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Society has normalized a lot of things that are blatantly sexist—that’s what the ‘Power To Her’ channel shared in a viral TikTok video that caught the attention of many women on the platform. According to the ‘Power to Her’ project’s video, one of the most mind-blowingly sexist things that are still prevalent in modern society is the fact that women are pressured to change their last names once they get married.

Meanwhile, other TikTokers pitched in with their own examples of what kinds of sexist behaviors have been normalized. From brides wearing white dresses that symbolize purity, innocence, and virginity, and fathers ‘giving away’ their daughters after they walk them down the aisle to other sexist behaviors that you can find in everyday life. Have a look at some of the most insightful responses to ‘Power To Her’s’ video and upvote the ones that you’ve noticed in society, too, dear Pandas.

More info: TikTok | PowerToHer.org

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I've tried numerous times and asked numerous doctors if I can have my tubes tied because I don't want to have children, nor does my husband. They want to have a meeting with both me and my husband, they tell me I'll probably change my mind, that I'm too young or that I need to wait until I have at least one child. Even though I don't want any. But my husband can make a phone call and set up an appointment, just like that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS. Even if the laws are on your side, most doctors won't do it and give you all kinds of illegal and irrelevant excuses, and there's nothing you can do about it, except for going from doctor to doctor until you luck out. Had a huge fight with my former OBG/YN because he wouldn't tie my tubes because "I was too young (23) and eventually *my husband* could want kids. I literally kicked him in the nuts while cursing at him. Would do it again.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist School dress codes. This logic about girls needing to "cover up" is so problematic and flawed, because we're teaching girls that they are responsible for how men act when they show any part of their body.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist The prefix for men is Mr. and the prefix for women is Miss, Ms. and Mrs. A prefix for women is directly dependent on if she is single or married. It stays Mr. for men all their lives.

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The ‘Power To Her’ organization aims to empower women in their communities. “We hope to encourage social change through promoting, educating and providing the necessary tools and services for progress,” the project explains on its website.

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The founder of ‘Power To Her,’ Sachreet Chahal and Shuchi Jain, seek to end gender-based inequalities on a global level. Having met at the Schulich School of Business, the two women eventually grew closer together, shared the things they faced as women, and decided to form the organization.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Back in 2017 I bought a house as a single woman, this year I sold it. My and my partner decided to buy a new house together. With the money I made from selling my old house, I put the entire down payment on the new one. The mortgage company, the insurance, home warranty addresses him as the owner of this house and I'm the "co-borrower".

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist A woman with boundaries is selfish, rude, mean, harsh. A man with boundaries is confident, powerful, successful, ambitious.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A woman is 'bossy' a man 'has good leadership skills'. In same vein though women are sensitive & men are soft.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When people come up to me and tell me my daughter's really beautiful and that I better watch our for her when she gets older. Like, they're actually expecting our daughters to be sexually assaulted.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay. So where I live. We have arranged marriages. I don’t mind. What I do mind is that I’m 17 and our weird neighbour hinted my mom that she thought I was pretty and her son was at marrying age. Ewgh. Creepy old ladies. Edit: Yes my parents shoed her away.

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“Power To Her means giving the power back to each and every single woman and providing them with the help and resources to live their most authentic life,” they explain.

Founder Shuchi, a professional dancer and choreographer with a penchant for traveling and content creation, hopes to raise awareness about the issues that women face through the project. Meanwhile, Sachreet, an aspiring writer and a philanthropist, has always had a passion for social activism and always dreamed about starting a non-profit organization.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Women are forced to take sole responsibility for contraception, when women are only fertile 3-5 days of the year. Men are fertile every single day of the year. The biggest gimmick of all was that it was sold to us as a way of independence.

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Celeste Grant
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That must mean 3-5 days a month, not a year! Most women have a fertile period every cycle.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist How male actors like Ryan Gosling or Leonardo DiCaprio can play the main character their entire careers but each time their female co-star/love interest gets younger.

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Amy Dodds
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't forget the actresses for the 'mums' are often only a few years older than the actors playing their 'son'

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's not only normalized but viewed as "cute" when a man can't do the basic parts of parenting. "Oh my husband can't even be with the kids for two hours without calling me haha". "That's nothing, mine won't even touch the dirty diapers." What's funny about only women being expected to know how to take care of their children?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to say where I come from, that's not true (anymore). When I go on a 3 day trip with my girlfriends, the dads stay with the kids and it's perfectly normal. No problems whatsoever.

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‘Power To Her’ bases its activities on three main pillars in order to empower “a large network of women from different backgrounds and ethnicities.”

The first pillar that the project is founded on is all about mutual support and growth. The second is about educating society about women’s issues, gender stereotypes, toxic beauty standards, access to education, inequality in the workplace, and the lack of women in positions of power. The final pillar is providing people with the necessary tools and services to empower them to give back to marginalized communities.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Whenever a girl has an attitude or is in a bad mood, she gets asked if it's her "time of the month".

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's so normalized for women to change their last name after getting married. This is the name you got your degree with, the name associated with all your accomplishments. Yet society just expects you to pack it up and change it the second you get married.
The fact that so many men expect their S/O to change their last name for them is a red flag.
I understand all the arguments for why you would want to change your last name. To be part of the family and it's easier for the kids and all that. BUT the fact is that the pressure is solely put on women.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never changed my name. I love my husband, but I'm his wife/partner, not his sister. And I'm quite pissed that my children MUST have my husbands name, why not both surnames?

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When anything happens to a woman, be a crime or an accident, they're almost always referred to as a wife/mother first on a news broadcast. The fact that she's not reffered by her name first but by her relationship to others is messed up. There's always a difference when men are mentioned. It's always "local man", and then they later mention that he's a husband or a father.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the netherlands they recently referred to the royal couple as "The queen and her husband" in a newspaper, fun fact: in this case the husband is actually the monarch of the country i.e. he is the king

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Literally everything about traditional weddings. Your dad gives you away so that you can be passed from one man to another man. You have to wear a white dress, because if you're not a virgin, you're [useless]. It's bad luck for the man to see the bride on the day of the wedding because back when marriages were all arranged, if the guy saw the bride before, sometimes he would want to call it off because he didn't fancy her, and that would bring shame on...the bride. That's also why the veil is a thing. Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This depends on where you live, most of these don't apply to my culture. In my country the bride and groom make their entrance together for both the civil and church marriage ceremonies. There is no giving away of the bride as part of the marriage ceremony itself.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Shaving. If a woman doesn't shave, it's considered "manly" and "nasty". Makeup is targeted specifically towards women, and when a man uses it, he's considered less of a man.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I personally like how my legs look when I shave them, which is why I shave them. If someone doesn't like that on themselves or just doesn't want to, they shouldn't be forced to. Same thing for makeup.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Giving the mothers the custody on Monday-Friday, and giving the dads the weekends where they get to be the fun parent, no school, no pickups, no homework.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Could be avoided if parents behaved like grown ups when splitting up and work things out fairly for them and their children, though... But it seems a lot of people forget their children come first, not their mutual hatred.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist The way society expects girls to be polite vs the way women expect men to be polite. Women are raised to be overly polite from childhood. This is a huge disservice to women — their conditioning to be polite can be so strong that it can lead to situations that put their safety in danger.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once saw a experiment on TV, where the girl stopped saying "thank you" for a whole day. She wasn't being rude at all, was smiling when she felt like it and talking in a normal tone. Whenever her boyfriend gave her a compliment or something, or did something normal like passing the remote control or just normal relationship stuff, she answered him but didn't thank him. and by the end of the day he was absolutely mad at her, for no "real" reason. I think about this sometimes, because I say "thank you"all the time, even when it's not "my turn" to say it but men don't say "thank you" half as much, and it's totally okay.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I carried my baby for 9 months and birthed her, and yet she has my husband's last name.

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Eslamala
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She could have yours, although yours it's your fathers....

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Hazel M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the UK we choose our baby's last name when we register them - it isn't automatic as some people think.

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Leslie Burleson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If following society isn't a choice what is it ? You don't have to do it, therefor you can choose to do it or choose not to

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This was set up to convince the man that yes, he is fact the father. Everyone already knows you are the mother, but about 1 in 20 times, the husband is not the father. So to convince him to accept it, they give the baby the father's name. Now it is his, at least legally.

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Cynthia McDonald
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Hispanic families the mothers name is the middle name and fathers name is the last. As an amateur genealogist, this makes things SUPER helpful trying to find and validate records

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Sean Kirkwood
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

By your choice. Didn't you put a name on the birth certificate?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some states (in the U.S.) require you to register the baby's surname as the father's last name, if the father is known. Mississippi and Louisiana requires the husband's surname if the woman is married; Indiana actually requires that the woman's surname be used, if she is unmarried unless there's an affadavit of paternity; North Dakota requires that the surname be one of the parents', so no making up a portmanteau of the parents' names... Tennessee has complicated rules. So not necessarily a choice!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where I love you can choose the name, idk if that’s just here, it would be weird if you can’t do that somewhere else

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Jan Bregulla
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

don´t marry. I though marriage is sexist anyway? Two posts above

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Donkey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I birthed both my children they were automatically given my surname. I chose to give them my now husbands surname when we registered then. I'm in the uk.

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Debbie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was to know who the kid belongs to I think. There is no doubt you're the mother if she comes out of you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Spanish-speaking countries, the child has both parents' family name. In Myanmar, there is no family name.

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Sheila McCarthy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or for that matter the boys have dads name and girls have moms name.

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Sheila McCarthy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It should be a matrilinical society. After all, you know the baby is yours with a certainty. So why shouldn't the baby have moms name?

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Robert Thompson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is tradition. If you asked him to marry you and he accepted, then you could expect him and your kids to have your last name. But instead you waited for him to ask you so you could get a flashy ring. And this is the price you pay.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In most countries you can choose your child's last name. I have my mom's last name and she has my grandmother's.

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John Ford
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate this. My girlfriends daughter hasn't seen her dad in like 10 years and he hasn't paid a single dollar of child support yet she has his last name.

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Kirt Carson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Children get their mitochondria DNA only from the mothers. The 23 other chromosomes are a 50/50 split.

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Aurelien
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In France, more and more babies are given the two names with a "-" between them and it is not always father's first. It's becoming the norm.

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Linda Jansen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my kid has my last name, her father said , that is only logical. you baked her.

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Anne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here you can pick both if you want to. Or moms, but you both have to agree on that

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here you can choose which name you want to give your child. You just need to tell the registration office upfront which name you want. And when you're not married , you need to give permission to the dad to recognize your child as his child. And give permission to let the child have his last name. If you don't then the child automatically gets your name.

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Melvin Dragvelk
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup, because without him you wouldn't have had a baby. If you don't want your children to have his name, don't put him on the Birth Certificate, and don't ask him to help raise them of take care of them if you think the child is all yours just because you had the harder part of the bringing them to life.

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Fish Boden
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Yup, because without him you wouldn't have had a baby". What do es this have to do with anything? Without the mother you'd have no baby either. Try to make sense.

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Marshall Ackerman
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

what a bunch of s**t, you would not have the child if it was not for your man. Like it or not you need a man to fulfill that dream. Al lot of this post is just you being mad you are a woman and that you wish men did not exist

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Adriaan Verhelle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of countries have the option to go with a double last-name, maybe you should incentives your politicians to adopt the same values. Also that baby is equally yours and your husbands but for the first 9 months you have absolute control over it (how you feed yourself, if you want to keep it in the first place,...). So the burden of the women also comes with a highly skewed power dynamic in her favor.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad had two daughters. I have his surname, my half sister has her mothers. We both had a son, and both have our surnames. It's all very random.

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The Dave
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your husband had a part in your daughter's creation too. Just sayin'. This isn't a mandatory, its just traditional.

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Frankenfrog
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He is a sperm donor. Doesn't exactly take much compares to growing a freaking human and pushing it out your vajay

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My partner is not a traditional manly man, we're not even married but he insisted our child had to have his surname. I said fine, as long as he also has mine. So now our son has both of our last names, mine first not because I'm selfish but because it sounds better that way.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it is your choice what last name you give them, if someone demands or insist the baby be given their name then you got bigger problems then your kids last name.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't have to put his last name on the certificate if you didn't take his name.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't like double surnames because with time it will become longer and longer *but* could be funny if they get half and half so if brown and oomster have a child child's surname should be broom...

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it would be cool when people get married if they just got to pick their own new last name together. Start fresh.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Give her a new surname. The he** with it. Portmanteau the two names, no hyphens, just go all new. If your surname is Jones and his is Smith? Give her a surname like Rivers. There, it's all hers! ---- and I'm not being sarcastic. Beats being the possession all your life of someone else, who may have abused you and hurt you and treated you horribly.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Apparently you get trouble if you do this, e.g. at airports. One of my friends is divorced but kept her ex's last name partially for this reason, because if the last name on her documents is the same as the last name on her kid's documents, she is less likely to encounter resistance.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are married in our country, you have to decide before the wedding the name of potential children(surname). If you aren't married, kid get your name, but if you make an agreement with the father of the child, the kid can have his name. but it has to be done before the birth.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

here how about we do it this way, why don't the babies have BOTH last names or the mothers huh? BECAUSE SOMETIMES mothers can't see their baby since they(sometimes) die when giving birth so, at least let the baby have the MOTHERS LAST NAME!

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Jackie Porter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think in Iceland the female children have the surname after their mother so say their surname is Smith the child's surname is Smithdottir. The male children are named after their father so in this scenario the male child's surname will be Smithson. You can have an entire family that all has different surnames.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, otherwise it'll be your father's or grandfather's last name...gee, I guess you are screwed.

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Keyy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you choose the name at birth , you could've gave her your name

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Penny Kemper
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You could of gave her either last name. You can even give your kid a totally new last name. That's really up to you.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, it is exacly because of that. "mother is always known" as old saying knows. Giving your child his/her father last name make sense, it's how man claims child is also his and man wants to protect her/him because of that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She does not HAVE to in the UK, probably the same in Europe. It is a choice

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see it the other way around. If my children have the connection with me from pregnancy and birth, I’d at least want my partner to have a connection in terms of name.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that Gollum-esque attitude won't do any relationship any favours. 'I carried it, I birthed it, F**k off dad, you have nothing to do with this. I did everything!' = Single mum pretty quickly.

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#18

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Why do we say "grow a pair" or "get some balls" when referring to a situation where someone needs to be strong or tough?

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist If you're a woman and you're walking anywhere, and there's a man coming at you, they'll expect you to move to accommodate them, they won't do it for you. I started playing a little game where I don't move for the man, and the amount of times they've run into me, because they expected me to move, is actually insane.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I call bs. I'm a woman and I've noticed that it's usually the women who won't move

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's normalized to ask a woman "when are you expecting to have kids?". Would you ask that if I was a man? When corportations hire women, they usually anticipate that they're going to take a maternity leave and this is considered a due cost for them, and this is something that people use to justify the pay gap.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Illegal to ask in Germany - but from a natural perspective logical. Men can work while their partners are pregnant, a woman needs time before birth for savety reasons and recovery time after giving birth.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Drinking. Everytime I order a whiskey on the rocks, men look at me like "really, you like whiskey?" Where does it say that girls are only allowed to drink wine or sangrias, and if she likes stronger drinks, she's trying to be something that she's not. And even with roles reversed, why are guys not allowed to order fruity drinks, how does that make him less of a man?

power.to.her , Terricks Noah Report

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Eslamala
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who the fck gives this much thought to other people's opinions, anyway? I drink whisky and the one time someone pointed it out, I replied "are we making a list of all the drinks we orderdered?' and that was it.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I'd have to say gift giving. Presents from "mom and dad", but the dad has no idea what's in them because mom bought them.

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Monika Rhodes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not sexist- your partner is lazy ass if they can't be bothered to shop for their own kids.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Our fathers walking us down the aisle whenever we get married, because that comes from a time when women were considered property. The father is giving his property away to a new man, because now the woman is supposed to be the husband's property. I feel like that should've been done with when women got rights, it's not cute. I'm not doing that.

amberereignn , Jakob Owens Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have no issue with the idea of my dad walking down the aisle with me. However, I would not include the line "who gives this woman to this man".

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Organizing parties. Not only do women take care of the food, they also clean everything up afterwards. Men are just standing there unbothered.

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witchling
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gotta say I never cooked a damn thing for thanksgiving dinner. Group of 30. Husband did all of it. I did clean up. We had a house rule. One cooks the other cleans.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Men playing video games all day. If I were to play video games all day then I'd be neglecting my kid, but when a man does it, it's a good thing that he's home and not out there cheating.

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Jonathan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because female gamers are non-existant? How sheltered are these people?

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Girls are raised to be wives and told what they can or can't do in their present for what their future husband might like. You have to keep your "purity" because your future husband might like that, you can't wear that, you can't look this way, you can't post those videos, you have to know how to cook and clean as if those aren't human traits that we all need to know how to do as adults to stay alive. But "boys will be boys" and are allowed to do whatever they want.

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Eslamala
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In what century were you raised?? This hasn't been the norm for a lot of women in a lot of different countries for at least a few decades...

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Engagement rings. We have a "symbol" on our hand saying we belong to someone else, while men get to go around and do whatever they want, no one knows if they're taken.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When a woman decides to propose to a man, she is looked down by society. It's so normalized for only men to propose.

power.to.her , Jasmine Carter Report

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Random Panda
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's unusual for sure, but are women who do this actually looked down on? I've never met anyone who'd think that.

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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Why are ships and cars referred to with the pronouns she/her? The English language doesn't really refer to things as "masculine" or "feminine". The fact that we personify these inanimate objects as women and give them female names, doesn't sit right with me. Research says that this has a variety of reasons, ranging from viewing a vessel as a motherly, womb-like, life sustaining figure, to jokingly likening a ship to a woman who is "expensive" to keep and needs a man to guide her, and a lick of paint to look good.

power.to.her , Matt Hardy Report