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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are – Sexist
Society has normalized a lot of things that are blatantly sexist—that’s what the ‘Power To Her’ channel shared in a viral TikTok video that caught the attention of many women on the platform. According to the ‘Power to Her’ project’s video, one of the most mind-blowingly sexist things that are still prevalent in modern society is the fact that women are pressured to change their last names once they get married.
Meanwhile, other TikTokers pitched in with their own examples of what kinds of sexist behaviors have been normalized. From brides wearing white dresses that symbolize purity, innocence, and virginity, and fathers ‘giving away’ their daughters after they walk them down the aisle to other sexist behaviors that you can find in everyday life. Have a look at some of the most insightful responses to ‘Power To Her’s’ video and upvote the ones that you’ve noticed in society, too, dear Pandas.
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I've tried numerous times and asked numerous doctors if I can have my tubes tied because I don't want to have children, nor does my husband. They want to have a meeting with both me and my husband, they tell me I'll probably change my mind, that I'm too young or that I need to wait until I have at least one child. Even though I don't want any. But my husband can make a phone call and set up an appointment, just like that.
THIS. Even if the laws are on your side, most doctors won't do it and give you all kinds of illegal and irrelevant excuses, and there's nothing you can do about it, except for going from doctor to doctor until you luck out. Had a huge fight with my former OBG/YN because he wouldn't tie my tubes because "I was too young (23) and eventually *my husband* could want kids. I literally kicked him in the nuts while cursing at him. Would do it again.
School dress codes. This logic about girls needing to "cover up" is so problematic and flawed, because we're teaching girls that they are responsible for how men act when they show any part of their body.
The prefix for men is Mr. and the prefix for women is Miss, Ms. and Mrs. A prefix for women is directly dependent on if she is single or married. It stays Mr. for men all their lives.
The ‘Power To Her’ organization aims to empower women in their communities. “We hope to encourage social change through promoting, educating and providing the necessary tools and services for progress,” the project explains on its website.
The founder of ‘Power To Her,’ Sachreet Chahal and Shuchi Jain, seek to end gender-based inequalities on a global level. Having met at the Schulich School of Business, the two women eventually grew closer together, shared the things they faced as women, and decided to form the organization.
Back in 2017 I bought a house as a single woman, this year I sold it. My and my partner decided to buy a new house together. With the money I made from selling my old house, I put the entire down payment on the new one. The mortgage company, the insurance, home warranty addresses him as the owner of this house and I'm the "co-borrower".
A woman with boundaries is selfish, rude, mean, harsh. A man with boundaries is confident, powerful, successful, ambitious.
When people come up to me and tell me my daughter's really beautiful and that I better watch our for her when she gets older. Like, they're actually expecting our daughters to be sexually assaulted.
Okay. So where I live. We have arranged marriages. I don’t mind. What I do mind is that I’m 17 and our weird neighbour hinted my mom that she thought I was pretty and her son was at marrying age. Ewgh. Creepy old ladies. Edit: Yes my parents shoed her away.
“Power To Her means giving the power back to each and every single woman and providing them with the help and resources to live their most authentic life,” they explain.
Founder Shuchi, a professional dancer and choreographer with a penchant for traveling and content creation, hopes to raise awareness about the issues that women face through the project. Meanwhile, Sachreet, an aspiring writer and a philanthropist, has always had a passion for social activism and always dreamed about starting a non-profit organization.
Women are forced to take sole responsibility for contraception, when women are only fertile 3-5 days of the year. Men are fertile every single day of the year. The biggest gimmick of all was that it was sold to us as a way of independence.
That must mean 3-5 days a month, not a year! Most women have a fertile period every cycle.
How male actors like Ryan Gosling or Leonardo DiCaprio can play the main character their entire careers but each time their female co-star/love interest gets younger.
It's not only normalized but viewed as "cute" when a man can't do the basic parts of parenting. "Oh my husband can't even be with the kids for two hours without calling me haha". "That's nothing, mine won't even touch the dirty diapers." What's funny about only women being expected to know how to take care of their children?
I have to say where I come from, that's not true (anymore). When I go on a 3 day trip with my girlfriends, the dads stay with the kids and it's perfectly normal. No problems whatsoever.
‘Power To Her’ bases its activities on three main pillars in order to empower “a large network of women from different backgrounds and ethnicities.”
The first pillar that the project is founded on is all about mutual support and growth. The second is about educating society about women’s issues, gender stereotypes, toxic beauty standards, access to education, inequality in the workplace, and the lack of women in positions of power. The final pillar is providing people with the necessary tools and services to empower them to give back to marginalized communities.
Whenever a girl has an attitude or is in a bad mood, she gets asked if it's her "time of the month".
It's so normalized for women to change their last name after getting married. This is the name you got your degree with, the name associated with all your accomplishments. Yet society just expects you to pack it up and change it the second you get married.
The fact that so many men expect their S/O to change their last name for them is a red flag.
I understand all the arguments for why you would want to change your last name. To be part of the family and it's easier for the kids and all that. BUT the fact is that the pressure is solely put on women.
I never changed my name. I love my husband, but I'm his wife/partner, not his sister. And I'm quite pissed that my children MUST have my husbands name, why not both surnames?
Nothing is stopping you from giving your children double barrelled names. But still....Damn you society!!
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Friends of mine both just picked a new last name when they married. New start for both. And my wife wanted mine partly because her dad was a jerk. New start for her. Change if you want/need, don't if you don't.
When I got married, I took my wife's surname. I had no attachment to my own, and wanted to support her and show I wasn't going to be controlling her life. My father really didn't like it, and neither did her parents. None of the arguments I've heard explain why the women should change her name, just explain why one of the people should change their name. It's horrible that the pressure is on women.
I've been married for almost 14 years now and, though we initially followed the traditional route (purely because it's the norm), as of about 2 years ago we decided to switch to my wife's surname. I identify much more as part of her family than the one I grew up in
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I didn't change mine because I just couldn't think of myself with another name. I felt my identity was somehow linked to my full name. I did get a lot of criticism, but I didn't care. However, my best friend and her husband did something cool; they both changed their last names to a joint version after they got married, like Smith-Jones. Their kids got that joint last name too when born.
I always thought this was really weird. It feels like aggressive ownership to slap your name on anything, let alone a person. In the overall context, it seems that ownership is exactly the point.
Of course it's not for every one and certainly shouldn't be forced upon or be an expectation. I took my hubby's last name and I love it. Much better than my maiden surname.
There is no woman on the planet that has her own last name. Your last name is your father's last name, as is your mother's and her mother's, so on and so on....
So? In the same way, you could argue that no man has his own name, either... after all, his name is his father's name...
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I can understand that, but I really dislike my last name. Therefore I would happily take my husband's, if I ever married. It is not disrespect to my parents in any way.
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I encouraged my beloved not to take my name, but she had some serious issues with her father and was glad to change it. I'm glad she took my name by choice not by pressure or tradition.
If Seaman's your real last name, poor guy! I don't blame you a bit!
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It can stay the same or the man can change his it really doesn't matter its just tradition.
I kept my last name and now my husband gets called Mr. McDonald, he's super gracious about it xD
Not legally. You're entitled to put whatever name you want . My grandson has my daughter's last name .
In Germany it is getting more common for men to take their wife's name (I know 4 men who did that). In an ideal world, a couple should have all possibilities (she takes his, he takes hers, they keep their own) and society should accept whatever decision they make.
My wife mentioned in conversation, recently, that I insisted that she take my name when we married. I didn't. I iasked her to stop using her previous husband's name. I even tried to encourage her to go back to her "maiden" name because it was the name on her driving licence.
A close friend of mine didn’t take her husband’s name and they created a new surname for their children that is a combination of both names.
My last name is Frost, I picked it myself after getting rid of a name that was not really mine........................ Back story: My dad took his little brother's dad's name when he moved to Denmark with his mother because she married him. The name is not mine and my uncle reminded me many times, so I changed it. I picked my last name myself and I love it. Won't change it for anyone :)
Nowadays, you do not have to change your name. It's something the couple decides before the wedding.
I didn't change the name either, it was quite a battle at first but after a while he understood my point of view. We are together and people see we are together, with name or without.
When my wife and I were discussing getting married 21 yrs ago (I'd be on parole for murder now ;o)), we couldn't agree whose surname we would use. Neither of us were really bothered, so we ended up tossing a coin. I am now known as Mr 'She who must be obeyed' ;o)
I hope things have changed since I got married. I wanted to change my last name to a hyphenated version of his & mine and I actually had to get a court order to "allow" this, AND I had to get permission from my dad and brother!
This is tradition biased in Christianity. When we Become a "Christian" we take upon ourselves the name of "Christ."
In Germany if you have kept the original maiden name as your married name in Baden-Württemberg apparently you have to go and decide on a family name and that name is given to the children. Usually it is the husbands last name then. In any case if you divorce and remarry the children with the new husband may again get that chosen family name unless the divorced father agrees to the name change on marriage to the existing children. They claim it is so that the kids of one family would all have the same last name. But then only when the children themselves marry they can change the last name. If the kids wanted to take mothers maiden name after divorce it is impossible.
This will get downvoted I promise! Many women including my wife enjoy a much more pretty name than what was given to them. You shouldn’t judge, if your dad raped you why would you hold on to that?
In my country you always keep your own name. My Id has my own name on the front. On the back it says '' spouse of ...(my husbands name). '' You can choose how you want to be addressed. Your own name, spouse's name, both names. Something else that's a rule here, and what I think is messed up is when your spouse dies, the other gets a letter that says , you're no longer married. Imagine your loved one has passed and you're grieving him/her. And someone comes to tell you , your marriage has been dissolved. I think that's just wrong. When it comes to the names of your children. When married they do get the husband's name. Unless you tell the registration office that you want it differently. In the case of gay couples that adopt ,they can choose which name the child gets. All next children will then get the same last name.
Personally I would prefer when people have kids they create a new last name (maybe a mix of both their names or anything they both like) instead of the child having only dad's last name.
I disagree. You can chose to be married and keep your own last name. Or hyphenate. Or what one of my friends did and take part of each last name and combine it, start life with both of you having the new last name.
This is free to decide for every individual. If you don´t like it, don´t play along
My niece got her doctorate a few months before she got married. She is professionally "Dr [Previous Name]" and personally "Mrs [Married Name]" (plus, all her research was done in her old name, so it makes sense for continuity in her career that she continues using it). As someone else once said "I went to school and earned that Doctorate, not him"!
So keep your last name, it matches your paternal grandfather or your father's. Still a man's last name.
And most women bear the name of their fathers, so it's really just one sick patriarchal fest
One of my co-workers, A young woman in her twenties, is thinking that if she and her boyfriend get married, they might just pick a new name altogether.
We actually went a weird way with last names. I took my husband's because it was easier dealing with all of his military paperwork. However it came out that his last name had a negative past when his parents got divorced years before. So we decided to give our kids my maiden name as their last names. My husband has said if it wasn't for the hassle it would be to change his last name we would probably have switched everyone over to my maiden name. At least our kids get a fresh start from a name with a bad past.
Where I live, you cannot change your last name. Your legal last name is your own family name and never changes.
As a woman you usually either carry your fathers name or your husbands name - either way it’s from a man anyway.
France here. I'm married but kept my last name, and our kid has both names, my husband's and mine. However as soon as I changed my status on every administration paper (bank, insurance, etc) they ALL automatically assumed I changed my name and started addressing me the mail as Mrs husband. It pisses me off. In France, it has never been a law to take your husband's name, and you have to actually demand to take it, if you don't do anything you just keep your birth name. But everyone expects you to take your husband's name anyway.
I didn't change mine and my kids got my name first. My son and his fiancé want an all new name. The easiest way to do it is for her to change hers before marriage and for him to take hers. Not sure why, but that is what they are doing.
Not normalized at all! Broaden your view beyond the US and you'll found countless countries where both partners keep their own last name. This is also nothing new, all my grandmothers already kept their name and they married in the 1950's (Belgium)
Maybe it's because I live in California, but I know a few couples where the man is the one who changed his last name.
I don't think anyone expects this anymore. It's ok to want to take your husband's name. It's ok not to. I think with children it just makes it easier to have the same last name or hyphenate, which gets complicated. My mom didn't go back to her maiden name until I turned 18 so if there was a medical emergency or school issue it would be easier because I didn't live with her.
I made it clear that whether or not my wife changed her name was completely up to her. When she changed her name for me (and not her two previous husbands), I felt very honored.
It’s a damn choice. If it’s because of societal norms I call BS. Look at abortion, pro choice. We’re still talking about last names? Find a different battle.
I've added my husband's name to my family name with a dash (as to local law). I still present myself with my maiden name but when it comes to kids and administration, it is just easier to show the relationship connection. I think my husband does not really care I didn't replace my family name for his.
Took a while for my bf to accept I wouldn't change my name if we got married. We considered both of us hyphenating or two last names. Frankly it's a pain the name change and we don't want to bother. I wont's change my name 1. I like my name 2. huge hassle (id, accts, work omg work) 3. I've made a profession with my name. 3 is the main reason for me, I made a name for myself, no one is taking that from me.
You can get a degree after you get married though. And you can just not change your name.
I grew up with a hyphenated last name and, now married, I have a hyphenated last name. Also, I’m male and married to a male. When I was younger I’d always hear quips when writing my name on forms or spelling it out. In the 15 years I’ve been married, not once has someone commented on it. I wonder if it’s because I’m a man. Do women with hyphenated names still tend to get ignorant comments?
And with the children's last name too. Mom contributes half the genes, and it's her body that's destroyed while she carries and gives birth to it. This isn't the European classe system anymore. Let that old world stuff go
I never want kids but off of what I heard the kids get the dads name.................
As a kid, I had the hyphenated last name of both parents. When I was in 6th grade, I had to fill out an official scan-tron form and it was too long. The teacher told me I had to pick a new name. Went home, told the parents, they argued with the school. School said their hands were tied - needed a name that fit the form for the government. Parents asked me what I wanted to be called. I went with dad's last name because we'd been doing some genealogy and his side was cooler (French royalty and artists vs German peasants). I was talked out of Gamgee.
In Quebec, if you want to adopt a name other than your own, you have to go through a long legal process to discourage this practice. The children then have double-barrelled names or their choose one of their parent's names.
i ain't changing my name. i've decided this since before i had male cousins that i really wanted to carry on the family name, and I'm the oldest cousin, so that's my job.
Way back when we still lived in Italy, women kept their last names and the children had both names. I did that and my 95-year-old aunt was shocked how traditional I was being!
Not allowed in Québec since 1982. Women keep their own names. Children usually have both names and the province has a limit of two surnames per person.
If you want to be meta - every woman's last name is from their father, so no matter what, women are named for the men in their life...with the exception of Madonna or Cher or Beyonce, I guess.
Again it depends where and whether people/women know their rights. I have a 55 year old friend who kept her name. I have a 44 yrs old friend that took his wife's name. I think most people don"t know how registry works and don't question it.
A friend of mine and her husband both changed their last names to "Samurai" when they got married.
I wasn't planning on changing my name. Then I overheard a conversation between my parents about how offended they were that my brother's fiancee was planning to keep her name. They took it personally. I couldn't stand the thought of my in-laws feeling that way. Probably I should have stood my ground, but the bigger problem is that our culture should not make such a big deal out of this.
this is not part of our culture. we get to keep our name lock stock and barrel. no one in my family ever change their last time. why should they? i never understand this part of marriage..
Never took his surname, never will, the end. He was okay with it. Always has been. Thirty years in, we're fine with it. EVERYONE ELSE has a problem. I really hate when people still address me as Mrs Hisname. No, I'm Ms Myname, thanks.
My fiance and I plan to merge our last names. We love both of our families, why would we want to erase either from our lives?
My last name is both of my parents' names. it's mom's name, hyphen, dad's name.
my aunt never changer her name, probably for this reason
If I change my last name when I get married, and my sister does the same, my family name will probably die out.
If it's a unique name, I can see the concern with maintaining it through the generations. Mine is common enough for me to have said, "No, I'm not related to so-so" a dozen times over the years. I haven't changed my name, but I don't have children.
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not sure about this one. i never ever knew any woman who took their husbad's name. not even my parents' friends... nobody.
Once I was asked, "if we do not carry family last names, how do we know who is the family, cousins, etc?" I replied, " Here, we see same last names, like I have two Harris's in my department, they are not related at all." I know, it is nice to utter "we are Smith's or we are Mitchell's". But, it doesn't mean 100% of the world population does it the same way
Also, to expect "this name change happens all over the world, because we do it here". Different countries and different cultures are there.
in my 2nd marriage. I really really regret changing my name. Now I have to go to court to change it back to what I want. Really sucks!
Heidi Klum,Sarah Jessica Parker, Halle Berry, Mary J. Blige, Mariah Carey and Diana Ross are prime examples of the fact that this post is not based in fact and the whole thread is designed to stir people up with a false narrative in order to create division. Some people are actively seeking things out in order to claim 'offence!' and it drives me nuts. This is one such example. If you don't like your name, change it by deed poll, keep your maiden name, go for a double-barrelled approach or do anything else that you want. Most men don't care. They love you for who you are and not because you both share a surname. Some of you may think that I am 'mansplaining', and you're probably right but the reason that 'mansplaining' exists is for downright idiotic posts like this one where common-sense has clearly left the building. Rant over. Carry on.
Your life, your rules. Your marriage. Your choice. Why go through all the justifications of why you should or shouldn't change your last name?😅 Yes I changed mine because it's easier with the documents and stuff, but did it make me a lesser being standing beside my husband?🤣NO
No it is not. Many women have for decades and decades taken the man's name, but still used their maiden name for their profession. Think about the kids, and yourself. You will be asked all the time, at schools, doctors, airlines etc about the child. And if you use the hyphenated form of both names, what happens if you get divorced? Does the kid keep the hyphenated name? And what happens when you get remarried? DO you add a second hyphen and third name to the last name? With the divorce rate of today, I can see it now. "Hi, this is my son, Charles Smith-Jones-Thompson-Rodrigues-Jonhson-Harrison-Williams.
Why wouldn't they, they are still the product of both parents. You're making it a bigger issue than it has to be
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When I was married I hyphenated. If I got married again I wouldn't even do that. I am NOT doing that crap again.
No, it's normal in America, and in several other parts of eastern europe. In more civilized countries, brides keep their family name, without anyone complaining. What's more, due to several court decisions, children may choose their family name from the mother or the father
When anything happens to a woman, be a crime or an accident, they're almost always referred to as a wife/mother first on a news broadcast. The fact that she's not reffered by her name first but by her relationship to others is messed up. There's always a difference when men are mentioned. It's always "local man", and then they later mention that he's a husband or a father.
In the netherlands they recently referred to the royal couple as "The queen and her husband" in a newspaper, fun fact: in this case the husband is actually the monarch of the country i.e. he is the king
Literally everything about traditional weddings. Your dad gives you away so that you can be passed from one man to another man. You have to wear a white dress, because if you're not a virgin, you're [useless]. It's bad luck for the man to see the bride on the day of the wedding because back when marriages were all arranged, if the guy saw the bride before, sometimes he would want to call it off because he didn't fancy her, and that would bring shame on...the bride. That's also why the veil is a thing. Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding.
This depends on where you live, most of these don't apply to my culture. In my country the bride and groom make their entrance together for both the civil and church marriage ceremonies. There is no giving away of the bride as part of the marriage ceremony itself.
Shaving. If a woman doesn't shave, it's considered "manly" and "nasty". Makeup is targeted specifically towards women, and when a man uses it, he's considered less of a man.
I personally like how my legs look when I shave them, which is why I shave them. If someone doesn't like that on themselves or just doesn't want to, they shouldn't be forced to. Same thing for makeup.
Giving the mothers the custody on Monday-Friday, and giving the dads the weekends where they get to be the fun parent, no school, no pickups, no homework.
The way society expects girls to be polite vs the way women expect men to be polite. Women are raised to be overly polite from childhood. This is a huge disservice to women — their conditioning to be polite can be so strong that it can lead to situations that put their safety in danger.
I once saw a experiment on TV, where the girl stopped saying "thank you" for a whole day. She wasn't being rude at all, was smiling when she felt like it and talking in a normal tone. Whenever her boyfriend gave her a compliment or something, or did something normal like passing the remote control or just normal relationship stuff, she answered him but didn't thank him. and by the end of the day he was absolutely mad at her, for no "real" reason. I think about this sometimes, because I say "thank you"all the time, even when it's not "my turn" to say it but men don't say "thank you" half as much, and it's totally okay.
I carried my baby for 9 months and birthed her, and yet she has my husband's last name.
Why do we say "grow a pair" or "get some balls" when referring to a situation where someone needs to be strong or tough?
Works both ways, "crying like a girl" and "being a pussy"
If you're a woman and you're walking anywhere, and there's a man coming at you, they'll expect you to move to accommodate them, they won't do it for you. I started playing a little game where I don't move for the man, and the amount of times they've run into me, because they expected me to move, is actually insane.
I call bs. I'm a woman and I've noticed that it's usually the women who won't move
It's normalized to ask a woman "when are you expecting to have kids?". Would you ask that if I was a man? When corportations hire women, they usually anticipate that they're going to take a maternity leave and this is considered a due cost for them, and this is something that people use to justify the pay gap.
Drinking. Everytime I order a whiskey on the rocks, men look at me like "really, you like whiskey?" Where does it say that girls are only allowed to drink wine or sangrias, and if she likes stronger drinks, she's trying to be something that she's not. And even with roles reversed, why are guys not allowed to order fruity drinks, how does that make him less of a man?
I'd have to say gift giving. Presents from "mom and dad", but the dad has no idea what's in them because mom bought them.
That's not sexist- your partner is lazy ass if they can't be bothered to shop for their own kids.
Our fathers walking us down the aisle whenever we get married, because that comes from a time when women were considered property. The father is giving his property away to a new man, because now the woman is supposed to be the husband's property. I feel like that should've been done with when women got rights, it's not cute. I'm not doing that.
Organizing parties. Not only do women take care of the food, they also clean everything up afterwards. Men are just standing there unbothered.
Men playing video games all day. If I were to play video games all day then I'd be neglecting my kid, but when a man does it, it's a good thing that he's home and not out there cheating.
Girls are raised to be wives and told what they can or can't do in their present for what their future husband might like. You have to keep your "purity" because your future husband might like that, you can't wear that, you can't look this way, you can't post those videos, you have to know how to cook and clean as if those aren't human traits that we all need to know how to do as adults to stay alive. But "boys will be boys" and are allowed to do whatever they want.
Engagement rings. We have a "symbol" on our hand saying we belong to someone else, while men get to go around and do whatever they want, no one knows if they're taken.
When a woman decides to propose to a man, she is looked down by society. It's so normalized for only men to propose.
It's unusual for sure, but are women who do this actually looked down on? I've never met anyone who'd think that.
Why are ships and cars referred to with the pronouns she/her? The English language doesn't really refer to things as "masculine" or "feminine". The fact that we personify these inanimate objects as women and give them female names, doesn't sit right with me. Research says that this has a variety of reasons, ranging from viewing a vessel as a motherly, womb-like, life sustaining figure, to jokingly likening a ship to a woman who is "expensive" to keep and needs a man to guide her, and a lick of paint to look good.
Unpopular as usual, but most of these are enforced, allowed, encouraged and even justified by other women. If you married a useless slob and keep doing everything for him, it's not society forcing you to do it, it's just you being dumb. If it bothers you, stop putting up with it. It's really simple. Also, anyone can say crap to you, but it's you who give importance to their opinions.. this kind of posts piss me off, because it's just women complaining about crap they willingly put up with. Grow a pair of tits and ovaries, ffs!
I understand that some of these posts piss you off fir those reasons, but please consider that you are talking like someone who is in a position of power, not all women are being born into societies where that's the norm. Maybe try to see things from different angles before you're blaming the victim. Try to empower, not put down, feels better.
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I personally hate the phrase "Boys will be boys" because it just gives them an excuse to treat people however they want.
I especially hate it when male teachers say this about predominantly male classes. I try to explain to them that they are giving the boys excuses that will backfire later and arent teaching them anything other than it is ok to be pains in the a**.
Load More Replies... I would add that there are many indirect sexist conditionings given by society. For instance, how were single independent women usually portraited? The evil ones, the witches, etc. That getting marriage is the ultimate milestone and the biggest success in a woman's life. And many others like that, some also being addressed to men. It is changing thought, but most of us grew up with those wrong messages.
I will be downvoted for agreeing. Motherhood and marriage are still shown on TV, in movies, as the end-all be-all. Crying men are bad, crying women are okay but only if they stop crying after they're told to.... It's changed over my lifetime, but too slowly, IMO.
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It is merely the results of thousand of years of mind conditioning. but let's not forget also men too don't have it easy. To give a couple of examples: they cannot cry otherwise they are pussies, they cannot have certain jobs (like being a nanny i.e.) cause it would be considered either "gay" or "inappropriate" and we could go on forever with examples for both women and men. let's stop sexism from both sides machismo and feminism altogether ! and bring some nice balance to our lives for once !
Most of these are only traditional and honestly don't know mean people that still think that way. I feel like some people are way more old fashioned than I know of and I live in the Bible Belt in a small town (pop. 900) and next biggest town is (pop. 80,000). So.... who's still that old fashioned?
#6: married 'old world italian' who thought it was odd i wanted to keep my name. finally asked him if tradition was reversed, would he ever look in the mirror and say 'i'm mike [insert my last name}? he said, 'no, i'm mike [his last name]. exactly! then, made a deal. if we made it to 20 yrs i would change it. well, we did; and i did. then 10 yrs later divorced. took back my name but his still haunts me on insurance & other official docs. #8: gave my son my name. caused all sorts of issues when he went into military service. ended up having to hyphenate my & his dad's name to satisfy the air force.
Just a friendly FYI - the numbers change as the posts get up/downvoted. What was #6 when you commented is #7 now, it could be changed again in a few more hours. You are probably better off putting these comments under the posts themselves as they will stay connected to it that way. :)
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This is an odd article . Empowering females is great . Equality is great. The things posted here are based on opinion and honestly it seems like another type of complaining post rather than an empowering and educating post
Ever heard the expression "making a mountain out of a molehill"? Almost all of these pithy observations have not been "social norms" for over half a century at least. Whatever personal experiences to the contrary there may be.
I agree and can recognise some of these, but mostly this list just makes me realise how progressive my country/community is.
Dude, some of y'all really need to get over yourselves. Yes, women deserved to be treated equally - thats obvious. I think 100% of people under 50 agree, and that gender inequality will mostly end with the Baby Boomers. Stop looking for every opportunity to be "offended". At some point we all just have to be adults and let things roll off our back. It makes us stronger as individuals.
Some things yes but others no. Men and boys still think its appropriate to cat call woman. I cant walk my dog in own neighborhood without being harrassed and even have had men on two separate occasions harass me at a carwash. People to raise their boys to be more respectful or this will never change
Load More Replies... Why do we do this to each other and to ourselves and our children/youngsters? they're all PEOPLE. Start with that.
#4 it's literally the way YOU and your so filled out the application. The initial app has a borrower and co-borrower section. You're both referred to by those terms for the length of the agreement. If you wanted to have yourself listed as borrower and your so as the co-borrower, you should have filled out the appropriate sections... also, if you're so concerned with who paid the down payment, you probably should have had the deed titled 20% (if that's what you put down) in your name with 80% held JWROS or TBE (depending on your state or even JTIC if you're so concerned about who's property is who's).
I am most appalled at the post that implied female birth control was some suppression conspiracy as opposed to a step towards female independence. I cannot believe a movement that put women in a position of personal responsibility was a NEGATIVE.
It is only a negative if the basis for a doctor agreeing to certain types of birth control, based on age and relationship status. Birth control in general is a very positive thing.
Load More Replies... The thing I don't like about posts like this is that no one, literally no one, is forcing a woman to do any of this. If you don't want dad giving you away, don't. If you want to keep your last name/give your last name to your kid, do it. Some like these traditions. Others don't. Just do what makes you happy and leave others to do the same.
Just ugh, women don’t want equality they want superiority, they are already equal, only a weak person can be forced to do anything they don’t want to, it’s not all men’s fault or society’s fault, stop expecting men to give all of these things to you and just demand them if you want them but don’t force other women to do things they want or accept to do because you think it makes them weak they have just as much of a right to choose as you do, that’s why your already equal, your complaining about things that you already have the power of choice for, in most civilized countries, your not forced to register for a draft at 18 in a free country and know at anytime your country can call you to war to die with no choice what so ever, you want true equality start there, your life can be as equally worthless as a mans then
This is one giant paint stroke that generalizes men. All these opposing articles are creating more divide. Do I hold the door for you, or is that imposing masculinity. All I wanna do is be a nice guy and can’t win. And with all the evil men stories of course I want to protect my daughter until another wonderful person has her back. And if a person CHOOSES their spouses last name it’s a choice! Damn
Clearly you didn't read the article, it isn't about men. It is about society and western culture. "Ms Mrs and Miss" is not about men. School dress codes isn't about men. It is about our culture, which is created by men and women. You seem to have an issue where you insist everything is somehow directly about you.
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This is absurd. Most of them (if not all) are just some things people do and nothing stops anyone from not doing it. When we signed premarriage protocol, we were asked whar last name children would have, which name we would take (if we wanted to change it). No law against my husband taking my name and our future children taking my name. I actually stayed with my maiden name and just add my husband name to it (same as my mother and my mother-in-law). If you dont like some things people do, just don't do it.
Right. No legal consequences, just being ostracized by most of society. Simple and easy!
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Can I add something: "Lists that call out sexism but ignore misandry" - I mostly think about Hollywood and western media when mentioning such things, but wouldn't it be a sign of equality to show the other side, too?
1. Titanic was over 100 years ago and 2. women have awnted to fight on frontlines but weren't allowed, so WTF? Also, women are in the military, not sitting home knitting, where have you been? 3. my mom is a veteran. Please, tell her she was "home cooking" as an Army nurse in the Vietnam era. Please. I'll make popcorn to watch the result!
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I'm a man and I can comment, and often do. Maybe the problem is you, not what genitalia you have.
Load More Replies... Unpopular as usual, but most of these are enforced, allowed, encouraged and even justified by other women. If you married a useless slob and keep doing everything for him, it's not society forcing you to do it, it's just you being dumb. If it bothers you, stop putting up with it. It's really simple. Also, anyone can say crap to you, but it's you who give importance to their opinions.. this kind of posts piss me off, because it's just women complaining about crap they willingly put up with. Grow a pair of tits and ovaries, ffs!
I understand that some of these posts piss you off fir those reasons, but please consider that you are talking like someone who is in a position of power, not all women are being born into societies where that's the norm. Maybe try to see things from different angles before you're blaming the victim. Try to empower, not put down, feels better.
Load More Replies... I personally hate the phrase "Boys will be boys" because it just gives them an excuse to treat people however they want.
I especially hate it when male teachers say this about predominantly male classes. I try to explain to them that they are giving the boys excuses that will backfire later and arent teaching them anything other than it is ok to be pains in the a**.
Load More Replies... I would add that there are many indirect sexist conditionings given by society. For instance, how were single independent women usually portraited? The evil ones, the witches, etc. That getting marriage is the ultimate milestone and the biggest success in a woman's life. And many others like that, some also being addressed to men. It is changing thought, but most of us grew up with those wrong messages.
I will be downvoted for agreeing. Motherhood and marriage are still shown on TV, in movies, as the end-all be-all. Crying men are bad, crying women are okay but only if they stop crying after they're told to.... It's changed over my lifetime, but too slowly, IMO.
Load More Replies... It is merely the results of thousand of years of mind conditioning. but let's not forget also men too don't have it easy. To give a couple of examples: they cannot cry otherwise they are pussies, they cannot have certain jobs (like being a nanny i.e.) cause it would be considered either "gay" or "inappropriate" and we could go on forever with examples for both women and men. let's stop sexism from both sides machismo and feminism altogether ! and bring some nice balance to our lives for once !
Most of these are only traditional and honestly don't know mean people that still think that way. I feel like some people are way more old fashioned than I know of and I live in the Bible Belt in a small town (pop. 900) and next biggest town is (pop. 80,000). So.... who's still that old fashioned?
#6: married 'old world italian' who thought it was odd i wanted to keep my name. finally asked him if tradition was reversed, would he ever look in the mirror and say 'i'm mike [insert my last name}? he said, 'no, i'm mike [his last name]. exactly! then, made a deal. if we made it to 20 yrs i would change it. well, we did; and i did. then 10 yrs later divorced. took back my name but his still haunts me on insurance & other official docs. #8: gave my son my name. caused all sorts of issues when he went into military service. ended up having to hyphenate my & his dad's name to satisfy the air force.
Just a friendly FYI - the numbers change as the posts get up/downvoted. What was #6 when you commented is #7 now, it could be changed again in a few more hours. You are probably better off putting these comments under the posts themselves as they will stay connected to it that way. :)
Load More Replies... This is an odd article . Empowering females is great . Equality is great. The things posted here are based on opinion and honestly it seems like another type of complaining post rather than an empowering and educating post
Ever heard the expression "making a mountain out of a molehill"? Almost all of these pithy observations have not been "social norms" for over half a century at least. Whatever personal experiences to the contrary there may be.
I agree and can recognise some of these, but mostly this list just makes me realise how progressive my country/community is.
Dude, some of y'all really need to get over yourselves. Yes, women deserved to be treated equally - thats obvious. I think 100% of people under 50 agree, and that gender inequality will mostly end with the Baby Boomers. Stop looking for every opportunity to be "offended". At some point we all just have to be adults and let things roll off our back. It makes us stronger as individuals.
Some things yes but others no. Men and boys still think its appropriate to cat call woman. I cant walk my dog in own neighborhood without being harrassed and even have had men on two separate occasions harass me at a carwash. People to raise their boys to be more respectful or this will never change
Load More Replies... Why do we do this to each other and to ourselves and our children/youngsters? they're all PEOPLE. Start with that.
#4 it's literally the way YOU and your so filled out the application. The initial app has a borrower and co-borrower section. You're both referred to by those terms for the length of the agreement. If you wanted to have yourself listed as borrower and your so as the co-borrower, you should have filled out the appropriate sections... also, if you're so concerned with who paid the down payment, you probably should have had the deed titled 20% (if that's what you put down) in your name with 80% held JWROS or TBE (depending on your state or even JTIC if you're so concerned about who's property is who's).
I am most appalled at the post that implied female birth control was some suppression conspiracy as opposed to a step towards female independence. I cannot believe a movement that put women in a position of personal responsibility was a NEGATIVE.
It is only a negative if the basis for a doctor agreeing to certain types of birth control, based on age and relationship status. Birth control in general is a very positive thing.
Load More Replies... The thing I don't like about posts like this is that no one, literally no one, is forcing a woman to do any of this. If you don't want dad giving you away, don't. If you want to keep your last name/give your last name to your kid, do it. Some like these traditions. Others don't. Just do what makes you happy and leave others to do the same.
Just ugh, women don’t want equality they want superiority, they are already equal, only a weak person can be forced to do anything they don’t want to, it’s not all men’s fault or society’s fault, stop expecting men to give all of these things to you and just demand them if you want them but don’t force other women to do things they want or accept to do because you think it makes them weak they have just as much of a right to choose as you do, that’s why your already equal, your complaining about things that you already have the power of choice for, in most civilized countries, your not forced to register for a draft at 18 in a free country and know at anytime your country can call you to war to die with no choice what so ever, you want true equality start there, your life can be as equally worthless as a mans then
This is one giant paint stroke that generalizes men. All these opposing articles are creating more divide. Do I hold the door for you, or is that imposing masculinity. All I wanna do is be a nice guy and can’t win. And with all the evil men stories of course I want to protect my daughter until another wonderful person has her back. And if a person CHOOSES their spouses last name it’s a choice! Damn
Clearly you didn't read the article, it isn't about men. It is about society and western culture. "Ms Mrs and Miss" is not about men. School dress codes isn't about men. It is about our culture, which is created by men and women. You seem to have an issue where you insist everything is somehow directly about you.
Load More Replies... This is absurd. Most of them (if not all) are just some things people do and nothing stops anyone from not doing it. When we signed premarriage protocol, we were asked whar last name children would have, which name we would take (if we wanted to change it). No law against my husband taking my name and our future children taking my name. I actually stayed with my maiden name and just add my husband name to it (same as my mother and my mother-in-law). If you dont like some things people do, just don't do it.
Right. No legal consequences, just being ostracized by most of society. Simple and easy!
Load More Replies... Can I add something: "Lists that call out sexism but ignore misandry" - I mostly think about Hollywood and western media when mentioning such things, but wouldn't it be a sign of equality to show the other side, too?
1. Titanic was over 100 years ago and 2. women have awnted to fight on frontlines but weren't allowed, so WTF? Also, women are in the military, not sitting home knitting, where have you been? 3. my mom is a veteran. Please, tell her she was "home cooking" as an Army nurse in the Vietnam era. Please. I'll make popcorn to watch the result!
Load More Replies... I'm a man and I can comment, and often do. Maybe the problem is you, not what genitalia you have.
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