Society has normalized a lot of things that are blatantly sexist—that’s what the ‘Power To Her’ channel shared in a viral TikTok video that caught the attention of many women on the platform. According to the ‘Power to Her’ project’s video, one of the most mind-blowingly sexist things that are still prevalent in modern society is the fact that women are pressured to change their last names once they get married.

Meanwhile, other TikTokers pitched in with their own examples of what kinds of sexist behaviors have been normalized. From brides wearing white dresses that symbolize purity, innocence, and virginity, and fathers ‘giving away’ their daughters after they walk them down the aisle to other sexist behaviors that you can find in everyday life. Have a look at some of the most insightful responses to ‘Power To Her’s’ video and upvote the ones that you’ve noticed in society, too, dear Pandas.

More info: TikTok | PowerToHer.org

#1

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I've tried numerous times and asked numerous doctors if I can have my tubes tied because I don't want to have children, nor does my husband. They want to have a meeting with both me and my husband, they tell me I'll probably change my mind, that I'm too young or that I need to wait until I have at least one child. Even though I don't want any. But my husband can make a phone call and set up an appointment, just like that.

linds.shelton , Ketut Subiyanto Report

Eslamala
Community Member
5 months ago

THIS. Even if the laws are on your side, most doctors won't do it and give you all kinds of illegal and irrelevant excuses, and there's nothing you can do about it, except for going from doctor to doctor until you luck out. Had a huge fight with my former OBG/YN because he wouldn't tie my tubes because "I was too young (23) and eventually *my husband* could want kids. I literally kicked him in the nuts while cursing at him. Would do it again.

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#2

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist School dress codes. This logic about girls needing to "cover up" is so problematic and flawed, because we're teaching girls that they are responsible for how men act when they show any part of their body.

lilbaby__98 , cottonbro Report

Eslamala
Community Member
5 months ago

Yeah, this is absolutely fcked up.

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#3

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist The prefix for men is Mr. and the prefix for women is Miss, Ms. and Mrs. A prefix for women is directly dependent on if she is single or married. It stays Mr. for men all their lives.

power.to.her , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

Amy Dodds
Community Member
5 months ago

Or just keep yours Ms, which is neither single nor married

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The ‘Power To Her’ organization aims to empower women in their communities. “We hope to encourage social change through promoting, educating and providing the necessary tools and services for progress,” the project explains on its website.

The founder of ‘Power To Her,’ Sachreet Chahal and Shuchi Jain, seek to end gender-based inequalities on a global level. Having met at the Schulich School of Business, the two women eventually grew closer together, shared the things they faced as women, and decided to form the organization.

#4

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Back in 2017 I bought a house as a single woman, this year I sold it. My and my partner decided to buy a new house together. With the money I made from selling my old house, I put the entire down payment on the new one. The mortgage company, the insurance, home warranty addresses him as the owner of this house and I'm the "co-borrower".

notsansa , Jordan Bauer Report

Sofie
Community Member
5 months ago

That's just wrong!

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#5

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist A woman with boundaries is selfish, rude, mean, harsh. A man with boundaries is confident, powerful, successful, ambitious.

scarrednotscared , Raychan Report

Omi bub
Community Member
5 months ago

A woman is 'bossy' a man 'has good leadership skills'. In same vein though women are sensitive & men are soft.

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#6

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When people come up to me and tell me my daughter's really beautiful and that I better watch our for her when she gets older. Like, they're actually expecting our daughters to be sexually assaulted.

charissacooke , cottonbro Report

lunar eclipse
Community Member
5 months ago (edited)

Okay. So where I live. We have arranged marriages. I don’t mind. What I do mind is that I’m 17 and our weird neighbour hinted my mom that she thought I was pretty and her son was at marrying age. Ewgh. Creepy old ladies. Edit: Yes my parents shoed her away.

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“Power To Her means giving the power back to each and every single woman and providing them with the help and resources to live their most authentic life,” they explain.

Founder Shuchi, a professional dancer and choreographer with a penchant for traveling and content creation, hopes to raise awareness about the issues that women face through the project. Meanwhile, Sachreet, an aspiring writer and a philanthropist, has always had a passion for social activism and always dreamed about starting a non-profit organization.

#7

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Women are forced to take sole responsibility for contraception, when women are only fertile 3-5 days of the year. Men are fertile every single day of the year. The biggest gimmick of all was that it was sold to us as a way of independence.

nezzysparkles , cottonbro Report

Celeste Grant
Community Member
5 months ago

That must mean 3-5 days a month, not a year! Most women have a fertile period every cycle.

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#8

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist How male actors like Ryan Gosling or Leonardo DiCaprio can play the main character their entire careers but each time their female co-star/love interest gets younger.

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Amy Dodds
Community Member
5 months ago

Don't forget the actresses for the 'mums' are often only a few years older than the actors playing their 'son'

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#9

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's not only normalized but viewed as "cute" when a man can't do the basic parts of parenting. "Oh my husband can't even be with the kids for two hours without calling me haha". "That's nothing, mine won't even touch the dirty diapers." What's funny about only women being expected to know how to take care of their children?

chrystheauthor , Anete Lusina Report

If I could I would live under water
Community Member
5 months ago

I have to say where I come from, that's not true (anymore). When I go on a 3 day trip with my girlfriends, the dads stay with the kids and it's perfectly normal. No problems whatsoever.

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‘Power To Her’ bases its activities on three main pillars in order to empower “a large network of women from different backgrounds and ethnicities.”

The first pillar that the project is founded on is all about mutual support and growth. The second is about educating society about women’s issues, gender stereotypes, toxic beauty standards, access to education, inequality in the workplace, and the lack of women in positions of power. The final pillar is providing people with the necessary tools and services to empower them to give back to marginalized communities.

#10

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Whenever a girl has an attitude or is in a bad mood, she gets asked if it's her "time of the month".

ginger.gemini420 , Priscilla Du Preez Report

Liset Vossen
Community Member
5 months ago

Oh, i say that to guys too.. :)

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#11

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's so normalized for women to change their last name after getting married. This is the name you got your degree with, the name associated with all your accomplishments. Yet society just expects you to pack it up and change it the second you get married.
The fact that so many men expect their S/O to change their last name for them is a red flag.
I understand all the arguments for why you would want to change your last name. To be part of the family and it's easier for the kids and all that. BUT the fact is that the pressure is solely put on women.

power.to.her , Lưu Đức Anh Report

Mooncat83
Community Member
5 months ago

I never changed my name. I love my husband, but I'm his wife/partner, not his sister. And I'm quite pissed that my children MUST have my husbands name, why not both surnames?

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#12

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When anything happens to a woman, be a crime or an accident, they're almost always referred to as a wife/mother first on a news broadcast. The fact that she's not reffered by her name first but by her relationship to others is messed up. There's always a difference when men are mentioned. It's always "local man", and then they later mention that he's a husband or a father.

amandajustvibin , Strawser Bonnie Report

Liset Vossen
Community Member
5 months ago

In the netherlands they recently referred to the royal couple as "The queen and her husband" in a newspaper, fun fact: in this case the husband is actually the monarch of the country i.e. he is the king

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#13

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Literally everything about traditional weddings. Your dad gives you away so that you can be passed from one man to another man. You have to wear a white dress, because if you're not a virgin, you're [useless]. It's bad luck for the man to see the bride on the day of the wedding because back when marriages were all arranged, if the guy saw the bride before, sometimes he would want to call it off because he didn't fancy her, and that would bring shame on...the bride. That's also why the veil is a thing. Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding.

miramimihi , Thomas Christian Report

Random Panda
Community Member
5 months ago (edited)

This depends on where you live, most of these don't apply to my culture. In my country the bride and groom make their entrance together for both the civil and church marriage ceremonies. There is no giving away of the bride as part of the marriage ceremony itself.

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#14

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Shaving. If a woman doesn't shave, it's considered "manly" and "nasty". Makeup is targeted specifically towards women, and when a man uses it, he's considered less of a man.

inspirit_shinee_88 , KoolShooters Report

Kelli from Fitness Blender
Community Member
5 months ago

I personally like how my legs look when I shave them, which is why I shave them. If someone doesn't like that on themselves or just doesn't want to, they shouldn't be forced to. Same thing for makeup.

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#15

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Giving the mothers the custody on Monday-Friday, and giving the dads the weekends where they get to be the fun parent, no school, no pickups, no homework.

lindsayevz , Tiger Lily Report

Eslamala
Community Member
5 months ago

Could be avoided if parents behaved like grown ups when splitting up and work things out fairly for them and their children, though... But it seems a lot of people forget their children come first, not their mutual hatred.

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#16

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist The way society expects girls to be polite vs the way women expect men to be polite. Women are raised to be overly polite from childhood. This is a huge disservice to women — their conditioning to be polite can be so strong that it can lead to situations that put their safety in danger.

tubbybridges , Alexander Suhorucov Report

If I could I would live under water
Community Member
5 months ago

I once saw a experiment on TV, where the girl stopped saying "thank you" for a whole day. She wasn't being rude at all, was smiling when she felt like it and talking in a normal tone. Whenever her boyfriend gave her a compliment or something, or did something normal like passing the remote control or just normal relationship stuff, she answered him but didn't thank him. and by the end of the day he was absolutely mad at her, for no "real" reason. I think about this sometimes, because I say "thank you"all the time, even when it's not "my turn" to say it but men don't say "thank you" half as much, and it's totally okay.

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#17

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I carried my baby for 9 months and birthed her, and yet she has my husband's last name.

tianatianataylor , Anna Shvets Report

Eslamala
Community Member
5 months ago

She could have yours, although yours it's your fathers....

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#18

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Why do we say "grow a pair" or "get some balls" when referring to a situation where someone needs to be strong or tough?

victoriagarrick4 , Polina Zimmerman Report

If I could I would live under water
Community Member
5 months ago

Works both ways, "crying like a girl" and "being a pussy"

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#19

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist If you're a woman and you're walking anywhere, and there's a man coming at you, they'll expect you to move to accommodate them, they won't do it for you. I started playing a little game where I don't move for the man, and the amount of times they've run into me, because they expected me to move, is actually insane.

effieelizabeth , Kaique Rocha Report

troufaki13
Community Member
5 months ago

I call bs. I'm a woman and I've noticed that it's usually the women who won't move

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#20

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's normalized to ask a woman "when are you expecting to have kids?". Would you ask that if I was a man? When corportations hire women, they usually anticipate that they're going to take a maternity leave and this is considered a due cost for them, and this is something that people use to justify the pay gap.

power.to.her , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

Marc
Community Member
5 months ago

At least where I live, such questions are forbidden in job interviews. And rightly so. This is 2021, not 1960.

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#21

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Drinking. Everytime I order a whiskey on the rocks, men look at me like "really, you like whiskey?" Where does it say that girls are only allowed to drink wine or sangrias, and if she likes stronger drinks, she's trying to be something that she's not. And even with roles reversed, why are guys not allowed to order fruity drinks, how does that make him less of a man?

power.to.her , Terricks Noah Report

Eslamala
Community Member
5 months ago

Who the fck gives this much thought to other people's opinions, anyway? I drink whisky and the one time someone pointed it out, I replied "are we making a list of all the drinks we orderdered?' and that was it.

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#22

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I'd have to say gift giving. Presents from "mom and dad", but the dad has no idea what's in them because mom bought them.

merry1688 , Nicole Michalou Report

Monika Rhodes
Community Member
5 months ago

That's not sexist- your partner is lazy ass if they can't be bothered to shop for their own kids.

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#23

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Our fathers walking us down the aisle whenever we get married, because that comes from a time when women were considered property. The father is giving his property away to a new man, because now the woman is supposed to be the husband's property. I feel like that should've been done with when women got rights, it's not cute. I'm not doing that.

amberereignn , Jakob Owens Report

Kay blue
Community Member
5 months ago

I have no issue with the idea of my dad walking down the aisle with me. However, I would not include the line "who gives this woman to this man".

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#24

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Organizing parties. Not only do women take care of the food, they also clean everything up afterwards. Men are just standing there unbothered.

jessisquatcher , Nicole Michalou Report

Marc
Community Member
5 months ago

Although it probably happens far too often, I find it problematic to complain about sexism - definitely rightly so - but then peddle stereotypes. Not every man is like that. Not every man is an ass. Not every man behaves like an axe in the woods. There are also men who know how to behave, who are helpful, and who certainly help at parties. Such stereotypes are neither right against women nor against men.

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#25

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Men playing video games all day. If I were to play video games all day then I'd be neglecting my kid, but when a man does it, it's a good thing that he's home and not out there cheating.

basicmichi , Alexander Kovalev Report

Jonathan
Community Member
5 months ago

Because female gamers are non-existant? How sheltered are these people?

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#26

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Girls are raised to be wives and told what they can or can't do in their present for what their future husband might like. You have to keep your "purity" because your future husband might like that, you can't wear that, you can't look this way, you can't post those videos, you have to know how to cook and clean as if those aren't human traits that we all need to know how to do as adults to stay alive. But "boys will be boys" and are allowed to do whatever they want.

laysieeeb , One Shot Report

Eslamala
Community Member
5 months ago

In what century were you raised?? This hasn't been the norm for a lot of women in a lot of different countries for at least a few decades...

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#27

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Engagement rings. We have a "symbol" on our hand saying we belong to someone else, while men get to go around and do whatever they want, no one knows if they're taken.

lindsaynoell , Jake Pierrelee Report

Jonathan
Community Member
5 months ago

But guys wear engagement rings too though.

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#28

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When a woman decides to propose to a man, she is looked down by society. It's so normalized for only men to propose.

power.to.her , Jasmine Carter Report

Random Panda
Community Member
5 months ago (edited)

It's unusual for sure, but are women who do this actually looked down on? I've never met anyone who'd think that.

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#29

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Why are ships and cars referred to with the pronouns she/her? The English language doesn't really refer to things as "masculine" or "feminine". The fact that we personify these inanimate objects as women and give them female names, doesn't sit right with me. Research says that this has a variety of reasons, ranging from viewing a vessel as a motherly, womb-like, life sustaining figure, to jokingly likening a ship to a woman who is "expensive" to keep and needs a man to guide her, and a lick of paint to look good.

power.to.her , Matt Hardy Report

lunar eclipse
Community Member
5 months ago

Wat. The moon is referred as she. I like that. Grace and elegance

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