Wife Convinced Husband Intentionally Spilled Wine On Her Dress After She Refused To Wear The $300 One He Got Her
Relationships are challenging, and more often than not, things are not as dreamy as they might seem on your social media feed or in that overly romantic “guilty pleasure” movie that you watch when you’re feeling particularly down.
Once the so-called honeymoon phase ends, and you’re no longer as blinded by those raging emotions – you might begin to notice little bits and pieces that could make you question the strength of your connection.
Frankly, it’s not unusual for people to endure their partner’s flaws because they’re convinced that they have the power to change them, or they sincerely don’t recognize those “imperfections” as red flags and continue to co-exist until something bigger happens.
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“AITA for leaving the restaurant because of what my husband did?” – this online user turned to one of the most well-liked subreddits to seek advice from the community members and, perhaps, find out whether she was wrong to storm off out of the restaurant as she believed that her husband spilled wine on her to force her into wearing a $300 dress she originally loathed. The post received 14.1K upvotes and nearly 3K worth of comments discussing this situation.
Woman storms off out of the restaurant after spouse spills wine to allegedly force her into wearing a $300 dress he bought
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The author began her post by revealing that her 35-year-old husband comes from a well-off family and is friends with mostly wealthy folk, whereas she comes from a humble, working-class background.
The thing is, the woman’s husband deeply cares about appearance; at first, he didn’t try to control the OP’s looks but still bought her clothes that he vouched she’d love, though the author mentioned that nothing was ever in her style.
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After the couple had tied the knot, the man sat the author down, telling her that she absolutely gets to decide things about her looks – except, however, when they’re out with his family or friends.
The spouse also introduced the OP to high-end brands and she began wearing the clothes whenever there was an occasion involving her husband’s loved ones, though the woman mentioned that it did limit her choices on what to wear, as she’s more into simple things.
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The couple had to attend a friend’s birthday party that was celebrated at an upscale restaurant. The woman’s spouse bought her a $300 dress to wear for the occasion – however, the OP didn’t like many things about it and eventually told the partner that she’d wear her $60 floral maxi dress.
Naturally, the guy wasn’t so pumped about it and even said that the author was violating the “rules” that they’d discussed days after they got married. The OP revealed that the purchased dress wasn’t in her style and said that she could either wear her $60 dress or she wasn’t going to the event.
When they got to the restaurant, no one mentioned the author’s dress, apart from one friend with whom they exchanged pleasantries, but right after dinner, the OP’s husband suddenly spilled wine all over the woman’s chest and thighs.
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The guy freaked out but seconds later said that thankfully he had a replacement and pulled out the 300 dollar dress OP originally refused to wear. Instinctively, the author couldn’t help but think that this whole thing was done deliberately simply to force her into wearing the other dress.
Once her spouse handed her the dress and told her to go change, she got up, but instead of going to the restroom – she made her way straight to the exit.
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The man followed his wife outside where they began arguing; he said that he couldn’t understand why the OP was behaving like this and embarrassing them both in front of his friends. The author revealed that it seemed like he looked down on her dress and tried to trick her into wearing something that he wanted by spilling wine all over her. He threw a fit and told her to go back inside – however, the woman refused and said that she wouldn’t move until her cab arrived.
Once both of them were at home, the husband said that the OP could’ve worn the dress and not made a scene, but she said that he disrespected her choices and implied that she was an embarrassment.
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The spouse argued that the author should stop acting so insensitive and getting offended over nothing; he said that the author had made a joke out of him in front of his friends.
What do you think about this situation? Was the husband in the wrong?
Fellow Redditors shared their thoughts and opinions regarding this situation
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Share on Facebook"Violating the rules .. after getting married" Maaaan I wanted to hit something when I read that. He's a controlling idiot. I hope she's ok bc he will only get worse.
Whenever I read these stories I always wonder what sort of relationship the person (usually the woman) must be in to have to ask if she's the asshóle. There must be a lot of gaslighting for these women to have to ask if they're in the wrong. It's scary.
Load More Replies...Wow! She shouldn't just have left the restaurant but the idiot as well. The sooner the better.
Can you imagine your husband carrying around a spare dress for you? How bizarre. Like you're a toddler who might need a change. And then oh whoopsie! There goes the wine. No, that's not obvious at all. What a narcissistic douchebag.
"No, the Armani suit stays in the closet. It's a t-shirt and plaid pants or nothing. Nothing, haha?! Good, I don't care if my folks see your shortcomings."
Load More Replies...He 100% spilt the wine on purpose. He’s also super controlling so I’d consider if it was worth being married to someone so vain.
NTA, look at the signs. This man has control issues. Get out before you get hurt.
There are people who behave exactly like the husband in the post. I can bet they are reading through the comments as well. Probably hoping to see who sides with them or justifies their logic. Well, it's only sycophants, those who stand to gain from you that will support you to your face. Once your back is turned they will breathe a sigh of relief that you are gone because you are an unpleasant controlling person. I'm sure there are other good human qualities about you but this particular kind of attitude you have of needing to control a portion of somebody else's life is frankly a big and destructive character flaw for you to have groomed from childhood till now. It will bring you major dissatisfaction in life please seek therapy. Speak with a professional. Please.
I hope this woman actually reads these comments, listens, and finds a way to leave him. He will not change and he will get worse. I’m just glad she stood up to his nonsense.
Haven't any young women seen the movie "Enough?" That's what a controlling man looks like. You are his to order around, and when you go against him you will pay the consequences. Women - you all need to watch out for controlling behavior, this is what it looks like - he planned this all so she would be a proper showpiece for his ego. Don't marry a man who tries to make rules to control you. DON'T do it. Get out before you can't.
HE threw a tantrum, HE threw a fit, HE is the embarrassment, HE is acting like a spoiled brat. SHE is fine, SHE sounds lovely, SHE is being abused, SHE is being manipulated.
This dude is one giant red flag, I cannot understand how she even got as far as marriage.
Some people change or are very good at acting in the first place
Load More Replies...He made wardrobe rules for your marriage? What the actual flip?! Run away. Run far far away OP.
I'm really hoping the fact she posted this means she still knows this is not ok and has not been broken yet. Hope she has been allowed to keep friends and family to help her.
Please read back over this and imagine one of your best friends/sister/mother/daughter had written it. Would you advise her to stay in this marriage? This man is controlling and manipulating and denigrated you. Leave now before it gets worse.
I keep getting madder the farther down I go...I'd like to meet this guy...and bounce his face off the deck with my boot
Load More Replies...I thought that it was more embarrassing that he "accidentally" spilled wine on the OP and he just happened to have an extra dress in a bag. Totally normal. I also carry underwear in my handbag just in case ;-)
There are totally expensive brands that look expensive but are also "simple" and that mid range priced items (like a $60 dress) are often good dupes for. If the brands he chose don't have those options, it's because he doesn't like your style. Which means he thinks lesser of you. And who the f brings a spare outfit for a spouse to a regular outing like this? That just screams intent.
Normally not a violent man but Id punch him one time right between the running lights (eyes for them that don't understand)
Red flag alert and she doesn't even seen to see it. He's controlling the way she dresses and yells at her she stands up herself. I think she needs to organize an exit plan because this is a situation that looks like it's going to get abusive - actually it already is
I think I’m gonna go against the grain here. I was dating this guy for decades. Most adorable geeky colourblind lumberjack looking 6"4´ monster. His wardrobe was free convention TShirt full of stains from 15 years ago, ill fitting cargo pants riddled with holes and you could see troughs his underwear because they were holding together by a thread. I’m ok with that. But when we were going out to fancy places (for my work or for fun) he would understand that a certain dress code is expected. He was super open about it. We sat down and got him custom pant suit, nice shirts and a touch of whimsical in every single outfit. While remaining complete gremlins in our day to day life. I can’t imagine how I would of reacted if I had a partner that wasn’t willing to even discuss this. Iwould of probably try to buy dress shirt and convince them to maybe try it? Or just exclude them from my social life cause you can’t go to a fundraising event at 500$ a plate wearing a hoodie. Even a 60$ hoodie.
Yikes, although the first thought I had in my head was what nationality are they? Because in certain cultures it's quite normal for the husband and family to expect certain attire during family functions. Completely disagree with it, but I know my Asian friends have told me stories like this
I think it's only polite and courteous to wear the attire that one's significant other chooses for you. Call me crazy?
So, the wife can under no circumstance respectfully decline? Read the post again and see where she had accommodated his quirk with his family all the time and then maybe you'd have a rethink. Compromise is crucial in every nook and cranny of a relationship other wise we either have a hostage situation or a dictatorship.
Load More Replies...How is this real? Someone's making stories for their creative writing class.
Sounds like something my ex would do. Super glad he's an ex now
Load More Replies...Your marriage is in serious trouble and will likely end soon. You both have a lot of contempt for one another. Perhaps it’s all for the best as he’s also a controlling a******e
"Violating the rules .. after getting married" Maaaan I wanted to hit something when I read that. He's a controlling idiot. I hope she's ok bc he will only get worse.
Whenever I read these stories I always wonder what sort of relationship the person (usually the woman) must be in to have to ask if she's the asshóle. There must be a lot of gaslighting for these women to have to ask if they're in the wrong. It's scary.
Load More Replies...Wow! She shouldn't just have left the restaurant but the idiot as well. The sooner the better.
Can you imagine your husband carrying around a spare dress for you? How bizarre. Like you're a toddler who might need a change. And then oh whoopsie! There goes the wine. No, that's not obvious at all. What a narcissistic douchebag.
"No, the Armani suit stays in the closet. It's a t-shirt and plaid pants or nothing. Nothing, haha?! Good, I don't care if my folks see your shortcomings."
Load More Replies...He 100% spilt the wine on purpose. He’s also super controlling so I’d consider if it was worth being married to someone so vain.
NTA, look at the signs. This man has control issues. Get out before you get hurt.
There are people who behave exactly like the husband in the post. I can bet they are reading through the comments as well. Probably hoping to see who sides with them or justifies their logic. Well, it's only sycophants, those who stand to gain from you that will support you to your face. Once your back is turned they will breathe a sigh of relief that you are gone because you are an unpleasant controlling person. I'm sure there are other good human qualities about you but this particular kind of attitude you have of needing to control a portion of somebody else's life is frankly a big and destructive character flaw for you to have groomed from childhood till now. It will bring you major dissatisfaction in life please seek therapy. Speak with a professional. Please.
I hope this woman actually reads these comments, listens, and finds a way to leave him. He will not change and he will get worse. I’m just glad she stood up to his nonsense.
Haven't any young women seen the movie "Enough?" That's what a controlling man looks like. You are his to order around, and when you go against him you will pay the consequences. Women - you all need to watch out for controlling behavior, this is what it looks like - he planned this all so she would be a proper showpiece for his ego. Don't marry a man who tries to make rules to control you. DON'T do it. Get out before you can't.
HE threw a tantrum, HE threw a fit, HE is the embarrassment, HE is acting like a spoiled brat. SHE is fine, SHE sounds lovely, SHE is being abused, SHE is being manipulated.
This dude is one giant red flag, I cannot understand how she even got as far as marriage.
Some people change or are very good at acting in the first place
Load More Replies...He made wardrobe rules for your marriage? What the actual flip?! Run away. Run far far away OP.
I'm really hoping the fact she posted this means she still knows this is not ok and has not been broken yet. Hope she has been allowed to keep friends and family to help her.
Please read back over this and imagine one of your best friends/sister/mother/daughter had written it. Would you advise her to stay in this marriage? This man is controlling and manipulating and denigrated you. Leave now before it gets worse.
I keep getting madder the farther down I go...I'd like to meet this guy...and bounce his face off the deck with my boot
Load More Replies...I thought that it was more embarrassing that he "accidentally" spilled wine on the OP and he just happened to have an extra dress in a bag. Totally normal. I also carry underwear in my handbag just in case ;-)
There are totally expensive brands that look expensive but are also "simple" and that mid range priced items (like a $60 dress) are often good dupes for. If the brands he chose don't have those options, it's because he doesn't like your style. Which means he thinks lesser of you. And who the f brings a spare outfit for a spouse to a regular outing like this? That just screams intent.
Normally not a violent man but Id punch him one time right between the running lights (eyes for them that don't understand)
Red flag alert and she doesn't even seen to see it. He's controlling the way she dresses and yells at her she stands up herself. I think she needs to organize an exit plan because this is a situation that looks like it's going to get abusive - actually it already is
I think I’m gonna go against the grain here. I was dating this guy for decades. Most adorable geeky colourblind lumberjack looking 6"4´ monster. His wardrobe was free convention TShirt full of stains from 15 years ago, ill fitting cargo pants riddled with holes and you could see troughs his underwear because they were holding together by a thread. I’m ok with that. But when we were going out to fancy places (for my work or for fun) he would understand that a certain dress code is expected. He was super open about it. We sat down and got him custom pant suit, nice shirts and a touch of whimsical in every single outfit. While remaining complete gremlins in our day to day life. I can’t imagine how I would of reacted if I had a partner that wasn’t willing to even discuss this. Iwould of probably try to buy dress shirt and convince them to maybe try it? Or just exclude them from my social life cause you can’t go to a fundraising event at 500$ a plate wearing a hoodie. Even a 60$ hoodie.
Yikes, although the first thought I had in my head was what nationality are they? Because in certain cultures it's quite normal for the husband and family to expect certain attire during family functions. Completely disagree with it, but I know my Asian friends have told me stories like this
I think it's only polite and courteous to wear the attire that one's significant other chooses for you. Call me crazy?
So, the wife can under no circumstance respectfully decline? Read the post again and see where she had accommodated his quirk with his family all the time and then maybe you'd have a rethink. Compromise is crucial in every nook and cranny of a relationship other wise we either have a hostage situation or a dictatorship.
Load More Replies...How is this real? Someone's making stories for their creative writing class.
Sounds like something my ex would do. Super glad he's an ex now
Load More Replies...Your marriage is in serious trouble and will likely end soon. You both have a lot of contempt for one another. Perhaps it’s all for the best as he’s also a controlling a******e
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