes me sick..to be happy after an abortion? what kind of heartless creature can you be to write this ?
Over 95% of women who have had abortions felt relief after. It's not heartless. And if you don't agree with abortion, don't YOU have one.
Right.....try finding out you're pregnant after being gang-raped.... Yeah, that happened to me, and yes I had an abortion. And yes, the only thing I felt was relief.
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I'm so proud of my abortion, I called a taxidermist! It's my trophy.
Oh my gosh this is horrible!! Anyway, you're a guy, so it's obvious you were making a horrible joke.
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"Pro Choice?" There is a need for a different label for this view and movement for abortion. that or the addition of fine print. Abortion, except in the case of Rape is all about SECOND choice or wanting to choose ones CONSEQUENCES. You made a choice when you chose to have sex.
Easy to say from the man's view whose choice is always easy : run to another woman and pretend nothing happened.
It's unfortunate that many male beasts CHOOSE to do such things they are not men. It's unfortunate that women CHOOSE to be with these animals (except for rape). I made a CHOICE to wait till marriage. I CHOSE a woman who did not make the same CHOICE as me, but I love her. This is True "pro Choice" not re-choice or changing natural consequences. "Pro Choice" would actually be a more supportive name for "Pro Life." Pro life probably needs a name change too to "Pro potential life." The pro choice label is just so full of holes. Now, back to the so-called men who can't man-up to their choices... yes things are too easy for men. Laws need to be in place to make sure they can't skip out on their consequences. They need to be responsible for fees for abortions or births. Responsible for providing for their offspring. Too much lies on the shoulders of the woman and that is wrong. I hope all you "men" out there get reincarnated as seahorses.
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Does anybody think what's best for the baby?? The small innocent baby???
A fetus is not a baby. And a fetus does not get more rights than a living person.
you were a fetus??
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This is sick. I think i need to stop visiting Bored Panda...
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This is sick. Thinking i need to stop visiting Bored Panda...
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This. Is. Horrible. All I can think about are the future innocent, precious, tiny women and men who were murdered. There is justification in murdering a tiny innocent human baby. None. God gave a gift and will find a way.
Then don't YOU have an abortion. Nobody is murdered in an abortion, it removes a fetus. Stop being dishonest so you can claim some sort of moral high ground.
I meant there is NO justification...
I had my son at 21 years old. I'm attending college and working on 3 degrees while obtaining scholarships and ensuring his life is the best ever. My mom was raped and conceived me. I'm glad she didn't abort because of the circumstances. I plan on being a Nurse and helping the homeless while ensuring my son has the brightest future possible. He was conceived via failed contraceptive. I would never have given him up and aborting never crossed my mind. Truth is, where there's a will there's a way. Do I struggle? Yeah, but no more than anyone else. In the end, I benefit because he's the most special person to me in this world.
Awesome, thankyou so much for posting : )
Claidia. Kudos and kudos a million times. Yes, those who'd made the choice to abort did that undervarious circumstances. I'd never judge them. My mum wanted to abort me but I held on strongly in the womb. I read with such abhorence these justifications and the glorifications that go with them as if they were the only options on the table. Rightly put: where there's a will there's a way. You'd made the right choice, Claudia. Very good of you. No need, pride, justification in killing innocent kids. My mum told me, in confidence, when she saw the good things I was doing for her as a child. Easy way out to justify? Of course, rip the innocent body apart, glorify it to the world and walk away with a clean conscience. It's pro-choice. Point taken in bad faith.
I look back at what I did and I'm not in the least bit proud of it! I think about it often...
I'm right there with you. I feel it was the worst choice I EVER made.
I'm sorry that it's hard for you. I'm glad you shared it though.
Before this gets any more hate than it already has, just try and think from these women's perspectives. Please? I mean, I know I can't hate on any of them, because I've never been in their situation. NONE of you have been, I can guarantee you. You didn't grow up in their homes, learn what they did, witness what they saw or felt the same pain they have, so naturally you could never know for sure that you would do something different if you were in their shoes. We're no better nor worse than these women, and God loves us all the same regardless of our choices when we're backed into a corner. I will say that I wish that there was some other solution for their predicaments, that if only there could have been a way to avoid the pregnancy or put the child up for adoption, or anything that could have meant it's life would have been spared, but I WILL NOT stand to judge or watch any of you judging these women without speaking my mind because we simply have no right to do so. Let's pray instead
Everyone's feeling sorry for the women what about the baby's they had scraped out pray for the women but pray for the baby's too please xx
We should have one for Abortion survivors , Who's parents made a different choice .
I get what these ladies are trying to do but I think this campaign takes away from the real message. only around 3% of PP's services are abortions, the other 97% is women's health issues. Personally, I don't think "shouting out" your abortion is any more necessary than "shouting out" your pelvic exam. It's a personal procedure between you and your physician.
"only around 3% of PP's services are abortions" I agree that abortions are a very small percent of Planned Parenthood. But, many conservative candidates don't frame it that way and use their pro-life agenda as a reason for defunding Planned Parenthood. I'm not saying that I think this is a good or bad idea, but I get the point and I do think it has a purpose.
This is wonderful. Women shouldn't be shamed for making a personal medical decision. Over 95% of women who have had an abortion say it was the right choice for them. It's fine if you're against abortion... you have the CHOICE to not have one. See how that works?
Abortion is the easy road out, the heroes are the women that made it through and took the long hard road and accomplished their goals while raising their child.
Every female deserves a voice - and the right to health, including mental health. If you choose to live in the past and have regrets, you will never move forward or be truly happy. Women are not told enough to embrace themselves and their choices. Love yourself
Reading through the comments, both Bored Panda and Facebook, one this has come to light - the open and somewhat callous judgement women who choose to abort, for whatever reason, are subjected to is the very reason this campaign started. Think back about 10 or 20 years and consider how poorly another race or member of the LGBT community were treated, with time and motivated work, issues reduced in various instances South Africa abolished Apartheid and North America recently legalised gay marriages. Yes, there are still haters, but proportionately less than 10 or 20 years ago. For those of you who believe that women should shush about their abortions, this is the reason the campaign started. For those of you judge under the protection of your god, go and read your texts, specifically that bit just after the burning bush on Mount Ararat. Consider this number for a brief moment : 7,000,000,000plus and realise that abortion is a personal choice, a tough one and the right of any mother.
You don't choose to be black gay or part of the LGBT but you do choose for your baby to be scraped out by God you even pay your 30 pieces of damn silver for it
Do you people really think that these were easy decitions? That they all were irresponsible idiots who got pregnant, and with any further thinking just decided that "Ohwell, abortion it is then!" I don't know any of these women, but I'm pretty sure they gave it plenty of thought, and that it wasn't an easy decition to make. Yes, they're happy about it now, but that doesn't mean they were all jolly and happy about it back then. But you know what - this is life. You have to make choises, and when the choise is made you may regret it or feel terrible about it, but it's done and you can't go back and change it, so you have to accept it, and after a whie you will be happy again and you may see that perhaps it was for the best, and you will be forced to see the good things about your choise so that you won't stay depressed for the rest of your life. Either way, everyone has to make the choises they feel is right. It's not up to you or me, we know nothing about these womens lives.
Gonna get one tomorrow...I feel a whole lot of things, guilt included...but it would be unfair to the baby to bring it to the world when both of us are so unprepared emotionally and financially...really didn't want to do this to my first though... :-(
If something inside of you, deep inside of you is telling you not to...then don't. It's not right for you. Don't listen to anyone but your inner self. It could be the spirit of your child trying to whisper to you. Your are already referring to it as your first. That tells me that, no matter what your political beliefs, you feel it is your child. Cancel the appointment. There are other options, so many good options!
Yeah... It could be the spirit of her child. On the other hand it might be all the anti-abortion propaganda and religious superstition whispering. There is no shortage of orphans in the US. Especially African-American babies. Your foetus doesn't have any emotions, hopes or dreams, it does not feel pain and it is not any more intelligent than a garden vegetable. Make the responsible choice.
Dear Martha Stewart, I can't even imagine what you're going through. I sit on the opposite end...unable to have children. Please know there is hope. I believe God is in ultimate control. It's no surprise to Him that you are pregnant or that I am not. He has a perfect plan for you but it often does not look like what we want or imagined. It's far better!!! I am lifting you and your unborn baby up in prayer. Call upon Jesus. He will help. God is close to the broken-hearted. Call upon the Creator, the Healer, our Heavenly Father. He loves you and your baby. Choose life, not death. My heart goes out to you! Hugs!
How about you put your baby up for adoption? I have a friend who had a baby and she definitely couldn't care for him herself. So she gave birth to him and gave him to a loving family who had been trying to adopt a child for YEARS. There are so many people in this country who want children, please be the loving woman who spared her child and allowed him/her to live a fulfilling life!
Cool just kill it instead that will be better
At least I'm happy you called it "baby",implying that itvis HUMAN but doesn't deserve to live because of finances and emotions.
Adoption?
If you didn't want "responsibility", then be a responsible F@*#%CKR
Some people are responsible but no method of birth control is 100% effective, and you are casually (and probably offensively to some) dismissing those who become pregnant via ways out of their control, e.g. from rape, abusive partnerships, ill mental health. I'm sure you already know this and are intelligent enough to understand. I do agree that to some, it may have been a lapse in judgement though! Yet no parent should regret having a child, and no child should feel unwanted by their parents.
I would guess that some point or another most parents regret having children
Well said.
Yeah, like a judgmental bitch.
I don't think there will be an end to "stigma" or "shame" about abortion anytime soon. It's your choice to have an abortion, but it's not your choice how people might react to it or think about it. So it's great to take care of your mental health, by turning something hard into something positive.....it's just still really sad that a new unknown life was lost. Along with all the hope and possibilities that little one had.
But that's the worst thing it wasn't lost it was a choice some one chose to have a scrape
People need to stop being so butthurt about this. The foetus is not living from day one. Open a biology book. In the first weeks it's just a pluricellular mass called a preembryo. Like a cyst, it's not alive, it's just a mass of cells growing up by being made of more and more cells each day. Then comes the stage of the embryo (still not a living creature). And then, finally ypu have the foetus and it becomes unethical to kill it. But before? It's nothing more than getting rid of a tumor. It's just more traumatizing because of the psychological shock of knowing that it could have become a foetus and then an independant human.
Open a book and learn how to spell fetus!!
Never hoes
Blah blah blah. I'm not from your shity country. In mine it's written foetus. If that's all your closed mind is capable of producing, just shut up and let the adults talk.
The comments are not biased but the tweets all express how great the decision was. The worst one is the provider whose mother choose life and adoption twists her life into destroying others that were once her. Her mom should have had an abortion if her argument should make any sense.
Why is this so biased?
I struggled to have a baby and I can't imagine ever having reason enough to have an abortion but I think if we take away that choice so many women's health services would suffer so much. Planned parenthood helped one of my family members make a choice. She chose adoption and now our family has encompassed the adoptive family as their own. They came to my baby shower, I babysat for them when I was younger. Planned parenthood did that
I am glad my mother did not have an abortion.
That's funny.... I did all these things that they are so proud of WITH a child. No amount of money and no career could ever amount to the happiness my daughter gives me.
I will always support women choosing what to do with their own bodies; that said, I also don't think this is something that should be celebrated. Shame should NOT be associated with this. By that token, however, neither should pride. This campaign is inherently flawed because it assumes that because woman shouldn't feel embarrassed that they chose to have an abortion, that they should then cheer for it. Regardless of whether it was necessary, and even though they may well have made the right choice for themselves and their baby - a life was still lost in the process. Love, a pro-choicer who respects life. You should, too.
Cognitive dissonance at its finest.
What really grinds my gears is when a woman gets her unborn unwanted baby scraped out and she's happy even showing off about it like on a page like this and then crys when she miscarries look up the word hypocrite in a dictionary and you'll see sad woman's face nicr
Why does the mother have rights when the baby has none
What happen if EVERYONE was aborted by the mothers because they didn't want you.... How would it feel if your mother said she almost aborted you, but decided not to? I don't even get it, if someone murders a pregnant woman it counts as killing two people. But a woman decides to kill her fetus and somehow it is accepted, wtf is the world doing? I would rather kill myself and my unborn baby before killing my fetus.
I can't live with so much regret if I did that!
Wow....I have no regret...I killed potential life....Tears roll down my eyes
Abortion is murder.
It sickens me that some people would kill an innocent, living baby just because they don't want it
its not a baby, it's a fetus. It is alive, like a chicken egg is alive. It has a potential to produce a brilliant chicken who will one day cure cancer or achieve world peace. But until it's halfway hatched, its okay to smash it against the counter and cook it with butter. Mmm delicious scramble baby....
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Abortions are only possible at the stage where the foetus is not living
No Debbie the foetus is not living from day one. Open a biology book. In the first weeks it's just a pluricellular mass. Like a cyst, it's not alive, it's just a mass of cells growing up by being made of more and more cells each day. Then comes the stage of cellular differenciation that creates the various organs of ... the foetus! And then it becomes unethical to kill it. But before? It's nothing more than getting rid of a tumor. It's just more traumatizing because of the psychological shock of knowing that it could have become a foeatus and then an independant human.
fetus or foetus?
This is disgusting. Shame on you Bored Panda for sharing this. Reveling in the death of infants? Really?
What infants are you talking about? Open a biology book. In the first weeks it's just a pluricellular mass. Like a cyst, it's not alive, it's just a mass of cells growing up by being made of more and more cells each day. Then comes the stage of cellular differenciation that creates the various organs of ... the foetus! And then it becomes unethical to kill it. But before? It's nothing more than getting rid of a tumor. It's just more traumatizing because of the psychological shock of knowing that it could have become a foeatus and then an independant human.
Oh stop it. The death of infants? A fetus is NOT an infant. Just stop.
It is! It is a living thing.
My mom had a miscaradge a couple of weeks ago, and to think someone is choosing to kill their is heart breaking.
Their choice to not be pregnant is their choice. It has nothing to do with your mom. They did not make a decision based on disrespect for your mom. They made it on what was best for them.
I'm a new mom, and this just saddens my heart. So many lives... some many.... :(
Wouldn't it suck to learn that your mother wanted you to die
I have friends who are paralyzed, have autism, downs, a multitude of other things but they all have a love for life
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I had my first when I was 18, I now have 4 live in a 6 bedroom house , have a great husband, and pretty good jobs. I did not give up I my child. You could have gave that baby to someone who can't have one. I hope they get rid of abortions for good. You made the choice to lay down now grow up and raise your choice.
There are already more children up for adoption than people willing to adopt one. No need to put one more if you're confortable enough with the other option or if you don't want to go through the process of pregnancy.
I wonder who that baby would have been. There would be a unique 3 year old human being in the world and in her family. I wonder if, if she knew that child (having not had the abortion), she'd want it dead. There will be a family somewhere, unable to have kids and desperate to adopt, who would have loved that child if she couldn't look after it. Let's imagine she becomes pregnant in the future - why would those babies be of any value as human beings if this one could simply be destroyed? Choice is great! People should be able to choose whether to have sex. Personally, I don'gt think that they should get to choose to destroy another person's life.
1. There's already plenty of children waiting for a familiy to adopt them. Noone should feel obligated to have children just because some other family might want them. And what if the family that adopts the child is abusive, or simply just not a good home. I know there's strict rules for adoption, but you can never be 100% sure. 2. Having an abortion does not always mean that you don't find the life inside you valuable. It could simply be because you don't feel fit for becoming a parent at that moment, and you don't want to give a child a crappy life. And 3: Destroying a life can be so many diffrent thing. I have often cursed my mother for bringing me into this world, for being so selfish that she wanted to have a baby. I struggle a lot in life, and often think that we would all be better off is I was never born. Just saying. Anyway, I think abortion is way better than having a bunch of unwanted children running around. Not good for the parents, and definatly not good for the kids.
They all sound like an option of ADOPTION wasnt existent...
Why the fuck would they go trough the whole process of pregnancy if they know that in the end they will abandon it like others abandon their pet? They choose to get their life back in order and if that makes them feel alright then it was the right choice. Incredible the number of people who want to control others body...
I think some people make bad choices, others make good choices, but then end up in a tough situation. What do you do if you're not emotionally or financially prepared for being a mother, the truth is there are a lot of options. I know many people put a lot of thought into getting an abortion, and some just use it as another form of birth control. But it isn't victimless. There are empty chairs at your table. Missing shoes in your hall closet. And stockings missing from over your fireplace. Are you better off? Really? Wouldn't an adoption have given you more peace of mind? Yes, carrying a child to term and then giving them up for adoption is hard, an abortion is quicker. But there are so many couples waiting for a baby they can make into their little prince or princess and give them the whole world! Isn't that better than an abortion? At least give it a little more thought. Search a little deeper. Pray hard. Maybe shed a few tears. Then decide.
I aborted my three-year-old girl because she was too much of a burden to me financially. I now have a good job, a good husband, and money to keep getting my nails done on Thursdays.
3 years old? I'm assuming you mean you put her up for adoption. Getting your nails done is more important to you than caring for your child?
Isn't that what the hole post is about killing something because it's a burden
This is f#$%&8 ridiculous!! I lost my 3rd pregnancy at 4 months!! It was horrible! Be responsible don't have sex or have SAFE sex instead of ending a life! Its irresponsible to end a life! Wtf is wrong with people! Its not cool to have an abortion unless u were raped!! Ugh..
Many Abortions are because of failed contraceptives, and a woman might be dangerously Ill and not want the baby to be born only to die hours later
So they kill it earlier cool
Not one of these posts mentioned illness. If there is a shout your abortion (ugh) post relating to an illness and/or definite death or mother and/or baby, show me. Women who have to abort because of illness usually take it pretty hard, and don't proudly advertise it like food on Instagram. You have failed in trying to defend abortion as something more than a convenience.
So sorry to hear that you can boast about the death of a child...
They aren't boasting about the death of a child. They are telling you they aborted a fetus, in order to try and break the stereotype of abortions being closeted operations.
Faye Faraday: No, if people "closet" their abortions it's because they don't want crap from people like you, who feel they can say whatever they want without knowing anything about these womens lives. Abortion is barely ever an easy choise, and it often comes with huge depressions and shit afterwards. Not necessarily because you feel that you did the wrong thing, but because it's a hard choise and you know that you just ended a life that you might have (already) loved. Having all those feelings, you really don't feel like getting crap from ignorant people who really wouldn't give a shit about your child if you had decided to keep it. And having children is selfish aswell, ever thought about that? Most people have children because they WANT children, often even though they can't take care of them or provide for them. Even though you love your child, it may grow up with a crappy life, with no friends, big physical and psychological problems, and so on. It's selfish.
The moment the child is concieved, it is alive. They are killing the fetus. The fetus is the baby. They are killing the baby.
fe·tus ˈfēdəs/ noun an unborn offspring of a mammal, in particular an unborn human baby more than eight weeks after conception. synonyms:embryo, unborn baby/child "an ultrasonic photo of the fetus" You lovers of the word "fetus", who try to use it in a dehumanizing manner, should probably find a new word. "Fetus" is only the medical term for an unborn baby. I bet you're all the same people who are all up in arms about equality and human rights, too. Gross.
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The reason people "closet" their abortions is because they feel convicted and they know that what they are doing is EVIL and SELFISH
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this makes me sick..to be happy after an abortion? what kind of heartless creature can you be to write this ?
Over 95% of women who have had abortions felt relief after. It's not heartless. And if you don't agree with abortion, don't YOU have one.
Right.....try finding out you're pregnant after being gang-raped.... Yeah, that happened to me, and yes I had an abortion. And yes, the only thing I felt was relief.
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I'm so proud of my abortion, I called a taxidermist! It's my trophy.
Oh my gosh this is horrible!! Anyway, you're a guy, so it's obvious you were making a horrible joke.
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"Pro Choice?" There is a need for a different label for this view and movement for abortion. that or the addition of fine print. Abortion, except in the case of Rape is all about SECOND choice or wanting to choose ones CONSEQUENCES. You made a choice when you chose to have sex.
Easy to say from the man's view whose choice is always easy : run to another woman and pretend nothing happened.
It's unfortunate that many male beasts CHOOSE to do such things they are not men. It's unfortunate that women CHOOSE to be with these animals (except for rape). I made a CHOICE to wait till marriage. I CHOSE a woman who did not make the same CHOICE as me, but I love her. This is True "pro Choice" not re-choice or changing natural consequences. "Pro Choice" would actually be a more supportive name for "Pro Life." Pro life probably needs a name change too to "Pro potential life." The pro choice label is just so full of holes. Now, back to the so-called men who can't man-up to their choices... yes things are too easy for men. Laws need to be in place to make sure they can't skip out on their consequences. They need to be responsible for fees for abortions or births. Responsible for providing for their offspring. Too much lies on the shoulders of the woman and that is wrong. I hope all you "men" out there get reincarnated as seahorses.
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Does anybody think what's best for the baby?? The small innocent baby???
A fetus is not a baby. And a fetus does not get more rights than a living person.
you were a fetus??
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This is sick. I think i need to stop visiting Bored Panda...
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This is sick. Thinking i need to stop visiting Bored Panda...
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This. Is. Horrible. All I can think about are the future innocent, precious, tiny women and men who were murdered. There is justification in murdering a tiny innocent human baby. None. God gave a gift and will find a way.
Then don't YOU have an abortion. Nobody is murdered in an abortion, it removes a fetus. Stop being dishonest so you can claim some sort of moral high ground.
I meant there is NO justification...