“We Spent $700… My Night Was Ruined!” Woman Loses It After Staff Try To Save Dying Woman Instead Of Serving Her
The ‘internet mob’ can be a dangerous and hateful phenomenon, with social media allowing localized disputes to quickly take on a global scale. In the name of righteous vengeance, the person who committed a wrong can suddenly find themselves bombarded with death threats, their place of employment bullied into firing them and their reputation in tatters, a new form of public shaming that can often be more hateful than the original offense. (Facebook cover image: Gail Frederick)
Image credits: Gail Frederick (not the actual photo)
This story from 2016 was a perfect example of this. After a women left a heartless and misguided rant on an Indianapolis restaurant’s Facebook page, the internet responded with fury. Yes, her post was hateful and selfish, and the restaurant manager was well within his rights to admonish her in the way he did. But people soon found her profile and business page online and began sending death threats and abuse. Some even found strangers with the same name and harassed them as well. The woman was soon fired from her job and has since disappeared from social media.
Now the post is going viral again, starting a new round of outrage and indignation about an isolated incident in a restaurant 3 years ago. What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more? Do we just like the idea of ‘doing our bit’ in the fight against bad behavior and injustice? In an interview with The Telegraph, Dr. Guy Aitchison of University College Dublin believes this might be the case. “It’s a relatively low-cost way to feel like you are doing something noble,” he said. “But there are also darker motivations at work: the psychic pleasure in seeing someone else brought low and humiliated.”
While online shaming does set social standards, sending a powerful message about the need for compassion and kindness through stories like this and the likes of BBQ Becky, for example, perhaps it’s time we began to think about the real-world consequences of ‘destroying’ people for their mistakes, and ask ourselves if there’s a better way to go about it.
Here’s what people had to say about the incident
"Now the post is going viral again, starting a new round of outrage and indignation about an isolated incident in a restaurant 3 years ago. What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more?" I'm wondering that, too, BP. But you don't have to share with us every similar story (be it old or new) that is "going viral". Although I'm glad for the update that it helped the old lady's gofundme campaign.
They actually answer that in the same paragraph lol: “In an interview with The Telegraph, Dr. Guy Aitchison of University College Dublin believes this might be the case. “It’s a relatively low-cost way to feel like you are doing something noble,” he said. “But there are also darker motivations at work: the psychic pleasure in seeing someone else brought low and humiliated.”
Load More Replies...That woman sounds so nasty I actually feel violated knowing she exists. The way she express herself, talking about "some junkie" and jumping to the conclusion that that "junkie" overdosed while she herself claims she has the right to good service...? I've worked as a waitress years ago and this woman is exactly the type of guest who we (me, collegues, and the resturants/cafés I worked for/with) would ask to take their business elsewhere. I thankfully have a nicer and calmer job now but I keep taking sides with service staff and I keep reminding people to act nice = get treated nice. Service staff are in no way obligated to put up with asswipes, remember that! The resturants response is just 👌
These stories are all about ugliness. Why does Boredpanda revel in such nastiness?
I used to work in a supermarket and my coworker who was pregnant was having excruciating pains in her abdomen and thought something was very wrong. While all my coworkers are attending to her, this customer starts asking me questions and demands to be helped. She can clearly see a person is in severe distress and we are all trying to keep her calm while the ambulance arrived. I was holding her hand and telling her to breathe. I regret till this day that I actually stopped comforting my friend to help this idiot customer who only wanted to buy some cigarettes!!!
While this is awful what this customer did, it's true the internet mob is even worse. Losing her job for a c**p review on a restaurant? That's nuts. People really need to stop allowing the influence of the internet mob.
Certain actions, or comments reveal what kind of person you are, what your values are and how much empathy you have. Although I think that nobody should be lynched for a stupid comment on the Internet, the truth is that this is not just a c**p review. It's a clear picture of this woman's total lack of empathy, her selfishness and her "entitlement". I wouldn't like to have anything to do with her.
Load More Replies...I got stuck on $700 for a meal for two. That's $350 per person! I'm here debating whether I can afford fries with my order, onion rings being an unheard of luxury! Haha 🤗
Lol they do always make onion rings cost twice as much as fries! I’ve never had a $350 meal. I wonder what they ate.
Load More Replies...Yikes! I can't even fathom the fact that people like this exist.
Still cannot understand why losing the job is a fair punishment in USA. That lady deserved the restaurant answer but that's all. Now her familiy is punished too. Laboral and personal live are different things.
I disagree. The customer believed her food service was more important than saving a human life. It's bad enough to believe this: she posted it online for the world to see. She showed a drastic lack of judgement, which does impact most work.
Load More Replies...First of all, thank God the old lady is okay. Second of all, that one customer doesn't deserve to have a good meal anywhere after the way she acted. Someone's life was at stake and that took priority. A little empathy goes a long way
I so admire the style of the response. Its what I like to call telling someone to go to hell in a way that they look forward to the trip.
She called her "a junkie"? She didn't even have the common courtesy to find out what happened to the woman in distress??? How many of you are wishing you had been there so you could politely lead her outside and tell her what you think of her? Boy I would. Maybe a slap or 2?? No, that would be rude. LOL What a witch. I'm feeling lucky she is not my relative or even an acquaintance!
Kilroy's is a QUALITY establishment. What a lucky community to have them in their midst!
I don't honestly understand how someone can say something small and meaningless is more important than a human life. This woman (the complaining one) disgust me at every level.
It really sounds like this chick wrote this trying to get sympathy for her big loud thumbs and all the hate she got but honestly it's never a good idea to even begin to post s**t like this as the internet is forever and not anonymous which is why it keeps coming up.
Man, i wish i had gone to kilroys when it was still open at it's location in my town
What is it that's wrong with certain people? That she paid 700$? Dont she realize that saving a life is more important, than her Newyears evening? Arghh. People sometimes. Eww.
If this was in my city or somewhere my great aunt traveled, I'd be worried if it was her... nasty, nasty, nasty crazy old woman who thinks she can humiliate everyone
There's an excellent TED talk on this topic from Monica Lewinsky, probably the first person to experience this type of public shaming. She talks about cases where people committed suicide in response to all the threats and hatred and how the results are (frequently) completely out of proportion to the original misdeed. The speech is a bit long, but she has a few really great insights - particular in the last minute or so. (https://www.ted.com/talks/monica_lewinsky_the_price_of_shame?language=en)
Bored Panda, I love it when you bring me the beautiful, the funny, the amazing, the unusual, but not so much when you bring me the ugly, the twisted, the bad - I won't be reading any more posts like this.
I work as a chef and i sometimes joke (in a slighly serious, fingers crossed one day may happen way) that front of house and back of house trade places for the night. Just for people like these, there certainly wouldnt be a well manicured tactful response as with FOH. It would very much be in the vein of a Ramsey-esq verbal assault, with plenty of humiliation. It takes a certain type of bastard to deal with these...bastards lol fight fire with fire and all that haha
I see stories like this and often wonder if they are made up. Then I remember that I've actually dealt with people like her!
There was a meme on fb about two male teachers who started a gentlemen's club for his male students that didn't have a father figure at home. Can we report on that? I would love to hear the backstory.
Hey Christina, did you know that anyone can post on Bored Panda? Why not make a post of that yourself? :)
Load More Replies...Now the post is going viral again, starting a new round of outrage and indignation about an isolated incident in a restaurant 3 years ago. What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more? Do we just like the idea of 'doing our bit' in the fight against bad behavior and injustice? In an interview with The Telegraph, Dr. Guy Aitchison of University College Dublin believes this might be the case. “It's a relatively low-cost way to feel like you are doing something noble,” he said. “But there are also darker motivations at work: the psychic pleasure in seeing someone else brought low and humiliated.” So stop printing them, Bored Panda. For the love of everything, please stop
Lol smut isn’t a synonym for trash is it? I’m pretty sure it’s sexuallu explicit content. Who even says smut anyway? Hahaha
Load More Replies...Ouch. Your views are very outdated, Bunny. You realize that you’re implying a secretary or nurse is not that important? That’s wrong on many levels.
Load More Replies..."Now the post is going viral again, starting a new round of outrage and indignation about an isolated incident in a restaurant 3 years ago. What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more?" I'm wondering that, too, BP. But you don't have to share with us every similar story (be it old or new) that is "going viral". Although I'm glad for the update that it helped the old lady's gofundme campaign.
They actually answer that in the same paragraph lol: “In an interview with The Telegraph, Dr. Guy Aitchison of University College Dublin believes this might be the case. “It’s a relatively low-cost way to feel like you are doing something noble,” he said. “But there are also darker motivations at work: the psychic pleasure in seeing someone else brought low and humiliated.”
Load More Replies...That woman sounds so nasty I actually feel violated knowing she exists. The way she express herself, talking about "some junkie" and jumping to the conclusion that that "junkie" overdosed while she herself claims she has the right to good service...? I've worked as a waitress years ago and this woman is exactly the type of guest who we (me, collegues, and the resturants/cafés I worked for/with) would ask to take their business elsewhere. I thankfully have a nicer and calmer job now but I keep taking sides with service staff and I keep reminding people to act nice = get treated nice. Service staff are in no way obligated to put up with asswipes, remember that! The resturants response is just 👌
These stories are all about ugliness. Why does Boredpanda revel in such nastiness?
I used to work in a supermarket and my coworker who was pregnant was having excruciating pains in her abdomen and thought something was very wrong. While all my coworkers are attending to her, this customer starts asking me questions and demands to be helped. She can clearly see a person is in severe distress and we are all trying to keep her calm while the ambulance arrived. I was holding her hand and telling her to breathe. I regret till this day that I actually stopped comforting my friend to help this idiot customer who only wanted to buy some cigarettes!!!
While this is awful what this customer did, it's true the internet mob is even worse. Losing her job for a c**p review on a restaurant? That's nuts. People really need to stop allowing the influence of the internet mob.
Certain actions, or comments reveal what kind of person you are, what your values are and how much empathy you have. Although I think that nobody should be lynched for a stupid comment on the Internet, the truth is that this is not just a c**p review. It's a clear picture of this woman's total lack of empathy, her selfishness and her "entitlement". I wouldn't like to have anything to do with her.
Load More Replies...I got stuck on $700 for a meal for two. That's $350 per person! I'm here debating whether I can afford fries with my order, onion rings being an unheard of luxury! Haha 🤗
Lol they do always make onion rings cost twice as much as fries! I’ve never had a $350 meal. I wonder what they ate.
Load More Replies...Yikes! I can't even fathom the fact that people like this exist.
Still cannot understand why losing the job is a fair punishment in USA. That lady deserved the restaurant answer but that's all. Now her familiy is punished too. Laboral and personal live are different things.
I disagree. The customer believed her food service was more important than saving a human life. It's bad enough to believe this: she posted it online for the world to see. She showed a drastic lack of judgement, which does impact most work.
Load More Replies...First of all, thank God the old lady is okay. Second of all, that one customer doesn't deserve to have a good meal anywhere after the way she acted. Someone's life was at stake and that took priority. A little empathy goes a long way
I so admire the style of the response. Its what I like to call telling someone to go to hell in a way that they look forward to the trip.
She called her "a junkie"? She didn't even have the common courtesy to find out what happened to the woman in distress??? How many of you are wishing you had been there so you could politely lead her outside and tell her what you think of her? Boy I would. Maybe a slap or 2?? No, that would be rude. LOL What a witch. I'm feeling lucky she is not my relative or even an acquaintance!
Kilroy's is a QUALITY establishment. What a lucky community to have them in their midst!
I don't honestly understand how someone can say something small and meaningless is more important than a human life. This woman (the complaining one) disgust me at every level.
It really sounds like this chick wrote this trying to get sympathy for her big loud thumbs and all the hate she got but honestly it's never a good idea to even begin to post s**t like this as the internet is forever and not anonymous which is why it keeps coming up.
Man, i wish i had gone to kilroys when it was still open at it's location in my town
What is it that's wrong with certain people? That she paid 700$? Dont she realize that saving a life is more important, than her Newyears evening? Arghh. People sometimes. Eww.
If this was in my city or somewhere my great aunt traveled, I'd be worried if it was her... nasty, nasty, nasty crazy old woman who thinks she can humiliate everyone
There's an excellent TED talk on this topic from Monica Lewinsky, probably the first person to experience this type of public shaming. She talks about cases where people committed suicide in response to all the threats and hatred and how the results are (frequently) completely out of proportion to the original misdeed. The speech is a bit long, but she has a few really great insights - particular in the last minute or so. (https://www.ted.com/talks/monica_lewinsky_the_price_of_shame?language=en)
Bored Panda, I love it when you bring me the beautiful, the funny, the amazing, the unusual, but not so much when you bring me the ugly, the twisted, the bad - I won't be reading any more posts like this.
I work as a chef and i sometimes joke (in a slighly serious, fingers crossed one day may happen way) that front of house and back of house trade places for the night. Just for people like these, there certainly wouldnt be a well manicured tactful response as with FOH. It would very much be in the vein of a Ramsey-esq verbal assault, with plenty of humiliation. It takes a certain type of bastard to deal with these...bastards lol fight fire with fire and all that haha
I see stories like this and often wonder if they are made up. Then I remember that I've actually dealt with people like her!
There was a meme on fb about two male teachers who started a gentlemen's club for his male students that didn't have a father figure at home. Can we report on that? I would love to hear the backstory.
Hey Christina, did you know that anyone can post on Bored Panda? Why not make a post of that yourself? :)
Load More Replies...Now the post is going viral again, starting a new round of outrage and indignation about an isolated incident in a restaurant 3 years ago. What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more? Do we just like the idea of 'doing our bit' in the fight against bad behavior and injustice? In an interview with The Telegraph, Dr. Guy Aitchison of University College Dublin believes this might be the case. “It's a relatively low-cost way to feel like you are doing something noble,” he said. “But there are also darker motivations at work: the psychic pleasure in seeing someone else brought low and humiliated.” So stop printing them, Bored Panda. For the love of everything, please stop
Lol smut isn’t a synonym for trash is it? I’m pretty sure it’s sexuallu explicit content. Who even says smut anyway? Hahaha
Load More Replies...Ouch. Your views are very outdated, Bunny. You realize that you’re implying a secretary or nurse is not that important? That’s wrong on many levels.
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